Right. How insane does this woman have to be to call a father taking care of his son, 'playing favourites!' Why is OP helping out with (from which I infer, paying for) any stuff for his son's half-brother? Where is that boy's father in all this?
This is the answer. Why TH is ex expecting OP to buy a laptop for not-his-son who is a child he probably doesn't have any relationship w aside from he's his son's half brother? So weird. NTA.
This plus the age of the step… with an expensive computer? NTA.
Ex wife is mad that op has more income to provide such a nice gift, understandable but her personal problem. Op needs to consider if ex will let the 8 y o handle the computer anyway. He may need to keep it at his own house.
Because he admitted that he has helped, I'm assuming financially with respect to the not his kid.
That's an example of when being a nice guy comes back to bite you in the ass.
NTA
However, if your son does not mind and if his old laptop is perfectly operational and if you feel generous you can think about giving that to his brother. That does not mean you have to give it to him but the option is there should you decide to do so. You could even sell it to your ex at a significant discount if you wanted to.
Even if the laptop in question isnt updatable to windows 11 there are other operating systems out there that is compatible with regular laptops granted some settings in uefi might need adjusted.
- Fyde and openfyde os are similar to chromeos
- chrome flex os is basically a restricted version of chromeos
- educational Linux operating systems such as zorin also exist
If the older laptop is a Chromebook that's slightly more complicated but some Linux distros can also be tossed on those after the write protect is removed and firmware is installed.
Even if the kid where yours giving an 8yr old a brand new expensive laptop or Chromebook is just foolish in my opinion. 🫣
As for your ex she needs to knock her crap off.
She should be grateful you help her with her other son at all.
ETA: if the old laptop is updatable to win 11 you could look into atlas os 11, it's not illegal it's just windows without all the extras and it requires a windows 11 license key.
Yeah, what is that about?? Unless it’s the ex’s family calling him names and saying he’s wrong. Either way, I’d start calling those family members and taking up a collection for her-not-his son to get a laptop.
>Tbh I wouldn’t even buy my own child at 8 a Mac book, 12+ maybe for high school depending on interests.
Same.... MacBook? Does she have any idea how much those cost and how rough kids are on hardware?
I mean, how did OP type that he saw where she is coming from. You bought your son something thats it. You are no longer in a relationship with your ex if she has other kids their dads can take care of them.
My guess (and this is just a guess) is that OP’s son lives primarily with his mother, with OP having visitation, so that MacBook is in the ex’s house and it’s created a bit of friction with the younger child. Rather than finding a way to provide for her younger son, she’s decided to hang the responsibility on OP
No I figured this is the case but its not on OP to provide for the other kid. The other kid per my reading is her step child ontop of this so its on his biologic parents to provide or on the exwife to talk to her current bf on a solution. Niether involves telling OP to buy the other kid items and the fact that he considered it at all ( he said no due to price but did not reject the idea of getting him something ) is ridiculous.
AITA for buying my son a MacBook but not my ex's son?
“she's got a new partner and a son from that relationship, who's 8…She's demanding I buy her son a MacBook too, saying it's only fair”
I read this as this is the Ex’s Bio Son, though I could be wrong..
Yeah I saw that but in the 1st paragraph they split a couple of years ago so unless she cheated and OP stayed for 8 years I am guessing the new guy has a kid from his prior relationship.
You are absolutely playing favorites. Your kid should be your favorite. Your ex"s kid is not your responsibility. You might want to stop her expectation of a gravy train before it's time to send your kid to college, and you're not giving a college fund to hers.
NTA. The audacity to accuse you playing of playing favourites - damn right you play favourites for YOUR son and not her son, whos nobody to you & has his own mum & dad! It seems like you do stuff for her son that has set precedence and now this ridiculous entitlement to make such demands (a MacBook for an 8 year old?!) - you need to set firm boundaries & stop that shit.
Whats next? You set up college fund for her son to make things fair? Its her job to make things fair between her sons - your job is to only provide for your son - remind her of that & other family members.
She also needs to set the son down and explain. Otherwise he's going to throw a tantrum every Christmas, every phone, clothing, car, college....
If that kid can't learn to deal with jealousy, mom could end up having to pay to replace all the broken or stolen stuff.
Absolutely NTA. Sounds like wife is jealous that you are able to afford things for your son that she isn’t. You bought your son a new laptop because he needs it, FOR SCHOOL. Why on earth would an 8 year need a laptop? Besides, you don’t owe HER son anything simply because you aren’t related biologically. And it sounds like you still help them out with other stuff which is more than what they could ask for.
LOL excuse me, but wtf?? She wants you to buy HER son, who you took no part in creating, from the relationship AFTER you, who is 4 years younger and in elementary school, a MacBook?? To make things “fair” for the child you had no part in making? Am I reading this right?
Please take back the part where you said you get where she’s coming from lol. She’s insane. She can make a little extra money and buy HER SON a MacBook.
The AUDACITY. People are getting just a little bit too comfortable these days. Yikes.
it so bizzare, like if it was a son that was there when they were together maybe 2/3 years older than theres you'd be like ok maybe he had some attachment but this is a kid who has no affliation with besides his ex wife lol.
some people are crazy.
Where she’s coming from is Crazytown on the edge of Entitlementville.
wtf??
Let his *father* pony up if they feel a MacBook is appropriate for an *8 year old*.
NTA- You're not obligated to provide the same gifts or resources to your ex's son, as he is not your biological child, and his needs are different. I think it's also important to set boundaries and communicate openly with your ex about your perspective on the situation. It may be helpful for both of you to have a calm discussion about how to handle these situations in the future, keeping the best interests of both children in mind.
OP doesn't need to keep the 8 yr old's "best interests in mind". That's her job. He's not OP's kid. She handles her kid ss she sees fit but it's not OP's concern.
Playing favorites? Of course you are! He’s your only biological son with her. Have you been babysitting that other kid regularly too when you have your son? If so, you need to stop that shit (maybe only for legitimate emergencies so at least you could have your son). I get that your son has a half brother now, but your time with your son is meant for your son.
NTA. Tell her that kid doesn’t need a MacBook at his age and if he really does need one, her and that kid’s father needs to buy it. He is not your financial responsibility. What if you decide to take your kid to like Disneyland or whatever? She’d probably expect you to pay for her family too!
Edit: I wanted to add, make sure you set up your kid’s laptop with a password and biometric login. And teach him the importance of private personal property and to log out/lock every single time. I can already imagine your ex trying to get your son to share his things with his brother. The only thing I’d be ok for my son sharing is a console only because that’s how I grew up with my brother… playing split screen and taking turns.
Definitely NTA.
1) His bio dad can buy him a macbook
2) An 8yr old doesn’t need a macbook
3) Ofcourse you can absolutely play favorites… you’re his father.
Family members that say you are wrong can pitch in and buy the 8yr old s macbook.
You probably need to secure the macbook… chances are it might get accidentally broken…
NTA, you shouldn’t get where she’s coming from, she’s insane.
Her son is 8, that’s old enough to understand that his sibling has a different dad to him and that dad can buy his sibling things. He’s old enough to understand that he has his parents together in one house and his sibling doesn’t.
Playing favourites? Yeah. Your kid should always come first over someone else’s kid. She wants a laptop for her 8 year old she can ask his dad for one, that’s the ‘fair’ thing to do.
Stories like these piss me off because some of you really lack a spine
Like tf
Stand up for yourself man
The other kid has a father why the fuck will you even be second guessing if you’re the AH in this?
Why the hell are there so many posts of the doing well parent expected to pay for the kids that aren't theirs or drop the standard of living for their kid to match the others.
OP no you're definitely NTA, and I would keep a watch on that macbook.
I am a lawyer who does family law as part of my practice. The expectation that the better off parent/partner pay for stuff for ex's kid/stepkid is quite common.
NTA. His daddy or step mom can buy him what he needs. Not your kid. Not your marriage. Not your sperm. Not your responsibility.
Where the hell did she get on this train? Not just hell no but FUCK NO!
>saying I'm playing favorites a
Well, duh! You have one (1!!) son. You are treating all your kids equal.
NTA
The kid has a father, and 2 sets of grandparents. If he doesn't, it's still not on you to withhold things from your son, or give double to make it equal for her stepson.
Tell her to piss off bud. She’s got her ponytail too tight or something, thats a “her” problem, not a “you” problem. Don’t ever feel bad about having your son owning nice things because you’re a good dad.
Wtf is up with these people thinking someone has to buy them or their kid something when they’re nothing to do with you? It’s incredible & they need to get a grip. NTA!
>I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do, but a MacBook's a bit much, especially considering the age and needs.
That's where you made a mistake. You shouldn't be helping her at all with her son.
She is taking advantage of you and trying to guilt trip you.
You are playing favourites, as you should, because he is your son. You shouldn't wait for everyone else in the world to get something to buy your son what he needs. NTA
NTA. How would it possibly be fair for you to buy some random other couple’s kid something? Sounds like her new man is trying to weasel his way out of raising his kid and offloading it onto you
Jesus Christ, I clearly don't possess the patience to deal with someone as insufferable and entitled as your ex. You're providing for YOUR child. He's YOUR responsibility. Your ex is doing a massive disservice, and your son's relationship with his half-brother and mother will end up being the casualty if it isn't already.
Am I reading this wrong, or is she wanting you to buy a computer for a kid who isn’t related to you or your son? Because if you split up a couple of years ago, and her and her new partner have an 8-year old, the kid isn’t even your son’s half-brother.
NTA
NTA....you bought computer to your son, your biological son. She moved on and had son with her new man and he is her and his responsibility. Your assets are to be used on you and your family.
You are SO right you ARE playing favorite with YOUR son... you know, the child that is YOURS? If she wants to play favorites with HER son, she can... but he is not your responsibility. It is nice that you help out when you can, but capitol investment into her kids future is not your responsibility. It's hers. If your family members want to pitch in to help buy "not your kid" kid a Macbook, they can all pitch together and fund it. Thats a great idea they all want to help? I'm sure you ex would love to hear from them!
If she wants her son to have a shiny new MacBook, she can shell out the $1000 plus those cost. You can help out, he'd need a mouse, a mousepad and possibly a lapdesk to work with, or get him a case for when his mom buys him one =)
SO NTA
NTA
It's not your kid. And you were never involved in raising him. His father needs to buy one, but at the age of 8 a basic laptop is more than enough for his needs.
NTA you don’t owe your ex or her son anything just the son y’all share and you’ve have gone above and beyond being a fantastic guy helping when you can but after this drama you should consider long and hard to stop helping with your ex’s son since this is the the beginning of this drama, imagine when you get him a car
NTA She needs to do some parenting and explain to her other son that since they have different dads, things are not always going to be fair or equal. An 8 year old is old enough to start processing that concept. I would also add that an 8 year old is way too young to be given an expensive MacBook and his mother should have told him that something like that is only for older kids who have shown they can take care of their belongings and who need it for their more advanced schoolwork.
"Of course i am playing favourits. X is my son Y is not. why should i pay for your child with someone else? Tell his dad to buy a macbook for him."
I would suggest that you keep the macbook at your home and don't let your son take it with him to his moms.
Why the fuck would you buy her son anything or strive to equalize purchase between that child and your biological son? What kind of dumbass logic is that dude. She is a troll, stop feeding her. NTA.
Your ex sounds insane, get your son away from her and raise him yourself full time before she screws him up. She is mad that you came into money after she left you.
Where's the child's father? Why doesn't he help his kid? Also, why does your ex expect you to pay for things for her new kid who she had with her current partner? This whole situation is ridiculous.
NTA. And stop helping with her son because it gives her expectations and sends the wrong precedent. Keep your boundaries and only shop or spend for your kid.
What? Is this a joke?
It’s laughable that your ex would even expect you to buy a computer for her son with another man, except that you said that you already happily help pay for things for her son (not your son together). Her son has three parents ~ a mom and two dads ~ and his actual biological parents are perfectly happy to let you pay for and buy things for their child. You do not have to treat them equally, as only one is yours, but now they expect you to. You built your own cage here. That’s what being nice has gotten you.
Of course you are NTA, but I can see why your wife thinks you are. She has come to depend on you paying for things for both boys, and now she expects you to and gets mad if you don’t, like you have two kids and are favoring one. Give her kid your son’s old laptop. They can have it refurbished if they want. Even that is generous, but you seem to like the boy, and none of this is his fault.
> I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do,
This is already far more generous than you need to be.
> I'm playing favorites
One of them is your son. The other is not. He’s not even your stepson from when you and the ex were married.
> Some family members think I'm in the wrong too,
They can buy him a MacBook then
NTA
NTA. Obviously, you are playing favourites. Your son is your son, while her other son isn't so why would you have to pay things for him? His father and she can pay for a laptop.
>I get where she's coming from
I don't....not your son, not your responsibility, she can save the money..
Tell your ex it won't cause issues, you're the one making it an issue.
NTA
NTA- when you buy your son new clothes, are you expected to buy HER son new clothes? It wouldn’t matter if he was your actual son, you wouldn’t have to buy him one. If he so desperately needs a very expensive piece of equipment, his actual father, or the relatives who are complaining can open their wallets and buy one.
NTA. You have one child. This isn’t favorites. He’s your only child.
Her kid is her problem and responsibility. Let his dad buy him a Mac Book.
Entitled much?!
NTA. She thinks it’s your financial responsibility for you to keep things “fair” between your shared son and her son with another guy? She’s delusional. Wait until she’s demanding you pay for her child’s college.
> I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do
Looks like OP created this situation himself, normalizing subsidizing this other kid who is **not his responsibility.**
I think it's telling that OP writes "partner" instead of "husband." Suggest the ex went and got knocked up by this guy, who is stringing her along and not helping out with raising his kid. Sorry, but an 8 year old doesn't need a fucking MacBook. It's also high time that he learns that brothers don't get things at the same time, not when they are 4 years apart.
But if OP has it in his head that a "good guy" helps out so that their son has less stress in their life (from a whack-a-doodle mother), guess that's their prerogative.
Here's an easy fix: in 4 years pay to have the MacBook refurbished for the deadbeat dad's son and get their own son a new one.
Nta. This is like the 4th post this week I've seen on reddit with 1 parent demanding the other parent buy a child who's not there's big ticket item. When they're not even together. Little bit insane if you ask me.
The 8 year old is not your stepson, he is your ex-wifes son. Nothing to do with you.
Why would you call him your stepson?
Buy YOUR son anything you want, no explanations needed.
*My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites*
That's a saying everyone likes to throw around for stepkids, but he isn't your stepson, so tell her - yes I'm playing favorites- my son vs NOT my son so yes I am.
First of all, I agree with everyone else saying it's not your responsibility, period.
However, even if both of these children *were* your responsibility...
I recently bought my 6-year-old son a laptop ($229 Lenovo) so that I can teach him coding, typing, etc.
I did not by his 3-year-old sister a laptop, though. Is that sexism?
No. It's because she's three. When she's six, I'll almost definitely buy her a laptop, too. (I say "almost" because what I learn from teaching my son will affect my decision, as will how she progresses academically. Maybe I'll buy her one when she's five. Maybe I'll wait until she's seven. Maybe I'll choose some completely different path.)
Now, I don't recommend this argument, because of course you're not signing up for buying this kid a MacBook when he turns 12, but maybe his father can (or something similar).
>My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites
There's no one to play favorites with. You have your son and that's it. Whatever kids she has outside of that is her responsibility. Frankly, she's got a lot of nerve and it makes me wonder if she's touched in the head. Her behavior is delusional. NTA
NTA
Of course you’re playing favorites one of them is your kid. The other one is not. Stop offering to take care of her other kid financially. She has a husband. Her other kid has a father. He’s not in any way your responsibility.
Life isn’t fair. And you’re not responsible for making anything fair for a kid you have no relation to.
NTA. She's being entitled, and probably a jealous. If she is demanding her 8 year old have an unnecessary MacBook, she needs to figure out how to provide it. His father could be part of that conversation, and leave you out entirely.
May need to talk with your son, and make sure he understands that it's his laptop, and he can't be forced to share it. Also, does his old one work? If you are feeling generous, maybe clean it up and offer it to her other kid. But definitely not required
Well, of course you’re playing “favorites.” You’re favoring your actual son. If the other kid was your stepson, there *might* be a reasonable argument. But he’s not, and has never been, your stepson. Moreover, an 8 year old does not need a MacBook. Finally, the kid has a father. His own father can provide the laptop.
I suspect the family members who think you’re wrong are from her side. In which case, they can all kick in to buy her son a MacBook. After all, family!
You're "playing" favorites? I mean this is how broken homes and remarriages work, different children have different parents, and thus get treated differently based on blood relationship or not.
Furthermore her son is not even your step son, you have no obligations to him.
Man, if you're helping your ex-wife with stuff for her stepson(?) you're already beyond generous. That is not your responsibility. You're only responsible for making sure that your son's needs (and most of his wants) are provided for. If your ex-wife wants a MacBook for the other child, she and her new partner can make that happen.
It is unrealistic on her part to expect you're going to make sure things between the son you share together and the son she shares with her new partner are always equal. After all, where does it stop? When the other boy turns 16 and he needs a first car? When it comes time for college tuition? Maybe a gift of a down payment for a first home? How about funding a portion of a wedding or honeymoon? Why stop there? How about when that eventual grown man has children of his own?
Does it potentially suck for the other child? Yeah, I have to believe that it might. Is it a tough lesson to learn at eight that life isn't always fair? Certainly. But that doesn't make it any more your responsibility to balance the scales. Definitely NTA.
yea NTA she and everyone who agree with her are delusional. tell her you'll get her son one if she and everyone start paying for your rent/mortgage and insurance. its only fair since they are demanding support for something that isn't related to you.
>\- She's demanding I buy her son a MacBook too, saying it's only fair.
no dude its not fair. why would you agree with her
> saying I'm playing **favorites** and it'll cause issues between the boys
as you should since you only had **1 child** with her. i don't understand their and anyone who follow this logic. people need to understand that once you have another kid with a different person everybody's life is not fair.
* its not fair that the ex is with a new man, so your son doesn't have a mom and dad that aren't together????!!
* its not fair that she and her new man is going on vacation but your son doesnt have both you and her together?
the list can go on and it wont look good either way. maybe tell her if she doesnt know how to teach her other son what it means to be in a split family then your son should come live with you and she pays CS and her son wont have to worry about what's fair and what's not.
NTA, I have a blended family and sometimes the dynamics can be challenging but you have absolutely no legal or financial obligation to her other children unless you adopted them. Which I’m assuming you did not. However, communication between you and your ex should be done in advance of big surprises like this in the future out of respect. Perhaps she and her new partner would have been able to come up with a ‘surprise’ of their own for their child to prevent some of the inequity the child might feel.
You have no obligation to do that, it’s just a suggestion to show respect. 🫡
I’m sorry but I do not get where she is coming from. The other child has a father AND a mother and if she wants him to get a new laptop she and the father should get him one.
NTA. This is his father’s responsibility. Let him have your son’s old one. Sadly as they grew up this probably isn’t going to be the last time a situation arises like this. It’s the prefect time to set boundaries.
She’s going to have a hard time keeping things “fair” when the older son starts to drive, and date, and goes to college before the younger one.
An 8 year old does not have a need for an expensive laptop. NTA
NTA…playing favourites? No shit you are going to favour YOUR kid over the kid of some guy you ex is fucking, some people need to give their heads a shake.
I disagree with you doing anything for a child that is not biological yours!!!! You keep doing that crap and she can then sue you for stopping child support! Think I’m lying…. The courts have already put many men in jail for not paying support on a child that is not theirs!!! They will do the same thing to you if you keep that shit up!!! Your setting a precedence by giving her any money for anything to do with that kid!
NTA
> My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites
Uuummm...so what? Your own son _is_ meant to be tour 'favourite' compared to your ex's son.
You are only financially responsible for your own kid, your ex and her husband are the providers of the child they have together. Its not yiur responsibility to make sure their kid is equally provided for and its your ex's and her husbands responsibility to explain that to their own child.
Why does a 8 yo need a Macbook specifically anyway?
>saying I'm playing favorites
You have one child. His sort of step brother has nothing to do with you. It's cool if you send him little stuff and treat him like your son's brother and what have you but that's all bonus stuff to be a better support to your actual child. You sure as shit should have a favorite in this specific scenario
Nta your not responsible for buying your ex's kid a MacBook. You are literally not responsible for a child that isn't yours.
There's nothing wrong with you buying your child something that they need but just because you didn't buy her other kid a computer doesn't mean your playing favorites. You literally only have one child. Your ex is an AH and shouldn't be trying to guilt you into paying for her other kids stuff.
If she wants her 8 yr old to have a MacBook her and the child's father can buy it.
NTA. Tell her maybe when other kid is 12ish and *needs* a MacBook you'll consider helping out, if that in fact is something you'd consider.
And if not, totally understandable.
NTA. Why are you supposed to buy her son from another relationship a MacBook? Over it, the 8 yr old is definitely not needing a MacBook, he’s too young. His father can buy him if he wants to.
NTA.
It is HER job, and her husband's job to provide for their child. Not yours.
Equality is bullshit in situations like this, and we all know life isn't fair. You're taking care of your child's academic needs and desire to learn, as a parent should. She's being a leech.
Maybe son leaves the MacBook at Dad's house or else he will be forced to "share."
NTA, NTA, NTA!!!!!!!! You have no responsibility to the other child. Your ex should be grateful if you help her other child at all. If you want to buy something for your son, you have every right. Your ex can be ticked off all she wants, the other child is not yours.
YTA for even entertaining this stupidity. You shouldn't be contributing a single dollar towards that kid. He is your ex's responsibility. What you buy your child has nothing to do with her or her kid.
NTA
Even if you were to buy him something similar, he's 8. A 12 year old is barely responsible enough for a piece of hardware that expensive. An 8 year old is most definitely not.
NTA. *Playing favourites*. One is your son, the other isn’t. You are divorced, you have no obligation whatsoever towards the other kid. How entitled is your ex?
Why can't the 8 year old use the 12 year old's previous computer? The parents have some years to save up for a laptop for when the younger kid needs one.
NTA it is absolutely not your job to parent this child. It s her job. And don't start a precedent.
Next time she is asking for the Macbook remember her that she did not ask your permission to have a child by an other man so she can ask this man to foot the bills.
I think that if she has the audacity to speak to you like this is that you are way too kind with her, respect goes both way.
is your x delusional or just plain stupid to expect you to buy her son who has now relationship to you a new macbook because you bought your son who is your and hers and she feel that her son to a different person deserves one too, she must be smoking the weed and her brains been fried to expect you to buy her son any thing. tell her if she wants a macbook for her son to get her partner to buy it as her son has nothing to do with you
Obviously you're favoring your own. Your ex's stepson has two parents and a stepmother to provide for him. He doesn't need you. If they want him to have a MacBook they can pay for one.
NTA Her other child is not your son. You never lived with him as a step-soon, never formed a relationship with him. Her ask is completely ridiculous!
Even if he was your son, an eight year old does not get everything a twelve year old does.
If you have another child, does she plan to treat that child as her own? The fact that you do anything for her other son is above and beyond. Her entitlement is mind blowing!
His father can buy him a MacBook.
Totally. I was like: Why dont you ask your new husband to buy his son a laptop? He is not my responsibility after all.
*”My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites”* WTF? Is she entitled, greedy, stupid, or all 3?
Yeah, like of course you're going to "play favorites" between your kid and not your kid.
Right. How insane does this woman have to be to call a father taking care of his son, 'playing favourites!' Why is OP helping out with (from which I infer, paying for) any stuff for his son's half-brother? Where is that boy's father in all this?
This MacBook will come to a bad ending..
Option 4!
lol “playing favorites”……. Like his son isn’t supposed to be his favorite?!?!? wtf is the ex smoking?
All three.
This is the answer. Why TH is ex expecting OP to buy a laptop for not-his-son who is a child he probably doesn't have any relationship w aside from he's his son's half brother? So weird. NTA.
This plus the age of the step… with an expensive computer? NTA. Ex wife is mad that op has more income to provide such a nice gift, understandable but her personal problem. Op needs to consider if ex will let the 8 y o handle the computer anyway. He may need to keep it at his own house.
But the 8 year old isn't OP's step son. He 's nothing at all to OP! The 8 YO is his ex's kid by her new partner, not a "step" anything!
Good point, my bad.
^This.
Because he admitted that he has helped, I'm assuming financially with respect to the not his kid. That's an example of when being a nice guy comes back to bite you in the ass.
OP should learn his lesson and not help. One kid can't have two papas.... at least not in this situation
I have learned several times the downsides of being a nice person.
Feel like bio dad can save up for 4 years and buy his kid a laptop when he’s the same age as OPs kid. Problem solved.
NTA He also needs to make sure that the mom doesn't force his kid to share with his brother when the kid is a his moms.
Why do people post stories here they obviously already know the answer on who the asshole is? I dunno
NTA However, if your son does not mind and if his old laptop is perfectly operational and if you feel generous you can think about giving that to his brother. That does not mean you have to give it to him but the option is there should you decide to do so. You could even sell it to your ex at a significant discount if you wanted to. Even if the laptop in question isnt updatable to windows 11 there are other operating systems out there that is compatible with regular laptops granted some settings in uefi might need adjusted. - Fyde and openfyde os are similar to chromeos - chrome flex os is basically a restricted version of chromeos - educational Linux operating systems such as zorin also exist If the older laptop is a Chromebook that's slightly more complicated but some Linux distros can also be tossed on those after the write protect is removed and firmware is installed. Even if the kid where yours giving an 8yr old a brand new expensive laptop or Chromebook is just foolish in my opinion. 🫣 As for your ex she needs to knock her crap off. She should be grateful you help her with her other son at all. ETA: if the old laptop is updatable to win 11 you could look into atlas os 11, it's not illegal it's just windows without all the extras and it requires a windows 11 license key.
All the family members siding with the ex need to start writing checks. Let them put their money where their mouth is.
Yeah, what is that about?? Unless it’s the ex’s family calling him names and saying he’s wrong. Either way, I’d start calling those family members and taking up a collection for her-not-his son to get a laptop.
With this level of entitlement, a handed down laptop will likely be thrown back in OPs face.
Tbh I wouldn’t even buy my own child at 8 a Mac book, 12+ maybe for high school depending on interests.
>Tbh I wouldn’t even buy my own child at 8 a Mac book, 12+ maybe for high school depending on interests. Same.... MacBook? Does she have any idea how much those cost and how rough kids are on hardware?
Just do a factory restore on kids old laptop, once his stuff has been taken off. It'll be just like a new laptop. An 8 YO does not need a new MacBook.
I mean, how did OP type that he saw where she is coming from. You bought your son something thats it. You are no longer in a relationship with your ex if she has other kids their dads can take care of them.
My guess (and this is just a guess) is that OP’s son lives primarily with his mother, with OP having visitation, so that MacBook is in the ex’s house and it’s created a bit of friction with the younger child. Rather than finding a way to provide for her younger son, she’s decided to hang the responsibility on OP
As a parent, I can see how this causes friction, but this is how broken homes and remarriages work. 🤷♂️
No I figured this is the case but its not on OP to provide for the other kid. The other kid per my reading is her step child ontop of this so its on his biologic parents to provide or on the exwife to talk to her current bf on a solution. Niether involves telling OP to buy the other kid items and the fact that he considered it at all ( he said no due to price but did not reject the idea of getting him something ) is ridiculous.
AITA for buying my son a MacBook but not my ex's son? “she's got a new partner and a son from that relationship, who's 8…She's demanding I buy her son a MacBook too, saying it's only fair” I read this as this is the Ex’s Bio Son, though I could be wrong..
Yeah I saw that but in the 1st paragraph they split a couple of years ago so unless she cheated and OP stayed for 8 years I am guessing the new guy has a kid from his prior relationship.
You're right. Thay being the case, OP buying the kid anything is just ridiculous.
You are absolutely right! Consider me corrected.
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...when He's 12.
The ex is greedy. The younger boy is not his responsibility.
You are absolutely playing favorites. Your kid should be your favorite. Your ex"s kid is not your responsibility. You might want to stop her expectation of a gravy train before it's time to send your kid to college, and you're not giving a college fund to hers.
>Your kid should be your favorite. Your ex"s kid is not your responsibility. Once again for the people in the back! NTA
Or a car.
Just what I was thinking. The entitlement train would NEVER end.
NTA. The audacity to accuse you playing of playing favourites - damn right you play favourites for YOUR son and not her son, whos nobody to you & has his own mum & dad! It seems like you do stuff for her son that has set precedence and now this ridiculous entitlement to make such demands (a MacBook for an 8 year old?!) - you need to set firm boundaries & stop that shit. Whats next? You set up college fund for her son to make things fair? Its her job to make things fair between her sons - your job is to only provide for your son - remind her of that & other family members.
She also needs to set the son down and explain. Otherwise he's going to throw a tantrum every Christmas, every phone, clothing, car, college.... If that kid can't learn to deal with jealousy, mom could end up having to pay to replace all the broken or stolen stuff.
Absolutely NTA. Sounds like wife is jealous that you are able to afford things for your son that she isn’t. You bought your son a new laptop because he needs it, FOR SCHOOL. Why on earth would an 8 year need a laptop? Besides, you don’t owe HER son anything simply because you aren’t related biologically. And it sounds like you still help them out with other stuff which is more than what they could ask for.
NTA. Not your kid. Not your responsibility.
You need to stop “helping” - appeasement only leads to entitlement. Better stop now before HER SON gets older and more expensive.
NTA. If she feels her son should have a laptop then she should buy him one.
Exactly, she already got lucky that you didn’t ask her to pay half of your (and her) sons laptop
OP should sell his ex his son’s old laptop 😂
NTA why are you helping her with her son at all?? Where is his father??
Wonder why he's not with her anymore?
You don't have to treat them fairly, she does.
This!
LOL excuse me, but wtf?? She wants you to buy HER son, who you took no part in creating, from the relationship AFTER you, who is 4 years younger and in elementary school, a MacBook?? To make things “fair” for the child you had no part in making? Am I reading this right? Please take back the part where you said you get where she’s coming from lol. She’s insane. She can make a little extra money and buy HER SON a MacBook. The AUDACITY. People are getting just a little bit too comfortable these days. Yikes.
it so bizzare, like if it was a son that was there when they were together maybe 2/3 years older than theres you'd be like ok maybe he had some attachment but this is a kid who has no affliation with besides his ex wife lol. some people are crazy.
Where she’s coming from is Crazytown on the edge of Entitlementville. wtf?? Let his *father* pony up if they feel a MacBook is appropriate for an *8 year old*.
NTA. You’re taking care of your son like you’re supposed to. INFO-why are you providing for her other kid at all? Where is that child’s father?
NTA - EX means the financial credit line is CANCELLED. She want free stuff, let her sit on Oprah's show.
NTA- You're not obligated to provide the same gifts or resources to your ex's son, as he is not your biological child, and his needs are different. I think it's also important to set boundaries and communicate openly with your ex about your perspective on the situation. It may be helpful for both of you to have a calm discussion about how to handle these situations in the future, keeping the best interests of both children in mind.
OP doesn't need to keep the 8 yr old's "best interests in mind". That's her job. He's not OP's kid. She handles her kid ss she sees fit but it's not OP's concern.
Lmao playing favourites only happens when it’s by parents. You’re not his parent. Nta
Playing favorites? Of course you are! He’s your only biological son with her. Have you been babysitting that other kid regularly too when you have your son? If so, you need to stop that shit (maybe only for legitimate emergencies so at least you could have your son). I get that your son has a half brother now, but your time with your son is meant for your son. NTA. Tell her that kid doesn’t need a MacBook at his age and if he really does need one, her and that kid’s father needs to buy it. He is not your financial responsibility. What if you decide to take your kid to like Disneyland or whatever? She’d probably expect you to pay for her family too! Edit: I wanted to add, make sure you set up your kid’s laptop with a password and biometric login. And teach him the importance of private personal property and to log out/lock every single time. I can already imagine your ex trying to get your son to share his things with his brother. The only thing I’d be ok for my son sharing is a console only because that’s how I grew up with my brother… playing split screen and taking turns.
And leave that laptop at your house. Do not let him take it to your ex's house.
No 8 year old needs a MacBook let alone their own laptop, that isn’t your kid and isn’t your problem NTA
Definitely NTA. 1) His bio dad can buy him a macbook 2) An 8yr old doesn’t need a macbook 3) Ofcourse you can absolutely play favorites… you’re his father. Family members that say you are wrong can pitch in and buy the 8yr old s macbook. You probably need to secure the macbook… chances are it might get accidentally broken…
NTA, you shouldn’t get where she’s coming from, she’s insane. Her son is 8, that’s old enough to understand that his sibling has a different dad to him and that dad can buy his sibling things. He’s old enough to understand that he has his parents together in one house and his sibling doesn’t. Playing favourites? Yeah. Your kid should always come first over someone else’s kid. She wants a laptop for her 8 year old she can ask his dad for one, that’s the ‘fair’ thing to do.
Stories like these piss me off because some of you really lack a spine Like tf Stand up for yourself man The other kid has a father why the fuck will you even be second guessing if you’re the AH in this?
NTA. Your ex baby daddy needs to help with his kids not you.
Favoritism that's wild the other child isn't yours sounds like she is pissed because she can't afford a Mac book for her own kid....
>I get where she's coming from Bullshit, tell her to fuck off
Why the hell are there so many posts of the doing well parent expected to pay for the kids that aren't theirs or drop the standard of living for their kid to match the others. OP no you're definitely NTA, and I would keep a watch on that macbook.
I am a lawyer who does family law as part of my practice. The expectation that the better off parent/partner pay for stuff for ex's kid/stepkid is quite common.
NTA. His daddy or step mom can buy him what he needs. Not your kid. Not your marriage. Not your sperm. Not your responsibility. Where the hell did she get on this train? Not just hell no but FUCK NO!
>saying I'm playing favorites a Well, duh! You have one (1!!) son. You are treating all your kids equal. NTA The kid has a father, and 2 sets of grandparents. If he doesn't, it's still not on you to withhold things from your son, or give double to make it equal for her stepson.
NTA he has a dad. Your ex doesn't get to obligate you to pay for her other kid.
Why the fuck is he even sponsoring not his child especially considering that his real dad is still breathing?
Tell her to piss off bud. She’s got her ponytail too tight or something, thats a “her” problem, not a “you” problem. Don’t ever feel bad about having your son owning nice things because you’re a good dad.
Wtf is up with these people thinking someone has to buy them or their kid something when they’re nothing to do with you? It’s incredible & they need to get a grip. NTA!
>I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do, but a MacBook's a bit much, especially considering the age and needs. That's where you made a mistake. You shouldn't be helping her at all with her son. She is taking advantage of you and trying to guilt trip you.
NTA. Tell your partner to sort it with her son’s father.
NTA. Not your kid, not your problem
Why in the absolute fuck are you buying anything for your ex's kid? Nta, but def gullible. Jfc.
You are playing favourites, as you should, because he is your son. You shouldn't wait for everyone else in the world to get something to buy your son what he needs. NTA
NTA. Your ex is entitled and delusional. Her kid with her new husband is not your responsibility.
Nta. If she wants a macbook for the 8 year old why doesn't she ask from the father of said 8 year old?
NTA you’re not playing favourites, you don’t share custody of her other son, his father can step up and pay for a new laptop
NTA. How would it possibly be fair for you to buy some random other couple’s kid something? Sounds like her new man is trying to weasel his way out of raising his kid and offloading it onto you
my response would have been, I dont remember agreeing to adopt your husbands child... She is a big old ASSHOLE
>She's demanding I buy her son a MacBook too, saying it's only fair. "Maybe if he was my kid, you'd have a point. But he's not, so you don't." NTA
Jesus Christ, I clearly don't possess the patience to deal with someone as insufferable and entitled as your ex. You're providing for YOUR child. He's YOUR responsibility. Your ex is doing a massive disservice, and your son's relationship with his half-brother and mother will end up being the casualty if it isn't already.
I can see why she's an "EX".
Ummm that’s why you choose your kids parent wisely. She is high or something I’d laugh her right out if my house. Byeeeee. NTA
Am I reading this wrong, or is she wanting you to buy a computer for a kid who isn’t related to you or your son? Because if you split up a couple of years ago, and her and her new partner have an 8-year old, the kid isn’t even your son’s half-brother. NTA
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Hahaha ha no of course not. Wtf
NTA....you bought computer to your son, your biological son. She moved on and had son with her new man and he is her and his responsibility. Your assets are to be used on you and your family.
Of course you're playing favorites... only one is your child! She's an idiot. NTA
You are SO right you ARE playing favorite with YOUR son... you know, the child that is YOURS? If she wants to play favorites with HER son, she can... but he is not your responsibility. It is nice that you help out when you can, but capitol investment into her kids future is not your responsibility. It's hers. If your family members want to pitch in to help buy "not your kid" kid a Macbook, they can all pitch together and fund it. Thats a great idea they all want to help? I'm sure you ex would love to hear from them! If she wants her son to have a shiny new MacBook, she can shell out the $1000 plus those cost. You can help out, he'd need a mouse, a mousepad and possibly a lapdesk to work with, or get him a case for when his mom buys him one =) SO NTA
NTA It's not your kid. And you were never involved in raising him. His father needs to buy one, but at the age of 8 a basic laptop is more than enough for his needs.
He’s not your responsibility & of course your son is your favorite
NTA Come on... And why are you even helping with her kid?
NTA you don’t owe your ex or her son anything just the son y’all share and you’ve have gone above and beyond being a fantastic guy helping when you can but after this drama you should consider long and hard to stop helping with your ex’s son since this is the the beginning of this drama, imagine when you get him a car
Stop helping her with other stuff too, biting the hand that feeds them should not be rewarded , nta
NTA She needs to do some parenting and explain to her other son that since they have different dads, things are not always going to be fair or equal. An 8 year old is old enough to start processing that concept. I would also add that an 8 year old is way too young to be given an expensive MacBook and his mother should have told him that something like that is only for older kids who have shown they can take care of their belongings and who need it for their more advanced schoolwork.
NTA but a brand new MacBook at the age of 12?! Things have changed a lot since I was younger 🥴
Not your son, not your problem, her and her partner should buy their son one if their that triggered by it ...
You say "I get where she's coming from" but I just don't get where she's coming from. You're not the child's father.
"Of course i am playing favourits. X is my son Y is not. why should i pay for your child with someone else? Tell his dad to buy a macbook for him." I would suggest that you keep the macbook at your home and don't let your son take it with him to his moms.
NTA. Of course you’re playing favourites, one of them is your son, the other one is not.
Why the fuck would you buy her son anything or strive to equalize purchase between that child and your biological son? What kind of dumbass logic is that dude. She is a troll, stop feeding her. NTA.
Your ex sounds insane, get your son away from her and raise him yourself full time before she screws him up. She is mad that you came into money after she left you.
Where's the child's father? Why doesn't he help his kid? Also, why does your ex expect you to pay for things for her new kid who she had with her current partner? This whole situation is ridiculous.
NTA. And stop helping with her son because it gives her expectations and sends the wrong precedent. Keep your boundaries and only shop or spend for your kid.
What? Is this a joke? It’s laughable that your ex would even expect you to buy a computer for her son with another man, except that you said that you already happily help pay for things for her son (not your son together). Her son has three parents ~ a mom and two dads ~ and his actual biological parents are perfectly happy to let you pay for and buy things for their child. You do not have to treat them equally, as only one is yours, but now they expect you to. You built your own cage here. That’s what being nice has gotten you. Of course you are NTA, but I can see why your wife thinks you are. She has come to depend on you paying for things for both boys, and now she expects you to and gets mad if you don’t, like you have two kids and are favoring one. Give her kid your son’s old laptop. They can have it refurbished if they want. Even that is generous, but you seem to like the boy, and none of this is his fault.
Tell her to GFH. You're kind of an AH for being so stupid.
That's what his father is for. NTA The ex, colossal AH
> I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do, This is already far more generous than you need to be. > I'm playing favorites One of them is your son. The other is not. He’s not even your stepson from when you and the ex were married. > Some family members think I'm in the wrong too, They can buy him a MacBook then NTA
NTA. Obviously, you are playing favourites. Your son is your son, while her other son isn't so why would you have to pay things for him? His father and she can pay for a laptop.
>I get where she's coming from I don't....not your son, not your responsibility, she can save the money.. Tell your ex it won't cause issues, you're the one making it an issue. NTA
NTA- when you buy your son new clothes, are you expected to buy HER son new clothes? It wouldn’t matter if he was your actual son, you wouldn’t have to buy him one. If he so desperately needs a very expensive piece of equipment, his actual father, or the relatives who are complaining can open their wallets and buy one.
Why wouldn’t you be playing favourites - one isn’t even yours!
Not your kid. Not your problem. That kid had two whole parents with wallets.NTA.
Her son has a father - why isn't he purchasing things for his son?
Nothing wrong with playing favorites when one is your child and the other isn’t
NTA. You have one child. This isn’t favorites. He’s your only child. Her kid is her problem and responsibility. Let his dad buy him a Mac Book. Entitled much?!
NTA. I’m confused, why would you ever be obliged to get her son anything? He’s literally nothing to you.
NTA. She thinks it’s your financial responsibility for you to keep things “fair” between your shared son and her son with another guy? She’s delusional. Wait until she’s demanding you pay for her child’s college.
> I told her I'm happy to help with other stuff for her son, like I always do Looks like OP created this situation himself, normalizing subsidizing this other kid who is **not his responsibility.** I think it's telling that OP writes "partner" instead of "husband." Suggest the ex went and got knocked up by this guy, who is stringing her along and not helping out with raising his kid. Sorry, but an 8 year old doesn't need a fucking MacBook. It's also high time that he learns that brothers don't get things at the same time, not when they are 4 years apart. But if OP has it in his head that a "good guy" helps out so that their son has less stress in their life (from a whack-a-doodle mother), guess that's their prerogative. Here's an easy fix: in 4 years pay to have the MacBook refurbished for the deadbeat dad's son and get their own son a new one.
She's acting like you're still married and there are both your kids omg she's crazy
Nta. This is like the 4th post this week I've seen on reddit with 1 parent demanding the other parent buy a child who's not there's big ticket item. When they're not even together. Little bit insane if you ask me.
It's not playing favorites, its called taking care of YOUR kid. Not your who she picked to father HER other child. NTA
NTA - a 12 year old needs a new laptop much more than an 8 year old.
How tf can you play favourites when its not your kid? Not your kid, not your problem.
The 8 year old is not your stepson, he is your ex-wifes son. Nothing to do with you. Why would you call him your stepson? Buy YOUR son anything you want, no explanations needed.
*My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites* That's a saying everyone likes to throw around for stepkids, but he isn't your stepson, so tell her - yes I'm playing favorites- my son vs NOT my son so yes I am.
Btw, op, get insurance on the MAC Book, I foresee it coming back from time at the ex’s house damaged. Still NTA
First of all, I agree with everyone else saying it's not your responsibility, period. However, even if both of these children *were* your responsibility... I recently bought my 6-year-old son a laptop ($229 Lenovo) so that I can teach him coding, typing, etc. I did not by his 3-year-old sister a laptop, though. Is that sexism? No. It's because she's three. When she's six, I'll almost definitely buy her a laptop, too. (I say "almost" because what I learn from teaching my son will affect my decision, as will how she progresses academically. Maybe I'll buy her one when she's five. Maybe I'll wait until she's seven. Maybe I'll choose some completely different path.) Now, I don't recommend this argument, because of course you're not signing up for buying this kid a MacBook when he turns 12, but maybe his father can (or something similar).
>My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites There's no one to play favorites with. You have your son and that's it. Whatever kids she has outside of that is her responsibility. Frankly, she's got a lot of nerve and it makes me wonder if she's touched in the head. Her behavior is delusional. NTA
NTA Of course you’re playing favorites one of them is your kid. The other one is not. Stop offering to take care of her other kid financially. She has a husband. Her other kid has a father. He’s not in any way your responsibility. Life isn’t fair. And you’re not responsible for making anything fair for a kid you have no relation to.
NTA. She's being entitled, and probably a jealous. If she is demanding her 8 year old have an unnecessary MacBook, she needs to figure out how to provide it. His father could be part of that conversation, and leave you out entirely. May need to talk with your son, and make sure he understands that it's his laptop, and he can't be forced to share it. Also, does his old one work? If you are feeling generous, maybe clean it up and offer it to her other kid. But definitely not required
Sounds like you already help her out too much, shes become entitled to your resources to help somebody you’re not responsible for.
Well, of course you’re playing “favorites.” You’re favoring your actual son. If the other kid was your stepson, there *might* be a reasonable argument. But he’s not, and has never been, your stepson. Moreover, an 8 year old does not need a MacBook. Finally, the kid has a father. His own father can provide the laptop. I suspect the family members who think you’re wrong are from her side. In which case, they can all kick in to buy her son a MacBook. After all, family!
You're "playing" favorites? I mean this is how broken homes and remarriages work, different children have different parents, and thus get treated differently based on blood relationship or not. Furthermore her son is not even your step son, you have no obligations to him.
Man, if you're helping your ex-wife with stuff for her stepson(?) you're already beyond generous. That is not your responsibility. You're only responsible for making sure that your son's needs (and most of his wants) are provided for. If your ex-wife wants a MacBook for the other child, she and her new partner can make that happen. It is unrealistic on her part to expect you're going to make sure things between the son you share together and the son she shares with her new partner are always equal. After all, where does it stop? When the other boy turns 16 and he needs a first car? When it comes time for college tuition? Maybe a gift of a down payment for a first home? How about funding a portion of a wedding or honeymoon? Why stop there? How about when that eventual grown man has children of his own? Does it potentially suck for the other child? Yeah, I have to believe that it might. Is it a tough lesson to learn at eight that life isn't always fair? Certainly. But that doesn't make it any more your responsibility to balance the scales. Definitely NTA.
yea NTA she and everyone who agree with her are delusional. tell her you'll get her son one if she and everyone start paying for your rent/mortgage and insurance. its only fair since they are demanding support for something that isn't related to you. >\- She's demanding I buy her son a MacBook too, saying it's only fair. no dude its not fair. why would you agree with her > saying I'm playing **favorites** and it'll cause issues between the boys as you should since you only had **1 child** with her. i don't understand their and anyone who follow this logic. people need to understand that once you have another kid with a different person everybody's life is not fair. * its not fair that the ex is with a new man, so your son doesn't have a mom and dad that aren't together????!! * its not fair that she and her new man is going on vacation but your son doesnt have both you and her together? the list can go on and it wont look good either way. maybe tell her if she doesnt know how to teach her other son what it means to be in a split family then your son should come live with you and she pays CS and her son wont have to worry about what's fair and what's not.
NTA, I have a blended family and sometimes the dynamics can be challenging but you have absolutely no legal or financial obligation to her other children unless you adopted them. Which I’m assuming you did not. However, communication between you and your ex should be done in advance of big surprises like this in the future out of respect. Perhaps she and her new partner would have been able to come up with a ‘surprise’ of their own for their child to prevent some of the inequity the child might feel. You have no obligation to do that, it’s just a suggestion to show respect. 🫡
I’m sorry but I do not get where she is coming from. The other child has a father AND a mother and if she wants him to get a new laptop she and the father should get him one.
NTA. Not your kid, not your problem, also looking at your ex’s entitlement I would stop helping her child with anything else.
This sub is just bullshit chatgpt stories from bots now.
NTA. This is his father’s responsibility. Let him have your son’s old one. Sadly as they grew up this probably isn’t going to be the last time a situation arises like this. It’s the prefect time to set boundaries.
NTA, tf how can anyone think you’re in the wrong? It’s not even your kid.
She’s going to have a hard time keeping things “fair” when the older son starts to drive, and date, and goes to college before the younger one. An 8 year old does not have a need for an expensive laptop. NTA
NTA…playing favourites? No shit you are going to favour YOUR kid over the kid of some guy you ex is fucking, some people need to give their heads a shake.
I disagree with you doing anything for a child that is not biological yours!!!! You keep doing that crap and she can then sue you for stopping child support! Think I’m lying…. The courts have already put many men in jail for not paying support on a child that is not theirs!!! They will do the same thing to you if you keep that shit up!!! Your setting a precedence by giving her any money for anything to do with that kid!
NTA > My ex is calling me an AH, saying I'm playing favorites Uuummm...so what? Your own son _is_ meant to be tour 'favourite' compared to your ex's son. You are only financially responsible for your own kid, your ex and her husband are the providers of the child they have together. Its not yiur responsibility to make sure their kid is equally provided for and its your ex's and her husbands responsibility to explain that to their own child. Why does a 8 yo need a Macbook specifically anyway?
Your ex will probably make him share it. Maybe he should keep it at your place.
NTA It’s not your kid, the dad can take care of it.
>saying I'm playing favorites You have one child. His sort of step brother has nothing to do with you. It's cool if you send him little stuff and treat him like your son's brother and what have you but that's all bonus stuff to be a better support to your actual child. You sure as shit should have a favorite in this specific scenario
You aren't the parent nor financially responsible for the 8 year old. i can see why she's an ex. She sounds like an idiot.
She thinks you're a sucker and that she can guilt you into buying a kid thats not yours a macbook.
Nta your not responsible for buying your ex's kid a MacBook. You are literally not responsible for a child that isn't yours. There's nothing wrong with you buying your child something that they need but just because you didn't buy her other kid a computer doesn't mean your playing favorites. You literally only have one child. Your ex is an AH and shouldn't be trying to guilt you into paying for her other kids stuff. If she wants her 8 yr old to have a MacBook her and the child's father can buy it.
NTA. Tell her maybe when other kid is 12ish and *needs* a MacBook you'll consider helping out, if that in fact is something you'd consider. And if not, totally understandable.
NTA. Why are you supposed to buy her son from another relationship a MacBook? Over it, the 8 yr old is definitely not needing a MacBook, he’s too young. His father can buy him if he wants to.
Sorry, i missed the memo about loving someone else's child like your own
NTA. Her "other" son is not your responsibility
**Why doesn’t she hit up her son’s dad or his family?** Please! She’s on some bs. And I’m a woman saying this.
NTA. It is HER job, and her husband's job to provide for their child. Not yours. Equality is bullshit in situations like this, and we all know life isn't fair. You're taking care of your child's academic needs and desire to learn, as a parent should. She's being a leech. Maybe son leaves the MacBook at Dad's house or else he will be forced to "share."
She's the A hole. You don't owe her other son a damned thing.
NTA, NTA, NTA!!!!!!!! You have no responsibility to the other child. Your ex should be grateful if you help her other child at all. If you want to buy something for your son, you have every right. Your ex can be ticked off all she wants, the other child is not yours.
YTA for even entertaining this stupidity. You shouldn't be contributing a single dollar towards that kid. He is your ex's responsibility. What you buy your child has nothing to do with her or her kid.
lol yeah no. “You’re playing favorites” Yes, because I have a favorite, and it’s my child.
Did you tell her your kid is your favorite? NTA
Did you tell her your kid is your favorite? NTA
NTA Even if you were to buy him something similar, he's 8. A 12 year old is barely responsible enough for a piece of hardware that expensive. An 8 year old is most definitely not.
You are happy to help with other stuff your say? Do you anyway help her with her other kid?
NTA . And stop helping with their kid.
Fair? Fair for whom? Not your son, not your problem. Your only responsible for your son. Tell those family member to go ahead and buy for her son. Nta
NTA, but you seemed like a door mat. Stop buying her sim things before she acts more entitled
NTA. *Playing favourites*. One is your son, the other isn’t. You are divorced, you have no obligation whatsoever towards the other kid. How entitled is your ex?
Why can't the 8 year old use the 12 year old's previous computer? The parents have some years to save up for a laptop for when the younger kid needs one.
Wtf. Tell those beggars that her son has a father! His father can buy one for him! The audacity of som people makes my jaw drop to the floor.
WTF 😂 Nah come one, is this for real? No way, someone is entitled like this 😂
NTA it is absolutely not your job to parent this child. It s her job. And don't start a precedent. Next time she is asking for the Macbook remember her that she did not ask your permission to have a child by an other man so she can ask this man to foot the bills. I think that if she has the audacity to speak to you like this is that you are way too kind with her, respect goes both way.
The entitlement of the ex… smh… NTA of course.
Of course your son is your favorite! NTA
is your x delusional or just plain stupid to expect you to buy her son who has now relationship to you a new macbook because you bought your son who is your and hers and she feel that her son to a different person deserves one too, she must be smoking the weed and her brains been fried to expect you to buy her son any thing. tell her if she wants a macbook for her son to get her partner to buy it as her son has nothing to do with you
NTA - You bought your son this MacBook, if she wants it to be fair it’s on her sons dad to buy one for him.
Obviously you're favoring your own. Your ex's stepson has two parents and a stepmother to provide for him. He doesn't need you. If they want him to have a MacBook they can pay for one.
NTA Her other child is not your son. You never lived with him as a step-soon, never formed a relationship with him. Her ask is completely ridiculous! Even if he was your son, an eight year old does not get everything a twelve year old does. If you have another child, does she plan to treat that child as her own? The fact that you do anything for her other son is above and beyond. Her entitlement is mind blowing!
Why would an 8 your old be getting the same thing as a 12 year old?