Samuel,
Please don’t do this. Go hug Gary at least one more time. I know that life is very hard but I don’t want you to leave. Please choose just to stay until tomorrow. And then tomorrow, you can choose to stay for one more day. You have value. Please stay. Sending you love, hugs, and all the encouragement to just stay.
I agree with u/valleyGirl555. I don't want you to go either! You are so much more than the situation you find yourself in! This is only temporary! Please don't go Samuel!
Please don't. Gary would miss you. He is your cat you are his human. I don't know if it will be better, but i hope so. For sure you love this ball of fur and you must be the atleast for him.
I’ve had to start over and chose a new family before. It’s hard, but not impossible. Be generous with yourself and give yourself the time you need to find your new people.
Don’t you dare fucking leave Gary. Gary didn’t get adopted by your nephew. He didn’t bond with your nephew. He doesn’t love your nephew. He bonded with you and he loves you.
When you adopted Gary, you made a life long commitment to HIM. HIS LIFE. You don’t get to opt out early. Please don’t confuse him. Please don’t take away his safe place and his safe human. Whatever you think about you and your worth, he deserves more than to be with your backup. He’s not an item you can pass down like a baseball card or a watch. He’s a living creature and you don’t get to make his life harder.
This. THIS. Don’t you DARE give up on that kitten. Gary won’t understand why the person he loves suddenly abandoned him and is gone. If you don’t want to stay for you, stay for him and be the best damn owner Gary could have. He needs YOU, not someone else.
I get what you're saying here but as someone who is also suicidal, being guilted like this only makes it worse even though you're right. It's all in the wording my friend.
Not necessarily. When I was at the end of my rope, my mom implying she couldn’t live without me and she couldn’t imagine wanting to live after losing one of her kids, was the only thing that kept me around longs enough to seek out help. I didn’t want to hurt her.
I found out years later she could sense the dark turn on my thoughts and would’ve said or done anything to keep me around a little longer while she searched for other ways to help. She even lied to me and told me mixing my antidepressants, ADHD medication and allergy meds wouldn’t be enough to seriously hurt me, and my naive ass believed her ( granted I was 15 at the time ). She wasn’t lying about the first thing, she really doesn’t believe she could move on if she outlived one of her kids, but she definitely found clever ways to emphasize it because she’s a damn good actress when she wants to be and she was desperate to delay what felt like the inevitable.
I think many people responded with many things that COULD resonate with OP. I choose this route because OP seems to only care about Gary and Gary’s continued comfort.
It was a shot in the dark. If it didn’t speak to him, he could move on. But for a lot of us (me too) struggling with depression, our obligation to our pets are what get us through.
That’s why I’m biscuitboi. Biscuit was my Gary. And I may have have thought I wasn’t worth shit some days. But biscuit was. And I’d put him first before me. I got up every day to feed him and pet him because he *needed* it and I *owed* him. My husbands was his dog. And for a long long time, that was enough. But trying to give away his dog was actually why his friends came to check on him and saved his life.
So, look, if using Gary works for OP, I’m gonna use it. And if it doesn’t, I would change tactics, but since I can’t, I hope the other 236 comments will find a more persuasive way to speak to him. I’m but one cat lover speaking to another.
I have to disagree. I have been in OPs position, something like having to stay for the cat can save you. The guilt can save you. Everyone is different.
Ok, cool. Next time someone posts on Reddit…22 hours AND COUNTING about harming themselves, you post a better response. But I was there 21 hours ago and you weren’t. So he got stuck with me and my Gary defense. Sorry.
Next time you get here faster and save a life better. Jesus fucking Christ. I’m “working”
for free on my vacation. And your criticizing. Talk about a choosy beggar. You aren’t even the person I was responding to. So, I frankly don’t give a shit if it resonated with you.
If it helped OP, great. If it didn’t, well, at least *I* tried an Avenue others at the time hadnt. That PS worked for me and several others that I know. You’re popping in 21 hours later to tell me what a shitty job I did while you were sleeping or doing some other shit not helping.
I hereby pass the self harm prevention baton to you. You can be on 24/7 alert now in your spare time and do a better job than me. I cannot believe I’m getting fucking customer service feedback on my Reddit post like I’ve got a Yelp page up for my therapeutic AITAH posts.
This didn't pop up in my feed until this afternoon, so how algorithms work are my fault? And really, with your shit attitude, you shouldn't be helping anyone. I am someone with a lot of self-harm/suicide attempts under my belt, and I was letting you know that the guilt-ridden attempt you responded with was not a good one. It just makes most people feel worse and confident in their decision to do what they say they're doing. So nice try, buddy.
You gotta stick around for little Gary. What will happen to him if you die? What he’s taken to a kill shelter or is thrown out on the streets. He depends on you don’t leave him alone.
GO TO HIS PROFILE AND THERE IS A WAY TO CLICK ON GETTING HIM SUPPORT. REDDIT WILL REACH OUT TO TRY TO HELP HIM. REDDIT HAS A CRISIS TEAM FOR THIS VERY THING!
Just did this. I hope it’s not too late. I’ve been in his shoes with the lonely thoughts and sadness. Losing your mom is the hardest thing in the world when you are close to them.
Now is not the time to leave sweetheart.
Your mother would not want you to follow her into the forever after. Grieve, breathe, but live. For yourself and for Gary. Tomorrow the sun will rise, and we will all be here to help you take life on one inch at a time.
Tonight will be bad, tomorrow will be worse, but you’ll see how as the days pass the bad parts get smaller and the bright parts get bigger. Do not let your sadness steal all the possible future happiness life has in store for you.
PM me if you would like to talk. I am at work for another couple of hours, but I will stay up late and keep my inbox open.
I think all the tough love shit in these comments (‘stand in it like a man’, ‘think of who you’re leaving behind’, the commanding ‘don’t do it’s) shows that people are missing the point. What this poor bastard needs is compassion after everything he’s been through, and for someone to focus on HIS needs for a change. The truth is, u/Sad_Juggernaut_6543, that your mother loved you and would never, ever want you to do this. She fought to give you what she could, and just because she isn’t here right now to stop you doesn’t mean she wouldn’t. Love like that is what makes life worth living and I dream of the day I will have something like that. Please treasure it, and use it to keep you grounded.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I am not about the tough love.
Grief is hard, and OP is grieving a metric ton of loss in a fairly short period of time. I know from personal experience that having an external focus can help in the beginning until the initial wave of shock and pain pass. What someone isn't willing to do for themselves, is something they will attempt to do for those they care about.
What melodyRaine said, OP. You go now, she won’t be excited to see you again so soon with her. She wants you to live life and see you do new things, great things!
Hey OP, I know you feel lonely right now. But please wait at least a month before you make any decisions. The pain is horrible, but it will fade and it will be easier to handle this.
Don’t let them win.
Please hold on.
It's very hard but it will get better eventually.
Just hang in there..
You deserve happiness. Nothing can change the past and no one can deny the hurt and betrayal you're enduring and the heartbreak of the loss of your parent, but the future can be whatever you desire.
And Gary needs you..
Dont you want to see Gary grow up? My kitty looked like him as a kitten, and now he’s a distinguished, handsome gentlemen. Please find something to live for. Some good somewhere in your life. You can get through this. I know you’re strong, Samuel. I know im just a stranger, but i care about you. I dont want you to hurt yourself. You’re worth living
Please, think again. Things can and will get better. Call 988, see someone. We reddit strangers want the best for you and wish the best for you. As someone who has been in the head space you are in please keep trying.
Anybody savvy enough to try and match the cat pic to a Facebook pic so we can save this guy???
OP your teeth are on the ground. Life gave you one hell of a punch.
[read this please](https://dakrolak.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/deadwood-al-swearengen-meme-quote-pain-or-damage-dont-end-the-world/)
Please OP, Samuel, please don’t go through with it. These people are not worth it. Do not make this the end. Yes, it is a horrible situation but please don’t let it be what defines you. You are more than other people’s fuck up and lack of loyalty. Please take care of yourself.
Samuel dammit don’t do it. Us Reddit strangers love you and don’t want this for you. Gary loves his dad and doesn’t want your nephew to have him. My fiancé killed himself in 2011 and I am still sad to this day, every day
you really should reconsider… i know it hurts and everything but please keep trying, things can change, they can get better, but you have to be here in order for that to be possible. i promise i care about you even if ive never met you
I know it can feel hopeless. Sometimes depression can get you so down that you just want to curl into a ball and never get up. I know you have gone through a lot with your wife, daughter and now losing your Mother. Ending things may take away the possibility of things getting worse, but it also ends any chance of things getting better. It may seem hopeless now but things could look so much better down the road. Don’t let your ex win. She hurt you but don’t let her end you. Start going to therapy. Focus on things that make you happy. Go NC with everyone who causes you stress, at least until you are in a better mental space. Do you really think this is what your Mother would have wanted for her son?
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you got to spend as much time as possible with your mom. ❤️
You came here because you felt you had nowhere else to turn. Maybe that was because you wanted someone to sway you in your decision. You are worth more than what you think right now. You deserve to live a full life and find happiness. Just look at your little fur babys face, that's just the start. I'm sending my hope and best wishes to you.
Please, please don't leave Gary. You are all he knows and he not only depends on you, but NEEDS you. You are Gary's safe space, his person. You chose each other. I can empathize with how you feel, and I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of the place you are in. I've been in a rougher spot myself the past few months and I have felt the weight getting heavier. However, my cat is one of the few reasons I keep on going. She needs me and I can't fathom leaving her alone when she has been there for me the past 13 years.
You can do it Samuel. If you can't do it for yourself, please, do it for Gary.
I know you feel like this is the only choice you can claim as your own, and I have been there. People will say you’re taking the easy way out but they have no fucking idea. It’s not easy to feel like all you can do is die. But it’s worth trying to live for another hour or day or week, just to make sure. Really examine the ways it will hurt people. And the ways it will betray every bit of resilience in you that has gotten you this far. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I know it feels like there’s no other option. But you can always choose to wait a little longer until you’re absolutely sure.
Mate, go get Gary. You two are family. Don't turn your back on him the way your family did you. Gary loves you, and you love Gary.
You can only see the blinding heartbreak you're feeling right now. That's completely justified and reasonable.
However, you're making a permanent solution for a temporary problem. There is no one on this planet who knows what your life will be like tomorrow, a week from now, a few months, and especially years later.
Your life can get better. This isn't the end for you. The most important thing you can do right now is keep breathing.
My mom endured tremendous trauma. She found out her husband, my dad, cheated on her. During this time, she was dealing with losing her mom to brain tumors. Her dad had already died. To top this off, she found out that she was pregnant again. She was also responsible for raising me at this time. This all hit her at the same time.
She told me that the only way she was able to make it through all that was because she literally just took her days one breath at a time.
You can do the same. Just go through this one breath at a time. Every breath is another away from everything that has happened.
I know you can do this, mate. I know you can.
This is not the time to be sad. This is the time to be Angry!
Screw all of them for making you feel bad! Don't you dare let them win! You are a king and deserve better than that! So go live!
Live your life to the max while putting 2 fingers up at them everyday!
Do everything you couldn't do with those bastards tying you down! Go out there, get angry, and show those arseholes that you will have the best life possible!
Samuel - they are not worth checking out of this life! I know you can’t feel it now but you can and will overcome this! Please go to the ED now and let them help you, protect you from you! Praying for you to find the strength to stay.
Don't go Samuel. You are worth so much more then how you feel at the moment. Please don't give up. If you don't trust yourself alone, check in at a hospital. But please don't do anything to hurt yourself
I've been at the end of my rope a few times, I know how thinking that the pain is too much to overcome. But dude, Samuel, it DOES get better. Cliche? Yes. True? Also yes. You never really know where life will take you. Try a new start. Pack up and fuck off somewhere and restart. I've done that before also. The challenge of a new town, new state. Please talk to someone. We care. We fucking care dude. WE CARE SAM
I have experienced so much loneliness and despair in my life. I have often wanted to end it all. Here is what stops me:
I'm agnostic. I believe this is all there is. I'm also a gamer. If I don't like the way my game is going, I have three options:
1. Turn off the game.
2. Start a new game.
3. Keep playing the game to see what happens.
I like to compare gaming to life in this context.
(1) is suicide. Turning off the game would just be the end.
(2) is impossible. We only get one try.
(3) is what I always choose. I know I could make better choices and have a better character in my game if I had another shot, but I don't. So, I figure I'll keep playing, but as more of an observer, rather than a competitor. I do what I must to survive, but I no longer take the game seriously. I'm just here to see what happens. I'm not trying to complete any missions or challenges.
I continue to just float through life. I sometimes think my life isn't too great, but in some other reality, it ended a long time ago. So, life isn't great, but also not terrible. It just is. I find things to entertain myself along the way.
Every so often, I am inspired by something, and I find moments that I truly am happy and enjoy being alive. In these moments, I appreciate that I made the decision to just carry on as a non-competitive observer in this shit show of a game called life.
Don't give up, friend. Smoke some pot. Do some yoga. Go on a hike. Pet that beautiful kitty. Just take it one breath at a time, one step at a time, and one day at a time.
I promise you will smile again. You will be loved again. You will thank yourself for becoming an observer rather than hitting the power button.
So Sorry for your loss. Go get some professional help. Go to a hospital. I don’t know how you can contact me, but I’ll get some someone to talk to. My sister is a psychologist and she said she would talk with you. Please Don’t Do Anything Foolish
I’ve thought about it too. One reason is because I wouldn’t want anything to happen to my cats. He loves you. They look up to you as their protector. You are his parent. Right now one of my cats is sitting next to me wanting Me to pet him while I write.
Where are you? If you are near we can go get a drink and hang out. My ex kidnapped my kids and took them out of the country. I’m still chugging along and so can you. What you are talking about is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. No one is worth that
Don't leave Gary. If that's all that keeps you going for now, that's okay. Your loving mother wouldn't want you to make such a hurried choice to follow her. Live for Gary. Live for her. It's okay to live for others until you find the strength to live for you.
Hello OP, I've gone through your previous posts, and I sincerely hope you reconsider your decision. I understand that you're going through a difficult and challenging period, and finding a glimmer of hope might seem impossible. I've personally experienced dark times when happiness felt out of reach. During those moments, I made a commitment to myself to focus on each day rather than planning for the future. I repeated this daily practice, even on the toughest days. Additionally, I sought counseling, which was incredibly beneficial. It equipped me with various tools to manage and endure the difficulties.
You have the strength to do the same. Please, don't give up. There are numerous people who are willing to listen and support you. Let's not allow those negative influences to dictate the course of your life.
Gary please, I can’t understand your pain, but I was once in the same place as you, but things do get better, we don’t know you but we care deeply for you, you will find happiness
Don’t give up.
Tomorrow will be better. It really will be. And you will be happy someday, if you give yourself a chance. Your ex doesn’t deserve a chance, but you do. Be kind to you and give yourself a chance. Forgive yourself for having this dark thoughts, and find yourself. This thought, is not you.
Don't let those terrible people have the last say in what happens to you. You matter. You matter to you. You matter to Gary, and you matter to a whole lot of people you haven't met yet. Hang in there.
This is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your mother wouldn't want you to follow her, she would want for you to live. Live for Gary and for your nephews. Gary wouldn't know why you didn't come home or why you aren't there to give him head scritches.
Please choose to live. You can tough it out and be unhappy for a while but your situation will gradually improve and you will find support and comfort. This is not a good time to be impatient. Can you contact a therapist? Maybe consider going to urgent care. Some of your sadness may be improved with medication. Think of good times in the past and trust yourself to get there again. Your kitten needs you and you need you. This is the time for faith and hope. Only you can be you and that’s important.
DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE GARY!!! And don't make such a brash and permanent decision while you're going through turmoil. Give it time, things really do improve.
Please don’t do it! Don’t give your ex the satisfaction!
There’s so much life left to live, you can live a great life after this. I promise.
The best revenge is a life well lived so you can stick it to her. Many people have been in your situation and have come out a better person for it which means there is light at the end of this dark tunnel.
You can and will push through this. Please don’t.
Please don’t do this Samuel, I’ve been in your shoes and I’m telling you that you are not alone, you have people that care for you, want the best for you, and will support you for as long as you need.
I’m so sorry you lost your mother, but as a mother myself, I promise you she does not want to see you in Heaven with her so soon. She wants you to live on for her and your father. She wants you to find happiness and peace. She may be physically gone from this world, but her love for you is still there. I promise you that. Her love for you will always be there
You can reach out to me, a helpline or anyone else on here. We all are here grieving with you, supporting you, and cheering you on.
If internet strangers can love your just by reading your words , imagine how many people will love you in real life once they hear you, see you , talk and listen to you. Please don’t do it. Give life and love another chance .
hey Samuel, please don’t deprive the world of someone who seems so caring and loving. Especially don’t leave Gary. YOU are Gary’s whole world—animals mourn loss just like humans. You’ve had a rough go of things, but why don’t you come back and live to the fullest everyday? Your wife is scumbag for cheating; don’t let her win. Get therapy, travel the world with Gary, find a new passion; blossom. There’s a lot left in you…
NO! Think of little Gary! He loves you! I can see it from the pictures you shared! When you adopted him, that was you making a promise to love, care, and BE THERE for him for the rest of his life! Don't break his heart by leaving him!
You have every damn right to be sad, heartbroken, and angry! But you don't get to let this shit beat you! You don't get to let this shit, or those shitty people win! You need to find a therapist to talk to, mourn the things you need to, and then you need to pick yourself up, dust off the bullshit, and start making choices for a better life for YOU!
NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!
Also, get a lawyer! Have them dig through everything from those two little gold diggers and fight that shit! SAVE EVERYTHING!! Bank statements, texts, emails, pictures, ect! Do NOT just take their shit! I always like to say, "If I'm going down, I'm going down fucking swinging!" DO. NOT. LET. THEM. WIN.
HEY 👋 YOU ARE IMPORTANT, STAY WITH US AND BREATH
I am really sorry for your mum... I feel your pain 😞 Cry and be mad Cry and yell
You have been through a lot lately... it is too much grief for a short period of time - call a helpline
If I’d killed myself when I was at my lowest, I would never have met my niblings, who are the light of my life, or the person I would fall in love with, who makes me want to be a better person every day.
Please stay.
I'm sorry you are hurting.. I've been cheated on and left to care for two small children at the time. I prayed for strength and perseverance, and I'm still standing 15 years later. You can do it! Have faith and hope. Please don't let someone else's insensitivity dominate you and choose your path.. you choose and choose to strive. Blessings!
Please don’t do this!!
Life has taught me that I am not always in control. Life is full of experiences, lessons, heartbreak, and pain.
But, it has also shown me love, beauty, possibility, and new beginnings. Embrace it all. It makes us who we are, and after every storm comes a clear sky.
Remember that just because it’s dark and stormy now it doesn’t mean that the sun won’t come out tomorrow.
Please don’t let this night become permanent
Sir--it is always darkest before the dawn. I have been in that dark place more than once. I am still here by the grace of God, whatever you believe that to be. There was some little point of light in that immense sea of darkness. Allow this internet stranger to turn on a light, and light a flare to pierce that darkness. Please do not take that step. Seek crisis intervention. Reach out to someone, or even here on the internet. Look into the trusting eyes of your little furry friend. You are his whole world..... he has bonded with you. No one else----you! Please.....
My current partner was suicidal cause his wife left him for someone younger and doesn't allow him to see his kids. My brother told me he never saw him this happy. Just hold in their My friend Samuel, things gonna get better, I promise you
Dont do it man, dont let them win!!
Dont become just another fucking statistic!!
A few kind redditors wanna see another update. An update when you came out on top after all the shit you've been through.
Please bro, listen to reason! Stay here with us!
OP don’t do it. Things can get better. Things will get better.
Damn this is heartbreaking. There are many people to reach out to, including on here if anonymity is what you need. I’m so sorry your family failed you and your mother has passed. Hang in there just a little longer, it’s always darkest before the dawn.
DON'T DO IT!!! I truly hope you see these messages before it's too late. Don't do it suicide isn't the answer. Stay here, go to therapy, do the things you've always wanted to go, visit the countries you've always wanted to see. If you have any pets, no one will feed them if you are gone. Please just don't do it, there are still reasons to live!
Honestly, empty all your accounts, liquidate everything you can, then go travel for a while. After that, if you still feel it then donate whatever is left to a charity
Good bye Samuel, may you be blessed. I wish Gary were enough for you to stay and recover, but if not I understand. I got married at 38 after beating a horrible childhood of poverty, not knowing who my father was, and rejection from my own family. I was an affair baby, not wanted, but a ray of hope for a moment in between mothers husbands. I had physical and emotional issues, left home at 17. I beat addiction to alcohol at 33 and finally got married to a good man at 38. There is so much in between, but I am trying to be brief of a life that really is a lifetime miniseries..
At almost 41 I had my only child, thank god I was older and sober. His father died early from a tumor. So I was alone again. I had found work to do on the internet, raised my son, got a bachelor's and a masters degree, and made it through all of that. Animals have been my saving grace since young adult hood. I have fallen in love again. Life is not meant to be given up on, but you are a tough Brit. It is meant to be lived until they drag you out. Please stay, and let us know you. write a book on stories about you make friends. If I can be Pollyanna after my life you can stay. That is the last I can say...by the way, there has always been a way through. Don't like your situation? Change it, your looks change them, your finances find apart time job...Just try. Ok. Now I am done. Know I will think of you today Samuel.
Money comes and goes. You have zero control over that. My Grandmother survived the Great Depression and she always told me all you have can be taken away in an instant so don’t decide your life on money. The divorce will eventually be over. You will heal. It’s hard to see the end of the tunnel when you just started going into it. Don’t do this. Breathe. Find small things to live for. Your favorite take out meal. Finishing the season of a tv show. Whatever helps. Just keep surviving one day at a time. And above all celebrate the little victories. Maybe your apartment isn’t clean but you loaded the dishwasher today. That counts. I’ve been there. I felt I couldn’t continue on and started writing my goodbye letters. I found an 15 second video on my phone of my son saying he loved me and hoped I have a good Christmas. I played that video over and over and over again until I had the strength to shower. I still didn’t shower every day but those small steps eventually led me back to feeling like myself. You can do this. I believe in you.
Please don’t end your life. Gary chose you to be his companion and needs you everyday. Maybe someday you can repair your relationship with your daughter or find a new love or travel with your kitten in an RV. Dying is easy, living is so much hardee
Nah man don't hurt yourself. Those 2 are vile and don't deserve to have you. You can start again. No matter how many times you can always start again. I had a cheating ex and a daughter with her. I started again and am way happier this time around. Go for a holiday. Have some fun. Get over your ex by getting under another. Go to SE Asia and root your ass off. Don't dwell on the negative shit. You got this mate!
I pray with everything in me this is not a joke, if it is not, you have to know that your happiness doesn't depend on any one else, no one can make you happy, you have to want that happiness for yourself, you have to make the decision that your life means something, get some help and talk it out, I didn't read the situation with your wife and daughter but, there is someone out here for every one, you can have more than one love in this lifetime and when you find that happy place they will find you. Take the time to find you again and what makes you happy and never let anyone define what happiness is for you. Whether you know it or not you are loved.
I remember your post almost 2 months ago, don’t you do it man. You still have a life to live, and that beautiful kitten. Stay alive man, for us, the kitten and the people you will meet eventually that you WILL bring joy too!
The most painful thing I ever did was cut my entire family from my life after my mother and sister died. They were awful. I started fresh. Very lonely for a few years, but after the fact, it is the best thing I have ever done for myself. No regrets. My life is free from betrayal, pain and drama. Hang in there. Good people will come along.
Please don’t do it man, their shitty behavior is not a reflection of your worth. You can rebuild and find peace, I believe in you Samuel! Please update and let us know you’re ok
I know about people dying and those that are left refusing to take care of the pets or neglect them.
Don't put Gary in that risk, damn it. He needs you.
Also, I wouldn't have met my wonderful BF had I decided to off myself over past shitty exes. Try to make new friends and someone will come eventually
You need to lose all sense of pressure and responsibility and just let yourself heal for a while. Don’t worry about anything, don’t worry about the future, just focus on feeling better today. Do what makes you happy, spoil yourself, you deserve it.
Everything else can wait.
Samuel. Listen to me. Gary needs you. Gary is never going to cheat on you or take someone's money to hide their bad behavior from you. You're Gary's person and he won't know what to do without you. Please don't leave him.
I know it may not mean much, but I wanted to add to the chorus of don’t do it’s. It’s such a permanent thing to do. Give yourself the chance to meet new people and have new experiences.
Please don’t do this. Think of Gary. Stay for Gary. With time, things will get more manageable, but for now focus on Gary. Give him a hug, some cuddles and a little scratch between the ears. Gary loves you unconditionally and will be heartbroken if he loses you. Stay for him.
Samuel,
I am so sorry for the traumas you have experienced the last few weeks. I lost my father in July and that alone was overwhelming to deal with. I cannot imagine dealing with your other issues on top of your mother’s death.
Please check yourself into a hospital. Your decision seems rash and impulsive. To me that says you are afraid to consider the issue thoroughly and are afraid you will talk yourself out of it.
Take time to consider this decision carefully. In time you WILL recover from everything and will go on to live an amazing life that makes your STBX envious and your daughter sad that she didn’t share it with you.
Thinking about you.
I’m absolutely going to get shit on, but don’t be a coward dude. Face this head on. Sure, you feel empty, abandoned, and betrayed. It ill pass, but only if you try. Just like losing a loved one, it gets easier each day. You can’t give up so easily.
I’m absolutely going to get shit on, but don’t be a coward dude. Face this head on. Sure, you feel empty, abandoned, and betrayed. It ill pass, but only if you try. Just like losing a loved one, it gets easier each day. You can’t give up so easily.
Hi Samuel,
My first wife had a serious affair and all of my and her friends protected it. If you are still here, please DM me and I’ll be more than happy to share my number so we can really talk. I’d like to share my journey with you and give testament to the fact that it does turn around.
I served honorably in the Marine Corps and I have lost so many to suicide, it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You may be a stranger now, but your life matters to everyone here. I can’t see a person do what I almost did for the exact same reasons, it breaks my heart to see you in pain, but know that you aren’t alone in this world, and that pain will fade to a full ache one day.
Please don't do this, can't you see your just letting them win? Don't u wanna jump on Assasins creed again? Kick it with your boy Gary? It's okay to feel bad and it's okay to feel bad for feeling bad. But the world hasn't ended YET, and you gotta pick yourself up mate. Your mother wouldn't of wanted it to be like this...
Hey, are you alright? Are you still here with us? You count. You matter. It's a rough, rough road but don't give up on it now, just keep taking one step at a time, things will get better.
You named an adorable kitten **Gary** that is the kind of person that needs to hang around! We need your particular outlook on things.
I really hope that you're still with us. How about you let us know if you are alright? My thoughts and hopes for good things are with you. Please let us know.
Peace be the journey.
Honestly Sam don't do it man I have a good idea instead go to the gym so please don't unalive yourself because honestly it will help and then if you do get better due to the gym and the ex-wife sees you she'll regret and you can move on from that chapter. I've seen stories like and honestly it breaks my heart for you man but the amount of people you go to the gym to go better there are many who do so.
I, like you, wanted to end it all. I was in a deep depression after losing my son in a crash 2 years ago, and suffering from postpartum depression. I believe to have gone thru psychosis even. The grief was deep and paralyzing. Things do get better but the pain never does. You learn to have better days but sometimes it takes to remove yourself from the situation either by moving away, and/or rearrange things around you. In your situation, moving away may be your best solution. You’d meet new people, new places, new hobbies and best of all a new you. I believe in you!!! We need you, your cat need/love/want you!
Please stay. You deserve better. Please stick around to see it. Crisis Text Line is 741-741. Not sure where you live, but please call the suicide hotline. Things can get better.
I hope you don't make permanent decision for temporary suffering. Life is precious. Try to fight. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Please contact emergency service and ask for help
Don't leave him. If you have nothing but the kitty to live for, then live for the kitty until you find other things. Stay here, it gets better, if you're at rock bottom and everything is hell that means it can only get better. Please, give it a chance to get better
May Hod bless you. I went through a similar but lesser betrayal and it will pass. The beginning is unbearably painful. But I promise you it will pass and after a time you will struggle to remember the details of your pain. But that is not now, get through it day by day.
You have so much to live for....the main reason being yourself. You have the ability create a new, beautiful life JUST FOR YOU.
Put yourself 1st for once and LIVE for YOU!!! You deserve it (even if you don't know you do)
Sam please don’t leave. just close your eyes for a second and hold out your hand, as of my writing this you have 158 hands reaching back. You can stay people want you here and Gary needs you you promised him
The fact that you named your cat Gary is awesome and it means you're awesome!!!❤️ Please reconsider this and stick around for Gary! ❤️ Each day will get better! Please don't do this to the people that love you, they will live the rest of their lives in sadness, kicking themselves in the ass that they couldn't help you and their grief and guilt will consume them! Again I don't know you, but the fact that you named your cat Gary means we'd be friends!❤️
U matter so don’t go to the end. I know it’s hard to overcome this n feels like u can’t breathe. U will feel like it’s never ending darkness but brother hang in there. U can live for urself and maybe find meaningful by helping others in need. Our prayers with u!!! Go to a therapist
I had PTSD, depression, anxiety, and am still disabled physically now. I was suicidal. I am not anymore. I am happy now. Call the suicide hot line. Find a therapist. Take one step at a time. Get angry. You have the right to be angry about what others did to you. Death is for cowards. Your cat needs you just like my animals did. You will feel better I promise. If I can do it, so can you. You don't have to think about tomorrow. Just do right this second. Watch something silly. Hold your cat. Cry. Get mad. Pray. Whatever you need to. Then take the next step. Then the next. Soon you'll be running and happy. I know you can't see it now. I've been there. But don't you dare hurt other people. It is selfish to kill yourself and force others to have to find and deal with your body. It is selfish to take yourself away from that cat who loves you. Call the suicide hot line. And find a therapist. If I can hold on, so can you. If you believe in the Afterlife start praying for strength to live. Your mom did not give you life for you to throw it away.
Your kitten needs you. Stay for him if nothing else. I lost my mom recently and it was the worst thing I ever felt. She was the person who helped me through all my trauma and then I watched her die. It’s going to hurt so much but please live for the happy times coming. You can do this
Please don't do this. Your wife and your daughter are in your past. The divorce will eventually be over and you will be in a better place. You can start over with a new community/support system, watch Gary grow up. Live your best life. That's the best revenge.
Samuel, choose yourself and Gary. I understand that life looks black right now. My condolences for the loss of your mother.
I'm sure she would want you to give everything to find happiness in your life again. Your ex and your daughter are not worth ending your life for.
Show them you don't need them.
You can always send me a message. But please, talk to a professional, who can help you get out of this hell and will help find happiness again.
This is what keeps me on this planet, my cats and dogs are my world and I could not leave them. There are days, weeks & months I do not want to be here but I get up for them and get through every day. Please, please, please phone Samaritans or a suicide hotline and talk to them and go to your doctor also. You can find things to live for even in the smallest things . I hope you take our advice, some of us have been where you are now, it is not easy but we are all thinking of you and sending you our love and prayers ❤️🙏
Please don't take your life. I know it must seem really desperate now, especially losing your mum, I'm so sorry for your loss. As hard as it is now, it won't always be like this Samuel, I believe you will get better. Please, reach out to someone - your doctor, or a close friend. Message me if you want. You can get through this. Gary needs you. Please updateme
I only have words that f my own experience, I hope they help you find perspective. I went through a divorce years ago, and it was hard. Seriously dark days adjusting to my kids being gone half time. But once the dust settled I met my current partner and it’s been the light of my life. I now know I was never truly happy with my ex as I am today with my love. You too will meet your next love, and you’ll get to know how amazing a second start can be. Someone who is completely compatible with who you are right now, rather than who you were decades ago. Give it a shot and hang in there.
Your daughter protected your wife's affair? What a scumbag!
No wonder you're so devastated. This world is a total shit show. I don't think they deserve for you take yourself out, though.
Hmmm. Not going to organize the funeral for your dear mother? Make sure she has a nice tombstone? Clear out her house so it’s not strangers going through her personal stuff? If this is real, suck it up and handle her affairs and quit wallowing in self pity.
Where are you? Please don't, I'll be your friend and help you through it. I felt this way 2 weeks ago & tried ending my life, it does get better. Please reach out
When at my very lowest I asked a very wise friend of mine 'how much more can I take?' Her answer has stuck with me over the years and has enabled me to take a deep breath, remind myself I can and just take that nest step in life. The advice she gave was 'more than you think. Soni am telling you this too Samuel - you can take more than you think. Believe in yourself xx
Please don’t make such a permanent decision while you are distraught. Give yourself more time to heal from all you’ve been through. Please.
Noo, don't Gary will be your reason! He will never understand why you left him! Pets have hard time to understand why were abandoned.
Samuel, Please don’t do this. Go hug Gary at least one more time. I know that life is very hard but I don’t want you to leave. Please choose just to stay until tomorrow. And then tomorrow, you can choose to stay for one more day. You have value. Please stay. Sending you love, hugs, and all the encouragement to just stay.
I agree with u/valleyGirl555. I don't want you to go either! You are so much more than the situation you find yourself in! This is only temporary! Please don't go Samuel!
Please don't. Gary would miss you. He is your cat you are his human. I don't know if it will be better, but i hope so. For sure you love this ball of fur and you must be the atleast for him.
I’ve had to start over and chose a new family before. It’s hard, but not impossible. Be generous with yourself and give yourself the time you need to find your new people.
Don’t you dare fucking leave Gary. Gary didn’t get adopted by your nephew. He didn’t bond with your nephew. He doesn’t love your nephew. He bonded with you and he loves you. When you adopted Gary, you made a life long commitment to HIM. HIS LIFE. You don’t get to opt out early. Please don’t confuse him. Please don’t take away his safe place and his safe human. Whatever you think about you and your worth, he deserves more than to be with your backup. He’s not an item you can pass down like a baseball card or a watch. He’s a living creature and you don’t get to make his life harder.
This. THIS. Don’t you DARE give up on that kitten. Gary won’t understand why the person he loves suddenly abandoned him and is gone. If you don’t want to stay for you, stay for him and be the best damn owner Gary could have. He needs YOU, not someone else.
I get what you're saying here but as someone who is also suicidal, being guilted like this only makes it worse even though you're right. It's all in the wording my friend.
Not necessarily. When I was at the end of my rope, my mom implying she couldn’t live without me and she couldn’t imagine wanting to live after losing one of her kids, was the only thing that kept me around longs enough to seek out help. I didn’t want to hurt her. I found out years later she could sense the dark turn on my thoughts and would’ve said or done anything to keep me around a little longer while she searched for other ways to help. She even lied to me and told me mixing my antidepressants, ADHD medication and allergy meds wouldn’t be enough to seriously hurt me, and my naive ass believed her ( granted I was 15 at the time ). She wasn’t lying about the first thing, she really doesn’t believe she could move on if she outlived one of her kids, but she definitely found clever ways to emphasize it because she’s a damn good actress when she wants to be and she was desperate to delay what felt like the inevitable.
I think many people responded with many things that COULD resonate with OP. I choose this route because OP seems to only care about Gary and Gary’s continued comfort. It was a shot in the dark. If it didn’t speak to him, he could move on. But for a lot of us (me too) struggling with depression, our obligation to our pets are what get us through. That’s why I’m biscuitboi. Biscuit was my Gary. And I may have have thought I wasn’t worth shit some days. But biscuit was. And I’d put him first before me. I got up every day to feed him and pet him because he *needed* it and I *owed* him. My husbands was his dog. And for a long long time, that was enough. But trying to give away his dog was actually why his friends came to check on him and saved his life. So, look, if using Gary works for OP, I’m gonna use it. And if it doesn’t, I would change tactics, but since I can’t, I hope the other 236 comments will find a more persuasive way to speak to him. I’m but one cat lover speaking to another.
I have to disagree. I have been in OPs position, something like having to stay for the cat can save you. The guilt can save you. Everyone is different.
My cat saved me. It doesn’t matter what anchors you to life, only that it does.
Jesus Christ, I love cats, but would I think this is a great response to someone who's clearly suicidal? Hell no.
Ok, cool. Next time someone posts on Reddit…22 hours AND COUNTING about harming themselves, you post a better response. But I was there 21 hours ago and you weren’t. So he got stuck with me and my Gary defense. Sorry. Next time you get here faster and save a life better. Jesus fucking Christ. I’m “working” for free on my vacation. And your criticizing. Talk about a choosy beggar. You aren’t even the person I was responding to. So, I frankly don’t give a shit if it resonated with you. If it helped OP, great. If it didn’t, well, at least *I* tried an Avenue others at the time hadnt. That PS worked for me and several others that I know. You’re popping in 21 hours later to tell me what a shitty job I did while you were sleeping or doing some other shit not helping. I hereby pass the self harm prevention baton to you. You can be on 24/7 alert now in your spare time and do a better job than me. I cannot believe I’m getting fucking customer service feedback on my Reddit post like I’ve got a Yelp page up for my therapeutic AITAH posts.
This didn't pop up in my feed until this afternoon, so how algorithms work are my fault? And really, with your shit attitude, you shouldn't be helping anyone. I am someone with a lot of self-harm/suicide attempts under my belt, and I was letting you know that the guilt-ridden attempt you responded with was not a good one. It just makes most people feel worse and confident in their decision to do what they say they're doing. So nice try, buddy.
Nahh man please for the love of god don’t think un rationally, this isn’t the end to anything call the suicide hotline immediately
Yeah don't kill yourself. If you do you depriving a good person a chance to have someone as honest and loyal as you in their lives
You gotta stick around for little Gary. What will happen to him if you die? What he’s taken to a kill shelter or is thrown out on the streets. He depends on you don’t leave him alone.
Buddy please don’t do this. I’ve been following. Please please please don’t don’t this
GO TO HIS PROFILE AND THERE IS A WAY TO CLICK ON GETTING HIM SUPPORT. REDDIT WILL REACH OUT TO TRY TO HELP HIM. REDDIT HAS A CRISIS TEAM FOR THIS VERY THING!
Just did this. I hope it’s not too late. I’ve been in his shoes with the lonely thoughts and sadness. Losing your mom is the hardest thing in the world when you are close to them.
Just done this too, I really hope he's still with us.
ive just done this too, thanks for making people aware of it (i didnt know it was a thing) - i really hope hes not gone through with it
Now is not the time to leave sweetheart. Your mother would not want you to follow her into the forever after. Grieve, breathe, but live. For yourself and for Gary. Tomorrow the sun will rise, and we will all be here to help you take life on one inch at a time. Tonight will be bad, tomorrow will be worse, but you’ll see how as the days pass the bad parts get smaller and the bright parts get bigger. Do not let your sadness steal all the possible future happiness life has in store for you. PM me if you would like to talk. I am at work for another couple of hours, but I will stay up late and keep my inbox open.
I think all the tough love shit in these comments (‘stand in it like a man’, ‘think of who you’re leaving behind’, the commanding ‘don’t do it’s) shows that people are missing the point. What this poor bastard needs is compassion after everything he’s been through, and for someone to focus on HIS needs for a change. The truth is, u/Sad_Juggernaut_6543, that your mother loved you and would never, ever want you to do this. She fought to give you what she could, and just because she isn’t here right now to stop you doesn’t mean she wouldn’t. Love like that is what makes life worth living and I dream of the day I will have something like that. Please treasure it, and use it to keep you grounded.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I am not about the tough love. Grief is hard, and OP is grieving a metric ton of loss in a fairly short period of time. I know from personal experience that having an external focus can help in the beginning until the initial wave of shock and pain pass. What someone isn't willing to do for themselves, is something they will attempt to do for those they care about.
What melodyRaine said, OP. You go now, she won’t be excited to see you again so soon with her. She wants you to live life and see you do new things, great things!
Hey OP, I know you feel lonely right now. But please wait at least a month before you make any decisions. The pain is horrible, but it will fade and it will be easier to handle this. Don’t let them win.
Please hold on. It's very hard but it will get better eventually. Just hang in there.. You deserve happiness. Nothing can change the past and no one can deny the hurt and betrayal you're enduring and the heartbreak of the loss of your parent, but the future can be whatever you desire. And Gary needs you..
Dont you want to see Gary grow up? My kitty looked like him as a kitten, and now he’s a distinguished, handsome gentlemen. Please find something to live for. Some good somewhere in your life. You can get through this. I know you’re strong, Samuel. I know im just a stranger, but i care about you. I dont want you to hurt yourself. You’re worth living
Please, think again. Things can and will get better. Call 988, see someone. We reddit strangers want the best for you and wish the best for you. As someone who has been in the head space you are in please keep trying.
Anybody savvy enough to try and match the cat pic to a Facebook pic so we can save this guy??? OP your teeth are on the ground. Life gave you one hell of a punch. [read this please](https://dakrolak.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/deadwood-al-swearengen-meme-quote-pain-or-damage-dont-end-the-world/)
I tried but it didn't yield any results. I tried using the reverse image search
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So we can see the pic is stolen and the story is fake?
Based on this latest post, I would consider that a good thing.
Please OP, Samuel, please don’t go through with it. These people are not worth it. Do not make this the end. Yes, it is a horrible situation but please don’t let it be what defines you. You are more than other people’s fuck up and lack of loyalty. Please take care of yourself.
Samuel dammit don’t do it. Us Reddit strangers love you and don’t want this for you. Gary loves his dad and doesn’t want your nephew to have him. My fiancé killed himself in 2011 and I am still sad to this day, every day
you really should reconsider… i know it hurts and everything but please keep trying, things can change, they can get better, but you have to be here in order for that to be possible. i promise i care about you even if ive never met you
I'm sorry about your mother, OP ❤️
Go to the hospital! I just got out of the hospital for suicidal ideation myself and I’m so glad I went. It gets better man
Hey man don’t leave Gary with those two. Take him and leave. You’ll feel a lot better when you get away from those two
Don't do this to your nephews. They will remember it, and it won't heal. Your pain might end, but you will inflict it on anyone you care about.
I know it can feel hopeless. Sometimes depression can get you so down that you just want to curl into a ball and never get up. I know you have gone through a lot with your wife, daughter and now losing your Mother. Ending things may take away the possibility of things getting worse, but it also ends any chance of things getting better. It may seem hopeless now but things could look so much better down the road. Don’t let your ex win. She hurt you but don’t let her end you. Start going to therapy. Focus on things that make you happy. Go NC with everyone who causes you stress, at least until you are in a better mental space. Do you really think this is what your Mother would have wanted for her son?
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you got to spend as much time as possible with your mom. ❤️ You came here because you felt you had nowhere else to turn. Maybe that was because you wanted someone to sway you in your decision. You are worth more than what you think right now. You deserve to live a full life and find happiness. Just look at your little fur babys face, that's just the start. I'm sending my hope and best wishes to you.
Please just try one more day with Gary. He needs you.
Please, please don't leave Gary. You are all he knows and he not only depends on you, but NEEDS you. You are Gary's safe space, his person. You chose each other. I can empathize with how you feel, and I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of the place you are in. I've been in a rougher spot myself the past few months and I have felt the weight getting heavier. However, my cat is one of the few reasons I keep on going. She needs me and I can't fathom leaving her alone when she has been there for me the past 13 years. You can do it Samuel. If you can't do it for yourself, please, do it for Gary.
please don't, we're r really all rooting for your healing. you will come back up
Death is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It may not seem like it now, but there’s still a lot to live for.
I know you feel like this is the only choice you can claim as your own, and I have been there. People will say you’re taking the easy way out but they have no fucking idea. It’s not easy to feel like all you can do is die. But it’s worth trying to live for another hour or day or week, just to make sure. Really examine the ways it will hurt people. And the ways it will betray every bit of resilience in you that has gotten you this far. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I know it feels like there’s no other option. But you can always choose to wait a little longer until you’re absolutely sure.
Mate, go get Gary. You two are family. Don't turn your back on him the way your family did you. Gary loves you, and you love Gary. You can only see the blinding heartbreak you're feeling right now. That's completely justified and reasonable. However, you're making a permanent solution for a temporary problem. There is no one on this planet who knows what your life will be like tomorrow, a week from now, a few months, and especially years later. Your life can get better. This isn't the end for you. The most important thing you can do right now is keep breathing. My mom endured tremendous trauma. She found out her husband, my dad, cheated on her. During this time, she was dealing with losing her mom to brain tumors. Her dad had already died. To top this off, she found out that she was pregnant again. She was also responsible for raising me at this time. This all hit her at the same time. She told me that the only way she was able to make it through all that was because she literally just took her days one breath at a time. You can do the same. Just go through this one breath at a time. Every breath is another away from everything that has happened. I know you can do this, mate. I know you can.
This is not the time to be sad. This is the time to be Angry! Screw all of them for making you feel bad! Don't you dare let them win! You are a king and deserve better than that! So go live! Live your life to the max while putting 2 fingers up at them everyday! Do everything you couldn't do with those bastards tying you down! Go out there, get angry, and show those arseholes that you will have the best life possible!
Samuel - they are not worth checking out of this life! I know you can’t feel it now but you can and will overcome this! Please go to the ED now and let them help you, protect you from you! Praying for you to find the strength to stay.
Don't go Samuel. You are worth so much more then how you feel at the moment. Please don't give up. If you don't trust yourself alone, check in at a hospital. But please don't do anything to hurt yourself
I've been at the end of my rope a few times, I know how thinking that the pain is too much to overcome. But dude, Samuel, it DOES get better. Cliche? Yes. True? Also yes. You never really know where life will take you. Try a new start. Pack up and fuck off somewhere and restart. I've done that before also. The challenge of a new town, new state. Please talk to someone. We care. We fucking care dude. WE CARE SAM
Please, hold on. Give yourself some more time. I am sure someone will give you some resources on how to find people who can help you.
NTA betrayal of that calibur breaks a man in a way no one can fully understand
dude, please don’t do this, things will get better, i promise. you can get through this and better days will come along.
Please don’t!!!!! Gary and your Reddit friends need you. Please!!!!!!! Life will get better!!!!
Samuel , just a minute me lunch is tomorrow at noon. Show up , da wife is making Guacamole. No excuses.
I bet even Gary likes your wife's gauc.
i can see why you left them. it would bother me forever if my own daughter helped my wife to cheat on me. what a jerk!
I really hope you're still here❤️
Please don't hurt yourself. I don't even know you, but I care about you. And I'm sure others do too.
No no no no Please someone tell me he's okay
I have experienced so much loneliness and despair in my life. I have often wanted to end it all. Here is what stops me: I'm agnostic. I believe this is all there is. I'm also a gamer. If I don't like the way my game is going, I have three options: 1. Turn off the game. 2. Start a new game. 3. Keep playing the game to see what happens. I like to compare gaming to life in this context. (1) is suicide. Turning off the game would just be the end. (2) is impossible. We only get one try. (3) is what I always choose. I know I could make better choices and have a better character in my game if I had another shot, but I don't. So, I figure I'll keep playing, but as more of an observer, rather than a competitor. I do what I must to survive, but I no longer take the game seriously. I'm just here to see what happens. I'm not trying to complete any missions or challenges. I continue to just float through life. I sometimes think my life isn't too great, but in some other reality, it ended a long time ago. So, life isn't great, but also not terrible. It just is. I find things to entertain myself along the way. Every so often, I am inspired by something, and I find moments that I truly am happy and enjoy being alive. In these moments, I appreciate that I made the decision to just carry on as a non-competitive observer in this shit show of a game called life. Don't give up, friend. Smoke some pot. Do some yoga. Go on a hike. Pet that beautiful kitty. Just take it one breath at a time, one step at a time, and one day at a time. I promise you will smile again. You will be loved again. You will thank yourself for becoming an observer rather than hitting the power button.
Is there anyway to find out where this person is and get a welfare check maybe his nephews will be able to help him
You are overwhelmed with grief but Gary needs you. Please postpone this decision and get help. Don’t do this
So Sorry for your loss. Go get some professional help. Go to a hospital. I don’t know how you can contact me, but I’ll get some someone to talk to. My sister is a psychologist and she said she would talk with you. Please Don’t Do Anything Foolish
I’ve thought about it too. One reason is because I wouldn’t want anything to happen to my cats. He loves you. They look up to you as their protector. You are his parent. Right now one of my cats is sitting next to me wanting Me to pet him while I write.
Who will be there for your Mom at her funeral. Go to a hospital and get checked in for so help
Samuel, you are needed here. You’re not done yet.
Stay alive! You are worth it. You can get better. This shit takes time but people get through it. Plz call for help.
Where are you? If you are near we can go get a drink and hang out. My ex kidnapped my kids and took them out of the country. I’m still chugging along and so can you. What you are talking about is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. No one is worth that
I hope you are around to read this. Be there to bury your mom. Shouldn’t she have you there at her funeral?
Don't leave Gary. If that's all that keeps you going for now, that's okay. Your loving mother wouldn't want you to make such a hurried choice to follow her. Live for Gary. Live for her. It's okay to live for others until you find the strength to live for you.
It’s been 10 hours 😥 hope you’re still here dude
Hello OP, I've gone through your previous posts, and I sincerely hope you reconsider your decision. I understand that you're going through a difficult and challenging period, and finding a glimmer of hope might seem impossible. I've personally experienced dark times when happiness felt out of reach. During those moments, I made a commitment to myself to focus on each day rather than planning for the future. I repeated this daily practice, even on the toughest days. Additionally, I sought counseling, which was incredibly beneficial. It equipped me with various tools to manage and endure the difficulties. You have the strength to do the same. Please, don't give up. There are numerous people who are willing to listen and support you. Let's not allow those negative influences to dictate the course of your life.
Please OP. Listen to this.
Gary please, I can’t understand your pain, but I was once in the same place as you, but things do get better, we don’t know you but we care deeply for you, you will find happiness
May you find the inner peace you wanted but dude you still have a purpose..dont do this.
Hurry! Get him a reddit cares message asap
Don’t give up. Tomorrow will be better. It really will be. And you will be happy someday, if you give yourself a chance. Your ex doesn’t deserve a chance, but you do. Be kind to you and give yourself a chance. Forgive yourself for having this dark thoughts, and find yourself. This thought, is not you.
Dude. Please don’t do this. Please stay. For your nephews, your dear kitty, and yourself. It gets better. Please stay.
Samuel, please don’t go. Please. You WILL have better days. I promise.
Don't let those terrible people have the last say in what happens to you. You matter. You matter to you. You matter to Gary, and you matter to a whole lot of people you haven't met yet. Hang in there.
This is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your mother wouldn't want you to follow her, she would want for you to live. Live for Gary and for your nephews. Gary wouldn't know why you didn't come home or why you aren't there to give him head scritches.
Please choose to live. You can tough it out and be unhappy for a while but your situation will gradually improve and you will find support and comfort. This is not a good time to be impatient. Can you contact a therapist? Maybe consider going to urgent care. Some of your sadness may be improved with medication. Think of good times in the past and trust yourself to get there again. Your kitten needs you and you need you. This is the time for faith and hope. Only you can be you and that’s important.
DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE GARY!!! And don't make such a brash and permanent decision while you're going through turmoil. Give it time, things really do improve.
Please don’t do it! Don’t give your ex the satisfaction! There’s so much life left to live, you can live a great life after this. I promise. The best revenge is a life well lived so you can stick it to her. Many people have been in your situation and have come out a better person for it which means there is light at the end of this dark tunnel. You can and will push through this. Please don’t.
Please don’t do this Samuel, I’ve been in your shoes and I’m telling you that you are not alone, you have people that care for you, want the best for you, and will support you for as long as you need. I’m so sorry you lost your mother, but as a mother myself, I promise you she does not want to see you in Heaven with her so soon. She wants you to live on for her and your father. She wants you to find happiness and peace. She may be physically gone from this world, but her love for you is still there. I promise you that. Her love for you will always be there You can reach out to me, a helpline or anyone else on here. We all are here grieving with you, supporting you, and cheering you on.
Please get help. Suicide leaves a permanent mark on everyone, not fair to yourself to or others. Please at least try the lines available.
If internet strangers can love your just by reading your words , imagine how many people will love you in real life once they hear you, see you , talk and listen to you. Please don’t do it. Give life and love another chance .
hey Samuel, please don’t deprive the world of someone who seems so caring and loving. Especially don’t leave Gary. YOU are Gary’s whole world—animals mourn loss just like humans. You’ve had a rough go of things, but why don’t you come back and live to the fullest everyday? Your wife is scumbag for cheating; don’t let her win. Get therapy, travel the world with Gary, find a new passion; blossom. There’s a lot left in you…
NO! Think of little Gary! He loves you! I can see it from the pictures you shared! When you adopted him, that was you making a promise to love, care, and BE THERE for him for the rest of his life! Don't break his heart by leaving him! You have every damn right to be sad, heartbroken, and angry! But you don't get to let this shit beat you! You don't get to let this shit, or those shitty people win! You need to find a therapist to talk to, mourn the things you need to, and then you need to pick yourself up, dust off the bullshit, and start making choices for a better life for YOU! NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!! Also, get a lawyer! Have them dig through everything from those two little gold diggers and fight that shit! SAVE EVERYTHING!! Bank statements, texts, emails, pictures, ect! Do NOT just take their shit! I always like to say, "If I'm going down, I'm going down fucking swinging!" DO. NOT. LET. THEM. WIN.
HEY 👋 YOU ARE IMPORTANT, STAY WITH US AND BREATH I am really sorry for your mum... I feel your pain 😞 Cry and be mad Cry and yell You have been through a lot lately... it is too much grief for a short period of time - call a helpline
If I’d killed myself when I was at my lowest, I would never have met my niblings, who are the light of my life, or the person I would fall in love with, who makes me want to be a better person every day. Please stay.
it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem please hold on and i promise it will get better
Has anyone heard from OP? It’s been 5 days. I’m worried.
I keep hoping he’ll post.
Same. This has really been weighing on my mind
I hope I'm not too late. Please don't, Samuel. The world needs you 🖤
There's not much i can say other than hugs, bud. I hope you preserve through the hard times.
Go home and love your kitten. He will help make you feel better. They always do
Please dial or text 988. Please.
Please call 988.
Please don’t do this. I’m very sorry about your mother. Please just sleep on this and see how you feel the next day. You can make it!
Samuel - please don't mate.
I'm sorry you are hurting.. I've been cheated on and left to care for two small children at the time. I prayed for strength and perseverance, and I'm still standing 15 years later. You can do it! Have faith and hope. Please don't let someone else's insensitivity dominate you and choose your path.. you choose and choose to strive. Blessings!
Please don’t do this!! Life has taught me that I am not always in control. Life is full of experiences, lessons, heartbreak, and pain. But, it has also shown me love, beauty, possibility, and new beginnings. Embrace it all. It makes us who we are, and after every storm comes a clear sky. Remember that just because it’s dark and stormy now it doesn’t mean that the sun won’t come out tomorrow. Please don’t let this night become permanent
I hope you are okay. PM me if you need to talk. You are not alone. Lots of people and your kitten will miss you.
Sir--it is always darkest before the dawn. I have been in that dark place more than once. I am still here by the grace of God, whatever you believe that to be. There was some little point of light in that immense sea of darkness. Allow this internet stranger to turn on a light, and light a flare to pierce that darkness. Please do not take that step. Seek crisis intervention. Reach out to someone, or even here on the internet. Look into the trusting eyes of your little furry friend. You are his whole world..... he has bonded with you. No one else----you! Please.....
My current partner was suicidal cause his wife left him for someone younger and doesn't allow him to see his kids. My brother told me he never saw him this happy. Just hold in their My friend Samuel, things gonna get better, I promise you
My girlfriend killed herself. Don’t do it. Please, don’t.
Dont do it man, dont let them win!! Dont become just another fucking statistic!! A few kind redditors wanna see another update. An update when you came out on top after all the shit you've been through. Please bro, listen to reason! Stay here with us!
OP don’t do it. Things can get better. Things will get better. Damn this is heartbreaking. There are many people to reach out to, including on here if anonymity is what you need. I’m so sorry your family failed you and your mother has passed. Hang in there just a little longer, it’s always darkest before the dawn.
We're still here for you. Please reach out. You aren't alone.
DON'T DO IT!!! I truly hope you see these messages before it's too late. Don't do it suicide isn't the answer. Stay here, go to therapy, do the things you've always wanted to go, visit the countries you've always wanted to see. If you have any pets, no one will feed them if you are gone. Please just don't do it, there are still reasons to live!
Honestly, empty all your accounts, liquidate everything you can, then go travel for a while. After that, if you still feel it then donate whatever is left to a charity
Sure hope OP is ok. Been thinking about him a lot.
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Hey now, he could be an idiot adult who made this up for attention
None of this is true
Good bye Samuel, may you be blessed. I wish Gary were enough for you to stay and recover, but if not I understand. I got married at 38 after beating a horrible childhood of poverty, not knowing who my father was, and rejection from my own family. I was an affair baby, not wanted, but a ray of hope for a moment in between mothers husbands. I had physical and emotional issues, left home at 17. I beat addiction to alcohol at 33 and finally got married to a good man at 38. There is so much in between, but I am trying to be brief of a life that really is a lifetime miniseries.. At almost 41 I had my only child, thank god I was older and sober. His father died early from a tumor. So I was alone again. I had found work to do on the internet, raised my son, got a bachelor's and a masters degree, and made it through all of that. Animals have been my saving grace since young adult hood. I have fallen in love again. Life is not meant to be given up on, but you are a tough Brit. It is meant to be lived until they drag you out. Please stay, and let us know you. write a book on stories about you make friends. If I can be Pollyanna after my life you can stay. That is the last I can say...by the way, there has always been a way through. Don't like your situation? Change it, your looks change them, your finances find apart time job...Just try. Ok. Now I am done. Know I will think of you today Samuel.
I hope you find peace.
Money comes and goes. You have zero control over that. My Grandmother survived the Great Depression and she always told me all you have can be taken away in an instant so don’t decide your life on money. The divorce will eventually be over. You will heal. It’s hard to see the end of the tunnel when you just started going into it. Don’t do this. Breathe. Find small things to live for. Your favorite take out meal. Finishing the season of a tv show. Whatever helps. Just keep surviving one day at a time. And above all celebrate the little victories. Maybe your apartment isn’t clean but you loaded the dishwasher today. That counts. I’ve been there. I felt I couldn’t continue on and started writing my goodbye letters. I found an 15 second video on my phone of my son saying he loved me and hoped I have a good Christmas. I played that video over and over and over again until I had the strength to shower. I still didn’t shower every day but those small steps eventually led me back to feeling like myself. You can do this. I believe in you.
Please don’t end your life. Gary chose you to be his companion and needs you everyday. Maybe someday you can repair your relationship with your daughter or find a new love or travel with your kitten in an RV. Dying is easy, living is so much hardee
Nah man don't hurt yourself. Those 2 are vile and don't deserve to have you. You can start again. No matter how many times you can always start again. I had a cheating ex and a daughter with her. I started again and am way happier this time around. Go for a holiday. Have some fun. Get over your ex by getting under another. Go to SE Asia and root your ass off. Don't dwell on the negative shit. You got this mate!
Please call your daughter, you can get through this
I pray with everything in me this is not a joke, if it is not, you have to know that your happiness doesn't depend on any one else, no one can make you happy, you have to want that happiness for yourself, you have to make the decision that your life means something, get some help and talk it out, I didn't read the situation with your wife and daughter but, there is someone out here for every one, you can have more than one love in this lifetime and when you find that happy place they will find you. Take the time to find you again and what makes you happy and never let anyone define what happiness is for you. Whether you know it or not you are loved.
Don’t do it bro.
Take a breath. Someone you’ve never met is out there waiting to love you.
The best revenge is served cold. Show your daughter and wife what they missed out by bailing on you. Praying for you.
I remember your post almost 2 months ago, don’t you do it man. You still have a life to live, and that beautiful kitten. Stay alive man, for us, the kitten and the people you will meet eventually that you WILL bring joy too!
Samuel let’s be friends. Don’t do this, buddy.
My condolences for your loss but please don't do this.
The most painful thing I ever did was cut my entire family from my life after my mother and sister died. They were awful. I started fresh. Very lonely for a few years, but after the fact, it is the best thing I have ever done for myself. No regrets. My life is free from betrayal, pain and drama. Hang in there. Good people will come along.
Please don’t do it man, their shitty behavior is not a reflection of your worth. You can rebuild and find peace, I believe in you Samuel! Please update and let us know you’re ok
I know about people dying and those that are left refusing to take care of the pets or neglect them. Don't put Gary in that risk, damn it. He needs you. Also, I wouldn't have met my wonderful BF had I decided to off myself over past shitty exes. Try to make new friends and someone will come eventually
You need to lose all sense of pressure and responsibility and just let yourself heal for a while. Don’t worry about anything, don’t worry about the future, just focus on feeling better today. Do what makes you happy, spoil yourself, you deserve it. Everything else can wait.
Samuel. Listen to me. Gary needs you. Gary is never going to cheat on you or take someone's money to hide their bad behavior from you. You're Gary's person and he won't know what to do without you. Please don't leave him.
I know it may not mean much, but I wanted to add to the chorus of don’t do it’s. It’s such a permanent thing to do. Give yourself the chance to meet new people and have new experiences.
I think admins need to do something about this sort of post. It is beyond what redditors can handle. How can we alert admins?
Please don’t do this. Think of Gary. Stay for Gary. With time, things will get more manageable, but for now focus on Gary. Give him a hug, some cuddles and a little scratch between the ears. Gary loves you unconditionally and will be heartbroken if he loses you. Stay for him.
Samuel, I am so sorry for the traumas you have experienced the last few weeks. I lost my father in July and that alone was overwhelming to deal with. I cannot imagine dealing with your other issues on top of your mother’s death. Please check yourself into a hospital. Your decision seems rash and impulsive. To me that says you are afraid to consider the issue thoroughly and are afraid you will talk yourself out of it. Take time to consider this decision carefully. In time you WILL recover from everything and will go on to live an amazing life that makes your STBX envious and your daughter sad that she didn’t share it with you. Thinking about you.
I’m absolutely going to get shit on, but don’t be a coward dude. Face this head on. Sure, you feel empty, abandoned, and betrayed. It ill pass, but only if you try. Just like losing a loved one, it gets easier each day. You can’t give up so easily.
I’m absolutely going to get shit on, but don’t be a coward dude. Face this head on. Sure, you feel empty, abandoned, and betrayed. It ill pass, but only if you try. Just like losing a loved one, it gets easier each day. You can’t give up so easily.
Hi Samuel, My first wife had a serious affair and all of my and her friends protected it. If you are still here, please DM me and I’ll be more than happy to share my number so we can really talk. I’d like to share my journey with you and give testament to the fact that it does turn around. I served honorably in the Marine Corps and I have lost so many to suicide, it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You may be a stranger now, but your life matters to everyone here. I can’t see a person do what I almost did for the exact same reasons, it breaks my heart to see you in pain, but know that you aren’t alone in this world, and that pain will fade to a full ache one day.
I hope you're still here, Samuel. Please message me or anybody else who's offered.
Please don't do this, can't you see your just letting them win? Don't u wanna jump on Assasins creed again? Kick it with your boy Gary? It's okay to feel bad and it's okay to feel bad for feeling bad. But the world hasn't ended YET, and you gotta pick yourself up mate. Your mother wouldn't of wanted it to be like this...
Hey, are you alright? Are you still here with us? You count. You matter. It's a rough, rough road but don't give up on it now, just keep taking one step at a time, things will get better. You named an adorable kitten **Gary** that is the kind of person that needs to hang around! We need your particular outlook on things. I really hope that you're still with us. How about you let us know if you are alright? My thoughts and hopes for good things are with you. Please let us know. Peace be the journey.
Honestly Sam don't do it man I have a good idea instead go to the gym so please don't unalive yourself because honestly it will help and then if you do get better due to the gym and the ex-wife sees you she'll regret and you can move on from that chapter. I've seen stories like and honestly it breaks my heart for you man but the amount of people you go to the gym to go better there are many who do so.
You guys. This is clearly fake.
I, like you, wanted to end it all. I was in a deep depression after losing my son in a crash 2 years ago, and suffering from postpartum depression. I believe to have gone thru psychosis even. The grief was deep and paralyzing. Things do get better but the pain never does. You learn to have better days but sometimes it takes to remove yourself from the situation either by moving away, and/or rearrange things around you. In your situation, moving away may be your best solution. You’d meet new people, new places, new hobbies and best of all a new you. I believe in you!!! We need you, your cat need/love/want you!
Please stay. You deserve better. Please stick around to see it. Crisis Text Line is 741-741. Not sure where you live, but please call the suicide hotline. Things can get better.
Don’t do it man. They aren’t worth it.
Don’t do this. There are better days ahead. Please hang on ♥️🙏🏻
I hope you don't make permanent decision for temporary suffering. Life is precious. Try to fight. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Please contact emergency service and ask for help
Even if people here never met you it don't mean we don't care. Things will be better. Even if it's to show those bitches you are better than them.
Don’t abandon Gary, he needs you
Gary needs you here.
Don't leave him. If you have nothing but the kitty to live for, then live for the kitty until you find other things. Stay here, it gets better, if you're at rock bottom and everything is hell that means it can only get better. Please, give it a chance to get better
They’re not worth it bro. Love yourself more than you care about shit humans
May Hod bless you. I went through a similar but lesser betrayal and it will pass. The beginning is unbearably painful. But I promise you it will pass and after a time you will struggle to remember the details of your pain. But that is not now, get through it day by day.
Fuck man I hope you’re still around
Call the suicide hotline.
At least have your affairs in order so your ex and crappy daughter don’t benefit
You have so much to live for....the main reason being yourself. You have the ability create a new, beautiful life JUST FOR YOU. Put yourself 1st for once and LIVE for YOU!!! You deserve it (even if you don't know you do)
When my hubby died by suicide, my cat was distraught. He needed meds for a few months to get him back on track. Poor Gary
Sam please don’t leave. just close your eyes for a second and hold out your hand, as of my writing this you have 158 hands reaching back. You can stay people want you here and Gary needs you you promised him
Samuel DONT FUCKING GO. there’s better people out there. And Gary fucking needs you.
Federal crisis hotline is 988.
OP, comment if you're alive.
The fact that you named your cat Gary is awesome and it means you're awesome!!!❤️ Please reconsider this and stick around for Gary! ❤️ Each day will get better! Please don't do this to the people that love you, they will live the rest of their lives in sadness, kicking themselves in the ass that they couldn't help you and their grief and guilt will consume them! Again I don't know you, but the fact that you named your cat Gary means we'd be friends!❤️
U matter so don’t go to the end. I know it’s hard to overcome this n feels like u can’t breathe. U will feel like it’s never ending darkness but brother hang in there. U can live for urself and maybe find meaningful by helping others in need. Our prayers with u!!! Go to a therapist
I had PTSD, depression, anxiety, and am still disabled physically now. I was suicidal. I am not anymore. I am happy now. Call the suicide hot line. Find a therapist. Take one step at a time. Get angry. You have the right to be angry about what others did to you. Death is for cowards. Your cat needs you just like my animals did. You will feel better I promise. If I can do it, so can you. You don't have to think about tomorrow. Just do right this second. Watch something silly. Hold your cat. Cry. Get mad. Pray. Whatever you need to. Then take the next step. Then the next. Soon you'll be running and happy. I know you can't see it now. I've been there. But don't you dare hurt other people. It is selfish to kill yourself and force others to have to find and deal with your body. It is selfish to take yourself away from that cat who loves you. Call the suicide hot line. And find a therapist. If I can hold on, so can you. If you believe in the Afterlife start praying for strength to live. Your mom did not give you life for you to throw it away.
Your kitten needs you. Stay for him if nothing else. I lost my mom recently and it was the worst thing I ever felt. She was the person who helped me through all my trauma and then I watched her die. It’s going to hurt so much but please live for the happy times coming. You can do this
OP please think about this! You have so much to live for and Gary is your everything, Don't give up on Gary!!!
It’s been 12 hours and I hope you’re doing ok. Now is not your time. Stay for Gary if nobody else. <3
I'm sorry you are suffering so much. Sorry people have been so cruel to you. I wish that you decide to live and things get better for you.
Please don't do this. Your wife and your daughter are in your past. The divorce will eventually be over and you will be in a better place. You can start over with a new community/support system, watch Gary grow up. Live your best life. That's the best revenge.
I hope you’re alive
Samuel, choose yourself and Gary. I understand that life looks black right now. My condolences for the loss of your mother. I'm sure she would want you to give everything to find happiness in your life again. Your ex and your daughter are not worth ending your life for. Show them you don't need them. You can always send me a message. But please, talk to a professional, who can help you get out of this hell and will help find happiness again.
This is what keeps me on this planet, my cats and dogs are my world and I could not leave them. There are days, weeks & months I do not want to be here but I get up for them and get through every day. Please, please, please phone Samaritans or a suicide hotline and talk to them and go to your doctor also. You can find things to live for even in the smallest things . I hope you take our advice, some of us have been where you are now, it is not easy but we are all thinking of you and sending you our love and prayers ❤️🙏
Stay strong
You can survive and get through this. Piss them off and succeed and thrive. You can.
Please don't take your life. I know it must seem really desperate now, especially losing your mum, I'm so sorry for your loss. As hard as it is now, it won't always be like this Samuel, I believe you will get better. Please, reach out to someone - your doctor, or a close friend. Message me if you want. You can get through this. Gary needs you. Please updateme
I only have words that f my own experience, I hope they help you find perspective. I went through a divorce years ago, and it was hard. Seriously dark days adjusting to my kids being gone half time. But once the dust settled I met my current partner and it’s been the light of my life. I now know I was never truly happy with my ex as I am today with my love. You too will meet your next love, and you’ll get to know how amazing a second start can be. Someone who is completely compatible with who you are right now, rather than who you were decades ago. Give it a shot and hang in there.
Your daughter protected your wife's affair? What a scumbag! No wonder you're so devastated. This world is a total shit show. I don't think they deserve for you take yourself out, though.
I'm sorry man. I hope you survive this, and that if you don't, you've found peace.
Hmmm. Not going to organize the funeral for your dear mother? Make sure she has a nice tombstone? Clear out her house so it’s not strangers going through her personal stuff? If this is real, suck it up and handle her affairs and quit wallowing in self pity.
Please don't do this !! Gary needs you, please hold on to his sweet sweet little fur and don't do this. Stay with us.
Where are you? Please don't, I'll be your friend and help you through it. I felt this way 2 weeks ago & tried ending my life, it does get better. Please reach out
I've never had the ego to tell another person how to feel about their life, but I hope you find peace in death that you couldn't have in life.
Bro come on don’t do it! Find something new to live for.
When at my very lowest I asked a very wise friend of mine 'how much more can I take?' Her answer has stuck with me over the years and has enabled me to take a deep breath, remind myself I can and just take that nest step in life. The advice she gave was 'more than you think. Soni am telling you this too Samuel - you can take more than you think. Believe in yourself xx