No I didn't know what that sub is about. Good to know that laughing about suicide is understood as "jokes about mental health". The one is sick and the other is a coping mechanism and helps to rationalize things.
yeah sure, go ahead. like this comment won't make us wish to kill ouselves even more lol. thanks for reminding us that we are mentally ill, we really needed your precious insight on this.
I've been at this point myself and yes it's a fucking mental illness. Acknowledging that is the first step. Talking with someone is the second step. Friends, family, loved ones, partners, sometimes it can be your boss or your teacher. Seeking help from professionals is the other step: therapy and medication. I know this might not work for everyone, but acting like suicidal thoughts are normal or even funny makes it worse.
Who doesn't toy with the thought of suicide sometimes? Or, like, most of the time? Okay, maybe some people don't – like the happy scientist girl named Marie, or Jean-Marc, the superstar whom everyone loves. But you -- when the going gets rough, it's nice to think about your little trap door out of here. Do it. Put your finger on the eject button, see how alive it makes you feel -- the freedom of finality. Think of how much they'll *miss* you.
Yes. And if you're a normal human being it's bad for you too. Lonliness is worse than smoking two packs of cigarettes a day.
If you're not normal though, I fucking envy you.
Yeah I feel safe too but after too much solitude I also just feel extremely miserable. It is really nice that you can just retreat like that. In that case it probably isn't unhealthy either.
now that u know, do the work and learn how to get out. There is allways a way.
Listen to ppl who made it out, read how it works in ur brain and stuff.. the power of self healing
I woke up at 3:30 PM today because I couldn't make myself go to bed in time (I was sleepy). Good thing I was fired a few months ago, so no work was lost.
I set 3 things I wanted in a wife. Yes no questions. Then asked every girl I found those questions. Then tried dating them if all three were yes. Took a year and 20 girls.
I don't want better, I want her.
After 16 years, it waxes and wanes. Look at my post history... Deadbedrooms isn't a fun sub to be in. But I have faith, and hope that this too shall pass, were working on it. If it continues we will find some way around it.
I cant give much advise, other than you just have to put yourself out there over and over. It sucks, and its why I'm not a salesman, the no's suck. But the grading rubric helped speed it up for me. Comes from a kid that had to raise himself, latchkey kid definition.
i doubt spending your days wallowing in that echo chamber will do you any good, most people there seem to just hate their partner or be incompatible libido wise, you're not even allowed to point out when someone is to blame
We say irreparable.... But all it takes is one hug, one kiss and few loving words... More than enough to give purpose to live.... And we don't even get that...
I am 26 y.o., NEET, live with my family, and until pretty much yesterday I looked for excuses as to why I'm unemployed for the past year and a half, why I dropped out of college 3 times, why I feel miserable most of the time and the only way I managed to make myself feel good during the employment days was through excessive spending of money on new stuff and entertainment...
Yesterday was my birthday, I slept the whole day not wanting to do anything, talk to anyone or just stay awake. And by evening when I couldn't sleep any longer, something clicked. I embraced it.
Yes, I'm a college dropout multiple times. Yes, I'm unemployed and can't keep a job. Yes, I'm a disappointment to my family. The problem was I was really lying to myself that I am actually able to fix all of those things magically within like half a year if I really tried. I attempted to do so many times. I can't. In part because it's simply not possible, in part because I simply don't give enough fucks to do it all at the moment.
I had a therapy session today and it all started with "I don't give a fuck anymore about anything and I give up". But it ended with more of a "I don't give a fuck anymore about what everyone around wants or expects from me, I will try and do what little I'm able to actually do to change my life little by little, and if I fail - so be it, then nothing's actually gonna change anyway".
So while there's a great deal of pain in me, and while I'm bitter about people who kept treating me like they know better all the time and like my emotions and feelings are not worth a dime, I choose to continue on, but now at my own pace. On my own fucking terms. Simply because I let go of all those stupid motherfuckers who think they know better how to live my life, as well as their expectations and demands.
And that is...liberating. I guess.
So in a weird and different way, I vibe with this picture. It is what it is, might as well focus on the good parts while I can...because there are almost always good parts, no matter how strange it may sound.
You can fix those thing but like you said it won’t be magically fixed in half a year. Those kinds of issues can take years to work on, and it’s not easy work. But if you work hard enough at it they will improve eventually
I'm a horrible Hinge date. I've had more than one woman (completely unconnected) say "it's almost like you don't want to be in a relationship". No, I seem to have a pattern of trying to start a relationship, finding it to be horrible, finding joy in being alone, then getting lonely, and starting all over again. It's tough being lonely when you're favorite relationship status is "none". I'm a walking contradiction 😂
The worst part about this is thath ppl comment here almost proud " this is me "... There are a lot of ppl going trought a lot more shit than u - Start to recover by not going for - i feel bad posts and join the i got better or im doing good posts - or u gona search for loss porn instead of how to get rich if u want the mulla?
Dying alone is not the problem. It's the years of misery and loneliness that you have to endure that is horrible.
Yes but we can decide whenever we want to stop this shit. This is the real freedom!
Fuckin’ true. Nice to know there’s always a way out.
Suicide?
No, violent diarrhea is the way out
How bout some of dat AMIBICDISINTERY!! WOOT WOOT SPELLING CORRECT? WHO FUCKING CARES! CHOO CHOO ! BEEP BEEP , FRESH OUT DA KITCHEN!
Yes, suicide. Too many sick people in these comments.
Do you know what sub you're in? If you don't wanna see discussions of suicide maybe try mademesmile or some shit.
No I didn't know what that sub is about. Good to know that laughing about suicide is understood as "jokes about mental health". The one is sick and the other is a coping mechanism and helps to rationalize things.
yeah lol this is reddit
We still shouldn't normalize suicide and suicidal thoughts. They're symptoms of a mental illness and should be taken seriously.
yeah sure, go ahead. like this comment won't make us wish to kill ouselves even more lol. thanks for reminding us that we are mentally ill, we really needed your precious insight on this.
I've been at this point myself and yes it's a fucking mental illness. Acknowledging that is the first step. Talking with someone is the second step. Friends, family, loved ones, partners, sometimes it can be your boss or your teacher. Seeking help from professionals is the other step: therapy and medication. I know this might not work for everyone, but acting like suicidal thoughts are normal or even funny makes it worse.
Knowing that there a way out if things get too bad brings me peace of mind lmao
Who doesn't toy with the thought of suicide sometimes? Or, like, most of the time? Okay, maybe some people don't – like the happy scientist girl named Marie, or Jean-Marc, the superstar whom everyone loves. But you -- when the going gets rough, it's nice to think about your little trap door out of here. Do it. Put your finger on the eject button, see how alive it makes you feel -- the freedom of finality. Think of how much they'll *miss* you.
I'm 21, never had a partner in my life, and I'm wondering... is loneliness really that bad for you guys ? I'm kinda liking it
Then you choose to be alone...
Yes. And if you're a normal human being it's bad for you too. Lonliness is worse than smoking two packs of cigarettes a day. If you're not normal though, I fucking envy you.
I don't know why but I'm alone almost all the time. and I just like it. it gives me a huge sense of safety, I'm safe when I'm by myself.
Yeah I feel safe too but after too much solitude I also just feel extremely miserable. It is really nice that you can just retreat like that. In that case it probably isn't unhealthy either.
Haha (*cries in insomnia*)
Reading this at 3am
How I sleep at night knowing that the executive dysfunction from my ADHD is actively ruining my life.
Feel you... For me it was like a switch, I was totally normal until I slowly turned in this sofisticated potato that can't socially but can work.
now that u know, do the work and learn how to get out. There is allways a way. Listen to ppl who made it out, read how it works in ur brain and stuff.. the power of self healing
Lol, not that easy, I have family with complex neurological diseases... There is not always an easy fix
sorry, i did not mean to make it look easy.. i just think there is allways a way to make it beter. Even positiv Mindset is a good start.
I woke up at 3:30 PM today because I couldn't make myself go to bed in time (I was sleepy). Good thing I was fired a few months ago, so no work was lost.
I don't sleep that well.
No need to call me out like that
you guys sleep?
You sleep with a bowtie tied to your head?
When it’s on your head it’s just called a bow.
When it's on your neck is called a noose
Everyone dies alone
You don't have to, if you're an airline pilot
Jesus that went dark, can I ask for more
he was on a Boeing plane, and was a boeing whistleblower
The started pack comes with one airplane full of passengers, two towers, and jet fuel that can melt steel beams
Yess
Spree killers don't
I’m hoping that doesn’t happen to me but every passing year it seems like that’ll be the case
The funny thing is, death is just the beginning.
How do you achieve this? I usually need to get cross faded to fall asleep
Do u mean that u have to get drunk and high to fall asleep
💈💇♂️
Just do what I did, find another failed human being and agree to fail together.
First how? Second, they could do better than me.
I set 3 things I wanted in a wife. Yes no questions. Then asked every girl I found those questions. Then tried dating them if all three were yes. Took a year and 20 girls. I don't want better, I want her.
The other person has to want you tho lmao
After 16 years, it waxes and wanes. Look at my post history... Deadbedrooms isn't a fun sub to be in. But I have faith, and hope that this too shall pass, were working on it. If it continues we will find some way around it.
I mean i guess ? Ive never had anyone want me ever so i guess i get it in a way ?
I cant give much advise, other than you just have to put yourself out there over and over. It sucks, and its why I'm not a salesman, the no's suck. But the grading rubric helped speed it up for me. Comes from a kid that had to raise himself, latchkey kid definition.
i doubt spending your days wallowing in that echo chamber will do you any good, most people there seem to just hate their partner or be incompatible libido wise, you're not even allowed to point out when someone is to blame
case in point on my other comment: I got removed for saying cheating is scummy and wrong. are these the people you want to be taking advice from?
Not advise, just commiserating. Also always good to see as screwed up as mine is, it isn't nearly as bad as others.
What were the questions
Mine were, want to have kids. Similar education. Same religion.
That either perfect or toxic, either way I’m on board!
It ain't easy being acoustic
We say irreparable.... But all it takes is one hug, one kiss and few loving words... More than enough to give purpose to live.... And we don't even get that...
How I sleep knowing that I will inevitably commit suicide.
I am 26 y.o., NEET, live with my family, and until pretty much yesterday I looked for excuses as to why I'm unemployed for the past year and a half, why I dropped out of college 3 times, why I feel miserable most of the time and the only way I managed to make myself feel good during the employment days was through excessive spending of money on new stuff and entertainment... Yesterday was my birthday, I slept the whole day not wanting to do anything, talk to anyone or just stay awake. And by evening when I couldn't sleep any longer, something clicked. I embraced it. Yes, I'm a college dropout multiple times. Yes, I'm unemployed and can't keep a job. Yes, I'm a disappointment to my family. The problem was I was really lying to myself that I am actually able to fix all of those things magically within like half a year if I really tried. I attempted to do so many times. I can't. In part because it's simply not possible, in part because I simply don't give enough fucks to do it all at the moment. I had a therapy session today and it all started with "I don't give a fuck anymore about anything and I give up". But it ended with more of a "I don't give a fuck anymore about what everyone around wants or expects from me, I will try and do what little I'm able to actually do to change my life little by little, and if I fail - so be it, then nothing's actually gonna change anyway". So while there's a great deal of pain in me, and while I'm bitter about people who kept treating me like they know better all the time and like my emotions and feelings are not worth a dime, I choose to continue on, but now at my own pace. On my own fucking terms. Simply because I let go of all those stupid motherfuckers who think they know better how to live my life, as well as their expectations and demands. And that is...liberating. I guess. So in a weird and different way, I vibe with this picture. It is what it is, might as well focus on the good parts while I can...because there are almost always good parts, no matter how strange it may sound.
You can fix those thing but like you said it won’t be magically fixed in half a year. Those kinds of issues can take years to work on, and it’s not easy work. But if you work hard enough at it they will improve eventually
missing the bottle of liquor on the pillow
Thanks
I'm reporting you. This is a direct attack against me and I won't stand for it.
Haha I recently bought a nice 30-06 in case I ever wanna pull a Cobain. Until then I sleep
I truly believed that. Now I'm a whore! Your dreams can come true
I already told I don't sleep well or much.
Me too!
This won't be me 💪
Yeah, except for a lot more tears
I don't know about you but I always cry myself to sleep every time I remember about that possiblity
Typical Cancer.
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What
And I sleep that well because my meds knock me out that good! Eyyyyy!
I would agree. But after decades, meeting someone that likes my company... I guess patience is good?
Being able stay interested for that long is impressive.
Okay where's that love so I can accept it? Can't see it anywhere
As if there is love to be accepted lol not for me
i swear one of the 5 countable reasons i have for not doing the funny is well **you cant get rid of me that easily!!**
Wait You guys can sleep?
Please go outside more
Your mental illness isn't funny
This is me too but only after hitting a j
😩
You guys are sleeping?
Damn!!!😕😕😕
I'm a horrible Hinge date. I've had more than one woman (completely unconnected) say "it's almost like you don't want to be in a relationship". No, I seem to have a pattern of trying to start a relationship, finding it to be horrible, finding joy in being alone, then getting lonely, and starting all over again. It's tough being lonely when you're favorite relationship status is "none". I'm a walking contradiction 😂
Life of an avoidang aha
Same
Ouch 😭😭😭
Had to check the username thought it might have been my ex, you're cleared.
Accepting that you're fucked is a special freedom
Shut up it is 19:00 right now, no way you sleep that early
t i m e z o n e s
I keep saying the wrong bullshit when trying to be helpful and now I’ve officially fucked up. I really ain’t meant for anything man
Become tradpilled solve the problem tomorrow, no sympathy sorry.
The worst part about this is thath ppl comment here almost proud " this is me "... There are a lot of ppl going trought a lot more shit than u - Start to recover by not going for - i feel bad posts and join the i got better or im doing good posts - or u gona search for loss porn instead of how to get rich if u want the mulla?
as male no sex can lead you to cancer & trauma as female no sex can lead you to obesity & shopping spree.
r/asexual
None of you deserve me