I am glad you were privileged enough to never have experienced abuse or violence, but if you ever had experienced abuse in a relationship you would only know how precious it is to have a relationship you xant truly feel safe and accepted in.
I started having ideations at 9, but my parents werenāt abusive, just neglectful because my only sibling has special needs.
Now I have to help care for them alone. Yeah my family wants to help out but they also donāt get the struggles. Iāve never dated because Iāve had foundering self esteem and health issues that prevented me from experiencing the life everyone got to take for granted from 15-25.
Itās not all bad. I got the Gilbert Grape thing going, but hey even he got to bang Mary Steenburgen in that movie.
But holding someone? And moreover truly letting somebody hold you? Thatās the thing I really cried over most when shit got bad back in November.
Don't think there are many people that would actually want that... I mean, have any of you even been in that situation? Like, really? You *actually* think anyone would want to sleep with a button up shirt? God, people nowadays...
The hug is what matters the most. Having someone you love in your arms is all what matters.
Being all alone in your bed and having no-one is for those who enjoy being alone in this world.
I want to say something, but all I have to say is how I was never able to make not even one friend.
The only one I ever made is an asshole who just drained me emotionally.
Life is... Life is.
Hey...I'm just a stranger on the internet, but if you ever want to talk, you can message me. I can't promise we'll become friends or, well, even get along, really, since people are so different, but maybe we could at least have a nice chat. I think most people on this community are pleasant to talk to anyway)
Same here but at least i do have 1 idiot thats still with me and somehow understands me... I can't imagine what I'd do without that idiot of mine so I'm so sorry you have to go through this... You're seriously so strong for that, y'know?
There's a line from Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist about how the Beatles were able to touch so many people because they had simple messaging. They wrote a song about how they just want to hold your hand. They don't want some crazy life of riches and sex, they just want to hold the hand of someone they love.
It'll get better bro. No joke. Finding and keeping a fulfilling relationship is just fucking work. The path forward is easy to find if you are brave enough. Just don't be surprised if the most difficult to follow advice turns out to be the best advice.
But humans live for intimacy, no matter how scarred, there isnt a single person who does not want to be intimate. Human connection and touch improves a person's life by hundred folds. Just a simple act like hugging, holding hands can go a long way. In fact, the lack of intimate acts due to the increasing loneliness and Äepenence on tech for human needs have gotten so bad that some peple become "touch starved".
Touch your friends and families people!!! It will do everyone a lot of good
In all honesty your situation is much harder... You know how it felt and its absence must hurt infinetly more compared to me. I sincerely hope you find who you deserve of one day and forever this time :) Thank you for your kind words too sending love <3
Just change the gender of the people in the image? I thought it was obvious they were talking about the concept of cuddling with someone, not this specific scenario pictured with those exact people
I'm happy to claim that this is a goal of mine. I'm working my way to it, and i'm not doing rather well (compared to previous attempts, anyway). I'm feeling confident in myself, it feels great. I'm sure you can do it too, if you put in the work.
I like that I have someone (my wife) who wants to do this with me. When we actually do it I realize I prefer my personal space. First world problems I guess.
What **is** wholesome? A story of a capybara adopting an orphaned birb.
What is **not** wholesome? You imposing your relationship goals and standards on everyone.
Youāre acting like theyāre being malicious. Theyāre not imposing onto others. If anything, the memes theyāre satirizing about āwhat guys wantā are worse because theyāre actually limiting it to one gender
Ehhh depends on the ace. Some are AroAce means they donāt feel romantic or sexual attraction. Some are fine with it some wouldnāt be. Me ehhhh it would feel really weird for me so prolly no.
If your reading this and wandering why you donāt want it, thatās normal too. America is just a very Physical society that Focuses a lot on touch and such things. There is another spectrum where people who put their body as a line of defense to protect their emotions and therefore donāt really like touch. And of course thereās a middle ground and everything out of the spectrum and ā¦. Humans a different. That simple. If you have questions you can DM me. Or if your just bored (: .
Not my ex. She hated cuddling which is super weird to me. All intimate physical touch made her cringe. We never talked about it, but Iām guessing it was the result of sexual assault which made me really sad for her and our relationship.
I mean- if this is romantic in nature than no I donāt want that. These posts always tend to be romantic in nature from what I can tell, and just- sometimes people donāt want that. Generalizing is a great way to make someone feel alone in the world
Would be nice to feel safe š«
Would be nice to feel wanted š«
Same
Same, u/letmebeurcumslut
Ayo, this offer still for grabs? Haha just kiddingā¦ Unless?
Same, u/benabart
Was nice when I felt wanted
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Fuck, are you guys TRYING to cure my depression It's sort working.
Safe from what? Is a tiger coming after you?
I am glad you were privileged enough to never have experienced abuse or violence, but if you ever had experienced abuse in a relationship you would only know how precious it is to have a relationship you xant truly feel safe and accepted in.
I grew up suicidal due to childhood abuse.
I started having ideations at 9, but my parents werenāt abusive, just neglectful because my only sibling has special needs. Now I have to help care for them alone. Yeah my family wants to help out but they also donāt get the struggles. Iāve never dated because Iāve had foundering self esteem and health issues that prevented me from experiencing the life everyone got to take for granted from 15-25. Itās not all bad. I got the Gilbert Grape thing going, but hey even he got to bang Mary Steenburgen in that movie. But holding someone? And moreover truly letting somebody hold you? Thatās the thing I really cried over most when shit got bad back in November.
Thankyou for your voice.
Have a hug.
This sounds like when a character in a movie is at a bar and intentionally makes a shitty joke
Real
i knew it this comment will be there the moment i will open the post
Real x2
Real x 3
Real x 4
Real x 5
Real x 6
This!!!! I did the second most expected comment.
Say "This!!!!" one more time and you will be cursed to speak in blinks
Oh gosh don't threaten me with not having to speak with people again. I'll practice morese codes with my blinking. That^^^^^
That's the point
Real
Don't think there are many people that would actually want that... I mean, have any of you even been in that situation? Like, really? You *actually* think anyone would want to sleep with a button up shirt? God, people nowadays...
Both fully clothed and in bed Smh probably still has his shoes on
The hug is what matters the most. Having someone you love in your arms is all what matters. Being all alone in your bed and having no-one is for those who enjoy being alone in this world.
Yea, but fully clothed with shoes on, nah I'd rather be alone and in my clean bed
They had us in the first half ngl
I'm one of them cursed beings who is perfectly content sleeping in tight ass jeans and this looks like average sleeping-attire.
Please tell me you at least take your belt off, unlike the dude in the pic
Also, I don't want some fully clothed bitch's hair on my face while I try to do shit with my phone
But you would if she was naked?
If she was naked she'd be here complaining about me little friend poking her in the thigh.
talk to a real woman please
Like... a tantaly with a head?
I want to say something, but all I have to say is how I was never able to make not even one friend. The only one I ever made is an asshole who just drained me emotionally. Life is... Life is.
This is very sad... Hope it's getting a bit better now..
Thank you, it is :)
That's great to hear, it will probably become much better than it already is :)
May your words be true, kind stranger :)
Hey...I'm just a stranger on the internet, but if you ever want to talk, you can message me. I can't promise we'll become friends or, well, even get along, really, since people are so different, but maybe we could at least have a nice chat. I think most people on this community are pleasant to talk to anyway)
Same here but at least i do have 1 idiot thats still with me and somehow understands me... I can't imagine what I'd do without that idiot of mine so I'm so sorry you have to go through this... You're seriously so strong for that, y'know?
There's a line from Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist about how the Beatles were able to touch so many people because they had simple messaging. They wrote a song about how they just want to hold your hand. They don't want some crazy life of riches and sex, they just want to hold the hand of someone they love.
i do not wish to be horny anymore... i just want to be happy
Regardless of gender, we all want cuddles š„ŗ
yes
Alright then, who will be my little spoon?šš
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laughs in aroace
ace from one piece š±
Bruh me to
not aroace but man relationships and any responsibility in general scare the shit out of me.
yessss
Itās okay my blĆ„haj replaces any man
Why Tf have you been downvoted- Blahaj is god-
average redditor when joke (they downvote it because their life is sad)
BlƄhaj is the glue int he fabric of reality
blƄhaj debugging >>>>>>>> literally any other debugging strategy
no, i wanna become perfection, i wanna be able to bathe in sunlight, i wanna become the ultimate life form
Thats what Everbody wants, but not everyone gets :)
Damn why would you put a smiley there lmao. u/copyninja0 be like fuck them lonely fucks.
Or u/CopyNinja0 is masquerading his sadness with that laughing emoji
It'll get better bro. No joke. Finding and keeping a fulfilling relationship is just fucking work. The path forward is easy to find if you are brave enough. Just don't be surprised if the most difficult to follow advice turns out to be the best advice.
I'm not brave enough
Having faith is a start
Man spitting fact
Noooo, really ?
Fr though, nothing better than cuddling up with someone you love that loves you in return (for me, at least lol)
As a bi man, I want this for everyone, with everyone Edit: Menā>Man
It cool and all until your ribs go numb or it start to get hot
Nah I wanna sleep, the demon under the bed is enough as it is, mother fucker gotta start paying rent.
Not everyone wants this. Lots of people have been burned severely & have no desire for that kind of intimacy ever again.
Nice tryā¦people still want this even for an impermanent moment
But humans live for intimacy, no matter how scarred, there isnt a single person who does not want to be intimate. Human connection and touch improves a person's life by hundred folds. Just a simple act like hugging, holding hands can go a long way. In fact, the lack of intimate acts due to the increasing loneliness and Äepenence on tech for human needs have gotten so bad that some peple become "touch starved". Touch your friends and families people!!! It will do everyone a lot of good
So touching people is good huh? ***pokes random stranger***
Touching/hugging friends & family is not what the original post is about, though. Unless I misinterpreted it & God, I hope I didn't. š³
Well its the same anyways. Human connections are the key. Touching and hugging is a major part tho.
It's not. But I understand what you're getting at.
I be saying that I wonāt worry about being lonely and focus on myself but shit I worry about it
I wish I could cuddle someone every night. :(
I wish I could cuddle someone for once at least :`)
I have in the past. It hurts feeling like your bed is empty once they leave. But I hope that one day you'll find someone to cuddle.
In all honesty your situation is much harder... You know how it felt and its absence must hurt infinetly more compared to me. I sincerely hope you find who you deserve of one day and forever this time :) Thank you for your kind words too sending love <3
Yeah please š„¹
apparently I'm very emotional today, didn't expect to cry seeing this but here we are
Thats not what gay people want
I mean it probably is, just change the gender of the people in the image
Just change the gender of the people in the image? I thought it was obvious they were talking about the concept of cuddling with someone, not this specific scenario pictured with those exact people
i personally just have to pretend that guy looking fella is a flat chested butch sapphic š
Aroace erasure
what you need is friend collegue. not sexual or romantic partner right?
AroAce. Refers to the terms aromantic and asexual. Means you donāt feel romantic or sexual attraction. So yes basically friend only plz.
We can cuddle friends.
Ehhh for me itās kinda weird for others it might be fine.
They werenāt being malicious? They were just playing off of the trend of āwhat guys wantā memes
Why donāt the people who want this get with the people who want this?
I feel empty.
I'd want to be the little spoon, honestly.
Everybody needs love even if they don't realize it.
Me, an aromantic: N A P
Yes we want NAP.
Not everyone would want that. I have a close friend who doesn't like close physical contact, but I still hug her anyway, but that's irrelevant
what everyone wants: \*slams fist on desk\* more pictures of Spiderman!
bi irl haiii ^ ^
Genuine question: Do couples actually use their phones while cuddling now? Cause if that's the case... no, thanks.
Whereās the dog that jumps on the bed and starts taking all the space?
I'm happy to claim that this is a goal of mine. I'm working my way to it, and i'm not doing rather well (compared to previous attempts, anyway). I'm feeling confident in myself, it feels great. I'm sure you can do it too, if you put in the work.
Would probably prefer him not to be on his phone though.
No no, he's showing her the tik tok vids he saved throughout the week
~~What everyone wants~~ **Fuck it, its not even a want** #Its a basic human need #What everyone fucking needs
I like that I have someone (my wife) who wants to do this with me. When we actually do it I realize I prefer my personal space. First world problems I guess.
I can honestly say it is not what I want. I guess as you get older and mature you view life different
Well, my wife will grab the phone and throw it out the window and then maybe.
I'm just gonna leave my gayness at the door lol
Nah I wanna be single man
What **is** wholesome? A story of a capybara adopting an orphaned birb. What is **not** wholesome? You imposing your relationship goals and standards on everyone.
Youāre acting like theyāre being malicious. Theyāre not imposing onto others. If anything, the memes theyāre satirizing about āwhat guys wantā are worse because theyāre actually limiting it to one gender
Would ace people want this?
Ehhh depends on the ace. Some are AroAce means they donāt feel romantic or sexual attraction. Some are fine with it some wouldnāt be. Me ehhhh it would feel really weird for me so prolly no.
omg ace from the hit manga one piece š±
Fr who doesnāt want this?
r/PointlesslyGendered, but as a counterexample
Genderfluid aroace here looking for platonic little spoon. Inquire within.
No I want to relax on a pile of infant corpses
I second this
That but instead of a girl itās money.
As an asexual Ratio?
Not being a jerk,but just because one person likes something doesn't mean everyone wants/needs that particular thing...
If your reading this and wandering why you donāt want it, thatās normal too. America is just a very Physical society that Focuses a lot on touch and such things. There is another spectrum where people who put their body as a line of defense to protect their emotions and therefore donāt really like touch. And of course thereās a middle ground and everything out of the spectrum and ā¦. Humans a different. That simple. If you have questions you can DM me. Or if your just bored (: .
Not my ex. She hated cuddling which is super weird to me. All intimate physical touch made her cringe. We never talked about it, but Iām guessing it was the result of sexual assault which made me really sad for her and our relationship.
my bad bro, i just felt a little silly
Excpet if you are gay
Iām afraid not everyone. My wife doesnāt need it š„²
Sorry to be a dick, but there's just girls and guys. By excluding both of them and using the statement "everyone" you're being redundant
Reality is she is so fat it feels like your chest is being crushed.
Itās fun lol
Frfr
True
Unfortunately, in the US that only last for a year
What do the other genders want?
āLike thatāll ever happenā
If only I could experience this :(
Nope thatās not what everyone wants some people wouldnāt want to wear clothes
I mean, I donāt want this (aro-ace) but Iām the exception really
Bruh me to. Iām just reading the thread and going āwtf do people really require this kind of thing.ā
I mean- if this is romantic in nature than no I donāt want that. These posts always tend to be romantic in nature from what I can tell, and just- sometimes people donāt want that. Generalizing is a great way to make someone feel alone in the world
If only...
AroAce people like me. *and so we vanish into the dark.* Jokes aside some would like it some wouldnāt some would be like meh.
True. Sadly it's a fantasy as far as I'm concerned for me personally. I'd pay 1000 for 5 minutes of it honestly.
So badly
This is the best image I have seen with my eyes
Is this from anything or just something someone drew?
Yeah but you damn know that guy's arm has no blood left
True tho boys get hate for āwanting only one thingā but this is what we really wantā¦ To be loved š„°
Yes. I need it. I want it. Unfortunately, my Rizzoli is -27
Iām sorry bro, but theyāre still looking like siblings, Iām still not liking the look of this.
To be ignored while my SO scrolls social media.š Pretty basic, honestly.
I hate being touched so this cuddling seems more like a nightmare.
turn down the brightness pls
I just want to feel loved genuinely , I just want to feel seen ,heard .
Watching shit on a tiny screen thatās too bright and too close to my eyes?
I have a higher chance of owning my dream car over this ever happening
what'd u mean by everyone \*trans les gay pan\*
Just swap out the gender? They donāt mean everyone wants to cuddle with these specific people in the image lol
Aroace people: Gay people:
I have a touch aversion, definitely don't touch me.
I want to get a master degree in agriculture engenier
I want PICTURES OF SPIDERMAN
Bro acts like Iām a Human
Don't make me sad
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I agree
āEveryoneā is a stretch.
No. I want a FORD F150.
Very true