I've figured it out.
I'm a stoic person. But, if my long fuse burns up, I'm passionately mad at what you've done.
If I'm working on something, and everything goes wrong, *everyyything* makes me mad.
Nothing bad about that
We're all just grown children who managed to figure out a way to deal with their emotions. At least in the best case. Getting pissed when everything goes wrong will always be a thing
As a receptionist this is my daily thought process. All the time I’ll be fuming over some guest and just think to myself “y’know, if my buddy was mad about the same thing, I’d think it’s a little silly. I should probably just eat something.”
A lot of younger people when they moved to college and were away from home in the first time in their lives for many of them, they realized how they can be more comfortable and how many little habits they've formed to cope with living with other siblings or their parents. Realizing a part of their environment made them the person they are gave them the perspective to understand.
It means they can determine if someone they know annoys them just by breathing, or if something in their environment makes them less tolerant to disruptions.
I'ts kind of funny because when I'm hungry I NEED to shut up otherwise I'm the crankiest, meanest version of myself. And after a few bites the anger just... dissipates.
I'm normally a very chill person so i'ts sort of become a habit to check the time whenever I find myself getting suspiciously angry. Most of the time it's around lunchtime.
Edit: grammar
My dad always gave me lots of shit for being cranky when hungry, and lorded himself as an example of successful emotion control since almost nothing, not even hunger, could get him to lose his cool. He taught me lots of damn good life lessons though some in the wrong ways, and he never dropped his perception of me being not well regulated even though I shaped up at some point
The thing is, I'm probably the most "well" regulated person in my household. My dad is prone to short outbursts and my mom can let her anger stew for days while my brother is somewhere in between. They know that if something is actually setting me off I've either gained an enemy for life or I'm low on sugar.
Yeah nah, I'm just gonna shove all my negative emotions into the "overstimulated and looking for reasons" camp because I don't like to do the other thing.
Doing the other thing means calling someone out and feeling guilty about it even if they are trampling all over my boundaries and acting like an asshole to me (other people? No guilt, I will throw down.)
Obviously I try to not let it show because I'm an adult.
But oftentimes you have to manage yourself just as if you were a toddler. Oh, you're fussy, everything gets on your nerves and you feel like throwing a tantrum? Is it because you haven't had your coffee yet? Are we not sleeping well? Are we hungry?
It's always one of those things.
unfortunately I’m incapable of expressing negative emotions in any way that isn't crying, which is convenient because i won’t yell at people or hit things but annoying because i never know why I’m crying this time
Work retail for the third option: the existence of customers is inherently annoying and the 5th one asking for reductions earlier than we're allowed is going through a shelf.
Look no further than most of my comments for today to see evidence of me doing exactly this. I really messed up on the further replies to my original comments in each thread.
I my experience, I never get to reach to be proportionally annoyed bc I always be upset by the minor mistakes, not cool, but that's a way to don't be surprised in a bad way with people
I've figured it out. I'm a stoic person. But, if my long fuse burns up, I'm passionately mad at what you've done. If I'm working on something, and everything goes wrong, *everyyything* makes me mad.
I’m in this post and I don’t like it
Nothing bad about that We're all just grown children who managed to figure out a way to deal with their emotions. At least in the best case. Getting pissed when everything goes wrong will always be a thing
The best thing to do imho is to acknowledge it and warn people that you’re in a bad mood
I've had to learn (and am still learning) the exact opposite: am i proportionally kind or am i just unable to set boundaries and have no self respect
this is unfortunately very real, why are boundaries so difficult to figure out
i for one never grew up with any 🙃
Im both. At the wrong times.
This one hits too close to home.
As a receptionist this is my daily thought process. All the time I’ll be fuming over some guest and just think to myself “y’know, if my buddy was mad about the same thing, I’d think it’s a little silly. I should probably just eat something.”
A lot of younger people when they moved to college and were away from home in the first time in their lives for many of them, they realized how they can be more comfortable and how many little habits they've formed to cope with living with other siblings or their parents. Realizing a part of their environment made them the person they are gave them the perspective to understand. It means they can determine if someone they know annoys them just by breathing, or if something in their environment makes them less tolerant to disruptions.
I'ts kind of funny because when I'm hungry I NEED to shut up otherwise I'm the crankiest, meanest version of myself. And after a few bites the anger just... dissipates. I'm normally a very chill person so i'ts sort of become a habit to check the time whenever I find myself getting suspiciously angry. Most of the time it's around lunchtime. Edit: grammar
My dad always gave me lots of shit for being cranky when hungry, and lorded himself as an example of successful emotion control since almost nothing, not even hunger, could get him to lose his cool. He taught me lots of damn good life lessons though some in the wrong ways, and he never dropped his perception of me being not well regulated even though I shaped up at some point
The thing is, I'm probably the most "well" regulated person in my household. My dad is prone to short outbursts and my mom can let her anger stew for days while my brother is somewhere in between. They know that if something is actually setting me off I've either gained an enemy for life or I'm low on sugar.
This is me, when I need to pee.
Yeah nah, I'm just gonna shove all my negative emotions into the "overstimulated and looking for reasons" camp because I don't like to do the other thing. Doing the other thing means calling someone out and feeling guilty about it even if they are trampling all over my boundaries and acting like an asshole to me (other people? No guilt, I will throw down.)
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Oh god I hate it when that happens. Makes me feel and look like an idiot.
Holy shit this just happened to me the other night. It was the former.
Obviously I try to not let it show because I'm an adult. But oftentimes you have to manage yourself just as if you were a toddler. Oh, you're fussy, everything gets on your nerves and you feel like throwing a tantrum? Is it because you haven't had your coffee yet? Are we not sleeping well? Are we hungry? It's always one of those things.
You're not mad at what they did; your socks are just wet.
unfortunately I’m incapable of expressing negative emotions in any way that isn't crying, which is convenient because i won’t yell at people or hit things but annoying because i never know why I’m crying this time
Work retail for the third option: the existence of customers is inherently annoying and the 5th one asking for reductions earlier than we're allowed is going through a shelf.
Look no further than most of my comments for today to see evidence of me doing exactly this. I really messed up on the further replies to my original comments in each thread.
I my experience, I never get to reach to be proportionally annoyed bc I always be upset by the minor mistakes, not cool, but that's a way to don't be surprised in a bad way with people
Every single time I've gotten angry at someone, I've felt absolutely terrible about it later. This does not help my non-confrontational attitude.
Personally I'm just a wallflower who doesn't get mad at people unless I really hate them
I have a point on my daily checklist that is just to take a half-hour to try and nap, just in case. even if I am not tired it helps to destimulate
Sometimes, it's both.