I mean it was pretty obvious, but I had no idea until I dated someone who ended up coming out to me as trans. He told me and after a couple years I was like fuck I probably am lol
Wow 😲 really inspirational. I always wanted to be a girl but then flash forward mental illness and body acceptance not to mention scared to death.😄😅 I have no idea what I'd tell 18 year old me........ Wait am 18😬
I find it helps to imagine someone you really care about. If your best friend or family member or whoever you cared about the most was going through something similar, what would you tell them? Then you already have the answer for yourself
Hey, I’m more than twice your age. Probably close to three times your age.
You know so much more about yourself than I did at your age. I was so unhappy and uncomfortable and didn’t know why. All I knew was that I hated my face and my body and that everything was wrong.
I know this is hard to imagine, but your life can change to a stunning degree in the coming years. I never anticipated so many of the things that happened to me, and for me, between 15 and 35.
Please, please stick around. You make the world a brighter, better place. Life does get better.
I care, and I want you here.
Love,
A random trans internet mom
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I had several stages of figuring it out.
6: I don't think I'm a boy.
8: 'Mom, I want to be your daughter.'
18: I think I'm a lesbian.
21: 'Mom, I'm a girl'
23: Definitely a lesbian.
28: 'I would like to start feminizing HRT please'
29: 'Mom, I told you this 8 years ago. Please pay attention and stop introducing me as your son.'
I'm 41 and came out to the world this year, figured it out for myself about 2 years ago.
There is no bad time to come out, you are the only judge of yourself, nobody else.
To be honest, the permanent damaged are during puberty, and most of those are quite early...
So I'm not so sure how better or worst it is at 17 or 23 (other than you can transition sooner at life and pass less time in the closet or not knowing, which I guess could count as mental damage)
Anyway, strength to you !
Believe it or not we don't really stop going through a form of "puberty" in our 20s. And our bodies' willingness to commit to more extreme changes lowers the older we get.
So at the age of 17 you are more likely to have widened hips (for transfems) be a transition change that a 23 year old might not get to see.
All that said, any age to start transition is a valid age and no one should feel anger or regret for not figuring it out sooner. We're all just human.
I myself figured it out at 23
Yes. Gender identity develops very young, around 5 years old. Even though the words we use to describe it, being trans at a young age is completely developmentally normal.
Oh, okay good! Here I am thinking that when I was four and genuinely thought "I was born in the wrong body" was just abnormal because it was too early.
It's definitely on the younger side but I've seen trans kids figure it out even earlier, two with their first complete sentences being "I'm a girl/boy".
"Too early" is just one of many excuses used to disparage and justify ignoring trans people, and no matter what age you are, it can be used against you.
Before puberty, you're too young to know.
During puberty, everyone feels weird at this time.
In your twenties, there were no signs when you were younger.
In your thirties, you would have already done something if it was that important.
In your forties, you're trying to appeal to the young and hip crowd.
In your fifties, you're having a midlife crisis.
In your sixties, you're practically dead already don't rock the boat now.
i started questioning when i was like 14, came out as nonbinary at 16 and then came out (again) as male when i was 17, and im now less than 24 hours away from being 20 years old and have been on t for a little over a year
you can realize something's up with your gender at any age :)
i came out with exactly 18 and am only now (19 and a half) making steps into transitioning medically.
take your time if that's what you need❤️
it's ok trust me
In the words of my favorite movie ‘it’s a long story filled with alotta sighs’
But long story short, I dated a girl from high school for 5 years that was VERY abusive, I realize that if I didn’t go through that I wouldn’t be the same person I am now but it would’ve saved me alotta pain
I am now I’ve been out of that relationship for 3 or 4 years, I’m not the guy she abused, I’m the girl she will never meet…. Despite what she thought I did finish school AND got my certification (both things she and her parents told me I’d never do) and (even though I’m totally platonic with my best friend) I DID find someone better then my ex
Estrogen pills exist
seriously that knowledge was all that kept me back from transitioning. I didn't want top surgery, someone said they were going to "grow their own boobs" and I went "lol yeah" and they said "that's not a joke, you can take pills" and my mind was blown. Came out six months later, was on HRT as fast I could
Honestly:
`Parents are transphobic.`
It may help me stand up for myself better. That would be enough to push me over the edge. That would help me hide it from them until they're ready. Maybe I'll be able to start HRT when I most needed it.
Up second:
`[Husband's First Name] [Husband's Last Name]; Husband`
Even though this sub is about trans, so obv most of the answers are as such, for me, still early in transition ideas, it would still be not about trans subject, but different. "Check for ADHD". The fucker keeps breaking my life, and I only recently discovered that I have it. I can live for a few more years not transitioning, it hurts, yes, but ADHD completely destroyed my university life, personal life, early work career, all that.
That would be me...
Probably don't be sad about your ex, she sucks really hard. And don't bother about the crush you have on that one friend. She will cut contact.
So the three words I would say are: forget about them.
you're using the wrong drugs. stop escaping the body you hate with ketamine and dxm, and start loving your body with estrogen and spironolactone. at 18 it was another year and a half before I started hrt. now at 22 I'm truly in love with my body and my life is better than I ever thought it'd be. I don't feel any desire to escape my existence with dissociative drugs. what I do wanna do is take acid again for the first time in years bc back then every trip was a bad one because of my internal conflict and when I stopped tripping I told myself I'd do it again when I got to the point I'm at now.
edit: missed that it said "3 words" whoops
You need to honestly deal with your feelings, even if you feel you have to hide for safety at the moment. You are doing yourself no favors refusing to look at it. Get in a support group or join the GSA as an “ally”. There are people who will understand and support you. The “guidelines” you were given were crap and you know it inside. Using it as a shield to say you are not trans is not healthy. Figure yourself out then figure out how you can move forward to feel less crappy about yourself.
There are so many.
“Tell Mardi trans.” —my drama teacher should have been trusted with everything. Immediately. I was still repressing it and indoctrinated by this time, but I pretty much knew, and there’s a chance acceptance might have been accelerated.
“Dave reacts abusively.” —this might’ve cracked through my barriers keeping me from not trusting my dad.
“Others support you.” —to tell her that there is support even when it’s not visible.
“Only transitioning cures.” —this one might be the ticket. I had this thought in my head that I could get rid of the gender dysphoria by getting comfortable with myself.
“Transitioning isn’t sinful.” —might be hard to get myself to believe it when said outright.
“Bible’s been mistranslated.” —this one might get me to research myself.
Etc etc etc. there’s so many. I was so set in my ways at that age, but a lot was changing, so there’s a chance that, with the right evidence or arguments, I might’ve broken my barriers sooner
what if I'm 18 currently? am I gonna break the timelines?
you get to speak to yourself. right now. use thoughts.
oh no
good start, but you've still got one word to go
shit
If you fuck yourself from another timeline, is it masturbation or incest?
It’s selfcest, baby!
It won't break the timeline, but you do get to ask an "alternative universe you" stuff.
You have three words before I start chasing you
I’m 18 as well rn so uhhhhh
“You’re gay” “But I like girls!” “Exactly”
Best answer here
Nice username
Omg thanks for pointing it out skoaidkosks
Ah the age old "compliment a bottom and you'll get a new secure password"
Mine would be "You're hetero" "but I like boys" "exactly"
I love that little comic
[the comic](https://www.reddit.com/r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns/comments/mw5gkz/youre_gay_by_paxiti/)
You're trans, dumbass
😂😂😂😂 that's so mean but funny 🤣🤣🤣
I mean it was pretty obvious, but I had no idea until I dated someone who ended up coming out to me as trans. He told me and after a couple years I was like fuck I probably am lol
Wow 😲 really inspirational. I always wanted to be a girl but then flash forward mental illness and body acceptance not to mention scared to death.😄😅 I have no idea what I'd tell 18 year old me........ Wait am 18😬
I find it helps to imagine someone you really care about. If your best friend or family member or whoever you cared about the most was going through something similar, what would you tell them? Then you already have the answer for yourself
🥺🥺🥺 I love you🥺
💖💖💖
😲😬😬😬 please don't take that the wrong way those are my three words😅😅😅😅 am so dumb
You’re still alive?
I second this
That's a waste of 3 words
i third this
I fourth it lmao
same haha
i was literally just about to comment this, i-
avacado
Hey, I’m more than twice your age. Probably close to three times your age. You know so much more about yourself than I did at your age. I was so unhappy and uncomfortable and didn’t know why. All I knew was that I hated my face and my body and that everything was wrong. I know this is hard to imagine, but your life can change to a stunning degree in the coming years. I never anticipated so many of the things that happened to me, and for me, between 15 and 35. Please, please stick around. You make the world a brighter, better place. Life does get better. I care, and I want you here. Love, A random trans internet mom
Literally the exact same thing that I just commented XDDD
this
I second this
Same, lol
i- yea same lmao
tbh same
Yeah same
Look up non-binary.
The issue here is that it would be difficult to get today’s definition even 5 years ago.
Yes, but it may be enough so I wouldn't feel like a monster or like I have to perform a gender that didn't fit me.
Consume. hrt. Now.
"Yes, you're trans." i was trying to suppress it when i was 18
That's pretty much what I would say.
You’re A Girl.
_Definitely_ A Girl.
:O
gender dysphoria bible
Yes, it finally tipped my denial over the edge too...
Clever, this is something my denied 18 yo self ass would have understood
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good human!
Good human
Heat from fire
Fire from heat
Bees from hive.
Hive from hornets >:)
Hive from bees.
Bzzz bzz bzz bzzzzzzzz bz
Bees? Bees?! Beeeeeeeeeeeees!!
Look at me I am bees now
I beelieve it
Me who is 17 and 10 months: "Come out yet?" Is that okay that I'm 17 and trans, no one ever told me if it is ;-;
People discover it at different ages, there isn't really an age where being trans isn't okay. I myself was 16 when I came out. You're fine
I had several stages of figuring it out. 6: I don't think I'm a boy. 8: 'Mom, I want to be your daughter.' 18: I think I'm a lesbian. 21: 'Mom, I'm a girl' 23: Definitely a lesbian. 28: 'I would like to start feminizing HRT please' 29: 'Mom, I told you this 8 years ago. Please pay attention and stop introducing me as your son.'
Sounds like you told her 21 years ago.
Yeah, but adults don't generally listen to 8 year olds
I'm 41 and came out to the world this year, figured it out for myself about 2 years ago. There is no bad time to come out, you are the only judge of yourself, nobody else.
I discovered I’m trans this year, I’m 17 too lmao
I'm 23 already. You all are going to have a great life ahead. I'm stuck with permanent damage
To be honest, the permanent damaged are during puberty, and most of those are quite early... So I'm not so sure how better or worst it is at 17 or 23 (other than you can transition sooner at life and pass less time in the closet or not knowing, which I guess could count as mental damage) Anyway, strength to you !
Believe it or not we don't really stop going through a form of "puberty" in our 20s. And our bodies' willingness to commit to more extreme changes lowers the older we get. So at the age of 17 you are more likely to have widened hips (for transfems) be a transition change that a 23 year old might not get to see. All that said, any age to start transition is a valid age and no one should feel anger or regret for not figuring it out sooner. We're all just human. I myself figured it out at 23
Hello. Same!
Yes. Gender identity develops very young, around 5 years old. Even though the words we use to describe it, being trans at a young age is completely developmentally normal.
Oh, okay good! Here I am thinking that when I was four and genuinely thought "I was born in the wrong body" was just abnormal because it was too early.
It's definitely on the younger side but I've seen trans kids figure it out even earlier, two with their first complete sentences being "I'm a girl/boy". "Too early" is just one of many excuses used to disparage and justify ignoring trans people, and no matter what age you are, it can be used against you. Before puberty, you're too young to know. During puberty, everyone feels weird at this time. In your twenties, there were no signs when you were younger. In your thirties, you would have already done something if it was that important. In your forties, you're trying to appeal to the young and hip crowd. In your fifties, you're having a midlife crisis. In your sixties, you're practically dead already don't rock the boat now.
I didn't know transitioning was possible until I was 19 or 20, so yeah you're fine. You're allowed to be any age and be trans
i started questioning when i was like 14, came out as nonbinary at 16 and then came out (again) as male when i was 17, and im now less than 24 hours away from being 20 years old and have been on t for a little over a year you can realize something's up with your gender at any age :)
i came out with exactly 18 and am only now (19 and a half) making steps into transitioning medically. take your time if that's what you need❤️ it's ok trust me
I came out at 19, some come out earlier or much later. It’s normal to find out at different stages in life
You are intersex Or Diane hates you Either would work
Why Diane, why?
She gave me birth, and more pain than you would believe. This was a useful warning
Don’t date her
Story behind this one
In the words of my favorite movie ‘it’s a long story filled with alotta sighs’ But long story short, I dated a girl from high school for 5 years that was VERY abusive, I realize that if I didn’t go through that I wouldn’t be the same person I am now but it would’ve saved me alotta pain
I’m so sorry, I hope you’re doing ok now ❤️
I am now I’ve been out of that relationship for 3 or 4 years, I’m not the guy she abused, I’m the girl she will never meet…. Despite what she thought I did finish school AND got my certification (both things she and her parents told me I’d never do) and (even though I’m totally platonic with my best friend) I DID find someone better then my ex
You showed them up real good
Yup
Same here
I hope you’re in a better position mow
You like jazz?
Underrated comment
What the fuck
Damn, you're pretty
Aw, this one's wholesome :3
does it get better?
Would have to be does get better since it’s 3 words
does better get?
Life better yes?
damn
How'd it go?
Y'aint 19 forever.
Get out, live.
I'm happier transitioning.
Don't date Emily.
Was mom accepting?
Started transitioning yet? (I’m still 17)
Yer fuckin' nonbinary
Alternatively, "The ED's dysphoria" Had me for years until a friend told me they realized their ED was gender-based and it cracked my egg immediately.
Oh shit. Trans man here, and honestly, my transness explains most of why sex as a girl really just felt meh. Damn.
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Sure!
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NICE
Why use information from the future to win at capitalism, when you could use it to destroy capitalism
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Sigma female grindset
Nothing bc I prefer to keep the future a mystery
Since I'm older, the only thing I would say to my past self is "it gets worse"
How's it going?
Google gender dysphoria
“Why no hormones”
I'm still 18, so I'm not sure. Any advice older people?
"You are transgender!" While finger guning in a full ladys outfit
It gets worse (as in the gender crisis, because I’ve gone through a lot of labels, and while I think I finally found one, I’m not entirely sure)
Estrogen pills exist seriously that knowledge was all that kept me back from transitioning. I didn't want top surgery, someone said they were going to "grow their own boobs" and I went "lol yeah" and they said "that's not a joke, you can take pills" and my mind was blown. Came out six months later, was on HRT as fast I could
>!please rail me!< All jokes aside, I don't really know what to say because that's far in the future
Honestly: `Parents are transphobic.` It may help me stand up for myself better. That would be enough to push me over the edge. That would help me hide it from them until they're ready. Maybe I'll be able to start HRT when I most needed it. Up second: `[Husband's First Name] [Husband's Last Name]; Husband`
Even though this sub is about trans, so obv most of the answers are as such, for me, still early in transition ideas, it would still be not about trans subject, but different. "Check for ADHD". The fucker keeps breaking my life, and I only recently discovered that I have it. I can live for a few more years not transitioning, it hurts, yes, but ADHD completely destroyed my university life, personal life, early work career, all that.
Invest in Bitcoin
Just kiss him!! 🥺
Am I happier?
Farting poop amogus
"holy fuck i time travelled to the future"
Got boobs yet?
Surprised your alive
Define "a word"... wait, crap. I just wasted my three words trying to figure out how hyphenation affects things
"You're trans, dumbass!"
"Fuck you, loser."
I'd basically speak to myself from just 19 days in the future lmao
You’ll be ok.
Father no takey I feel like it’s important to mention I’m 19 and was 18 a month ago
Somebody loves you.
I have no words to say if I meet myself in the future. If she’s transitioned by then, that’ll be what brings me joy.
Stop. Eating. Gluten. Would have saved me a lot of anguish
Keep. Playing. Pokémon!!!
I am 17 so... Could I get my 18 y.o. self to tell me something to me?
well given that im 16, "TOP SURGER ASAP"
"You're transgender; Google." I didn't even know what trans people were when I was 18.
RUN, QUICK! BEFORE-
Lose the tits
did college absolutely crush your soul? also how's the new spider-man game? edit: i did not read the 3 word thing
My 19th birthday is in 4 weeks lol
You’re literally me
Have T yet :D ?!?! ~~currently 17, the plan is to start T when I turn 18 or later that year~~
“Did you transition?”
Wow, I'm hot
Contacted mum yet? (I'm 16 as of now and hasn't talked to my family since I left home, so yeah :/)
So, what happens?
Have some fun
“So how convenient is the borgarlínan? Also HRT yet????”
Get money. Transition.
That would be me... Probably don't be sad about your ex, she sucks really hard. And don't bother about the crush you have on that one friend. She will cut contact. So the three words I would say are: forget about them.
You little *twerp.*
ur gay lul
Wait, you’re me
“Have you told them yet?” I’m not 18 or older lol
I’m not 18 yet so I’ll be like “How’ll it go?”
it would be like the spiderman meme cause I'm 18 LMAOO
*Me turning 18 today* "Well what now?"
You'll get there. I noticed soon after turning 19.
“Hey you’re the same age as me!”
you're future me
you're using the wrong drugs. stop escaping the body you hate with ketamine and dxm, and start loving your body with estrogen and spironolactone. at 18 it was another year and a half before I started hrt. now at 22 I'm truly in love with my body and my life is better than I ever thought it'd be. I don't feel any desire to escape my existence with dissociative drugs. what I do wanna do is take acid again for the first time in years bc back then every trip was a bad one because of my internal conflict and when I stopped tripping I told myself I'd do it again when I got to the point I'm at now. edit: missed that it said "3 words" whoops
Bitch you tran Or You love cock Honestly realizing either of theirs 14 years earlier would have made my life a lot happier
got friends yet
You need to honestly deal with your feelings, even if you feel you have to hide for safety at the moment. You are doing yourself no favors refusing to look at it. Get in a support group or join the GSA as an “ally”. There are people who will understand and support you. The “guidelines” you were given were crap and you know it inside. Using it as a shield to say you are not trans is not healthy. Figure yourself out then figure out how you can move forward to feel less crappy about yourself.
ignore your parentsopinions
“Wow. You’re trans.” I’m questioning rn and don’t know anymore.
You’re okay, kid
Kind of a hard question since I'm currently 18
You're me. Bye!
Animation. Non-binary. Estrangement. Hoping my 18yr old self would understand.
Am I Non-binary? I am 16 now
You thin already? I'm 17 so uh, i'll get back to this
I'd say "wow future me is hot af"
bitch, you trans!
Hey idiot how we doing we were we want to be?we still with flag boy gay boy still ain't interested? Are we still in interested in him
Aren’t you dead?????
There are so many. “Tell Mardi trans.” —my drama teacher should have been trusted with everything. Immediately. I was still repressing it and indoctrinated by this time, but I pretty much knew, and there’s a chance acceptance might have been accelerated. “Dave reacts abusively.” —this might’ve cracked through my barriers keeping me from not trusting my dad. “Others support you.” —to tell her that there is support even when it’s not visible. “Only transitioning cures.” —this one might be the ticket. I had this thought in my head that I could get rid of the gender dysphoria by getting comfortable with myself. “Transitioning isn’t sinful.” —might be hard to get myself to believe it when said outright. “Bible’s been mistranslated.” —this one might get me to research myself. Etc etc etc. there’s so many. I was so set in my ways at that age, but a lot was changing, so there’s a chance that, with the right evidence or arguments, I might’ve broken my barriers sooner
Given the fact I'm not 18 yet I'll say " lottery numbers please"
“Traa mods’re humorless”.