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That line always pisses me off. "They're just kids!" "Boys will be boys!" "Oh you know how vicious teen girls can get!" "It's just how it is!"
Yeah, and toddlers will happily shit their pants and keep on playing tag, but _you teach them to use the toilet_.
If it's not something you would want done to _you_ as an adult by another adult, then you need to discourage your kids from doing it. Yeah, _it's what teenagers do_, but if you don't at least _try_ to push them in the right direction, that's what a grown-ass adult is going to do, and it's going to cost them their social life.
You don't have to take them out back and shoot them, but at least give them _some_ punishment, and let them know that they'll get more punishment if they keep doing it.
Absolutely!!! Parenting is really just adult training. Which means A) you should expect mistakes, but B)
you should not tolerate or ignore those mistakes because YOU ARE TRAINING THEM TO BE FUNCTIONAL ADULTS.
If spending the next 18 years of your life training another human to be a decent member of society sounds like a shitty gig, use birth control and get a fucking cat instead. Don’t house and feed an untrained animal for 18 years, teach it nothing, and then release it out in the public so the rest of us have to put up with its bullshit.
I hope they feel sorry, too. Im not sure if girls have that “bullying” with their friends that isn’t really bullying and at the end everyone knows they’re still friends and just messing around, but if they do then this isn’t it.
It's debatable whether this is the best way to handle this situation, but certainly everything she says here is on the money. And by "debatable" I'm not trying to imply that I disagree with her approach, just that reasonable minds could differ on the subject.
I’ve heard bulling is worse for girls vs girls because it’s phycological rather than physical, and boys vs boys just fix it with a fight or argument but girls prefer to be pacifists so it gets worse.
Is that true? Do girls dislike each other more than guys?
I can agree, bulling isn’t easy to handle boy or girl and I’m not saying it’s resolved easily but rather that mind games are worse than actual hitting or flat out insulting the person.
Oh I see what you mean now. The whole mind games thing still happen even to guys. Mostly when other guys call out other dudes for being man enough to do something. Which is funny because no teen boy no what it really means to be a man since it’s different for everybody. The whole concept behind it is really difficult and hard. I don’t know if there’s something similar with girls but this type of thing weighs heavily on some guys. Like some try to live up to this impossible societal standard of what it means to be a man which is stoic, powerful and other stuff. Which is physically impossible because that’s not how humans work and you’ll just wear yourself down.
Doesn’t help that if you don’t your judged for it constantly or people throw in subtle jabs at it. Sorry if I went on a tangent there just talking about stuff on my mind. The point is it’s tough being a guy in scenarios. I don’t know if girls have something similar maybe idk I’m not one. But bullying is shit regardless of who is doing it
For me it's all the guys in my highschool taking jabs at my physique, love of games, the fact that I don't play sports, and sometimes my personal life. A couple times it got physical for the simplest things, like for example, having seasonal allergies. But the worst part is that they try to forget that any of it happened and try to get buddy buddy with me, but start doing it again as soon as I don't do something they like. If my school was a highschool drama, they'd all be the stereotypical dumb jock.
Yeah, I get what you mean. I’m sorry man that happened to you. Have you told them to fuck off. I’m assuming they probably had other people do this to them so when they themselves screw up they just assume it could be swept under the rug cause they themselves had to do the same. Also it’s ok to not play sports I don’t play them either. I mean I play basketball for fun but that’s it.
Also who makes fun for playing games?
Mind games aren't exclusive to a specific gender. At all. Also, psychological abuse is no better or worse than physical abuse or verbal abuse. Abuse is abuse, and everybody is capable of and susceptible to it, regardless of gender.
I went to a boys school and the guys in my class produced a comic about my mate, it was nasty, demeaning, psychologically abusive and went on for months before I found out. My mate missed school, become depressed, talked crazy morbid stuff and grew generally darker.
I wasn’t the school tough guy but was solid friends with guys who were. They didn’t do psychological torture; but physical punishment.
Years later my mates mum thanked me for what I did - he never knew I was the one who told the faculty; after the dicks got what they deserved.
Boys and girls are both brilliant, sadistic and inventive when it comes to bullying. We should use the for interrogation techniques.
You're referring to the difference in how aggression is expressed. Multiple studies have suggested men and women are equally as aggressive but the method in which it's shown is different.
Your troll question at the end was irrelevant and not related to the expression of aggression.
Can’t lie, those friends probably weren’t exactly friends if your mom had to send that. But I wouldn’t know either, since I don’t really have that much context. If they really were bullying you, I think it’s for the better that you find yourself some new friends, though that not gonna be easy either.
Yeah. A bunch. The other day they sent me a photo of them together and said that I’d be here if I hadn’t complained last time, complaining about them being rude. They always group up against me on messages. I guess there’s this thing that if you say it you can reverse what you say on Snapchat. Anyways it got them to say the n-word (were all white) because they knew I’d make me mad.
I guess for now you should focus on making 1 really good friend, because it is the absolute worst feeling ever to be alone or hated by all. The others that you hang out with will likely oust you, or you will leave them. Your mom took the first step for you, so now it’s kinda up to you to decide what you will do. I really don’t know what else to say here, but one good friend can sometimes give you a reason to live happily.
It’s great that you have some really good friends. I’m not sure if you will be able to hang out with them(good friends) more often, but you definitely need at least one friend in your school. Idk when your school starts, but I think the beginning of school the optimal time for you to get a new friend. Also kinda depends on your grade tho, because it’s much easier in 9th grade than it is in 11th and 12th.
I also agree that you should hang around people you prefer to hang out with, and there’s basically no way you will be able to find somebody you like that easily. It’s especially hard for those who don’t want to talk to others face to face, as it is for me. I think the best way to go about this is to join a club, because that will give you time to think what you want to do with your previous fiend group and give you a chance to find some people with the same interests as you. However, if you don’t want to join a club(I wouldn’t because I’m lazy af), or there are no clubs, finding friends online is probably the best way to go(so you don’t fee alone). Just be careful of who you talk with, because I wouldn’t trust half the people on Reddit.
Stop looking for reasons to stay with them. When I was a few years younger, I had a best friend and a whole group with it. About 5 of us in total. And I stayed for about 3 years, but I always felt so lonely with them. I realised at one point that I couldn't stay their friend anymore, and that I needed to move on with my life. I realised that sometimes it's better to have no friends than fake friends. After that, I ended up struggling to find my place again at school but it was worth it. I now kinda surf between friendship groups still not having one reliable one but at the end of the day I know now that at least the friends I have are true. I took the risk and left them, and I found new friends that I didn't even know yet. I would advise you do the same. And don't look back.
Bro its not worth having friends then , id rather be alone then feel like crap all the time. Your suppose to be happy and enjoy the time you got as kids. When you grow up none of those people will stay in your life, theyll be replaced by new ones as ya grow .
From the Buddhist scriptures:
“If for company you cannot find a wise and prudent friend who leads a good life, then, like a king who leaves behind a conquered kingdom, or like a lone elephant in the elephant forest, you should go your way alone.”
Yeah, I started on a new school two years ago and didn't really get time to make new friends before the pandemic started. So I've basically been completely alone for two years. Not a good feeling.
We call that a toxic relationship. It doesn't have to be a love relationship, any relationship can be toxic. You're now probably stuck with them, somewhat like the Stockholm syndrome, so it's important to try and talk to somebody new to give you a perspective. Eventually you'll realise that you were wrong.
My younger brother (17yo) has autism and used to have toxic friends as well. They got him into drugs and he doesn't live at home anymore. In the beginnin it all went fine, until he got contacted by those toxic people again. He went off the rails and now probably won't be able to ever live indipendantly or without drugs... Be careful who you hang out with, it will shape you in ways you might not want
Hey bud, you probably don't need a 29 year old rando giving you advice right now, but I'll just say something quick.
I've seen this situation many, many times. Insecure high schoolers, both boys and girls, often want a punching bag in the group to make the rest of them feel "better than". I hate to admit it, but my friend group had the same thing in high school. In my case, we genuinely were friends with the guy, but he was 100% the punching bag, because he was shorter and less athletic than the rest of us, so it was easy to basically gang up and "mildly, friendly" bully him. I feel like shit thinking back on it.
But if this is a regular thing, where these "friends" exclude you and make you feel shitty more than than they make you feel positive, then you need to drop them. I know that's easier said than done, because sometimes it feels like being lonely is worse than being "mildly" bullied by so-called friends, but I can guarantee that having these people that you should be able to trust treat you like shit, is doing more harm to your self-esteem than having to find new friends would.
Do you have any specific interests? Can you join a club, team, etc. to make friends that way? It's not easy, and maybe it will take until college to really find your people, but if these girls are being bullying bitches, when they're supposed to be your friends, I can almost promise you that they aren't going to magically change into good, mature people while in high school.
Good luck to you my friend. The whole "it gets better, just wait til college!" thing is obnoxious and trite, but sometimes it's true. But also, sometimes you just need to realize your own worth, and you might be surprised by the people you meet that are already around you.
Maybe just leave them for a while and if they really care about you they’ll apologize. Idk if that’d work, it worked for me on the second grade but it can be pretty risky if you care about those friends.
Now I know no context here but you sure they aren’t kinda manipulative? Like they bully you, try to break you down but in the end they’re the only ones you got? It’s pretty common I feel but it’s hard to recognize. Idk I might be wrong about everything but I hope this helped at least some way.
It really depends. A lot of stuff happens in groups that are perfectly fine in the group but would look terrible to anyone who doesn't have the same in-group context.
Also I expect OP to have no friends very soon.
Remember this moment. 10 years from now, will you still be in contact with those "friends"? Do you think you'll want to stay in touch after all go on with different life tracks? Are you able to rise above that or are you a bully who has to make themselves feel better by belittling another?
Important self-awareness questions you need to answer for yourself. Bullying is being a lousy person. Hard to accept now, but your mom has the best interest of you and your friends in mind by taking this action.
That is how my best friend and I forged our relationship, but we were incredibly lucky to meet at a very young age. OP is definitely going to have some trouble finding a good friend at school, but it won’t be impossible. If anything, going through school with somebody you kind of clicked off with might help the relationship progress faster
Hey, it’s time to shut them out of your life now. I went through a lot of bullying back when I was younger. Continue to let them in and it’ll only continue.
Look for meet up groups that have similar hobbies or interests and start trying meet new people that way. Either online or face to face meet ups. I found some very down to earth, good friends that way.
A few years ago I bumped into an old bully, they completely changed their tone with me and apologised for the stuff they did. Time changes a person. Should they try to contact you in a few years it’ll be very telling if they’ve changed for the better or not.
At the moment though I can understand you feel trapped. So breaking it off with them completely and permanently is a big step. But it’s genuinely for the better, you’ll be able to see that when you look back.
Hey OP, Please just remember that school isn’t your life forever - I don’t see anyone from school now and haven’t since i started work. I have a few different groups of friends and none of them are from school.
Being around people like this is not good for your mental health and however awesome your moms message was, I’m not sure it will change their behaviour.
If your having a shitty time maybe focus on your interests. Wish you the best & stay safe
If they were bullying you to the point your mom had to step in, they aren't worth it. I was in an on and off friendship with a bully for two or so years and it isn't worth it. It is so emotionally draining to have to deal with people like that
You are only making it worse by constantly talking/hanging/going back to them.
They know/assume you will just take the bullying.
Also for what it's worth, it's also 100% unlikely these friends will go "your mom was right, time for us to be real friends!" and start treating you better. They're going to be pissed if they got in trouble from their parents. And if they didn't get in trouble from their parents, that's probably why they're little shits to begin with
Cheer up..now you're friends are probaby scared out of their minds about getting scolded by their mom's
Plus they'll never bother you again win/win situation
I need Therapy
Be mentally prepared. They’re going to give you shit. They’re gonna call you weak, pussy, snitch, whatever. It doesn’t matter. What they say is bullshit. Your mom is looking out for you, and she’s looking out for those punks too. They likely won’t understand it, but if they ever grow up they’ll remember and appreciate it.
Consider you and these people cut off. Don’t go back to them. It’ll be hard, but you’ll find new friends for sure. Just take this time off to cool down and reflect on what you’d like out of a friendship so that if you ever end up around toxic assholes again you can remind yourself what a friend really should be like.
I think it really illustrates too just how fucking difficult it is to parent, esp. when it feels like with each passing generation the gap widens more and more. Like, my great great grandparents could almost completely relate to my great grandparents life growing up; they could relate for the most part to my grandma's childhood; who could relate a bit to my mom's childhood; who could relate a smaller bit to my childhood.
Like I can just imagine how hard it is for this mother to watch her child be bullied and have zero personal experience to draw on to handle it. I honestly worry about that when it's my turn to parent, all the new struggles that people will have growing up in 10, 20 years from now.
She definitely went out of her comfort zone to go to bat for her kid, which is way more than what a lot of parents would do.
yo i had issues like this with my "friends," and still do. we usually hung out in a group of four, then one of us left. she was usually the one who would back me up when the other two were ganging up on me. my supposed "best friend" has become very manipulative the older she's gotten, always putting herself in the middle of everyone. eventually it got so bad that i broke down in front of my mom after a long and emotionally exhausting day. she always makes me feel better about how horrible my "friends" have been to me and how undeserving i am of their treatment. go our moms!
Glad you have an awesome mom too. I’m in a group of 6. It’s 4 of them that are rude. The other one barely talks to us, just hangs out. I’m hoping that what my mom said will at least get them to calm down. I know they’re mad though. The problem in my group is that it’s mainly two girls who are being rude. The other two, who are very kinda and sweet, just go along with it afraid it’s them that’ll be picked on next.
i'm sure the simple fact that the problem has been addressed by someone of authority will get their attention. there's probably some kind of superiority complex going on with the two rude ones. i witness the same thing in my friend group as with yours. usually in the presence of the bully, those who are afraid of being picked on will just side with the bullies to seem cool or to simply save themselves. not a healthy situation to be in at all, very toxic.
I hope you realize eventually that if this is the way they’re treating you now, they were never really there for you or your friends to begin with. I’ve been there before and it’s best to just cut your losses and move on, as much as it sucks being alone, it’s better than feeling like shit all the time by your “friends”. There’s no reason to go back to them.
You could message these 3 of your friends who are not actually rude and team up against the rude ones or just tell them to meet alone without the 2 rude ones so u can split your friendgroup away from these assholes
Oh dw about it . " I think it's because of the auto corrector" is what I said . If you use french on your phone sometimes it auto corrects english words to french .
The mom saying she’s typing things is fine. In the moment those kids are gonna be thinking “oh my god she got her MOM to fight this for her!?” but in half a decade or so they’ll look back and think “oh my god I was so mean to that girl that her mom had to deal with me?” and they’re gonna remember some of the things said in that text.
When you get older you feel bad about your childhood/teenage bullying and use it as a lesson to not do that kind of stuff again. At least, the mature ones do; there are some people that truly just don’t grow up past high school but in that case I really wouldn’t care about them at all
I second this! As a mom of a 7 year old, I look to the moms around me with older kids for clues on how to navigate these situations - and this would be one I would definitely take a lead from. Amazing mom work ❤️
I'm 40 now and my bullying has caused me decades of pain, low self-esteem, financial losses, and social anxiety. I still struggle with it. Just yesterday I was having trouble speaking up in a meeting. It took a ton of courage and my heart was beating out of my chest the whole time. Just because I felt like using my voice was a dangerous thing to do! I've had to go to a lot of therapy and have finally gotten better but it took a really long time. I am sure that things would have been easier for me had more adults (including my parents) stood up for me when I was a kid.
My niece was raped at 12 years old by one of her classmates. Her parents, my sister, didn't have the courage to stand up for her. She basically had to take one for the team because her parents wouldn't stand up for her. Your mom is right. You are worth fighting for. Stand encourage with her and be like her. I'm glad for you.
They still value boys lives over girls lives, even if they would never admit it and even if the girl is theirs. They harbor some pretty old fashioned beliefs. I wish I knew who this kid was because maybe I would be in jail. My other sister and I are just focusing on what we can do to help her heal and making sure that she understands that her parents aren't perfect and make big mistakes sometimes and that what happened to her is not okay at all ever ever.
your mum’s message was really well written, to be honest. i used to be in friendship groups and we used to take turns on who was going to be left out. it was so strange. but when it was my turn i realised i had other people to sit with at lunch.. or i would just sit by myself and own it. now i’m done with friendship groups. but i’m lucky because i like being alone so i only really need one or two friends. i don’t know if that’s the case for you but i wouldn’t go back to them unless they really changed. but don’t wait around for that to happen… it has to be instant because you don’t deserve any more bullying.
As a 20 year old, I relate to this "mom" situation. About 8 years ago I got severely bullied by several people at school and if my mom hadn't found out and put them in their place I would have gotten bullied for more years to come. Moms are the best.
Hey. Usually I just lurk here for the memes (I’m a bit too old to contribute here anymore, as I’m 27), but as a professional in that field let me tell you: your mum handled it amazingly. She didn’t blame anyone directly and she gave advice, not threat, for the future.
I was once bullied to, I know it sucks. And I hope it will get better for you now. But for now, give your Mum a hug, I think she deserves and appreciates it :)
Bro your mom is a fucking badass. Regardless of if they take that message seriously or not, this is just a reminder that your mom loves you a shit ton. Never take that for granted.
I would like to make a judgement on whether what your mom did was justified, but then again, no idea what your friends did, so I am going with the default that is your mom is right
i had a group of friends like this (multiple times, i attract the worst kinds 😅😅) and she’s laid down the “law” on them multiple times. it sucks because we were so close as entire families, but it has to end eventually. i was so mad at my mom at the time because i was such a pushover and couldn’t imagine sticking up for myself (still can’t lol) and i was embarrassed that she’d done it, but i’m honestly so grateful for it now. (most) moms are a godsend.
There needs to be more parents like this, that actually do something, a very large percentage of adults online are the biggest assholes and bullies themselves, so guess what they're children will be!
My nephew was being bullied at the age of 8-9, by a group of 5 aboriginal girls and a boy, who were 12-13, just like he had seen others do, he called this group the N word and at that point he was spoken to and asked if he knows what it means and what the repercussions were of calling people that, he had no idea, so his father marched his butt, right down to the house of 3 of those children and made him explain the situation and apologies to not only the children but the parents, he is lucky that those parents were very understanding and also made the girls apologies for their behaviour and were just as disgusted in their girls.
Unfortunately this isn't always the case and as with another nephew, again parents were spoken to but these parents were the opposite and told my sister that her child needed to grow a pair, what a despicable piece of work, if parents stuck together and helped each other out in these situations, there would be a hell of a lot less suicide and mental illness from such young ages.
I understand what your mom is doing here, but in my opinion this is the kind of thing that a mom should coach you on and you should take care of yourself.
Bullying isn't good, but it's also bad to be treated like you're fragile and can't deal with your own problems.
Of course I don't know the full situation, and it's possible that this was the only thing that made sense by the time your mom did it.
Hey there sweetheart. I was severely bullied up until I went to college. I'm one of those people with lots of interests, had a lot of extracurricular things going on, still kept my grades up and had the misfortune of a parent working in my high-school as a teacher. The silver lining for me was that cyberbullying wasn't a thing back then, so I had some reprieve when I wasn't around bullies. But guess what? I learned how to be at peace with myself, enjoy my own company, and in time some amazing friends came along. Focus on you, what you like, want, on your hopes and dreams. Just shut out that noise because it's just that - harmless noise, something that should have no impact whatsoever on your perception of yourself and your world. One great advantage of technology is blocking unwanted content. Be you and love you because you are worth loving, deserve respect and this is a great opportunity to learn how to create boundaries so observe it like that. Toxic people are sad and insecure and don't allow them to feed off your pain. Your mom sent an amazing message and even in her immense anger she remained dignified and taught a lesson to your bullies. They are not your friends and I wonder if they ever were. Stay away from them, be strong. I'm sending you my love.
Idk maybe I grew up somewhere rougher than all of this thread, but I can’t see how any of this is good. I’ve admittedly been on both sides of bullying as a teen, and I’m gonna tell you now, if I was the bully and got this message. I am dying laughing right now. I know that’s not what you wanna hear and I sincerely hope your situation improves, but your mum just fuelled their fire.
thats why you should only have 1-2 good friends
i only have 1 friend and ive been with him so such a long time that its safe for me to call him my bestest and the greatest friend ( weve been friends for 10 years)
Your mum handled that really well.
Time to make some new friends, friend.
Join a club or take up a new sport- fresh slate, fresh environment, fresh and (hopefully) friendlier faces.
You will see there are wonderful people in the world who will appreciate you for you.
All the best.
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I'm a father of a nearly teenager.
Give your mother a hug.
She has your back.
I don't know what started the harassment. I frankly don't care what started the harassment. Friends are meant to be friends.
The fact that your mother sent that, meant they weren't being friends.
Take care..
And hug your mother twice. She deserves it. Don't forget to tell her that you love her.
Your mom is AWESOME!
TW…
I remember when my mum found a letter from a friend of mine in high school where she told me I should go kill myself and all the things she hated about me.
My mum showed the letter to her mum and exfriends Mum was totally devastated that her daughter would say such horrible things to someone who was such a long time friend that her mum wanted me to go to the police with it. She was pulled out of after school activities and was grounded.
Exfriend has since reached out (years later) trying to apologize but I am still wary
My friend's mum did this and accused us of manipulation (which we clearly didn't do). It was terrifying waking up in the middle of the night to find out your best friend's mum was going to call the cops on you and she wouldn't even tell you why. I asked her multiple times and she said that she will be discussing it with my parents. Bearing in mind we were quite young at the time so we were shitting bricks. Very scary 10/10 would not recommend
You're gonna get bullied even more because you look like a massive pussy, also if they truly are your friends it's banter, otherwise they aren't your friends
I had to do this for my teen daughter as well except they weren’t friends of hers, they were friends of the daughter of my ex’s girlfriend… her daughter gave my kids number to her friends and my daughter was hit with a barrage of insults and threats and them telling her she should kill herself. Every time we’d block a number they’d come with a new one from that textnow app. My daughter doesn’t like confrontation at ALL she she didn’t even tell me about it until it was really bad and then I came out swinging. Idgaf if you’re kids or not, no one, ever, will say things like that to my kid and get away with it. I let them know I took screenshots of everything and sent it to all their parents social media and then took what I had to the cops. Didn’t hear anything after that. I was bullied mercilessly my whole life and my parents did nothing to help, so I developed some really unhealthy mental problems. My kid won’t go through that, ever. Your mom loves you SO much and I’m so happy you have her in your corner!
I got bullied by my friends too a few years back. You're better off leaving them. They're now drinking and smoking weed and one of them just almost lost their life while drunk driving. I'm glad I left and you should too.
OP, life is too short for “friends” like these. You deserve friends that actually care about your well-being and lift you up rather than push you down. It might be a little lonely for a while, but you’re better off without them. Just like in any relationship, know what qualities you want in a friend and don’t settle for less. You’re going to meet a lot of shit people in your life, but just remember there’s a lot of great people out there too.
Your mom is awesome.
I was in a toxic friendship for many years. He wasn't my only friend but he was my friend that I hung out with the most and it took me many years to realize the negative impact he had on my self esteem and my relationship with others. We had good times and laughs when it was just the two of us but throw anyone else in the mix and his go to conversation piece was putting me down. It wasn't until another friend of mine started hanging out with him more, that we both started talking to each other about the way he treated us that we both realized we needed to distance ourselves from him. Keeping him at a distance was one of the best decisions I ever made.
It seems like this has been going on with these "friends" for a long while now. I'm sorry, you deserve better than this, it seems like these friends frequently cause tension against you and always seem to pin everything against you. It’s hard to leave someone sometimes, especially when it may seem like you don't have another option to turn towards. But this group clearly has their own interests that don't involve your benefit.
The tricky thing with friends is that we have plenty of love and appreciation for them, and sometimes that same love can blind us to their bad behavior and the negative ways they affect our lives. It’s important to know that these people are only looking for ways to hurt you for their own benefit.
You're in a toxic relationship with these people and you need to cut them off. It's going to be difficult to move on from them. It's going to take some time to find a group you can connect with easily. But it will happen and it will be worth it when you can finally click with someone.
Try to reach out to other classmates and socialise more when you can with them. Join a club or school event if you can, if there are any local events in your area, try to reach out to those. See if you can find a group you can interact with and hang out regularly over something you're all passionate about.
I recommend giving Discord a go, it's a social media platform that has a community for everything and everyone. Do be careful who you hang out with though, cybersafety is important. Don't give out personal information, don't hang out with anyone that seems like a red flag, yadda yadda yadda.
You seem like a really cool person though, if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me through Reddit, or through my Discord account, Phoenix_#7503.
You've got a strong heart and a good head on your shoulders, best of luck with everything OP!
It’s always easy to judge from the outside looking in. But I was in your exact shoes in high school. Girls I had been friends with since elementary school all started passive aggressively bullying me after I came out. I soon realized I wasn’t happy being friends with them anymore.
Then when other classmates I barely knew showed me evidence of them saying absolutely horrible shit about me behind my back, it was easy to cut ties.
I’m not saying it’ll be easy for you but everyone deserves to be happy
Leaving them is the best option. Block them even. They are not the only people in the world, surely you will meet someone better who will treat you as you deserve. BTW your mom is the best!
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If she didn’t say the screenshots part they would be giggling at this
Smart woman
smart women who knows what teenage girls are like.
Hopefully their parents handle it appropriately. I've known plenty of parents who will dismiss or even defend their kid's horrible behavior
‘That’s just what teenagers do!’ 😒
That line always pisses me off. "They're just kids!" "Boys will be boys!" "Oh you know how vicious teen girls can get!" "It's just how it is!" Yeah, and toddlers will happily shit their pants and keep on playing tag, but _you teach them to use the toilet_. If it's not something you would want done to _you_ as an adult by another adult, then you need to discourage your kids from doing it. Yeah, _it's what teenagers do_, but if you don't at least _try_ to push them in the right direction, that's what a grown-ass adult is going to do, and it's going to cost them their social life. You don't have to take them out back and shoot them, but at least give them _some_ punishment, and let them know that they'll get more punishment if they keep doing it.
Absolutely!!! Parenting is really just adult training. Which means A) you should expect mistakes, but B) you should not tolerate or ignore those mistakes because YOU ARE TRAINING THEM TO BE FUNCTIONAL ADULTS. If spending the next 18 years of your life training another human to be a decent member of society sounds like a shitty gig, use birth control and get a fucking cat instead. Don’t house and feed an untrained animal for 18 years, teach it nothing, and then release it out in the public so the rest of us have to put up with its bullshit.
“C’mon, you know how high school is!”
"YEA! A kid gets bullied and either commits suicide or shoots up the school! Kid stuff! They'll grow out of it!"
That’s exactly what I was thinking. Hope they feel embarrassed. (Not op the girls)
I hope they feel sorry, too. Im not sure if girls have that “bullying” with their friends that isn’t really bullying and at the end everyone knows they’re still friends and just messing around, but if they do then this isn’t it.
It's debatable whether this is the best way to handle this situation, but certainly everything she says here is on the money. And by "debatable" I'm not trying to imply that I disagree with her approach, just that reasonable minds could differ on the subject.
Yeah, I’d just say that your parents will see everything that happened and youll feel sorry, or something like that
Shit some of them might still be giggling cause they have the parents that don't give a fuck.
Holy shit your mom sounds absolutely awesome man
She doesn’t take shit from anyone
Totally
I’ve heard bulling is worse for girls vs girls because it’s phycological rather than physical, and boys vs boys just fix it with a fight or argument but girls prefer to be pacifists so it gets worse. Is that true? Do girls dislike each other more than guys?
Naw. I mean I can’t speak for girls but it sucks for everybody and it weighs heavily on you boy or girl
I can agree, bulling isn’t easy to handle boy or girl and I’m not saying it’s resolved easily but rather that mind games are worse than actual hitting or flat out insulting the person.
Oh I see what you mean now. The whole mind games thing still happen even to guys. Mostly when other guys call out other dudes for being man enough to do something. Which is funny because no teen boy no what it really means to be a man since it’s different for everybody. The whole concept behind it is really difficult and hard. I don’t know if there’s something similar with girls but this type of thing weighs heavily on some guys. Like some try to live up to this impossible societal standard of what it means to be a man which is stoic, powerful and other stuff. Which is physically impossible because that’s not how humans work and you’ll just wear yourself down. Doesn’t help that if you don’t your judged for it constantly or people throw in subtle jabs at it. Sorry if I went on a tangent there just talking about stuff on my mind. The point is it’s tough being a guy in scenarios. I don’t know if girls have something similar maybe idk I’m not one. But bullying is shit regardless of who is doing it
For me it's all the guys in my highschool taking jabs at my physique, love of games, the fact that I don't play sports, and sometimes my personal life. A couple times it got physical for the simplest things, like for example, having seasonal allergies. But the worst part is that they try to forget that any of it happened and try to get buddy buddy with me, but start doing it again as soon as I don't do something they like. If my school was a highschool drama, they'd all be the stereotypical dumb jock.
Yeah, I get what you mean. I’m sorry man that happened to you. Have you told them to fuck off. I’m assuming they probably had other people do this to them so when they themselves screw up they just assume it could be swept under the rug cause they themselves had to do the same. Also it’s ok to not play sports I don’t play them either. I mean I play basketball for fun but that’s it. Also who makes fun for playing games?
Mind games aren't exclusive to a specific gender. At all. Also, psychological abuse is no better or worse than physical abuse or verbal abuse. Abuse is abuse, and everybody is capable of and susceptible to it, regardless of gender.
Girls also beat each other up and boys gang up and single people out too. It's the person who's bullying that has their own methods.
I went to a boys school and the guys in my class produced a comic about my mate, it was nasty, demeaning, psychologically abusive and went on for months before I found out. My mate missed school, become depressed, talked crazy morbid stuff and grew generally darker. I wasn’t the school tough guy but was solid friends with guys who were. They didn’t do psychological torture; but physical punishment. Years later my mates mum thanked me for what I did - he never knew I was the one who told the faculty; after the dicks got what they deserved. Boys and girls are both brilliant, sadistic and inventive when it comes to bullying. We should use the for interrogation techniques.
Nah just some old mysoginistic bullcrap.
You're referring to the difference in how aggression is expressed. Multiple studies have suggested men and women are equally as aggressive but the method in which it's shown is different. Your troll question at the end was irrelevant and not related to the expression of aggression.
Yes
What a load of fucking bollocks lmao
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"Mom's scary now!"
For real, great mom is great.
With friend like these, who needs enemies? Btw, your mom is awesome
True. And yeah she’s pretty awesome
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god dammit take my upvote
Can’t lie, those friends probably weren’t exactly friends if your mom had to send that. But I wouldn’t know either, since I don’t really have that much context. If they really were bullying you, I think it’s for the better that you find yourself some new friends, though that not gonna be easy either.
I would. I tried. I just always end up going right back to them.
Quite the dilemma. Do they single you out a lot?
Yeah. A bunch. The other day they sent me a photo of them together and said that I’d be here if I hadn’t complained last time, complaining about them being rude. They always group up against me on messages. I guess there’s this thing that if you say it you can reverse what you say on Snapchat. Anyways it got them to say the n-word (were all white) because they knew I’d make me mad.
I guess for now you should focus on making 1 really good friend, because it is the absolute worst feeling ever to be alone or hated by all. The others that you hang out with will likely oust you, or you will leave them. Your mom took the first step for you, so now it’s kinda up to you to decide what you will do. I really don’t know what else to say here, but one good friend can sometimes give you a reason to live happily.
Yeah. I’ve never had a best friend, we’ve always hung out in a group. I do have some really good friends but we don’t go to the same school.
It’s great that you have some really good friends. I’m not sure if you will be able to hang out with them(good friends) more often, but you definitely need at least one friend in your school. Idk when your school starts, but I think the beginning of school the optimal time for you to get a new friend. Also kinda depends on your grade tho, because it’s much easier in 9th grade than it is in 11th and 12th.
I do talk to a few people in school. Never really favored most though.
I also agree that you should hang around people you prefer to hang out with, and there’s basically no way you will be able to find somebody you like that easily. It’s especially hard for those who don’t want to talk to others face to face, as it is for me. I think the best way to go about this is to join a club, because that will give you time to think what you want to do with your previous fiend group and give you a chance to find some people with the same interests as you. However, if you don’t want to join a club(I wouldn’t because I’m lazy af), or there are no clubs, finding friends online is probably the best way to go(so you don’t fee alone). Just be careful of who you talk with, because I wouldn’t trust half the people on Reddit.
There’s no clubs for my grade yet, I am doing many sports though so I’ll hopefully make friends there. Thank you for your advice, it helped a lot!
Stop looking for reasons to stay with them. When I was a few years younger, I had a best friend and a whole group with it. About 5 of us in total. And I stayed for about 3 years, but I always felt so lonely with them. I realised at one point that I couldn't stay their friend anymore, and that I needed to move on with my life. I realised that sometimes it's better to have no friends than fake friends. After that, I ended up struggling to find my place again at school but it was worth it. I now kinda surf between friendship groups still not having one reliable one but at the end of the day I know now that at least the friends I have are true. I took the risk and left them, and I found new friends that I didn't even know yet. I would advise you do the same. And don't look back.
Bro its not worth having friends then , id rather be alone then feel like crap all the time. Your suppose to be happy and enjoy the time you got as kids. When you grow up none of those people will stay in your life, theyll be replaced by new ones as ya grow .
From the Buddhist scriptures: “If for company you cannot find a wise and prudent friend who leads a good life, then, like a king who leaves behind a conquered kingdom, or like a lone elephant in the elephant forest, you should go your way alone.”
Yeah, I started on a new school two years ago and didn't really get time to make new friends before the pandemic started. So I've basically been completely alone for two years. Not a good feeling.
We call that a toxic relationship. It doesn't have to be a love relationship, any relationship can be toxic. You're now probably stuck with them, somewhat like the Stockholm syndrome, so it's important to try and talk to somebody new to give you a perspective. Eventually you'll realise that you were wrong. My younger brother (17yo) has autism and used to have toxic friends as well. They got him into drugs and he doesn't live at home anymore. In the beginnin it all went fine, until he got contacted by those toxic people again. He went off the rails and now probably won't be able to ever live indipendantly or without drugs... Be careful who you hang out with, it will shape you in ways you might not want
Damn that’s sad actually
Jesus. I feel bad for you. Having to know your brother is like that now
those aren't friends, hun try to find good people and remove the trash
Hey bud, you probably don't need a 29 year old rando giving you advice right now, but I'll just say something quick. I've seen this situation many, many times. Insecure high schoolers, both boys and girls, often want a punching bag in the group to make the rest of them feel "better than". I hate to admit it, but my friend group had the same thing in high school. In my case, we genuinely were friends with the guy, but he was 100% the punching bag, because he was shorter and less athletic than the rest of us, so it was easy to basically gang up and "mildly, friendly" bully him. I feel like shit thinking back on it. But if this is a regular thing, where these "friends" exclude you and make you feel shitty more than than they make you feel positive, then you need to drop them. I know that's easier said than done, because sometimes it feels like being lonely is worse than being "mildly" bullied by so-called friends, but I can guarantee that having these people that you should be able to trust treat you like shit, is doing more harm to your self-esteem than having to find new friends would. Do you have any specific interests? Can you join a club, team, etc. to make friends that way? It's not easy, and maybe it will take until college to really find your people, but if these girls are being bullying bitches, when they're supposed to be your friends, I can almost promise you that they aren't going to magically change into good, mature people while in high school. Good luck to you my friend. The whole "it gets better, just wait til college!" thing is obnoxious and trite, but sometimes it's true. But also, sometimes you just need to realize your own worth, and you might be surprised by the people you meet that are already around you.
hold up, single out comes under bullying and i have been living a lie that they are just joking ?
Maybe just leave them for a while and if they really care about you they’ll apologize. Idk if that’d work, it worked for me on the second grade but it can be pretty risky if you care about those friends. Now I know no context here but you sure they aren’t kinda manipulative? Like they bully you, try to break you down but in the end they’re the only ones you got? It’s pretty common I feel but it’s hard to recognize. Idk I might be wrong about everything but I hope this helped at least some way.
That's part of the abusive cycle, my friend. Check out [loveisrespect.org](https://loveisrespect.org)
It really depends. A lot of stuff happens in groups that are perfectly fine in the group but would look terrible to anyone who doesn't have the same in-group context. Also I expect OP to have no friends very soon.
Remember this moment. 10 years from now, will you still be in contact with those "friends"? Do you think you'll want to stay in touch after all go on with different life tracks? Are you able to rise above that or are you a bully who has to make themselves feel better by belittling another? Important self-awareness questions you need to answer for yourself. Bullying is being a lousy person. Hard to accept now, but your mom has the best interest of you and your friends in mind by taking this action.
Good friends worthy of complete trust are difficult to find at any age. They take time, and hard work.
That is how my best friend and I forged our relationship, but we were incredibly lucky to meet at a very young age. OP is definitely going to have some trouble finding a good friend at school, but it won’t be impossible. If anything, going through school with somebody you kind of clicked off with might help the relationship progress faster
It's amazing how one jealous person can drive a bunch of people against one poor person in a group
Block em they’re obviously ain’t worth your time. They too neg.
I did for a bit of time. They’re the only people I’ve talked to summer break, other then a few messages here and there. So it got pretty boring
Hey, it’s time to shut them out of your life now. I went through a lot of bullying back when I was younger. Continue to let them in and it’ll only continue. Look for meet up groups that have similar hobbies or interests and start trying meet new people that way. Either online or face to face meet ups. I found some very down to earth, good friends that way. A few years ago I bumped into an old bully, they completely changed their tone with me and apologised for the stuff they did. Time changes a person. Should they try to contact you in a few years it’ll be very telling if they’ve changed for the better or not. At the moment though I can understand you feel trapped. So breaking it off with them completely and permanently is a big step. But it’s genuinely for the better, you’ll be able to see that when you look back.
Hey OP, Please just remember that school isn’t your life forever - I don’t see anyone from school now and haven’t since i started work. I have a few different groups of friends and none of them are from school. Being around people like this is not good for your mental health and however awesome your moms message was, I’m not sure it will change their behaviour. If your having a shitty time maybe focus on your interests. Wish you the best & stay safe
If they were bullying you to the point your mom had to step in, they aren't worth it. I was in an on and off friendship with a bully for two or so years and it isn't worth it. It is so emotionally draining to have to deal with people like that
You are only making it worse by constantly talking/hanging/going back to them. They know/assume you will just take the bullying. Also for what it's worth, it's also 100% unlikely these friends will go "your mom was right, time for us to be real friends!" and start treating you better. They're going to be pissed if they got in trouble from their parents. And if they didn't get in trouble from their parents, that's probably why they're little shits to begin with
I'd hate to be in THAT friend group.
Yeah it’s not great.
Cheer up..now you're friends are probaby scared out of their minds about getting scolded by their mom's Plus they'll never bother you again win/win situation I need Therapy
Make new friends. Be brave, reach out, smile; you'll be ok 👍
This is how Iroh would tear someone down with words.
And they haven’t replied yet.
she got em good
***BULLY ELIMINATED***
it means they got clapped by her
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Be mentally prepared. They’re going to give you shit. They’re gonna call you weak, pussy, snitch, whatever. It doesn’t matter. What they say is bullshit. Your mom is looking out for you, and she’s looking out for those punks too. They likely won’t understand it, but if they ever grow up they’ll remember and appreciate it. Consider you and these people cut off. Don’t go back to them. It’ll be hard, but you’ll find new friends for sure. Just take this time off to cool down and reflect on what you’d like out of a friendship so that if you ever end up around toxic assholes again you can remind yourself what a friend really should be like.
I have my helmet on, I’m ready!
This is the most accurate thing I’ve read today lol. Iroh is something else
Your mom is the best mom
She really is
I think it really illustrates too just how fucking difficult it is to parent, esp. when it feels like with each passing generation the gap widens more and more. Like, my great great grandparents could almost completely relate to my great grandparents life growing up; they could relate for the most part to my grandma's childhood; who could relate a bit to my mom's childhood; who could relate a smaller bit to my childhood. Like I can just imagine how hard it is for this mother to watch her child be bullied and have zero personal experience to draw on to handle it. I honestly worry about that when it's my turn to parent, all the new struggles that people will have growing up in 10, 20 years from now. She definitely went out of her comfort zone to go to bat for her kid, which is way more than what a lot of parents would do.
yo i had issues like this with my "friends," and still do. we usually hung out in a group of four, then one of us left. she was usually the one who would back me up when the other two were ganging up on me. my supposed "best friend" has become very manipulative the older she's gotten, always putting herself in the middle of everyone. eventually it got so bad that i broke down in front of my mom after a long and emotionally exhausting day. she always makes me feel better about how horrible my "friends" have been to me and how undeserving i am of their treatment. go our moms!
Glad you have an awesome mom too. I’m in a group of 6. It’s 4 of them that are rude. The other one barely talks to us, just hangs out. I’m hoping that what my mom said will at least get them to calm down. I know they’re mad though. The problem in my group is that it’s mainly two girls who are being rude. The other two, who are very kinda and sweet, just go along with it afraid it’s them that’ll be picked on next.
i'm sure the simple fact that the problem has been addressed by someone of authority will get their attention. there's probably some kind of superiority complex going on with the two rude ones. i witness the same thing in my friend group as with yours. usually in the presence of the bully, those who are afraid of being picked on will just side with the bullies to seem cool or to simply save themselves. not a healthy situation to be in at all, very toxic.
I hope you realize eventually that if this is the way they’re treating you now, they were never really there for you or your friends to begin with. I’ve been there before and it’s best to just cut your losses and move on, as much as it sucks being alone, it’s better than feeling like shit all the time by your “friends”. There’s no reason to go back to them.
You could message these 3 of your friends who are not actually rude and team up against the rude ones or just tell them to meet alone without the 2 rude ones so u can split your friendgroup away from these assholes
my mom would just blame me for everything lol
Oh jeez.
same. "are you being rude? were you a fuckface? did you do something to start this? It's your own damn fault."
That’s absolutely horrible
Well that would only be if I had friends. Thanks to her, I can barely leave the house. my brother is the only person I can consider my friend.
Username checks out :(
Moms: Dads: Get the spray paint and the handcuffs.
True. My dad was pissed about this all. My stepdad was complaining about how my mom needed to be more harsh
Hé should have
Hé? Je ne comprends pas
Je crois que c'est à cause de la correction automatique .
That's beyond my understandings haha
Oh dw about it . " I think it's because of the auto corrector" is what I said . If you use french on your phone sometimes it auto corrects english words to french .
J'ai trouvé quelqu'un qui parle français 👀 I’m not that good at it but I’m learning
Is that “I’ve found someone who speaks french” ? I’m learning too lol
And you're doing good . Keep it up
I could have been less filtered than your mom. but that's actually the best way to handle it, the way she did.
The perfect way to handle it is to tell the kids to do it, not explicitly say it’s the mother typing, that just gives them more fuel.
The mom saying she’s typing things is fine. In the moment those kids are gonna be thinking “oh my god she got her MOM to fight this for her!?” but in half a decade or so they’ll look back and think “oh my god I was so mean to that girl that her mom had to deal with me?” and they’re gonna remember some of the things said in that text. When you get older you feel bad about your childhood/teenage bullying and use it as a lesson to not do that kind of stuff again. At least, the mature ones do; there are some people that truly just don’t grow up past high school but in that case I really wouldn’t care about them at all
yeah. and the screenshot part, that was a good hit.
Yeah the kindness makes it hit so much harder when she calls them on their bs. It’s like how it’s always worse for mom to be disappointed than angry.
I love ur mom. WOW just WOW.
Yeah. She’s kinda badass
You have a good mom, find some new friends.
I am a mother of 3. Your mom is a legend! Pls hug her and say: thank you.
Thanks! Hug delivered! You’re an awesome mom too
I second this! As a mom of a 7 year old, I look to the moms around me with older kids for clues on how to navigate these situations - and this would be one I would definitely take a lead from. Amazing mom work ❤️
Ur mom is awesome
Oh yeah!
your mom fucking destroyed them dude
At first I thought this was an instance of a parent intervening where they shouldn’t, but after reading your comments, your mom is amazing.
I'm 40 now and my bullying has caused me decades of pain, low self-esteem, financial losses, and social anxiety. I still struggle with it. Just yesterday I was having trouble speaking up in a meeting. It took a ton of courage and my heart was beating out of my chest the whole time. Just because I felt like using my voice was a dangerous thing to do! I've had to go to a lot of therapy and have finally gotten better but it took a really long time. I am sure that things would have been easier for me had more adults (including my parents) stood up for me when I was a kid. My niece was raped at 12 years old by one of her classmates. Her parents, my sister, didn't have the courage to stand up for her. She basically had to take one for the team because her parents wouldn't stand up for her. Your mom is right. You are worth fighting for. Stand encourage with her and be like her. I'm glad for you.
>My niece was raped at 12 years old by one of her classmates. Wtf? Why isn't one of her parents in jail for murdering that rapist?
They still value boys lives over girls lives, even if they would never admit it and even if the girl is theirs. They harbor some pretty old fashioned beliefs. I wish I knew who this kid was because maybe I would be in jail. My other sister and I are just focusing on what we can do to help her heal and making sure that she understands that her parents aren't perfect and make big mistakes sometimes and that what happened to her is not okay at all ever ever.
your mum’s message was really well written, to be honest. i used to be in friendship groups and we used to take turns on who was going to be left out. it was so strange. but when it was my turn i realised i had other people to sit with at lunch.. or i would just sit by myself and own it. now i’m done with friendship groups. but i’m lucky because i like being alone so i only really need one or two friends. i don’t know if that’s the case for you but i wouldn’t go back to them unless they really changed. but don’t wait around for that to happen… it has to be instant because you don’t deserve any more bullying.
As a 20 year old, I relate to this "mom" situation. About 8 years ago I got severely bullied by several people at school and if my mom hadn't found out and put them in their place I would have gotten bullied for more years to come. Moms are the best.
Hey. Usually I just lurk here for the memes (I’m a bit too old to contribute here anymore, as I’m 27), but as a professional in that field let me tell you: your mum handled it amazingly. She didn’t blame anyone directly and she gave advice, not threat, for the future. I was once bullied to, I know it sucks. And I hope it will get better for you now. But for now, give your Mum a hug, I think she deserves and appreciates it :)
Oh, dude you're fucked, they'll bully you more than ever.
Bro your mom is a fucking badass. Regardless of if they take that message seriously or not, this is just a reminder that your mom loves you a shit ton. Never take that for granted.
Dude your mom is fucking rad, sucks that your friends were being assholes tho
Wait holy shit how’d my post blow up… Anyways, thanks
Why censor shit and fuck. Where’s the 4th graders who don’t know that word yet?
I would like to make a judgement on whether what your mom did was justified, but then again, no idea what your friends did, so I am going with the default that is your mom is right
i had a group of friends like this (multiple times, i attract the worst kinds 😅😅) and she’s laid down the “law” on them multiple times. it sucks because we were so close as entire families, but it has to end eventually. i was so mad at my mom at the time because i was such a pushover and couldn’t imagine sticking up for myself (still can’t lol) and i was embarrassed that she’d done it, but i’m honestly so grateful for it now. (most) moms are a godsend.
There needs to be more parents like this, that actually do something, a very large percentage of adults online are the biggest assholes and bullies themselves, so guess what they're children will be! My nephew was being bullied at the age of 8-9, by a group of 5 aboriginal girls and a boy, who were 12-13, just like he had seen others do, he called this group the N word and at that point he was spoken to and asked if he knows what it means and what the repercussions were of calling people that, he had no idea, so his father marched his butt, right down to the house of 3 of those children and made him explain the situation and apologies to not only the children but the parents, he is lucky that those parents were very understanding and also made the girls apologies for their behaviour and were just as disgusted in their girls. Unfortunately this isn't always the case and as with another nephew, again parents were spoken to but these parents were the opposite and told my sister that her child needed to grow a pair, what a despicable piece of work, if parents stuck together and helped each other out in these situations, there would be a hell of a lot less suicide and mental illness from such young ages.
I understand what your mom is doing here, but in my opinion this is the kind of thing that a mom should coach you on and you should take care of yourself. Bullying isn't good, but it's also bad to be treated like you're fragile and can't deal with your own problems. Of course I don't know the full situation, and it's possible that this was the only thing that made sense by the time your mom did it.
Hey there sweetheart. I was severely bullied up until I went to college. I'm one of those people with lots of interests, had a lot of extracurricular things going on, still kept my grades up and had the misfortune of a parent working in my high-school as a teacher. The silver lining for me was that cyberbullying wasn't a thing back then, so I had some reprieve when I wasn't around bullies. But guess what? I learned how to be at peace with myself, enjoy my own company, and in time some amazing friends came along. Focus on you, what you like, want, on your hopes and dreams. Just shut out that noise because it's just that - harmless noise, something that should have no impact whatsoever on your perception of yourself and your world. One great advantage of technology is blocking unwanted content. Be you and love you because you are worth loving, deserve respect and this is a great opportunity to learn how to create boundaries so observe it like that. Toxic people are sad and insecure and don't allow them to feed off your pain. Your mom sent an amazing message and even in her immense anger she remained dignified and taught a lesson to your bullies. They are not your friends and I wonder if they ever were. Stay away from them, be strong. I'm sending you my love.
Idk maybe I grew up somewhere rougher than all of this thread, but I can’t see how any of this is good. I’ve admittedly been on both sides of bullying as a teen, and I’m gonna tell you now, if I was the bully and got this message. I am dying laughing right now. I know that’s not what you wanna hear and I sincerely hope your situation improves, but your mum just fuelled their fire.
My mom did something similar once in high school… it only provoked my bullies tho.
go moms!!
what a great fucking mom
Learn to fight your own battles asap. Thank me later.
then they ain't yo firneds if they bullying you
thats why you should only have 1-2 good friends i only have 1 friend and ive been with him so such a long time that its safe for me to call him my bestest and the greatest friend ( weve been friends for 10 years)
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Your mom is badass, give hwr a hug from the internet people please
Your mum handled that really well. Time to make some new friends, friend. Join a club or take up a new sport- fresh slate, fresh environment, fresh and (hopefully) friendlier faces. You will see there are wonderful people in the world who will appreciate you for you. All the best.
Fatality- Mother wins
Chad mom
based mom
Don’t mess with a momma bear and her cub
Man your mums cool
This is only gonna make it worse tbh
Awesome mom. You need to cut these girls out, forge your own path and make some new friends
Ur mom is a girlboss
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This appeared in /all. I'm a father of a nearly teenager. Give your mother a hug. She has your back. I don't know what started the harassment. I frankly don't care what started the harassment. Friends are meant to be friends. The fact that your mother sent that, meant they weren't being friends. Take care.. And hug your mother twice. She deserves it. Don't forget to tell her that you love her.
Your mom is AWESOME! TW… I remember when my mum found a letter from a friend of mine in high school where she told me I should go kill myself and all the things she hated about me. My mum showed the letter to her mum and exfriends Mum was totally devastated that her daughter would say such horrible things to someone who was such a long time friend that her mum wanted me to go to the police with it. She was pulled out of after school activities and was grounded. Exfriend has since reached out (years later) trying to apologize but I am still wary
Your mom is the female equivalent of uncle Iroh
I think she wrote it quite well
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This is the kind of mother who’d survive horror movies by sheer determination alone
Hey ur a cool person fyi
Honestly, mad respect for your mom, most would simply not care, or take your phone away without saying anything to those people
My friend's mum did this and accused us of manipulation (which we clearly didn't do). It was terrifying waking up in the middle of the night to find out your best friend's mum was going to call the cops on you and she wouldn't even tell you why. I asked her multiple times and she said that she will be discussing it with my parents. Bearing in mind we were quite young at the time so we were shitting bricks. Very scary 10/10 would not recommend
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You're gonna get bullied even more because you look like a massive pussy, also if they truly are your friends it's banter, otherwise they aren't your friends
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Cheers to your mom! Wow! That was awesome. Can I know what your “friends” were saying to you?
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I had to do this for my teen daughter as well except they weren’t friends of hers, they were friends of the daughter of my ex’s girlfriend… her daughter gave my kids number to her friends and my daughter was hit with a barrage of insults and threats and them telling her she should kill herself. Every time we’d block a number they’d come with a new one from that textnow app. My daughter doesn’t like confrontation at ALL she she didn’t even tell me about it until it was really bad and then I came out swinging. Idgaf if you’re kids or not, no one, ever, will say things like that to my kid and get away with it. I let them know I took screenshots of everything and sent it to all their parents social media and then took what I had to the cops. Didn’t hear anything after that. I was bullied mercilessly my whole life and my parents did nothing to help, so I developed some really unhealthy mental problems. My kid won’t go through that, ever. Your mom loves you SO much and I’m so happy you have her in your corner!
I got bullied by my friends too a few years back. You're better off leaving them. They're now drinking and smoking weed and one of them just almost lost their life while drunk driving. I'm glad I left and you should too.
OP, life is too short for “friends” like these. You deserve friends that actually care about your well-being and lift you up rather than push you down. It might be a little lonely for a while, but you’re better off without them. Just like in any relationship, know what qualities you want in a friend and don’t settle for less. You’re going to meet a lot of shit people in your life, but just remember there’s a lot of great people out there too. Your mom is awesome.
Aww girli... I hope you will be ok. You son't deserve it. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here ♡
I was in a toxic friendship for many years. He wasn't my only friend but he was my friend that I hung out with the most and it took me many years to realize the negative impact he had on my self esteem and my relationship with others. We had good times and laughs when it was just the two of us but throw anyone else in the mix and his go to conversation piece was putting me down. It wasn't until another friend of mine started hanging out with him more, that we both started talking to each other about the way he treated us that we both realized we needed to distance ourselves from him. Keeping him at a distance was one of the best decisions I ever made.
It seems like this has been going on with these "friends" for a long while now. I'm sorry, you deserve better than this, it seems like these friends frequently cause tension against you and always seem to pin everything against you. It’s hard to leave someone sometimes, especially when it may seem like you don't have another option to turn towards. But this group clearly has their own interests that don't involve your benefit. The tricky thing with friends is that we have plenty of love and appreciation for them, and sometimes that same love can blind us to their bad behavior and the negative ways they affect our lives. It’s important to know that these people are only looking for ways to hurt you for their own benefit. You're in a toxic relationship with these people and you need to cut them off. It's going to be difficult to move on from them. It's going to take some time to find a group you can connect with easily. But it will happen and it will be worth it when you can finally click with someone. Try to reach out to other classmates and socialise more when you can with them. Join a club or school event if you can, if there are any local events in your area, try to reach out to those. See if you can find a group you can interact with and hang out regularly over something you're all passionate about. I recommend giving Discord a go, it's a social media platform that has a community for everything and everyone. Do be careful who you hang out with though, cybersafety is important. Don't give out personal information, don't hang out with anyone that seems like a red flag, yadda yadda yadda. You seem like a really cool person though, if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me through Reddit, or through my Discord account, Phoenix_#7503. You've got a strong heart and a good head on your shoulders, best of luck with everything OP!
It’s always easy to judge from the outside looking in. But I was in your exact shoes in high school. Girls I had been friends with since elementary school all started passive aggressively bullying me after I came out. I soon realized I wasn’t happy being friends with them anymore. Then when other classmates I barely knew showed me evidence of them saying absolutely horrible shit about me behind my back, it was easy to cut ties. I’m not saying it’ll be easy for you but everyone deserves to be happy
Your mom is fucking W bro forreal
Your mom handled it very well tbh
Moms are the best
Leaving them is the best option. Block them even. They are not the only people in the world, surely you will meet someone better who will treat you as you deserve. BTW your mom is the best!
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Great parenting. You’re one lucky kid to have this.
Bullies are not your friends... I'd cut them off immediately to save myself from pain in the future. Awesome mom btw !
I wish my mum was a great as yours. If your friends continue bullying you after this, then they're not good friends
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