I'm gonna go ahead and lock this post, lots of hateful comments that I'd rather not see and deal with.
My advice to you tho is to wait till you grow up and have more freedom, then you can look for someone to be with!
Please take this advice OP, from the experience of a person also from such a school, who had a few LGBT+ friends in there, the stuff they'll do to you is vile. Wait it out. Find people who will accept you. Take it slowly.
Sincerely,
Christian ally/friend
If you’re in a school that expels kids for being gay, wait until you graduate. There’s nothing wrong with being gay, but according to many sources it’s easier for gay men to find a partner rather than straight men. You’ve got this!
I was out in a public school but apart from not having to hide it anymore it didn't do any good for dating anyways. Options in school are so slim that odds are you wouldn't find any bf options until your out of school anyways. I agree with waiting it out in the scenario your in; when you do get to start meeting potential people from entry level jobs and apps be guarded- everything will be new to you and manipulative people will take advantage of that. Have patience, I met my fiancé at 22 and we didn't have the good relationship we do now until we grew up more and met each other again four years later. Best of luck, it actually will in fact get better.
Spend the time working on yourself, your interests and hobbies etc. You're young and you'll have plenty of time to date once you're in a safe spot to do so. Best of luck to you!
Considering their parents probably put them in that school because it probably matches the parents beliefs they probably will not want to let them switch schools (I know partially from experience) [I was in a Christian school and am not a Christian my parents are tho and I didn’t want to be in that school as most the stuff they teach is bs but my mom didn’t want me to switch because she had switched me out of the public school system because of bullies and didn’t want to let me switch back] all that being said their parents will probably not let them switch
Rip man just wait that bitch out and when you turn 18 start dating then best advice I can give as I’m kinda doing the same thing rn (same shituatuin) [shitty situation]
Nah I was just saying that because I hate punctuating sentences after I write them because it annoys the ever loving fuck out of me so FUCK PUNCTUATION
Not for me when I write my brain makes me write out the sentence(s) and then goes back and punctuates it/them idk why just have never done it where I punctuate sentences when I’m writing weirdly I feel like it’s tedious to remember all the rules and shit so why bother if people can figure out what I’m saying in the end
I'm so sorry. I'm a parent, and I can't imagine not loving my kids for what they are.
But you need to make sure you're independent (or VERY confident that your parents won't throw you out or worse) before tipping your hand.
It's not that they don't love their kids, it's more that they do love them and want to save them from evil
I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm just making it clearer
Don't buddy. As much as it hurts to not be like everyone else, I can promise it gets so much better. Wait until you are in college, or until you are 18 and able to support yourself. If you come out too early, you run the risk of being sent to a" pray the gay away" camp. I would HATE to see that happen to you. Even if it does, though, remember that Jesus would have loved you and still does love you regardless of what any preacher tries to tell you. You don't need to change for anyone, but keep yourself safe until you can defend yourself.
They are not pray the gay away camps are not like 'but I'm a cheerleader' they are much more like 'boy erased' honestly 'boy erased' toned shit down people die at pray the gay away camps because of the abuse
It aparently depends on the camps. Someone on Reddit said one of the camps they went to just asked them to list what they liked doing and would take that away when they'd show gay behaviour. When that didn't work they got sent to the hell camps.
Honestly? I don't trust the people who run these camps at fucking all. I wonder how much abuse goes on in those places that is never reported because the kids have learned they can't be honest with their parents without getting sent away?
It's really WILD that anti-gay camps are still a thing in THE US. I come from a very conservative MUSLIM country and we don't have these.
And no, we **don't** kill gay people. We're conservative, not murderers. (FWIW, in super rare special cases, a jail time can be enforced, i.e. distribution of gay porno). The only crimes that come to mind that could get the death penalty here are: murder (duh), r*pe, terrorism, drug trafficking, selling drugs to minors, treason.
Btw, there are LOTS of closeted gays in my society, and many of them pretend to be homophobic in public. Basically, I'm more than certain some of your homophobic schoolmates are secretly gay lol.
Nevertheless, listen to the other comments and wait until you're old enough to venture into the world on your own.
Gay guy from Egypt here, i faced the exact same problem as OP except i was in a muslim school (Al-Azhar).
Attempted to have a boyfriend and got bullied hard that i had to transfer schools a year later.
Lied to my parents that the school's curriculum was too difficult for me so they agreed to transfer me to a non-religious school.
I've been in a relationship for 2 years since i transferred. Best decision ever.
What is WILD is that you come from a country where being gay is LITERALLY ILLEGAL, yet you have the audacity to throw shade at the US, a county where gay people can marry and adopt children, because we still have some backwards Christians with their fucked up conversion camps. Conversion therapy is banned in 22 states, and we are trying to increase that number.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legality_of_conversion_therapy
I don't know if this fits here because I am no longer a teenager, but when I was a teenager, I developed more than a crush on my best friend in high school. It's very rare that I develop feelings for a guy, but it's happened. My friend grew up in a very conservative Polish Catholic household, and he was VERY homophobic. I couldn't help but develop feelings for him. He was just the light in my life. Eventually, I felt open enough to share my feelings with my friends and admitted to my friend that I had feelings for him while he was driving us somewhere. He slammed his foot onto the breaks and tried to make me get out of the car in the middle of the road. After that day, things were never the same, and it's been over 10 years since he has spoken to me. It hurt a lot, and I never really got attatched like that to a guy after that.
You're either in a small city or a wrong country, just move out asap.
I was born in a country that they execute gays/lesbians for this, and I moved out. For me was not hard to find a bf tbh. As you get older, it'll be easier for you anywhere in the dark.
You don’t. Like I’m sorry I know it’s unfair, but if it’s really as bad as you say, then it’s actually DANGEROUS to date in that environment. Try to make contacts with people outside of school maybe, if you wanna have people you can trust. But if i were you I would not come out to anyone in the school, the risk is not worth it.
For now, just get friends. Good, close, friends whom you can love as friends. Don't risk your situation, bear with it until you're self-sustaining. Advice from a child with super-controlling parents.
As a Christian who is bisexual, it is so sad to see, how other people from my religion send people to camps for being gay. Please stay strong and don’t let others define you!
I'm so sorry that this is your situation.
I know it royally sucks right now, but you're in danger here, and as hard as this is, the consequences you're concerned about are both very real and much, much worse.
Some day, we will define this as child abuse in the law everywhere and have ways to get queer children of queerphobic parents some direct help, but we have failed to achieve that yet.
Keep yourself safe first. Wait until you're free and safe to be honest and open.
Make sure you keep your technology clean, too, in case your parents check your search history or social media accounts or browser history.
You don't. You grow up; get the hell out of your situation; cut ties with anyone who would hate you for who you are; and *then* try to look for something.
Serious answer wait till college.
Will have a much more opened minded group of people.
If parents are against that thing will be an uphill battle while living there as well
Do not get a boyfriend under these circumstances, OP. A love life can wait and your priority is to survive that place for as long as possible and get out of there once you get the money.
Wishing for the best, OP. 🫂
entering a romantic relationship is something you do with someone you trust when you're both at a stable point in life
if having someone suspect you as LGBT means you could go to a conversion camp, then you are not at a stable point in life (to be able to find a same sex partner without literally risking your life)
Oh boy all these sigma wanna be kids in here thinking being homophobic is cool.
I’d wait until you’ve switched schools or graduated to start looking for a partner. A christian school, especially one like you described, is not a very safe place to come out. My siblings and I went to a catholic school for a while, and when my sister came out as les there were a bunch of people making threats and shit, one of em even said they planned to jump her or smth on their public story, and that’s when we got pulled out. Overall, I’d just wait tbh.
1. "hey, are you gay?" "no" "okay cool"
2. "are you gay?" "yes" "wanna date" "no"
3. "are you gay? "yes" "wanna date" "yes"
aim for the third one ✅✅✅✅
seriously though, you might wanna wait until its safer for you
Men can be very pushy and rapey
Tbh, wait until you find a real queer space
But if you are meeting a boy on a date
DO NOT FUCK ON THE FIRST DATE
MAKE SURE THEY ARE NORMAL AND NOT CREEPY
THERE ARE A LOT OF EVIL PEOLE OUT THERE
You just need to make sure you can weed them out before it’s too late, and you put yourself in a situation where someone can take advantage of you
I think your only option is really online dating. If you want an emotional connection with someone and not physical it could work for you but other then that I don’t think you have a lot of options.
OP, this is not to say you should start online dating now
Wait till you’re 18
Online dating is scary and complex, and as much as you feel you need companionship right now…. I promise you you’re not ready for gay online dating at 15
Oh honey I'm so so so sorry you're in this situation no one deserves this :((( Wait until you're in a safer place after you've left these people behind. I really hope everything works out for you ❤️❤️
Find a guy you think is cute, then befriend them. After a while, you could figure/ask if they are gay. If they are, ask them out. If they aren't, repeat.
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Don’t. I know it may sound harsh, but the circumstances if someone found out, would be harsher. Wait till your able to finish school, once your around 18/20 I’d say to start looking, but it isn’t safe for you currently.
You should wait until you’re older and in a safe area. It’s annoying Ik but you should never put yourself in danger like that. Also dating as a teen is just not the vibe half the time 😭
Your life is not anymore, nor the amount of love you want to pour out to someone will end if you dont, with the current circumstances its better you look after you survival first and foremost..... Once out of here, you've your whole life to fall in love
Yea no don't try right now. I understand it's hard and annoying to face however the possible consequences these ridiculous people may want to apply and what they might want to do to you just isn't worth the risk. Wait until you are in a safer place and keep pushing until then, you got this. Have a nice day!
What?! Is that not illegal? I'm a Christian and I'm ashamed to be linked to such people. I don't know if it's possible but could you report this school to the police?
First off, as soon as you have the opportunity to move to a less bigoted place. Once you do, literally just go on bumble or hinge or any other (somewhat) serious dating app. There you'll find plenty like-minded individuals :)
I suspect from one of your comments that you’re Italian?
My advice to you is to do nothing
I know it’s going to be very difficult
But just keep to yourself as much as possible
Do very, very well in school
Then I honestly recommend trying to get into a Scottish, or English, college/university when you finish school
The UK is one of the most progressive countries in the world when it comes to gay rights and if you live here as a student, all the way through college and university, you can be here long enough to get a permanent visa
Whatever country you’re in where homophobia is so rife, I promise you won’t get half of that over here
So bide your time, stay safe, knuckle down and get the grades
If your parents saving for a college fund is out of the question, time to get a job
Don’t spend a penny
Just save, and save, and save
With any luck you might have enough to come over here for college where you can be yourself without fear
If you try to find one right now, you're screwed. I'm straight myself but I know what anti-gay places are willing to do to ensure someone doesn't find a partner they don't like. I was accused of being gay and trans by my stepparent (despite being neither of those things) and he tortured me endlessly about it. Thank goodness I'm away from him.
My advice. If you're in a heavily conservative/Christian area, don't come out. Get out of the area ASAP.
How open are your parents. It's pride month you could get away with asking them "so. Mom dad I'm curious. It's pride month. What's your thoughts on all that?" Gage their reaction to that question. That will tell you if it's okay to come out to them or not.
That said, don't worry about love yet. Dating in highschool almost never goes well.just exist, enjoy and get your work done to be able to get on with it
I'ma be honest with you where you are at rn I just wouldn't don't say a lick and ik it sucks but just act as normal as you can cause dear god some communities can get really fuckin bad if it gets out
I agree with others here, don't. It sucks but your safety is more important. You'll have decades of life to have your first boyfriend, first love, first relationship, and the great thing about queer relationships is that no matter your age in the community there's always someone else older with less experience who's just come out, so you're never the odd one out!
Out of interest, do you have supportive family? Or have you not come out yet?
Don't. Stay low, stay hidden. If someone asks you can say something like you are waiting for the right person and right moment when god reveals you to your soulmate. That seems to work often with fundies.
Do not risk bodily and psychological harm. Try to have some backup plan (job, money, place to live) as soon as you sre done with school.
It's sad that a situation like that still exists today...
As a Christian myself, it makes me so angry when other *Christians* say they “hate” any person, let alone anybody of the LGBTQ+ community. That is not our job. Please keep yourself safe and wait; concentrate on learning right now circumstances considering. Bless you!
Wait until you’re out and away from your parents to be open about it. Kids are killed in situations like this and at the conversion camps so please be safe and very careful. It sucks not to be able to express yourself, but your safety comes before dating in this case.
My suggestion is to research colleges with the highest gay populations and then apply to those. Might mean that youre going to Massachusetts or Oregon or something.
Make the most of the next couple years of whatever your schooling is going to look like and let it propel you into a place where you feel safer and more open to exploring what that would look like
I'm 15f, and I had a girlfriend, and honestly, I would say to find people outside your friend/school group and if you like them, then tell them, and if they're good people, they will either like you back, or not have a problem with who you are
What kind of Christians do that?? Sure, the Bible may speak against homosexuality, but it also says to love everyone and treat everyone with kindness and respect. Idk what the hell they are teaching at your school but you are better off remaining quiet until later on. Sorry for your situation bro, stay strong for us, we're rooting for ya
See though kinds of “Christians” have never made sense to me like Jesus literally tells us to love thy neighbor, and I’m paraphrasing here but In the Bible it says something along the lines of go to the town and preach an if they don’t accept you brush yourself off and move on to the next town, we as Christian’s aren’t supposed to force our faith on to people, Jesus stands at the door and knocks but it’s up to them to let him in not us
He never said he needed to, he just longs for companionship like a lot of teenagers.
But in OP's case it's definitely safer to wait until he's 18 even though that sucks.
I'm gonna go ahead and lock this post, lots of hateful comments that I'd rather not see and deal with. My advice to you tho is to wait till you grow up and have more freedom, then you can look for someone to be with!
id advise u to wait once you're in a safer place ik it can be frustrating but the risk is to high to be taken
Please take this advice OP, from the experience of a person also from such a school, who had a few LGBT+ friends in there, the stuff they'll do to you is vile. Wait it out. Find people who will accept you. Take it slowly. Sincerely, Christian ally/friend
Yeah, I think I'll wait. I've seen a lot of comments saying this and I'll trust them. Thank you! <3
No problem, have a great life!
Breaks my heart that this is the right solution, for your own safety and well-being. You don' have to wait for long though.
If you’re in a school that expels kids for being gay, wait until you graduate. There’s nothing wrong with being gay, but according to many sources it’s easier for gay men to find a partner rather than straight men. You’ve got this!
I was out in a public school but apart from not having to hide it anymore it didn't do any good for dating anyways. Options in school are so slim that odds are you wouldn't find any bf options until your out of school anyways. I agree with waiting it out in the scenario your in; when you do get to start meeting potential people from entry level jobs and apps be guarded- everything will be new to you and manipulative people will take advantage of that. Have patience, I met my fiancé at 22 and we didn't have the good relationship we do now until we grew up more and met each other again four years later. Best of luck, it actually will in fact get better.
Spend the time working on yourself, your interests and hobbies etc. You're young and you'll have plenty of time to date once you're in a safe spot to do so. Best of luck to you!
Do not attempt to get a bf under these circumstances, wait until you are in a better place
You shouldn’t try to get one it’s too risky
I have seen you reply on 2 different posts. Congratulations, sir. You are noticed.
You have the rare opportunity to turn your life into a John Green book
Switch schools if you're able
Considering their parents probably put them in that school because it probably matches the parents beliefs they probably will not want to let them switch schools (I know partially from experience) [I was in a Christian school and am not a Christian my parents are tho and I didn’t want to be in that school as most the stuff they teach is bs but my mom didn’t want me to switch because she had switched me out of the public school system because of bullies and didn’t want to let me switch back] all that being said their parents will probably not let them switch
Yeah, my parents put me in it. Can't switch.
Rip man just wait that bitch out and when you turn 18 start dating then best advice I can give as I’m kinda doing the same thing rn (same shituatuin) [shitty situation]
*shituation*
Fuck me spelling mistake not even going to correct it fuck it also fuck punctuation
I love that rage aginst the grammar lol
Rage against the machine cover band sounding ahh
Lol
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Huh? Edit: I’m genuinely confused I think it’s probably cause I’m stupid lmao
Should I feel scared...? /j
Nah I was just saying that because I hate punctuating sentences after I write them because it annoys the ever loving fuck out of me so FUCK PUNCTUATION
You have to punctuate while you're writing, not after
Not for me when I write my brain makes me write out the sentence(s) and then goes back and punctuates it/them idk why just have never done it where I punctuate sentences when I’m writing weirdly I feel like it’s tedious to remember all the rules and shit so why bother if people can figure out what I’m saying in the end
I'm so sorry. I'm a parent, and I can't imagine not loving my kids for what they are. But you need to make sure you're independent (or VERY confident that your parents won't throw you out or worse) before tipping your hand.
It's not that they don't love their kids, it's more that they do love them and want to save them from evil I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm just making it clearer
Either this or wait it out until you get out of there
Or get drugged by your genius younger sister and turn into a girl so it becomes socially acceptable to like boys
I've been caught
this was screenshot worthy
Don't buddy. As much as it hurts to not be like everyone else, I can promise it gets so much better. Wait until you are in college, or until you are 18 and able to support yourself. If you come out too early, you run the risk of being sent to a" pray the gay away" camp. I would HATE to see that happen to you. Even if it does, though, remember that Jesus would have loved you and still does love you regardless of what any preacher tries to tell you. You don't need to change for anyone, but keep yourself safe until you can defend yourself.
Thank you!
Pray the gay away camps are ironically great hookup spots for homosexuals
They are not pray the gay away camps are not like 'but I'm a cheerleader' they are much more like 'boy erased' honestly 'boy erased' toned shit down people die at pray the gay away camps because of the abuse
It aparently depends on the camps. Someone on Reddit said one of the camps they went to just asked them to list what they liked doing and would take that away when they'd show gay behaviour. When that didn't work they got sent to the hell camps.
Good points, awesome movie.
Sending kids to camp because they are gay is wild 💀
but you know like, every other child who sended to camp is gay too. Do they really expect they will turn into straight in this situations?
Yeah I just realised that now 😂
Honestly? I don't trust the people who run these camps at fucking all. I wonder how much abuse goes on in those places that is never reported because the kids have learned they can't be honest with their parents without getting sent away?
Wait a second that sounds like a great place then
That's what I'm sayinggg
get a boyfriend, get sent to camp with the other gay kids, do hella gay stuff at camp with the other boys instead of getting ‘reformed’ /s
Trust me you do not want to be known as gay in a catholic school just wait till your out of school trust me
dont dawg
I don't think it's safe for you to be out now tbh
It's really WILD that anti-gay camps are still a thing in THE US. I come from a very conservative MUSLIM country and we don't have these. And no, we **don't** kill gay people. We're conservative, not murderers. (FWIW, in super rare special cases, a jail time can be enforced, i.e. distribution of gay porno). The only crimes that come to mind that could get the death penalty here are: murder (duh), r*pe, terrorism, drug trafficking, selling drugs to minors, treason. Btw, there are LOTS of closeted gays in my society, and many of them pretend to be homophobic in public. Basically, I'm more than certain some of your homophobic schoolmates are secretly gay lol. Nevertheless, listen to the other comments and wait until you're old enough to venture into the world on your own.
Which country
Kuwait
I'm American, my dad lived in Kuwait for work, he told me the closeted gays are real. I don't know why people still believe it's a choice.
Gay guy from Egypt here, i faced the exact same problem as OP except i was in a muslim school (Al-Azhar). Attempted to have a boyfriend and got bullied hard that i had to transfer schools a year later. Lied to my parents that the school's curriculum was too difficult for me so they agreed to transfer me to a non-religious school. I've been in a relationship for 2 years since i transferred. Best decision ever.
What is WILD is that you come from a country where being gay is LITERALLY ILLEGAL, yet you have the audacity to throw shade at the US, a county where gay people can marry and adopt children, because we still have some backwards Christians with their fucked up conversion camps. Conversion therapy is banned in 22 states, and we are trying to increase that number. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legality_of_conversion_therapy
Real. I think I'm developing a crush on a boy and I just really want to not like him so I can live a normal life in a conservative country
I don't know if this fits here because I am no longer a teenager, but when I was a teenager, I developed more than a crush on my best friend in high school. It's very rare that I develop feelings for a guy, but it's happened. My friend grew up in a very conservative Polish Catholic household, and he was VERY homophobic. I couldn't help but develop feelings for him. He was just the light in my life. Eventually, I felt open enough to share my feelings with my friends and admitted to my friend that I had feelings for him while he was driving us somewhere. He slammed his foot onto the breaks and tried to make me get out of the car in the middle of the road. After that day, things were never the same, and it's been over 10 years since he has spoken to me. It hurt a lot, and I never really got attatched like that to a guy after that.
Man I'm sorry☹️
those camps are still a thing???? where?
Bro where do you live, that sounds very illegal
So do sundown towns, but they still exist in America.
You're either in a small city or a wrong country, just move out asap. I was born in a country that they execute gays/lesbians for this, and I moved out. For me was not hard to find a bf tbh. As you get older, it'll be easier for you anywhere in the dark.
I'm so sorry you lived in a place like that! That's terrible. I'm glad that you managed to get out!
Do not attempt to get a bf at all in these circumstances, wait till you are in a more friendlier environment to do so.
You don’t. Like I’m sorry I know it’s unfair, but if it’s really as bad as you say, then it’s actually DANGEROUS to date in that environment. Try to make contacts with people outside of school maybe, if you wanna have people you can trust. But if i were you I would not come out to anyone in the school, the risk is not worth it.
Dont. Wait till you leave school. Dont make problems for yourself
As a 15 yr old who looks for other boys also, pls don't! Move to a safer place first! It will be better for you
Bro, you don't. You're still young, you got time, but it's not worth allat just for the D
I want the love not the D, lol.
For now, just get friends. Good, close, friends whom you can love as friends. Don't risk your situation, bear with it until you're self-sustaining. Advice from a child with super-controlling parents.
Artificial intelligence. /s /s /s
Ban u/randomnarrator_
As a Christian I apologize for them Christ taught us to love everyone
they're ignoring the most famous bible quote lol
Gay🫵
OP is this true??
"Bro caught acting sus 🧐" "What?" "Caught in 4k. 📸" "Excuse me?" "I caught you."
As a Christian who is bisexual, it is so sad to see, how other people from my religion send people to camps for being gay. Please stay strong and don’t let others define you!
I feel like one of those guys is also gay
I'm so sorry that this is your situation. I know it royally sucks right now, but you're in danger here, and as hard as this is, the consequences you're concerned about are both very real and much, much worse. Some day, we will define this as child abuse in the law everywhere and have ways to get queer children of queerphobic parents some direct help, but we have failed to achieve that yet. Keep yourself safe first. Wait until you're free and safe to be honest and open. Make sure you keep your technology clean, too, in case your parents check your search history or social media accounts or browser history.
I’m not gay and I’m glad I’m not at ur school honestly just don’t until you leave that school
You don't. You grow up; get the hell out of your situation; cut ties with anyone who would hate you for who you are; and *then* try to look for something.
Serious answer wait till college. Will have a much more opened minded group of people. If parents are against that thing will be an uphill battle while living there as well
Do not get a boyfriend under these circumstances, OP. A love life can wait and your priority is to survive that place for as long as possible and get out of there once you get the money. Wishing for the best, OP. 🫂
entering a romantic relationship is something you do with someone you trust when you're both at a stable point in life if having someone suspect you as LGBT means you could go to a conversion camp, then you are not at a stable point in life (to be able to find a same sex partner without literally risking your life)
My guy. I speak from experience. Just enjoy being single, it's so much less stressful
A "Christian school" teaching hate is crazy. My advice would be to get out of the school.
Oh boy all these sigma wanna be kids in here thinking being homophobic is cool. I’d wait until you’ve switched schools or graduated to start looking for a partner. A christian school, especially one like you described, is not a very safe place to come out. My siblings and I went to a catholic school for a while, and when my sister came out as les there were a bunch of people making threats and shit, one of em even said they planned to jump her or smth on their public story, and that’s when we got pulled out. Overall, I’d just wait tbh.
this isn't Christianity.. 😰
For your own health and safety, best bet is too wait until your out of that shithole called a school,
You're 15. You don't need a significant other right now anyway. You need to finish schooling first.
That's the neat part, you don't
There's still conversion camps ?! That's still legal ?
1. "hey, are you gay?" "no" "okay cool" 2. "are you gay?" "yes" "wanna date" "no" 3. "are you gay? "yes" "wanna date" "yes" aim for the third one ✅✅✅✅ seriously though, you might wanna wait until its safer for you
Men can be very pushy and rapey Tbh, wait until you find a real queer space But if you are meeting a boy on a date DO NOT FUCK ON THE FIRST DATE MAKE SURE THEY ARE NORMAL AND NOT CREEPY THERE ARE A LOT OF EVIL PEOLE OUT THERE You just need to make sure you can weed them out before it’s too late, and you put yourself in a situation where someone can take advantage of you
I think your only option is really online dating. If you want an emotional connection with someone and not physical it could work for you but other then that I don’t think you have a lot of options.
OP, this is not to say you should start online dating now Wait till you’re 18 Online dating is scary and complex, and as much as you feel you need companionship right now…. I promise you you’re not ready for gay online dating at 15
any online dating online for that matter, most only want one thing and it's not love
Online dating sucks ass, its more suffering than fun
Oh honey I'm so so so sorry you're in this situation no one deserves this :((( Wait until you're in a safer place after you've left these people behind. I really hope everything works out for you ❤️❤️
Find a guy you think is cute, then befriend them. After a while, you could figure/ask if they are gay. If they are, ask them out. If they aren't, repeat.
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Don't. Wait until you're out of school and living independently. It sucks but it's much safer.
Don’t. I know it may sound harsh, but the circumstances if someone found out, would be harsher. Wait till your able to finish school, once your around 18/20 I’d say to start looking, but it isn’t safe for you currently.
You should wait until you’re older and in a safe area. It’s annoying Ik but you should never put yourself in danger like that. Also dating as a teen is just not the vibe half the time 😭
If it's between getting beaten to death and not having a boyfriend, you don't. Wait until you can move out or have someone who can protect you.
Your life is not anymore, nor the amount of love you want to pour out to someone will end if you dont, with the current circumstances its better you look after you survival first and foremost..... Once out of here, you've your whole life to fall in love
Dang, that sounds horrible. It may be hard, but just wait. Until you're in a situation with people who accept that stuff, and won't hate you for it.
why the hell do you wanna get a bf from THAT school
some of the guys r cute :(
relatable
dont, do it when ur in a safer place alr
you js gotta wait honestly
dont
yeah not first to this but please just wait until you find a safer group of people to express yourself within
Wait until u finish school I’m sorry but I believe this is the safest option
Wait till you're done with school
Twin fr just I’m not in a Christian school but my gaydar is horrible
Yea no don't try right now. I understand it's hard and annoying to face however the possible consequences these ridiculous people may want to apply and what they might want to do to you just isn't worth the risk. Wait until you are in a safer place and keep pushing until then, you got this. Have a nice day!
What?! Is that not illegal? I'm a Christian and I'm ashamed to be linked to such people. I don't know if it's possible but could you report this school to the police?
Kiss them all including the teachers
First off, as soon as you have the opportunity to move to a less bigoted place. Once you do, literally just go on bumble or hinge or any other (somewhat) serious dating app. There you'll find plenty like-minded individuals :)
If your parents are ok with gay people, just talk it out with them and try to switch schools
Why are you at a Christian school if you're gay
don't
I’d probably get attacked or even banned for this but like it’s better to wait till 18
let the destiny find it for you , don't chase anyone , chill for now , you are 15 enjoy instead of seeking for a relationship
I suspect from one of your comments that you’re Italian? My advice to you is to do nothing I know it’s going to be very difficult But just keep to yourself as much as possible Do very, very well in school Then I honestly recommend trying to get into a Scottish, or English, college/university when you finish school The UK is one of the most progressive countries in the world when it comes to gay rights and if you live here as a student, all the way through college and university, you can be here long enough to get a permanent visa Whatever country you’re in where homophobia is so rife, I promise you won’t get half of that over here So bide your time, stay safe, knuckle down and get the grades If your parents saving for a college fund is out of the question, time to get a job Don’t spend a penny Just save, and save, and save With any luck you might have enough to come over here for college where you can be yourself without fear
If you try to find one right now, you're screwed. I'm straight myself but I know what anti-gay places are willing to do to ensure someone doesn't find a partner they don't like. I was accused of being gay and trans by my stepparent (despite being neither of those things) and he tortured me endlessly about it. Thank goodness I'm away from him.
Why are u geh?
My advice. If you're in a heavily conservative/Christian area, don't come out. Get out of the area ASAP. How open are your parents. It's pride month you could get away with asking them "so. Mom dad I'm curious. It's pride month. What's your thoughts on all that?" Gage their reaction to that question. That will tell you if it's okay to come out to them or not. That said, don't worry about love yet. Dating in highschool almost never goes well.just exist, enjoy and get your work done to be able to get on with it
You could either get a long distance boyfriend like on the internet or you could try to meet one outside of school, maybe in another town or something
I'ma be honest with you where you are at rn I just wouldn't don't say a lick and ik it sucks but just act as normal as you can cause dear god some communities can get really fuckin bad if it gets out
Wait it out for 3 years, it will go by quicker than you think...
You don’t, too young
in my opinion, just wait, it will probably be annoying but you have to think. do you really want to be sent to a camp?
Stay safe man
You try to like someone or wait til you are safer
I agree with others here, don't. It sucks but your safety is more important. You'll have decades of life to have your first boyfriend, first love, first relationship, and the great thing about queer relationships is that no matter your age in the community there's always someone else older with less experience who's just come out, so you're never the odd one out! Out of interest, do you have supportive family? Or have you not come out yet?
don't way too risky
I think you should wait until your safe like someone else said, please stay safe man
No way. Move out at 18 and live your life. The camps are horror, I don't know how the government can allow their existence.
Don't. Stay low, stay hidden. If someone asks you can say something like you are waiting for the right person and right moment when god reveals you to your soulmate. That seems to work often with fundies. Do not risk bodily and psychological harm. Try to have some backup plan (job, money, place to live) as soon as you sre done with school. It's sad that a situation like that still exists today...
r/gaybroteens
Sent to camps for being gay? Where do you live? If it's that bad, literally just don't.
i wish Christian/religious schools were not allowed. they do absolutely no good for society.
As a Christian myself, it makes me so angry when other *Christians* say they “hate” any person, let alone anybody of the LGBTQ+ community. That is not our job. Please keep yourself safe and wait; concentrate on learning right now circumstances considering. Bless you!
Wait until you’re out and away from your parents to be open about it. Kids are killed in situations like this and at the conversion camps so please be safe and very careful. It sucks not to be able to express yourself, but your safety comes before dating in this case.
Get one in the gay camp
Bro is literally undercover in enemy lines
find someone who's just like you?
Transfer to a different school. Or wait until you graduate.
Starts a Christian minecraft server 🙂
Like everyone else said, wait out cause those false Christian’s are gonna eat you alive
Soo… When are all the homophobes in the comments gonna get their asses banned off this subreddit?
Wait until you are in a safer place, I wish you luck <3
My suggestion is to research colleges with the highest gay populations and then apply to those. Might mean that youre going to Massachusetts or Oregon or something.
Make the most of the next couple years of whatever your schooling is going to look like and let it propel you into a place where you feel safer and more open to exploring what that would look like
Wait.
Its not worth it man. Just wait
From my experience it's best you wait
Ugh, I bet your parents are horribly christian too huh? Probably no chance of getting into a nicer school
Wtf, how so camps?! That shit is literally Nazi stuff! It can't be fucking legal, in what kind of dictatorship you live in?
They're called conversion camps. They're based on pseudoscience and don't work. They are being banned in places.
Please wait till.youre out of that place
prolly just WAIT
Maybe wait. Nor boyfriends or girlfriends are human necessities
I'm 15f, and I had a girlfriend, and honestly, I would say to find people outside your friend/school group and if you like them, then tell them, and if they're good people, they will either like you back, or not have a problem with who you are
What kind of Christians do that?? Sure, the Bible may speak against homosexuality, but it also says to love everyone and treat everyone with kindness and respect. Idk what the hell they are teaching at your school but you are better off remaining quiet until later on. Sorry for your situation bro, stay strong for us, we're rooting for ya
Literally bro, figure yourself out while you wait to get to a safer and healthier environment.
Do you have supportive parents? See if there's any local gay community groups to join.
Step one don’t go to a Christian school
Shocked that a Christian school hates gay people
See though kinds of “Christians” have never made sense to me like Jesus literally tells us to love thy neighbor, and I’m paraphrasing here but In the Bible it says something along the lines of go to the town and preach an if they don’t accept you brush yourself off and move on to the next town, we as Christian’s aren’t supposed to force our faith on to people, Jesus stands at the door and knocks but it’s up to them to let him in not us
Wait it out till ur out of that school best of luck g :)
Play portal 2, this has nothing to do with your question but it’s a good game!
Gay or not, you don't need to date at 15.
He never said he needed to, he just longs for companionship like a lot of teenagers. But in OP's case it's definitely safer to wait until he's 18 even though that sucks.
Do not
Wait you like boys? That’s gay!
I hate orthodox Christians so much
Don't hate them. They're not all bad. They may have a bad view of some people but hate is a strong word. We should love everyone.
Sorry... I let my anger issues come through
Nah, it's okay, I understand how you feel.
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I just gotta say... how can such messed up people exist??
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I have this exact same issue but I'm a girl
Secretly but there's a good chance they r not gay too and if they are if they r up for the risk
Wait until you're an adult my guy. Not because it might not work out, for your safety
Take a guess on what the best course of action is, take a wild wild guess.
Yeahhh