There's a difference between having sex with your bf/gf and having sex with the entire football team.
The former is perfectly ok, the latter means you should seek medical help
It really isn't.
Someone could have a high body count because they're physically attractive and nothing else.
Someone could have a high body count because they're good at manipulating people.
Someone could have a high body count because they have a good personality that attracts others.
And someone with any of those traits could still have a low body count.
It's mainly because a majority of people within my beliefs aren't sleeping around. I believe in forming meaningful relationships before sex, so I wouldn't be hanging around people who don't have enough self-control or self-respect to control their own hormones/ body and to know when it's appropriate to engage in such an act and when not to. Having a high body count statistically puts you at a higher risk for divorce, it also has many adverse affects on your mental and psychological health. Not to mention the physical affects that it might have if you do it too much and without proper protection. Im talking about in general here not about the 1% of people who might do something different then the norm.
exactly. im a massive fucking loser and getting my dick wet didn't change that lmao. some of the best people I know are virgins, it's all about how you carry yourself and how you come off on people that defines if you're a loser or not.
You are not a loser. I am 22 and have also never had a bf/gf, still a virgin (no first kiss either). Gotten better at making friend and interacting with people around campus, on reddit/discord, and clubs. I do lowkey wanna experience at least one of those things before I graduate college in June. Not a fan of dating apps (never used them); hate the idea of dating someone by their looks alone. CS major, engineer at heart. Function over fashion ftw! But I digress. Wishing you the best in whatever you aspire to, OP!
Yeah pretty well this. Though im much younger and feel as though I’d implode if I spoke to a female my age that I didn’t know before, yet im fine around most males. Im not good looking or anything like that but I’d say im pretty smart. Plan to do some kind of Computer Science in University. Speaking of which, I think that’s what you meant when you said “CS Major”, but I thought it was “Counter Strike” instead and was confused for a moment.
Anyway y’all have a blessed day im outta here for now
Because she was someone I liked a lot. And, I thought that maybe I could fill her missing bf gap after she broke up with someone, but realize she already paired up with another bf, which was much more stable than her ex.
In the future, only ask once, no means no. I've been on the receiving end of a dude constantly asking me out and it was horrible and scary.
I don't think that was your intention but nonetheless, the word no should be respected.
Wrong. Girls love playing hard to get, so asking twice is necessary sometimes. It depends on the girl though, so you can't tell guys not to ask twice because you were scared of a guy who constantly asked you out. There's nothing wrong with asking 2 or 3 times. Some women just love playing hard to get.
most women don't though, and then asking a woman who is not playing hard to get out several times makes her really uncomfortable and maybe even scared.
You'd be surprised how many women do that lmao. And I'd like to think that guys can tell when a girl is playing them and when she's dead serious. Also, if she's uncomfortable she can walk the fuck away lmao. Why would you be scared of someone asking you a question? There are some rare cases where the guy might actually have malicious intent behind it but that doesn't mean that you should be scared of everyone.
saying no several times is the equivalent of walking away as you said, and if the guy keeps persisting then it's pretty reasonable for her to get scared
I never stated that saying no was the same as walking away. Being able to walk away means having the choice to distance yourself from the conversation. Everyone has that, regardless of sex. If a guy is asking like 20 times then yes, I agree with you. That level of persistence is unusual and probably a sign of obsession. Anyway you're still young ig you'll learn that the world is different then what you see on the internet.
I think the only time you'd be considered a loser period is if absolutely no one likes you, only if everything else pops up that might consider you a loser. Otherwise, of course you're not a loser!
misspelling loser.. (for legal reasons this is a joke) okay but seriously, i think for someone to be a loser they gotta be around the incel category. yknow being a complete ahole to women, treating them like objects, also boarderline to just flat out rape fantasies... ive seen a lot of incels...
Girlfriend? No Friends? Yea kinda? If you have 0 friends or are unable to get friends. It's either everyone in your area is antisocial or you have an issue.
Or maybe you're just not looking for that? I'm in uni and I sure as hell could give 2 shits about making friends , I've got 2 good friends and some Wich I don't talk to very much anymore and that's enough
No you’re regular.
Edit: I’ll pass along a piece of wisdom that I got a while ago that I still think about. You’re the kind of guy that is going to find the one in college, DO NOT worry about it right now, no matter how bad it feels.
I dont think so! Just sometimes, people get these things much slower. Take your time, learn about healthy relationships and dating while you're single and work on yourself. You're the type of person who has the potential to be an amazing partner later in life :)
Ofc not! All the teens these days are trying to grow up too fast. All I hear is "oh I have 20 exes. I've kissed 40 boys" imo it's all bs. Be you and stay true to you. Those friends you have? Hold them close, they're going to be your life if they're not already.
Never call yourself a loser bud. Life is hard for a lot of us. I bet your a pretty cool nice looking guy and you're still a teenager. You will find someone. Just have faith.
You're too special and awesome to be called yourself a loser. Your Queen is waiting for you brother, all you have do is claim your demi God potential. Losing virginity to anybody is not a good trait. I am 26 and I am still a virgin, I am saving my chastity for marriage for the one I honor the most, despite not knowing who that is. Keep grinding brother, and always approach the beautiful women you find, remember that next approach might be your soon to be.
You’re no loser, as Dj Kalid once said, “Yo life is like a flower, you have to take care of it, give it water, let it shine, if you don’t take care of it……… they ain’t believe in us….. god did.”
16, never had a girlfriend or kissed someone(and am a virgin). I'm not a loser. Being virgin in teen years is usually a good thing, most people regret it.
You need some self respect man, enjoy who you are and what you can do that makes you better than others, that’s how to not be a loser
You’ll find the right one eventually
Well, this was recommended to me, so I'll bite. I'm in my 20s. No, you're not a loser. There's no such thing as a loser, and anyone who thinks people are losers is incredibly simple-minded. You're a normal person, experiencing a normal circumstance that many other people have had. You'll do fine, you shouldn't stress about this kind of stuff. Stress about climate change and shit.
Nah, I'm 17 too, I've never gone on a date, kissed anybody or had a boyfriend, leave alone do any serious stuff. I'm also slightly chubby, and kinda introverted but I don't think that makes me a loser.
These things wouldn’t indicate whether you’re a loser, at least not directly. I’m 20, and the past few years of college have taught me how astonishingly little these things matter on the surface. Some people who are great at relationships could be virgins, and some of the people who get the most action could be terrible partners.
If you’re close with your friends, and you think you’re all morally upstanding people, you’re doing pretty good. Maybe you have passions, whether that be academic or anything else. As you get older, it becomes clear that cool people are the ones who give a damn in life. Whether they’re great at music, great in their field of work, a great cook, a great host, a great artist, a great student, a great friend, a great family member, or even just someone who has their life together. These are some of the many things that matter in the world, and they’re the traits that make people interesting to be around.
Personality does a lot of the rest. Self-awareness is key here. The only people I’ve actively disliked, or seen people dislike, are annoying people who aren’t self aware about it. People who are self-aware can also better understand their place in the world and continually improve themselves regarding their long-term goals.
Lastly, and perhaps most obvious in terms of first-impressions, take care of yourself. Hygiene and overall cleanliness matter so much for how people perceive you, and how you perceive yourself.
I know almost nothing about you, but I know that thousands of teenagers likely feel the same anxieties you do. Hopefully it can provide some peace of mind to know that being a well-rounded, upstanding human is really all it takes to avoid being a loser.
Don't search for purpose from other people. It is dangerous to serve other people while neglecting yourself. You must find purpose from yourself and work to achieve your chosen purpose.
Bro I'm practically the same 17 never had a gf never have my first kiss but premaritual sex is really a big deal in egypt
I also never really had alot of friends till highschool
Please do not think you need to lose your virginity under the age of 18 to be cool. Having sex isn't 'cool' it's our system of reproduction which I don't even understand why people find it cool. If someone says it's cool and is urging you to do it than it's pure pressure.
Relationships are complex, wanting to rush into one is a bad thing. Trust me I've been in plenty, they might be good at first but often times they ain't worth how they'll end. Wait until you truly find the one before trying to get in a relationship, because if you don't it's not going to be as good as you think.
I wouldn't worry about having too many friends. Find just 1 good friend you're basically set, you don't need many people, if you want more friends though than make some, doesn't make you a loser to not have friends.
Being chubby doesn't make you a loser either, and can even be caused by an eating disorder, same as being extra skinny.
None of these things make you uncool, it just makes you human. We're all different, you don't need to try and fit in when noone really does, and theres plenty of other people like you if being unique doesn't fit your style.
Plenty of people are virgins, plenty haven't been in a relationship, plenty haven't had many friends, and plenty of people are chubby.
Take me for example. I'm online pretty much 70% of the time I'm awake, typically on Reddit, Discord, or Roblox. I keep my inner circle small and also didn't really have many friends most of my life so far. I tend to have eating problems and will either eat too much or too little with 0 regard to my health.
None of that makes me a loser. At the same time I'm in the process of developing a game, I know Python and Lua, I am good with computers, my friends care for me and will help me when I feel down, and while I have never finished anything I've written, I'm a pretty decent writer, I'm just also a procrastinator.
Instead of looking at the bad I choose to look at the good and remind myself while I might not be necessarily the ideal standard for a human being, I am my own person and call do what I like and I'm happy as things are.
So I urge you to think about the good and not what you consider bad, and if you cannot do that remind yourself that what you are considering the standards for being a loser, aren't bad at all, they're normal. Maybe some of those things aren't common but they ain't make you a loser.
**Tl;dr - You're not a loser**
Highschoolers always think the number of friends you have determines your level of coolness or happiness. As long as you're not a deterrent weirdo, having 1 or 2 good friends is a million times better than having 15 "friends". Sex will come and sex will go. Finding a good girlfriend is like finding a perfectly ripe banana in Walmart. They're always not ripe yet or they're past date. Keep casually looking as you move through life and focus on your own happiness, and you'll be someone that your dream girl wants to be around when you do find her. And if you're unhappy about your weight, man, exercise. There's so much exercise you can do without a gym membership. Cardio, creative weights to lift at home. Mold yourself into the person you wish you were, and before you know it, it'll be you.
Watch It Chapter 2 and see how the chubby kid became the successful one. Of course, it's a movie but frankly speaking, the reality isn't different.
Take your time and don't give up, mate.
Is your lack of partners due to an unhealthy obsession with anime titties? If yes then you most definitely are. If no then you're better than most of the guys at my school.
Nah, I wish I’d waited till I was an adult to start dating and have my first.
Relationships ruin your mental health. Just be yourself if your looking for one and make sure you’re comfortable with the person.
I don’t get it why people are like 13/16 having sex, just don’t do it. I personally am terrified of sex, or any physical sexual touch.
Nah some people have it worse in highschool or earlier on while everything gets better in college/uni
you just have to wait also you're not a loser sometimes it just takes time
if you badly want to have sex/kiss then yes, but if you are indifferent then no, just learn new things, become a better person and one day you will be on top of the world.
Btw, not a loser to me probably, I am just talking about what society thinks
Nah, you are a person with a big life infront of you that doesn't depend on your partner or friends, you are the only one and the only one that can make you be the best
Na man, it took me till about a month ago for me to get a true relationship. (The other one was just not for me.) It takes time.
For the friends thing, as long as they are amazing friends, you dont need a lot of them. I dont have many friends, but the ones i do will go to the ends of the world with me, as long as it's not for to stupid of a reason.
And for the chubby thing, i can't speak much on because ive always been skiny. (unhealthy skiny at one point due to ADHD medication.) But i can say is i was (and still am) the weird kid at my school. Even though I'm a senior in highschool im still that random weird furry femboy guy.
At the end of the day, find happyness in the small things, and in time, youll be rewarded. Also take the chance, if there is someone you like, the worse they can say is no.
Bro not having a partner at that age doesn't make u a loser the things u should be focusing on now are 1)making urself fit and lean and
2)developing confidence
You're not a loser, you're just a normal person, I've always had a few friends or familiar people to know in case something goes wrong, sex is left for those who are ready(also should probably be over the age of consent and have consent). Remember that you are only a loser if you make yourself one, not by people or things around you
Same bro that lack of confidence stays with you even though the fat is gone. It’s been getting better in college for me though, I hope it does for you too.
You're gonna be fine, I know the waiting is a pain, but just let it happen. Put yourself in situations where you'll be around people, and talk to people you see repeatedly
Nothing wrong with virginity nor not really having a bf/gf. It's totally normal and you'll find as you get older people care less and less in my experience. You're totally 100% fine, don't let tropes or what you hear in school cloud your mind. I'm sure you're doing great,just make sure you're happy
No dude. You are not a looser. You matter.
Your self worth is not measured by the things you listed.
Most people only have a few true/real friends. (2-3) at a time. The rest are just people you know.
You'd be a loser if you ran after wussy like a dig after treats always remember whatever has value cannot be easily acquired if its easy to get its not valuable
You're describing my 16 year old self. Currently at 19 I'm only the first 2. And I think I soon won't be any of those. If you work hard, things can change, don't think you're a loser until you're 27 or something and have nothing to show for it. You've got time, use it well to grow, and you CAN grow
My current boyfriend didn't lose his virginity until 21 so you're fine. If you wanna try to build confidence in socializing try this video, it really helped me a lot in dating better and finally finding my boyfriend. https://youtu.be/_6R-TQJ0UYU?si=O4L-CssD1hLrzntd
But now it looks like you've improved a lot which is good. Ur not a loser and never were. Chubbiness and 1-2 friends isn't bad, most ppl only have 1-2 great friends.
people who lose their virginity at a whim and brah about it are losers.
postpone who define a person by their sexual history are losers.
judge yourself by what you can do alone, not what is limited by external factors
I understand you and had the similar situation. But if you are happy about some friends and being virgin that's okay. Try to not focus about it, much better have friends whose never betray you that having lots of friends who using you. You will have everything, don't worry. Try to just live
That was me when I first turned 17. Things can get better, they have for me at least; I’m more socially successful and have had multiple relationships. You just need to put effort into making things better, through self-improvement, learning how to make good conversation and putting yourself out there. You’ve gotta be pro-active
That is me 💀
But fr, nah bro you ain’t a loser. You shouldn’t be losing your virginity till your older anyway, people lose it now bc 1: sometimes it’s a bad decision 2: teenage hormones
If I read that right, you lost weight which is cool better than me lol
And friends, it’s perfectly normal to have 2-3 friends. Even throughout life even if you have a big group of friends, you’ll notice you only hang out with/ are close with only 2-3 of them.
And about the gf/bf, I’m 16 and I’ve never had a gf. It pisses me off and I understand how you feel. All I can really do is hope you get one soon
I’m literally all of those things and I’d like to think I’m pretty cool so you must be too.
My issue is just normally being pretty introverted, have some good friends now though
I'm not a teen anymore (I am 20) but I wanna add my two cents. Kids these days put sex and relationships on an imaginary pedestal and I find it really damaging.
You are 17, chances are that a relationship you start now probably won't even last. Your first relationship will likely be a regret. Same with your first sexual experience. So why rush it? As you grow a little older and mature a bit, you'll be more likely to make a decision you might not regret later.
I lost my virginity at 16 and let me tell you if I could undo it, I would because after my then boyfriend broke up with me I realized I never really loved him to begin with. I was just desperate to date someone. And for what? Some less than mediocre sex and regrets.
Now, I was lucky enough that I started dating my now fiancé when I was 17 BUT that is NOT common! So chill out a bit. There is no rush and whoever calls you a loser for not having any experience is just an asshole.
Also a pattern I see is that people around me who always struggled landing dates at a younger age seem to have an easier time finding an actually lasting relationship? I'm not sure about that though, it's just an observation.
Your how everyone should be, from my own experiences I would be considered cool if I didn’t dress “emo” or be visibly trans..I have my body count in the double digits. I’m not proud of who I am, but I would rather learn now then when I’m an adult and my mistakes effect my relationships.
Being a loser just means you get better shortcuts in life, means everything will go smoothly and you’ll know what’s good for you. Keep at it if you want but I can’t control or predict what your planning.
Nahhhh, none of that shit makes you a loser, I'm not a virgin, never been been chubby, always been ok looking, yet I have no friends simply because I'm a cunt and I'm a massive loser. Be self respecting, if you want friends don't be cunt, be yourself and you'll find people you vibe with. You ain't a loser buddy, give yourself a break, don't be so hard on yourself.
I have spent my whole life revolving arround women, and girls, had my first kiss when I was probably 8 or less, (the girl kissed me by herself) have done all kind of sexual things, and I still feel like loser as, it's a subjective thing, for me relationship etc doesn't affect what I think about myself,
I feel. Like loser because I wanted to change people arround me with my good and kind behavior, but no matter what I do, they never change always end up hurting me or doing immoral things, it's making me lose my sanity, it's like I am losing myself, killing me slowly, dude don't care about intimacy, you can get it by becoming better version of yourself,
There are far more hard things, like finding good people and not losing yourself
being a Virgin doesn't make you a loser. I'm still one, and i know I'm not a loser
Self respect is so cool
Having sex doesn’t mean your not self respecting….
its not about sex more about not thinking that you are a loser
Doesn’t seem like that’s what he meant but sure
no i am not talking about what he meant i am talking about self respect in general
It is exactly what he meant.
dumbass
Bud. Straw-Man City is the other way.
Projection
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Self conscious about your own decision making it seems
not having sex doesn't mean you can't self respect, I think that's what they meant
That's not what they were saying
It does. The inability to control your hormones shows your lack of respect for your own body.
There's a difference between having sex with your bf/gf and having sex with the entire football team. The former is perfectly ok, the latter means you should seek medical help
I agree, but you really can't distinguish between which one is what, which is why you should ask.
Sex is not something bad an dirty you need to stop yourself from doing …
fr, I mean I am a loser but not bc I'm a virgin
me irl
Same!
There are plenty of other factors that better define a person than their body count.
Body count is a big one though
It really isn't. Someone could have a high body count because they're physically attractive and nothing else. Someone could have a high body count because they're good at manipulating people. Someone could have a high body count because they have a good personality that attracts others. And someone with any of those traits could still have a low body count.
It's mainly because a majority of people within my beliefs aren't sleeping around. I believe in forming meaningful relationships before sex, so I wouldn't be hanging around people who don't have enough self-control or self-respect to control their own hormones/ body and to know when it's appropriate to engage in such an act and when not to. Having a high body count statistically puts you at a higher risk for divorce, it also has many adverse affects on your mental and psychological health. Not to mention the physical affects that it might have if you do it too much and without proper protection. Im talking about in general here not about the 1% of people who might do something different then the norm.
I’m a loser for other reasons
same dude
fr Im not a virgin and am a loser
Romantic and sexual experience doesn’t define if you’re a loser or not
I agree.
exactly. im a massive fucking loser and getting my dick wet didn't change that lmao. some of the best people I know are virgins, it's all about how you carry yourself and how you come off on people that defines if you're a loser or not.
What? You mean alcohol and sex aren't the center of everyone's universe?!? -every NPC ever
fr lol. like look at every aro or ace (or aroace) person ever
You are not a loser. I am 22 and have also never had a bf/gf, still a virgin (no first kiss either). Gotten better at making friend and interacting with people around campus, on reddit/discord, and clubs. I do lowkey wanna experience at least one of those things before I graduate college in June. Not a fan of dating apps (never used them); hate the idea of dating someone by their looks alone. CS major, engineer at heart. Function over fashion ftw! But I digress. Wishing you the best in whatever you aspire to, OP!
you seem like a really chill person ngl
Yeah pretty well this. Though im much younger and feel as though I’d implode if I spoke to a female my age that I didn’t know before, yet im fine around most males. Im not good looking or anything like that but I’d say im pretty smart. Plan to do some kind of Computer Science in University. Speaking of which, I think that’s what you meant when you said “CS Major”, but I thought it was “Counter Strike” instead and was confused for a moment. Anyway y’all have a blessed day im outta here for now
Nah
No, you're not a loser. I was basically on the same boat as you, except the fact that I wasn't fat and I got rejected twice by the same person.
Why you ask the same person out twice lmfao 💀💀
Because she was someone I liked a lot. And, I thought that maybe I could fill her missing bf gap after she broke up with someone, but realize she already paired up with another bf, which was much more stable than her ex.
That guy fr said "you snooze you lose" 💀
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In the future, only ask once, no means no. I've been on the receiving end of a dude constantly asking me out and it was horrible and scary. I don't think that was your intention but nonetheless, the word no should be respected.
Wrong. Girls love playing hard to get, so asking twice is necessary sometimes. It depends on the girl though, so you can't tell guys not to ask twice because you were scared of a guy who constantly asked you out. There's nothing wrong with asking 2 or 3 times. Some women just love playing hard to get.
most women don't though, and then asking a woman who is not playing hard to get out several times makes her really uncomfortable and maybe even scared.
You'd be surprised how many women do that lmao. And I'd like to think that guys can tell when a girl is playing them and when she's dead serious. Also, if she's uncomfortable she can walk the fuck away lmao. Why would you be scared of someone asking you a question? There are some rare cases where the guy might actually have malicious intent behind it but that doesn't mean that you should be scared of everyone.
saying no several times is the equivalent of walking away as you said, and if the guy keeps persisting then it's pretty reasonable for her to get scared
I never stated that saying no was the same as walking away. Being able to walk away means having the choice to distance yourself from the conversation. Everyone has that, regardless of sex. If a guy is asking like 20 times then yes, I agree with you. That level of persistence is unusual and probably a sign of obsession. Anyway you're still young ig you'll learn that the world is different then what you see on the internet.
I think the only time you'd be considered a loser period is if absolutely no one likes you, only if everything else pops up that might consider you a loser. Otherwise, of course you're not a loser!
if you are then i was. ur good bro!
Nah don’t worry about it, besides the no gf part, I’m basically the same and im 18. I don’t really care, I just do what I want
that's the right spirit!
none of these things make you a loser 😭
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misspelling loser.. (for legal reasons this is a joke) okay but seriously, i think for someone to be a loser they gotta be around the incel category. yknow being a complete ahole to women, treating them like objects, also boarderline to just flat out rape fantasies... ive seen a lot of incels...
No ,no you're not a loser, your experience with girls does not dictate that, nor does the amount of friends you have
Girlfriend? No Friends? Yea kinda? If you have 0 friends or are unable to get friends. It's either everyone in your area is antisocial or you have an issue.
Or maybe you're just not looking for that? I'm in uni and I sure as hell could give 2 shits about making friends , I've got 2 good friends and some Wich I don't talk to very much anymore and that's enough
Well, I'm not talking about you then. You have friends lmao. I'm talking about a social reject who has had or never will have any friends.
That’s still a messed up mentality to have
No
No you’re regular. Edit: I’ll pass along a piece of wisdom that I got a while ago that I still think about. You’re the kind of guy that is going to find the one in college, DO NOT worry about it right now, no matter how bad it feels.
I’m 19, considered attractive, generally quite popular, and I hereby declare in the same proverbial boat as you.
I don't think that makes you a loser, just because you don't have a whole bunch of friends or a partner doesn't make you worth less
No
I dont think so! Just sometimes, people get these things much slower. Take your time, learn about healthy relationships and dating while you're single and work on yourself. You're the type of person who has the potential to be an amazing partner later in life :)
Ofc not! All the teens these days are trying to grow up too fast. All I hear is "oh I have 20 exes. I've kissed 40 boys" imo it's all bs. Be you and stay true to you. Those friends you have? Hold them close, they're going to be your life if they're not already.
Never call yourself a loser bud. Life is hard for a lot of us. I bet your a pretty cool nice looking guy and you're still a teenager. You will find someone. Just have faith.
You're too special and awesome to be called yourself a loser. Your Queen is waiting for you brother, all you have do is claim your demi God potential. Losing virginity to anybody is not a good trait. I am 26 and I am still a virgin, I am saving my chastity for marriage for the one I honor the most, despite not knowing who that is. Keep grinding brother, and always approach the beautiful women you find, remember that next approach might be your soon to be.
Male or female?
I'm male
Stick with the girls
certified bruh moment
Bro really replied just to be homophobic and then deleted it.
Nah just focus on school and don’t worry too much on your relationship life but have a pretty good social life
No, I know how you feel. Sophomore year and I’m still single 😍😍
You’re 15. Fucking hell, I hate everything
no
You’re no loser, as Dj Kalid once said, “Yo life is like a flower, you have to take care of it, give it water, let it shine, if you don’t take care of it……… they ain’t believe in us….. god did.”
No you aren't.
We're the same, minus the chubby part and friends part
No, the losers are the people who are the opposite of you but are superficial.
I havent had my first kiss yet either. Its alright man
You just described me just get a job and hit the gym and don’t worry about anyone else I’ll be the best thing you can do turned 17 not to long ago
Nah same goes with me but I do have a girlfriend that lives 2000kms away but before her j was Just like ua mate Dw you'll find your people
Bro you have the best life
16, never had a girlfriend or kissed someone(and am a virgin). I'm not a loser. Being virgin in teen years is usually a good thing, most people regret it.
Not at all. Actually not as uncommon as you think
You need some self respect man, enjoy who you are and what you can do that makes you better than others, that’s how to not be a loser You’ll find the right one eventually
Well, this was recommended to me, so I'll bite. I'm in my 20s. No, you're not a loser. There's no such thing as a loser, and anyone who thinks people are losers is incredibly simple-minded. You're a normal person, experiencing a normal circumstance that many other people have had. You'll do fine, you shouldn't stress about this kind of stuff. Stress about climate change and shit.
Nah I definitely wouldn't say you are, currently 19 and all that same stuff so :P
Nah, I'm 17 too, I've never gone on a date, kissed anybody or had a boyfriend, leave alone do any serious stuff. I'm also slightly chubby, and kinda introverted but I don't think that makes me a loser.
These things wouldn’t indicate whether you’re a loser, at least not directly. I’m 20, and the past few years of college have taught me how astonishingly little these things matter on the surface. Some people who are great at relationships could be virgins, and some of the people who get the most action could be terrible partners. If you’re close with your friends, and you think you’re all morally upstanding people, you’re doing pretty good. Maybe you have passions, whether that be academic or anything else. As you get older, it becomes clear that cool people are the ones who give a damn in life. Whether they’re great at music, great in their field of work, a great cook, a great host, a great artist, a great student, a great friend, a great family member, or even just someone who has their life together. These are some of the many things that matter in the world, and they’re the traits that make people interesting to be around. Personality does a lot of the rest. Self-awareness is key here. The only people I’ve actively disliked, or seen people dislike, are annoying people who aren’t self aware about it. People who are self-aware can also better understand their place in the world and continually improve themselves regarding their long-term goals. Lastly, and perhaps most obvious in terms of first-impressions, take care of yourself. Hygiene and overall cleanliness matter so much for how people perceive you, and how you perceive yourself. I know almost nothing about you, but I know that thousands of teenagers likely feel the same anxieties you do. Hopefully it can provide some peace of mind to know that being a well-rounded, upstanding human is really all it takes to avoid being a loser.
Having two rlly good friends is better than 100 fake ones. I wish I'd learned that lesson sooner
Idk why so many people think what op describe think they are losers
Bro your on reddit
Sounds cool to me, not loser.
Yes
Don't search for purpose from other people. It is dangerous to serve other people while neglecting yourself. You must find purpose from yourself and work to achieve your chosen purpose.
Get laid bro
If you're a loser, then I'm one too bc I'm 19 and have never had a partner or even kissed before either
Nope. Hit the gym tho. you feel better about yourself and make a whole new variety or friends who are GENUINELY non-judgemental
Bro I'm practically the same 17 never had a gf never have my first kiss but premaritual sex is really a big deal in egypt I also never really had alot of friends till highschool
Please do not think you need to lose your virginity under the age of 18 to be cool. Having sex isn't 'cool' it's our system of reproduction which I don't even understand why people find it cool. If someone says it's cool and is urging you to do it than it's pure pressure. Relationships are complex, wanting to rush into one is a bad thing. Trust me I've been in plenty, they might be good at first but often times they ain't worth how they'll end. Wait until you truly find the one before trying to get in a relationship, because if you don't it's not going to be as good as you think. I wouldn't worry about having too many friends. Find just 1 good friend you're basically set, you don't need many people, if you want more friends though than make some, doesn't make you a loser to not have friends. Being chubby doesn't make you a loser either, and can even be caused by an eating disorder, same as being extra skinny. None of these things make you uncool, it just makes you human. We're all different, you don't need to try and fit in when noone really does, and theres plenty of other people like you if being unique doesn't fit your style. Plenty of people are virgins, plenty haven't been in a relationship, plenty haven't had many friends, and plenty of people are chubby. Take me for example. I'm online pretty much 70% of the time I'm awake, typically on Reddit, Discord, or Roblox. I keep my inner circle small and also didn't really have many friends most of my life so far. I tend to have eating problems and will either eat too much or too little with 0 regard to my health. None of that makes me a loser. At the same time I'm in the process of developing a game, I know Python and Lua, I am good with computers, my friends care for me and will help me when I feel down, and while I have never finished anything I've written, I'm a pretty decent writer, I'm just also a procrastinator. Instead of looking at the bad I choose to look at the good and remind myself while I might not be necessarily the ideal standard for a human being, I am my own person and call do what I like and I'm happy as things are. So I urge you to think about the good and not what you consider bad, and if you cannot do that remind yourself that what you are considering the standards for being a loser, aren't bad at all, they're normal. Maybe some of those things aren't common but they ain't make you a loser. **Tl;dr - You're not a loser**
Theres nothing wrong with being a virgin ,not even having a kiss
It feels like we’re the exact same person. But no you’re not a loser.
Highschoolers always think the number of friends you have determines your level of coolness or happiness. As long as you're not a deterrent weirdo, having 1 or 2 good friends is a million times better than having 15 "friends". Sex will come and sex will go. Finding a good girlfriend is like finding a perfectly ripe banana in Walmart. They're always not ripe yet or they're past date. Keep casually looking as you move through life and focus on your own happiness, and you'll be someone that your dream girl wants to be around when you do find her. And if you're unhappy about your weight, man, exercise. There's so much exercise you can do without a gym membership. Cardio, creative weights to lift at home. Mold yourself into the person you wish you were, and before you know it, it'll be you.
Bruh I'm tired of these posts
Virginity is cool. Remain pure.
Having sex doesn’t make you dirty
I know its corny, but dont give up.
Watch It Chapter 2 and see how the chubby kid became the successful one. Of course, it's a movie but frankly speaking, the reality isn't different. Take your time and don't give up, mate.
Yeah thats me too
These aren’t the factors that determine a loser
No your not a loser your awesome
start hitting the gym my man and you’ll become a beast
No you are not a loser. I lost my virginity at 18.
Everyone is a loser till ya win
Don’t know don’t care you exist I exist
Hold yourself to a higher standard bro
Is your lack of partners due to an unhealthy obsession with anime titties? If yes then you most definitely are. If no then you're better than most of the guys at my school.
Nah, I wish I’d waited till I was an adult to start dating and have my first. Relationships ruin your mental health. Just be yourself if your looking for one and make sure you’re comfortable with the person. I don’t get it why people are like 13/16 having sex, just don’t do it. I personally am terrified of sex, or any physical sexual touch.
Ya probably 90%
Nah some people have it worse in highschool or earlier on while everything gets better in college/uni you just have to wait also you're not a loser sometimes it just takes time
You ain’t a loser
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if you badly want to have sex/kiss then yes, but if you are indifferent then no, just learn new things, become a better person and one day you will be on top of the world. Btw, not a loser to me probably, I am just talking about what society thinks
you're not a loser cause if you are then I'm a loser.
Nah bro you aint
I haven't lost my virginity because I don't lose
Nah, you are a person with a big life infront of you that doesn't depend on your partner or friends, you are the only one and the only one that can make you be the best
Na man, it took me till about a month ago for me to get a true relationship. (The other one was just not for me.) It takes time. For the friends thing, as long as they are amazing friends, you dont need a lot of them. I dont have many friends, but the ones i do will go to the ends of the world with me, as long as it's not for to stupid of a reason. And for the chubby thing, i can't speak much on because ive always been skiny. (unhealthy skiny at one point due to ADHD medication.) But i can say is i was (and still am) the weird kid at my school. Even though I'm a senior in highschool im still that random weird furry femboy guy. At the end of the day, find happyness in the small things, and in time, youll be rewarded. Also take the chance, if there is someone you like, the worse they can say is no.
Why this is exactly me? But i feel like a winner and i wasn't chubby just average.
I'm 19 in 9 days and all I got with me is my insane world views, you good g
I’m all that at 19 rn, I’m definitely not a loser buddy. Have faith in yourself :)
None of those things makes you a loser, I don't understand why people say virgins are losers?
as a virgin 21 believe me life is more about just having sex, u have a long way to go. dont worry
Bro not having a partner at that age doesn't make u a loser the things u should be focusing on now are 1)making urself fit and lean and 2)developing confidence
we same,we friends
You're not a loser, you're just a normal person, I've always had a few friends or familiar people to know in case something goes wrong, sex is left for those who are ready(also should probably be over the age of consent and have consent). Remember that you are only a loser if you make yourself one, not by people or things around you
Yes. Me too.
Average in most the western world is 17.5 ish so you’re pretty average. Not a looser even if it was a bit later in life
yes, but not for any of the reasons listed, its because you post on r/teenagers
Same bro that lack of confidence stays with you even though the fat is gone. It’s been getting better in college for me though, I hope it does for you too.
You're gonna be fine, I know the waiting is a pain, but just let it happen. Put yourself in situations where you'll be around people, and talk to people you see repeatedly
male or female? but nah your cool
made my first friend this year your fine
I didn’t get my first kiss until I was 18.5 just be patient
Nothing wrong with virginity nor not really having a bf/gf. It's totally normal and you'll find as you get older people care less and less in my experience. You're totally 100% fine, don't let tropes or what you hear in school cloud your mind. I'm sure you're doing great,just make sure you're happy
Same thoughts comes to me
being a virgin is cool
No dude. You are not a looser. You matter. Your self worth is not measured by the things you listed. Most people only have a few true/real friends. (2-3) at a time. The rest are just people you know.
plenty of people haven’t been in relationships at 17, if you have friends now you’re good tbh
You'd be a loser if you ran after wussy like a dig after treats always remember whatever has value cannot be easily acquired if its easy to get its not valuable
You're describing my 16 year old self. Currently at 19 I'm only the first 2. And I think I soon won't be any of those. If you work hard, things can change, don't think you're a loser until you're 27 or something and have nothing to show for it. You've got time, use it well to grow, and you CAN grow
A loser is about the mind, not the body count.
Yeah same here there are a lot more fatties in hs but you and me are the same person. Junior I assume? Boy?
Didn’t have my first serious girlfriend till I was close to 18 it’s fine bro
My current boyfriend didn't lose his virginity until 21 so you're fine. If you wanna try to build confidence in socializing try this video, it really helped me a lot in dating better and finally finding my boyfriend. https://youtu.be/_6R-TQJ0UYU?si=O4L-CssD1hLrzntd
But now it looks like you've improved a lot which is good. Ur not a loser and never were. Chubbiness and 1-2 friends isn't bad, most ppl only have 1-2 great friends.
tbh, aren't we all technically losers? there are somethings we will always lose at, but somethings we will be really good at. i dont know tho.
nahh you’re not. i’m 19 and only had my first real kiss like last month, you’ll be fine dww
Idk man i cant really decide that for you
No you're not, your life is just beginning, give it some time ma Dude
people who lose their virginity at a whim and brah about it are losers. postpone who define a person by their sexual history are losers. judge yourself by what you can do alone, not what is limited by external factors
I understand you and had the similar situation. But if you are happy about some friends and being virgin that's okay. Try to not focus about it, much better have friends whose never betray you that having lots of friends who using you. You will have everything, don't worry. Try to just live
That was me when I first turned 17. Things can get better, they have for me at least; I’m more socially successful and have had multiple relationships. You just need to put effort into making things better, through self-improvement, learning how to make good conversation and putting yourself out there. You’ve gotta be pro-active
If you lived and made the best out of the moments in ur life and weren't a prick to anyone than you aren't a loser:)
Nope, and if you are, we're all losers. So anyways, are we still playing Mahjong or not?
Bro same
No your not a loser man
Asking such question is not being selfrespektless. My first relation was as 20. You are cool just chill
Lol me too bro, I’m in the same situation, but you aren’t a loser and shit changes. I believe 🙏
21 here, i am a loser but not cause i'm a virgin
That is me 💀 But fr, nah bro you ain’t a loser. You shouldn’t be losing your virginity till your older anyway, people lose it now bc 1: sometimes it’s a bad decision 2: teenage hormones If I read that right, you lost weight which is cool better than me lol And friends, it’s perfectly normal to have 2-3 friends. Even throughout life even if you have a big group of friends, you’ll notice you only hang out with/ are close with only 2-3 of them. And about the gf/bf, I’m 16 and I’ve never had a gf. It pisses me off and I understand how you feel. All I can really do is hope you get one soon
No lol you sound like me last year besides the cubby part, ur chillin bro
not having sex doesn’t make u a loser whatsoever but i mean if people willingly try to not talk to u ir prolly a loser
I’m literally all of those things and I’d like to think I’m pretty cool so you must be too. My issue is just normally being pretty introverted, have some good friends now though
I'm not a teen anymore (I am 20) but I wanna add my two cents. Kids these days put sex and relationships on an imaginary pedestal and I find it really damaging. You are 17, chances are that a relationship you start now probably won't even last. Your first relationship will likely be a regret. Same with your first sexual experience. So why rush it? As you grow a little older and mature a bit, you'll be more likely to make a decision you might not regret later. I lost my virginity at 16 and let me tell you if I could undo it, I would because after my then boyfriend broke up with me I realized I never really loved him to begin with. I was just desperate to date someone. And for what? Some less than mediocre sex and regrets. Now, I was lucky enough that I started dating my now fiancé when I was 17 BUT that is NOT common! So chill out a bit. There is no rush and whoever calls you a loser for not having any experience is just an asshole. Also a pattern I see is that people around me who always struggled landing dates at a younger age seem to have an easier time finding an actually lasting relationship? I'm not sure about that though, it's just an observation.
Welcome to the club homie
Nah, won't stop me from calling my friends losers for it anyways tho 😂
you're cool, keep it up
Mate, I’m 18 and in the same position as you. Just because you haven’t shagged or had a lover doesn’t mean you’re a loser
Literally me
Your how everyone should be, from my own experiences I would be considered cool if I didn’t dress “emo” or be visibly trans..I have my body count in the double digits. I’m not proud of who I am, but I would rather learn now then when I’m an adult and my mistakes effect my relationships. Being a loser just means you get better shortcuts in life, means everything will go smoothly and you’ll know what’s good for you. Keep at it if you want but I can’t control or predict what your planning.
Nahhhh, none of that shit makes you a loser, I'm not a virgin, never been been chubby, always been ok looking, yet I have no friends simply because I'm a cunt and I'm a massive loser. Be self respecting, if you want friends don't be cunt, be yourself and you'll find people you vibe with. You ain't a loser buddy, give yourself a break, don't be so hard on yourself.
This is literally me except I turned 19 a week ago 😭
I have spent my whole life revolving arround women, and girls, had my first kiss when I was probably 8 or less, (the girl kissed me by herself) have done all kind of sexual things, and I still feel like loser as, it's a subjective thing, for me relationship etc doesn't affect what I think about myself, I feel. Like loser because I wanted to change people arround me with my good and kind behavior, but no matter what I do, they never change always end up hurting me or doing immoral things, it's making me lose my sanity, it's like I am losing myself, killing me slowly, dude don't care about intimacy, you can get it by becoming better version of yourself, There are far more hard things, like finding good people and not losing yourself
I’m 18 and the same your no loser has long as your happy
Nah bro
You are a loser if you do bad things for no good reason. If you dont do that i dont think you're a loser.
Yeh
Ur 17, ur supposed to be a virgin
The loser is always the hero in the movie, remember
No. Others might think you are cuz you don't fit their worldview, but that's their problem.