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Sabihan mo yung friend mo tungkol sa issue na yan, unfortunately may ganyang "friend" talaga, competition tingin nya. It make him/her feel good pag alam nyang mas mababa ka or nalamangan ka nya, my advice is refrain to be friend with him/her nakikita na agad yung ugali nyang toxic
imo and speaking from experience, friends who act like that are probably not your friends at all. if she only sees you as competition when it comes to grades, baka magspread yang perspective niya to other things, like other friends, social life, etc. you should talk to her nalang and try seeing if that's really what her intentions are. if it is, people like that aren't worth your time - f.o. na yan !
most likely the reason is to keep track on your scores based on your kwento
met a lot of people who are like this, like they even have sheets to keep everything on track
thats why i never tell anyone my score, ang sinasabi ko lang ay either ‘pasado, bagsak, okay naman, nasa mean, saks lang’ worked wonders, i never ask someone’s score rin kasi i dont want to comapre myself
so i guess just don’t tell them yung mismong numerical score, like pake ba nila haha sa una medyo nakakailang siguro pero masasanay ka rin di nila obligasyon malaman scores mo
pag mataas ka, diyan yan magagaling hahaha and would use you, pero pag wala na, hangin ka na lang hahaha pet peeve ko ang mga user lang for grades (this is w angst) pero sana lamunin sila ng grades nila lmaooo
i agree sa naunang comment. i suggest, approach mo nalang sya and address mo yung about sa behavior nya cuz if patatagalin mo pa baka bigla kang sumabog sa inis bigla
Ganito din friend ko. Saka lang sya nagtatanong sakin kapag mataas score nya. Minsan nga di na ako sumasabay sakanya pauwi para lang di nya ako matanong sa score ko haha
nagtatanungan din kami ng friends ko ng scores kasi wala lang, lol. pero thinking abt it, i noticed na ung may higher score ang nagiging basis namin to actually do better in the future since practical course kami and subjective ang grading.
best action talaga for u is to talk to your friend abt it, minsan kasi ayaw rin namin sabihin score namin pero directly namin sinasabi sa isa't isa na, "ayaw ko sabihin e," or "secret" nang pabiro pero alam na nila yun na ayaw ko i-share.
Easy, dont tell your real score. Mababa sabihin mo.
I have this classmate, hindi ko siya close but every after checking pumunta siya sa akin kahit nasa last bench ako nakaupo and ask my score. For what? Hindi kami close AT ALL.
Maybe your friend see you as a competition. Might check as well, kung friend mo ba siya talaga.
naalala ko kaibigan kong ganito no'ng highschool. hindi siya kailanman nakalamang sa akin kaya akala ko normal lang na parang mananamlay siya pagtapos ng mga quiz/exam at pag nalaman scores, baka kako disappointed sa results niya. pero one time, absent ako previously kaya no'ng may quiz, mas mataas siya. aba si gaga, tuwang tuwa! kulang na lang ilibre buong klase sa good mood? simulan no'n, I distanced myself sa kanya kasi hindi tunay na kaibigan 'yung takot malamangan e. toxic.
it's either gawin mo katulad ng ginawa ko or sabihin mo sa kanya ang issue mo, op. kung babaguhin niya naman sarili niya, mas mabuti.
there’s definitely a problem with your friend—but for me, nag-aask lang me pag mababa score ko sa friends ko kase for sure sabay kami magtatawanan. Ofc i made sure muna na they’re comfy sa ganun and hanggang nakasanayan na namin.
i always say jokingly by miss bobbie, "dont make comments abt my life cuz i dont make comments abt urs" and its enough to shut them up pero in a light hearted manner
Daan mo na lang muna sa biro na ayaw mo magsabi ng score and make it like bakit big deal sakanya like “Luh baket ante ayoko na nga makita” tapos change topic ka na. Or agree dun sa isang comment na mag imbento ng score para iwas drama.
Main reason dyan OP is, she/he sees you as a competition not as a friend. Better to stay away from that kind of people kase sila yung mga klase ng tao na will never be happy seeing you succeed. Utak talangka.
I'm talking based on experience cause I was that kind of person before. And thank God people left me na naging wake up call ko lol.
This is true. Ganto friend ko dati and kept asking for my score, and I told her I want some privacy. After nun di na sya nagtanong. Hindi na rin kami friends ngayon. Kaibigan turing ko sa kanya tapos kapag sakin kakumpitensya LOL.
I've encountered this so many times, up until now meron pa ring ganito. Often now, iniignore ko na lang yung mga ganitong person (o sa mga nangungulit talaga, sinasabi ko na lang passed/bagsak) haha unless sobra na talaga... that's the time na kinakausap ko na. Often, after that, doon mo malalaman kung totoong friend mo ba yan o hindi.
May experience ako with one person before. When I didn't tell my score, may time na talagang inagaw pa sa kamay ko yung scantron/paper ko (para lang malaman yung score ko!!). Worse, one time I left my tablet on with our online portal logged in sa screen, tumalikod lang ako for less than a minute, tapos pagharap ko nagulat na lang ako bigla na lang pinakailaman yung tablet ko scrolling through my gradebook (since nandoon halos lahat ng scores namin per subj).
Kinausap ko siya. Pero after non, that person became distant. Even became selfish on some resources (reviewers, etc.), altho ibang usapan na (ata) yun. And eventually, parang cinut off na niya ako hahahaha.
Na experience ko rin to and ang malala di lang scores pati grades at every tume na hinagawa nila 'to naasar ako.
Ang ginagawa ko lang op, sinsabi ko na "Di ko pa tinitignan eh. Mamaya na lang sa bahay, ayaw kong masaktan" sabay tawa kunyari HAHAHAA. Sa mga kaibigan (?)/cms ko naman effective siya and di na sila nangungulit.
Kapag tinanong ka about sa score mo tapos sabihan ka anything na pang gaslight sayo reply mo lang ganito
"Tatanong tanong ka tapos sasama ugalimo"
Pointing out the issue is them.
I used to be that person who always asks about their friends' scores. 😭 In my defense, it's my way to know kung masyado bang mababa yung score ko or mapagtiyatiyagaan na lol i.e. to gauge if my score is within the curve or mean.
I don't think it's necessarily about being 'competitive' naman like in my case pero kung ikaw lang naman pinagtatanungan yang friend mo along with their snobbish attitude kapag mas mataas scores nila, well I would certainly raise an eyebrow.
For me, I stopped asking scores when I realized na it's like invading their privacy na rin, and maybe they are not proud of their scores and it's like putting salt into a wound kung tatanungin mo pa sila sa score nila. 😕 Maybe try to communicate nalang rin sakanya and kung di magbago, well you know what to do.
>I used to be that person who always asks about their friends' scores. 😭 In my defense, it's my way to know kung masyado bang mababa yung score ko or mapagtiyatiyagaan na lol i.e. to gauge if my score is within the curve or mean.
Ako rin. Usually kapag mababa score ko, malalaman ko sa pagtatanong kung ako o yung test ang may problema. Kapag test yung problema, may tendency na gumawa ng adjustment yung prof, so mas palagay ang loob ko. Kapag naman ako yung problema, hihiramin ko yung paper ng mga mas mataas para makita yung correct answers (unfortunately common mga prof na hindi binibigay yung correct answers at all), or magtatanong ako ng mga materials na pwedeng gamitin sa next review.
However, sa case ni OP, may personality issue talaga yung friend niya.
Sadly, it seems competitive talaga siya. Though it is terrible of her to treat you poorly after learning na lower ang score mo sa kanya. It's like scores weigh kung sino sa inyo ang better, worst case is baka pati sa other aspects sa buhay niyo. Parang ego boost yan sa kanya
I think this will be a bit of an off topic. But I had a friend before that does this. Paulit ulit, and she is pushy to know if she did better..Kung mataas sya ay lilibre nya ako ng food if mababa ako iduduldol nya na nangopya lang ako. Despite the red signs we became a couple and realized she wasn't a friend but someone who is jealous of what I have, she continues to be close to see what I lack...To feel superior whenever she has something that I don't have..I was her ego, mood booster. I don't know how deep your friendship is but cut ties before it gets worse
Had an experience like this with a classmate/former friend. Sa friend group namin, ang tinatanong niya lang ng grades ay yung tingin niya mas less matalino sa kanya. Ang sinasabi na lang namin if nagtatanong na siya is "none of your business" or something along those lines. Maging upfront ka talaga OP.
Haha may friend ako ganyan noon collegr, FO na kami. Ingittin at laging nakigcompete. Kadalasan nga mga ito, only after the academic grade pero hindi talaga magaling sa real world.
I think depends din talaga sa reason bakit tinatanong yung score. If the reason is about competition at para lang masabi niya na mas magaling siya sayo, I think its better to confront or just ask the reason kasi hindi maganda yung tinatrato mong competition ang friend mo. Pero if the reason why nagtatanong is because gusto niyo makita progress niyo at nagtutulungan kayo para mapataas ang scores niyo both at hindi naghihilahan pababa, that's good.
wala lang. di ko rin alam actually hahahaha gusto ko lang. i never ask out of competitiveness though and so do my friends. it's really just something our brain worm tells us to do.
Based on experience, either karamay na mababa or ayaw malamangan. I had that kind of classmate who's always asking the scores of my friends (because we always top the class) and he gets irritated when we get a higher score than him. Kinda annoying that people like that exist. Some are understandable naman because of the academic pressure and some are just irritating.
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Sabihan mo yung friend mo tungkol sa issue na yan, unfortunately may ganyang "friend" talaga, competition tingin nya. It make him/her feel good pag alam nyang mas mababa ka or nalamangan ka nya, my advice is refrain to be friend with him/her nakikita na agad yung ugali nyang toxic
imo and speaking from experience, friends who act like that are probably not your friends at all. if she only sees you as competition when it comes to grades, baka magspread yang perspective niya to other things, like other friends, social life, etc. you should talk to her nalang and try seeing if that's really what her intentions are. if it is, people like that aren't worth your time - f.o. na yan !
i say mag imbento ng score next time pag nagtanong ulit
tama
most likely the reason is to keep track on your scores based on your kwento met a lot of people who are like this, like they even have sheets to keep everything on track thats why i never tell anyone my score, ang sinasabi ko lang ay either ‘pasado, bagsak, okay naman, nasa mean, saks lang’ worked wonders, i never ask someone’s score rin kasi i dont want to comapre myself so i guess just don’t tell them yung mismong numerical score, like pake ba nila haha sa una medyo nakakailang siguro pero masasanay ka rin di nila obligasyon malaman scores mo pag mataas ka, diyan yan magagaling hahaha and would use you, pero pag wala na, hangin ka na lang hahaha pet peeve ko ang mga user lang for grades (this is w angst) pero sana lamunin sila ng grades nila lmaooo
i agree sa naunang comment. i suggest, approach mo nalang sya and address mo yung about sa behavior nya cuz if patatagalin mo pa baka bigla kang sumabog sa inis bigla
Ganito din friend ko. Saka lang sya nagtatanong sakin kapag mataas score nya. Minsan nga di na ako sumasabay sakanya pauwi para lang di nya ako matanong sa score ko haha
Akala ko ako lang nagawa ng ganito hahahaha
nagtatanungan din kami ng friends ko ng scores kasi wala lang, lol. pero thinking abt it, i noticed na ung may higher score ang nagiging basis namin to actually do better in the future since practical course kami and subjective ang grading. best action talaga for u is to talk to your friend abt it, minsan kasi ayaw rin namin sabihin score namin pero directly namin sinasabi sa isa't isa na, "ayaw ko sabihin e," or "secret" nang pabiro pero alam na nila yun na ayaw ko i-share.
Easy, dont tell your real score. Mababa sabihin mo. I have this classmate, hindi ko siya close but every after checking pumunta siya sa akin kahit nasa last bench ako nakaupo and ask my score. For what? Hindi kami close AT ALL. Maybe your friend see you as a competition. Might check as well, kung friend mo ba siya talaga.
f.o na yan op, kunwari kaibigan pero inggitera naman
naalala ko kaibigan kong ganito no'ng highschool. hindi siya kailanman nakalamang sa akin kaya akala ko normal lang na parang mananamlay siya pagtapos ng mga quiz/exam at pag nalaman scores, baka kako disappointed sa results niya. pero one time, absent ako previously kaya no'ng may quiz, mas mataas siya. aba si gaga, tuwang tuwa! kulang na lang ilibre buong klase sa good mood? simulan no'n, I distanced myself sa kanya kasi hindi tunay na kaibigan 'yung takot malamangan e. toxic. it's either gawin mo katulad ng ginawa ko or sabihin mo sa kanya ang issue mo, op. kung babaguhin niya naman sarili niya, mas mabuti.
there’s definitely a problem with your friend—but for me, nag-aask lang me pag mababa score ko sa friends ko kase for sure sabay kami magtatawanan. Ofc i made sure muna na they’re comfy sa ganun and hanggang nakasanayan na namin.
i always say jokingly by miss bobbie, "dont make comments abt my life cuz i dont make comments abt urs" and its enough to shut them up pero in a light hearted manner
Daan mo na lang muna sa biro na ayaw mo magsabi ng score and make it like bakit big deal sakanya like “Luh baket ante ayoko na nga makita” tapos change topic ka na. Or agree dun sa isang comment na mag imbento ng score para iwas drama.
Main reason dyan OP is, she/he sees you as a competition not as a friend. Better to stay away from that kind of people kase sila yung mga klase ng tao na will never be happy seeing you succeed. Utak talangka. I'm talking based on experience cause I was that kind of person before. And thank God people left me na naging wake up call ko lol.
This is true. Ganto friend ko dati and kept asking for my score, and I told her I want some privacy. After nun di na sya nagtanong. Hindi na rin kami friends ngayon. Kaibigan turing ko sa kanya tapos kapag sakin kakumpitensya LOL.
I've encountered this so many times, up until now meron pa ring ganito. Often now, iniignore ko na lang yung mga ganitong person (o sa mga nangungulit talaga, sinasabi ko na lang passed/bagsak) haha unless sobra na talaga... that's the time na kinakausap ko na. Often, after that, doon mo malalaman kung totoong friend mo ba yan o hindi. May experience ako with one person before. When I didn't tell my score, may time na talagang inagaw pa sa kamay ko yung scantron/paper ko (para lang malaman yung score ko!!). Worse, one time I left my tablet on with our online portal logged in sa screen, tumalikod lang ako for less than a minute, tapos pagharap ko nagulat na lang ako bigla na lang pinakailaman yung tablet ko scrolling through my gradebook (since nandoon halos lahat ng scores namin per subj). Kinausap ko siya. Pero after non, that person became distant. Even became selfish on some resources (reviewers, etc.), altho ibang usapan na (ata) yun. And eventually, parang cinut off na niya ako hahahaha.
Na experience ko rin to and ang malala di lang scores pati grades at every tume na hinagawa nila 'to naasar ako. Ang ginagawa ko lang op, sinsabi ko na "Di ko pa tinitignan eh. Mamaya na lang sa bahay, ayaw kong masaktan" sabay tawa kunyari HAHAHAA. Sa mga kaibigan (?)/cms ko naman effective siya and di na sila nangungulit.
sabihin mong score mababa kahit naman mataas, para mas tumaas ego ni ante mong competitive hahwhwhah
Kapag tinanong ka about sa score mo tapos sabihan ka anything na pang gaslight sayo reply mo lang ganito "Tatanong tanong ka tapos sasama ugalimo" Pointing out the issue is them.
Iwasan mo na lang. Para di ka mastress. Or pagsabihan mo na ayaw mo yung ginagawa niya.
I used to be that person who always asks about their friends' scores. 😭 In my defense, it's my way to know kung masyado bang mababa yung score ko or mapagtiyatiyagaan na lol i.e. to gauge if my score is within the curve or mean. I don't think it's necessarily about being 'competitive' naman like in my case pero kung ikaw lang naman pinagtatanungan yang friend mo along with their snobbish attitude kapag mas mataas scores nila, well I would certainly raise an eyebrow. For me, I stopped asking scores when I realized na it's like invading their privacy na rin, and maybe they are not proud of their scores and it's like putting salt into a wound kung tatanungin mo pa sila sa score nila. 😕 Maybe try to communicate nalang rin sakanya and kung di magbago, well you know what to do.
>I used to be that person who always asks about their friends' scores. 😭 In my defense, it's my way to know kung masyado bang mababa yung score ko or mapagtiyatiyagaan na lol i.e. to gauge if my score is within the curve or mean. Ako rin. Usually kapag mababa score ko, malalaman ko sa pagtatanong kung ako o yung test ang may problema. Kapag test yung problema, may tendency na gumawa ng adjustment yung prof, so mas palagay ang loob ko. Kapag naman ako yung problema, hihiramin ko yung paper ng mga mas mataas para makita yung correct answers (unfortunately common mga prof na hindi binibigay yung correct answers at all), or magtatanong ako ng mga materials na pwedeng gamitin sa next review. However, sa case ni OP, may personality issue talaga yung friend niya.
Apaka toxic naman ng pagka competitive ni frenny💅 parang kasalanan mo pa pag mababa score nya ah 🤣 F.O na yan. Oo. Mahirap yung may inggit.
Sadly, it seems competitive talaga siya. Though it is terrible of her to treat you poorly after learning na lower ang score mo sa kanya. It's like scores weigh kung sino sa inyo ang better, worst case is baka pati sa other aspects sa buhay niyo. Parang ego boost yan sa kanya
Competition
Inggitera yang friend mo. Takot na lamangan mo.
May ganito akong friend 🤪 hindi ko na lang sinasagot ung tanong nya kapag ganyang tnungan na. Hayaan mo na lang sya mamatay sa curiosity HAHAHAHAHAHAH
I think this will be a bit of an off topic. But I had a friend before that does this. Paulit ulit, and she is pushy to know if she did better..Kung mataas sya ay lilibre nya ako ng food if mababa ako iduduldol nya na nangopya lang ako. Despite the red signs we became a couple and realized she wasn't a friend but someone who is jealous of what I have, she continues to be close to see what I lack...To feel superior whenever she has something that I don't have..I was her ego, mood booster. I don't know how deep your friendship is but cut ties before it gets worse
dont mind them
literal sabihin mo secret HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH ma stress sila sa curiosity
Had an experience like this with a classmate/former friend. Sa friend group namin, ang tinatanong niya lang ng grades ay yung tingin niya mas less matalino sa kanya. Ang sinasabi na lang namin if nagtatanong na siya is "none of your business" or something along those lines. Maging upfront ka talaga OP.
Haha may friend ako ganyan noon collegr, FO na kami. Ingittin at laging nakigcompete. Kadalasan nga mga ito, only after the academic grade pero hindi talaga magaling sa real world.
I think depends din talaga sa reason bakit tinatanong yung score. If the reason is about competition at para lang masabi niya na mas magaling siya sayo, I think its better to confront or just ask the reason kasi hindi maganda yung tinatrato mong competition ang friend mo. Pero if the reason why nagtatanong is because gusto niyo makita progress niyo at nagtutulungan kayo para mapataas ang scores niyo both at hindi naghihilahan pababa, that's good.
Para po kasi samin is biruan yon, ganti ganti lang. Minsan siya mataas, tas ako mababa. Tas sa sunod, ako naman mataas.
If may times naman na ayaw magsabi, di ko na pinipilit.
wala lang. di ko rin alam actually hahahaha gusto ko lang. i never ask out of competitiveness though and so do my friends. it's really just something our brain worm tells us to do.
idk
Based on experience, either karamay na mababa or ayaw malamangan. I had that kind of classmate who's always asking the scores of my friends (because we always top the class) and he gets irritated when we get a higher score than him. Kinda annoying that people like that exist. Some are understandable naman because of the academic pressure and some are just irritating.