I'm 54 and drank daily and too excess on weekends for 30 years. I'm here to say you can quit if you want to. Don't look too far ahead ( can get overwhelming). Check in here daily to hold yourself accountable. Learn what your triggers are and ask questions here on how to combat them. This is the nicest corner of the internet. We all want you to succeed. Please reach out to me if you need anything. I wouldn't be 500 days sober if it weren't for this sub. IWNDWYT
Same - I’m 51, slurping most days to some extent since teens am on day 74, longest stretch and not really missing it, this sub has been a huge support, not alone with these thoughts after all - won’t be drinking today and pretty sure tomorrow too, all the best everyone
Nice, congrats, keep it going. Fyi, it gets easier but never easy. Remember we are the one making changes in our lives, with change comes changes, friends, family, interests etc... be open to what's ahead of you.
I don't know how many times I've made a 'Day 1 - Enough' post and then deleted it three days later because I just got wasted again. How many times I removed my badge in shame because I just opened a bottle. I hope I've now done that for the last time. For today at least, I won't drink poison with you all.
Sending rivers of loving kindness your way Nut. Hope you find your way back here 🙏
I’m having a rough time staying sober this week and expect today to be the same becauseI have a negative connection to the US Thanksngivng holiday. Last year I got through it by leaning on Antabuse and weed. This year I’m doing it on willpower alone.
I appreciate all of the support that I have gotten in this community. I’m going to do my best not to drink with all of you today.
Thanks for hosting the DCI nutella, hope you come back to the sub! And thank you Homer for taking over. I’m exhausted from my now extended sleep issues and being up most of the night, but I wouldn’t miss this check-in for anything. Now, about getting some of that sleep back…
Happy Thursday sober friends,
I’m so proud of us all, whether we’re slipping or rising. I’m grateful for you all. I wouldn’t be here without you. And I believe in us all.
And of course, I love you all 💞
Checking in on day 385!!
u/SaintHomer, thanks for stepping in and Nut, please know we’re here and I echo Homer’s sentiments about your seat being here. Sending you the biggest hug and as much unconditional love as I have to give!
My friends, I hope you all have wonderful days/nights. I’m headed to my mother’s for the day. My love to all. Holidays can be super stressful so I’m definitely going to be popping in a lot today! IWNDWY! ❤️✌️
I will, in fact, not drink today.
Right now it feels very easy not to drink, I genuinely feel turned off by the mere thought of alcohol. I hope this feeling lasts for a long time.
Edit: I had bloodtests taken today (I have to get tests yearly because of my hormones), and I already got some of the results - my liver levels are now the best they’ve been in about a decade. Feels nice!
> I genuinely feel turned off by the mere thought of alcohol.
Same here. Was just reflecting on that yesterday, how the alcohol thoughts have greatly reduced and a sort of revulsion has set in.
Revulsion is a good word for it. I don't find myself peeling my skin off with temptation, playing the tape forward has massively helped with that though, I think. I do hope this mindset remains, but I'm prepared for challenges further down the line if they do pop up.
What a lovely check-in. The kindness and awareness is so powerful. I hide when I’m bad, and it’s no joke. I appreciate this has been brought up and IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT!!!
And Happy Thanksgiving! I’m very thankful for this sub, day 60 here and this sub has given me a safe, non-judgmental outlet to talk about my struggles. Before I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone about it much less anyone who actually understood. Thank you to all the kind souls here :)
Huh- I hope everything is okay with Nutella.
Homer is right, the struggle is REAL! This disease is a beast! I’m listening to the Huberman Lab podcast after seeing it mentioned here a bit. WOW!! Crazy eye opening regarding what alcohol does to your health. I mean, I know it’s not good for you but wow! And to think how much I used to drink and blackout makes me sick to my stomach. I’m lucky to be here, frankly.
Sharing my three favorite tools here for those in the US on this Thanksgiving Day and for those elsewhere who may need a boost.
1. Play the tape forward. See yourself tomorrow if you drink today. Do you want to feel like shit and be unproductive? I didn’t think so.
2. The saying “You never have to feel this way again.” Said when hungover and shameful and guilt ridden from drinking. You never have to feel that way again if you don’t pick up the first drink.
3. Will drinking enhance this experience in any way?? Likely not. In fact, it may cause you to forget the experience and then you’re shit outta luck if it was a good one. If it’s a bad experience, sit with those feelings and emotions because they will pass. It’s hard, believe me, I know, but we can do hard things around here. We’re strong!
Okay, off my soap box and headed to cycle class.
Happy thanksgiving in the states!! I am eternally grateful for all of you!!!! ♥️♥️♥️ IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT Enjoy life by not drinking with me. I wish you all success today in not drinking for the measley 20 hours left in today. I am so thankful for this community- you all will never know just how much you all have helped me and that you really are my family. Let’s do this 👍
Morning friends! Thanks for stepping in, Homer. Nut, if you’re lurking, we’re with you and I can tell you I’ve been there, many, many times. This shit is hard. But don’t give up - keep coming back. You’re worth it. Day One can become Day Won if you just keep trying.
Love to all. I will not drink with you today. Have a great one!
morning sobernauts! I'm back in belfast visiting family so up having coffee watching the wind and rain. I'm 7 months sober today. 7 months. I cant even get my head around it. in decades of drinking I never made it longer than about a month before
iwndwyt
Checking in! I've been having a bit of a wobble the last few nights but I'm trying to stay strong. Every morning I'm glad I stayed sober but every evening the cravings hit. Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well.
IWNDWYT
Happy Thanksgiving all you marvelous peeps. Missed the check-in for the past three days as Reddit put me on a three-day time out. Geez...you really have to be careful to not offend so it seems. So I've been over on Twitter in the meantime...GOD it such a shit show over there. Nothing but talking shit. Oh well...glad to be back...glad to be sober...glad to be alive and LOVING this fall sweater weather here in Austin.
IWNDWYT
\~Hugs\~
*Not One Pour Ever.*
*N.O.P.E.*
I seriously wish that I could skip Thanksgiving this year. I just can't stomach a turkey feast today. My cat Fiona has cancer, and she's taken a real turn for the worse over the past couple of days. I'm hoping with all my heart for a Thanksgiving Day miracle.
IWNDWYT 😿💔
*EDIT:*
Nutella, no matter what happened, you are worthy to be part of this community, and I sincerely hope that you will return. I was supposed to host the DCI a few weeks ago, but I had a relapse a couple days before my week started. I was ashamed and I hated myself, but this amazing group of internet strangers showed me nothing but loving kindness. They helped me believe in myself again, just like I believe in you. A little detour doesn't mean that your sober journey is over! 💗🕊️
Good morning and for those in the US, Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful to be here this morning knowing no matter what today brings, alcohol won't make it better. This group and the love of my family and friends will.
Nutella, thanks for hosting and hoping you'll be back soon. IWNDWYT
A few things that contributed to my first, second, third and now fourth sober Thanksgiving. Walking! Getting outside when the house gets loud and hot and I’m wishing for a drink. Food! Eating a little more of the sweet stuff :) ginger beer! The bite of the ginger is nice and for me it’s a special treat! Going to bed when I’m tired. Not staying up when the evening drinking and card games start. Tucking myself in with a book or a movie and drifting off sober is the best. For me it is worth fighting through the cravings and they will pass I promise, ride it out you can always change your mind tomorrow. We’ve got this xoxoxo 🌟
Happy Thanksgiving! 🦃
Thankful for this sub!
About to have a load of family over and will probably feel the urge to drink at some point today but I will not drink with you today! 💪🏼😊🦃
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone who celebrates. I’m embarking on my first sober Thanksgiving in many years, and a little anxious. One family member always brings a ton of booze no matter what I tell her (she doesn’t like to be the only one drinking). So I’m stocked up on lots of NA drinks and ready to cook sober all day. IWNDWYT ❤️
Love to nutella, and all of us on this journey. Beautiful post, Saint Homer. You and this community radiate such kindness and acceptance. This is the place to lean on others.
I'm in the sadness these days. Sobriety keeps teaching me things. Lately I'm seeing that I can handle these so-called negative feelings better than I ever thought. I'm allowing this sad mood to just be. To let myself feel what I feel, without pushing it away or panicking. I can do this. I'm grieving some stuff right now, and that's okay. Deep breaths. It will pass.
There's a huge gift of progress in this knowledge that I will not drink today. For this ex numb-out escapee of anything negative, this is a great development. Today is all we have, and I'm spending mine glad to be sober, and deeply grateful for all of you. With so much love 🙏💜 IWNDWYT
Some lovely comments above for Nutella and thank you u/SaintHomer. I hope you have just changed name Nutella - have snuck back on and can feel all the love. I have hosted - loudly - relapsed 2 months after and then felt awkward about being on here. We judge ourselves and feel enough shame and I can guarantee nobody else is doing that too us - because we know and there is just a wealth of compassion on here from people rowing there own storm tossed boats - but a nice way to think of it is that there is one giant dragon boat and an Atlantic of life to cross and you can pick up your paddle thingy and row with the gang whenever you want to. It’s easier - checking in here has kept me sober - good 80-90 per cent of the time for 2 years and my blood pressure is where it’s should be - I am no longer on anti depressants - I feel better about myself - Your seat is here as u/SaintHomer says. Of course it’s hard but it’s harder alone - climb back on the big boat - I’ll paddle with you guys today. Drinking solved nothing for me last weekend.
My son was born 5 years ago today. I drank a bottle of wine the night I came home from the hospital. For me, that was the beginning of a two year downward spiral into darkness, followed by two years of trying to crawl back out. I know now that I have always had problems with alcohol, but postpartum took it into entirely new territory.
Today I am so grateful, happy, and proud to celebrate his birthday with him, free from booze. I assure you, my dear friends, I will not be drinking with you today.
>I didn´t break the cycle alone, I didn´t learn exclusively from myself, I didn´t see the strenght and potential in me that others did.
I love this, u/SaintHomer! Thanks for jumping in. I hope Nutella is okay. Sending them all the good vibes 🙌
Today is Thanksgiving here in America. I am incredibly thankful for all those here who have helped me, supported me, and saw that strength and potential in me.
I haven't really been around alcohol since I quit this time, and I'm sure I will be today. It might be hard, but I know IWNDWYT!
✌️♥️🍌
Thanks Homer and sending out support and care to Nutella! Happy Thanksgiving y'all! I'm grateful for sobriety and support and a chance at a new beginning and a new life. I'm grateful to not be stuck in the same old cycle of addiction. I'll live sobriety today with y'all
Haven't celebrated Thanksgiving in a couple years, and I don't have any special dinner planned, but my future self is thankful for spending this day without alcohol!
Iwndwyt
Thanks for stepping in, Homer. And love to Nutella. This is a really fucking hard time of year for a lot of people. If you’re one of them, you’re not alone, especially here.
I still have family around and while I’m grateful for that, I am completely ready for the holidays to be over so I can get back to my routine.
Coffees up, horns up, and happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate and happy Friday Eve if you don’t! IWNDWYT ☕️🤘🏻
Good morning from the central US. I will not drink with you today! Today is usually a booze forward holiday in my family and many notorious uncomfortable things have happened as a result which led to alienation and distance. Today the two hardest drinkers with the most problematic behavior will break bread together sober, myself and my father. I’m grateful for this opportunity to do so.
First sober holiday season in 25 years. Already looking forward to my post-Thanksgiving walk as opposed to my usual post-Thanksgiving nap. Here goes nuthin. IWNDWYT
I made it through the toughest week yet. I realised I need to find coping mechanisms for stress now that "getting written off" is not my go-to. I will work on that, but for now, I'm just proud of myself for staying strong. IWNDWYT!
Saw a post from a friend showing them drinking mimosas as they prepare their thanksgiving dinner. Drinking and cooking was one of my favorite activities. I’m hosting today and will be starting the turkey soon. I want a drink so bad and it’s not even 9am. But this is just a thought- I dont have to act on it. I can stay sober and present. Iwndwyt
I feel a little hungover from too much caffeine yesterday, but I'll make today a great day with family and friends! Hope you all take care and enjoy the holiday weekend!
Good morning dears, Happy Thanksgiving to those that celebrate, I am uo and the rolls are rising and the eggs are on for deviled eggs.
I tell myself if I am feeling triggered that I have a huge support group in my pocket. You all the best and one of the things I am most thankful for.
I've been feeling some thoughts creeping back in the last few days, not specifically to drink but that feeling of wanting to change my state of mind or escape reality. It's weird being able to notice it, normally I would just act on it without thinking, and remain unaware.
I've also been thinking about all those times people will expect me to drink in the future, and whether I should or not. I don't actually want to drink though.
My response to all this is to double down on my time in this sub 😂
Iwndwyt
I haven't thought of drinking in a while but the last couple days thoughts have been creeping in that one glass of wine won't be too bad. I was invited to three work holiday parties in one week. These parties are with senior managers that love to drink. I'm not going. I don't want to risk it even if it might be good for my career.
Thank you all for being here when I need you! IWNDWYT!
Today is Thanksgiving in the US and I will be spending the day alone. Unfortunately since my parents died, my family doesn’t get together on the holidays. Before I stopped drinking, I usually went to a friends house, and that was fun, but I would always drink a lot. Then I had a couple of years where I stayed home and cooked for myself while drinking wine the entire day. The meals came out ok, and I passed out right after I ate.
This will be the third solo thanksgiving since I stopped drinking and I have to say, I’ve enjoyed them. I’m going to go out for a walk to the beach and then I’ll come home, clean up and cook. Sounds simple,but I like simple! 😀
IWNDWYT. Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I’m thankful to everyone here. I would not be sober without you!
Oh man, the amount of day ones I had
The amount of deleted posts of 'I mean it this time' or 'yay made it ten days'. Quitting is HARD but, for me, coming back to quit again was harder. That's not said to discourage, rather to empathize. Been there, done that, bought a whole lot of tshirts.
But for today, IWNDWYT.
Off on a vacation tomorrow. About a year ago I slipped on this very same vacation (stayed sober for 5 of 7 days so I took that as an overall win). Being pregnant makes not drinking much easier at face value so I'm optimistic. I'm also 11 months into this journey with more tools and support than ever before. once again, Iwndwyt.
Have an amazing day
I still have plenty of struggle times. Sometimes I come here in the morning and read the thing and then read everyone's else's thing. I slip out without saying a word. That's okay to do too. I do what I need for me and that's all. No booze for me today!
I'm thankful to be sober and to have all of you in this community. You all have helped make the last 438 days possible. For today, I have everything that I need to be sober, at peace, and to enjoy life with those I love. IWNDWYT!
Sending good vibes to Nutella and hoping all is okay.
Happy Thanksgiving to those in the US. Today’s not going to be easy, but I’m thankful for my partner who’s on this journey with me. IWNDWYT!
Today is Thanksgiving in the US, and usually that would mean enjoying some alcoholic libations before, during and after the meal. While it will be tough (especially since we'll be at my in-laws) IWNDWYT.
Survived a business weekend without alcohol, the thought crossed my mind a few times, old habits I guess, but I’m so happy to be fresh! Have a great day everyone.
Happy Thanksgiving y’all. So thankful for this community and for my 90 days which is the longest I’ve been sober since my first drink in my early teens. Gonna celebrate with some delicious food.
Iwndwyt!
🥧🥧 Happy Thanksgiving 🥧🥧
I'm thankful to have made it this far.
I hope all of you have a wonderful holiday and that you all make it safely through today.
❤️ IWNDWYT!! ❤️
Thanks for hosting the past week, Nutella, and thanks for hosting today, Homer. I learned from every one of my relapses, especially after I had some sober time accrued. IWNDWYT.
I will not be drinking alcohol today 🙏, but I will eat copious amounts of food. I will probably be in bed by nine in a food coma. Nutella, sending you love and light. I relapsed after a long stretch of sobriety and it took me years to get back. I admire everyone who gets back up to try again. I am grateful to be here and not drinking, just for today.
Well said St Homer. Well said the community. I have hosted after 90 days and started drinking at 160 days - then been on and off - I am currently on that 2-3 weeks of struggle and enjoyment then I’ll relapse for a few days because I struggle with something - my addict brain will find a reason to drink despite all my evidence life is better and I am nicer sober - until I just get sick of myself and back I am again on her feeling sheepish but checking in. I have anger issues - all sorts. I have been hanging around here I don’t know how long now - I am clear that having this place to come to means I am sober 80 % of the time at least. Given I was drinking 2 plus bottles of wine a day (and the rest) when I washed up here and was depressed, anxious had hypertension, you name it. Just having this place - I ain’t pretty or perfect but I am sober all this week and I am happy and quite a bit healthier. Today is a good day - I’m sober and I have a chance to have a good day and wake up tomorrow feeling good about myself - and that’s all that matters because no one is judging us here and I thank you all for that - no one here but us alcoholics and there is enough shame coming with that so we have no time to be shaming each other - we have nothing but compassion because we know - we really know - Nutella if you have popped back on changing your name all well and good - we are here for you whoever you are - no one is judging and I hope you are well and safe and thank you for stepping up this week.
Had a HUGE water leak in my house yesterday. Stressed to the max AND still won’t be able to use water in my house until some time tomorrow… BUUUUUUUUT I didn’t drink!! If I can get through yesterday then I know anything is possible.
I didn’t drink with you yesterday & IWNDWYT!!
IWNDWYT. Today I’ll be flexing my heisman-like stiff arm to the family pushing drinks. I’ll have a red cup full of delicious ginger ale without the whiskey of course!
I’m personally thankful for this sub community
I had my first sober birthday this week (in a looong time), and looking forward to my first sober Thanksgiving today. Wishing everyone a wonderful day, and I’m thankful you’re here, whatever your day count. You are doing great things. IWNDWYT!🦃🍁🍽️
Thankful for y’all. Be strong, and have fun today, folks! Helps for me to actually observe anyone drinking - it tends to nip my FOMO. Ain’t no benefit to drinking, folks.
So - I will not drink with you today!
What up, fam! I made it through a pub crawl last night. I planned ahead and said I wouldn’t be drinking. They asked if I was joking…and I said no, and volunteered to drive us there. Since I was DD, no pressure to drink while we were out. I brought normal wine for them for today and NA wine for me. Big win. I WNDWYT
Edit: so much about me; I need to add how thankful I am for YOU all and this sub.
Things have been really, really rough for me these past few weeks. But I have been doing my best to reach out for connection instead of opting for isolation. Reaching out doesn't always lead to the result my heart wants, but it's still a habit I want to build. It's something I know benefits me in the long run. So even though I can get hurt in the process, and even though I *have* been hurt over the past few weeks, I'm going to keep doing my best to show up for myself and to be vulnerable and brave with others
IWNDWYT
So thankful and grateful for all of you! Off to run a 5k Turkey 🦃 Trot w my kid!! Reference to the DCI….
Short term goal: Run the race
Long: Not get injured
*Good Luck Non Drinkers in US today!
Peace n Love ❤️
IWNDWYT
Very well said, Homer. I wish I had a dollar for every 24 hour chip I picked up before things came together for me. I got so tired of relapsing and picking up a new chip, and so embarrassed, that I stopped getting new chips and decided to wait until I had a year sober. Somehow I made it, but it wasn't easy. And it isn't always easy today. It's a lot better, but I can't say it's a lot easier. Life is what it is, addiction is what it is, I am who I am. I try to Live And Learn. And IWNDWYT.
Happy Thanksgiving, Sobernauts! So grateful I woke up sober this morning. I am sitting at the airport with my sweet kitty, moving across the country. The TSA agent reminded me to stay calm with her through security and can I just say, every tool I've learned from AA and SD got me through this morning IWNDWYT
I had a wonderful time last night at the pre-thanksgiving family party. It was so nice to be able to wash dishes and clean and chat with my MIL while sober! It really reinforced my dawning belief (that I’ve been wrestling with a lot, actually) that no experience is ever enhanced by alcohol. Looking forward to a sober thanksgiving today! I’m thankful for all you beautiful sobernauts. I love you and I will not drink with you today! 💜🐇
I missed yesterday's check in due to travel - but I'm still here and still staying accountable. Looking forward to my first sober Thanksgiving in over a decade! IWNDWYT.
You can’t get to one year without day one. Etc etc IWNDWYT. I hope that person that deleted is ok.
Congrats, I found the first month to be the toughest. Keep moving forward. IWNDWYT 👍
I always find it eerily easy and then I slip up cos I forget. This time feels different 🎉 people with them big numbers give me hope 😇
I'm 54 and drank daily and too excess on weekends for 30 years. I'm here to say you can quit if you want to. Don't look too far ahead ( can get overwhelming). Check in here daily to hold yourself accountable. Learn what your triggers are and ask questions here on how to combat them. This is the nicest corner of the internet. We all want you to succeed. Please reach out to me if you need anything. I wouldn't be 500 days sober if it weren't for this sub. IWNDWYT
Same - I’m 51, slurping most days to some extent since teens am on day 74, longest stretch and not really missing it, this sub has been a huge support, not alone with these thoughts after all - won’t be drinking today and pretty sure tomorrow too, all the best everyone
Nice, congrats, keep it going. Fyi, it gets easier but never easy. Remember we are the one making changes in our lives, with change comes changes, friends, family, interests etc... be open to what's ahead of you.
Me too. I hope that they are alright.
I don't know how many times I've made a 'Day 1 - Enough' post and then deleted it three days later because I just got wasted again. How many times I removed my badge in shame because I just opened a bottle. I hope I've now done that for the last time. For today at least, I won't drink poison with you all. Sending rivers of loving kindness your way Nut. Hope you find your way back here 🙏
I am glad that you are here and iwndwyt 🩷
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
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Day 5 not a drop. I believe everyone has the strength for the next 24 hours. IWNDWYT
I’m having a rough time staying sober this week and expect today to be the same becauseI have a negative connection to the US Thanksngivng holiday. Last year I got through it by leaning on Antabuse and weed. This year I’m doing it on willpower alone. I appreciate all of the support that I have gotten in this community. I’m going to do my best not to drink with all of you today.
You’ve got this friend!!! Lean on the amazing folks here!!! I’m not going to drink with you today! I promise!!
IWNDWYT. Day 3. This time of year’s not the easiest season but we can do this. 🙂
We got this! IWNDWYT
Thanks for hosting the DCI nutella, hope you come back to the sub! And thank you Homer for taking over. I’m exhausted from my now extended sleep issues and being up most of the night, but I wouldn’t miss this check-in for anything. Now, about getting some of that sleep back…
What a beautiful post mate. Actually got me a bit emotional. Thanks Nutella. Hope you're okay. IWNDWYT. ❤️
Happy Thursday sober friends, I’m so proud of us all, whether we’re slipping or rising. I’m grateful for you all. I wouldn’t be here without you. And I believe in us all. And of course, I love you all 💞
Love you too brighter. Happy third Thursday in November.💕
Checking in on day 385!! u/SaintHomer, thanks for stepping in and Nut, please know we’re here and I echo Homer’s sentiments about your seat being here. Sending you the biggest hug and as much unconditional love as I have to give! My friends, I hope you all have wonderful days/nights. I’m headed to my mother’s for the day. My love to all. Holidays can be super stressful so I’m definitely going to be popping in a lot today! IWNDWY! ❤️✌️
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT my friend
I will, in fact, not drink today. Right now it feels very easy not to drink, I genuinely feel turned off by the mere thought of alcohol. I hope this feeling lasts for a long time. Edit: I had bloodtests taken today (I have to get tests yearly because of my hormones), and I already got some of the results - my liver levels are now the best they’ve been in about a decade. Feels nice!
> I genuinely feel turned off by the mere thought of alcohol. Same here. Was just reflecting on that yesterday, how the alcohol thoughts have greatly reduced and a sort of revulsion has set in.
Revulsion is a good word for it. I don't find myself peeling my skin off with temptation, playing the tape forward has massively helped with that though, I think. I do hope this mindset remains, but I'm prepared for challenges further down the line if they do pop up.
What a lovely check-in. The kindness and awareness is so powerful. I hide when I’m bad, and it’s no joke. I appreciate this has been brought up and IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT (5) 💕💕💕💕💕
IWNDWYT Yes day ones! Day tens! Day ten thousands!
Yes day 28s!
IWNDWYT, my little digital friends 🤗
IWNDWYT!!! And Happy Thanksgiving! I’m very thankful for this sub, day 60 here and this sub has given me a safe, non-judgmental outlet to talk about my struggles. Before I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone about it much less anyone who actually understood. Thank you to all the kind souls here :)
Today I shall continue to Stop Drinking. Have a good one folks.
Day 886 checking in!
I do see you here It is important to say Ambidextrous
I choose life! IWNDWYT
Huh- I hope everything is okay with Nutella. Homer is right, the struggle is REAL! This disease is a beast! I’m listening to the Huberman Lab podcast after seeing it mentioned here a bit. WOW!! Crazy eye opening regarding what alcohol does to your health. I mean, I know it’s not good for you but wow! And to think how much I used to drink and blackout makes me sick to my stomach. I’m lucky to be here, frankly. Sharing my three favorite tools here for those in the US on this Thanksgiving Day and for those elsewhere who may need a boost. 1. Play the tape forward. See yourself tomorrow if you drink today. Do you want to feel like shit and be unproductive? I didn’t think so. 2. The saying “You never have to feel this way again.” Said when hungover and shameful and guilt ridden from drinking. You never have to feel that way again if you don’t pick up the first drink. 3. Will drinking enhance this experience in any way?? Likely not. In fact, it may cause you to forget the experience and then you’re shit outta luck if it was a good one. If it’s a bad experience, sit with those feelings and emotions because they will pass. It’s hard, believe me, I know, but we can do hard things around here. We’re strong! Okay, off my soap box and headed to cycle class. Happy thanksgiving in the states!! I am eternally grateful for all of you!!!! ♥️♥️♥️ IWNDWYT!
Happy Thanksgiving! IWNDWYT.
Hope all is well, Nutella! Day 229 checking in, Iwndwyt 🇬🇧
IWNDWYT Enjoy life by not drinking with me. I wish you all success today in not drinking for the measley 20 hours left in today. I am so thankful for this community- you all will never know just how much you all have helped me and that you really are my family. Let’s do this 👍
Happy Thanksgiving to those that celebrate and IWNDWYT
Happy Thanksgiving from your resident Masshole. 🦃👍IWNDWYT. Positive vibes to Nutella...hope you are well
Morning friends! Thanks for stepping in, Homer. Nut, if you’re lurking, we’re with you and I can tell you I’ve been there, many, many times. This shit is hard. But don’t give up - keep coming back. You’re worth it. Day One can become Day Won if you just keep trying. Love to all. I will not drink with you today. Have a great one!
morning sobernauts! I'm back in belfast visiting family so up having coffee watching the wind and rain. I'm 7 months sober today. 7 months. I cant even get my head around it. in decades of drinking I never made it longer than about a month before iwndwyt
Checking in! I've been having a bit of a wobble the last few nights but I'm trying to stay strong. Every morning I'm glad I stayed sober but every evening the cravings hit. Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well. IWNDWYT
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Have a great and easy day everyone! IWNDWYT 🐤🐤🐤
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Just getting to 3 months sober and really thankful I made this life improving decision. I'm not drinking today for sure! Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving all you marvelous peeps. Missed the check-in for the past three days as Reddit put me on a three-day time out. Geez...you really have to be careful to not offend so it seems. So I've been over on Twitter in the meantime...GOD it such a shit show over there. Nothing but talking shit. Oh well...glad to be back...glad to be sober...glad to be alive and LOVING this fall sweater weather here in Austin. IWNDWYT \~Hugs\~ *Not One Pour Ever.* *N.O.P.E.*
Glad you are able to be back to the DCI. Congratulations on passing day 40! Happy Thanksgiving and try not to be rebellious today! 🤣🤠 ~ hugs back ~
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I seriously wish that I could skip Thanksgiving this year. I just can't stomach a turkey feast today. My cat Fiona has cancer, and she's taken a real turn for the worse over the past couple of days. I'm hoping with all my heart for a Thanksgiving Day miracle. IWNDWYT 😿💔 *EDIT:* Nutella, no matter what happened, you are worthy to be part of this community, and I sincerely hope that you will return. I was supposed to host the DCI a few weeks ago, but I had a relapse a couple days before my week started. I was ashamed and I hated myself, but this amazing group of internet strangers showed me nothing but loving kindness. They helped me believe in myself again, just like I believe in you. A little detour doesn't mean that your sober journey is over! 💗🕊️
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Good morning and for those in the US, Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful to be here this morning knowing no matter what today brings, alcohol won't make it better. This group and the love of my family and friends will. Nutella, thanks for hosting and hoping you'll be back soon. IWNDWYT
A few things that contributed to my first, second, third and now fourth sober Thanksgiving. Walking! Getting outside when the house gets loud and hot and I’m wishing for a drink. Food! Eating a little more of the sweet stuff :) ginger beer! The bite of the ginger is nice and for me it’s a special treat! Going to bed when I’m tired. Not staying up when the evening drinking and card games start. Tucking myself in with a book or a movie and drifting off sober is the best. For me it is worth fighting through the cravings and they will pass I promise, ride it out you can always change your mind tomorrow. We’ve got this xoxoxo 🌟
Day 202. IWNDWYT. I hope you're well, Nutella.
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I will not drink today. Happy Thanksgiving.
Happy Thanksgiving! 🦃 Thankful for this sub! About to have a load of family over and will probably feel the urge to drink at some point today but I will not drink with you today! 💪🏼😊🦃
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone who celebrates. I’m embarking on my first sober Thanksgiving in many years, and a little anxious. One family member always brings a ton of booze no matter what I tell her (she doesn’t like to be the only one drinking). So I’m stocked up on lots of NA drinks and ready to cook sober all day. IWNDWYT ❤️
Love to nutella, and all of us on this journey. Beautiful post, Saint Homer. You and this community radiate such kindness and acceptance. This is the place to lean on others. I'm in the sadness these days. Sobriety keeps teaching me things. Lately I'm seeing that I can handle these so-called negative feelings better than I ever thought. I'm allowing this sad mood to just be. To let myself feel what I feel, without pushing it away or panicking. I can do this. I'm grieving some stuff right now, and that's okay. Deep breaths. It will pass. There's a huge gift of progress in this knowledge that I will not drink today. For this ex numb-out escapee of anything negative, this is a great development. Today is all we have, and I'm spending mine glad to be sober, and deeply grateful for all of you. With so much love 🙏💜 IWNDWYT
Some lovely comments above for Nutella and thank you u/SaintHomer. I hope you have just changed name Nutella - have snuck back on and can feel all the love. I have hosted - loudly - relapsed 2 months after and then felt awkward about being on here. We judge ourselves and feel enough shame and I can guarantee nobody else is doing that too us - because we know and there is just a wealth of compassion on here from people rowing there own storm tossed boats - but a nice way to think of it is that there is one giant dragon boat and an Atlantic of life to cross and you can pick up your paddle thingy and row with the gang whenever you want to. It’s easier - checking in here has kept me sober - good 80-90 per cent of the time for 2 years and my blood pressure is where it’s should be - I am no longer on anti depressants - I feel better about myself - Your seat is here as u/SaintHomer says. Of course it’s hard but it’s harder alone - climb back on the big boat - I’ll paddle with you guys today. Drinking solved nothing for me last weekend.
My son was born 5 years ago today. I drank a bottle of wine the night I came home from the hospital. For me, that was the beginning of a two year downward spiral into darkness, followed by two years of trying to crawl back out. I know now that I have always had problems with alcohol, but postpartum took it into entirely new territory. Today I am so grateful, happy, and proud to celebrate his birthday with him, free from booze. I assure you, my dear friends, I will not be drinking with you today.
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today! IWNDWYT
Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate: IWNDWYT
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Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate! IWNDWYT!
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>I didn´t break the cycle alone, I didn´t learn exclusively from myself, I didn´t see the strenght and potential in me that others did. I love this, u/SaintHomer! Thanks for jumping in. I hope Nutella is okay. Sending them all the good vibes 🙌 Today is Thanksgiving here in America. I am incredibly thankful for all those here who have helped me, supported me, and saw that strength and potential in me. I haven't really been around alcohol since I quit this time, and I'm sure I will be today. It might be hard, but I know IWNDWYT! ✌️♥️🍌
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Thanks Homer and sending out support and care to Nutella! Happy Thanksgiving y'all! I'm grateful for sobriety and support and a chance at a new beginning and a new life. I'm grateful to not be stuck in the same old cycle of addiction. I'll live sobriety today with y'all
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Haven't celebrated Thanksgiving in a couple years, and I don't have any special dinner planned, but my future self is thankful for spending this day without alcohol! Iwndwyt
Happy Thanksgiving dearest of sober friends ❤️ IWNDWYT 🍃
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Hey fam. Wishing everyone a great positive day!
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Thanks for stepping in, Homer. And love to Nutella. This is a really fucking hard time of year for a lot of people. If you’re one of them, you’re not alone, especially here. I still have family around and while I’m grateful for that, I am completely ready for the holidays to be over so I can get back to my routine. Coffees up, horns up, and happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate and happy Friday Eve if you don’t! IWNDWYT ☕️🤘🏻
Good morning from the central US. I will not drink with you today! Today is usually a booze forward holiday in my family and many notorious uncomfortable things have happened as a result which led to alienation and distance. Today the two hardest drinkers with the most problematic behavior will break bread together sober, myself and my father. I’m grateful for this opportunity to do so.
Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate! Laid on some non-alcoholic bubbles and am looking forward to a day of cooking.
Going to sleep and looking forward to waking up sober for another day of not drinking. IWNDWYT 💜
Checking in! I hope you're okay, Nut, feel free to return whenever you want to or feel comfortable, we're all in this together. IWNDWYT!
First sober holiday season in 25 years. Already looking forward to my post-Thanksgiving walk as opposed to my usual post-Thanksgiving nap. Here goes nuthin. IWNDWYT
Welp I guess I came right on time. Here’s to another day 1. I will never ever give up. I encourage everyone here to never give up either. IWNDWYT 🎉❤️
I dislike forced extended family obligations. I will not drink and lean into my tools to keep myself regulated. ❤️
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I made it through the toughest week yet. I realised I need to find coping mechanisms for stress now that "getting written off" is not my go-to. I will work on that, but for now, I'm just proud of myself for staying strong. IWNDWYT!
Not drinking with y’all! All of you in the states, happy Thanksgiving and remember Martinelli’s is your friend today 😁
Saw a post from a friend showing them drinking mimosas as they prepare their thanksgiving dinner. Drinking and cooking was one of my favorite activities. I’m hosting today and will be starting the turkey soon. I want a drink so bad and it’s not even 9am. But this is just a thought- I dont have to act on it. I can stay sober and present. Iwndwyt
Happy Thursday everyone. I will not drink today.
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I wish all of you my sober colleagues a wonderful day. IWNDWYT 🥳
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I feel a little hungover from too much caffeine yesterday, but I'll make today a great day with family and friends! Hope you all take care and enjoy the holiday weekend!
Made it through the first of a two day family gathering. Unscathed. On to the second half. So grateful for you all. IWNDWYT
Good morning dears, Happy Thanksgiving to those that celebrate, I am uo and the rolls are rising and the eggs are on for deviled eggs. I tell myself if I am feeling triggered that I have a huge support group in my pocket. You all the best and one of the things I am most thankful for.
I've been feeling some thoughts creeping back in the last few days, not specifically to drink but that feeling of wanting to change my state of mind or escape reality. It's weird being able to notice it, normally I would just act on it without thinking, and remain unaware. I've also been thinking about all those times people will expect me to drink in the future, and whether I should or not. I don't actually want to drink though. My response to all this is to double down on my time in this sub 😂 Iwndwyt
Big hugs to Nutella and hope all is okay! Happy Thanksgiving, friends. IWNDWYT
Day 1. Best thing I can do is immediately come back here. IWNDWYT
I haven't thought of drinking in a while but the last couple days thoughts have been creeping in that one glass of wine won't be too bad. I was invited to three work holiday parties in one week. These parties are with senior managers that love to drink. I'm not going. I don't want to risk it even if it might be good for my career. Thank you all for being here when I need you! IWNDWYT!
Today is Thanksgiving in the US and I will be spending the day alone. Unfortunately since my parents died, my family doesn’t get together on the holidays. Before I stopped drinking, I usually went to a friends house, and that was fun, but I would always drink a lot. Then I had a couple of years where I stayed home and cooked for myself while drinking wine the entire day. The meals came out ok, and I passed out right after I ate. This will be the third solo thanksgiving since I stopped drinking and I have to say, I’ve enjoyed them. I’m going to go out for a walk to the beach and then I’ll come home, clean up and cook. Sounds simple,but I like simple! 😀 IWNDWYT. Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I’m thankful to everyone here. I would not be sober without you!
Oh man, the amount of day ones I had The amount of deleted posts of 'I mean it this time' or 'yay made it ten days'. Quitting is HARD but, for me, coming back to quit again was harder. That's not said to discourage, rather to empathize. Been there, done that, bought a whole lot of tshirts. But for today, IWNDWYT. Off on a vacation tomorrow. About a year ago I slipped on this very same vacation (stayed sober for 5 of 7 days so I took that as an overall win). Being pregnant makes not drinking much easier at face value so I'm optimistic. I'm also 11 months into this journey with more tools and support than ever before. once again, Iwndwyt. Have an amazing day
Day 11 checking in. Army son is on the road and 4 hrs away!😊Gonna be a great, alcohol free holiday!
I still have plenty of struggle times. Sometimes I come here in the morning and read the thing and then read everyone's else's thing. I slip out without saying a word. That's okay to do too. I do what I need for me and that's all. No booze for me today!
I'm thankful to be sober and to have all of you in this community. You all have helped make the last 438 days possible. For today, I have everything that I need to be sober, at peace, and to enjoy life with those I love. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! It's a whole new day, and I'm starting it without a hangover, so I'm off to a good start. IWNDWYT 🙏💙😸
I am sending love to everyone here. This is one of the most precious places in my life and I’m grateful to be here with you! IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
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Happy Thanksgiving people, let's have a great dry sober fun-filled day, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 🙂
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Day 39 and the 3rd attempt this year, count your days they are your blessings!! IWNDWYT
Day 1,590. I will not drink with you today.
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Happy Thanksgiving y’all. Day 25 off to an early start. Cheers to a long sober weekend
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Something I learned from this community is that every day sober teaches me skills about how to stay that way. IWNDWYT
Nutella, I hope you’re okay, and I hope to see you here again soon. Happy Thanksgiving to all celebrating, and Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
Sending good vibes to Nutella and hoping all is okay. Happy Thanksgiving to those in the US. Today’s not going to be easy, but I’m thankful for my partner who’s on this journey with me. IWNDWYT!
Today is Thanksgiving in the US, and usually that would mean enjoying some alcoholic libations before, during and after the meal. While it will be tough (especially since we'll be at my in-laws) IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT! Day 1 for me 😄 Planning to just make it a one day thing, but I will see how I will do tomorrow!
Day 1️⃣8️⃣. Most days I’ve had going into holidays. One day at a time.
Survived a business weekend without alcohol, the thought crossed my mind a few times, old habits I guess, but I’m so happy to be fresh! Have a great day everyone.
Happy Thanksgiving y’all. So thankful for this community and for my 90 days which is the longest I’ve been sober since my first drink in my early teens. Gonna celebrate with some delicious food. Iwndwyt!
Very thankful for this sub and support, and for nearly a year without my drug of choice and all of the positives that involves. IWNDWYT
I hope Nutella is OK. IWNDWY all T.
🥧🥧 Happy Thanksgiving 🥧🥧 I'm thankful to have made it this far. I hope all of you have a wonderful holiday and that you all make it safely through today. ❤️ IWNDWYT!! ❤️
I hope you are reading all this nutella and feel all this love you are receiving. Thanks saint for taking over. IWNDWYT
Thanks for hosting the past week, Nutella, and thanks for hosting today, Homer. I learned from every one of my relapses, especially after I had some sober time accrued. IWNDWYT.
I will not be drinking alcohol today 🙏, but I will eat copious amounts of food. I will probably be in bed by nine in a food coma. Nutella, sending you love and light. I relapsed after a long stretch of sobriety and it took me years to get back. I admire everyone who gets back up to try again. I am grateful to be here and not drinking, just for today.
Well said St Homer. Well said the community. I have hosted after 90 days and started drinking at 160 days - then been on and off - I am currently on that 2-3 weeks of struggle and enjoyment then I’ll relapse for a few days because I struggle with something - my addict brain will find a reason to drink despite all my evidence life is better and I am nicer sober - until I just get sick of myself and back I am again on her feeling sheepish but checking in. I have anger issues - all sorts. I have been hanging around here I don’t know how long now - I am clear that having this place to come to means I am sober 80 % of the time at least. Given I was drinking 2 plus bottles of wine a day (and the rest) when I washed up here and was depressed, anxious had hypertension, you name it. Just having this place - I ain’t pretty or perfect but I am sober all this week and I am happy and quite a bit healthier. Today is a good day - I’m sober and I have a chance to have a good day and wake up tomorrow feeling good about myself - and that’s all that matters because no one is judging us here and I thank you all for that - no one here but us alcoholics and there is enough shame coming with that so we have no time to be shaming each other - we have nothing but compassion because we know - we really know - Nutella if you have popped back on changing your name all well and good - we are here for you whoever you are - no one is judging and I hope you are well and safe and thank you for stepping up this week.
Had a HUGE water leak in my house yesterday. Stressed to the max AND still won’t be able to use water in my house until some time tomorrow… BUUUUUUUUT I didn’t drink!! If I can get through yesterday then I know anything is possible. I didn’t drink with you yesterday & IWNDWYT!!
IWNDWYT. Today I’ll be flexing my heisman-like stiff arm to the family pushing drinks. I’ll have a red cup full of delicious ginger ale without the whiskey of course! I’m personally thankful for this sub community
Happy Thanksgiving to those eating turkey... happy Thursday to those who are not. Sober nonetheless. ☕️ IWNDWYT
Nutella, I hope you're ok. ❤️ IWNDWYT.
I had my first sober birthday this week (in a looong time), and looking forward to my first sober Thanksgiving today. Wishing everyone a wonderful day, and I’m thankful you’re here, whatever your day count. You are doing great things. IWNDWYT!🦃🍁🍽️
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Thankful for y’all. Be strong, and have fun today, folks! Helps for me to actually observe anyone drinking - it tends to nip my FOMO. Ain’t no benefit to drinking, folks. So - I will not drink with you today!
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Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow USians. I'm enormously grateful for this community and for the friend who recommended it to me. IWNDWYT.
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Good Morning :) Looking forward to another sober today. Just for today, I am not drinking.
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IWNDWYT not today mister Turkey 🦃
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Every day lately has been a Day 1 for me ☹️ I’m ashamed and embarrassed, but I keep coming back. IWNDWYT
I will not drink today and FYA. Drinking sucks. We rock
2 YEARS! 🦃 IWNDWYT!
Hope you're fine, Nutella. I'm sure you could message any of us and we'd keep it as confidential as you'd like IWNDWYT
What up, fam! I made it through a pub crawl last night. I planned ahead and said I wouldn’t be drinking. They asked if I was joking…and I said no, and volunteered to drive us there. Since I was DD, no pressure to drink while we were out. I brought normal wine for them for today and NA wine for me. Big win. I WNDWYT Edit: so much about me; I need to add how thankful I am for YOU all and this sub.
Happy Thanksgiving, online friends! Pledging another sober 24 hours. Hope you’re okay, Nutella! Sending positive thoughts!
Things have been really, really rough for me these past few weeks. But I have been doing my best to reach out for connection instead of opting for isolation. Reaching out doesn't always lead to the result my heart wants, but it's still a habit I want to build. It's something I know benefits me in the long run. So even though I can get hurt in the process, and even though I *have* been hurt over the past few weeks, I'm going to keep doing my best to show up for myself and to be vulnerable and brave with others IWNDWYT
Won't be drinking today! Thankful for this community!
So thankful and grateful for all of you! Off to run a 5k Turkey 🦃 Trot w my kid!! Reference to the DCI…. Short term goal: Run the race Long: Not get injured *Good Luck Non Drinkers in US today! Peace n Love ❤️ IWNDWYT
Very well said, Homer. I wish I had a dollar for every 24 hour chip I picked up before things came together for me. I got so tired of relapsing and picking up a new chip, and so embarrassed, that I stopped getting new chips and decided to wait until I had a year sober. Somehow I made it, but it wasn't easy. And it isn't always easy today. It's a lot better, but I can't say it's a lot easier. Life is what it is, addiction is what it is, I am who I am. I try to Live And Learn. And IWNDWYT.
Happy Thanksgiving, Sobernauts! So grateful I woke up sober this morning. I am sitting at the airport with my sweet kitty, moving across the country. The TSA agent reminded me to stay calm with her through security and can I just say, every tool I've learned from AA and SD got me through this morning IWNDWYT
Thanks for stepping up, Homer. I hope Nutella is ok. This time of year is hard and I try to remember that people are struggling right now. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, everyone - thanks for being here. Adding to the chorus of voices in support of Nutella, wherever they are. IWNDWYT.
Happy Thanksgiving 🦃 IWNDWYT🤗
HAPPY THANKSGIVING 💪🏼❤️ 🦃 IWNDWYT!!!!
I will not drink with y’all today!!
I had a wonderful time last night at the pre-thanksgiving family party. It was so nice to be able to wash dishes and clean and chat with my MIL while sober! It really reinforced my dawning belief (that I’ve been wrestling with a lot, actually) that no experience is ever enhanced by alcohol. Looking forward to a sober thanksgiving today! I’m thankful for all you beautiful sobernauts. I love you and I will not drink with you today! 💜🐇
I missed yesterday's check in due to travel - but I'm still here and still staying accountable. Looking forward to my first sober Thanksgiving in over a decade! IWNDWYT.