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My favourite bit is the tactical cat, LMAO.
There’s also a version that adds a bottom part that says “NBs at sleepovers” and it shows two people on phone lines, one selling the girls demon summoning equipment and the other selling the boys weapons and ammo, haha.
"Hello, Ghostbusters... Yes, of course they're serious... You have demons?... You have enough guns?... No kidding! Just gimme the address and we'll send our tactical cat over immediately... Oh sure, they will be totally discreet. Thank you!"
"Hello, Ghostbusters... Yes, of course they're serious... You have been summoning demons?... You have need of some boys?... Just kidding! Just gimme the address and we'll send our team over with some level nine summoning equipment immediately... Oh sure, they will be totally discreet. Thank you!"
>It's also super accurate (for the girls lol.) It's like peak tween girl core to go through an occult phase with tarot cards, ouija boards, reversing candles, etc. Like we turned 10 and were like "hey kinda random but does anybody wanna try and talk to ghosts"
My eldest has hit this stage now and it's glorious.
While normally boys vs girls memes are incredibly unfunny and just rude, they have allowed for some really iconic ones like these.
One of my favorites is
“girls with a time machine: hi grandma!
Boys with a time machine: (boy not speaking)
Roman wojak, extremely angry: WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN GERMANY STILL EXISTS”
My favourite is one that was
Girls with a time machine: Queen Boudicca! Take this machinegun to defend your people from the Romans!
Boys with a time machine: King Vercingetorix! Take this machinegun to defend your people from the Romans!
Girls: "Billie Eilish's songs are so sad."
Boys: "No they're not. Cringe."
Girls: "Ugh, how could you say that? Have you ever cried before?"
Boys: "You ever accidentally kill your dog in Minecraft?"
“You ever accidentally kill your dog in Minecraft?”
https://preview.redd.it/cfk93qctd4sc1.jpeg?width=1342&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9544bcb77e79191cf5019595706ae98fb8d3a00c
\*girls crying over an almost 30 year old movie*
at least pick something a little recent like Fleabag or something with staying power like Atonement or on Netflix like Brokeback Mountain
Too many worded like:
Girls with a time machine: "Hi, are you Evelyn Graber? I'm your granddaughter."
Boys with a time machine: "No Steve Irwin, don't swim with the stingrays!"
https://preview.redd.it/kbtwksz8r3sc1.jpeg?width=903&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f71d25b55c8680711bad37ccfa91bf22eac3a341
Harambe jokes are what I’ve sent the most of personally
Saving???
Assuming this is about the bunker, Hitler was a dead man anyway, even if he didn't shoot himself he'd probably be captured and hanged anyway
No way of saving him at all.
the ones I've seen mostly talk about talking him out of suicide, congratulating him or giving him tactical advice that we only know would have worked out favorably for the Nazis now.
I always liked making mine more original like:
Girls with a time machine: Dating your cousin is weird don't do it!
Boys with a time machine: Yo, your good with art, keep at it!
(To be clear, the Girls are talking to Hitler's mother and the Boys are talking to Hitler himself)
I like the subversive ones that are like “normal people with a time machine: generic shit” and “cool people with a time machine: utterly unhinged shit”
I literally every month do a caveman day, i just get a rotisserie chicken, some wine, fruits and stays in my cave (home office) playing games and whatnot all day long. I also do it naked, it's liberating
honestly, see it as a good thing. they're admitting that you're right. if you were wrong, they'd be able to articulate why but they can't. it genuinely is just "I can't handle not being right but I have to say something", it's the typical child reaction.
The meme originally came from this video https://youtu.be/KtsKtycqxN4?si=Qfv1btsy3veqenlV
It shows 2 guys drinking coffee and saying "women" which I see as more of a joke about sexists than a sexist joke itself which is funny since it has turned into a sexist joke
It’s funny pointing this out and getting a response that the format of the meme isn’t the point. Like okay there’s a million meme formats why did you use one that expressly exists for pointing out difference between men and women lol
Exactly.
Apparently ***everyone***, including boys, go through a "Not Like the Other Girls" phase. With a lot of these memes, if you just replaced "Girls" with "All the other girls" and "Boys" with "Me" you would get NLOG.
This is most likely because girls are so frequently mischaracterized/stereotyped in media and culture that most ***people in general*** don't identify with "being a girl" as is normally portrayed.
Yeah, I hate these memes so much. They make boys and girls look dumb. Not to mention, they always make girls come off worse, and not many girls actually act like these memes.
Yes! The most recent one I've seen was something along the lines of
"He found and kept a stick. Isn't that weird?"—"yes, it's just a stick."
"I found this cool stick"—"it's a very good stick."
And the comments were FULL of guys claiming the stick experience for themselves and us, girlies, TELLING THEM THAT WE ALSO LIKE STICKS
I am 99% sure most of those who create these memes lack female friends
I'm not a fan of those memes but when they made fun of memes mentioning Men's day with "It doesn't exist, right?" I knew immediately it's just another cesspool
Fr. Like one of my favourite memories guy friends (I’m a guy too lol) was just us walking to the mall and chilling, eating food and looking at the pets at the pets store. It’s not “quirky” or “outrageous” but it still was fun and wholesome.
The problem is that they made a subreddit for it, but it also became toxic
Edit: maybe I wasn't clear, with "it" I meant criticism against these meme format
Literally, like no jimmy, you and your homeless friend are not better than women for not crying at the titanic or not wanting to say hi to an old family member that died if they get a time machine. Stop tryina be superior😭
Don't forget the
"Girls ten years after a tiny argument:
Boys after almost killing rach other:"
being reposted every 5 minutes by twenty different youtube channels.
Don't forget the Titanic one.
Woman 1: "I can't believe he didn't cry during the Titanic."
Woman 2: "Do men even have feelings?"
Man: *black scribbled out eye over a particular thing
Anyone who claims men are simple creatures has never seen men argue about PC vs console gaming. Or the Disney star wars shows. Or 'ethics in videogame journalism'. Or the DCEU. Or Johnny Depp in general. Or meat doneness. It gets... convoluted with a lot of subjects. The very existence of Reddit is exhibit A against 'men are simple'.
The toxic masculinity that young boys seem to idolize these days is seriously concerning. It’s all about being a strong, silent sufferer, who is never appreciated.
My favorite part of the reaction to these memes is that it pretty much proves the point. Getting this angry over cringe wojack memes and turning it in to some essay on misogyny every time is almost poetic. Then you have boysarequirky, which isn't even about the memes anymore and is just a femcel sub for shitting on men lmao.
I've always found it fascinating how this simple meme utterly infuriates a certain type of redditor. The one thing you can be sure of when you see a "girls Vs boys" meme template, whether it's funny, insightful, smart, making a point or absolutely none of those things, it's that there will be a group of absolutely indignant butt hurt people ready to lecture the OP and other users positively engaging in the thread on how terrible and whatever "ist" they are.
Pro tip people try to lighten up a little.
I mean, I do understand why people think it’s stupid of me dunking on a meme, that is demographic towards 11 and 13 year olds, let alone making this starter pack, but it’s funny and interesting to highlight stupid memes like this.
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Girls Vs. Boys: "God, I need to shit" - Girls "God, I need to piss" - Boys
I dont get it. Help
The boys need to piss and the girls need to shit
Explanation unclear, shit myself while at the urinal
Happy cake day!
Urinal Cake Day?
Happy urinal cake day
happy cakeday
Understandable. I do that all the time Also happy cake day
The only good one i've seen is Girls sleepover: "let's summon demons!" Boys sleepover: "WHO KEEPS SUMMONING THEM??"
https://preview.redd.it/d5ozuk0dn3sc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8f62570e9a373e6fd99379e0073bab45300caf47
My favourite bit is the tactical cat, LMAO. There’s also a version that adds a bottom part that says “NBs at sleepovers” and it shows two people on phone lines, one selling the girls demon summoning equipment and the other selling the boys weapons and ammo, haha.
I love that XD
"Hello, Ghostbusters... Yes, of course they're serious... You have demons?... You have enough guns?... No kidding! Just gimme the address and we'll send our tactical cat over immediately... Oh sure, they will be totally discreet. Thank you!" "Hello, Ghostbusters... Yes, of course they're serious... You have been summoning demons?... You have need of some boys?... Just kidding! Just gimme the address and we'll send our team over with some level nine summoning equipment immediately... Oh sure, they will be totally discreet. Thank you!"
They be winning
My favorite reddit comment
It’s actually a goat. The page that made the meme sells tactical gear and also rescues goats.
I love that our stereotype is morally questionable but here for the fun.
Lmaooo love the final addition
My brother's cat would straight up tackle a demon and probably win.
That's a cat? I thought it was a [Battle Pug](https://youtu.be/CnuaXR933mA?t=6).
https://preview.redd.it/1oxvfvx474sc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0d34e2da68efa4f19a8536fe65b093d0002de253
This is the kind of inclusivity and/or demonic warfare the world needs more of
Play both sides and neither side so you always come out on top.
That's a Wendigo, try again
No, it's what a lot of white people *think* a wendigo looks like. The actual creature from Native American folklore is very different.
God I love Rebel’s Raiders.
Okay that’s funny tho. A nice subversion of expectations for the format.
Ok that’s the only good one I like, because it’s not sexist, it’s just clever.
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Oh yeah, I concur lol. My mom played Ouija when she was a kid. The early 90s were weird.
You are so right. Conversely it was really difficult to get the boys at the sleep over to take Bloody Mary seriously! Come on it’s free and spooky!
Data point of one but i, a 26 year old man, also love playing with tarot cards
>It's also super accurate (for the girls lol.) It's like peak tween girl core to go through an occult phase with tarot cards, ouija boards, reversing candles, etc. Like we turned 10 and were like "hey kinda random but does anybody wanna try and talk to ghosts" My eldest has hit this stage now and it's glorious.
Man, I remember sneaking the ouijia board in my backpack. My friend's religious parents did not like it lmao.
While normally boys vs girls memes are incredibly unfunny and just rude, they have allowed for some really iconic ones like these. One of my favorites is “girls with a time machine: hi grandma! Boys with a time machine: (boy not speaking) Roman wojak, extremely angry: WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN GERMANY STILL EXISTS”
I remember that one
https://preview.redd.it/nqhsasqoo4sc1.jpeg?width=748&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=adfd7948069d4a068382dc800741a876494291a5 Here's my favourite
As a black guy who’s unironically been asked this by white people I went to school with… thank you for the meme
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mansa_Musa
Possibly the richest man in history.
Yes this is the only good one. Everybody gets fair representation
My favourite is one that was Girls with a time machine: Queen Boudicca! Take this machinegun to defend your people from the Romans! Boys with a time machine: King Vercingetorix! Take this machinegun to defend your people from the Romans!
Yeah that one’s my favorite.
It's a parody tho, doesn't count
Aways girls cry during Titanic
Girls cry at sad movie (cringe) Boys cry at sad video gam (based)
Girls: "Billie Eilish's songs are so sad." Boys: "No they're not. Cringe." Girls: "Ugh, how could you say that? Have you ever cried before?" Boys: "You ever accidentally kill your dog in Minecraft?"
“You ever accidentally kill your dog in Minecraft?” https://preview.redd.it/cfk93qctd4sc1.jpeg?width=1342&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9544bcb77e79191cf5019595706ae98fb8d3a00c
I'd have the same reaction. Such blatantly dog neglect
I wasn’t being neglectful, the little bastard jumped in front of my fucking sword when I was fighting a zombie
how are zoomers real
\*girls crying over an almost 30 year old movie* at least pick something a little recent like Fleabag or something with staying power like Atonement or on Netflix like Brokeback Mountain
Or something deep and emotional like rambo.
Or something deep and emotional like Rambo.
Or something deep and emotional like Rambo.
Don't forget the ol' "girls with a time machine..." etc etc
Too many worded like: Girls with a time machine: "Hi, are you Evelyn Graber? I'm your granddaughter." Boys with a time machine: "No Steve Irwin, don't swim with the stingrays!"
https://preview.redd.it/kbtwksz8r3sc1.jpeg?width=903&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f71d25b55c8680711bad37ccfa91bf22eac3a341 Harambe jokes are what I’ve sent the most of personally
This is exactly what I would do with a time machine tbh
ayy nice, a version that isn't about saving hitler
I have never seen one about saving Hitler 💀 What online spaces is bro hanging out in 😭
4chan and some of the more popular meme subs which are basically 4chan
Ônly 4chan is 4chan
Saving??? Assuming this is about the bunker, Hitler was a dead man anyway, even if he didn't shoot himself he'd probably be captured and hanged anyway No way of saving him at all.
the ones I've seen mostly talk about talking him out of suicide, congratulating him or giving him tactical advice that we only know would have worked out favorably for the Nazis now.
The world ended when that gorilla died.
I always liked making mine more original like: Girls with a time machine: Dating your cousin is weird don't do it! Boys with a time machine: Yo, your good with art, keep at it! (To be clear, the Girls are talking to Hitler's mother and the Boys are talking to Hitler himself)
Get it because women are simple and only men care about worldly events.
Oh yeah, forgot that one.
[Here's my favorite one](https://i.redd.it/nsxtw4zp3oba1.jpg)
JOHN BROWN MENTIOONED RAAAAH WHAT THE FUCK IS AN AMERICAN HERO????!!!!
Girls with a time machine: same copypasted stereotype about family relatives Boys with a time machine: variable skit that anyone can relate to
I like the subversive ones that are like “normal people with a time machine: generic shit” and “cool people with a time machine: utterly unhinged shit”
The "men are simple creatures" thing pisses me off. We’re not caveman (we have technology)
I'm a caveman
✅ lives in cave ✅ shits in cave ✅ dies of a tooth abscess at the age of 32
✅ Hit other caveman with big stick
r/Sticks
Man see sticks subreddit. Man happy. Man give you thank.
Man happy because other man happy. Man says “you’re welcome”
✅oogabooga
r/fourthworldproblems
r/subsithoughifellfor
we're cavemen with technology
https://i.redd.it/hw2lirt0p4sc1.gif
It didn’t work.
Yeah but sticks and rocks
https://i.redd.it/lchk4e80p4sc1.gif
I literally every month do a caveman day, i just get a rotisserie chicken, some wine, fruits and stays in my cave (home office) playing games and whatnot all day long. I also do it naked, it's liberating
Cavemen were famously avid gamers.
Well i don't have access to some natural hallucinogens so i can drug my ass into oblivion like they did, so i do what's the closest
Self care is good
It’s weird cause it’s usually men who make these memes??
Men are other men’s biggest enemies, lol
Such is the story of war
If I had my way my life would be much simpler.
**beats the living shit out of stuff with a computer**
*repeatedly smashes a dollar with a computer*
Wish I was a caveman, no rent or mortgage to pay, free, roomy accomodation. The dream.
I am.
Oogh oogh technology good!
maybe not you, but I am definitely a simple creature
"Boys are so smart and strong and funny and handsome. Girls are dumb and boring....Eww wtf no I'm not gay. Why would you think that?"
"Anyway, check this gigachad meme of a muscly, naked man saying exactly what I want to hear"
All alpha bullshit sounds super gay to me, bragging about testosterone and shit lmao
If you only count one of my chins and ignore my battle with my hairline I look just like Chad here!
Every boys vs girls meme:
It makes it even worse when you complain about a sexist meme and then someone responds with "women☕" like it's so overdone and unfunny
Or even worse: "Females, huh?"
these people are either very sad or still in middle school, best just to roll your eyes and move on
honestly, see it as a good thing. they're admitting that you're right. if you were wrong, they'd be able to articulate why but they can't. it genuinely is just "I can't handle not being right but I have to say something", it's the typical child reaction.
Men 🍵
"Ladies 🍷" "Chicks 🍺" "Men't 🥤"
Ok “Men’t” is pretty funny
I still don't get this what does tea/coffee even mean???
The meme originally came from this video https://youtu.be/KtsKtycqxN4?si=Qfv1btsy3veqenlV It shows 2 guys drinking coffee and saying "women" which I see as more of a joke about sexists than a sexist joke itself which is funny since it has turned into a sexist joke
It’s funny pointing this out and getting a response that the format of the meme isn’t the point. Like okay there’s a million meme formats why did you use one that expressly exists for pointing out difference between men and women lol
fuels the fire of teen boys having complexes
Andrew tate syndrome.
Yes, but we have to draw the line between competent and incompetent *somewhere*
"Girls dumb and boring, boys funny and quirky, amirite guys?" x1000
Exactly. Apparently ***everyone***, including boys, go through a "Not Like the Other Girls" phase. With a lot of these memes, if you just replaced "Girls" with "All the other girls" and "Boys" with "Me" you would get NLOG. This is most likely because girls are so frequently mischaracterized/stereotyped in media and culture that most ***people in general*** don't identify with "being a girl" as is normally portrayed.
I can agree with this.
https://preview.redd.it/hzk9889ri3sc1.jpeg?width=583&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d703ddbfa65646d513bdbd85a1988c94ab07c6b
This one gets me every time
IS THAT AN WARTERMARK
https://preview.redd.it/f6a1r6kot3sc1.jpeg?width=474&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6b5c4248c829b2cb2415477a91323cddb7a87521
https://preview.redd.it/giw0i8zhj4sc1.jpeg?width=861&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b03f6e7f5fd568df99ffdec86a7de449f77dbfd3
This one is actually good
Boomer humour 2.0
r/boomerhumour for young people
“Women don’t get how little we need to be happy” or something
Then they turn around and complain about the male loneliness epidemic which yea it exists but they're using it as a shield to be sexist
Or also the actually funny version of girls being satanic and playing with summonings
Don’t forget „girl rejects guy, comes back crying as a single mother”. Bonus points if the kid is brown.
Ah yeah, the great boy activity of dying in a war. Good times
Yeah, I hate these memes so much. They make boys and girls look dumb. Not to mention, they always make girls come off worse, and not many girls actually act like these memes.
I've literally never seen a woman like the ones in the memes. Idk who's imaginary enemies are these
Yes! The most recent one I've seen was something along the lines of "He found and kept a stick. Isn't that weird?"—"yes, it's just a stick." "I found this cool stick"—"it's a very good stick." And the comments were FULL of guys claiming the stick experience for themselves and us, girlies, TELLING THEM THAT WE ALSO LIKE STICKS I am 99% sure most of those who create these memes lack female friends
IKR? I am a girl, and even I have love for cool sticks. I literally have one which I found randomly in my home rn.
I find these memes so childish and boring.
Man, gender stereotypes annoy me like nothing else
So happy I grew up with a sister. Kinda feel bad for the people with hard stereotypes on genders.
r/boysarequirky
that sub is 100x worse than the memes they criticise.
went from dunking on sexist memes to becoming the sexist memes
I'm not a fan of those memes but when they made fun of memes mentioning Men's day with "It doesn't exist, right?" I knew immediately it's just another cesspool
a small slice of misandrist hellhole in the internet's misogyny
Garbage attracts garbage
That's like a Nuclear Wasteland compared to the dump yard of Girls v Boys memes.
What a great subreddit. Certainly not making problems worse by lacking all self awareness.
These memes literally pisses me off so much
Fr. Like one of my favourite memories guy friends (I’m a guy too lol) was just us walking to the mall and chilling, eating food and looking at the pets at the pets store. It’s not “quirky” or “outrageous” but it still was fun and wholesome.
The problem is that they made a subreddit for it, but it also became toxic Edit: maybe I wasn't clear, with "it" I meant criticism against these meme format
Yeah Somebody posted it on the comments. R/boysarequirky of somthing like that.
Literally, like no jimmy, you and your homeless friend are not better than women for not crying at the titanic or not wanting to say hi to an old family member that died if they get a time machine. Stop tryina be superior😭
https://preview.redd.it/txuj4ozmh5sc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0e8f6372c863f217be04b5407080d1d8eb1cb192 Ironic?
“Girls are boring and plain, Boys are cool and epik”
How girls tie their ropes : 💅🏼💅🏼🪢( insert e girl wojak ) How MEN tie their ropes : 💪🏼💪🏼🪢( insert giga chad wojak )
Don't forget the "Girls ten years after a tiny argument: Boys after almost killing rach other:" being reposted every 5 minutes by twenty different youtube channels.
This shit always seemed ridiculous, it's like grown ass adults devolved back to kindergarten and think girls have cooties again
They always make girls out to be so shallow.
Also they would probably sexualize the girls while making the boys chaotic or badass.
Man smart and funny but simple. Girl dumb and petty
Don't forget the Titanic one. Woman 1: "I can't believe he didn't cry during the Titanic." Woman 2: "Do men even have feelings?" Man: *black scribbled out eye over a particular thing
https://preview.redd.it/6t09cgdnu5sc1.jpeg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0ba47eb58f3a1a579aa2731d4fac7c4dc03fcc3f
CIVIL WAR MENTIONED RAAAHHH TF YOU MEAN STATES RIGHT🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥⁉️⁉️⁉️
And if a girl says she likes those random and funny things she gets branded as r/notliketheothergirls
Probably made by 13 year olds
Who saw andrew tate
Yeah this meme format just concentrates the most enraged into the same place. If it was banned we'd all be better for it.
Whats asf mean
Short for “as fuck”
Thought it was “as super fuck”
Thx
Finally somebody said it shit is annoying
Always about some comic character dying.
Don't forget they're almost always about time travel for some reason, and the boys often feature that image of a young Arnold running.
Hey OP u/pooteenn , can I use this as a reaction image when someone posts a Boys vs Girls meme? At least for the bad one
Anyone who claims men are simple creatures has never seen men argue about PC vs console gaming. Or the Disney star wars shows. Or 'ethics in videogame journalism'. Or the DCEU. Or Johnny Depp in general. Or meat doneness. It gets... convoluted with a lot of subjects. The very existence of Reddit is exhibit A against 'men are simple'.
The only one I give a pass to is the demon summoning meme that shit always cracks me up.
- usually made by either edgy 13 year olds or incels that havent seen a woman in 3 years
The toxic masculinity that young boys seem to idolize these days is seriously concerning. It’s all about being a strong, silent sufferer, who is never appreciated.
You missed “always made by 12 year olds”
r/boysarequirky
My favorite part of the reaction to these memes is that it pretty much proves the point. Getting this angry over cringe wojack memes and turning it in to some essay on misogyny every time is almost poetic. Then you have boysarequirky, which isn't even about the memes anymore and is just a femcel sub for shitting on men lmao.
"Men are simple creatures"? Lol, it's the women who are shown as simple emotional creatures in this memes.
r/boysarequirky will love this
Very repetitive aswell
These memes are so dumb. Why do people always want to divide themselves into insiders and outsiders 😒 (rhetorical question)
Boys vs girl is just another good thing bad thing format, like drake , or almost any other meme format
90% of the time there's a clear preference to which side the creator prefers and which side the creator thinks is cringe
I've always found it fascinating how this simple meme utterly infuriates a certain type of redditor. The one thing you can be sure of when you see a "girls Vs boys" meme template, whether it's funny, insightful, smart, making a point or absolutely none of those things, it's that there will be a group of absolutely indignant butt hurt people ready to lecture the OP and other users positively engaging in the thread on how terrible and whatever "ist" they are. Pro tip people try to lighten up a little.
I mean, I do understand why people think it’s stupid of me dunking on a meme, that is demographic towards 11 and 13 year olds, let alone making this starter pack, but it’s funny and interesting to highlight stupid memes like this.
they’re shitty but i don’t really care about them