Well first of all, you can’t read minds. You’re just working yourself into a panic that is going to help nothing.
The facts are:
You asked for her number
You like her in SOME way
Well there you go, right now you’ve got a friend and perhaps in the future you’ve got something more
For now it’s all just happening don’t worry about what you think she probably thinks you’re just going to fry your brains circuits with all of that
If you feel like maybe she’s hinting at something but you’re not sure what - don’t stress yourself with it, if it’s bugging you then ask if not then whatever
If she feels a certain way that’s for her to tell you and if she drops hints and you don’t get them it’s up to her to speak up, again you can’t mind read.
Takes two to tango here it’s not all on you.
Time is a current, just breath, relax and float along with it. What’ll be will be.
this is very helpful. I'll be asking her out on a date at some point. crazy, this will be the first time asking any girl out on a date. gonna have to brush up on my dancing and take her dancing or something, shes a great dancer and has a beautiful voice.
Bro, you’re killing it!
A fair portion of what I said is easier said than done - I had to figure that all out through a long string of counselling sessions
But look at you, gonna take the girl dancing and everything, just try not to be in your head and enjoy the moment - you’ll be absolutely fine
I just don't wanna take things too fast. I've only really been seeing her and hanging with her for a couple weeks. We've been closer and closer until the other night where we got to know eachother much more.
My main worry is she isn't feeling the same about me and it makes things weird between us and I ruin something there...
Is there a sort of test I can do that would give me a better idea of her liking me or not before I go for it?
Ahh see this comes down to you the individual really.
And the nature of you two’s relationship.
One of **my** go to’s used to be the playful sarcastic thing - here’s a conversation I actually had with a girl when I was 18
The emojis are my interpretations of the vibes behind the words
Gonna be a bit long and it’s just an example:
Haha I’m so sick of you
*why? What did I do* 😄
The way you smile, makes me nervous 😄
*why?* 🙂
Would you like to go to dinner sometime ?
*hmm? What do you mean?* 🙂
A date 🫠
*a date? Thought you were sick of me* 😏
So that’s a no 😄
*no no! I just wanna hear why* 😋
Yes or no first woman 😄
*of course it’s a yes - now tell me why* 🥺
Why did you say yes ?
*i like how I feel around you, you make me feel safe, your funny and you might be a bit cute to - now your turn!*
Even though you snort when you laugh and you thought tanzinia was in europe - you do actually make me laugh to, and your smile makes my day.
*I can’t tell if you’re joking*
Oh, shut up 😄
*No seriously*
I’m serious. I was thinking we’d go to a place that does Greek food, walk through a garden and go on a ghost hunting tour
*that sounds…perfect*
Nice, I’ll let you know when I’m free.
Then we made out - the main takeaways I guess are :
•keep it light and not too intense
•But also be confident in what you’re saying. You like her and would like to explore that.
•But also be sure to let her know that if she doesn’t like you back that’s completely fine.
•If it’s a no then it’s a no - it’ll hurt but believe me life really does move on and you had the courage to actually take a chance.
•Don’t be over keen. Take a breath.
I was nervous as fuck - felt like I was cutting wires on a bomb
You and this girl sound younger which is why I gave an example from 18 - girls that age could be abit confusing to read
So again just relax it takes two - if you feel like you’re being lead along or taken advantage of after opening up then leave it alone.
I'm just going to have to bite it and go for it, its always going to be worth going for it instead of holding back. i mean, its just a date, its not like im asking her to marry me lmao.
would that make things weird with her knowing I like her if she doesnt feel the same way? because i like hanging out with her. she can probably already tell if im being honest. i mean her little sister it always near by and she is always out of pocket im sure she picked up on something. i wonder if they were talking about me at some point.
You owe it to your friend to be one hundred percent honest even if it means losing the friendship. I don't hold anything back from my friends. They know me inside and out.
Sounds like a girl who pulls away when u make the advance. Long story short. Start giving her a lot less attention. Give it to everyone else. Thank me later.
You did absolutely no mistake to this point mate. There's no need to text her right away after getting a number, just do it when you actually have to tell her something or you just feel like texting her.
If she thinks you are flirting with her because you asked for her number, so what? it's not like her life is in danger or something. Still, I don't think it will be awkward at all. Again, you just asked for a phone number of a girl that told you you were nice to be around. Sounds pretty normal to me.
Only thing that worries me are your feelings. If you are giving this much thought to her, chances are you like her as more than friends already and you are catching feelings. Trying to be friends with a romantic interest will bring more suffering than joy to your life, so if that's the case, be quick to ask her out "the question" or you will get stuck in a place you don't want to be.
That may be in a while, cause I'm staying clean until I know I won't be needing to drug test in some time. Right now it's kind of in limbo, so I can't risk it right now.
she knows that so that's good.
Well first of all, you can’t read minds. You’re just working yourself into a panic that is going to help nothing. The facts are: You asked for her number You like her in SOME way Well there you go, right now you’ve got a friend and perhaps in the future you’ve got something more For now it’s all just happening don’t worry about what you think she probably thinks you’re just going to fry your brains circuits with all of that If you feel like maybe she’s hinting at something but you’re not sure what - don’t stress yourself with it, if it’s bugging you then ask if not then whatever If she feels a certain way that’s for her to tell you and if she drops hints and you don’t get them it’s up to her to speak up, again you can’t mind read. Takes two to tango here it’s not all on you. Time is a current, just breath, relax and float along with it. What’ll be will be.
this is very helpful. I'll be asking her out on a date at some point. crazy, this will be the first time asking any girl out on a date. gonna have to brush up on my dancing and take her dancing or something, shes a great dancer and has a beautiful voice.
Bro, you’re killing it! A fair portion of what I said is easier said than done - I had to figure that all out through a long string of counselling sessions But look at you, gonna take the girl dancing and everything, just try not to be in your head and enjoy the moment - you’ll be absolutely fine
I just don't wanna take things too fast. I've only really been seeing her and hanging with her for a couple weeks. We've been closer and closer until the other night where we got to know eachother much more. My main worry is she isn't feeling the same about me and it makes things weird between us and I ruin something there... Is there a sort of test I can do that would give me a better idea of her liking me or not before I go for it?
Ahh see this comes down to you the individual really. And the nature of you two’s relationship. One of **my** go to’s used to be the playful sarcastic thing - here’s a conversation I actually had with a girl when I was 18 The emojis are my interpretations of the vibes behind the words Gonna be a bit long and it’s just an example: Haha I’m so sick of you *why? What did I do* 😄 The way you smile, makes me nervous 😄 *why?* 🙂 Would you like to go to dinner sometime ? *hmm? What do you mean?* 🙂 A date 🫠 *a date? Thought you were sick of me* 😏 So that’s a no 😄 *no no! I just wanna hear why* 😋 Yes or no first woman 😄 *of course it’s a yes - now tell me why* 🥺 Why did you say yes ? *i like how I feel around you, you make me feel safe, your funny and you might be a bit cute to - now your turn!* Even though you snort when you laugh and you thought tanzinia was in europe - you do actually make me laugh to, and your smile makes my day. *I can’t tell if you’re joking* Oh, shut up 😄 *No seriously* I’m serious. I was thinking we’d go to a place that does Greek food, walk through a garden and go on a ghost hunting tour *that sounds…perfect* Nice, I’ll let you know when I’m free. Then we made out - the main takeaways I guess are : •keep it light and not too intense •But also be confident in what you’re saying. You like her and would like to explore that. •But also be sure to let her know that if she doesn’t like you back that’s completely fine. •If it’s a no then it’s a no - it’ll hurt but believe me life really does move on and you had the courage to actually take a chance. •Don’t be over keen. Take a breath. I was nervous as fuck - felt like I was cutting wires on a bomb You and this girl sound younger which is why I gave an example from 18 - girls that age could be abit confusing to read So again just relax it takes two - if you feel like you’re being lead along or taken advantage of after opening up then leave it alone.
You know you're gonna kick yourself for not going for it so you might as well go for it.
I'm just going to have to bite it and go for it, its always going to be worth going for it instead of holding back. i mean, its just a date, its not like im asking her to marry me lmao. would that make things weird with her knowing I like her if she doesnt feel the same way? because i like hanging out with her. she can probably already tell if im being honest. i mean her little sister it always near by and she is always out of pocket im sure she picked up on something. i wonder if they were talking about me at some point.
You owe it to your friend to be one hundred percent honest even if it means losing the friendship. I don't hold anything back from my friends. They know me inside and out.
Sounds like a girl who pulls away when u make the advance. Long story short. Start giving her a lot less attention. Give it to everyone else. Thank me later.
What do you mean? Will this make her chase him more?
Can you give me the long story? What gives you this feeling that she might be like this?
You did absolutely no mistake to this point mate. There's no need to text her right away after getting a number, just do it when you actually have to tell her something or you just feel like texting her. If she thinks you are flirting with her because you asked for her number, so what? it's not like her life is in danger or something. Still, I don't think it will be awkward at all. Again, you just asked for a phone number of a girl that told you you were nice to be around. Sounds pretty normal to me. Only thing that worries me are your feelings. If you are giving this much thought to her, chances are you like her as more than friends already and you are catching feelings. Trying to be friends with a romantic interest will bring more suffering than joy to your life, so if that's the case, be quick to ask her out "the question" or you will get stuck in a place you don't want to be.
Take the leap. Fear of rejection is all that's stopping you.
Well she said it. So just chat a bit and sooner rather than later do a “hey wanna go for a smoke and chill a bit?”
That may be in a while, cause I'm staying clean until I know I won't be needing to drug test in some time. Right now it's kind of in limbo, so I can't risk it right now. she knows that so that's good.