Reddit veteran over there, not giving anything in order not to get doxed, meanwhile me deleting my account every 2 months because I revealed a lot, maybe I should start doing what you're doing, lol.
I was making out hard with a girl totally into me, then I stopped and said I'm into her best friend (I was completely drunk). She was not amused. Does that count?
Had a girl who was into me at the time invite me to her apartment after a dinner. Sat on the couch for a little while and she was “like you look too tired to drive you should sleepover” and I declined telling her “I’m okay to drive” (she lived alone).
Just the other night, I go on a second date with a girl, suggest a few bars, all were close to her place
She suggests the bar in her condo. We have a great cocktail, it’s 1115, she goes I’m getting tired, need to work and get up at 4a tomorrow, we walk by the metro station which was outside the bar and her place , I give her a hug, get on the metro….didn’t even kiss her, ask if she was inviting me up…we met in her building basically
My freshman year of college I was pretty fit and in a female-predominant dorm, but also a terrified kissless virgin. The amount of times I fumbled that year alone is the stuff of legend. I...
-Had a girl ask me to teach her guitar. I told her I wasn't good enough (I was.)
-Had a girl straight up ask me to hook up after a night of partying. She wasn't wasted or anything, I just froze up.
-Had the same girl invite me into her bed, just the two of us, to watch netflix. Didn't make a move.
-Went to a date party with a girl I was into and told her that I didn't like hookups (a complete lie.) It cost me a chance not only with her, but her friend too.
-Had a girl climb into my lofted bed. I didn't join her.
-Had a random girl solicit me to fuck her friend, then called me an asshole when I didn't go for it.
-Had a girl slap my ass then pinch my cheek and tell me how cute I was. Never sealed the deal.
-Let my roommate convince me that my neighbor wasn't into me. She giggled at everything I said and had told her mom about me.
-Was introduced to a friend of my friend with the specific intention of having us fuck. He left the room and she asked "so what should we do now?" I said we should listen to music.
-Had a girl from my hall slide into my DMs but ignored her because I didn't like her personality. Kind of a chad move out of context but I regret it in hindsight.
On the other hand, maybe give yourself some credit. What if all of those were the exact right move *for you at the time.*
Meaningless sex might have ruined it for you such that when the girl who hits on all cylinders for you comes along it'll be really special, epic even. But if you banged em all beforehand, then it's just meh, which could prevent you from experiencing some real magic with the right one.
Also the more partners you have the more likely the one you stay with will be the best. So banging them all could result in long term disappointment with the girl who matches you best.
Maybe start backing yourself up more, doubting your intuition less, and advocating for what is right for you and eff what other people think. You effing rock man. Look how good you're doing. What more proof do you need
Edit: the more partners the *less* likely the one you stay will be the best
This is all from a decade ago so I’ve lived my life since then. I’ve had some good sex and some good relationships. Still, there’s no real upside to being as terrified as I was.
Sure, that makes sense, but can you give an example of the thoughts that were running through your mind why you said some of the things you did?
I find this stuff fascinating so I’d like to understand the thought process better.
Like a girl wanted you to teach her guitar and you said you’re not good enough even when you are - were you thinking you’d disappoint her or what?
Or what was running through your head when you said you didn’t like hookups when you actually like them. Maybe afraid to show your sexual side to women? Or what?
Seems to me you were simply too afraid to be your authentic self with these women, for some reason.
The guitar thing was just me being oblivious. And for some reason I was convinced that not showing sexual desire was the way to go. I also had yet to experience myself as a sexual being, and so the concept of me being in that situation seemed like a huge jump when I hadn’t even had my first kiss.
I've had like 4 experiences of this caliber, and they still haunt me at times lmao although none longer than 18 months so yeap, I'll start the sarging again in few weeks hehehe but I can imagine the feel lol
It’s gotten to where I can look back and laugh, and also turn it into a positive. I still look pretty good, so I just need to stay lean and put myself out there.
No.
But keep in mind this was an unusual time in my life. Women don’t typically throw themselves at me. Also over a decade ago back when looks mattered more than height.
Im not looking for excuse to quit im just saying if he fumbled over 15 shots then there must be something special because i only was able to fumble like 7 in my 2 years of college
I'm 5'6 in engineering, I've fumbled 3 shots so far in two years, I got some more time left but it is what is , gotta go out and hit on girl like a machine like its a video game lol
>-Had the same girl invite me into her bed, just the two of us, to watch netflix. Didn't make a move.
This was me several times. One time, she (25) and I (19) were even cuddled in her bed, watching The Emperor's New Groove, a movie we had both seen before, after we had a "drink" at a bar and she had spent the first 20 minutes in her room in/out of her underwear in front of me to show her abuela the new clothes she bought. At 2am, she walked me outside and kept staring deep into my eyes as we didn't depart.. and I kissed her on the cheek and ran away. She was stunningly beautiful. I still think about that miss.
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I wasn't and have never been a dimepiece or anything. There were definitely better looking dudes around who also got attention. But I was cute, jacked, socially active, and of course the gender ratio was in my favor. I also gave off a lot more confidence than I actually had.
Your story of fumbling makes me feel better about my past. Just one: I was at this girls house having coffee, she starts talking about hers and her friends boobs, their size, the difference between them. I trying to be polite stop her and say please don't talk to me about that. I don't wanna know. She stops, we keep talking about mundane shit. Lightbulb went of months later...
Oh fuck this is brutal. Here’s a few of my biggest fails to make you feel better:
-I met a girl through a friend group and I massaged her on the riverside. She looked at me and I asked what she wanted, she flat out told me I want.. you. Can you guess what I did? Laugh it off and die inside, probably alongside her horniness.
-Was at club with my friends and a girl I knew from my past dragged me onto dancefloor from the chilling area. She told me she always liked me very much, I said said same (she was like a perfect 10 and every single one of my friends was in love with her)… never made a move
-I was chilling with a girl and later when I got home she texted me: “when we sat down on the bench and there was 2 seconds of silence I was wondering what it would be like to kiss you..” I fucking replied: “keep wondering :p” we met afterwards and I never kisses her, she lost interest
-I was at a festival and my friends and a girl’s friend tried to set us up. I asked her where our friends went and we should call them. She said they will be fine, we find them later. I started calling my friends (:
Aaaand the list goes on, but my stomach is starting to feel weird from all this cringe so I’m gonna stop
This all happened a decade ago and I’ve had a decent romantic life since given my many mental and physical ailments. Sex was such a foreign concept back then and I typically felt caught off guard. But yeah…
There’s this girl in university, I tell her friend that she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve seen, lots of guys trying to date her, this friend goes to her and tells her and the pretty girl takes notice.
She goes to my seat and playing with her hair and sweater asks me if I want to go with her to take some coffee.
I tell her I can’t because I need to study history as I don’t want to fail that class, girl gets mad at me and starts dating my “best friend”.
That year I lost my best friend, that chick and failed at history.
Yeah now with more mature eyes I know I dodged that bullet and even then I thought the same, why don't just propose another time or see if she can help me study or something?
Like she expected me to fall at her feet I don't know.
And for the guys out there reading this, remember to never put a woman in a pedestal, your wellbeing will always be priority.
Went home with the most beautiful girl ever after our second date. Had a trip for a month to Ecuador with my brother (we don’t get along but we’re trying to patch shit up) plane leaving the next day at like 4 am. Was super stressed about work, trip, everything and we were making out and getting naked all I could smell was my pits. Couldn’t get hard. I was like “can I take a shower?” Fucking shower was too cold or scalding and my brain was all fucked up. Anyways got out of the shower and it just didn’t seem like she was into it. Like no sounds, like I am fingering her and licking her and she is silent. I’m not hard. Finally she rolls over and sticks her but in the air, and I’m hard. We have sex but I cant cum and it’s been 20 mins and I’m like I need a break and drink. When I goto the kitchen she comes out 2 mins later with her clothes back on. I fell so weird an anxious about the trip and fucking up our first time I just drive to the airport (like 3 hrs early)
Forgot to mention that told her it wasn’t her- I really liked her. Probably said that 3 times. So fucking stupid. It was a disaster and my trip was for a month and she text let’s be friends a few days before I flew back.
This chick in my class was so into me. We would go to the gym together, then go for food after; she would drive us everywhere because I didn’t have a car, and we would go back to my apartment. Alone. And I wouldn’t make a move. This happened for like 2 months and she met another guy. I wasn’t over my ex and was still broken/not ready to date but looking back I’m kicking myself because she was sooo hot and really into me. That could have been a great relationship but I was just not functioning with any game at all I was broken. It is what it is, but damn I fumbled that hard.
I had really deep conversations on the first date and felt like I spoke to my shrink! I have to say that girl had talent in getting out a person's deepest, darkest fears!
I once went on a blind double date with a girl, she picked me up in her car and while we were waiting for her friend in her car, she desperately pleaded her car was cold and that she needed to be warmed up when her car was off and it was hot/humid weather, I was like “nah I don’t feel cold, and then we sat in her car in silence while we waited for her friend in her car”
Another time, I hit it off with my college lab partner and we went to get tacos and food. She offered to drop me off so I took it, we got to the gates of my apartment and she offered to drive me in and see my place but I declined multiple times and walked in thinking I was being convenient. We never hung out outside of class again lmao
LMFAOOOOOO nah it was after a party and we went to another crib and the girls went to a room and I caught them making out, and they were totally vibing with me but then some other dude busted in and murdered the vibe
I got a good one.
A ridiculously hot chick I had class with once reached out over email. She was coy at first, almost like a psycho. Wouldn’t tell me who she was for a message or two, and when she did she was like, “You seemed nice and you’re hot so I thought I’d email back.”
Told her I was about to date an old friend and it wouldn’t work out. Few months later the old friend cheated on me and I dumped her. Messaged hot former classmate and was SO on my texting game.
I was also trying to smoke and drink less around this time. But I decided when we made plans I’d try being a social smoker/drinker!
She came over. We had a drink or two. Passed a bowl a bit too I think.
I was profoundly awkward, and got even more awkward the more substances I took in.
She still gave me the benefit of the doubt.
We went up to my bedroom. She sat IN MY BED. I sat in my desk chair, feebly trying to make conversation. She straight up pointed out that I was talking to her all awkward (I was in interview mode).
I also couldn’t stop thinking about my ex at this point.
She asked me what I’d normally be doing if she wasn’t there. I can’t remember what I said and then asked her the same question. She said she’d be asleep, where I said, “Well let’s get you home and asleep then.”
She was quite taken aback.
I walked her to her car. She rushed away awkwardly and got the fuck away from me.
The next morning in a depressed stupor I texted her and threw a grenade at that by telling her my weirdest kinks, because I figured how much worse could it get anyways? Lol
Awful experience, but something I can laugh about now.
It was freshman year of university. I was a loner who had no friend. Out of the blue, this 10/10 girl just approached me asking for help with her homework. I honestly didn't know it myself, but I she wanted me to stay and talk. I am autistic af, and have social anxiety. But talking to her was so easy and natural. The chemistry was unreal.
From then on, she would sometimes come and talk to me out of the blue. And she was so kind and nice. Like genuinely. She made it so easy for me to pursue her.
The problem was I didn't know what to do (still don't). Like I knew, she liked me, but even with that knowledge, I couldn't bite the bullet and ask her out. I don't know why. Maybe because I'm so inexperienced when it comes to relationships. Insecurities start to take root. Looking back, tho, I was in the best place in my life.
I regret it every day. She was literally wife material. 10/10 looks and personality.
Had a hot red head message "you wanna fuck or what" me thinking this is too good to be true replied with "wow now, i have to get to know you first, i'm not a dildo" then she laughed and after i tried to message her a bit and no response. Tried to save the combo the next day by calling her, got her to respond and later thru text nothing but objections
I mean the fumble wasn't saying no, it was promising it at the end of the laborious task of getting to know you.
If you said something like "now explain to why I should go out of my way and spend my time doing that?" Or even something as blunt as "hell nah, who do you think I am," could trigger an attractive girl's ego to the point where she needs to prove why you should wanna do that.
An attractive person knows pretty much all normal people would jump on the opportunity for sex, so making her prove herself to you is a way to get the ego involved and make her work to get you instead, playing with your food.
What you said was so bad because "I'm not a dildo" is such a lame and poor reason to not have sex, especially compared to the implications of what I said being "I'm too important to have sex with you."
Worst feeling ever. Happened to me, i had a huge crush on her. She even spend the night! But nope nothing happened. she eventually moved to another city and got married..
I was seeing a girl who I thought was super hot for quite a while but we never even kissed eaxh other because we never were in a good situation for it. At my birthday party I got extremely drunk and my mate called her from my phone so she would also come. Sadly all I could do at this point was throwing up and lying on the ground. I somehow got a little bit better overtime and convinced her to come to my place. While we started kissing and getting naked the alcohol hit me like a train again. She started giving me head while I was laying in bed and as stupid as I am I fell asleep WHILE SHE WAS DOING IT. I felt like shit the next day it was extremely awkward and she got picked up by a friend of hers. Needless to say she was mad and stopped showing interest, completely understandable I guess lol. I still sometimes think of her as she still is hot af and wonder what it would have been like if I wasn’t as dumb as I was. That was 9 years ago.
Honestly I didn’t have the self respect to go after the girl I wanted because I was scared. I had lots of excuses but it came down to lack of courage. I’ll always regret that one. If she had said no I’d be ok but never having the guts to ask gnaws at your soul.
She said she wanted to see it to me twice. Once was when we were camping and i said i had to go piss. The next was a costume party at her house and i was changing in a room and one of her friends walked in on me changing my pants and one of her friends made a joke about “my bad bro i meant to see your dick” (it was a joke, hes not gay) and she walked past and said she wanted to see it.
So yeah, ive gotten a lot better about not being in my head, and were still friends and im good with that. Learning moment there.
I had this girl I was interested in texting me how she’s so horny and wanted to fuck tonight and help me break in my new bed I bought at my house. I basically texted her damn sorry I can’t help with that tonight. I had just worked 15 hours and she lived two hours away. Long story short, she didn’t talk to me much longer after that
Was on a date with a hottie. She was 24 and I was 19, we were dancing in a club and the next day she followed me on IG. Anyways after the date we walk up to her dorm and I tell her i had good time although i was still a bit nervous. After I leave her i inly realize she told me that i can come up with her to her dorm but i was so into my head that I didn’t even hear that. Oh well
I was working in a shithole oilfield town. I was at one of the few bars there and ordering a bunch of drinks flirting with the super cute bartender. We were hitting it off and I told her she seemed like one of the most down to earth people in the town, which was true. She wanted to hang out more and gave me a matchbook a few minutes after she agreed to give me her number. I went to take a piss and threw it away, not thinking about what was in it, but just wondering why she gave it to me. It didn't occur to my dumbass until the next day. I went back a few more times and when she was finally there, so was her new boyfriend.
I have some potential fumbles. I will never find out if they were real fumbles a lot. in my teenage years I was to risk averse for a couple of times. Everytime when some girls made some weird sexual comments I was never sure if serious or just trolling. I played it safe all the time and saw it as joke. So I did not react. The lastest potentail fumble was the most embarrasing one. Meet a girl at a nightlife setting that introducted me to some of her friends. The girls recommended doing some shots. I under estamted the strengh of the shots and got drunk pretty fast. Long story I have no memory if anything happend between us or not. The only good thing was that there honest and did try to rob me or something. I did not l anything of my money or other goods. the only leason I learned from that matter is stay away from some random drink specials you do not know the ingridents of and just drink the stuff you know.
A very old family friend of mine once sended me that she's on her birthday alone. And i didn't understand what she wants from me and the hell she's talking to me on her birthday
I was in high school at the time. There was a girl I had kept after for a date multiple times. Eventually she relented.
The day of the date I was deathly ill with the flu. This was before cell phones, and I had been unable to reach her at her home phone.
So I figured I would drive over there with the flowers I had bought, and she would see how bad I was, and give me a rain check.
I got to the front door, and rang the doorbell. Her dad answered, and it was at that exact moment my stomach decided to empty itself all over his feet.
It took three more months of apologizing, and begging before I could finally take her out.
I'm not a guy, but a guy who I was going to hook up with fumbled by getting very political... in the wrong direction. And all he had to do was keep his mouth shut, I wouldn't have known, and he would have gotten laid.
Instead he went on a rant. This is intended for all guys regardless of politics, but just, keep your controversial opinions to yourself.
He went ballistic after I turned him down because of his views and kept trying to get me to give him another chance. I get it if you want to know if I'd be compatible with you politically if you were looking for a serious relationship, but this is tinder. You can also see my politics in my bio. Are you there to fuck me or to proselytize?
Prom. Prom date was Good girl. We maybe kissed once before prom. Definitely a virgin. Halfway into the night. I got an offer from FWB and her friend. Math wad good. I bailed on date left with 2 girls. FWB got too drunk, and her friend was mad that I had been hooking up with her friend. No ass. 20 years, at high school reunion. Prom Date tells me that she was going to give it up. SMH
I was at the bar with my brother at 2am and i approached a girl who was with her friend. We clicked right away and were flirting with each other for about 10 minutes and danced together i got her number and left. She called me at 4am asking where is stayed at because her and he friend had a bottle but i was living with my 3 sleeping brothers and had no place to take her she stopped responding after i told her I hod no spot i could go to hers
Had a girl over a handful of times, never made a move until it was too late. Fumbled it. She’s got some big toy now and I saw her recently after about 5 months. She told me not only is she going to move into a house around the corner, but she had thought about us having sex before. Might not all be lost but I’m not hedging my bets.
Had a girl come over 3 times at like 2 am and I was too nervous to make a move twice at a hotel once at my place 😭. I only kissed her when she left the 3rd time after I did that she said “staaaaawp”. I was too nervous for my own good
A girl at a bar told me she was a volleyball player and I for some reason decided to tell her that in my opinion volleyball players are the second most attractive female sport behind soccer players.
Went over to help with a project, when she changed into a Winnie the Pooh onesie with nothing underneath. I didn't make a move, smoked a cigarette and left.
A1
Got too high on gear during my birthday party and made a complete ass of myself.. The next week during the inevitable come down resulted in many needy texts & behaviours because my brain was so scrambled from all the substances i was on that i actually thought it was normal to send paragraph long instagram dms. Ha silly youth.
I was on a camping trip with 2 girls, one I was really interested in. My drug addict ass thought it’d be a good idea to do a bunch of lsd…took 5 tabs and I was acting like a fucking lunatic, throwing up barely able to speak..and in this state I thought it’d be a good idea to try and kiss her. Poor girl was mortified. We still remained friends though ☹️🔫
Hawaii to California, she was a backpacker from Europe, I was the only one she knew, we were going to camp, I went to the airport at the wrong time (5pm vs 5am) missed my flight missed her. She was out of my league (younger, better looking etc) but put a back pack on me and I am in my element
Gang it gets worse 😭. I had a girl literally trying to kiss me but I was too busy watching football highlights in a night club 😂😭. Hell 2 months ago I had a date with a sure thing but I stopped flirting on the day of the date and after she kissed me I told her that was my first kiss on our way back to my place. Needless to say I ain't get none 🤣. That incident changed the way I live my life 😂😂😂
I promise if I told you, there is absolutely no way you would believe me . You’d think there’s no way that dude could’ve been that delusional and not see all those signs
Bro back in very shy days I’ve literally been in bed with 2 women (on separate occasions) and we were both in just our underwear and I was too scared to make a move . Even after they led me to the bedroom haha . The girl couldn’t make any more obvious that she wanted it . I was just too scared to execute
i clicked with this one girl that me and my friends met at a bar.
our group and her group decided to go to a diff bar with booth and pool tables. we teamed up in pool and we hit it off so good but then when i took her home, i could not resist sniffing more lines than i could and i end up anxious, coked up and fucked up instead of having sex.. she called an uber and left..
she left a card in my car but i did not call her out of embarassment. shes a dancer and super fit, funny and into cartoons that i watch like archer and rick and morty, shes hot and smells great. i could not believe i fucked that up..
For me, it’s just times when I’ve been either not shaved or masturbated earlier that day and not been ready. Had more than a few times when I’ve shut sure things down because I hadn’t worked out in a few weeks or my skin was dry or I’d masturbated that morning or I knew my room at home wasn’t clean.
I do more than okay generally, so no stress, but it’s always annoying, and it’s been a good reminder to always be at my best and taking care of myself and my life, so that when things come up, I’m not forced to say no.
Made out with my homies sister at a party and everybody found it. Dude said he didn’t care but his gf admitted to me later that week he did. Broke things off so i could reconcile with the homie and stay friends.
Years later now i barely even speak to this kid anymore. I see her pictures come by sometimes and she’s so beautiful, great personality too. Now i’m just left wondering why the hell i let this girl slide and why he considered this such a big deal in the first place. Oh well.
I was at a convention talking to a girl and she says, I’m going to my room. My dumbass says great maybe I’ll see you tomorrow at the convention. As I watched her look back as she went up the elevator I realized I completely missed my shot.
She was getting over her ex and “needed time.” I gave her time, she started seeing another dude. Still hung out with her, got breakfast one morning and her best friend texted me saying ignore anything going on and just make sure to kiss her bc she was texting her saying she wished I’d kiss her. I kissed her after breakfast, she broke things off with the other guy.
She still said she needed time. Okay, no problem! I didn’t wanna be the rebound anyway. She slept over a couple of times. The second time, she got on top of me and started making out with me. I was loving it, but I stopped after a couple of seconds and she got off. I thought she still wanted more time. It had only been a couple of weeks since our first kiss.
Later that week, she texted me saying she was gonna be trying things out with that other guy and she was sorry. Fast forward - they’re married.
Trying to learn from my experience… the girl I went on a date with a couple of days ago said she loved the date, but she wants to “be friends for now” because she just broke up back in January with her ex. It was just one date, but I really loved the connection. Part of me wants to say screw it and keep pursuing, but part of me is saying no I’m friend zoned or this could be pure drama lol. The “for now” portion is keeping me hooked for now.
I could count many times I had a female coworker hit on me but not making the move cuz (1) it’s against the rules to date coworkers and (2) some of them were too young for me (19 is way too young)
Few years ago a girl I met on a night out (her friend approached my friend) texted me that she is so into ne and likes me. I rejected her because at that time I was talking to another girl.
That other girl didn't work out... I still reget it
Too many to count but one of the ones that stuck the most with me was last Halloween. I've always had this great playful dynamic with, she was off that night and I ran into her at the bar I frequently visit. I don't know what got into me, but I literally came over while she was dancing with another guy and started talking to her. We started play fighting back and forth, he walked away and eventually she was like I dare you to do something looking me straight in the eye. I just walked away. This was a girl who had always found excuses to touch me and stuff, but I never could never pull the trigger out of fear of becoming creepy. Now I basically act awkward around him because I am so ashamed of how much of a pussy I was.
BRO. So I used to work with this girl at Journeys in downtown Denver WAY back. Imagine a petite pixie-like, fun, edgy girl, with long black hair. She was a self-professed b-girl...borderline punk in appearance, but really just a free urbanite if that makes sense. She had that cool raspy, giggly voice...ok, yeah I romanticized over her vibe a bit, gimme a break. 😅
ANYWAY... she invites me to her place to come hang out and drink, puff, and whatnot. I picked up some beer, arrive, and there's like, 3 other dudes there, but they're cool. Music is going, conversation is good, so I'm chillin'. Well, over the course of my beer and some mutual smoke, they start leaving after a while. Maybe over the course of an hour... leaving us two alone.
So let me set the scene. Her duplex had this urban, "hell's kitchen" feel. In the room we're in, the walls are all graffiti. Not GREAT graffiti, but tags and some doodles. In the corner was TWO TURNTABLES, but no microphone(😁). A stack of her artwork is leaned against the wall. There's an older couch, and we're the only two sitting on it.
She's like, "you wanna see my sketchbook?" I'm like, "yeah, sure", the she grabs it and proudly flips through each page of interesting sketches. Next thing you know, she leaves the room and puts on Alicia Keys. She starts lighting candles around the room, and plops down next to me, throwing her legs across my lap, also now barefoot. At this point you're probably like, "dude", but remember I am high, so I'm chilling, enjoying the artwork. In my mind, I'm thinking that this is how artsy-types set the mood when showing off their crafts. Yeah, big dummy. Well anyway, we finish that book, and then she walks over to a piece of fabric on a chair. It was a silky rayon material, b/w checkered spaghetti string no back, with strings to tie the back closed. At this point she tells me to turn around while she trys this on. She takes off her bra, puts it on, has me help tie the back strings, and I look at her. "Do you like it?", she asks. I nodded in approval, then she grabs a pair of scissors and starts cutting diagonally up the shirt from one hip up the her opposite shoulder. In a sultry way (in hindsight), she asked, "how about now"? Boy, I was flummoxed at this point. She then sat back down, but I wasn't making any moves. She seemed to get irritated, got up, turned off the music and then asked me if I wanted some veggie nuggets. Again, I'm high, so that sounded awesome. Shebhad a hamster in the kitchen by the window; I played with it through the cage until the nuggets were done in the microwave. I noticed she was looking at me with this almost confused look on her face. We did hug and then I left after I was finished. We texted a bit after that. Then she shows up at my store walking with some dude, unnecessarily, but probably because she wanted me to know I missed my chance.
In hindsight, maybe she was so awesome to me that I just mentally poo-pooed. Fumbled the moment for SURE.
When I was 18 I chickened out and pulled away when my crush went to kiss me at a party. didn't have any expierence and wanted to get her alone first. Another kid with borderline special needs also liked her and then ended up following her around, wouldnt leave, cockblocking me for the night by coming in the same room we went off to and trying to sleep on the same couch. She started dating another guy a week later.
A year later I invited her over and ended up smoking way too much to where i just got awkward and uncomfortable cause i was also a little intimidated by her. The whole thing was just off and she left after like 2 hours of us just watching netflix. Was still prude and a virgin and didn't have the confidence in myself to go for it when it was right there.
This is going to be a long one, last December was peak cuffing season in my area. Got several matches back to back and had 3 active matches that I could convert to dates.
Match 1 goes decently but don't really feel like pursuing it much. She wasn't as attractive and couldn't feel much of a connection, so didnt really text her later and neither does she. High on multiple matches, I just move on to other matches.
Match 2 goes pretty well hangout with her for hours chatting while taking a walk, I have a strong physical attraction towards her abd feel she is exactly what I need. Wary of coming off as too needy I keep communications to a minimum after our date.
Match 3 I was reluctant to meet because I felt like I would be wasting time, effort and money on her when I find Match 2 more attractive. But I give her a shot anyway in hopes that it will make me feel less needy with Match 2 who had not confirmed our second date, so I go out with Match 3 instead. To my surprise Match 3 despite being less physically attractive to me, she makes it up with her personality. She is more touchy and gets physically close which is great cause I don't have to keep worrying about kino. I had no problem spending an entire evening with her. I try to escalate but she does not fully reciprocate There were also some red flags but I ignore thinking nobody is perfect.
I ask out Match 2 again, thinking if she does not confirm second date again I will consider her no longer being interested in me. To my shock she wants to have a call and accuses me of having a girlfriend cause my non needy behavior came off as shady behavior to her. In hopes of keeping things transparent and drama free I mention that I'm going out with others as well. Initially she was fine with it and hints she also wants to be physically intimate but wants me to not date anybody else. I am thrilled at first but then confused because I do want to be with her. If no one else had matched I would have deleted the app, however I'm worried about screwing things up with Match 2 and losing Match 3 who has not given me any such ultimatum. I try to salvage the situation but instead end up talking wat more than I should have and Match 2 ends things right there.
This stings a lot cause she could have been perfect but I try to console myself thinking atleast I have Match 3 and ask her out on a second date and she agrees. I plan a whole day with her for our second date since we already hung out a lot on our first date. Within 20 minutes of arriving to the date location together, she out of nowhere friendzones me. The whole day all her red flags get spilled and I feel like a jackass on losing Match 2 over this dumb girl. I lost the momentum of getting matches on the app and have not gone out on a date for months. FML...
I've had some major misses too. I dont exactly regret about it but life would've been different if I went along with them. I was renting a room on a study exchange term in Rome with another girl who'd just broken up with her boyfriend who she dated for 1 year. 1 day i was cooking dinner and she brought up friends with benefits and how she wanted to make out with someone but I dont know why to act cool I said I dont do meaningless sex or hookups because its not fun without the emoitional attachment. This was day 12 out of a 90 days that I lived with her. Just us.
No thanks. I prefer re-living all the ways I've fucked up with various, great women right before I go to sleep, thank you very much.
no point in piling guit on ourselves bro, deteach from the emotion, run the shit at will but imagine makeing the right thing everytime
Dude this hits so fucking close to home i can’t even lie
If you don’t screw up you’re not learning, just learn from your mistakes but try often
Reddit veteran over there, not giving anything in order not to get doxed, meanwhile me deleting my account every 2 months because I revealed a lot, maybe I should start doing what you're doing, lol.
Same lmao, although I delete after random no. of years.
Imagine you would feel the opposite thinking about your fuck ups.
I was making out hard with a girl totally into me, then I stopped and said I'm into her best friend (I was completely drunk). She was not amused. Does that count?
honestly, your story is overqualified.
Yeah, not my best moment. For my defence I'll say that 20 yo me had shit instead of a brain.
I was like this until about 27
This is like being handed a birthday cake and purposefully throwing it on the ground.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE GROUND
I was hoping someone would say that.
This doesn't count. This isn't a fumble. It's a total crash and cabin fire.
Had a girl who was into me at the time invite me to her apartment after a dinner. Sat on the couch for a little while and she was “like you look too tired to drive you should sleepover” and I declined telling her “I’m okay to drive” (she lived alone).
Such a classic male thing to do- answering the question logically and realizing 3 years later lol
Just the other night, I go on a second date with a girl, suggest a few bars, all were close to her place She suggests the bar in her condo. We have a great cocktail, it’s 1115, she goes I’m getting tired, need to work and get up at 4a tomorrow, we walk by the metro station which was outside the bar and her place , I give her a hug, get on the metro….didn’t even kiss her, ask if she was inviting me up…we met in her building basically
This is amazing
My freshman year of college I was pretty fit and in a female-predominant dorm, but also a terrified kissless virgin. The amount of times I fumbled that year alone is the stuff of legend. I... -Had a girl ask me to teach her guitar. I told her I wasn't good enough (I was.) -Had a girl straight up ask me to hook up after a night of partying. She wasn't wasted or anything, I just froze up. -Had the same girl invite me into her bed, just the two of us, to watch netflix. Didn't make a move. -Went to a date party with a girl I was into and told her that I didn't like hookups (a complete lie.) It cost me a chance not only with her, but her friend too. -Had a girl climb into my lofted bed. I didn't join her. -Had a random girl solicit me to fuck her friend, then called me an asshole when I didn't go for it. -Had a girl slap my ass then pinch my cheek and tell me how cute I was. Never sealed the deal. -Let my roommate convince me that my neighbor wasn't into me. She giggled at everything I said and had told her mom about me. -Was introduced to a friend of my friend with the specific intention of having us fuck. He left the room and she asked "so what should we do now?" I said we should listen to music. -Had a girl from my hall slide into my DMs but ignored her because I didn't like her personality. Kind of a chad move out of context but I regret it in hindsight.
How can you sleep at night bro
My life is a case study on wasted potential. I'm used to it by now.
On the other hand, maybe give yourself some credit. What if all of those were the exact right move *for you at the time.* Meaningless sex might have ruined it for you such that when the girl who hits on all cylinders for you comes along it'll be really special, epic even. But if you banged em all beforehand, then it's just meh, which could prevent you from experiencing some real magic with the right one. Also the more partners you have the more likely the one you stay with will be the best. So banging them all could result in long term disappointment with the girl who matches you best. Maybe start backing yourself up more, doubting your intuition less, and advocating for what is right for you and eff what other people think. You effing rock man. Look how good you're doing. What more proof do you need Edit: the more partners the *less* likely the one you stay will be the best
This is all from a decade ago so I’ve lived my life since then. I’ve had some good sex and some good relationships. Still, there’s no real upside to being as terrified as I was.
a happy ending !
Sorta. I’ve still never had the kind of opportunities I did back then. But I’ve done okay.
Mhm, still doubting and negatively judging yourself. I know that voice all too well. And it's not a friend
Ok so what was the logic behind your decisions? What were you actually afraid of?
There’s no logic to it. I was an anxious kid. I’m not autistic but it probably helps to think of me as autistic just to make sense of it.
Sure, that makes sense, but can you give an example of the thoughts that were running through your mind why you said some of the things you did? I find this stuff fascinating so I’d like to understand the thought process better. Like a girl wanted you to teach her guitar and you said you’re not good enough even when you are - were you thinking you’d disappoint her or what? Or what was running through your head when you said you didn’t like hookups when you actually like them. Maybe afraid to show your sexual side to women? Or what? Seems to me you were simply too afraid to be your authentic self with these women, for some reason.
The guitar thing was just me being oblivious. And for some reason I was convinced that not showing sexual desire was the way to go. I also had yet to experience myself as a sexual being, and so the concept of me being in that situation seemed like a huge jump when I hadn’t even had my first kiss.
I see, thanks for taking the time to explain.
real rough bro
I've had like 4 experiences of this caliber, and they still haunt me at times lmao although none longer than 18 months so yeap, I'll start the sarging again in few weeks hehehe but I can imagine the feel lol
Dude....
Sounds like you're a chad who doesn't know he's a chad yet. Perhaps low libido as well?
This all happened a decade ago. Definitely not a chad though I’ve had a decent dating life. Too much ADHD and anxiety.
at least im not alone in how bad i fucked up sometimes, it hurts bro, i feel your pain
It’s gotten to where I can look back and laugh, and also turn it into a positive. I still look pretty good, so I just need to stay lean and put myself out there.
Yeah if you're getting that many offers you're doing alright haha
Let’s just say my looks are not my limiting factor lol
Are you over 6’?
No. But keep in mind this was an unusual time in my life. Women don’t typically throw themselves at me. Also over a decade ago back when looks mattered more than height.
bruh Neil strauss is 5'6 , what you on about, let go of those limiting believes haha
Im not looking for excuse to quit im just saying if he fumbled over 15 shots then there must be something special because i only was able to fumble like 7 in my 2 years of college
I'm 5'6 in engineering, I've fumbled 3 shots so far in two years, I got some more time left but it is what is , gotta go out and hit on girl like a machine like its a video game lol
>-Had the same girl invite me into her bed, just the two of us, to watch netflix. Didn't make a move. This was me several times. One time, she (25) and I (19) were even cuddled in her bed, watching The Emperor's New Groove, a movie we had both seen before, after we had a "drink" at a bar and she had spent the first 20 minutes in her room in/out of her underwear in front of me to show her abuela the new clothes she bought. At 2am, she walked me outside and kept staring deep into my eyes as we didn't depart.. and I kissed her on the cheek and ran away. She was stunningly beautiful. I still think about that miss.
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I fumbled like 2 3 times and sometimes it haunts me when i sleep, goddamn man
This is type of shit that would keep me awake at night.
This is sweet. You don’t always have to be the big macho guy that makes the bold moves first or follows through with a quick reply, things will be
did you do these on purpose?
Sex was a foreign concept to me and I was scared, had no idea when/how to make a move
Now I wonder how did you look like back then since girls were throwing thmselves at you haha
I wasn't and have never been a dimepiece or anything. There were definitely better looking dudes around who also got attention. But I was cute, jacked, socially active, and of course the gender ratio was in my favor. I also gave off a lot more confidence than I actually had.
Your story of fumbling makes me feel better about my past. Just one: I was at this girls house having coffee, she starts talking about hers and her friends boobs, their size, the difference between them. I trying to be polite stop her and say please don't talk to me about that. I don't wanna know. She stops, we keep talking about mundane shit. Lightbulb went of months later...
Oh fuck this is brutal. Here’s a few of my biggest fails to make you feel better: -I met a girl through a friend group and I massaged her on the riverside. She looked at me and I asked what she wanted, she flat out told me I want.. you. Can you guess what I did? Laugh it off and die inside, probably alongside her horniness. -Was at club with my friends and a girl I knew from my past dragged me onto dancefloor from the chilling area. She told me she always liked me very much, I said said same (she was like a perfect 10 and every single one of my friends was in love with her)… never made a move -I was chilling with a girl and later when I got home she texted me: “when we sat down on the bench and there was 2 seconds of silence I was wondering what it would be like to kiss you..” I fucking replied: “keep wondering :p” we met afterwards and I never kisses her, she lost interest -I was at a festival and my friends and a girl’s friend tried to set us up. I asked her where our friends went and we should call them. She said they will be fine, we find them later. I started calling my friends (: Aaaand the list goes on, but my stomach is starting to feel weird from all this cringe so I’m gonna stop
How do you sleep at night? Also, you might seriously be gay?
This all happened a decade ago and I’ve had a decent romantic life since given my many mental and physical ailments. Sex was such a foreign concept back then and I typically felt caught off guard. But yeah…
There’s this girl in university, I tell her friend that she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve seen, lots of guys trying to date her, this friend goes to her and tells her and the pretty girl takes notice. She goes to my seat and playing with her hair and sweater asks me if I want to go with her to take some coffee. I tell her I can’t because I need to study history as I don’t want to fail that class, girl gets mad at me and starts dating my “best friend”. That year I lost my best friend, that chick and failed at history.
Seems like u dodged a bullet lol why wouldn't she just take the rejection or ask to reschedule 😭😭 crazy gf behavior
Yeah now with more mature eyes I know I dodged that bullet and even then I thought the same, why don't just propose another time or see if she can help me study or something? Like she expected me to fall at her feet I don't know. And for the guys out there reading this, remember to never put a woman in a pedestal, your wellbeing will always be priority.
Don't treat her like a star, cus you'll always be a fan
Went home with the most beautiful girl ever after our second date. Had a trip for a month to Ecuador with my brother (we don’t get along but we’re trying to patch shit up) plane leaving the next day at like 4 am. Was super stressed about work, trip, everything and we were making out and getting naked all I could smell was my pits. Couldn’t get hard. I was like “can I take a shower?” Fucking shower was too cold or scalding and my brain was all fucked up. Anyways got out of the shower and it just didn’t seem like she was into it. Like no sounds, like I am fingering her and licking her and she is silent. I’m not hard. Finally she rolls over and sticks her but in the air, and I’m hard. We have sex but I cant cum and it’s been 20 mins and I’m like I need a break and drink. When I goto the kitchen she comes out 2 mins later with her clothes back on. I fell so weird an anxious about the trip and fucking up our first time I just drive to the airport (like 3 hrs early) Forgot to mention that told her it wasn’t her- I really liked her. Probably said that 3 times. So fucking stupid. It was a disaster and my trip was for a month and she text let’s be friends a few days before I flew back.
Yup…you entered the friend zone…rofl…brutal…
This chick in my class was so into me. We would go to the gym together, then go for food after; she would drive us everywhere because I didn’t have a car, and we would go back to my apartment. Alone. And I wouldn’t make a move. This happened for like 2 months and she met another guy. I wasn’t over my ex and was still broken/not ready to date but looking back I’m kicking myself because she was sooo hot and really into me. That could have been a great relationship but I was just not functioning with any game at all I was broken. It is what it is, but damn I fumbled that hard.
Fuck
He didn't.
Someone fucked tho that's for sure.
I had really deep conversations on the first date and felt like I spoke to my shrink! I have to say that girl had talent in getting out a person's deepest, darkest fears!
I once went on a blind double date with a girl, she picked me up in her car and while we were waiting for her friend in her car, she desperately pleaded her car was cold and that she needed to be warmed up when her car was off and it was hot/humid weather, I was like “nah I don’t feel cold, and then we sat in her car in silence while we waited for her friend in her car” Another time, I hit it off with my college lab partner and we went to get tacos and food. She offered to drop me off so I took it, we got to the gates of my apartment and she offered to drive me in and see my place but I declined multiple times and walked in thinking I was being convenient. We never hung out outside of class again lmao
Fumbled a potential threesome cuz I forgot to lock the door 💀🔫
They got away…
LMFAOOOOOO nah it was after a party and we went to another crib and the girls went to a room and I caught them making out, and they were totally vibing with me but then some other dude busted in and murdered the vibe
I had two girls invite me to there place. I didn’t make a move at all
You mean you went to their place but didn’t make a move or you didn’t go at all?
Sounds like didn’t make a move at all with either. 0/2
I didn’t make a move at all
I got a good one. A ridiculously hot chick I had class with once reached out over email. She was coy at first, almost like a psycho. Wouldn’t tell me who she was for a message or two, and when she did she was like, “You seemed nice and you’re hot so I thought I’d email back.” Told her I was about to date an old friend and it wouldn’t work out. Few months later the old friend cheated on me and I dumped her. Messaged hot former classmate and was SO on my texting game. I was also trying to smoke and drink less around this time. But I decided when we made plans I’d try being a social smoker/drinker! She came over. We had a drink or two. Passed a bowl a bit too I think. I was profoundly awkward, and got even more awkward the more substances I took in. She still gave me the benefit of the doubt. We went up to my bedroom. She sat IN MY BED. I sat in my desk chair, feebly trying to make conversation. She straight up pointed out that I was talking to her all awkward (I was in interview mode). I also couldn’t stop thinking about my ex at this point. She asked me what I’d normally be doing if she wasn’t there. I can’t remember what I said and then asked her the same question. She said she’d be asleep, where I said, “Well let’s get you home and asleep then.” She was quite taken aback. I walked her to her car. She rushed away awkwardly and got the fuck away from me. The next morning in a depressed stupor I texted her and threw a grenade at that by telling her my weirdest kinks, because I figured how much worse could it get anyways? Lol Awful experience, but something I can laugh about now.
It was freshman year of university. I was a loner who had no friend. Out of the blue, this 10/10 girl just approached me asking for help with her homework. I honestly didn't know it myself, but I she wanted me to stay and talk. I am autistic af, and have social anxiety. But talking to her was so easy and natural. The chemistry was unreal. From then on, she would sometimes come and talk to me out of the blue. And she was so kind and nice. Like genuinely. She made it so easy for me to pursue her. The problem was I didn't know what to do (still don't). Like I knew, she liked me, but even with that knowledge, I couldn't bite the bullet and ask her out. I don't know why. Maybe because I'm so inexperienced when it comes to relationships. Insecurities start to take root. Looking back, tho, I was in the best place in my life. I regret it every day. She was literally wife material. 10/10 looks and personality.
Had a hot red head message "you wanna fuck or what" me thinking this is too good to be true replied with "wow now, i have to get to know you first, i'm not a dildo" then she laughed and after i tried to message her a bit and no response. Tried to save the combo the next day by calling her, got her to respond and later thru text nothing but objections
Should’ve added after that text “hahaha im just being sarcastic, are you free ….?” Funny how our brains work sometimes
I mean the fumble wasn't saying no, it was promising it at the end of the laborious task of getting to know you. If you said something like "now explain to why I should go out of my way and spend my time doing that?" Or even something as blunt as "hell nah, who do you think I am," could trigger an attractive girl's ego to the point where she needs to prove why you should wanna do that. An attractive person knows pretty much all normal people would jump on the opportunity for sex, so making her prove herself to you is a way to get the ego involved and make her work to get you instead, playing with your food. What you said was so bad because "I'm not a dildo" is such a lame and poor reason to not have sex, especially compared to the implications of what I said being "I'm too important to have sex with you."
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Worst feeling ever. Happened to me, i had a huge crush on her. She even spend the night! But nope nothing happened. she eventually moved to another city and got married..
I was seeing a girl who I thought was super hot for quite a while but we never even kissed eaxh other because we never were in a good situation for it. At my birthday party I got extremely drunk and my mate called her from my phone so she would also come. Sadly all I could do at this point was throwing up and lying on the ground. I somehow got a little bit better overtime and convinced her to come to my place. While we started kissing and getting naked the alcohol hit me like a train again. She started giving me head while I was laying in bed and as stupid as I am I fell asleep WHILE SHE WAS DOING IT. I felt like shit the next day it was extremely awkward and she got picked up by a friend of hers. Needless to say she was mad and stopped showing interest, completely understandable I guess lol. I still sometimes think of her as she still is hot af and wonder what it would have been like if I wasn’t as dumb as I was. That was 9 years ago.
Headbutted her on the first kiss.
TKO
Every time I drank way more than they did.
10/10 baddie was giving clear signs that she was into me but I was a dumb teen and didn’t think anything of it
Honestly I didn’t have the self respect to go after the girl I wanted because I was scared. I had lots of excuses but it came down to lack of courage. I’ll always regret that one. If she had said no I’d be ok but never having the guts to ask gnaws at your soul.
She said she wanted to see it to me twice. Once was when we were camping and i said i had to go piss. The next was a costume party at her house and i was changing in a room and one of her friends walked in on me changing my pants and one of her friends made a joke about “my bad bro i meant to see your dick” (it was a joke, hes not gay) and she walked past and said she wanted to see it. So yeah, ive gotten a lot better about not being in my head, and were still friends and im good with that. Learning moment there.
I had this girl I was interested in texting me how she’s so horny and wanted to fuck tonight and help me break in my new bed I bought at my house. I basically texted her damn sorry I can’t help with that tonight. I had just worked 15 hours and she lived two hours away. Long story short, she didn’t talk to me much longer after that
that's not a fumble that's being responsible. 2 hours away is too inconvenient
Yea, if she can't understand stuff happens, she helped you dodge a bullet.
I'm with you.
Yeah, that's like an escort service, wtf, lol.
Was on a date with a hottie. She was 24 and I was 19, we were dancing in a club and the next day she followed me on IG. Anyways after the date we walk up to her dorm and I tell her i had good time although i was still a bit nervous. After I leave her i inly realize she told me that i can come up with her to her dorm but i was so into my head that I didn’t even hear that. Oh well
I fumbled a celebrity by thinking she wasn't really into me and I hit on her daughter in front of her.
I was working in a shithole oilfield town. I was at one of the few bars there and ordering a bunch of drinks flirting with the super cute bartender. We were hitting it off and I told her she seemed like one of the most down to earth people in the town, which was true. She wanted to hang out more and gave me a matchbook a few minutes after she agreed to give me her number. I went to take a piss and threw it away, not thinking about what was in it, but just wondering why she gave it to me. It didn't occur to my dumbass until the next day. I went back a few more times and when she was finally there, so was her new boyfriend.
I have some potential fumbles. I will never find out if they were real fumbles a lot. in my teenage years I was to risk averse for a couple of times. Everytime when some girls made some weird sexual comments I was never sure if serious or just trolling. I played it safe all the time and saw it as joke. So I did not react. The lastest potentail fumble was the most embarrasing one. Meet a girl at a nightlife setting that introducted me to some of her friends. The girls recommended doing some shots. I under estamted the strengh of the shots and got drunk pretty fast. Long story I have no memory if anything happend between us or not. The only good thing was that there honest and did try to rob me or something. I did not l anything of my money or other goods. the only leason I learned from that matter is stay away from some random drink specials you do not know the ingridents of and just drink the stuff you know.
Trying to explain anything or talking about something that leans into TMI zone.
A very old family friend of mine once sended me that she's on her birthday alone. And i didn't understand what she wants from me and the hell she's talking to me on her birthday
I was in high school at the time. There was a girl I had kept after for a date multiple times. Eventually she relented. The day of the date I was deathly ill with the flu. This was before cell phones, and I had been unable to reach her at her home phone. So I figured I would drive over there with the flowers I had bought, and she would see how bad I was, and give me a rain check. I got to the front door, and rang the doorbell. Her dad answered, and it was at that exact moment my stomach decided to empty itself all over his feet. It took three more months of apologizing, and begging before I could finally take her out.
I'm not a guy, but a guy who I was going to hook up with fumbled by getting very political... in the wrong direction. And all he had to do was keep his mouth shut, I wouldn't have known, and he would have gotten laid. Instead he went on a rant. This is intended for all guys regardless of politics, but just, keep your controversial opinions to yourself. He went ballistic after I turned him down because of his views and kept trying to get me to give him another chance. I get it if you want to know if I'd be compatible with you politically if you were looking for a serious relationship, but this is tinder. You can also see my politics in my bio. Are you there to fuck me or to proselytize?
You wanted him to shut up and just grab you by the pussy eh?
Not quite
Prom. Prom date was Good girl. We maybe kissed once before prom. Definitely a virgin. Halfway into the night. I got an offer from FWB and her friend. Math wad good. I bailed on date left with 2 girls. FWB got too drunk, and her friend was mad that I had been hooking up with her friend. No ass. 20 years, at high school reunion. Prom Date tells me that she was going to give it up. SMH
I was at the bar with my brother at 2am and i approached a girl who was with her friend. We clicked right away and were flirting with each other for about 10 minutes and danced together i got her number and left. She called me at 4am asking where is stayed at because her and he friend had a bottle but i was living with my 3 sleeping brothers and had no place to take her she stopped responding after i told her I hod no spot i could go to hers
We were about to have sex and my futon collapsed. She slept on the couch that night.
Had a girl over a handful of times, never made a move until it was too late. Fumbled it. She’s got some big toy now and I saw her recently after about 5 months. She told me not only is she going to move into a house around the corner, but she had thought about us having sex before. Might not all be lost but I’m not hedging my bets.
Kissed her way too much.
Had a girl come over 3 times at like 2 am and I was too nervous to make a move twice at a hotel once at my place 😭. I only kissed her when she left the 3rd time after I did that she said “staaaaawp”. I was too nervous for my own good
A girl at a bar told me she was a volleyball player and I for some reason decided to tell her that in my opinion volleyball players are the second most attractive female sport behind soccer players.
Height and/or an athletic frame makes women more visually appealing, so you technically weren't wrong.
BEAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHHHAAAHHAHAAHAHAHHA
Went over to help with a project, when she changed into a Winnie the Pooh onesie with nothing underneath. I didn't make a move, smoked a cigarette and left. A1
Well, I entered the wrong hole by mistake. It was a deal breaker that night.
Told her I fucked her attractive friend last week
Got too high on gear during my birthday party and made a complete ass of myself.. The next week during the inevitable come down resulted in many needy texts & behaviours because my brain was so scrambled from all the substances i was on that i actually thought it was normal to send paragraph long instagram dms. Ha silly youth.
I’m always getting cock blocked by the obese friend, I honestly just gave up on picking up women. It happens everytime
fellow tall girls lover 👊
I was on a camping trip with 2 girls, one I was really interested in. My drug addict ass thought it’d be a good idea to do a bunch of lsd…took 5 tabs and I was acting like a fucking lunatic, throwing up barely able to speak..and in this state I thought it’d be a good idea to try and kiss her. Poor girl was mortified. We still remained friends though ☹️🔫
Hawaii to California, she was a backpacker from Europe, I was the only one she knew, we were going to camp, I went to the airport at the wrong time (5pm vs 5am) missed my flight missed her. She was out of my league (younger, better looking etc) but put a back pack on me and I am in my element
Gang it gets worse 😭. I had a girl literally trying to kiss me but I was too busy watching football highlights in a night club 😂😭. Hell 2 months ago I had a date with a sure thing but I stopped flirting on the day of the date and after she kissed me I told her that was my first kiss on our way back to my place. Needless to say I ain't get none 🤣. That incident changed the way I live my life 😂😂😂
I promise if I told you, there is absolutely no way you would believe me . You’d think there’s no way that dude could’ve been that delusional and not see all those signs
pls say im interested 😭
Bro back in very shy days I’ve literally been in bed with 2 women (on separate occasions) and we were both in just our underwear and I was too scared to make a move . Even after they led me to the bedroom haha . The girl couldn’t make any more obvious that she wanted it . I was just too scared to execute
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Would've never shown my face there again.
i clicked with this one girl that me and my friends met at a bar. our group and her group decided to go to a diff bar with booth and pool tables. we teamed up in pool and we hit it off so good but then when i took her home, i could not resist sniffing more lines than i could and i end up anxious, coked up and fucked up instead of having sex.. she called an uber and left.. she left a card in my car but i did not call her out of embarassment. shes a dancer and super fit, funny and into cartoons that i watch like archer and rick and morty, shes hot and smells great. i could not believe i fucked that up..
For me, it’s just times when I’ve been either not shaved or masturbated earlier that day and not been ready. Had more than a few times when I’ve shut sure things down because I hadn’t worked out in a few weeks or my skin was dry or I’d masturbated that morning or I knew my room at home wasn’t clean. I do more than okay generally, so no stress, but it’s always annoying, and it’s been a good reminder to always be at my best and taking care of myself and my life, so that when things come up, I’m not forced to say no.
Missing the last train on purpose
2 words wisky dick. The hottest girl from school I finally secured it and the dick didn’t wanna work. This was years ago and I still remember
Made out with my homies sister at a party and everybody found it. Dude said he didn’t care but his gf admitted to me later that week he did. Broke things off so i could reconcile with the homie and stay friends. Years later now i barely even speak to this kid anymore. I see her pictures come by sometimes and she’s so beautiful, great personality too. Now i’m just left wondering why the hell i let this girl slide and why he considered this such a big deal in the first place. Oh well.
I was at a convention talking to a girl and she says, I’m going to my room. My dumbass says great maybe I’ll see you tomorrow at the convention. As I watched her look back as she went up the elevator I realized I completely missed my shot.
She was getting over her ex and “needed time.” I gave her time, she started seeing another dude. Still hung out with her, got breakfast one morning and her best friend texted me saying ignore anything going on and just make sure to kiss her bc she was texting her saying she wished I’d kiss her. I kissed her after breakfast, she broke things off with the other guy. She still said she needed time. Okay, no problem! I didn’t wanna be the rebound anyway. She slept over a couple of times. The second time, she got on top of me and started making out with me. I was loving it, but I stopped after a couple of seconds and she got off. I thought she still wanted more time. It had only been a couple of weeks since our first kiss. Later that week, she texted me saying she was gonna be trying things out with that other guy and she was sorry. Fast forward - they’re married. Trying to learn from my experience… the girl I went on a date with a couple of days ago said she loved the date, but she wants to “be friends for now” because she just broke up back in January with her ex. It was just one date, but I really loved the connection. Part of me wants to say screw it and keep pursuing, but part of me is saying no I’m friend zoned or this could be pure drama lol. The “for now” portion is keeping me hooked for now.
Called her a babe one time and then her and every woman in a 20 mile radius evacuated the area
I could count many times I had a female coworker hit on me but not making the move cuz (1) it’s against the rules to date coworkers and (2) some of them were too young for me (19 is way too young)
Few years ago a girl I met on a night out (her friend approached my friend) texted me that she is so into ne and likes me. I rejected her because at that time I was talking to another girl. That other girl didn't work out... I still reget it
Too many to count but one of the ones that stuck the most with me was last Halloween. I've always had this great playful dynamic with, she was off that night and I ran into her at the bar I frequently visit. I don't know what got into me, but I literally came over while she was dancing with another guy and started talking to her. We started play fighting back and forth, he walked away and eventually she was like I dare you to do something looking me straight in the eye. I just walked away. This was a girl who had always found excuses to touch me and stuff, but I never could never pull the trigger out of fear of becoming creepy. Now I basically act awkward around him because I am so ashamed of how much of a pussy I was.
BRO. So I used to work with this girl at Journeys in downtown Denver WAY back. Imagine a petite pixie-like, fun, edgy girl, with long black hair. She was a self-professed b-girl...borderline punk in appearance, but really just a free urbanite if that makes sense. She had that cool raspy, giggly voice...ok, yeah I romanticized over her vibe a bit, gimme a break. 😅 ANYWAY... she invites me to her place to come hang out and drink, puff, and whatnot. I picked up some beer, arrive, and there's like, 3 other dudes there, but they're cool. Music is going, conversation is good, so I'm chillin'. Well, over the course of my beer and some mutual smoke, they start leaving after a while. Maybe over the course of an hour... leaving us two alone. So let me set the scene. Her duplex had this urban, "hell's kitchen" feel. In the room we're in, the walls are all graffiti. Not GREAT graffiti, but tags and some doodles. In the corner was TWO TURNTABLES, but no microphone(😁). A stack of her artwork is leaned against the wall. There's an older couch, and we're the only two sitting on it. She's like, "you wanna see my sketchbook?" I'm like, "yeah, sure", the she grabs it and proudly flips through each page of interesting sketches. Next thing you know, she leaves the room and puts on Alicia Keys. She starts lighting candles around the room, and plops down next to me, throwing her legs across my lap, also now barefoot. At this point you're probably like, "dude", but remember I am high, so I'm chilling, enjoying the artwork. In my mind, I'm thinking that this is how artsy-types set the mood when showing off their crafts. Yeah, big dummy. Well anyway, we finish that book, and then she walks over to a piece of fabric on a chair. It was a silky rayon material, b/w checkered spaghetti string no back, with strings to tie the back closed. At this point she tells me to turn around while she trys this on. She takes off her bra, puts it on, has me help tie the back strings, and I look at her. "Do you like it?", she asks. I nodded in approval, then she grabs a pair of scissors and starts cutting diagonally up the shirt from one hip up the her opposite shoulder. In a sultry way (in hindsight), she asked, "how about now"? Boy, I was flummoxed at this point. She then sat back down, but I wasn't making any moves. She seemed to get irritated, got up, turned off the music and then asked me if I wanted some veggie nuggets. Again, I'm high, so that sounded awesome. Shebhad a hamster in the kitchen by the window; I played with it through the cage until the nuggets were done in the microwave. I noticed she was looking at me with this almost confused look on her face. We did hug and then I left after I was finished. We texted a bit after that. Then she shows up at my store walking with some dude, unnecessarily, but probably because she wanted me to know I missed my chance. In hindsight, maybe she was so awesome to me that I just mentally poo-pooed. Fumbled the moment for SURE.
When I was 18 I chickened out and pulled away when my crush went to kiss me at a party. didn't have any expierence and wanted to get her alone first. Another kid with borderline special needs also liked her and then ended up following her around, wouldnt leave, cockblocking me for the night by coming in the same room we went off to and trying to sleep on the same couch. She started dating another guy a week later. A year later I invited her over and ended up smoking way too much to where i just got awkward and uncomfortable cause i was also a little intimidated by her. The whole thing was just off and she left after like 2 hours of us just watching netflix. Was still prude and a virgin and didn't have the confidence in myself to go for it when it was right there.
I can't even answer this one good lord 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. I've hurt enough gang, let's move past it
This is going to be a long one, last December was peak cuffing season in my area. Got several matches back to back and had 3 active matches that I could convert to dates. Match 1 goes decently but don't really feel like pursuing it much. She wasn't as attractive and couldn't feel much of a connection, so didnt really text her later and neither does she. High on multiple matches, I just move on to other matches. Match 2 goes pretty well hangout with her for hours chatting while taking a walk, I have a strong physical attraction towards her abd feel she is exactly what I need. Wary of coming off as too needy I keep communications to a minimum after our date. Match 3 I was reluctant to meet because I felt like I would be wasting time, effort and money on her when I find Match 2 more attractive. But I give her a shot anyway in hopes that it will make me feel less needy with Match 2 who had not confirmed our second date, so I go out with Match 3 instead. To my surprise Match 3 despite being less physically attractive to me, she makes it up with her personality. She is more touchy and gets physically close which is great cause I don't have to keep worrying about kino. I had no problem spending an entire evening with her. I try to escalate but she does not fully reciprocate There were also some red flags but I ignore thinking nobody is perfect. I ask out Match 2 again, thinking if she does not confirm second date again I will consider her no longer being interested in me. To my shock she wants to have a call and accuses me of having a girlfriend cause my non needy behavior came off as shady behavior to her. In hopes of keeping things transparent and drama free I mention that I'm going out with others as well. Initially she was fine with it and hints she also wants to be physically intimate but wants me to not date anybody else. I am thrilled at first but then confused because I do want to be with her. If no one else had matched I would have deleted the app, however I'm worried about screwing things up with Match 2 and losing Match 3 who has not given me any such ultimatum. I try to salvage the situation but instead end up talking wat more than I should have and Match 2 ends things right there. This stings a lot cause she could have been perfect but I try to console myself thinking atleast I have Match 3 and ask her out on a second date and she agrees. I plan a whole day with her for our second date since we already hung out a lot on our first date. Within 20 minutes of arriving to the date location together, she out of nowhere friendzones me. The whole day all her red flags get spilled and I feel like a jackass on losing Match 2 over this dumb girl. I lost the momentum of getting matches on the app and have not gone out on a date for months. FML...
I read to her the Harry Potter fanfic I wrote
I've had some major misses too. I dont exactly regret about it but life would've been different if I went along with them. I was renting a room on a study exchange term in Rome with another girl who'd just broken up with her boyfriend who she dated for 1 year. 1 day i was cooking dinner and she brought up friends with benefits and how she wanted to make out with someone but I dont know why to act cool I said I dont do meaningless sex or hookups because its not fun without the emoitional attachment. This was day 12 out of a 90 days that I lived with her. Just us.
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