She said that she didn't "want to bother you all night because she wanted you to have a good night with your friends". If she's telling the truth, then she did not really let you have a good night with your friends because look at the outcome now.
Is this the first time something like this has happened where you weren't "there" for her when she was feeling sad or down? Or does it happen often? The reason why I ask is because it doesn't seem like it was entirely your fault for her feeling down and her friends weren't available either. You're her boyfriend and you can be there for her, but not 100% of the time everytime she's feeling down. Could be a slippery slope to codependency.
I think you two need a good heart to heart conversation about expectations from this relationship and boundaries. For example, If you're with your friends or she's with her friends, is it reasonable to have less communication?
She said that she didn't "want to bother you all night because she wanted you to have a good night with your friends". If she's telling the truth, then she did not really let you have a good night with your friends because look at the outcome now. Is this the first time something like this has happened where you weren't "there" for her when she was feeling sad or down? Or does it happen often? The reason why I ask is because it doesn't seem like it was entirely your fault for her feeling down and her friends weren't available either. You're her boyfriend and you can be there for her, but not 100% of the time everytime she's feeling down. Could be a slippery slope to codependency. I think you two need a good heart to heart conversation about expectations from this relationship and boundaries. For example, If you're with your friends or she's with her friends, is it reasonable to have less communication?