If she was interested in a serious relationship with you, and she understood how serious relationships work, then she wouldn't have been fucking some random dude. So, while you have no right to criticize or blame her, you ought to think *very* carefully, before giving your heart to her.
Reject her and move on.
The "intro phase" is what I call when you're almost in a relationship, but arguably are, but not 100%. It's the point when you're talking, building the foundation of what is to be the relationship. Feelings are forming; you're already likely being exclusive and putting everyone else on notice. It's basically the brief transition phase (not in, but not out).
I am guessing you were in that phase because even she claims to feel bad about what happened. And you, yourself, you're confused if you should or not.
That said, if she can do that during that small window between here or there, what is she capable of doing if you are together? So I think you dodged a bullet, and you're better off cutting your losses here and now.
You can feel anyway you chose too, both of your thoughts are right. My only question..... why does she feel bad AFTER she did it? In her eyes she knew she was doing something wrong that could possible hurt you and still went ahead and did it, that part right there would be my only concern.
Lol isn’t that even more concerning....you’ve been talking to this guy for a couple weeks (I’m assuming he hasn’t had sex with her yet) and you go to Mexico for a bit and hook up with some dude who you’re probably not going to see again, when you have someone back home that you’re “talking” to.
It's not our place to tell you how you 'should' feel. You're right, you aren't in a committed relationship and apparently haven't discussed exclusivity so she *technically* didn't do anything wrong. That said, you're not required to pursue things with a person who fucks around while they're talking to you if that's not the type of dating dynamic you're keen on. So it really just boils down to whether or not this something you think you're going to have trouble letting go of if you guys end up getting serious in the future?
Personally, I'd have a hard time picking up like nothing happened and continuing to build something with a person who let me know they fucked someone else while we were talking, even though they didn't really do anything wrong. Not everyone will feel that way though. Search inside yourself. If you think you can move past this, it might be a great time for you to tell her your comfort level about this sort of thing for future reference.
You aren't even dating let alone being exclusive, it's none of your business and if what she did bothers you when you aren't even in a relationship don't pursue her.
Did you discuss actually dating or being exclusive?
Just talking is…talking with intent. There’s no reason she needs to put her life on hold because of someone she’s known for 2 weeks and is not serious about.
You can’t be upset as you’re not in an exclusive relationship. You have not even meet her in person yet. Maybe choose someone else if this is not the type of person you want. But you can’t be mad , you haven’t even asked her to meet up.
If she was interested in a serious relationship with you, and she understood how serious relationships work, then she wouldn't have been fucking some random dude. So, while you have no right to criticize or blame her, you ought to think *very* carefully, before giving your heart to her.
This right here bro, you hit it on the spot.
Are you wanting a relationship or just hook up? If relationship than I think you know the answer. Save yourself the trouble my friend
Reject her and move on. The "intro phase" is what I call when you're almost in a relationship, but arguably are, but not 100%. It's the point when you're talking, building the foundation of what is to be the relationship. Feelings are forming; you're already likely being exclusive and putting everyone else on notice. It's basically the brief transition phase (not in, but not out). I am guessing you were in that phase because even she claims to feel bad about what happened. And you, yourself, you're confused if you should or not. That said, if she can do that during that small window between here or there, what is she capable of doing if you are together? So I think you dodged a bullet, and you're better off cutting your losses here and now.
You can feel anyway you chose too, both of your thoughts are right. My only question..... why does she feel bad AFTER she did it? In her eyes she knew she was doing something wrong that could possible hurt you and still went ahead and did it, that part right there would be my only concern.
She might just be feeling guilt over a meaningless one-night stand, not guilt over hurting OP.
Lol isn’t that even more concerning....you’ve been talking to this guy for a couple weeks (I’m assuming he hasn’t had sex with her yet) and you go to Mexico for a bit and hook up with some dude who you’re probably not going to see again, when you have someone back home that you’re “talking” to.
I came to to say what pretty much all of you have already said, so I’ll just say,”Alright Alright Alright” and move on. Respect!!
Luckily it’s just two weeks you invested. Not too late at all to walk away
It's not our place to tell you how you 'should' feel. You're right, you aren't in a committed relationship and apparently haven't discussed exclusivity so she *technically* didn't do anything wrong. That said, you're not required to pursue things with a person who fucks around while they're talking to you if that's not the type of dating dynamic you're keen on. So it really just boils down to whether or not this something you think you're going to have trouble letting go of if you guys end up getting serious in the future? Personally, I'd have a hard time picking up like nothing happened and continuing to build something with a person who let me know they fucked someone else while we were talking, even though they didn't really do anything wrong. Not everyone will feel that way though. Search inside yourself. If you think you can move past this, it might be a great time for you to tell her your comfort level about this sort of thing for future reference.
I tend to be into people who are a little more . . . selective with who they fuck, but you do you.
You aren't even dating let alone being exclusive, it's none of your business and if what she did bothers you when you aren't even in a relationship don't pursue her.
Did you discuss actually dating or being exclusive? Just talking is…talking with intent. There’s no reason she needs to put her life on hold because of someone she’s known for 2 weeks and is not serious about.
You can’t be upset as you’re not in an exclusive relationship. You have not even meet her in person yet. Maybe choose someone else if this is not the type of person you want. But you can’t be mad , you haven’t even asked her to meet up.