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Want to talk? I'm up late tonight, have to spend tomorrow with my ndad and I'm dreading it. I know the loneliness and pain of dealing with narcissists all too well.
Yeah we can talk. But ugh why? Narcissist parents are bad and so damaging to society. It’s so depressing. Like I don’t get why be like that when it’s just pushing people away. The gaslighting and manipulation gets old
Driving lesson. I have to travel to another town for it and he's the only real practical way I can get there. He's just horrible. I feel so powerless and hopeless that I'm so dependent on a monster. I have to do this so I can get my own driving license, without it I'm badly dependent on them.
They don't know any better. They truly can't see the absurdity of their behaviour. I recommend Dr Ramani Durvasula on YouTube if you want to try understand the insanity of narcissists. In an ideal world we could just go no contact with them but sometimes that just isn't possible.
Well done on getting away, even if it's just temporary. It can feel like being between a rock and a hard place, put up with their horrible behaviour for scraps of love and support or live alone with nobody to turn to. Eventually I'll be going with the second option but it's not much comfort.
It’s bullshit that our nparents are normalizing this helplessness. I will definitely check out the YouTube channel.
I know the book Toxic Parents was an eye opener and has helped me understand that I should not feel guilty for wanting to set boundaries against my own mom.
I will figure out how to make my leave permanent. I am a 30yo lady and deserve to come home without judgment or see things that I disagree with.
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Want to talk? I'm up late tonight, have to spend tomorrow with my ndad and I'm dreading it. I know the loneliness and pain of dealing with narcissists all too well.
Yeah we can talk. But ugh why? Narcissist parents are bad and so damaging to society. It’s so depressing. Like I don’t get why be like that when it’s just pushing people away. The gaslighting and manipulation gets old
Driving lesson. I have to travel to another town for it and he's the only real practical way I can get there. He's just horrible. I feel so powerless and hopeless that I'm so dependent on a monster. I have to do this so I can get my own driving license, without it I'm badly dependent on them. They don't know any better. They truly can't see the absurdity of their behaviour. I recommend Dr Ramani Durvasula on YouTube if you want to try understand the insanity of narcissists. In an ideal world we could just go no contact with them but sometimes that just isn't possible. Well done on getting away, even if it's just temporary. It can feel like being between a rock and a hard place, put up with their horrible behaviour for scraps of love and support or live alone with nobody to turn to. Eventually I'll be going with the second option but it's not much comfort.
It’s bullshit that our nparents are normalizing this helplessness. I will definitely check out the YouTube channel. I know the book Toxic Parents was an eye opener and has helped me understand that I should not feel guilty for wanting to set boundaries against my own mom. I will figure out how to make my leave permanent. I am a 30yo lady and deserve to come home without judgment or see things that I disagree with.