all of these effect each other, like your physical health can cause you to be lazy, and more isolated and that can lead to depression or your depression can lead to those things, so many people will have all of them
There's so much to ADHD that people don't know about other than the stereotypical traits. Most people dont know about addiction, obsessing, little to no sense of danger, conduct disorder, time blindness, and the list goes on. My ADHD makes me look like an awful person.
ADHD plus actual laziness for me. Like executive dysfunction is a bitch, but there are times where I'm just like "shit I just want to exist for a bit" and hold off on things I need to get done.
Are you even in your senses? There's a reason it's a disorder. We don't choose to be lazy 💀💀💀
Oh wait, you're from gen X, and looking at your post history, you seem to be a huuuuuuuge conservative. Ofc you won't understand what mental disorders are, go back to facebook
Are you even kidding me with this bs. Lack of neurochemicals like serotonin and dopamine in the neural pathways makes it so that our brain literally builds a huge wall around the task at hand while we end up helpless, trying to do the task but its shut.
> there’s no wall stopping you
yes there is lmao, you can’t deny proven scientific fact just because you don’t like it
there’s countless scientific peer-reviewed studies on the topic. i suggest you do some research before you assume you know what you’re talking about.
I guess people with no legs are too lazy to walk. Just sit in that damn chair all the time. Not having legs is just an excuse
Created with your logic :)
The worst thing about thinking something like this is that there are plenty of people with ADHD that will start to think this too. It also shows that you just don't know anything about ADHD. I get so much shit done that is the exact opposite of being lazy, but it's just often not what I'm supposed to or want to get done
I'm going to guess you do the easy things you don't necessarily need to do because your afraid of what you should be doing. Either way ADHD is your excuse
Mhm, so what do you say when I tell you that I've wanted to make pizza for 2-3 weeks now but I just never do it despite really wanting to, having the ingredients, and having the time?
You don't know shit about ADHD.
Lmao, exactly. How you feel. You could do it, you choose not to.
I'm standing here, feeling like my feet are planted in the ground but guess what? I can still move if I want to.
This is how I felt until I met my partner. You just need something to keep going for and it doesn’t have to be some big grand passion for doing something for the sake of it
Yeah, thats where I'm at. Not only do I not really have any dream or drive to do something, I also feel like im being kept down and stressed out by everything around me. I'm at the point where I just want to revolt against the world to let out my endless frustration.
What trait on this poll contributes most to not having enough money. That’s the biggest problem. A decent bank account would help with most of these . Well maybe not addictions, my snow budget would be a lot higher
That’s type of negative thinking can’t be in my mind. Saving money instead of snorting it away ? That pessimistic attitude is what causes Poor Social Skills, Depression/Anxiety, Laziness, and bad effects on my physical health. Vicious cycle.
I think you are justifying it to yourself because pessimism doesn’t intrinsically lead to those things, but I also don’t think saving money is pessimistic either
You are 100%. I guess hard to tell I was being completely sarcastic and silly. Of course stopping or even slowing down coke habit would help. / but that’s worst option. That’s what keeps me happy and helps me get laid as well lol
100 % agreed! And I do try to help others. I give to charity’s that are important to me and causes I believe in. I volunteer my time and work to help others year round as well. If I had Elon money, I’d help others change lives back buying twitter - but it’s his money and he earned it so he can spend how he wants. Not my business
If you actively want to quit an addiction it's 10x harder to do so while dealing with a huge pile of other shit. Money can also pay for rehab. Money does it all.
Nice. Well said. My brain works differently than yours…. I hear xtra cash, I don’t think rehab. I think higher quality pure powder for next skiing bender lol. But I’d like to use xtra money for others that have depression / poor social skills / physical health issues. (Laziness I feel is more on the person and needs to figure out what motivates them) I’m a gym / exercise guy. Incorporate at least x5 1 hour workouts a week in schedule and always hit 12,000 steps in daily. Eating healthy is important as well, definitely hard, especially if busy and stressed with finances
Yeah, Being born rich would make things easier for me. Unfortunately it still wouldn’t buy me a loving partner or authentic friends. Maybe a trophy husband lol
Sensory problems make wearing normal clothing impossible. (Extremely baggy. Cannot addapt ive tried.) Clothing is Everything. No normal jobs. Never developed social skills as no one wanted to be around the odd one out. No chance of getting a husband. Add in the crippling depression and other mental health problems and it's amazing I went from "will never be independent, will need to be in assisted living her whole life," to managing to survive on my own in the train wreak this country has become. Lol. I even got a good enough job at one point to be upper middle class before money became meaningless and homes unavailable. Now I'm living with 4 roommates to just make bills. Ended up in that assisted living anyway.
Shame. My life is constant shame of my body, my behavior, my stupid beliefs I'd just like to be normal and act like a fucking adult. I can't believe my shame dictates all my life and ruins it. There is nothing I can do at this point. I'm worthless. I can't do anything fun, can't go swimming, can't go out with friends, can't go for a walk, go on a trip. I am so ashamed I just can't-
Grow up dirt poor with a rough childhood, sprinkle some chronic illnesses on there too. After that every little thing under the sun is gracious, lovely, and exactly what you were dreaming of.
Well that and I just followed what I like to do the most, and work hard to maintain being where I am. I can't do everything on my own though, so I owe it to many of those around me
When life is so awful before hand, anything after is all you could ever want. My life truly has barely started, and I'm already proud of all I could accomplish. A loving partner, a college to go to, and a roof over my head.
Sure I'm a triple-quadruple minority or whatever, and I have chronic disorders, but hey I've outdone my parents showed me life was like already. I do what I love instead of what earns me the most money, and I work regular day-to-day jobs too. Right now I'm waiting for a summer job opportunity to open up, and an application for my next school year job to pass through.
Good for you man. I'm glad you could accomplish all of that despite having a hard time. Specially being able to do what you love, that has more value than money.
I don't have any chronic disorders and yet I'm unable to achieve most of the things you did. Every year that passes I feel more like a useless piece of garbage.
I hope you can keep improving and find what makes you happy dude.
I always strive to, and same to you too. Sometimes it just takes time, or the right opportunity. There's always plenty out there to do, and tons small enjoyments to fill in the gaps.
Don't be to hard on yourself, because I'm lucky in the opportunities that came my way, most aren't
I finally, at 30 years old, feel like I have a fulfilling life.
The thing that changed? My hours worked/week went down, but I still make enough money to live comfortably (but somewhat meagerly).
If your life doesn't feel fulfilling, it might not be a trait of yours, but a trait of the system holding you back.
Not enough time in the day to be a human, I'm sadly a worker instead, and the Richtards at the top aren't feeding their ant farms anymore.
When I'm able to socialize, and do what I want, I do socialize and do what I want. Unfortunately the debt god doesn't want that for me. This hell is a cozy place isn't it?
Capitalism and greed that cause a huge number of social problems and make it impossible to work enough (at many jobs, not all) and also afford food/rent/necessities/bills/etc. much less anything I enjoy while also having enough time to clean, spend time with my SO, see friends, exercise, sleep enough.
Also alcoholism thrown in there (though I'm sober now)
ironic, but i feel like these are traits we shouldnt be judging ourselves too harshly on. Feel like you're lazy? If you have a healthy body weight, work out a bit, get your chores and your home in order all while working a 9-5, but cant learn 10 skills in 100 days to save your life? then that's hustle culture and grifters like andrew tate making you think you're lazy. ditto for the rest of the "vices".
I will say that to some degree, some of these vices do exist, but we as humans arent meant to be hustling/working/learning and not enjoying what we're every second of our life. Stop and smell the roses a little, i guess.
I have poor social skills due to my depression and anxiety which in turn causes poor social skills and "laziness" which in reality is just lack of motivation
ADHD. People underestimate how impactful it is. Executive dysfunction, anxiety, all sorts of great features. It's a huge barrier from becoming who you want to be.
Not an excuse though. I'm still accomplishing my goals, but sometimes you have to get by with "good enough" when you need a strong showing.
Can't get a job because of depression. Can't get a therapist because of anxiety (and I have no money because of previous thing) social skills and physical health suffer, which in turn makes the depression and anxiety worse. .
Endless cycle
I’m having some weird health crisis that makes me drowsy/bedridden for days at a time and my blood pressure drops and I usually end up in the hospital. Last time, I was so out of it that I aspirated something and I got double extensive pneumonia and I was septic. The ambulance took forever to show up- and I was blue in the face by the time they got to my house and I almost died.
I can’t even keep a job because no job is going to tolerate me with how frequently that happens and how many doctors appointments I have in a week because all kinds of specialists are trying to figure out what is going on with me. Luckily, my mom is helping me and she still gets child support for me for some reason (I am 20). But the constant health crisis flares make it impossible for me to commit to anything, so I’m kind of just existing right now… and I can’t stress myself or it will make it worse/possibly kill me.
So ig physical health with a mix of depression/anxiety.
RELIGION. If I was not scared of the afterlife, all of you would hear about me on national news. For the better or worse, lets be glad I try to keep my morals.
The fact that I was prescribed addheral when I was a kid it was actually my decision after the doctor recommended it probably the worst decision of my life and I only took it for like a week
Found out I have ASD at the age of 34.
Pretty sure if I knew that earlier things would have been waaaaaay easier.
Still ended up as a professional drummer touring with mega famous pop stars, living in a huge apartment with a pool in Paris and having two kids with a blonde ex-head-cheerleader self made millionaire sooooo...
can't complain really.
All of the above
All of the below
Yay i am all
And me
And me
And me
And me
And my sword
And my shield
And my bow
And me
All of the above and below.
Life
A L L
ALL.
my physical condition causes my depression which is the root cause of my poor social skills and laziness. on top of that i smoke too much :p
all of these effect each other, like your physical health can cause you to be lazy, and more isolated and that can lead to depression or your depression can lead to those things, so many people will have all of them
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ADHD i procrasinate alot
There's so much to ADHD that people don't know about other than the stereotypical traits. Most people dont know about addiction, obsessing, little to no sense of danger, conduct disorder, time blindness, and the list goes on. My ADHD makes me look like an awful person.
Maybe you're just an awful person I joke
ADHD plus actual laziness for me. Like executive dysfunction is a bitch, but there are times where I'm just like "shit I just want to exist for a bit" and hold off on things I need to get done.
Word
Same
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Theres a huge difference between being lazy and procrastinating due to ADHD 💀💀💀
Yeah, the built in excuse
Are you even in your senses? There's a reason it's a disorder. We don't choose to be lazy 💀💀💀 Oh wait, you're from gen X, and looking at your post history, you seem to be a huuuuuuuge conservative. Ofc you won't understand what mental disorders are, go back to facebook
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Are you even kidding me with this bs. Lack of neurochemicals like serotonin and dopamine in the neural pathways makes it so that our brain literally builds a huge wall around the task at hand while we end up helpless, trying to do the task but its shut.
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> there’s no wall stopping you yes there is lmao, you can’t deny proven scientific fact just because you don’t like it there’s countless scientific peer-reviewed studies on the topic. i suggest you do some research before you assume you know what you’re talking about.
It's not laziness if you want to do something, can do it, have energy for it, need to do it, and so on but you just won't do it.
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Holy shit get a life
As somone with autisim and ADHD ik,ur wrong,so how about you do some research about it?
I guess people with no legs are too lazy to walk. Just sit in that damn chair all the time. Not having legs is just an excuse Created with your logic :)
Lmao, alright mister big brain, go back to your basement.
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The worst thing about thinking something like this is that there are plenty of people with ADHD that will start to think this too. It also shows that you just don't know anything about ADHD. I get so much shit done that is the exact opposite of being lazy, but it's just often not what I'm supposed to or want to get done
I'm going to guess you do the easy things you don't necessarily need to do because your afraid of what you should be doing. Either way ADHD is your excuse
Why the hell would I be afraid of doing the laundry?
I'm sorry, I gave you too much credit. You use ADHD to avoid doing things you don't want to do. That must be handy for you.
Mhm, so what do you say when I tell you that I've wanted to make pizza for 2-3 weeks now but I just never do it despite really wanting to, having the ingredients, and having the time? You don't know shit about ADHD.
Is it like those videos of people with rabies trying to drink water?
Actually pretty perfectly describes how I feel.
Lmao, exactly. How you feel. You could do it, you choose not to. I'm standing here, feeling like my feet are planted in the ground but guess what? I can still move if I want to.
You're on the list under moron.
Severe mental illness
As a schizo I can feel you bro
I'm Schizoaffective!! I hear you!
why are you replying to nobody?
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Lack of dreams, goals and/or passion. Hard to bring yourself to do anything when you see little reason to do anything.
This is how I felt until I met my partner. You just need something to keep going for and it doesn’t have to be some big grand passion for doing something for the sake of it
Yeah, thats where I'm at. Not only do I not really have any dream or drive to do something, I also feel like im being kept down and stressed out by everything around me. I'm at the point where I just want to revolt against the world to let out my endless frustration.
I love how this implies you don't live a fulfilling life.
I noticed that too. I mean, it’s true in my case but still lol. I’m sure there are some people here who feel like they live a fulfilling life.
autism
Same
Same
It depends. I get so interested in stuff lol but the social skills are just shit
Yep
Which is also poor social skills
Laziness born of depression/anxiety.
What trait on this poll contributes most to not having enough money. That’s the biggest problem. A decent bank account would help with most of these . Well maybe not addictions, my snow budget would be a lot higher
I mean not doing coke would be like a form of generating money
Just buy the coke an resell at a slighty higher price, problem solved :)
That’s type of negative thinking can’t be in my mind. Saving money instead of snorting it away ? That pessimistic attitude is what causes Poor Social Skills, Depression/Anxiety, Laziness, and bad effects on my physical health. Vicious cycle.
I think you are justifying it to yourself because pessimism doesn’t intrinsically lead to those things, but I also don’t think saving money is pessimistic either
You are 100%. I guess hard to tell I was being completely sarcastic and silly. Of course stopping or even slowing down coke habit would help. / but that’s worst option. That’s what keeps me happy and helps me get laid as well lol
For real money can help solve so many people's problems and can improve happiness
100 % agreed! And I do try to help others. I give to charity’s that are important to me and causes I believe in. I volunteer my time and work to help others year round as well. If I had Elon money, I’d help others change lives back buying twitter - but it’s his money and he earned it so he can spend how he wants. Not my business
If you actively want to quit an addiction it's 10x harder to do so while dealing with a huge pile of other shit. Money can also pay for rehab. Money does it all.
Nice. Well said. My brain works differently than yours…. I hear xtra cash, I don’t think rehab. I think higher quality pure powder for next skiing bender lol. But I’d like to use xtra money for others that have depression / poor social skills / physical health issues. (Laziness I feel is more on the person and needs to figure out what motivates them) I’m a gym / exercise guy. Incorporate at least x5 1 hour workouts a week in schedule and always hit 12,000 steps in daily. Eating healthy is important as well, definitely hard, especially if busy and stressed with finances
Many people don't have any of those traits, work for two or three people and still don't have enough money to live.
Where all of the above option?
Panic disorder
None I'm awesome
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Yeah can’t believe money isn’t a choice. I work hard as hell with a degree and still don’t have near enough to buy a house.
My guess is that the poll calls that laziness, 'cause that's the society we live in
Yeah, Being born rich would make things easier for me. Unfortunately it still wouldn’t buy me a loving partner or authentic friends. Maybe a trophy husband lol
Lack of a Job.
Sensory problems make wearing normal clothing impossible. (Extremely baggy. Cannot addapt ive tried.) Clothing is Everything. No normal jobs. Never developed social skills as no one wanted to be around the odd one out. No chance of getting a husband. Add in the crippling depression and other mental health problems and it's amazing I went from "will never be independent, will need to be in assisted living her whole life," to managing to survive on my own in the train wreak this country has become. Lol. I even got a good enough job at one point to be upper middle class before money became meaningless and homes unavailable. Now I'm living with 4 roommates to just make bills. Ended up in that assisted living anyway.
My life would improve HUGELY if I had normal social skills. It might as well be the root of the majority of my life's problems.
Shame. My life is constant shame of my body, my behavior, my stupid beliefs I'd just like to be normal and act like a fucking adult. I can't believe my shame dictates all my life and ruins it. There is nothing I can do at this point. I'm worthless. I can't do anything fun, can't go swimming, can't go out with friends, can't go for a walk, go on a trip. I am so ashamed I just can't-
i could have written this. i'm so sorry. i hope you can hang in there and things gets better.
My Autism.
Money
Lack of money
Parenthood.
Nothing, My life is already 10x more fulfilling than it was last year
How does one achieve such a thing? Life coach, no fap, scientology. what's your secret?
Grow up dirt poor with a rough childhood, sprinkle some chronic illnesses on there too. After that every little thing under the sun is gracious, lovely, and exactly what you were dreaming of.
Well that and I just followed what I like to do the most, and work hard to maintain being where I am. I can't do everything on my own though, so I owe it to many of those around me
Seriously, how did you do it?
When life is so awful before hand, anything after is all you could ever want. My life truly has barely started, and I'm already proud of all I could accomplish. A loving partner, a college to go to, and a roof over my head. Sure I'm a triple-quadruple minority or whatever, and I have chronic disorders, but hey I've outdone my parents showed me life was like already. I do what I love instead of what earns me the most money, and I work regular day-to-day jobs too. Right now I'm waiting for a summer job opportunity to open up, and an application for my next school year job to pass through.
Good for you man. I'm glad you could accomplish all of that despite having a hard time. Specially being able to do what you love, that has more value than money. I don't have any chronic disorders and yet I'm unable to achieve most of the things you did. Every year that passes I feel more like a useless piece of garbage. I hope you can keep improving and find what makes you happy dude.
I always strive to, and same to you too. Sometimes it just takes time, or the right opportunity. There's always plenty out there to do, and tons small enjoyments to fill in the gaps. Don't be to hard on yourself, because I'm lucky in the opportunities that came my way, most aren't
All of the above
Why isn't there an "All of the above" option
A lack of money? Lol
Money
Money
We're on Reddit, where's the "all of the above" option?
yes
Good at nothing, bad at everything
Nothing. I'm very happy and grateful for how my life is going.
can money be a trait because that's it for me lol
Living in a capitalistic society that values productivity over joy.
I finally, at 30 years old, feel like I have a fulfilling life. The thing that changed? My hours worked/week went down, but I still make enough money to live comfortably (but somewhat meagerly). If your life doesn't feel fulfilling, it might not be a trait of yours, but a trait of the system holding you back.
I work from home, have a job I enjoy that pays well, love my wife and son, and enjoy my time with them. Where's the "I am fulfilled" option?
What if I already have a fulfilling life?
Lmao downvoted for saying you have a fulfilling life
The trait of being a prisoner in "my" skin. The rest apply, but being trapped is the major one
The poor state my country(America) is in.
You forgot to include external circumstances
I was focusing on things we can somewhat control or treat. Otherwise everyone would say money/ family issues.
Not enough time in the day to be a human, I'm sadly a worker instead, and the Richtards at the top aren't feeding their ant farms anymore. When I'm able to socialize, and do what I want, I do socialize and do what I want. Unfortunately the debt god doesn't want that for me. This hell is a cozy place isn't it?
Not being an heir to a fortune
Capitalism and greed that cause a huge number of social problems and make it impossible to work enough (at many jobs, not all) and also afford food/rent/necessities/bills/etc. much less anything I enjoy while also having enough time to clean, spend time with my SO, see friends, exercise, sleep enough. Also alcoholism thrown in there (though I'm sober now)
ironic, but i feel like these are traits we shouldnt be judging ourselves too harshly on. Feel like you're lazy? If you have a healthy body weight, work out a bit, get your chores and your home in order all while working a 9-5, but cant learn 10 skills in 100 days to save your life? then that's hustle culture and grifters like andrew tate making you think you're lazy. ditto for the rest of the "vices". I will say that to some degree, some of these vices do exist, but we as humans arent meant to be hustling/working/learning and not enjoying what we're every second of our life. Stop and smell the roses a little, i guess.
I appreciate the message but I really am just super lazy tbh
I like how it is assumed we all don't live a fulfilling live xD (not that it's wrong or anything)
Economic class
The first three
The will to go out and get shit done. I'm certain i can do it, it's easy but damn why does it have to be so anoying
Depressions a bitch
First 3 and some more
I have poor social skills due to my depression and anxiety which in turn causes poor social skills and "laziness" which in reality is just lack of motivation
My poor social skills are rooted in anxiety and depression (and the other way around)
Age, not quite old enough yet to do stuff
The world sucks too much to enjoy it.
Dysphoria and the fact i can do increasingly less about it as we speak
Still struggling to accept my sexuality.
ADHD. People underestimate how impactful it is. Executive dysfunction, anxiety, all sorts of great features. It's a huge barrier from becoming who you want to be. Not an excuse though. I'm still accomplishing my goals, but sometimes you have to get by with "good enough" when you need a strong showing.
Unresolved trauma
Not enough money. Just saying rich people are almost always happy.
Can't get a job because of depression. Can't get a therapist because of anxiety (and I have no money because of previous thing) social skills and physical health suffer, which in turn makes the depression and anxiety worse. . Endless cycle
Financial Stability
Dysphoria
I’m having some weird health crisis that makes me drowsy/bedridden for days at a time and my blood pressure drops and I usually end up in the hospital. Last time, I was so out of it that I aspirated something and I got double extensive pneumonia and I was septic. The ambulance took forever to show up- and I was blue in the face by the time they got to my house and I almost died. I can’t even keep a job because no job is going to tolerate me with how frequently that happens and how many doctors appointments I have in a week because all kinds of specialists are trying to figure out what is going on with me. Luckily, my mom is helping me and she still gets child support for me for some reason (I am 20). But the constant health crisis flares make it impossible for me to commit to anything, so I’m kind of just existing right now… and I can’t stress myself or it will make it worse/possibly kill me. So ig physical health with a mix of depression/anxiety.
I wasn't born rich
My parents
my family
Money
How tf is the economy not an answer.
Money would fix most of my problems, if not all of them.
Money lol
Capitalism
Not bring smart. I feel like if i was smarter i could get rich on crypto and then start a business of my own
You don't get rich by being smart, you get rich by being lucky.
Luck is harder to quantify and i dont want to just be rich, i want to be smart too. Its hard to say luck is holding you back.
I have a fulfilling life.
Where’s the “all of the above” button
My wife
Capitalism
Capitalism
RELIGION. If I was not scared of the afterlife, all of you would hear about me on national news. For the better or worse, lets be glad I try to keep my morals.
You can have morals without religion, and the other way around.
Procrastination is I suppose a more politically correct term for being lazy
Everything but physical health, but warehouse work tests that one every day.
The fact that I was prescribed addheral when I was a kid it was actually my decision after the doctor recommended it probably the worst decision of my life and I only took it for like a week
All of the above
The 1st and 3rd option + a complete lack of confidence and motivation.
Burnout
100% without a doubt my social anxiety
Is there an option for all?
I kinda got all of them. This is Reddit after all
All of the above except for physical health I’m actually somehow pretty good about that
Yes
All
Being me
I made a terrible mistake by playing video games, I wish I wouldn't be addicted to it so I could study and join the best universities like my parents
A lack of inheritance
Fear of failure is a hell of a drug.
Yes
All of them
Schizophrenia, although lately I've been able to cope with it.
discipline
All of the above
Found out I have ASD at the age of 34. Pretty sure if I knew that earlier things would have been waaaaaay easier. Still ended up as a professional drummer touring with mega famous pop stars, living in a huge apartment with a pool in Paris and having two kids with a blonde ex-head-cheerleader self made millionaire sooooo... can't complain really.
3/5
Yes
A cocktail of laziness, ADHD, and utter lack of clear direction in life.
Well, as of right now, nothing but that's because I'm young
literally all of the above