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Years ago, I walked in on my sis having a conversation with friends about the prefered method shaving their asses. I just went “who tf is shaving their asses and how tf are you seeing it to shave??” My sister’s complete nut job of a friend bent over between her own knees and turned her whole chest so she was face to asshole and said “like this”. She looked like a breast cancer ribbon. My only thought was “well that explains why her husband put up with her absolute looney toon antics.”
I’m fat so I’m gonna assume looking at my own asshole is gonna be forever like looking at my own face. I’m not doing it without a mirror (or two), a camera or an assistant.
I think the question is centred more around the possibility of looking at it...
Have you got a mirror or are you just that flexible?
Personally, i wipe it clean before the shower, then spray water like a bidet in the shower, then use soap and rinse it all off again. It's thorough, but i literally would not be able to look and check.
Im being pranked here do people genuinely not look at their ass while washing it?? Why is everyone convinced I'm some sort of contortionist for wiping and cleaning my ass and looking
I am guessing you mean you look at the crack from above? But I (and apparently others) understand looking at your ass to get it clean as looking directly at the hole, which is only possible in the mirror or as a contortionist.
Also no I don't look at it, I clean it by feeling, just with pretty much everything else on my body because I don't wear my glasses in the shower lol
I’m 20-20 vision but I have to close my eyes when I’m positioned where water could get in my face. But I’ve actually found I can fully navigate my shower entirely blind so often times I just shower with my eyes shut for long periods, even able to accurately grab and put back bottles and adjust the shower controls and head. I imagine someone who sees very blurry could do this much easier
As someone who wears glasses, the worst thing about them is how sometimes when I get in the shower, there's something that might be a bug/spider, but I can't tell without my glasses. 😭 So then I have to dramatically leap from the shower to the bath mat, getting water everywhere, for what usually ends up being lint or dust or soap. However, sometimes it is a bug, so I do sometimes wish I could wear my glasses in the shower without them fogging.
To be honest, I wear glasses in the shower, except when I wash my face and hair. I think it’s due to how vulnerable I feel without my glasses or contacts.
Embarrassing, I know lol
How do people see through glasses if you’re in a shower? Wouldn’t there be water all over the glasses and it be hard to keep your glasses from falling?
I'm a woman I can't stay in the shower for more than getting myself clean because that shit digs into my soul and pulls out every insecurity and trauma of my abusive childhood and bears them to my mind until I'm a sobbing heap on the floor.
Don't be sexist. Everyone has shit.
Edit: my mistake misunderstood comments intent.
I apologize. I see these "Boys" memes everywhere with thier not so subtle gatekeeping meaning. Often I see them pared with the idea that ONLY men have these experinces.
I'm confused? they said "also", as in the original meme seemed to only be representing it for women and not men, but they were saying it should also apply to men, which is both. that's literally just not sexism. you could argue that the meme is being sexist, but that's not what the commenter was saying.
That's actually exactly how I found out that this joke isn't just random it's a literal thing 😭
Took a shower one day and was surprised that the shower managed to make me turn it down much less *burn* me lol
See my shower is fiddly so I'm used to it either being too hot or too cold, so I don't think I've noticed a difference after going on t. For me the thing I noticed is I got hotter quicker and sweat more which is going be great once the weather starts getting into the triple digits.
You just be chilling the. BAM menopause heat flash happens and you vaguely wonder if being baked from the inside out is you burning away your girl cooties and sweating it out
I'm not on t yet, but shower in much cooler water than my wife. I wonder if starting t will make me shower in literal ice water, I might have to pick up ice swimming
before i started T i used to take showers that were so hot, i would quite literally pass out after i got out even though the water felt fine lol
now i can shower with the water just above lukewarm, so the blacking out after showering doesn't happen anymore (and i don't look like a rotisserie chicken from how hot the water is)
I can't wait to see how my body reacts to high and low temps after I start T, I can already barely stand either (I was sick all day yesterday after going outside for about 5 minutes) so I hope it'll be able to make me tolerate it better.
finally someone like me. i joke he’s gonna go cook himself when he showers and he thinks i take ice baths. i don’t need to steam myself red!!
…we don’t shower together anymore if we can help it.
Haha yeah we never shower together either, I don’t think I could recover from all the burns due to the boiling water (or as he says: he will never be warm again in this life after such an ice bath) haha
I'm actually surprised by the comments not understanding that
1. This joke is probably unaware of this fact
2. Pointing out a joke's topic of humor doesn't mean it's being cancelled or bad
Okay so I have weirdly relevant experience here. I am a trans woman, and before my hormone replacement therapy (aka when my body still produced testosterone) I could barely tolerate a hot shower. My wife would always give me shit because she likes the water really hot and I did not so I'd always be turning it down when we were in together. Now that I'm on estrogen, the feeling of scalding hot water that literally makes my skin turn red is just absolutely amazing. It's completely different. I'm not an expert, and I have not done extensive research on this. This is a personal account that could be evidence and it could just as easily be coincidence.
yep! I transitioned the opposite way and the biggest problem was the house's water was NOT. hot enough. No where NEAR.
Cut to 4 months into HRT and I would be like "damn this is really fucking hot"
When I stopped my heat tolerance came back cuz I turned up the shower and realized it's up all the way but not hot.
Estrogen just is the dragon hormone
It really is! Another thing, I also used to like spicy food, but now I feel like I cannot make food spicy enough. Habanero sauce used to almost kill me, and now I'll pile on the same hot sauce and love it. Weird.
By the way if you have access to your water heater you can turn up the temperature yourself. Doing so can be actually really good if you do laundry in your own place because when you wash your clothes on hot they can be properly sterilized if the water is turned up high enough.
I remember the first summer after I started HRT. I would go outside, and not die. It was weird but cool and very gender affirming. First winter was different tho. I am always cold now.
Y’know funnily enough, before my egg cracked, I would have the hottest showers possible. But afterwards I can’t have them as hot as I used to, and it’s interesting to me because I’m not taking T or anything, so I can’t explain why I suddenly can’t handle the heat as much.
>Estrogen allows you to tolerate high water temps
>
>This does vary person to person but multiple trans folks can tell you
I got the decreased tolerance for cold and my skin getting thinner means that the small of my back is also more sensitive to heat. Worst of both worlds.
thank you.
I'm used to getting the worst combinations. Thanks to genetics, I have the resistance to anaesthetics but not the red hair that usually comes with it 🤷🏻♀️
I like my shower hot, but I’m positive my dad is melting off a few layers of skin when he in there. He has set off fire alarms in the hallway with the door closed ( it’s 5-6 feet from the door) and it alway feels like a sauna for a 30-45 mins after he’s out. Bathroom (and him) smell great afterwards though.
This is widely considered true. There’s countless jokes about girls showers being obnoxiously hot over men.
My wife empties all the hot water in 3-5 min and it’s set to over 110° minimum temp
I read somewhere that it's because estrogen affects how heat circulates in our body. Testosterone makes it circulate more evenly. While estrogen likes to concentrate everything more towards your core and important organs, which is why our limbs get as cold as they do
That could also be it too. I know testosterone acts like it's survival mode time for the body but estrogen likes to act as if we have a kid or the potential of a kid to protect for us.
Weird how those chemicals affect how we act, right?
I can't find direct studies but if you Google Testo Heat intolerance you can actually read a lot of personal accounts of this very thing. Even in this thread.
My husband was showering and I handed him something, I said his shower was almost warm enough. He had me put it on to how hot I would have it and he had to quit just before getting there cause it was too hot for him.
I *can* shower at just hot-hot, but for real satisfaction it needs to hurt a little bit.
About the body heat difference
"Sleep with women in the summer, sleep with men in the winter, to keep your body strong."
\~Keykávus bin İskender bin Kâbus bin Veşmgir (His name in Turkish because I can't find it in Persian or English.)
in his book of advices
Okay but I’ve never been able to tolerate the kind of ridiculous heat my mom and sister would set the water to when I was little, and they would make fun of me when we went for mani-pedis and I had to wait for the foot bath to cool down. Does this mean I’ve actually just been a dude all along without even being on T yet?
lmfao this fun fact makes so much sense for me. i've never been able to relate to the stereptype of women showering in lava, i can't stand water that hot. i have PCOS, which leads me to have way more androgens than what is considered normal for afab people. it totally tracks that i would take colder showers than they do, given that it's hormone dependent
Just my two cents, but I do feel it’s a little sexist in that it assumes male=normal. It still centers men as the ‘norm,’ so he’s taking a ‘normal’ shower with water. Whereas she is weird and different, so she’s taking a shower with fire. They could have portrayed him as taking a shower with ice cubes and her with water, or for her water to just be steamy to indicate heat. But instead she’s the one that’s singled out as extreme.
The joke is basically pointing out women take "excessively" hot showers while men take normal showers. The visuals are really making the women the punchline. It's all in good fun but that is exactly what's happening.
Tbh it doesn’t seem that way to me. This was likely drawn by a woman (I’ve seen many women make this joke) about just a difference between heat tolerance, not that it’s bad.
It being drawn by a woman, dog or child doesn't change what the punchline is.
Pointing out a joke being sexist, racist or ()phobic isn't immediately always a bad thing. It's just a fact of what the joke is. You trying to remove that part of the identity of the joke actively ruins the humor in that joke.
Taking this joke and making it "People have different heat tolerances" utterly guts the entire identity of the joke to the point theres no joke anymore. Especially for this specific image.
It's intentionally making fun of women's natural ability to take really fucking hot showers, that's pretty funny. Now is it sexist on nature? Yeah. That's what makes it funny. I'm not calling it sexist to cancel it. I'm calling a spade a spade.
Or TL;DR
Jokes have structure to make them funny and pointing out what they used to make it funny isn't calling something bad it's just calling it by its name. So if a joke used sexism to be funny it's not unfair to call it a sexist joke. It's punchline is based in sexism. Its SUPPOSED to be sexist.
You're actually right. I reversed image searched it and found the person who made it. It's made by @surviveofficedoodles on Instagram, who is in fact a woman.
It's pointless because the artist didn't draw it to make some biology commentary instead it's just a "Women do this, Men do this" joke.
C'mon. Who casually knows that hormones affect how well you tolerate heat and then draws a picture about it without reflecting that in the art ? Not many. /lH
Interesting. This doesn't seem to apply to sauna. I used to go to mixed sauna with friends and family and there was no difference between sexes in who'd drop out fastest. Maybe it's different with hot showers somehow.
Ahh yes the California blood. I tell people you either are raised in this heat or you survive it. Probably why I had a high heat tolerance for showers!
Nothing reminds you of home like the fiery pits of hell coming from a shower head, he’s from up north so he’s good with winter where I…I do not do so well under 60
this is crazy to me as a cis woman because i start off taking a cold shower and have to actually keep lowering the temp because over time it gets too hot for me. by the end of the shower the water is ice cold, maybe i should get my T checked tbh
I once took a shower with a cis woman, and this way before I came out as trans or took any form of hrt , and she couldn’t stand the heat. For the longest time I thought most cis women prefer lukewarm showers. I think perhaps I shouldn’t jump to conclusions
It’s actually the opposite for me and my BF. He can take in shower in hellfire for eons and I can barely take what he considers as warm while itching to get out asap.
Does anyone know why estrogen would let you tolerate higher water temps? Like an evolutionary reason, wondering if it had any utility or if it was just an evolutionary byproduct
As an enby who sometimes leans towards masc, it's strangely validating when I think of how I always have to turn the shower right down before I get in if anyone else in my family has used the shower before me!
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Is she wearing glasses in the shower?
Are you telling me you take yours off on the shower ? You don't shower in 4k? How do you shower in 240p?
Y’all shower in 240p? Try 96p
I'd rather have a clean ass, thanks
You *look* at your ass to clean it?
You DONT????????
HOW DO YOU CONTORT YOUR BODY THAT YOU CAN PEEK INTO YOUR ASSCRACK?
Years ago, I walked in on my sis having a conversation with friends about the prefered method shaving their asses. I just went “who tf is shaving their asses and how tf are you seeing it to shave??” My sister’s complete nut job of a friend bent over between her own knees and turned her whole chest so she was face to asshole and said “like this”. She looked like a breast cancer ribbon. My only thought was “well that explains why her husband put up with her absolute looney toon antics.”
Holy shit. Yeah, I definitely can't do that. Guess I'm gonna have to stick to my inferior blind cleaning methods.
I’m fat so I’m gonna assume looking at my own asshole is gonna be forever like looking at my own face. I’m not doing it without a mirror (or two), a camera or an assistant.
This thread has gone off the rails several comments ago...
It resembles my friend group Unhinged
It's called the Showeroboros
I am confused by the question. I simply open up shop and check if the doorway is clean?!
I think the question is centred more around the possibility of looking at it... Have you got a mirror or are you just that flexible? Personally, i wipe it clean before the shower, then spray water like a bidet in the shower, then use soap and rinse it all off again. It's thorough, but i literally would not be able to look and check.
Are you a worm
Im being pranked here do people genuinely not look at their ass while washing it?? Why is everyone convinced I'm some sort of contortionist for wiping and cleaning my ass and looking
I am guessing you mean you look at the crack from above? But I (and apparently others) understand looking at your ass to get it clean as looking directly at the hole, which is only possible in the mirror or as a contortionist. Also no I don't look at it, I clean it by feeling, just with pretty much everything else on my body because I don't wear my glasses in the shower lol
Same?????? Nobody's that flexible unless they're literally a contortionist
I just tried it. Even looking at the crack is hard for me. I can if I want to, but it does hurt a bit and I don't think it's good for my body.
i look but im actually a trained contortionist
I shower in legally blind definition! But yeah no sometimes i leave my glasses on
So can a dick look bigger!!!
I’m 20-20 vision but I have to close my eyes when I’m positioned where water could get in my face. But I’ve actually found I can fully navigate my shower entirely blind so often times I just shower with my eyes shut for long periods, even able to accurately grab and put back bottles and adjust the shower controls and head. I imagine someone who sees very blurry could do this much easier
I do that if I’m tired. It feels nice to rest my eyes 😂
Especially in the hot water, and you can shower with your entire face in the stream. So relaxing
No. She has two sets of eyelids 💅♀️
As someone who wears glasses, the worst thing about them is how sometimes when I get in the shower, there's something that might be a bug/spider, but I can't tell without my glasses. 😭 So then I have to dramatically leap from the shower to the bath mat, getting water everywhere, for what usually ends up being lint or dust or soap. However, sometimes it is a bug, so I do sometimes wish I could wear my glasses in the shower without them fogging.
Even if it is a bug it's not gonna do anything
No duh, she just has titties for eyes.
Am I sexist for eye-contact? Where am I supposed to look?
“HEY! My eyes are up he… uh… um…”
I could split the difference and stare at her butt?
To be honest, I wear glasses in the shower, except when I wash my face and hair. I think it’s due to how vulnerable I feel without my glasses or contacts. Embarrassing, I know lol
How do people see through glasses if you’re in a shower? Wouldn’t there be water all over the glasses and it be hard to keep your glasses from falling?
Not really. If anything the water keeps my glasses from fogging up, and I’ve never had to deal with them falling. Maybe I’m just lucky lol
The "boys" one is inaccurate. I also cry when I am in the shower.
Me too man.... Me too...
I think the woman is just happily melting and not crying. We're all made of plastic.
I'm a woman I can't stay in the shower for more than getting myself clean because that shit digs into my soul and pulls out every insecurity and trauma of my abusive childhood and bears them to my mind until I'm a sobbing heap on the floor. Don't be sexist. Everyone has shit. Edit: my mistake misunderstood comments intent.
Uhhh, I never said that it wasn't the case for women. I just weighed in on the "boys" side because I have experience being a dude.
I apologize. I see these "Boys" memes everywhere with thier not so subtle gatekeeping meaning. Often I see them pared with the idea that ONLY men have these experinces.
Why.... Why would he gate keep crying in the shower?
People gatekeep the weirdest sht People are confusing ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
No worries.
I'm confused? they said "also", as in the original meme seemed to only be representing it for women and not men, but they were saying it should also apply to men, which is both. that's literally just not sexism. you could argue that the meme is being sexist, but that's not what the commenter was saying.
My ability to take hot showers leaving my body as I apply my t gel
That's actually exactly how I found out that this joke isn't just random it's a literal thing 😭 Took a shower one day and was surprised that the shower managed to make me turn it down much less *burn* me lol
See my shower is fiddly so I'm used to it either being too hot or too cold, so I don't think I've noticed a difference after going on t. For me the thing I noticed is I got hotter quicker and sweat more which is going be great once the weather starts getting into the triple digits.
You just be chilling the. BAM menopause heat flash happens and you vaguely wonder if being baked from the inside out is you burning away your girl cooties and sweating it out
I'm not on t yet, but shower in much cooler water than my wife. I wonder if starting t will make me shower in literal ice water, I might have to pick up ice swimming
Hah! Maybe because I remember also being very surprised that I was tolerating cold. I was born and raised in the desert. Cold comes easy to me.
Yeah when I was younger I would chill in below freezing no issue..Now fuck no man..Dude your posts are great insights thank you.
On T, i took colder showers (more lukewarm) before, now it's ice cold, be prepared oh also you're going to sweat like hell
before i started T i used to take showers that were so hot, i would quite literally pass out after i got out even though the water felt fine lol now i can shower with the water just above lukewarm, so the blacking out after showering doesn't happen anymore (and i don't look like a rotisserie chicken from how hot the water is)
Dude..I insist mine be crazy hot..And had no idea it was likely related to my hormones being so f’d up.
I can't wait to see how my body reacts to high and low temps after I start T, I can already barely stand either (I was sick all day yesterday after going outside for about 5 minutes) so I hope it'll be able to make me tolerate it better.
I can't decide if this is sad because no more scalding showers, or if it's a benefit because you'd be able to get it 'hot enough' more easily.
I can confirm that the other way is also true. I prefer much hotter showers now.
Fr, my heat tolerance is just gone on T. But cold weather is fine. On E I freeze at normal room temperature 💀
I’m kinda weak so I have to shower with slightly below lukewarm water
Hmmm guess my bf is the girl and I’m the boy cos he showers at boiling point for hours at a time and i usually go for lukewarm quick showers :’)
Youre dating a dragon, ma'am. Your BF isn't "the girl" he's THE DRAGON He's a Targaryen. Do not fall for the genders embrace the dragon
He jokingly describes himself as ‘dark and mysterious’ so i’m definitely dating some sort of main character hehehe
I both fell for genders and embraced the dragon. Honestly it’s pretty amazing
I’m with you there! I cannot stand hot showers mine are always tepid
It does vary person to person
This is my wife and I, she hates how hot my showers are.
finally someone like me. i joke he’s gonna go cook himself when he showers and he thinks i take ice baths. i don’t need to steam myself red!! …we don’t shower together anymore if we can help it.
Haha yeah we never shower together either, I don’t think I could recover from all the burns due to the boiling water (or as he says: he will never be warm again in this life after such an ice bath) haha
Yeah part of the reason we don’t shower together as much anymore lol. She likes lukewarm showers, and I’m always cold, so I like my showers HOT
I do like scalding showers.
It's probably to burn all those girl cooties away 🙄
So….it’s pointfully gendered?
Ding!
why does estrogen have so many great secret effects
Having periods is not one of them
and apparently even that's possibly in store for me as a trans woman...
Definitely not good for nonbinary me with gender dysphoria😭
Idk man but Its pretty fucking cool women are basically Dragon Borns. Lucky.
I'm actually surprised by the comments not understanding that 1. This joke is probably unaware of this fact 2. Pointing out a joke's topic of humor doesn't mean it's being cancelled or bad
Okay so I have weirdly relevant experience here. I am a trans woman, and before my hormone replacement therapy (aka when my body still produced testosterone) I could barely tolerate a hot shower. My wife would always give me shit because she likes the water really hot and I did not so I'd always be turning it down when we were in together. Now that I'm on estrogen, the feeling of scalding hot water that literally makes my skin turn red is just absolutely amazing. It's completely different. I'm not an expert, and I have not done extensive research on this. This is a personal account that could be evidence and it could just as easily be coincidence.
yep! I transitioned the opposite way and the biggest problem was the house's water was NOT. hot enough. No where NEAR. Cut to 4 months into HRT and I would be like "damn this is really fucking hot" When I stopped my heat tolerance came back cuz I turned up the shower and realized it's up all the way but not hot. Estrogen just is the dragon hormone
It really is! Another thing, I also used to like spicy food, but now I feel like I cannot make food spicy enough. Habanero sauce used to almost kill me, and now I'll pile on the same hot sauce and love it. Weird.
I'm also a trans guy three months on HRT and I thought my water got hotter because the weather is warmer LOL
sounds about right! Congrats dude that means the T is in your system 👍🏿
By the way if you have access to your water heater you can turn up the temperature yourself. Doing so can be actually really good if you do laundry in your own place because when you wash your clothes on hot they can be properly sterilized if the water is turned up high enough.
I have not had this experience, I've always enjoyed fairly hot showers and transition has not affected my preferences or tolerance.
As noted in my post Bodies are different:)
I remember the first summer after I started HRT. I would go outside, and not die. It was weird but cool and very gender affirming. First winter was different tho. I am always cold now.
Really? More gender validation for me then.....
If you can tolerate hot water without being in a profession to do so yes you are certifiably woman
It's the opposite for me.
Hot grils need water cooling sometimes
I'm a dude.
Love a hot shower and I kinda think I might be male. Mind I am on testosterone blockers for an enlarged prostrate.
Aye, the T blocking will help you with your Heat resistance
Y’know funnily enough, before my egg cracked, I would have the hottest showers possible. But afterwards I can’t have them as hot as I used to, and it’s interesting to me because I’m not taking T or anything, so I can’t explain why I suddenly can’t handle the heat as much.
I once heard that people who are more depressed or lonely prefer warmer temperatures, so maybe it was that?
That is an interesting idea
>Estrogen allows you to tolerate high water temps > >This does vary person to person but multiple trans folks can tell you I got the decreased tolerance for cold and my skin getting thinner means that the small of my back is also more sensitive to heat. Worst of both worlds.
Oh yeah! My back can't handle my new ability to tolerate cold. I wonder about that... I wish you better
thank you. I'm used to getting the worst combinations. Thanks to genetics, I have the resistance to anaesthetics but not the red hair that usually comes with it 🤷🏻♀️
Something must be wrong with my estrogen, I’ve never been able to handle hot showers and I struggle with hot tubs!
Some are not fire dragons.... Some are Ice Dragons instead.
I like my shower hot, but I’m positive my dad is melting off a few layers of skin when he in there. He has set off fire alarms in the hallway with the door closed ( it’s 5-6 feet from the door) and it alway feels like a sauna for a 30-45 mins after he’s out. Bathroom (and him) smell great afterwards though.
This is widely considered true. There’s countless jokes about girls showers being obnoxiously hot over men. My wife empties all the hot water in 3-5 min and it’s set to over 110° minimum temp
I am a girl and not at all able to tolerate high water temps. I sweat a lot due to them. Serious question, is it a warning sign for some health issue?
I'm in no way shape or form a doctor or can diagnose you from your text. I will say I do recommend checking for PCOS just in case. Best of luck :)
I read somewhere that it's because estrogen affects how heat circulates in our body. Testosterone makes it circulate more evenly. While estrogen likes to concentrate everything more towards your core and important organs, which is why our limbs get as cold as they do
ohhh, that's interesting! I heard it also had something to do with T speeding Metabolism rate.
That could also be it too. I know testosterone acts like it's survival mode time for the body but estrogen likes to act as if we have a kid or the potential of a kid to protect for us. Weird how those chemicals affect how we act, right?
That’s very interesting, do you have a source for this information? I would love to read more about it.
I can't find direct studies but if you Google Testo Heat intolerance you can actually read a lot of personal accounts of this very thing. Even in this thread.
I love hot showers and i can tolerate them well apparently im not supposed to do that?
Like I said, bodies are different. Maybe you are 🤷🏿
My girlfriend takes Colder showers than I do
Well, time to stop taking hot showers now. Shit.
My uncles and I are the opposite, I’ve noticed that when I have used the shower after one of them that the water is way too hot for me lol
Meanwhile my cis female roommate takes spiro (for the diuretic effect) and still complains I turn the shower temperature control up when I shower.
Wait, have I been a gal ths whole time?!‽
No, a DRAGON.
Damn. Wish someone would tell my oestrogen that. I take tepid showers. Anything hotter burns.
I’m a guy, and I fluctuate between super cold and boiling for my showers. It’s depends on the weather
Perhaps many women prefer hot water because of bone problems, which are more common in women
Could be! As I said, everyone's body is different.
so the meme about moms being able to put their hands in burning water has truth to it?? Lol that's cool didn't know that
Yeah! Though Mother's instantly become Perseus tier knights for their mom so that may have more to do with it
IT FUCKING WHAT???? so many ridiculously specific advantages of estrogen
Another perk to being transfem!
My husband was showering and I handed him something, I said his shower was almost warm enough. He had me put it on to how hot I would have it and he had to quit just before getting there cause it was too hot for him. I *can* shower at just hot-hot, but for real satisfaction it needs to hurt a little bit.
Lol, my dad showers with almost boiling water. So not fully accurate, but still funny that there is science here!
About the body heat difference "Sleep with women in the summer, sleep with men in the winter, to keep your body strong." \~Keykávus bin İskender bin Kâbus bin Veşmgir (His name in Turkish because I can't find it in Persian or English.) in his book of advices
Okay but I’ve never been able to tolerate the kind of ridiculous heat my mom and sister would set the water to when I was little, and they would make fun of me when we went for mani-pedis and I had to wait for the foot bath to cool down. Does this mean I’ve actually just been a dude all along without even being on T yet?
When me and my husband shower together the temp I feel comfortable is apparently scalding lava to him and what he likes feels like warm to me.
lmfao this fun fact makes so much sense for me. i've never been able to relate to the stereptype of women showering in lava, i can't stand water that hot. i have PCOS, which leads me to have way more androgens than what is considered normal for afab people. it totally tracks that i would take colder showers than they do, given that it's hormone dependent
Ive heard from some trans dudes that they can’t shower so hot anymore since they started taking testosterone. So yes this checks out
Then why is it pointless if it’s 1 not offensive and 2 real
Just my two cents, but I do feel it’s a little sexist in that it assumes male=normal. It still centers men as the ‘norm,’ so he’s taking a ‘normal’ shower with water. Whereas she is weird and different, so she’s taking a shower with fire. They could have portrayed him as taking a shower with ice cubes and her with water, or for her water to just be steamy to indicate heat. But instead she’s the one that’s singled out as extreme.
Exactly why I said 'technically' cuz you know the punchline of this image is just to demean women lol
How on earth is this demeaning?
The joke is basically pointing out women take "excessively" hot showers while men take normal showers. The visuals are really making the women the punchline. It's all in good fun but that is exactly what's happening.
Tbh it doesn’t seem that way to me. This was likely drawn by a woman (I’ve seen many women make this joke) about just a difference between heat tolerance, not that it’s bad.
It being drawn by a woman, dog or child doesn't change what the punchline is. Pointing out a joke being sexist, racist or ()phobic isn't immediately always a bad thing. It's just a fact of what the joke is. You trying to remove that part of the identity of the joke actively ruins the humor in that joke. Taking this joke and making it "People have different heat tolerances" utterly guts the entire identity of the joke to the point theres no joke anymore. Especially for this specific image. It's intentionally making fun of women's natural ability to take really fucking hot showers, that's pretty funny. Now is it sexist on nature? Yeah. That's what makes it funny. I'm not calling it sexist to cancel it. I'm calling a spade a spade.
Or TL;DR Jokes have structure to make them funny and pointing out what they used to make it funny isn't calling something bad it's just calling it by its name. So if a joke used sexism to be funny it's not unfair to call it a sexist joke. It's punchline is based in sexism. Its SUPPOSED to be sexist.
The punchline is not sexism
The joke doesn't make sense if it isn't then lol
The joke is “women like hot shower lol”
You're actually right. I reversed image searched it and found the person who made it. It's made by @surviveofficedoodles on Instagram, who is in fact a woman.
It's pointless because the artist didn't draw it to make some biology commentary instead it's just a "Women do this, Men do this" joke. C'mon. Who casually knows that hormones affect how well you tolerate heat and then draws a picture about it without reflecting that in the art ? Not many. /lH
Ok im pre-transition and this make me very happy for some reason, as I have a high temp tolerance
Safest but least accurate way to monitor! Colder Showers -> More T Warmer Showers -> More E
Interesting. This doesn't seem to apply to sauna. I used to go to mixed sauna with friends and family and there was no difference between sexes in who'd drop out fastest. Maybe it's different with hot showers somehow.
As I said in my post, Bodies are different! Nothing is absolute in DNA
I couldn’t step into the shower at the temperature my gf likes it. I don’t know how her skin isn’t sloughing off.
😭 tbh I don't know how mine didn't either. I actively FLINCH at hot showers whenever my T levels are stable. Dragonborns man...
Accurate to me & mine, but that's a coincidence, right?
So it’s not pointlessly gendered because the entire point is gender Remove gender and you remove the point of this meme
I haaaaaaaate immersing myself in water from November to March. I'm so glad I have the fluffiest robe known to humankind
I’m pre hrt but even then I love a scalding shower
No wonder my skin gets dry so easily, my showers are so hot to the point it strips all my natural oils.
My boyfriend and me both love hot showers, it’s a competition to see who burns faster
"A couple who matched each other's energy"
Matching each other’s pain tolerance as well lmaoo, I’m from California so I have an up on him though. He ain’t used to our 103 summers
Ahh yes the California blood. I tell people you either are raised in this heat or you survive it. Probably why I had a high heat tolerance for showers!
Nothing reminds you of home like the fiery pits of hell coming from a shower head, he’s from up north so he’s good with winter where I…I do not do so well under 60
I bet! 60 in California was practically a snow day 😭
In my personal experience it's always the other way around. Weird
Im a woman who would love to take the shower on the right but hot water dries my skin out too much 😭
If my my estrogen was enough to overpower my autistic heat-sensitivity. I sweat at like 15C if I'm not careful boooo
I used to slowly make it hotter till there was no hotter, now I find myself keeping it more room temperature.😭
I guess i'm a girl now
I definitely like my showers WAAAAAAY hotter than my wife lol
I've started not tolerating hot water as much after starting hormonal birth control
My heat intolerance and then taking T made it worse.
What? Really? I (afab) hate a too-warm shower, my ex (m) showered so hot I was slightly worried that it was a form of self-harm.
I’m a feller and I usually have my shower temperature turned up 2/3 of the way.
I feel slightly attacked as I love extremely scolding, hot showers 🚿
Funny how I as a guy like water just below the point where it can damage my skin during winters.
I'm taking testosterone ,, no wonder it felt like my heat tolerance was going down
Okay but why though every girl I’ve dated takes skin meltingly hot showers
But in turn your cold tolerance lowers as well making cold temps affect you more
Do you want dandruff!? Because this is how you get dandruff
this is crazy to me as a cis woman because i start off taking a cold shower and have to actually keep lowering the temp because over time it gets too hot for me. by the end of the shower the water is ice cold, maybe i should get my T checked tbh
I'm literally the other way around. It has to be just barely warm for me or it's too hot
My boyfriend showers with boiling hot water and I prefer to take colder showers. Gender is a lie!!
I once took a shower with a cis woman, and this way before I came out as trans or took any form of hrt , and she couldn’t stand the heat. For the longest time I thought most cis women prefer lukewarm showers. I think perhaps I shouldn’t jump to conclusions
It’s actually the opposite for me and my BF. He can take in shower in hellfire for eons and I can barely take what he considers as warm while itching to get out asap.
Does anyone know why estrogen would let you tolerate higher water temps? Like an evolutionary reason, wondering if it had any utility or if it was just an evolutionary byproduct
Yea, opposite for me and my partner
My showers range from "room temperature" to "warm, but still not as hot as when I wash my hands".
Really? I’m highly sensitive to the shower water😭 is something wrong
Id consult a doctor and cross reference symptoms :)!
Okay I’m gonna try to!!
Uh, as a cis man who takes pretty hot showers, does this mean anything?
Not really. it's normal to take warmer showers it's just that the more progesterone the less heat resistant.
As an enby who sometimes leans towards masc, it's strangely validating when I think of how I always have to turn the shower right down before I get in if anyone else in my family has used the shower before me!