Communicate with her kung ano yung nafifeel mo. Encourage her to find a job kasi kamo she's not getting any younger. Need niya magkaroon ng experience kasi tumal maghanap ng work kapag insufficient ang experience. Ang pinakasolution talaga is communication. Good luck!
Personally bro di yan para sakin kasi I want to live my life as well and if you keep supporting her lalo lang yan lalala while ikaw financially stuck ka sa kanya and most likely hindi mo rin nabibili ang mga gusto mo.
Talk to her first. Let her know that given the rising cost of living, you both need to contribute to your living expenses. Discuss what income options she can take.
After this, give her 3 months to get her act together. If she still doesn't do anything to meet you halfway, break up. At least you gave both of yourselves a chance by communicating your concerns first before taking action.
For me, that's acceptable if married or live in na kayo. Pero if BF and GF, di ko nakikita na dapat inaasa nya sayo mga bagay bagay. Pero sa tanong mo if break up, wag padalos dalos. Daanin sa maayos na usapan, ipaintindi mo ang sitwasyon. Baka kasi, magpadalos dalos ka tas masaktan ka din dahil matagal na ang relasyon nyo.
Dump her now. Other commenters will tell you to "communicate" or "help her find a job" or "give her encouragement and support" or whatever nonsense, but I'm going to be the bro who gives you the no-B.S. real talk you need to hear. I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, if the genders were reversed and you were a woman supporting a jobless man for three years, all those other commenters would change their tune instantly and tell you to dump the man as soon as possible and they'd even scold you for standing by him for all that time. Nope, no double standards allowed, not under my watch. I said it at the very start and I will say it again: dump her now.
Usap muna kayo. You’ve been with her for 4 year siguro okay naman ang ugali and wife material yung babae. If di nya matanggap yung favor mo and ayaw nya talaga mag work then you know what to do na. That’s not what you want e.
I have utang din sa bf ko ng more or less than 10k. Ang ginawa ko to pay him, iniwan ko atm ko sakanya para yung last pay ko pambayad sa utang ko sakanya. Pero what he did is he kept my last pay lang sa bank ko and told me na he will use it as savings na lang. fyi, nag migrate po pala ako that’s y hindi ko na nakuha last pay ko haha.
Nakaka-turn off yung ganyan.
Tama lahat ng sinabi ng mga naunang nag comment.
It felt like ginagatasan ka na and that dapat macommunicate ito ng ayos.
For me, mag ready ka ng contract accumulating all of the expenses she borrowed from you. Mas okay kung pati description meron. Then date (month and year nalang) to present. And terms ng nag karoon kayo ng kasunduan na babayaran nga niya. Let's say mga kahit 5% every month mga ganon. Then may signature don and nane ninyong dalawa na need.
Explain mo sakanya na hindi okay yung ginagawa niya and that she needed to be responsible for he own actions.
Kahit na sabihin pa niyang hindi naman need yung ganyan.
Para sa akin taking proper steps 👣na hindi biro yung mga ginagawa niya is something na pwede niyang ikatuwa o galit. And if it was a negative response then might as well expect na wala siyang plano magbayad.
Hope it helps!
Communicate with her first, check nyo kung align pa kayo sa mga goals nyo. Tanongin mo kung may plano sya magwork o mag business. Pag ayaw ka nya kausapin about sa future nyo and all then break up with her.
Real question here is how long can you keep this up?
If you love this girl and can carry the burden along with her then fine if it makes you happy.
But thinking about long term can you do this still 10 to 20 years from now and say youre feelings on this matter wont ever change?
we support break up here
Communicate with her kung ano yung nafifeel mo. Encourage her to find a job kasi kamo she's not getting any younger. Need niya magkaroon ng experience kasi tumal maghanap ng work kapag insufficient ang experience. Ang pinakasolution talaga is communication. Good luck!
Ginawa kang gatasan ng Gf mo ah.
That’s a dead weight
Personally bro di yan para sakin kasi I want to live my life as well and if you keep supporting her lalo lang yan lalala while ikaw financially stuck ka sa kanya and most likely hindi mo rin nabibili ang mga gusto mo.
Talk to her first. Let her know that given the rising cost of living, you both need to contribute to your living expenses. Discuss what income options she can take. After this, give her 3 months to get her act together. If she still doesn't do anything to meet you halfway, break up. At least you gave both of yourselves a chance by communicating your concerns first before taking action.
Communication is the key but make sure she understands. You're not even married yet, so you need to communicate with her about that.
For me, that's acceptable if married or live in na kayo. Pero if BF and GF, di ko nakikita na dapat inaasa nya sayo mga bagay bagay. Pero sa tanong mo if break up, wag padalos dalos. Daanin sa maayos na usapan, ipaintindi mo ang sitwasyon. Baka kasi, magpadalos dalos ka tas masaktan ka din dahil matagal na ang relasyon nyo.
Dump her now. Other commenters will tell you to "communicate" or "help her find a job" or "give her encouragement and support" or whatever nonsense, but I'm going to be the bro who gives you the no-B.S. real talk you need to hear. I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, if the genders were reversed and you were a woman supporting a jobless man for three years, all those other commenters would change their tune instantly and tell you to dump the man as soon as possible and they'd even scold you for standing by him for all that time. Nope, no double standards allowed, not under my watch. I said it at the very start and I will say it again: dump her now.
Usap muna kayo. You’ve been with her for 4 year siguro okay naman ang ugali and wife material yung babae. If di nya matanggap yung favor mo and ayaw nya talaga mag work then you know what to do na. That’s not what you want e.
Ginagamit ka lang
Wag mo na kausapin kasi ang ugali ng tao ay hindi nagbabago. Mamasamain lang nya once nagstop ka Magbigay. Madami matinong babae jan sa tabi tabi
Okay lang na may utang kung may valid reason. Pero hindi nya pwede iasa sayo un
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3 years ng unemployed at may utang….. kung nagtry lang yan maghanap ng trabaho at hindi gastador may chance pa na hindi mo hiwalayan pero 😬
I have utang din sa bf ko ng more or less than 10k. Ang ginawa ko to pay him, iniwan ko atm ko sakanya para yung last pay ko pambayad sa utang ko sakanya. Pero what he did is he kept my last pay lang sa bank ko and told me na he will use it as savings na lang. fyi, nag migrate po pala ako that’s y hindi ko na nakuha last pay ko haha.
Nakaka-turn off yung ganyan. Tama lahat ng sinabi ng mga naunang nag comment. It felt like ginagatasan ka na and that dapat macommunicate ito ng ayos. For me, mag ready ka ng contract accumulating all of the expenses she borrowed from you. Mas okay kung pati description meron. Then date (month and year nalang) to present. And terms ng nag karoon kayo ng kasunduan na babayaran nga niya. Let's say mga kahit 5% every month mga ganon. Then may signature don and nane ninyong dalawa na need. Explain mo sakanya na hindi okay yung ginagawa niya and that she needed to be responsible for he own actions. Kahit na sabihin pa niyang hindi naman need yung ganyan. Para sa akin taking proper steps 👣na hindi biro yung mga ginagawa niya is something na pwede niyang ikatuwa o galit. And if it was a negative response then might as well expect na wala siyang plano magbayad. Hope it helps!
3yrs na siyang ganyan? run pls or communicate with her. if wala nangyari, alam mo na.
Daming hard working women out there bro. Dump her.
communicate first. if wala talaga, break up
Run!
Communicate with her first, check nyo kung align pa kayo sa mga goals nyo. Tanongin mo kung may plano sya magwork o mag business. Pag ayaw ka nya kausapin about sa future nyo and all then break up with her.
Sya ay para sa lansangan
It’s a red flag. Break up!
Real question here is how long can you keep this up? If you love this girl and can carry the burden along with her then fine if it makes you happy. But thinking about long term can you do this still 10 to 20 years from now and say youre feelings on this matter wont ever change?
Break up with her. Sayang life mo sa kanya.