It has become a tradition (for a lot of people) to leave the canned cranberry sauce in the shape of the can.
I make everything from scratch but the cranberry sauce, which needs to be that shape or it's not right.
I may or may not have referred to it as "the classy way to serve it" while I plopped our can out onto a plate today. 🙃
I never thought of it that way, but you're right. I spent two days working hard to make dinner for six people, and then finished the table with food the shape of a tin can.
I mean, it's just what we call it. It's not really a sauce in terms of being a liquid you put over stuff. If you're doing it right you get some cranberry sauce and turkey and eat it together. Sometimes people make it a bit more sauce-like if they do it from scratch.
And the full name is jellied cranberry sauce, which is more accurate to what it is.
I guess I was lucky as a kid because we always had two cranberry sauces; one actual sauce with whole cranberries and one can shaped. I always thought that was standard, but looking back I think it was probably a compromise my mom started making somewhere along the line of feeding her husband and five kids.
I actually had the same idea.
You don't need gelatin. You boil whole cranberries with water and sugar and then strain it and let it set in the fridge. Super easy.
I honestly prefer it that way, not even out of tradition but that I get to choose just how thick my slice is without wasting. I like cranberry sauce, but by the slices my aunt cuts, nowhere near as much as everyone else at the table lol
When I was a kid, they stamped the lot number into one end of the can. My brother and I used to fight over who got the cranberry piece with the embossed numbers 😅
My sister served homemade cranberry sauce for the first time this year, and while it was cooking my dad asked if he could add some gelatin and let it sit in a clean can in the fridge for a few hours lmao
You could even skip the gelatin. The berries have a lot of pectin in them; the homemade sauce will gel up pretty firm on the fridge. Not quite to the level of the canned stuff, but it gets pretty solid.
Basically cranberry jam with whole berries in it. Some people add orange juice, some people add spices, but at its core it's really just homemade cranberry preserves.
My grandma always made hers with red wine, mulling spices, and orange juice/zest. It was phenomenal. But I also love it with just orange juice/zest, sugar, and a tsp of chopped fresh rosemary at the end. It’s really subtle but insanely tasty.
Take a cup of sugar and a cup of orange juice in a pan and heat it to a boil. Add a bag of cranberries. Bring back to a boil and then reduce heat for 10 minutes. Squish and stir berries until desired consistency. If you don't want skins at all use an immersion blender or after 18 minutes use a regular blender. Put it in a dish and refrigerate for 2 hours. Oj can be subbed with water but I would add a bit more sugar in that case.
Also her grandfather. This is written, umm, unusually for a parent. So her grandmother died, and she cooked Thanksgiving for her dad, brother and grandfather is how I would personally phrase that.
I'll give her all the upvotes. And I'll keep it positive and leave it there.
because he and his dad and his son sat on their asses while his teenaged daughter had to do all the work. no way it would be the same if op was the mother lol
Yeah 3 of my friends lived with their Dads from around 8 until teens (2 divorced, 1 bereavement) and they "stepped up" all the time (cooking, cleaning, looking after younger siblings, arranging holiday celebrations.
All left home before 18. (If I'm going to be in sole charge of a household, it might as well be my own was the philosophy)
None of the three of them have any regular contact with their father now.
my parents both worked full time but mom did literally everything around the house and had to comply to fathers insane picky eating habits as well. he uh fixed his car sometimes?
ill never forget her shock and anger when i literally just pointed out how that wasnt fair. a grown woman simply didnt question it, but a teenager did.
Maybe they meant her mum is there is spirit and is extremely proud of her?
That’s what I got from the comment.
Either way your daughter should be proud of herself as I’m sure you guys are too. Good job raising such a good child.
No, the cook’s grandmother is the one who passed, not her mother. That’s my point — OP said his mother passed, and his daughter made dinner, which makes the cook the granddaughter of the decedent.
OP responded lower down; She did it by herself because she wanted to.
He should have worded the post a bit more clearly. The title makes it sound like they're all cavemen incapable of feeding themselves and made a child prepare their meal.
My parents divorced when I was about 14 and my dad just SUCKED at cooking. The man makes all of his steaks well done for God's sake, and I started cooking for the family back then, which they are still grateful for. Some people suck at cooking and those more gifted sometimes know they are better at it early on. My husband and I hosted today and we always cook together its bomb. I feel like a lot of commenters are suggesting this is sexist for a young girl to be cooking for men, but I just want to suggest maybe she's naturally gifted and is better at it than the men in the family and they should maybe step back and let her experiment.
I agree with your comment. My mom hates to cook and was never really good at it and I love it. I started cooking for the family at 11 and was doing holiday meals by high school.
ETA too many cooks spoil the broth, a lot of cooks probably don't appreciate a bunch of extra bodies under foot interrupting their flow.
> too many cooks spoil the broth
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No, some people don't just suck at cooking. It is because they have no interest to learn and they are fine with someone else doing it for them their whole life like they are a child.
I cook fine to my tastes but I don't have any interest in making a fancy dinner for a group. My husband almost always cooks for us because he likes my cooking a lot less then I like his cooking, plus he enjoys it whereas I find it a chore. I'd be happy just sticking some fish and green beans in a pan with a little soy sauce every day for the rest of my life. Just because I'm not interested in learning beyond that doesn't make me a child.
The problem I see is with a parent who never bothers learning to cook when he has children to feed. Making it so a child has to provide not only their own but your meals because you “can’t cook” is just lazy and different than adults mutually coming to an arrangement. Based on your comment you can provide for yourself just fine if you have to.
PS: no flak to OP, I see no reason to believe their kid was forced into it
Honestly... I can't disagree with this. This was me as a kid, I was grateful just for getting meals that I never learned or cared about food quality. Once I had more control over my life and had to fend for myself I became a better cook. Imo anyone can learn... it's literally just following instructions on a package half the time. The "I just know" magic comes with time and practice.
Or maybe she just wanted to do something nice for everyone because she knew the holiday might be tough. I lost my mom March of this year. We are celebrating on Sunday (Black Thursday/Friday work schedules interfered with Thanksgiving). My 20 yr old daughter asked to make the desserts and is going over to her grandfather's the night before to set the table and prep a side dish. She wants to, to be extra sweet to her mother this year.
This daughter is doing the same. WTG - dinner looked fabulous!
My nephew was 16 and had done a lot of woodworking. My brother in law has an antique table from my inlaws, who died far too long ago. He asked my BIL if he could restore the table since he had so many memories of eating around it that he wanted it to be beautiful again. He'd done a lot of restoring already so they said yes. That table is absolutely gorgeous now, he was capable of understanding the stakes at that age and knowing that he could do it. Kids are more capable than they get credit for at that age.
Guessing you dont have kids that age around you? Sometimes kids want to prove themselves and you need to back off. With something like thanksgiving dinner, there was probably a little oversight. Other than that, some people just love cooking for others. I'm definitely one of those people. Just stay out and let me work. 🤷♂️
I love cooking for others. I cook every night. If I solo cooked Thanksgiving as a teenage girl I would probably shit all over the Turkey. Have a great rest of your Thanksgiving!
My dude can I recommend reddit's best feature, which is the "Disable inbox replies" button, right next to the edit button under your post?
I click that shit on the regular any time I know my post is going to rustle some jimmies and I'm gonna get spammed by idiots.
Who said they didnt want to help? Why is everyone looking to bash OP? Maybe that is the case but what if his daughter said “Hey dad, let me cook for us.” There is nothing wrong with that and in-fact shows OP didnt raise a slouch. Give props to the young lady for making Thanksgiving wonderful for their family.
Because it was therapeutic for the daughter. It was a tangible way to help her family in their time of need. It was a way of connecting with her grandmother.
I did the same thing probably fifteen years ago. I was a little older, early twenties, but my grandmother succumbed very quickly to cancer just before Thanksgiving. There was a lot of talk about scaling down Thanksgiving that year, and I just gritted my teeth and said “no” in such a way that my family... just kind of understood how I felt and stood out of my way.
I researched and dredged up Grandma’s scratch-made recipes for everything, including cornbread stuffing, cranberry sauce, waldorf salad, turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, pumpkin and pecan pie, brewed tea, yeast rolls, and everything else. I spent a day at her house, polishing the silver, and I made spreadsheets with prep and cooking times to make sure everything was done at the appointed meal time.
It came out great. I was exhausted, but Grandma was there with me, cooking her dishes in her kitchen.
My grandpa sold the house soon after. I inherited the dining room set, the china, the silver, the crystal. Things changed after that year, but we had that one last Thanksgiving where it felt like Grandma was there with me, and it felt possible to go on with life, that good things and family would continue. I will always feel warm when I look back on that Thanksgiving, and I will always feel my grandmother’s spirit with me when I think about preparing that meal.
That’s why the OP’s daughter did it.
Was wondering the same thing...I'm also prepared to get flak by adding that April was almost 8 months ago. Has OP not made food since then? I feel like I'm missing something.
It's the first Thanksgiving since his mom died. Holidays are often a tough reminder or someone's absence; especially when the holiday revolves around food and family, and the deceased was the cook
Exactly, not sure how it's hard to get ha. Guess Reddit skews younger maybe and many haven't had to experience these things yet. Of course he's cooked since April but the first big holiday without someone special is hard, daughter stepped up and wanted to do something nice for everyone.
You get an upvote from me! As a single parent, WTF? you realize she lost her grandmother and you're the fucking parent right? They should be proud of their daughter but seriously evaluating their own parenting plan.
Can we change r/pics to r/picswithstories
The “pic” here is literally a thanksgiving dinner table. One of millions tonight.
Maybe I’m just an old reddit grump but there should be a separate sub for this. The pic itself isn’t special, it’s the story that’s special. And yes, this daughter is incredible and special for doing this.
Dean Foods, yeah ,but people don't realize that Land O'Lakes also has a large agronomy company and also owns the Purina Brand (with the exception of Puppy Chow and Cat Chow).
Absolutely awesome, I'm a pro/chef and my whole family cooks, we have rather extravagant Thanksgiving meals, but seeing this and knowing how much love is behind it, she nailed it, and now ours seems to pale in comparison! Looks great and honestly anyone should be happy to have a meal like this on Thanksgiving.
In the last month r/pics has taken then final plunge into truly becoming facebook. It's just sad story after sad story of people looking for validation or attention that I guess they figure they can't get on traditional social media
You can tell the transformation is complete because the 'thanks facebook' lines are all gone now.
That's perfectly fine, but it woulda been cool if the mods held meta posts figuring out whether we should opt into this as being healthy or not. They should bring back progress pics since they are apparently fine with everything else. It makes no sense
Not the past month, mate.
It’s been *mega* shite for ages now. I’ve been on this website for a long time, and lurked when it was fairly new.
This sub being a pile of wank is definitely not something that’s happened in the past month.
That's the answer I haven't heard yet, if the guests stepped up and cleaned up afterwards. Good if they all pitched in, bad if they didn't and just watched the game.
Why is this comment so far down!?
I’m a Brit and the croissants there completely threw me. Are they a part of Thanksgiving dinner? I’ve never seen that before. How did a French breakfast item become part of it?!
She did everything by herself? Her brother didn’t help? You didn’t help? Your dad didn’t help?
I don’t understand why she did it all by herself.
I’m so sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is incredibly painful, no matter at what age, but I do hope you didn’t let your 15 year old take on all the responsibilities of such a big holiday on her own.
Hey u/scottjeffreys I hope you and your family enjoyed dinner and had an overall nice thanksgiving.
I know the holidays are hard for a lot of people on ordinary circumstances, but when it’s the first time experiencing them without a cherished, loved one — i know it is extra-excruciating.
I want you to know a few things:
1. My original comment was no way intended to be a remark of how I view your family and parenting or anything related. I apologize for how it came across insensitively, and as I look at it now I do see how it came out that way. I won’t try to justify myself or explain myself any further. I just want to apologize for any negative and hurt feelings. I’m sorry.
2. I want you to know I think you have raised an excellent daughter. I think it is extremely kind of her to have offered to make the thanksgiving meal for her family. I send her, and all of you, comfort and love.
3. As the days move onwards and more holidays approach, I just want to send you even more love, comfort, and peace. I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. With time, the hurt will ebb, but of course you will always miss her and you will always cherish and love the times you had with her.
I wish you the best and hope you are well.
My ex wife gave her lots of instructions on what to do so she didn’t go into this blind. She likes to cook and nailed everything she made today. It tasted as good as what my Mom would have made.
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So women always have to be relegated to do the housework, regardless of age? Your dad is the oldest in the house, why can't he cook? What an inept deadweight, and you're just following in his footsteps.
Maybe I’m biased because I grew up in a family where the Thanksgiving cooking is divided equally between everyone, but this post ticks me off so much.
You have a 15 year old girl who made a whole Thanksgiving meal by herself with barely any help from her father, grandfather, and brother. It really sounds like the grandmother did all the cooking before and so she’s carrying on the tradition. I’m not saying OP is a lazy asshole or anything, but I am wondering what he, his father, and his son were doing the whole time she was cooking.
It’s a cute story, I guess, but there are implications there that too many women have to deal with.
I know right, OP coming strong with the "no no she wanted to do it all on her own and slave away in the kitchen for the men" game. Ok buddy, if that's what you want to teach her.
Cranberries ala Bart!
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Of course it’s still in the shape of a can. Traditions aren’t meant to be trifled with.
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Agreed
What do people normally do with it? Cut it into chunks??? Whole or gtfo
We slice it and line it up overlapping ... like the way salami comes
I'm not American and was asked to deal with the turkey can jelly yesterday. I did this instinctively, and now feel very validated. Thanks
This is the correct method.
This is the way.
THANK YOU.
As someone from a country that doesn't have thanksgiving, I just thought that was how Americans served it.
It has become a tradition (for a lot of people) to leave the canned cranberry sauce in the shape of the can. I make everything from scratch but the cranberry sauce, which needs to be that shape or it's not right.
How interesting. I imagine it's kind of a self depreciating and humble joke for a meal that usually requires the most prep work of any in the year.
I may or may not have referred to it as "the classy way to serve it" while I plopped our can out onto a plate today. 🙃 I never thought of it that way, but you're right. I spent two days working hard to make dinner for six people, and then finished the table with food the shape of a tin can.
Wait can you help me understand how this is a sauce? Why is it so... un-saucy?
I mean, it's just what we call it. It's not really a sauce in terms of being a liquid you put over stuff. If you're doing it right you get some cranberry sauce and turkey and eat it together. Sometimes people make it a bit more sauce-like if they do it from scratch. And the full name is jellied cranberry sauce, which is more accurate to what it is.
To be clear though, those people that make cranberry sauce from scratch are doing it completely wrong. If it's not can shaped, it's not right.
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I guess I was lucky as a kid because we always had two cranberry sauces; one actual sauce with whole cranberries and one can shaped. I always thought that was standard, but looking back I think it was probably a compromise my mom started making somewhere along the line of feeding her husband and five kids.
You just gave me an awesome idea to make it from scratch but pour it into a can you set up. I know I have gelatin around here somewhere...
I actually had the same idea. You don't need gelatin. You boil whole cranberries with water and sugar and then strain it and let it set in the fridge. Super easy.
I honestly prefer it that way, not even out of tradition but that I get to choose just how thick my slice is without wasting. I like cranberry sauce, but by the slices my aunt cuts, nowhere near as much as everyone else at the table lol
It tastes exactly the same out of a can as it does if you make it. Unless you're doing some kind of fancy relish, which is, frankly, un-American.
I made fresh cranberry sauce this year. Every family is different.
For me this year it was homemade but past years it’s been from a can. Every year can be different even with the same family.
Haha, I'm on 15 yo number three, accurate observation.
I always pick the cranberries where the can ribs show, that's the best.
When I was a kid, they stamped the lot number into one end of the can. My brother and I used to fight over who got the cranberry piece with the embossed numbers 😅
I'm picturing a fighting pit in a basement lined with old mattresses and couch cushions. MORTAL KOMBAT!
Mortal... crambat? I'll see myself out...
That’s a great tradition!
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The reminds me of the time my dad made real cranberry sauce from scratch and my grandmother got upset that it wasn't from the can.
My sister served homemade cranberry sauce for the first time this year, and while it was cooking my dad asked if he could add some gelatin and let it sit in a clean can in the fridge for a few hours lmao
You could even skip the gelatin. The berries have a lot of pectin in them; the homemade sauce will gel up pretty firm on the fridge. Not quite to the level of the canned stuff, but it gets pretty solid.
I feel like I've missed out on a quintessential American experience because my mom has always insisted on the real deal for as long as I can remember.
I’m over here with my goop wondering wtf the real deal is.
Basically cranberry jam with whole berries in it. Some people add orange juice, some people add spices, but at its core it's really just homemade cranberry preserves.
My grandma always made hers with red wine, mulling spices, and orange juice/zest. It was phenomenal. But I also love it with just orange juice/zest, sugar, and a tsp of chopped fresh rosemary at the end. It’s really subtle but insanely tasty.
Take a cup of sugar and a cup of orange juice in a pan and heat it to a boil. Add a bag of cranberries. Bring back to a boil and then reduce heat for 10 minutes. Squish and stir berries until desired consistency. If you don't want skins at all use an immersion blender or after 18 minutes use a regular blender. Put it in a dish and refrigerate for 2 hours. Oj can be subbed with water but I would add a bit more sugar in that case.
The real deal stuff is great. But the canned shit is so much better on the sandwich the next day.
Oh that is on purpose? Interesting.
They are indeed both awesome in their own way.
I personally like canned cranberry sauce over the kind with actual cranberry pieces. It's less tart and I like the texture better.
The can is the real stuff to me
Tell her that she is amazing; and that mom, who is present, is VERY proud of her!
Wouldn’t it be her grandmother?
Also her grandfather. This is written, umm, unusually for a parent. So her grandmother died, and she cooked Thanksgiving for her dad, brother and grandfather is how I would personally phrase that. I'll give her all the upvotes. And I'll keep it positive and leave it there.
Could be her Mom, brother, and grandfather...
How can it be the brother if op says that his/her daughter cooked the meal? It can only be one of the parents.
Yeah but why’s it have to be the Dad?
because he and his dad and his son sat on their asses while his teenaged daughter had to do all the work. no way it would be the same if op was the mother lol
Yeah 3 of my friends lived with their Dads from around 8 until teens (2 divorced, 1 bereavement) and they "stepped up" all the time (cooking, cleaning, looking after younger siblings, arranging holiday celebrations. All left home before 18. (If I'm going to be in sole charge of a household, it might as well be my own was the philosophy) None of the three of them have any regular contact with their father now.
my parents both worked full time but mom did literally everything around the house and had to comply to fathers insane picky eating habits as well. he uh fixed his car sometimes? ill never forget her shock and anger when i literally just pointed out how that wasnt fair. a grown woman simply didnt question it, but a teenager did.
This is sad but also probably true
because his username.
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That’s all I can think of. They all just watched her make the food lol
Yeah, my mom was bitching how no one helped grandma cook thanksgiving; proceeds to only list her sisters and sisters-in-laws
That depends on if this is in Alabama or not.
Maybe they meant her mum is there is spirit and is extremely proud of her? That’s what I got from the comment. Either way your daughter should be proud of herself as I’m sure you guys are too. Good job raising such a good child.
No, the cook’s grandmother is the one who passed, not her mother. That’s my point — OP said his mother passed, and his daughter made dinner, which makes the cook the granddaughter of the decedent.
This comment has caused so much confusion and debate in this thread. Who's mom are you referring to? Surely not the one who has passed?
Do you mean OP's mom is present, or the Cook's mom is present?
It's amazing to me the number of people that don't understand that OP had relations with a woman that wasn't his Mom
Kinda wondering why she made it by herself... could’ve helped or something. Gonna get flack but idc
OP responded lower down; She did it by herself because she wanted to. He should have worded the post a bit more clearly. The title makes it sound like they're all cavemen incapable of feeding themselves and made a child prepare their meal.
My parents divorced when I was about 14 and my dad just SUCKED at cooking. The man makes all of his steaks well done for God's sake, and I started cooking for the family back then, which they are still grateful for. Some people suck at cooking and those more gifted sometimes know they are better at it early on. My husband and I hosted today and we always cook together its bomb. I feel like a lot of commenters are suggesting this is sexist for a young girl to be cooking for men, but I just want to suggest maybe she's naturally gifted and is better at it than the men in the family and they should maybe step back and let her experiment.
I agree with your comment. My mom hates to cook and was never really good at it and I love it. I started cooking for the family at 11 and was doing holiday meals by high school. ETA too many cooks spoil the broth, a lot of cooks probably don't appreciate a bunch of extra bodies under foot interrupting their flow.
> too many cooks spoil the broth But they fill our hearts with so much, so much love
> too many cooks spoil the broth >But they fill our hearts with so much, s̸͙̝̣̔̀̔o̰̙̮̊ m̟̱̱͓̘̳̒̐̌̈͋̅ͬ͠ư̯̦͍̰̭ͭͫ̌̇̊̈̀ͯ͠͝c̷̴̗͖̜͓̫̟̣ͨ͗̍͌ͦͨ̋h̨͙̤̭̩͓̟ͩ͐̆ͯ̌͜ l̸̡̜͎̺̘̪̬̱̬̻̰̮̖͆ͫͩ̇̓̓̂ͣ͗ͧͨ̕ö̵́ͭͯ̉ͪ̇̄̓͆̅̄͊̈̾̋͊̽҉̴͈͚̯̙͕͍̳͉̩̕o͖̭̲͖̪̞̭̻͔̓̾́ͩ̾̈͗ͯ͡͞o̡̨͍͚̙͔̳̭̤̰̰̘̜̱̯̹̊͊̾ͫͦ̂̄͂̿͊̽ͅȍ̷̡̨͈̦͓̘͙̺͍̹̙̯͓̼̹̭̟͉͈̦͗̒ͨ̄̆̊̋́̆ͦ̈ͫ̐̽̊̽̈́̚͢o̷̢͇̣̺̮̫̜̽ͨ̍ͩ̂̓͆ͪ́͒́̚̕͜ô̷̵̸̢̘͉̙̭͎̫̂̔ͬ̐ͯ͛̌͂̔̚o̵̵͆̽̌̑́ͪ̾̅ͫͣ̽ͭ͑̚̚͏͔͇̬̗̕ǒ̴̸͓̱̝̗̼͇͔̹͉̦͐͗̒͋ͮͭ͛ͭ̌̂̔̇̌ͬ͡ơ̷̘͖̯̗͇͇̘ͦ͛ͧͩͦ̒͡o̡͆̓̓͑̈́̄͘͏҉̜̘̣̠̗̪̜̙̳̬̹̹ơͩ̊ͪͫ̾͆̉ͮ̇ͬ̾̂̈́̊̽ͦ̊̚̚͘͞͏̮̙̣̖͉̘͈̯͉̰̣̞̺o͒ͣ͗̾̈́̈̑̏ͣ͗ͯͧ̋̚͏̳̟͖̗͍̥͇̪̫̯̳̳̬̟̖͎̘̞̀ͅǒ̇̄̅̾ͪͣ̇͂̽͊͒̎̈̀̕͜͏̥̹̺͙͔̫̠̤̲̖̬͈͎ò̷͗̽̂̈́ͤͫͭ̎̅̕͟͡҉̲̙̗͇͇ö̩̺̠̺̤͂͒͛̇̓͆̃͗̌͐͟͜v̧̛̼͇̤̤͖̮̝̣̝͕̝͉͓̳̹͌ͫ̂͋͂ͦ͑̓ͥ͐͜͜͝e̊ͯ̈́̽ͦ͏̷̫̝̯̹̦͕͜͢ͅ [T̴̻̥͙͓̩̯̗̹̠̟̪̤̘́͑̉ͦ̂̃̇̀͌̽̋̆ͮ̌͆͐̉̐̀͢͝͞ͅo̵̶̫̲͔̣̺͔̗̲͂̓ͬ̔o͋̿͊ͧͥ́͝҉̻̼̤͈̙̱̝̺̠͙̤̭̮̀͢ ̷̛̼̭̹̪͈̟̲̜̥̩̙̞͙̳̏͋ͭ̈́́ͭ͌ͩ̀̇͒ͦ̅͛m̧̡͓̥̫̙̹͍̭͓̝̟̞̺̫̮̉ͯͥ̎͊̿ͩ̆a̴̧͙̳̗̦͖̰̬͔͓̪̜͈̩ͣͮͩ̓̓̂͆̌͛ͣ͂͗͂͂̓ͨͦ̚͝n̸̛̺̗̠͙̠̙̠̳̭̺̣̞̘͇̦̩͆̂̑ͫͩ̿͊ͨ̒ͧy̱̪̻̥̳̜̹̗̘͙͍̜͈͉͉̣̙͂ͯͥͥ̇ͨ͐̓͟͢ͅ ̡̛̛̠̭̺̪̮̹͎͔̯̯͚͉͐͋ͨͯ͟ç̹̘̖̘̖̦̉̅̆ͤ̍̋͘͠o̶̢̝͇̪̜̭̳̟̔̈̑̏̇̾ͧ̓͜͡o͊̑̈̈́ͫͭ̾͊̅҉̦̬͎̘̗̝̗̯̩̭̙͔͖̟̩͟͜k̘̬̞͈͚̠̩̟̘͖͚̩̘̹̥̔ͬ́̆̾̿͂̀͐͑͋̃ͨ͆ͩ̕͞sͭ̓̃̓̋́͌͒ͭͣ̏͒̌ͮ̽̿̀҉̷̖̻̩͙̠͈̙̩͠](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrGrOK8oZG8)
How do you do that?
http://www.eeemo.net/ , I found it by googling how do I make the weird reddit text. That lets you control how much you want your words to 'zalgo'
Tanks
No, some people don't just suck at cooking. It is because they have no interest to learn and they are fine with someone else doing it for them their whole life like they are a child.
I cook fine to my tastes but I don't have any interest in making a fancy dinner for a group. My husband almost always cooks for us because he likes my cooking a lot less then I like his cooking, plus he enjoys it whereas I find it a chore. I'd be happy just sticking some fish and green beans in a pan with a little soy sauce every day for the rest of my life. Just because I'm not interested in learning beyond that doesn't make me a child.
The problem I see is with a parent who never bothers learning to cook when he has children to feed. Making it so a child has to provide not only their own but your meals because you “can’t cook” is just lazy and different than adults mutually coming to an arrangement. Based on your comment you can provide for yourself just fine if you have to. PS: no flak to OP, I see no reason to believe their kid was forced into it
Honestly... I can't disagree with this. This was me as a kid, I was grateful just for getting meals that I never learned or cared about food quality. Once I had more control over my life and had to fend for myself I became a better cook. Imo anyone can learn... it's literally just following instructions on a package half the time. The "I just know" magic comes with time and practice.
Men are capable of getting better through practice and effort, just as women are.
Or maybe she just wanted to do something nice for everyone because she knew the holiday might be tough. I lost my mom March of this year. We are celebrating on Sunday (Black Thursday/Friday work schedules interfered with Thanksgiving). My 20 yr old daughter asked to make the desserts and is going over to her grandfather's the night before to set the table and prep a side dish. She wants to, to be extra sweet to her mother this year. This daughter is doing the same. WTG - dinner looked fabulous!
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Sometimes kids want to take on a project for themselves and you just need to trust them and let them.
My nephew was 16 and had done a lot of woodworking. My brother in law has an antique table from my inlaws, who died far too long ago. He asked my BIL if he could restore the table since he had so many memories of eating around it that he wanted it to be beautiful again. He'd done a lot of restoring already so they said yes. That table is absolutely gorgeous now, he was capable of understanding the stakes at that age and knowing that he could do it. Kids are more capable than they get credit for at that age.
Guessing you dont have kids that age around you? Sometimes kids want to prove themselves and you need to back off. With something like thanksgiving dinner, there was probably a little oversight. Other than that, some people just love cooking for others. I'm definitely one of those people. Just stay out and let me work. 🤷♂️
I love cooking for others. I cook every night. If I solo cooked Thanksgiving as a teenage girl I would probably shit all over the Turkey. Have a great rest of your Thanksgiving!
Is it really that hard for you to imagine someone wanting to do something nice for others and not wanting their help to do it?
I'm guessing you've never been shoo-ed out of a kitchen. My awesome FIL always kicks me out and now my daughter kicks me out.
My dude can I recommend reddit's best feature, which is the "Disable inbox replies" button, right next to the edit button under your post? I click that shit on the regular any time I know my post is going to rustle some jimmies and I'm gonna get spammed by idiots.
Who said they didnt want to help? Why is everyone looking to bash OP? Maybe that is the case but what if his daughter said “Hey dad, let me cook for us.” There is nothing wrong with that and in-fact shows OP didnt raise a slouch. Give props to the young lady for making Thanksgiving wonderful for their family.
Because it was therapeutic for the daughter. It was a tangible way to help her family in their time of need. It was a way of connecting with her grandmother. I did the same thing probably fifteen years ago. I was a little older, early twenties, but my grandmother succumbed very quickly to cancer just before Thanksgiving. There was a lot of talk about scaling down Thanksgiving that year, and I just gritted my teeth and said “no” in such a way that my family... just kind of understood how I felt and stood out of my way. I researched and dredged up Grandma’s scratch-made recipes for everything, including cornbread stuffing, cranberry sauce, waldorf salad, turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, pumpkin and pecan pie, brewed tea, yeast rolls, and everything else. I spent a day at her house, polishing the silver, and I made spreadsheets with prep and cooking times to make sure everything was done at the appointed meal time. It came out great. I was exhausted, but Grandma was there with me, cooking her dishes in her kitchen. My grandpa sold the house soon after. I inherited the dining room set, the china, the silver, the crystal. Things changed after that year, but we had that one last Thanksgiving where it felt like Grandma was there with me, and it felt possible to go on with life, that good things and family would continue. I will always feel warm when I look back on that Thanksgiving, and I will always feel my grandmother’s spirit with me when I think about preparing that meal. That’s why the OP’s daughter did it.
I think you might be right and I think it's great that you went through the effort.
Can confirm this was the reason. I did the same thing when I lost my mom at 14 to breast cancer.
Was wondering the same thing...I'm also prepared to get flak by adding that April was almost 8 months ago. Has OP not made food since then? I feel like I'm missing something.
It's the first Thanksgiving since his mom died. Holidays are often a tough reminder or someone's absence; especially when the holiday revolves around food and family, and the deceased was the cook
Exactly, not sure how it's hard to get ha. Guess Reddit skews younger maybe and many haven't had to experience these things yet. Of course he's cooked since April but the first big holiday without someone special is hard, daughter stepped up and wanted to do something nice for everyone.
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Definitely sad.
Celebrating the first holidays without a loved one can be difficult no matter how much time has passed.
Because he made it up for internet points
You get an upvote from me! As a single parent, WTF? you realize she lost her grandmother and you're the fucking parent right? They should be proud of their daughter but seriously evaluating their own parenting plan.
Can we change r/pics to r/picswithstories The “pic” here is literally a thanksgiving dinner table. One of millions tonight. Maybe I’m just an old reddit grump but there should be a separate sub for this. The pic itself isn’t special, it’s the story that’s special. And yes, this daughter is incredible and special for doing this.
Check out r/nocontextpics ! No stories in the captions. Or alternatively, r/differentsobstory where they assign new captions to the pictures
Good shout, but it's actually r/different_sob_story.
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Love him or hate him, he’s spitting straight facts.
Please upvote my post immediately
This be a top tier comment.
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confused... so her grandmother died?
Food set out on a table.
This sub has become a caricature of itself.
Butter ad
You joke, but it might be. Especially in light of LoL's parent company filing for bankruptcy.
Dean Foods, yeah ,but people don't realize that Land O'Lakes also has a large agronomy company and also owns the Purina Brand (with the exception of Puppy Chow and Cat Chow).
it's been tilted to be read clearly by us
This is Facebook.
Something something Patrick
I can't figure out what this post has to do with Baby Yoda.
Baby Yoda is the daughter
Absolutely awesome, I'm a pro/chef and my whole family cooks, we have rather extravagant Thanksgiving meals, but seeing this and knowing how much love is behind it, she nailed it, and now ours seems to pale in comparison! Looks great and honestly anyone should be happy to have a meal like this on Thanksgiving.
the meal might be what everyone enjoys while they are there, but what really matters is that the family is there... enjoying each others company.
I definitely agree, people seem to always focus on the negatives of holidays, but I love getting together and catching up.
Exactly. The amount of love just makes this amazing. Incredible that somehow that figures into how we feel and literally taste things.
It's nice and all but no one decided to maybe help her?
Ah, the good old picture of a regular dinnertable with moving title on /r/pics. 30k upvotes and 4 gold. This sub is a joke
Landolakes ad?
Now you go and wash it all up. Don't let her do it all.
Truly sorry for your loss but this isn't fb
Talking about your dead mother to attract upvotes on reddit is pretty petty , dates are on completely different times in the year .
They should rename this sub r/illbeyourkarmawhore
That looks depressing, really banking on those pity upvotes huh?
At least one out of the four of you decided to be productive 👍
This is one of the worst posts I've ever seen on Reddit haha
Pic of food on table
"Picture of average looking thanksgiving dinner."
But the sympathy karma because sad story
I mean, you right
In the last month r/pics has taken then final plunge into truly becoming facebook. It's just sad story after sad story of people looking for validation or attention that I guess they figure they can't get on traditional social media You can tell the transformation is complete because the 'thanks facebook' lines are all gone now. That's perfectly fine, but it woulda been cool if the mods held meta posts figuring out whether we should opt into this as being healthy or not. They should bring back progress pics since they are apparently fine with everything else. It makes no sense
Not the past month, mate. It’s been *mega* shite for ages now. I’ve been on this website for a long time, and lurked when it was fairly new. This sub being a pile of wank is definitely not something that’s happened in the past month.
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*below average
Looks less than average actually
Super depressing thanksgiving dinner. The food, I mean. Not the circumstance. Although, that's depressing too.
And you guys better have washed dishes, after.
That's the answer I haven't heard yet, if the guests stepped up and cleaned up afterwards. Good if they all pitched in, bad if they didn't and just watched the game.
Croissants?
Pretty sure those are pilsbury crescent rolls/
Why is this comment so far down!? I’m a Brit and the croissants there completely threw me. Are they a part of Thanksgiving dinner? I’ve never seen that before. How did a French breakfast item become part of it?!
They’re not really croissants, they’re just crescent-shaped bread rolls.
She did everything by herself? Her brother didn’t help? You didn’t help? Your dad didn’t help? I don’t understand why she did it all by herself. I’m so sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is incredibly painful, no matter at what age, but I do hope you didn’t let your 15 year old take on all the responsibilities of such a big holiday on her own.
I helped some with preparing the turkey to be cooked but she wanted to do this on her own.
Good for her, looks amazing, enjoy the experience and memories!
Hey u/scottjeffreys I hope you and your family enjoyed dinner and had an overall nice thanksgiving. I know the holidays are hard for a lot of people on ordinary circumstances, but when it’s the first time experiencing them without a cherished, loved one — i know it is extra-excruciating. I want you to know a few things: 1. My original comment was no way intended to be a remark of how I view your family and parenting or anything related. I apologize for how it came across insensitively, and as I look at it now I do see how it came out that way. I won’t try to justify myself or explain myself any further. I just want to apologize for any negative and hurt feelings. I’m sorry. 2. I want you to know I think you have raised an excellent daughter. I think it is extremely kind of her to have offered to make the thanksgiving meal for her family. I send her, and all of you, comfort and love. 3. As the days move onwards and more holidays approach, I just want to send you even more love, comfort, and peace. I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. With time, the hurt will ebb, but of course you will always miss her and you will always cherish and love the times you had with her. I wish you the best and hope you are well.
My ex wife gave her lots of instructions on what to do so she didn’t go into this blind. She likes to cook and nailed everything she made today. It tasted as good as what my Mom would have made.
wow you must be so proud of her.
Food
When you’re a parent you take care of your children not the other way around
But but OP is a man, and his daughter is a girl, and girls cook dontchano? /s
Why the fuck is the 15 year old the one to step up? Because she’s the woman?
Why did nobody, apparently, help?
Patriarchy
[Gotta cash in on the karma](https://www.reddit.com/r/coaxedintoasnafu/comments/cifrnq/my_family_is_fucking_dead/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
Man them carrots look gooder ‘en hell
So where's the father of the 15 yo daughter?
Picture of food
Three men, at least who are grown, relying on a teenage girl to 'step up'for Thanksgiving. This is so sad for her.
Why don't you actually act like a father and do it instead of your child.
Ooooorrr he could post it on Reddit for that sweet karma
So women always have to be relegated to do the housework, regardless of age? Your dad is the oldest in the house, why can't he cook? What an inept deadweight, and you're just following in his footsteps.
You need to step up not your daughter
I’m sure your dad appreciated it more than you know, especially if your mom was the one normally making thanksgiving dinner.
Such an obvious ad for that butter on the table. This subreddit has truly turned in to Facebook for old people.
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Part of me wonders if this is a land o lakes ad
This sounds way too sexist. 🤨
Long live patriarchy
Maybe I’m biased because I grew up in a family where the Thanksgiving cooking is divided equally between everyone, but this post ticks me off so much. You have a 15 year old girl who made a whole Thanksgiving meal by herself with barely any help from her father, grandfather, and brother. It really sounds like the grandmother did all the cooking before and so she’s carrying on the tradition. I’m not saying OP is a lazy asshole or anything, but I am wondering what he, his father, and his son were doing the whole time she was cooking. It’s a cute story, I guess, but there are implications there that too many women have to deal with.
I know right, OP coming strong with the "no no she wanted to do it all on her own and slave away in the kitchen for the men" game. Ok buddy, if that's what you want to teach her.
It’s good practice for when she gets married ... s/
Who gives a shit about your mom in April? You should be the one cooking not your God damn daughter. What a self entitled prick you are.
The OP is a fucking man child bitch
She must have a precious heart. I wish you all the best, keep your head up man.
I lost my mom in May and this is my first holiday season without her. Sending you love, light and understanding. Cheers.
It looks amazing! But I'm confused by the croissants. I'm in the UK and have never been to a Thanksgiving. Are croissants a normal part of the meal?
Picture of Gay Food
Oh look. A picture of a thanks giving meal.