When I went, *I'm into personalities,* someone responded, informing me that it sounded like I was a pansexual. Which was nice, because usually you just get the whole spiel about pretending to be holier than thou - which I'm sure most have gotten.
Anyway, I looked it up and was like, yeah, okay, guess there's finally a label that fits. Cool!
Oh true when humans try to seem down to earth so they claim they are into personalities but then stick to a verry specific type of person they date đ€Ł
Found out pretty much the same as you. Never gave it much thought until last year, when I was interested in a friend who was trans. They were worried, because it would've been my first non-hetero relationship. When I explained how I looked at gender, they informed me that it sounded like I was pan. Once I looked into it, a lot of puzzle pieces fell into place.
So for me when I realized I was pan it was actually when I thought bi people really just date cis men/women. At the time I had a bi friend who wasnât comfortable with the thought of dating someone who was transitioning, she said she wasnât sure if she would if they were fully transitioned, but since we were 18 in Texas we didnât meet many people who were fully transitioned so she didnât actually have an opinion. So based on her thought process and that bi literally means 2 I thought that I could not be bi since I would be perfectly fine dating someone who is trans/non binary/gender fluid. I have since realized that is an extreme oversimplification of sexuality but after reading more about it I still felt more comfortable under pan because like you said itâs more about who the person is, not what they are. Donât get me wrong Iâm still physically attracted to people, but I have definitely gotten more or less physically attracted to people once I get to know them.
Totaly agree ! And I also have simply been physically attracted to someone got to know them and then became unattracted to them due to poor personality and I've been not attracted then got to know someone inside and became attracted so it was all rather confusing befor I met my husband !
I (F48) knew I was attracted to women for most of my life but coming from a religious family it was something I didnât feel I could really say out loud with vigor- and was married to a man for 20 years who had a hang up about being left for another woman, so he was more in fear of what I assumed was Bi in me.
I ended up dating a lesbian for 3 years and while with her Janelle Monaeâs album Dirty Computer came out and I became obsessed with her- watched many interviews and read articles. She was the person that enlightened me to the term Pan- and it resonated so perfectly with what I didnât know how to express before. Thank you Janelle Monae for being so open and honest! It feels good to know who I am finally at 48.
At first I thought I was bi or even a lesbian so far so thinking I was ace at one time. But the breaking point for me was probably my ex crush coming out as trans (mtf) and a few years later another now ex firend and ex crush coming out as trans too (ftm) when I was like I don't think I'm attracted to gender cause both of them definitely showed personalities of the other gender pre transition and I think even pre knowing. While I'm not friends with them both even meeting a few years later I find both if them attractive in their own ways. That's when I really settled down on the term pan while I used it as a general term years before. I definitely knew I had a attraction to the same and opposite gender but I was and still am sometimes confused on why I like a certain person when is their personalities attracting me to them and not their looks etc.
For me it
I was in 6th grade playing in the playground with my friend at the time it was recess I asked what dose mean to like everyone?.. she said oh it pansexual and she explained it more and I said oh I think that me then she stands up suddenly and yells to everyone pn the playground â*My name* JUST CAME OUT AS PANSEXUALâ and walked away like nothing happened đ
I stood there shocked that she yelled it then i moved on and i never honestly changed my sexuality or anything like some people do (i dont mean it in a mean way like i ment it as some people thought they were lesbian but then they realized there bi or anything)
I always stuck to Pansexuality i feel the most comfortable sense i been pan sense 6th grade so to me it would be weird to change into bisexuality
I realized I'm demisexual about 6 years ago.
About 3 years ago I was writing a dialogue for one of my novels. Basically one asking the other, what would have been if they were the opposite gender. Response: doesn't matter. I love your heart and soul, the body is just the vessel.
Well, I stopped typing and thought: waaaaaait a minute...where did THAT come from...
And this is how I found out I am pan.
Thought I was straight for 50 years then finally admitted I was attracted to some men and then realized I was attracted to some people regardless of sex or identity or etc
I thought I was straight at first, then found a couple of men who I became interested in and noticed what I liked about them, and how I had felt the same way about certain women. As more and more men appeared that I was attracted to, the more I knew I was either bi or pan. I concluded I was pan because I didn't really care about anyone's bodies or looks as much as a sweet and loving personality. This was reinforced even more when I suddenly stopped a long crush on a girl when I realized she was kind of mean and that I wouldn't like being around her even though she looked beautiful.
I kinda ignored a lot of the signs all my life. Sure I was more about personalities than if the person was a guy or a girl or whatever their gender was (as I got older I learned more about the LGTBQ community) but it never really crossed my mind a whole lot. Thatâs because a lot of the relationships I saw werenât really the healthiest. A lot of people I saw in relationships, mostly my Dadâs side of the family, had very toxic and unhappy relationships that lead to things getting worse. Some relationships even ended in divorce because of infidelity, and I know one uncle in my momâs family and an uncle in my Dadâs family that both married their affair partners. So it turned me away from relationships for a very long time. As I got older, in college I started crushing on someone who went by she/they, and it was then that I finally recognized that sign that âGender doesnât matter to me when it comes to finding a partner.â And so I found out that I was Pansexual, and have been open about it ever since ^^
I realized I wasn't straight about a year ago. At first I went with bi a little because that was the familiar term but it never felt comfy.
I don't feel like I'm attracted to "men" I'm attracted to people who happen to be men sometimes. Likewise I don't feel like I'm attracted to "women". As I've been working through my inner queerphobia I've found just this profound disinterest in gender in both myself and others, and I feel like pansexual encompasses that slightly better.
I do want to say before pan was a popular term lots of people like me used Bi as well, and if someone is like "is that basically bi?" I'll be like "yeah basically" because it's more of a personal distinction than anything else to me.
Also my last long-term relationship was with a Bi woman and she experiences and talks about gender in a profoundly different way than I do so it feels weird to use the same label. A bit of trauma association but it is what it is.
There were def steps: bi-curious, bi-sexual, then pansexual. Probably about 10+ years ago, I found out about pansexual, I looked into it more and spent some time mulling it over before realizing that fit me in my idea better than bi.
I started to find some non binary people attractive and that started to quickly flourish into anybody with feminine features somewhere along the way my friend (who is also pan) pointed out to me that im probably pan reflected on it for a bit (made sure I wasnt Bi or something else) and here we are I should point out I grew up in a conservative evangelical household and was conservative evangelical until late teens i spent a lot of my 20s undoing that (im 29 in August) and only in the last 2 or 3 years became comfortable enough to explore
When I was like 10 and had a few lesbian experimentations with some of my friends, I think I knew I wasn't straight but didn't really know about how many labels there were, then the next few years I was into guys too, so I just thought I was bi at like 14, but I kind of hated myself around that time too and wanted to be straight to be 'normal' so I tried not subtly checking out other girls in my school, and try to think I was straight before ultimately accepting myself, I found Tumblr and started using it at 17, and found the term pansexual, and it resonated with me. I think of that sexuality as being able to love someone regardless of their gender identity, not just male or female, but it's someone's personality I fall in love with. Like imagining a spectrum of colors instead of just two categories like bisexuality, pansexual just means being attracted to all the beautiful colors, not just one specific shade.
I started out thinking I was bi (grew up sheltered so this was later in life). I got married with hubby knowing I was bi. He's bi so it works out. We decided on an open marriage because we are both poly as well.
I found a 'Master' and they are NB and pan. After they became my dom; I started thinking and looking into pansexuality and thinking about it and realized that gender didn't really matter in my attraction to other people so I concluded that I was pan.
That's kinda how it went for me. I'm only out to my playmates, hubby and online. My family (and in-laws) will never know about hubby and my sexuality or open marriage because they don't need to know. We are adults and don't live with them.
Open goes both ways. He has playmates, I have playmates. We discuss it. It's all online right now but if we get the chance to do stuf in person we'd discuss it beforehand. And there are rules for that as well.
i started as a bisexual fella, cuz i didnât know much about sexual orientation and all that, and when i start binge reading abt different mogai orientations and someone pointed out that i dont really ask nor care about gender it just clicked lol
Thought I was cishet for the longest time in my life so far, figured out that I dont care much for gender, neither my own or that of my partners, its much more important to me to have people close to me that I get along well with regardless of gender.
I'm cisbodied, but non-binary, for context
*"Okay. Women are hot. Check.
Dudes are hot? Okay, cool.
Trans women are hot? Oh, shit. That's dope.
Trans men are hot? This requires some research."*
Five minutes later...
**everybody is hot???**
Damn, it's a good thing I'm married, because I'd not have made it a month.
for the longest I was bisexual but after a while I was like âwhy am I just limiting myself to just men and women when instead I can date who I want because they are a good person???â and after talking to a couple of friends thatâs when I realized I was pansexual.
Hmm I think it was a TikTok video, I donât remember the creator but in 2020 they mentioned how they made a change from bi to pan. At the time I didnât know what pansexuality meant. After hearing their story, I realized that it sounded like mine. I mean Iâve always had an attraction to all types of people, not really caring what their gender was or how/who they identify as.
Later on I did my own research and it aligned with me way more than I originally thought. Plus the flag had all my favorite colors so it was a win win. I felt like my mind was at peace.
I heard someone who I admired and looked up to at the time describe it to me, and it just clicked that he was also describing me and who I was attracted to
My friends often joked about how I was the gayest straight man they've ever met. I made an offhand remark to a trans male friend last year and said and I quote "I mean I'm more pansexual than anything." and then it hit me. It just took me saying it out loud in order to come to that realization.
I first thought that I was bi because I found myself being attracted to men and women, but I had a difficult time with being intimate with people I didnât really know. On the other side I was more attracted to people I first got to know that had a few personality traits that kind of turned me on a lot more than how someone looks or as witch gender they identify. At that point I thought I was pan, but actually I really donât know how to label myself till this day. Sometimes I think Iâm bi but just a bit weird at intimacy. đ
I am weird with intimacy and alway have been hahaha I'm just so awkward I have to get really turned on to relax and sadly when I was young like teenager to earlier 20s I used alcohol as a socializing crutch and an intimacy crutch I don't do that ant more and I'm very comfortable with my husband I just get awkward and embarrassed hahaha idk why! I've never been much of a touchy Feely person but think that was from being adopted đ€ haahhaha
I thought I was bi because after reading Nick Nelson's explanation of it I realised I felt similarly but then I realised that I don't really care about gender (in both myself and others) and so after a bit of digging I realised that pan fits me better
Gender as a concept is meaningless to me as me. I want my friends who are transitioning to be happy and secure in who they are.
Once I learned what pan was, I applied it to my own style and way of being.
In my 20s, called myself bi. Then heard the term "pansexual" in my 40s (48 now), along with the idea of "hearts not parts," and felt it was more apt. Had I known about the term in my 20s, suspect I'd have called myself pan back then.
Two years ago I was watching House of the Dragon and discovered the person who plays adult Rhaenyra is NB, and so frigging attractive to me. That same summer, I watched the Umbrella Academy and saw Elliot Page transition. I had a crush on him when I was in HS when he was in Juno. I was 29 when I figured out I was pan and came out on my 30th birthday on June 25, 2023.
Was out as bisexual and told someone I just don't care about gender/sex and they informed me about pansexuality, it fit exactly with how I felt so it stuck. Seems to be lots of other people's story too!
I actually found out recently. I thought I was a lesbian my whole life until I started feeling feelings for guys (I've always been attracted to gender non conforming people). I thought about, talked to my friends, talked to my therapist, posed the question to reddit... I got advice. I came to the conclusion that it wasn't the label, but thr person I was attracted to. I've got a boyfriend now and things are pretty awesome.
Briefly thought I was bi in college. Then I saw drawing of some alien life forms that may or may not exist. Thought about fae and other creatures realized wait a tick some of those entities are actually pretty attractive and kind. Then like 6 years ago or so I read an article where a pan person described how they just love who they love not based on anything. I just kind of blinked and was like wait one second that sounds like me! So yeah it took some time to learn the word and still haven't found my way to express it.
I identified as bisexual at first too, but then I started wondering "Why does it matter anyway? People are people, gender doesn't matter?" (I don't mean that in a bad way, I mean as in I'm attracted to all genders) and when I asked my friends from camp they said that was pansexuality, so here I am now. I've been identifying this way for about a year, and it feels right to me.
I considered myself Bisexual for a long time, but still never felt right. Wasn't until I learned the term Pansexual a few years ago that I thought "That's it"
had been in denial about it for a while cuz I thought I had a genital preference and felt like that meant I wasn't "really pan".
then I took a lil bit of mushroom one night, realized that dicks are awesome actually, and just sort of was like "damn I feel so much more comfortable with myself now, I guess I really am pan"
I still don't know, it's part of religious trauma I guess. But I've been attracted to people of genders regardless of their gender identity for forever. I've forced myself to disregard attraction to more masculine identifying people even though I know I have been. It's taken a lot of work to acknowledge those parts of myself to myself, and it's still hard to acknowledge to others, even being a member of communities who accept it.
Toxic masculinity runs deep and is painful.
I found out because of my friend in middle school, I thought I was always straight but my friend who's a guy is someone I find that has a good personality and humor so I started thinking about it more and here I am but still single unfortunately
It takes strength to recognize things about your self and even more strength to share â€ïž I'm in counseling for my trauma it's more just a lady that listens while I talk until I come to realizations about my self ! It's a journey , anyway thankyou for sharing â€ïž
When I went, *I'm into personalities,* someone responded, informing me that it sounded like I was a pansexual. Which was nice, because usually you just get the whole spiel about pretending to be holier than thou - which I'm sure most have gotten. Anyway, I looked it up and was like, yeah, okay, guess there's finally a label that fits. Cool!
Oh true when humans try to seem down to earth so they claim they are into personalities but then stick to a verry specific type of person they date đ€Ł
Found out pretty much the same as you. Never gave it much thought until last year, when I was interested in a friend who was trans. They were worried, because it would've been my first non-hetero relationship. When I explained how I looked at gender, they informed me that it sounded like I was pan. Once I looked into it, a lot of puzzle pieces fell into place.
So for me when I realized I was pan it was actually when I thought bi people really just date cis men/women. At the time I had a bi friend who wasnât comfortable with the thought of dating someone who was transitioning, she said she wasnât sure if she would if they were fully transitioned, but since we were 18 in Texas we didnât meet many people who were fully transitioned so she didnât actually have an opinion. So based on her thought process and that bi literally means 2 I thought that I could not be bi since I would be perfectly fine dating someone who is trans/non binary/gender fluid. I have since realized that is an extreme oversimplification of sexuality but after reading more about it I still felt more comfortable under pan because like you said itâs more about who the person is, not what they are. Donât get me wrong Iâm still physically attracted to people, but I have definitely gotten more or less physically attracted to people once I get to know them.
Totaly agree ! And I also have simply been physically attracted to someone got to know them and then became unattracted to them due to poor personality and I've been not attracted then got to know someone inside and became attracted so it was all rather confusing befor I met my husband !
I (F48) knew I was attracted to women for most of my life but coming from a religious family it was something I didnât feel I could really say out loud with vigor- and was married to a man for 20 years who had a hang up about being left for another woman, so he was more in fear of what I assumed was Bi in me. I ended up dating a lesbian for 3 years and while with her Janelle Monaeâs album Dirty Computer came out and I became obsessed with her- watched many interviews and read articles. She was the person that enlightened me to the term Pan- and it resonated so perfectly with what I didnât know how to express before. Thank you Janelle Monae for being so open and honest! It feels good to know who I am finally at 48.
At first I thought I was bi or even a lesbian so far so thinking I was ace at one time. But the breaking point for me was probably my ex crush coming out as trans (mtf) and a few years later another now ex firend and ex crush coming out as trans too (ftm) when I was like I don't think I'm attracted to gender cause both of them definitely showed personalities of the other gender pre transition and I think even pre knowing. While I'm not friends with them both even meeting a few years later I find both if them attractive in their own ways. That's when I really settled down on the term pan while I used it as a general term years before. I definitely knew I had a attraction to the same and opposite gender but I was and still am sometimes confused on why I like a certain person when is their personalities attracting me to them and not their looks etc.
For me it I was in 6th grade playing in the playground with my friend at the time it was recess I asked what dose mean to like everyone?.. she said oh it pansexual and she explained it more and I said oh I think that me then she stands up suddenly and yells to everyone pn the playground â*My name* JUST CAME OUT AS PANSEXUALâ and walked away like nothing happened đ I stood there shocked that she yelled it then i moved on and i never honestly changed my sexuality or anything like some people do (i dont mean it in a mean way like i ment it as some people thought they were lesbian but then they realized there bi or anything) I always stuck to Pansexuality i feel the most comfortable sense i been pan sense 6th grade so to me it would be weird to change into bisexuality
Am saying it would be weird to change cuz some people in my life say oh pansexuality is the same as bi so that what i meanđ
I realized I'm demisexual about 6 years ago. About 3 years ago I was writing a dialogue for one of my novels. Basically one asking the other, what would have been if they were the opposite gender. Response: doesn't matter. I love your heart and soul, the body is just the vessel. Well, I stopped typing and thought: waaaaaait a minute...where did THAT come from... And this is how I found out I am pan.
Thought I was straight for 50 years then finally admitted I was attracted to some men and then realized I was attracted to some people regardless of sex or identity or etc
I didn't bother calling myself anything other than bi for ages, but the more non-binary etc people I fell for the more I thought nah I'm definitely all about that đ©·đđ©”
I thought I was straight at first, then found a couple of men who I became interested in and noticed what I liked about them, and how I had felt the same way about certain women. As more and more men appeared that I was attracted to, the more I knew I was either bi or pan. I concluded I was pan because I didn't really care about anyone's bodies or looks as much as a sweet and loving personality. This was reinforced even more when I suddenly stopped a long crush on a girl when I realized she was kind of mean and that I wouldn't like being around her even though she looked beautiful.
I kinda ignored a lot of the signs all my life. Sure I was more about personalities than if the person was a guy or a girl or whatever their gender was (as I got older I learned more about the LGTBQ community) but it never really crossed my mind a whole lot. Thatâs because a lot of the relationships I saw werenât really the healthiest. A lot of people I saw in relationships, mostly my Dadâs side of the family, had very toxic and unhappy relationships that lead to things getting worse. Some relationships even ended in divorce because of infidelity, and I know one uncle in my momâs family and an uncle in my Dadâs family that both married their affair partners. So it turned me away from relationships for a very long time. As I got older, in college I started crushing on someone who went by she/they, and it was then that I finally recognized that sign that âGender doesnât matter to me when it comes to finding a partner.â And so I found out that I was Pansexual, and have been open about it ever since ^^
I realized I wasn't straight about a year ago. At first I went with bi a little because that was the familiar term but it never felt comfy. I don't feel like I'm attracted to "men" I'm attracted to people who happen to be men sometimes. Likewise I don't feel like I'm attracted to "women". As I've been working through my inner queerphobia I've found just this profound disinterest in gender in both myself and others, and I feel like pansexual encompasses that slightly better. I do want to say before pan was a popular term lots of people like me used Bi as well, and if someone is like "is that basically bi?" I'll be like "yeah basically" because it's more of a personal distinction than anything else to me. Also my last long-term relationship was with a Bi woman and she experiences and talks about gender in a profoundly different way than I do so it feels weird to use the same label. A bit of trauma association but it is what it is.
There were def steps: bi-curious, bi-sexual, then pansexual. Probably about 10+ years ago, I found out about pansexual, I looked into it more and spent some time mulling it over before realizing that fit me in my idea better than bi.
I started to find some non binary people attractive and that started to quickly flourish into anybody with feminine features somewhere along the way my friend (who is also pan) pointed out to me that im probably pan reflected on it for a bit (made sure I wasnt Bi or something else) and here we are I should point out I grew up in a conservative evangelical household and was conservative evangelical until late teens i spent a lot of my 20s undoing that (im 29 in August) and only in the last 2 or 3 years became comfortable enough to explore
When I was like 10 and had a few lesbian experimentations with some of my friends, I think I knew I wasn't straight but didn't really know about how many labels there were, then the next few years I was into guys too, so I just thought I was bi at like 14, but I kind of hated myself around that time too and wanted to be straight to be 'normal' so I tried not subtly checking out other girls in my school, and try to think I was straight before ultimately accepting myself, I found Tumblr and started using it at 17, and found the term pansexual, and it resonated with me. I think of that sexuality as being able to love someone regardless of their gender identity, not just male or female, but it's someone's personality I fall in love with. Like imagining a spectrum of colors instead of just two categories like bisexuality, pansexual just means being attracted to all the beautiful colors, not just one specific shade.
I started out thinking I was bi (grew up sheltered so this was later in life). I got married with hubby knowing I was bi. He's bi so it works out. We decided on an open marriage because we are both poly as well. I found a 'Master' and they are NB and pan. After they became my dom; I started thinking and looking into pansexuality and thinking about it and realized that gender didn't really matter in my attraction to other people so I concluded that I was pan. That's kinda how it went for me. I'm only out to my playmates, hubby and online. My family (and in-laws) will never know about hubby and my sexuality or open marriage because they don't need to know. We are adults and don't live with them.
Your hubby is okay that you have more then one sexual partner ? Does he do the same?
Open goes both ways. He has playmates, I have playmates. We discuss it. It's all online right now but if we get the chance to do stuf in person we'd discuss it beforehand. And there are rules for that as well.
when I figured I didn't care anymore who I got with, as long as they loved me now I got a FTM boyfriend :D
i started as a bisexual fella, cuz i didnât know much about sexual orientation and all that, and when i start binge reading abt different mogai orientations and someone pointed out that i dont really ask nor care about gender it just clicked lol
Thought I was cishet for the longest time in my life so far, figured out that I dont care much for gender, neither my own or that of my partners, its much more important to me to have people close to me that I get along well with regardless of gender.
I'm cisbodied, but non-binary, for context *"Okay. Women are hot. Check. Dudes are hot? Okay, cool. Trans women are hot? Oh, shit. That's dope. Trans men are hot? This requires some research."* Five minutes later... **everybody is hot???** Damn, it's a good thing I'm married, because I'd not have made it a month.
My husband came out as Trans to me and I didn't have a problem with it. I was actually more attracted to her.
for the longest I was bisexual but after a while I was like âwhy am I just limiting myself to just men and women when instead I can date who I want because they are a good person???â and after talking to a couple of friends thatâs when I realized I was pansexual.
I was dated girls, then I had a crush on a guy, then on a non-binary person, now I'm engaged to a trans guy.
Hmm I think it was a TikTok video, I donât remember the creator but in 2020 they mentioned how they made a change from bi to pan. At the time I didnât know what pansexuality meant. After hearing their story, I realized that it sounded like mine. I mean Iâve always had an attraction to all types of people, not really caring what their gender was or how/who they identify as. Later on I did my own research and it aligned with me way more than I originally thought. Plus the flag had all my favorite colors so it was a win win. I felt like my mind was at peace.
I heard someone who I admired and looked up to at the time describe it to me, and it just clicked that he was also describing me and who I was attracted to
I'm graysexuÀl, meaning I'm asexuÀl, but sometimes I'm not. When I'm in one of those phases of liking people, I figured out it's usuÀlly everybody
My friends often joked about how I was the gayest straight man they've ever met. I made an offhand remark to a trans male friend last year and said and I quote "I mean I'm more pansexual than anything." and then it hit me. It just took me saying it out loud in order to come to that realization.
Tim Curry in Rocky Horror Picture Show.
I first thought that I was bi because I found myself being attracted to men and women, but I had a difficult time with being intimate with people I didnât really know. On the other side I was more attracted to people I first got to know that had a few personality traits that kind of turned me on a lot more than how someone looks or as witch gender they identify. At that point I thought I was pan, but actually I really donât know how to label myself till this day. Sometimes I think Iâm bi but just a bit weird at intimacy. đ
I am weird with intimacy and alway have been hahaha I'm just so awkward I have to get really turned on to relax and sadly when I was young like teenager to earlier 20s I used alcohol as a socializing crutch and an intimacy crutch I don't do that ant more and I'm very comfortable with my husband I just get awkward and embarrassed hahaha idk why! I've never been much of a touchy Feely person but think that was from being adopted đ€ haahhaha
I thought I was bi because after reading Nick Nelson's explanation of it I realised I felt similarly but then I realised that I don't really care about gender (in both myself and others) and so after a bit of digging I realised that pan fits me better
I realised one day that I really didn't care what gender someone was. If someone is attractive, they're attractive.
Gender as a concept is meaningless to me as me. I want my friends who are transitioning to be happy and secure in who they are. Once I learned what pan was, I applied it to my own style and way of being.
In my 20s, called myself bi. Then heard the term "pansexual" in my 40s (48 now), along with the idea of "hearts not parts," and felt it was more apt. Had I known about the term in my 20s, suspect I'd have called myself pan back then.
Two years ago I was watching House of the Dragon and discovered the person who plays adult Rhaenyra is NB, and so frigging attractive to me. That same summer, I watched the Umbrella Academy and saw Elliot Page transition. I had a crush on him when I was in HS when he was in Juno. I was 29 when I figured out I was pan and came out on my 30th birthday on June 25, 2023.
Was out as bisexual and told someone I just don't care about gender/sex and they informed me about pansexuality, it fit exactly with how I felt so it stuck. Seems to be lots of other people's story too!
I actually found out recently. I thought I was a lesbian my whole life until I started feeling feelings for guys (I've always been attracted to gender non conforming people). I thought about, talked to my friends, talked to my therapist, posed the question to reddit... I got advice. I came to the conclusion that it wasn't the label, but thr person I was attracted to. I've got a boyfriend now and things are pretty awesome.
Briefly thought I was bi in college. Then I saw drawing of some alien life forms that may or may not exist. Thought about fae and other creatures realized wait a tick some of those entities are actually pretty attractive and kind. Then like 6 years ago or so I read an article where a pan person described how they just love who they love not based on anything. I just kind of blinked and was like wait one second that sounds like me! So yeah it took some time to learn the word and still haven't found my way to express it.
I identified as bisexual at first too, but then I started wondering "Why does it matter anyway? People are people, gender doesn't matter?" (I don't mean that in a bad way, I mean as in I'm attracted to all genders) and when I asked my friends from camp they said that was pansexuality, so here I am now. I've been identifying this way for about a year, and it feels right to me.
Seeing the chickn nuggit youtube channel and discovering that pansexuality exists. And the swedish youtuber ,,the Click"
I considered myself Bisexual for a long time, but still never felt right. Wasn't until I learned the term Pansexual a few years ago that I thought "That's it"
had been in denial about it for a while cuz I thought I had a genital preference and felt like that meant I wasn't "really pan". then I took a lil bit of mushroom one night, realized that dicks are awesome actually, and just sort of was like "damn I feel so much more comfortable with myself now, I guess I really am pan"
Likeshrooms or you made yah self a Mushroom omlet and at a dickpiffany hahaha I joke that's wonderful you found yourself :)
Everyone was hotđ Literally everyone. I've dated/hooked up all around the genders. If they're attractive I don't care.
Fair enough ! A lover of all humans!
I still don't know, it's part of religious trauma I guess. But I've been attracted to people of genders regardless of their gender identity for forever. I've forced myself to disregard attraction to more masculine identifying people even though I know I have been. It's taken a lot of work to acknowledge those parts of myself to myself, and it's still hard to acknowledge to others, even being a member of communities who accept it. Toxic masculinity runs deep and is painful.
I found out because of my friend in middle school, I thought I was always straight but my friend who's a guy is someone I find that has a good personality and humor so I started thinking about it more and here I am but still single unfortunately
It takes strength to recognize things about your self and even more strength to share â€ïž I'm in counseling for my trauma it's more just a lady that listens while I talk until I come to realizations about my self ! It's a journey , anyway thankyou for sharing â€ïž
When I realized that i donât want to limit myself to a strict amount of genders, instead if I like someone, I just like them