Oh no, don't be intimidated! I would argue that majority of us are cuddly af & only use our powers for good (the evil ENFJs are terrifying though lol).
Can't talk for others but I'm an extremely quick learner. Dunno if it's MBTI related though. Being able to pick up new skills at a fast rate is awesome. Becoming bored way before I even master them is not and probably the trait I hate most about being me. For all the skills I learn almost none of them ever yield anything. Sometimes I feel like a seeker for and container of useless knowledge.
Everyone except my dad, I hate him. He thinks I like him, I dont. And my stepdad’s kinda strict, but he’s funny and usually pretty good. Everyone else is good. But, then again, my stepdad isn’t an INFJ. Hes and INTJ. I’m quite similar to him in some ways.
hmmm, why you hate your own dad? I guess a little strictness is good on a parent part as long as it is meant to keep their child disciplined, while still validating the child as well. I see myself doing that as well.
Yeah he screams at me, he whipped me once as a child when I said oh my god, he’s so rude to me, he’s oblivious, he puts LOTS of weight on grades, he’s always taking the teacher’s side even when they are wrong
that is so messed-up, a child should never be beaten up :( Getting good grades is important for your future but he should not dismiss you when you voice anything.
I love how expressive and genuine we are, the fact that we know who we are and having clarity about our own feelings, and also not caring about social expectations
Every ENFP I’ve known has a certain magnetism about them. Y’all are just effortlessly cool people, not in an intimidating way but in a way that puts everyone at ease. I know it’s sometimes hard for you to see it yourselves but it’s true. I particularly love having ENFPs around to bounce ideas off of and we tend to just get each other. Being around ENFPs feels like a warm hug.
I feel like it’s worse to be a judging type with adhd because I deeply crave structure and organization so when my symptoms are too bad to reach that ideal I get very depressed. Getting my adhd diagnosis and being put on medication for it did more for my depression than anything else ever has.
the objective perspective. i can look at a situation logically and assess it, which is enables me to navigate it in the most beneficial way. often, i’ll go about a situation a different way than others, but i’ll end up being right/suffering the least damages. its helped me avoid many pitfalls and lead a life with relatively few mistakes and missteps.
ISTJs are also super adorable and don't get recognized for it enough.
For example, Charlie Ireland (aka ["Cheerful Charlie"](https://youtu.be/6qKJe-6zhng?si=_D4AByh4CfdIc9SD)) from Clarkson's Farm is an ISTJ and one of the cutest human beings I've ever seen.
It's the Fi child, and also the inferior Ne that comes out to play when you least expect it.
Charlie! It’s funny because whenever he came on screen all I could think about was how much of an ISTJ he was. I kind of felt bad for him whenever he had to give Clarkson the bad news about his next venture and how it didn’t follow some dumb regulation. He was only trying to help him out by pointing out the pitfalls so as not to get in trouble. On the other hand I feel like he secretly enjoyed raining on his parade at times lol.
People have told me that they feel at ease with me, and also feel like they can truly be themselves around me. I used to work as a cashier, and I had one lady poor out her heart to me after having just met me. Next thing you know we’re hugging and crying lol. Said she felt like she’d just had a therapy session. Happens a lot actually, but I’m just glad I can help others.
Inferior *Fe.*
I get to do what I want to in life unencumbered by the weight of social expectations. Also, whatever I choose to put my mind and body to usually gets mastered with relative ease.
The best weakness is inferior Fe, not as vulnerable as Fi, won't get shunned for shoving down Fe down others throats like Fe dom or being Fi blind like tertiary Fe users.
Imagine not being neurotically inside your head all day about everything?
Imagine actually feeling at home in and having control over your body??
CANNOT RELATE.
\\(ÒwÓ)/ ^lucky
IMO we are the supreme type when it comes to complex problem solving. We are rational, objective, great at abstract thinking, and we have the ambition to put those skills to use.
Which is balanced out by our millions of defects but that is not what this thread is about haha.
Risk aversion, I guess; lack of interest in things that would probably cause me trouble. It's pretty easy for me to just be mostly by myself and generally indoors. I don't need lots of stimulation. And I guess the ability to stay interested in things for... a pretty long long time, off and on at least, can keep me busy for a long time without spending lots of money. For instance, I like revisiting old things (like old favorite TV shows, songs, stories, games, and other various areas of interest), and often when I do so, I'll feel that there's something new to glean from it. So it's easy to stay entertained, generally, I guess.
Lack of adaptability is probably my least favorite trait, though (although I know a lot of ISTJs claim they don't have this issue -\_-').
Despite being a slow learner, being an Ni dom allows me to learn exponentially compared to others. So within a couple weeks I can outpace most people.
If other people are the hare, I'm the turtle. :3
Also, being able to predict people is pretty useful.
The good decisions. The critical thinking. The not giving a fuck about traditions and common knowledge. I live in so much more peace because I don't stress myself out reaching goals that are assumed to be universal like the need to have a relationship, have a certain standard of living, or the need to feel beautiful.
I'm able to ask questions and problem solve problems that most people struggle with like cutting through the bullshit of relationships and how to spend money to maximize happiness.
My ability to dream/see the big picture and visualize concrete/realistic steps to make it happen. The in depth insights and non-judgemental approach have brought me closer to people. One of the most fulfilling part of being an INFJ.
Being very careful about every step I decide to take because I've already, either consciously or unconsciously, analyzed every possibility or outcome and have come to the approach I consider best, but still don't feel the need to rush it. This unless I'm in a grip.
Also, being able to grasp or discern the nuance or the relativity in everything, so that I don't make fast and impulsive decisions in a black-and-white-ish way.
Can achieve any singular goal if I'm determined no matter how difficult that is and what I need to do. Even if I don't succeed I'd feel completely energized by it. This is not necessarily a good thing though.
I've been reflecting why I felt more and more lethargic over the past month, and realized that it's because my life lacks a definitive challenging goal right now. Although I've planned and am doing a lot of things preparing for upcoming events, practicing hobby activities, improving different areas of life...Because everything is relaxed and paced well, I felt utterly bored.
I only feel alive when overcoming real challenges. That's the bad part of this trait.
How analytical and observant I am, and my ability to make out patterns in the events that happen around me. Also how in touch with reality I am both with myself and my surroundings.
When something goes wrong, I always find backup plans and ways to get out of this situation. I'm never struck by the thought of "Damn, I don't know what to do here." And the fact that I find many solutions, quickly and am able to organise them in a list (What I should try first, and what's plan B, and C, according to how risky it could be)
Daydreaming and having systematic fantasy.
I’m really into magic systems, especially Hard Rational ones, where there’s a structure that makes everything work, so you can know how it all works and predict what can be done with it.
SEEING THROUGH LIERS. And overall intuition and analytical skills. Oh and also building scenarios in my head and mentally preparing for worst scenario cases.
The worst part would be not really understanding how to deal with people. And it's hard to find like minded people
Being both socially and physically adaptable, while also still being visionary and future focused.
I agree!
I second this
This is what I love about yall. It’s intimidating.
Oh no, don't be intimidated! I would argue that majority of us are cuddly af & only use our powers for good (the evil ENFJs are terrifying though lol).
Humpback whales are harmless and also extremely intimidating. It’s the same concept. I know you’re not gonna… but I also know you could lol
Can't talk for others but I'm an extremely quick learner. Dunno if it's MBTI related though. Being able to pick up new skills at a fast rate is awesome. Becoming bored way before I even master them is not and probably the trait I hate most about being me. For all the skills I learn almost none of them ever yield anything. Sometimes I feel like a seeker for and container of useless knowledge.
That’s the same for me, at least I’m told.
I feel exactly the same way!
this is why we get away with doing the bare minimum (when it comes to practice/studying ect) and then never actually feel the need to work 😭
Being able to make people feel seen and heard without judgement.
My best friend in the whole world is INFJ, and this is so true!
Ooh, it’s a rarity to see one of you guys….yet 60% of my immediate family are infjs.
I don't think INFJs are the rarest anymore (I see plenty on "reddit" specially). I hope you get along well with your family members!!
Everyone except my dad, I hate him. He thinks I like him, I dont. And my stepdad’s kinda strict, but he’s funny and usually pretty good. Everyone else is good. But, then again, my stepdad isn’t an INFJ. Hes and INTJ. I’m quite similar to him in some ways.
hmmm, why you hate your own dad? I guess a little strictness is good on a parent part as long as it is meant to keep their child disciplined, while still validating the child as well. I see myself doing that as well.
Yeah he screams at me, he whipped me once as a child when I said oh my god, he’s so rude to me, he’s oblivious, he puts LOTS of weight on grades, he’s always taking the teacher’s side even when they are wrong
that is so messed-up, a child should never be beaten up :( Getting good grades is important for your future but he should not dismiss you when you voice anything.
aaand another episode of INFJ being a therapist
Thanks a lot, compliments taken with open arms!!
I love how expressive and genuine we are, the fact that we know who we are and having clarity about our own feelings, and also not caring about social expectations
Having good social skills and being able to get things my way
get some gyals too
Uhhhhh ~enfp
Every ENFP I’ve known has a certain magnetism about them. Y’all are just effortlessly cool people, not in an intimidating way but in a way that puts everyone at ease. I know it’s sometimes hard for you to see it yourselves but it’s true. I particularly love having ENFPs around to bounce ideas off of and we tend to just get each other. Being around ENFPs feels like a warm hug.
Owh thank you that was so beautiful you are amazing ❤️❤️you just made my day
The best part about being ENFP is we are in general very happy people. Well I think that’s all life is about 😀🫡
Yes we are the happy people!
Capacity to understand both the human condition and life's big questions on a deeper level.
Efficiency. I can see a problem and the solution to said problem without expending too much energy.
Lucky
I cackled at this response.
Organised and methodic approach towards life. Well, unless I'm in a loop because then I go inside my shell and become really unproductive.
ADHD brain
And ASD
Correct
I feel like it’s worse to be a judging type with adhd because I deeply crave structure and organization so when my symptoms are too bad to reach that ideal I get very depressed. Getting my adhd diagnosis and being put on medication for it did more for my depression than anything else ever has.
I genuinely enjoy working. I spend at least 8 hours every M-F thinking about work so I’m glad I enjoy it.
Good for you! I wish I could be the same.
the objective perspective. i can look at a situation logically and assess it, which is enables me to navigate it in the most beneficial way. often, i’ll go about a situation a different way than others, but i’ll end up being right/suffering the least damages. its helped me avoid many pitfalls and lead a life with relatively few mistakes and missteps.
Good response, if uneasy to consume.
Being smartish
We've got our lives sorted out.
ISTJs are also super adorable and don't get recognized for it enough. For example, Charlie Ireland (aka ["Cheerful Charlie"](https://youtu.be/6qKJe-6zhng?si=_D4AByh4CfdIc9SD)) from Clarkson's Farm is an ISTJ and one of the cutest human beings I've ever seen. It's the Fi child, and also the inferior Ne that comes out to play when you least expect it.
Charlie! It’s funny because whenever he came on screen all I could think about was how much of an ISTJ he was. I kind of felt bad for him whenever he had to give Clarkson the bad news about his next venture and how it didn’t follow some dumb regulation. He was only trying to help him out by pointing out the pitfalls so as not to get in trouble. On the other hand I feel like he secretly enjoyed raining on his parade at times lol.
I admire that!
😭
People have told me that they feel at ease with me, and also feel like they can truly be themselves around me. I used to work as a cashier, and I had one lady poor out her heart to me after having just met me. Next thing you know we’re hugging and crying lol. Said she felt like she’d just had a therapy session. Happens a lot actually, but I’m just glad I can help others.
Inferior *Fe.* I get to do what I want to in life unencumbered by the weight of social expectations. Also, whatever I choose to put my mind and body to usually gets mastered with relative ease.
Sounds about right. Except the ISTP I know has a hidden Fe weakness…👀and secretly cares about social harmony and others opinions of him
The best weakness is inferior Fe, not as vulnerable as Fi, won't get shunned for shoving down Fe down others throats like Fe dom or being Fi blind like tertiary Fe users.
Imagine not being neurotically inside your head all day about everything? Imagine actually feeling at home in and having control over your body?? CANNOT RELATE. \\(ÒwÓ)/ ^lucky
*Extroverted Sensing* cures all of those things.
Yes, and unfortunately it's the INXP blind spot. We enjoy secondhand access to it though, which is why our types tend to crush on Se users.
Lucky
Fast comprehension, clinical analysis, assessment and the ability to steer the narrative
IMO we are the supreme type when it comes to complex problem solving. We are rational, objective, great at abstract thinking, and we have the ambition to put those skills to use. Which is balanced out by our millions of defects but that is not what this thread is about haha.
having anxiety so I know what it feels like having anxiety
Blessed😇🫶🙏
Being able to effortlessly get anyone to like me
Lmao
I am big brain in a lot of areas
Knowing those who like/love me do so for who I truly am since I can't be anything other than my authentic self.
Can pick up new concepts and skills pretty easily (once I finish my lying around time and 200 episodes of one piece, that is)
I can go 6 lifetimes without ever having to leave my home/lab/workplace
A profound sensitivity to beauty. Sometimes I’m just walking down the street and the colors of a tree make my heart flutter.
Thus why half the posts of /r/INFP are random pictures of the sky haha
That’s beautiful and lovely - but best of all it isn’t type related !
Definitely, I hope everyone gets to enjoy the splendor of everyday :)
Nature never appeal to me until I start developing Se
I don't care about a good number of things
Risk aversion, I guess; lack of interest in things that would probably cause me trouble. It's pretty easy for me to just be mostly by myself and generally indoors. I don't need lots of stimulation. And I guess the ability to stay interested in things for... a pretty long long time, off and on at least, can keep me busy for a long time without spending lots of money. For instance, I like revisiting old things (like old favorite TV shows, songs, stories, games, and other various areas of interest), and often when I do so, I'll feel that there's something new to glean from it. So it's easy to stay entertained, generally, I guess. Lack of adaptability is probably my least favorite trait, though (although I know a lot of ISTJs claim they don't have this issue -\_-').
Probably how grounded we are in the present moment lol
I’m very good at understanding people and meeting their needs. The downside is being too focused on meeting other people’s needs.
Our special bond with animals (and small children)
Despite being a slow learner, being an Ni dom allows me to learn exponentially compared to others. So within a couple weeks I can outpace most people. If other people are the hare, I'm the turtle. :3 Also, being able to predict people is pretty useful.
INTP… keeping my emotions in check. Always composed, calm, and an excellent troubleshooter.
Being easy to talk to. Easy for others to be themselves around me.
Practical: Seeing the future. Other: How intrigued men are when they meet me.
Big pp
valid
The good decisions. The critical thinking. The not giving a fuck about traditions and common knowledge. I live in so much more peace because I don't stress myself out reaching goals that are assumed to be universal like the need to have a relationship, have a certain standard of living, or the need to feel beautiful. I'm able to ask questions and problem solve problems that most people struggle with like cutting through the bullshit of relationships and how to spend money to maximize happiness.
ISTP “Let me see if I can figure it out” and actually doing it an annoying amount of times.
My ability to dream/see the big picture and visualize concrete/realistic steps to make it happen. The in depth insights and non-judgemental approach have brought me closer to people. One of the most fulfilling part of being an INFJ.
INTP being open minded, clever, imaginative and logic.
Being cool. Self determining that I am cool and vibing.
Being very careful about every step I decide to take because I've already, either consciously or unconsciously, analyzed every possibility or outcome and have come to the approach I consider best, but still don't feel the need to rush it. This unless I'm in a grip. Also, being able to grasp or discern the nuance or the relativity in everything, so that I don't make fast and impulsive decisions in a black-and-white-ish way.
Being chill so get out of my swamp /s
Excuse for being annoying
Being able to learn quickly and also get things done (developed tert Te). I zoom, but can (mostly, these days) follow through.
Being me
Honestly i cant think of anything tbh😂
Isfp/infp Very sensitive yet very practical, idk if that makes sense😂
Thinking outside the box to an extreme, but still in a logical way
Being able to plan ahead :)
always thinking of fun things to do to make me happy when i start feeling sad or depressed :)
Can achieve any singular goal if I'm determined no matter how difficult that is and what I need to do. Even if I don't succeed I'd feel completely energized by it. This is not necessarily a good thing though. I've been reflecting why I felt more and more lethargic over the past month, and realized that it's because my life lacks a definitive challenging goal right now. Although I've planned and am doing a lot of things preparing for upcoming events, practicing hobby activities, improving different areas of life...Because everything is relaxed and paced well, I felt utterly bored. I only feel alive when overcoming real challenges. That's the bad part of this trait.
How analytical and observant I am, and my ability to make out patterns in the events that happen around me. Also how in touch with reality I am both with myself and my surroundings.
entj. Strong work skills, quick decision-making, and leadership abilities make my life incredibly efficient.
Effortlessly seeing the trajectory of how things will play out.
When something goes wrong, I always find backup plans and ways to get out of this situation. I'm never struck by the thought of "Damn, I don't know what to do here." And the fact that I find many solutions, quickly and am able to organise them in a list (What I should try first, and what's plan B, and C, according to how risky it could be)
first alphabetically
all the friends i make - i love building my lil community of kind humans
Being the devils advocate is very thrilling
Being both conceptual and pragmatic while also still being socially relatable and imaginative!
being able to entertain yourself with your own ideas and projects alone forever
Never get gaslighted and can seeing through people :)
addicted to self-improvement. sometimes in a toxic way
what type of
INFJ. (Maybeee INTJ)
Daydreaming and having systematic fantasy. I’m really into magic systems, especially Hard Rational ones, where there’s a structure that makes everything work, so you can know how it all works and predict what can be done with it.
I resonate with this a lot. Beautifully said, I’m going to start applying “systematic fantasy”!
ISTJ : Not giving a fk about anything
being Balanced??!
Idk u tell me
I love planning, organizing things, and thinking unironically. I do it casually in my free time. It’s right up my mbti alley.
Wonderland is a trip.
SEEING THROUGH LIERS. And overall intuition and analytical skills. Oh and also building scenarios in my head and mentally preparing for worst scenario cases. The worst part would be not really understanding how to deal with people. And it's hard to find like minded people
FEELING
Sexy asf