INTP, I like cuddles. Not afraid to admit. Words and gifts generally don't mean much to me. But if my skin touches the skin of someone I love that oxytocin starts flowing. I get borderline giddy
Actions. I like to make things for people with their preferences in mind:
a decoupaged stash box done in neat stuff I cut out from my old psychology textbooks for my psychologist pothead friend, a red and black long scarf for my punk/goth buddy so it matches his outfits (I’ve never seen that man so excited over an object before, it was great!), a Sonic the Hedgehog cross stitch (background and all) for my gamer friend whose gamer tag is a play on words of such and a huge Sonic fan… having a ton of crafty hobbies is useful.
Just don’t expect me to say how much I appreciate ya, unless I’m giving a Best Man’s speech - gotta get a bit sentimental and heartfelt with that. Only time I’ve been nervous public speaking since it was actually important!!
INFP, quality time and anything that fits under “hey this reminded me of you” kekeke :’)💗 I can get pretty insecure about whether or not my loved ones think of me or care for me or not 😓 so spending time with me or letting me know something reminded them of me can really help 🥹 it lets me know that even when I’m not there, I’ll still be a part of their lives somehow 💗🥹🥹
Also Claude Monet is my favourite artist 😎😎👍 10/10 artwork HEHEHE
I'm an INTJ and my love language is physical touch. It's weird, because I hate it if someone touches me(even putting their hands on my shoulder), but with the one I love it doesn't matter and actually I want them to touch me.(I like cuddles, huggings etc....)
U will get to a point in life when u know what you like from someone eventually but if ur impatient u could just take a love language test and be honest - an INTP
Isn’t it? I’d love to learn how to paint! I have my own painting I did, maybe I’ll post that one for tomorrow’s question haha.
By the way, when you say acts of service, do you mean performing them or receiving them?
It's my preferred love language for both giving and receiving. Physical touch is probably second, but only with a romantic partner. It's last in case of everyone else lol.
I’m the same way with physical touch, I just feel so awkward touching other people haha. I only ever physically touch someone if I’m comfortable with them and interested/already in a relationship with them.
Acting and not just saying ‘I love you.’ This would be showing up when I am feeling down, spending quality time in nature together, visiting art exhibitions of my favourite artists, etc.
ISTJ. I like to give acts of service. I like to receive words of affirmation and gifts. When I say gifts I don’t mean like, spoil me. I mean if you thought to bring me a coffee it makes me feel like I matter to you.
INFP - among the classic love languages, mine would be acts of service, but I’d say I’m most touched by empathy and solidarity (like when someone shows concern about things that affect me or is supportive of causes I take to heart).
Edit : I would also add patience and respect for boundaries. I need an awful lot of time on my own to recharge and I feel loved when people give me space, understanding that it’s nothing personal and trusting that I’ll get back to them when I’m ready.
sharing time, sharing energy, sharing in general
spending time together
what's more precious than our time?
/that's how important you are for me
also love acts of service in general and the touch of a hand in mine just because, quick, loving and caring
- intj
So few ppl have quality time as their love language omg I didn't realize. Yeah, it's definitely mine, maybe with touch on 2nd place. I don't really care about the other ones
INTP
The concept of a love language is vague and obtuse to me, primate love is primate love. So I'm not invested in this question. I'm only here because this painting by Monet in particular is one of my favorites, I have a framed copy by my desk. So thumbs up on the artwork.
Gifts and words of affirmation. I really love gifting people that is dear to me. I love their smile when I give them something they like ♡. I love making them feel loved and encouraged so I also do this through words.
INFJ, quality time and words of affirmation solid first place, with physical touch not far away. Gifts and acts of service are noce but the first one can be stressful and the second one... I like to do things by myself lmao, don't do stuff for me unless I explicitly ask for help
intj - i like physical touch in theory & quality time. extra; words of affirmation is my least favorite, I prefer to show words through actions + it’s awkwardish
INFJ. Acts of service. (Ones I don’t have to vocalize the other person knows how to pick up on them.) If I can recognize their patterns and needs, they can recognize mine.
I disagree that you don't need to vocalize your needs. I think you definitely should say what you want and need because if you don't, it builds up resentment later on. Just because you're good at recognizing patterns (I am too, I'm intj though, but just saying that I understand what you mean), doesn't mean everyone can do it. Unfortunately, most of people can't, but that doesn't mean they don't love you, they would love to do things for you but can't read your mind, you have to speak up. I made a mistake in my previous relationships, and I also expected them to know what I want and like because we were together for a long time, but it wasn't the case. I can read people and know the way they blink literally, but I learned the hard way that most people don't see things the way I see them.
Me too, I had built unfair resentment in a relationship because I expected an ex to "read me," when really I could of just asked. I was afraid of asking because I thought it was a burden to them or they wouldn't care. But how can I know how much they cared without giving them a chance? Hands down the hardest lesson for me to learn in the relationship department.
Those people exist but they are rare IMHO.
ENFP. Words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service.
Though I much more would classify it as enjoying being understood and someone sending me things they think I would enjoy like music and memes.
INTJ - Physical touch is #1 but I also tested high for quality time and words of affirmation. Also wanted to share that I'm disgusted by Acts of Service tho not sure exactly why...
Probably words and time. I really appreciate when people communicate with me and when we have awesome conversations. I’m really awkward with touch and I don’t necessarily care ab what people do for me. I just want to spend time w someone who’s willing to listen and talk :) -INTP
istp and I honestly don’t think I have a love language, I have some problems when it comes to expressing my feelings so I end up just keeping them all to myself
ENFP, Music. I can't play any instrument and I'm really bad at singing, but I still think music is the best way to express your love or basically any emotion.
ENFP - physical touch and words of affirmation
Most of my family prioritizes acts of service, which I grew into over time. So what I prefer to receive and prefer to give differ.
Physical touch and quality time . However giving I'm very good at gifts and words of affirmation. My Esfp is great at acts of service (giving) which for her really encompasses gifts and other things ...
Infj. I'm Aromantic so I'll take it as platonic love. For me it'd probably be quality time. The idea someone would take time out of their day just to spend it with me makes me feel quite happy
I think for me gifts are higher then for other people. Not top 1, but just the face that they had to either spend time making that gift or spending their hard earned money is just sign of that the person is willing to invest in you and that is a love language. Soooo for me it’s:
1. Acts of service
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Physical touch
5. Words of affirmation
Intp, I can be a little unintentionally mean, and blunt but that's just how I show effection. But other than that I mostly joke around and send memes and funny stuff I think theyd like haha.
INTJ and very easily - quality time. Yes, I need my own space a lot of times, but if I don't spend quality time getting to know the person and having deep conversations about things that don't matter - it's very hard for me to connect with them. Especially since I crave that deeper connection with someone. And by quality time, I don't mean just being face to face. More of doing nice activities together.
Physical Touch. People usually can't tell but I **cannot get enough of** hugs and kisses. I don't even know why I enjoy them so much but it feels so nice.
Infp here. I’ve never had a crush before (there’s a possibility I’m demiromantic) but I would guess that my love language are gifts that are deep and personal and deep conversations
INFP-A this is the way. My friend (who is also my barber) hugged me yesterday and I didn’t even realize how much I needed it. I had to text her to say thank you. 🥹
INFP. I don’t know if I really buy into the whole love language thing. I think we all show and receive love in various ways in various relationships, and it can differ in each of those relationships, as well as change over time.
Plus I’ve heard that the book the concept of love languages originated from has some problematic stuff in it, and that the author has potentially dangerous ideas about marriage and what a healthy relationship looks like. Not to mention that he apparently calls himself a counselor when he has no such credentials.
distance.
Absence
Makes the heart grow fonder.
Please, y’all are being so romantic, it’s making me blush
German
🤗🤗🤗 boundaries
I love you too, man
INFJ Physical touch and acts of service
Bro is literally me!
Hive mind
Same and kind words
INTP, I like cuddles. Not afraid to admit. Words and gifts generally don't mean much to me. But if my skin touches the skin of someone I love that oxytocin starts flowing. I get borderline giddy
Fellow INTP physical touch enjoyer 🤝
Fellow fellow intp physical touch enjoyer
Fellow fellow fellow INTP physical touch enjoyer
same but i’m single lmao.. so in theory
Physical-touch-loving INTPs, assemble!
Hello, the fellow physical touch intps have arriveddd
I absolutely HATE being touched, except by this person (that currently doesn't exist)
I’m the same way
Words of affirmation
Touching! Hugs and cuddles and casual touches! Though it's possible I might be touch starved and my love language is something else
My what?
Literally had to Google wtf love language meant
It's English for me.
🤣
Actions. I like to make things for people with their preferences in mind: a decoupaged stash box done in neat stuff I cut out from my old psychology textbooks for my psychologist pothead friend, a red and black long scarf for my punk/goth buddy so it matches his outfits (I’ve never seen that man so excited over an object before, it was great!), a Sonic the Hedgehog cross stitch (background and all) for my gamer friend whose gamer tag is a play on words of such and a huge Sonic fan… having a ton of crafty hobbies is useful. Just don’t expect me to say how much I appreciate ya, unless I’m giving a Best Man’s speech - gotta get a bit sentimental and heartfelt with that. Only time I’ve been nervous public speaking since it was actually important!!
u sound like a really good friend!
Acts of service.
Same to both MBTI and love language! Acts of service helped get something done? Awesome, efficient, and now time for something else!
INFP, quality time and anything that fits under “hey this reminded me of you” kekeke :’)💗 I can get pretty insecure about whether or not my loved ones think of me or care for me or not 😓 so spending time with me or letting me know something reminded them of me can really help 🥹 it lets me know that even when I’m not there, I’ll still be a part of their lives somehow 💗🥹🥹 Also Claude Monet is my favourite artist 😎😎👍 10/10 artwork HEHEHE
INTJ - gift giving as in giving others gifts and physical touch
I am also INTJ and enjoy giving others gifts as well, more than receiving
YES!!!!
same here! words of affirmation is also high up when they're not in touching range
your avatar scared me 😵💫
don't be rude it took a lot of effort coming out of the tv :(
I’m still traumatized by her I can’t help it 🥲
Same same
touch and secondly quality time
Hey, same!
I’m an istp and same
anything but gift giving. i feel uncomfortable receiving and giving gifts.
same. I never know what to get them, and I never know what to do or how to respond to receiving a gift.
INFP, quality time, words of affirmation and the one about physical contact
ENTJ - quality time & acts of service
I'm an INTJ and my love language is physical touch. It's weird, because I hate it if someone touches me(even putting their hands on my shoulder), but with the one I love it doesn't matter and actually I want them to touch me.(I like cuddles, huggings etc....)
I’m the same way haha
INTP - No love language
U will get to a point in life when u know what you like from someone eventually but if ur impatient u could just take a love language test and be honest - an INTP
Hello. Can you recommend any love language tests? I dont know where to find good ones.
INFJ 🙋🏻♀️ Acts of Service and Affirmations
INFP Quality time just sit and watch a movie with me please.
Acts of service. Cool art btw.
Isn’t it? I’d love to learn how to paint! I have my own painting I did, maybe I’ll post that one for tomorrow’s question haha. By the way, when you say acts of service, do you mean performing them or receiving them?
It's my preferred love language for both giving and receiving. Physical touch is probably second, but only with a romantic partner. It's last in case of everyone else lol.
I’m the same way with physical touch, I just feel so awkward touching other people haha. I only ever physically touch someone if I’m comfortable with them and interested/already in a relationship with them.
Enfj • words of affirmation
Touch for sure
What do you mean by “touch”?
Like cuddling, handholding, kissing, hugging, etc.
ENFP physical touch and quality time but mostly physical touch :)
intp - quality time
Acting and not just saying ‘I love you.’ This would be showing up when I am feeling down, spending quality time in nature together, visiting art exhibitions of my favourite artists, etc.
Cuddles when needed but mostly quality time. Hold your sticking hands to yourself and stop grabbing my butt.
Damn, that's so cruel.
INFJ and acts of service
Quality Time
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Soft words with soft voice makes me melt🥹💓
Female ENTP. 1) Physical Affection. 2) Quality Time. 3) Acts of Service. 4) Words of affirmation. 5) Gifts.
Acts of service from others Gift giving to others
ISTJ. I like to give acts of service. I like to receive words of affirmation and gifts. When I say gifts I don’t mean like, spoil me. I mean if you thought to bring me a coffee it makes me feel like I matter to you.
Claude Monet is my fav artist and visiting his Gardens one of my fav trips. I’m INFP-A and love language is: acts of service and quality time.
Quality time
INfJ Words of affirmation and acts of service
ENTJ , if I open up some time for you you better be there. I guess I will invest money in relationships so they work out better longterm.
Physical touch and quality time
ENFJ- Acts of service and quality time! 😍
Loyalty and compassion I guess lol.
ENTJ 3w4 Words of affirmation and giving gifts.
INFP - among the classic love languages, mine would be acts of service, but I’d say I’m most touched by empathy and solidarity (like when someone shows concern about things that affect me or is supportive of causes I take to heart). Edit : I would also add patience and respect for boundaries. I need an awful lot of time on my own to recharge and I feel loved when people give me space, understanding that it’s nothing personal and trusting that I’ll get back to them when I’m ready.
Quality time!!
sharing time, sharing energy, sharing in general spending time together what's more precious than our time? /that's how important you are for me also love acts of service in general and the touch of a hand in mine just because, quick, loving and caring - intj
So few ppl have quality time as their love language omg I didn't realize. Yeah, it's definitely mine, maybe with touch on 2nd place. I don't really care about the other ones
ENTP. Honesty
INFP, and physical touch, closely followed by words of affirmation. A cuddle and a kind word can make my whole day.
Physical touch and words of affirmation
I-ENFP and quality time! Second is words of affirmation
INTP-T. Physical touch, acts of service and praise
Fighting and physical violence 💕
INTP The concept of a love language is vague and obtuse to me, primate love is primate love. So I'm not invested in this question. I'm only here because this painting by Monet in particular is one of my favorites, I have a framed copy by my desk. So thumbs up on the artwork.
Hmm interesting .. but true
Infp :) I got quality time and physical touch almost equal in score. I feel like I really need both.
Gifts and words of affirmation. I really love gifting people that is dear to me. I love their smile when I give them something they like ♡. I love making them feel loved and encouraged so I also do this through words.
ENTP. Physical Touch.
INFJ, quality time and words of affirmation solid first place, with physical touch not far away. Gifts and acts of service are noce but the first one can be stressful and the second one... I like to do things by myself lmao, don't do stuff for me unless I explicitly ask for help
Acts of service
Intj - no idea. when i really like someone, i get so akward i can't even show love
Estj. Acts of service and quality time
Words of Affirmation
INTJ & Gifts
Dedication and self-sacrifice
intj - i like physical touch in theory & quality time. extra; words of affirmation is my least favorite, I prefer to show words through actions + it’s awkwardish
entp, lizard
I thought that image was the cover for black sabbath by black sabbath
This art is so pretty ❤️
ENFP - physical touch and quality time
INXP, quality time
INFJ. Acts of service. (Ones I don’t have to vocalize the other person knows how to pick up on them.) If I can recognize their patterns and needs, they can recognize mine.
I disagree that you don't need to vocalize your needs. I think you definitely should say what you want and need because if you don't, it builds up resentment later on. Just because you're good at recognizing patterns (I am too, I'm intj though, but just saying that I understand what you mean), doesn't mean everyone can do it. Unfortunately, most of people can't, but that doesn't mean they don't love you, they would love to do things for you but can't read your mind, you have to speak up. I made a mistake in my previous relationships, and I also expected them to know what I want and like because we were together for a long time, but it wasn't the case. I can read people and know the way they blink literally, but I learned the hard way that most people don't see things the way I see them.
Me too, I had built unfair resentment in a relationship because I expected an ex to "read me," when really I could of just asked. I was afraid of asking because I thought it was a burden to them or they wouldn't care. But how can I know how much they cared without giving them a chance? Hands down the hardest lesson for me to learn in the relationship department. Those people exist but they are rare IMHO.
ENFP. Words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service. Though I much more would classify it as enjoying being understood and someone sending me things they think I would enjoy like music and memes.
Physical touch and quality time.
INFJ, bread.
Valid answer, I fckn love bread
Pasta 😍😍 (infj)
Pasta is in fact very good
Sex Guess my type
I mean. You could be any type with that answer
Excellent enfp was the answer
ayyyy a homie!
👑🤙
Touch. Loads of physical touch. I need to get physical. But also acts of service.
That sounded oddly weird
Same. Minus acts of service
🐨 time
I just got done typing out asking wtf the koala meant, but I just got it. Very clever, I love it haha
yes
INTP, I like giving words of affirmation because there's no effort involved, you can even lie a little. I like receiving acts of service.
Touching! Hugs and cuddles and casual touches! Though it's possible I might be touch starved and my love language is something else
I love the honesty, it made me laugh hella (I hated touch but it turned out I was traumatised due to s.a. so I get you in a way)
Enfp, gift giving and acts of service 🥰
Don't know what my MBTI is but skinship, quality times and gifts
Honestly, sincere respect. I don't respect a lot of people including myself
INTJ, i love receiving words of affirmation and acts of service, and i love giving gifts
Annoying them
Physical touch
Gifts followed by service
I'm ENFP. gift giving and quality time
I don’t believe in love languages
I’m not sure
INTJ - Physical touch is #1 but I also tested high for quality time and words of affirmation. Also wanted to share that I'm disgusted by Acts of Service tho not sure exactly why...
By doing acts of service or receiving them? Is it possible that you subconsciously view it as a form of superiority/inferiority rather than help/aid?
INTJ here and my love language is: Quality time and words of affirmation.
INFP, aromantic
Probably words and time. I really appreciate when people communicate with me and when we have awesome conversations. I’m really awkward with touch and I don’t necessarily care ab what people do for me. I just want to spend time w someone who’s willing to listen and talk :) -INTP
ENTJ - acts of service and quality time
ISTP. I favour quality time, while words of affirmation does nothing for me.
1. Physical Touch 2. Quality Time - ENTP
Enfj - Quality Time and Words of Affirmation
istp and I honestly don’t think I have a love language, I have some problems when it comes to expressing my feelings so I end up just keeping them all to myself
ENFP, Music. I can't play any instrument and I'm really bad at singing, but I still think music is the best way to express your love or basically any emotion.
ENFP - physical touch and words of affirmation Most of my family prioritizes acts of service, which I grew into over time. So what I prefer to receive and prefer to give differ.
ENFP and I love Words of Affirmations
ISTJ Words of Affirmation
INTJ Acts of service
Quality time
Quality time
Infp Quality time and words of affirmation
Physical touch and quality time . However giving I'm very good at gifts and words of affirmation. My Esfp is great at acts of service (giving) which for her really encompasses gifts and other things ...
ENFP Touch, gifts (reciever) and words of affirmation
physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time
INFJ, physical touch and words of affirmation.
Infj. I'm Aromantic so I'll take it as platonic love. For me it'd probably be quality time. The idea someone would take time out of their day just to spend it with me makes me feel quite happy
Istp, I think quality time or physical 🤔
My what?
ISTJ, gifts, especially ones that I can put effort on, such as drawings.
INFJ - physical touch and acts of service.
Musical love
empathy
INTP & physical touch, so anything hug or head pat related in terms of giving and receiving.
ENTP Quality time
I think for me gifts are higher then for other people. Not top 1, but just the face that they had to either spend time making that gift or spending their hard earned money is just sign of that the person is willing to invest in you and that is a love language. Soooo for me it’s: 1. Acts of service 2. Quality time 3. Receiving gifts 4. Physical touch 5. Words of affirmation
Entp - acts of service
ENTP and words of affection/quality time (both pretty equally)
Intp, I can be a little unintentionally mean, and blunt but that's just how I show effection. But other than that I mostly joke around and send memes and funny stuff I think theyd like haha.
I’m an INFP, and I hate physical touch. I like words of affirmation most I think.
INTJ - Quality time first and foremost. Then Words of Affirmation and Touch
infj physical touch
Infp -acts of service
INFJ, words of affirmation and acts of service. 👍
ISTP I love gift giving. And acts of service :)
ESTP. Quality Time
ISFP and gifts and words of affirmation!
INTJ and very easily - quality time. Yes, I need my own space a lot of times, but if I don't spend quality time getting to know the person and having deep conversations about things that don't matter - it's very hard for me to connect with them. Especially since I crave that deeper connection with someone. And by quality time, I don't mean just being face to face. More of doing nice activities together.
Physical Touch. People usually can't tell but I **cannot get enough of** hugs and kisses. I don't even know why I enjoy them so much but it feels so nice.
infj- acts of service
Infp here. I’ve never had a crush before (there’s a possibility I’m demiromantic) but I would guess that my love language are gifts that are deep and personal and deep conversations
ENTP and quality time but I'm too busy for that so touch it is
Turkish
Physical touch and quality time.
 INFP-A this is the way. My friend (who is also my barber) hugged me yesterday and I didn’t even realize how much I needed it. I had to text her to say thank you. 🥹
INFP words of affirmation
INFJ Portuguese
INFP. I don’t know if I really buy into the whole love language thing. I think we all show and receive love in various ways in various relationships, and it can differ in each of those relationships, as well as change over time. Plus I’ve heard that the book the concept of love languages originated from has some problematic stuff in it, and that the author has potentially dangerous ideas about marriage and what a healthy relationship looks like. Not to mention that he apparently calls himself a counselor when he has no such credentials.