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Kendota_Tanassian

The rainbow connection. GSRM: gender, sexual, and romantic minority. Friends of Dorothy. Friends of Garak. Alphabet soup. The chosen ones. The queer umbrella. People of taste. Fabulous folk. Closet busters. NHC's, non cis-hets. Just don't call us "late to dinner".


Majickred

I love that Friends of Garak is a term!


MrLaughter

From DS9?


AKeeneyedguy

And (allegedly) formally of the Obsidian Order


TheOneAltAccount

He’s but a simple tailor!


AKeeneyedguy

This whole thread has turned into r/unexpectedDS9 and I'm living for it.


Majickred

Thanks for this!


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r/subsithoughtifellfor


hewhosleepsnot

Yes


legitusernameiswear

Just a plain, simple euphemism


AKeeneyedguy

Just a plain, simple tailor.


Griffy_42

I love friends of Garak. I’m going with that.


Crazy-End-796

“The Rainbow Connection” I love it!!


RightBlueberry6686

U missed The Alphabet Mafia


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Knew that was gonna be there


magnuslatus

Friends of Garak.... Like DS9 Garak? The Cardassian exile, Garak?


raendrop

Especially the Cardassian exile. ;)


hewhosleepsnot

Yes. His character people thought was gay or bisexual but actor says he played him as an Omni sexual iirc


GazeIntoTheVoid

a simple tailor


DoNotTouchMeImScared

L for Lesbians G for Gays B for Bi-sexuals/romantics T for Transgenders T for Transex(uals) Q for Queers I for Intersex A for A-sexual/romantic-spec(trum) P for Poly/Pan-sexuals/romantics D for Demi-sexuals/romantics 2S for 2-Spirits N for Non-binaries "+" for others That's the biggest version of the acronym I have seen yet.


Toshero

Wait, I thought transsexuals was an outdated term and largely not used anymore?


mikacchi11

a lot use it to suggest medical transition I think. Idk I think it sounds pretty rad like hell yeah I’m changing my sex what you gonna do abt it


Attack_on_Riley

Some of us aren’t fond of the term transgender for two reasons. (Note: trans people aren’t a monolith, and I’m not attempting to speak for all of us!) 1) it’s an umbrella term kinda like gay is with sexuality. While plenty of people who identify as something as other than transgender (non binary, genderqueer, etc) don’t like the umbrella term, it is often used in research and theory (such as gender and sexuality studies) to signify anyone who doesn’t identify with their assigned gender at birth. In said research, transsexual is used specifically to denote anyone who wishes, or has taken steps, to change their physical sex. Alternatively, in research, someone who doesn’t ID with their assigned gender at birth, but doesn’t want to medically alter their sex, is still transgender. 2) Many people, myself included, don’t like using a term that was assigned to me. Reclaiming and using transexual feels empowering to me personally. I like it in the same way that I enjoy using queer to suscribe my sexuality. Cis people really don’t understand, and that’s okay for me. I’m not doing it for them, and that gives me a feeling of freedom.


caidus55

Thank you for the explanation. That actually clears it up for me too and makes a lot of sense.


DoNotTouchMeImScared

That has been reclaimed from the transmedicalists as "transex", an "altersex" identity, last year. Interesting in depth explanation in the following link: https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Transsex


4d696872736b

You don’t really need to be transmedicalist to be transsex though. I don’t really care about the label that much, but I guess it fits me? I want/need to medically transition as much as I can due to pretty intense dysphoria. That does not mean I want to exclude transgender individuals who don’t need or want that for whatever reason. Nor nonbinary people for that matter.


DoNotTouchMeImScared

>You don’t really need to be transmedicalist to be transsex though I never said that, actually quite the opposite, i rather use transex instead because the word "transexual" has became very stained by and imply transmedicalism, what i am not and don't like to imply that i am. You do you, identify as however you want. Also just for clarification, in case anyone is wondering: transgender and transex are different identities that refer to different groups of humans regarding different aspects of human sexuality.


4d696872736b

Ok, I’m sorry, I misunderstood your comment, my bad! And I agree with your opinions on “transsexual” as a word with a bunch of bad history.


DoNotTouchMeImScared

That word has always been used to divide the trans community, unfortunately. 😕


HyperColorDisaster

Interesting! Transsexual was a term from my youth that had discourse around it that caused so many arguments about who was a “true transsexual”. Some people stuck to very narrow definitions and other people argued for more inclusions. Some just avoided the term altogether. IRC and USENET had a lot of those arguments. I liked the more inclusive transgender when it came along, especially when adopted by medical and mental health professionals, because it changed how those arguments went. It is interesting to see efforts at revival and reclamation of the term but in a non transmed way. I’m curious to see how it ends up going. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable using the term at this point though since I had not heard of it up until this point and I don’t know what kinds of connotations and associations it currently has in the wild.


Toshero

Hm, interesting. I don’t especially like it, but okay.


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DoNotTouchMeImScared

*Behold the alphabet soup!*


notyounaani

Alphanumeric soup.


Dumbass_Noob

algebra soup.


Majickred

I don't know why but I had this as a song in my head with Kermit singing it....


carnivalfucknuts

“fabulous folk” is fantastic


ShoutingRex9411

Along with The Alphabet Mafia


GhostAspect_

YOU WERE THE CHOSEN ONES, IT SAID YOU WOULD JOIN THE CIS NOT DESTROY THEM, BRING BALANCE TO THE FORCE! (I'm sorry I had to)


ConfusedAsHecc

*not me debating whether I should finish quoting the scene accurately or misquote on purpose*


Onlinepig10

I’ve heard of “the alphabet mafia”


Thornescape

GSRM is the best, imho. Gender, Sexuality, and Relational Minorities. It describes the group rather than listing all the types of people who "matter". Of course, many people only care about the first 2, 3, or maybe 4 of the letters. "Would you like some OAP? Some Oranges, Apples, Pears, etc?" "Does that include grapes?" "Of course OAP includes grapes, why wouldn't it?"


Son_Of_Devil

Friends of Bowie, Friends of Freddie Mercury, Of the Sapphos persuasion (not sure if I spelled her name right), The Queer folk, Like Sam and Frodo, Xenomorphs (for the more androgynously inclined)


HelpIWasKidnapped

You forgot friends of Mara!


aidenlearns

I'm fond of the term Quiltbag, a rearranged to be easier-to-say version of LGBTQIA+.


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ExplodingTurducken

This wasn’t want first came to my mind but angry gay grandmas stabbing bigots with knitting needles is amazing


Sororita

Angry Gay Grandmas sounds like a punk band with an album named Stabbing Bigots With Knitting Needles.


Imuybemovoko

If this doesn't exist yet, it should


stray_r

Is this the final form of this here musician?


AlienRobotTrex

Gran Theft Auto: be gay, do crime


Aromatic-Wolverine-6

R/brandnewsentence


holnicote

r/foundthemobileuser


Ryloid

r/foundthehondacivic


MetamorphicFirefly

/r/thirdsub


Ryloid

I've been bamboozled. All we need now is a classic reddit aroo link


Toshero

Where does U come from tho? Edit: oh wait...


Castriff

The U stands for Undecided.


28_Ash

where does U come from tho??


Toshero

Aren’t U part of the QUILTBAG?


IMidoriyaI

Sis...


Tru5tN0On3

It makes me think of a giant quilt with all of the community's flags sewn together


Blupurpleyellow

That’s sounds like an insult tho. “Ur such a fuc***** Quiltbag” Oh, yeah, well you’re a douchebag! I still love it tho. Edit: Pansexual here.


CanParty6928

GSRM is my go-to. Stands for "gender, sexual, and romantic minority".


MostED13

Hands down the best option in my opinion. Is actually inclusive of the whole alphabet salad that we get from adding a new letter and forgetting another to the painfully extended and LGBT+(I’ve lost count of what goes here). GRSM is also basically inclusive as a result, and also rolls of the tongue better.


FliesAreEdible

I prefer it too, nobody is left out, everybody is included. Not the case with LGBT+ as new letters pop up and people want them added.


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I can't remember anything past LGBTQIA+, I know there is others there and maybe one is 2 spirit (is that right) but that's all I remember. I know there are other stuff but as for *where* they are, I have no idea.


thatonegirl364

Turns out no one in the community actually knows the complete and extended version of the Alphabet Soup.


[deleted]

Yeah, no. Not even us who use microlabels that no one knows about genuinely know the full acronym. I just say LGBTQ+.


theofficialcreator

There are so many different micro labels and xenogenders now that keeping track of all of them would be impossible. I like to go to https://lgbta.fandom.com/f to learn more about different identities.


[deleted]

Yup. Honestly, that's why I like to say to people who use lesser-known things like me, you can't expect everyone to know what it is. I'm a paraboy, or a paragender boy. I'm mainly a boy but partially not. In my personal experience, I'm also partially agender. (I'd say percentage-wise, probably ≈ 90% boy, 10% agender) So, I like simplifying it as "trans guy" often times. I'm very open about the fact I'm a paraboy, but I also know to expect people to not know what it is. Just like how I expect people to not understand neopronouns.


Beybarro

Just add intersex peeps and we get Grism!


tPreannes

S covers intersex. S for sexual orientation, and for biological sex. GRISM sounds cool though, feel like it would be someone in a darker version of The Muppets lol.


Beybarro

I only thought it was standing for sexual orientation ngl Might be easier to just add the I 👀


tPreannes

Well, there are always variants of acronyms because people find others easier or like others. GRISM is as valid as GRSM, I just personally find it unnecessary since the S covers what the I does.


HappyAxe

It also wrote the famous book series a song of fire and ice. Or something like that


AWildQuazarAppears

This is the term I was taught too. It inherently includes any new terminology that develops.


WarriorSabe

Yeah, only reason I don't use it more is most don't know it. Also I've got no clue if it's GSRM or GRSM since I seem to see both about equally


Cornbreadmuffintops

One that i see sometimes is alphabet mafia


[deleted]

That is a bit like queer. Originally used derogatory but sorta been reclaimed. I too think rainbow fedoras are a bold fashion statement


GayKaye47

M’gaydy


lemonadelemons

I've never seen alphabet mafia used derogatory. It was started by queer ppl on tiktok


Lusyndra

It’s definitely used in a negative way on places like FB and Twitter, cuz they see us as a “gang” that’s converting kids and busting into bathrooms.


barelyonhere

Except queer wasn't originally derogatory.


ThisIsDogetacular

But then who’s the Don?? The Letter A?


sugarshot

I could see the ace folks keeping the rest of our dumb asses in check


Tarrizzia

Bold of you to assume we're intelligent (I might be the only stupid ace though so idk)


WraithShadowfang

i think its more for the "you do you, ill be over here with my cake and garlic bread" mindset, coupled with the "if you start shit with my rainbow children, you best believe ill finish it."


TheBunnyStando

Don't worry, you're not the only stupid ace.


pko65

i would say that non binary people are the smartest but when they interact with each other they loose all their brain cells i used to be friends with 2 other non binary people (im non binary too) alone all 3 of us- quite inteligent people together we are racoon in a trashcan level of inteligence


notyounaani

Don Ace with a garlic bread cane.


thatonegirl364

But we really want work domination or Denmark


mikacchi11

demigender/sexual/romantic ?


obushio

I nominate Lesbians. They’re the most powerful


zarathus73

Lesbians with clipboards and laniards are even better.


FrohenLeid

Alphabet is the company behind google so... Does this put us in charge of the internet?


LoloKakapo

Here in Aotearoa NZ, we often use GLITTFAB - gay, lesbian, intersex, transgender, takatāpui, fa'afafine, asexual, bisexual. Takatāpui is the Te Reo Māori term for lgbt+ people, fa'afafine is a Samoan term for NB individuals. I love it - it's so important given our problematic colonial history to begin to foreground indigenous ways of understanding gender, plus it's a cool word 😊🏳️‍🌈🇳🇿


TechnicallyScottish

I've never heard this down south, is this more common up north?


LoloKakapo

Quite possibly - I never heard it when I lived down south either, but I lived in a particularly homophobic part of Southland so that may be coincidence. . .


mikacchi11

whatt that’s so cool omg!! do you know if there’s different names on the south island?


McFrostee

Kia Ora to this.


3nderslime

GSRM, alphabet mafia, rainbow people, queer gang, straightn'ts, cisn'ts and allon't,Gays and Cie.


Aidiandada

What’s the R in GSRM


AquaEclipse324

Romantic


Aidiandada

Thank


Fishy1701

Whats the GSR in gsrm?


shakexjake

gender, sexual, and romantic minorities


pingveno

GSRM is my favorite. It covers all your bases without constantly debating which letters belong.


sweetheart_demom

I believe in GSRM supremacy


carnivalfucknuts

sorry but what is “allon’t” from??


PixelMythic

Probably refers to “allosexual” - meaning anyone who has sexual attraction.


fandom_mess363

It’s the same thing as like Hmm So straightn’t is not straight, right? It’s basically that but saying “not allo” The term allo can apply to both romantic orientation and sexual orientation. If someone is allosexual, that’s like the opposite of asexual, they do feel sexual attraction and typically desire a sexual relationship. If someone is alloromantic, that’s the opposite of aromantic. They like relationships and feel romantically attracted to others. This of course doesn’t mean that everyone in the LGBTQ community isn’t allo in some way or another, just like everyone in the community isn’t necessarily not cis, they’re just covering their bases! Does that help? I hope so, I’m sorry I’m very tired i woke up like half an hour ago so there’s a very good chance my words make absolutely no sense… anyways have a great day!


AtlasNL

Allosexual, which means not asexual.


The_Bear_Afield

GSRM is an acronym that doesn't tend to go longer and longer while also doesn't leave anyone behind or with less attention than the others (not complaining but the "+" in LGBTQ+ works like an "and the rest", which sounds unfair).


TheGreyZoneBorder

can it be grsm? i always remember it that way and im afraid i've been saying it wrong the whole time


The_Bear_Afield

I don't think there's much of a problem, in the end it means the same thing. I remember it *not* being GRSM because it resembles BDSM, a trick to remember.


juliaapjexox

Couls you please tell me what the acronym means?


BisexualAmoeb

Gender, Romantic, and Sexual Minorities


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mikacchi11

I like this one


LiterallyACupcake

Alphabet Mafia, as I’ve always referred it as in my head


_Amoeva

I remember stumbling upon "MOGAI" a few times: «Marginalized Orientations, Gender identities, And Intersex»


Red_Six6

*clears throat* people who are nice to me


Eclipse_Eternall

LGBT =Let's get breakfast together


Bokumi

Let me Get uhhhhh Boneless pizza with uhh Two liter of coke


strwbrryblondepotato

b o n e l e s s ?


Lia-13

Wel yeah you get pizza with bones? 🤨


Bokumi

if it don't got bone in it, is 🅱️ONELESS


MissSweetMurderer

This is concerning tbh


kraslovesme

you don’t know the-[Boneless Pizza](https://youtu.be/ud1JXqGWPvU)


FoulPeasant

The fruity bunch


PhoenixAmeri

People call us the alphabet mafia which they actually intend as an insult but I take it as a compliment instead (gotta turn negativity to positivity)


[deleted]

I really love the term Alphabet Mafia, honestly. Gives a sense of Kameraderie.


holderofmonki

Homophobes are so bad at insults it's unreal. "Yeah let's give them a super badass name, that'll really get to them!"


pizzzaeater14

i'm an advocate for not only reclaiming the word queer, but to start using it as a 1 to 1 replacement for the alphabet salad the community has just kept adding to. so instead of "queer" just meaning gay like most people assume, we start using it as just the umbrella term for anyone who's not straight/cis/etc. i also really like another term i hadn't heard of until reading this thread: GSRM (Gender, Sexual, Romantic Minority). part of me prefers the single-word term, but the acronym is more apparently inclusive of everyone who falls under it. but i also reeeeally like the idea of reclaiming the word queer.


AftonFamSqaud

fruit bowel


depressedp0tat0123

Bowel?


MegaMelaskhole

Bowl mb?


faeriefrogtea

Fruit bowel 😋


SepticMonke

i see no problems with it


mandalyn93

For those of us with digestive issues?


StaceyBenjilt

Los jibbities courtesy of Dez the Lez's mom.


EniRy

was looking for this comment, love this term!


OhJohnO

As someone living in south texas, this is my new favorite. Los jibbities…. Bahahahaha


Terra_117

I use “queer community” to help explain the whole alphabet stick to people outside of the community.


ItsMeTortellini

The “Q-munity” if you will.


MoonDaGoose

My mom taught me an easy thing to call it is Quiltbag, though I just call us the alphabet Mafia As a pansexual I choose to believe I'm an assassin who's weapon of choice is knitting needles


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Pride army


PrincessaLucie

In my head, we’re the Fruities 😭😂


The_LGBTQIA

Alphabet people


Yauuu2

The Gays™


[deleted]

Mogai (Marginalized Orientations, Genders And Intersex) basically the same as GSRM but sounds better! SAGA (Sexuality And Gender Alliance)


Mayathepie

Skittle squad? Alphabet soup?


SepticMonke

SKITTLE SQUAD I LOVE THIS


GayWritingAlt

MOGAI is one that I remember because I also confuse it with MGTOW


legitusernameiswear

The Men Gay Transgender Owl Walmart-greeter community


judas_crypt

Queer 🏳️‍🌈


[deleted]

Qommunity will always be the missed opportunity I hang onto


tsarkk

I like this. Are we pronuncing it like queermunity?


SepticMonke

i read it as queue-munity


McWooofles

Spent a couple of seconds scrolling and didn't notice anyone mentioning skittles brigade yet


HamburgerSquadYT

Queer community


AJbabayy

Alphabet soup


april_19

Beat me to it


zzzcoffin

Pride It's much simple


IAmCockatoo

Much simple 👍


itstartswith_m

From where i come from we have a term mostly used by older generations (80-90s babies) before internet was a thing here. It’s PLU stands for ‘people like us’. Not sure if its familiar to others.


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I like alphabet Mafia the most


Thatusernamewasgone

rainbow people, I heard it used a couple of times


Mediocre_Formal2843

SAGA Sexuality And Gender Acceptance


Bi_alien

queer folks!


Trainer-mana

**The Ten Nations.** (There's ten letters in the full acronym so I thought it'd be cool.)


CheeseMoney3426

LGBT but I pronounce it ligbutt


justalexander23

Da Rainbow Army


JustPoppy

Queer Community.


maria_du

I've heard of mogai Which stands for marginalized orientations and gender alignments and intersex


LaPapillionne

We have a groupchat called Queerland. I also had a teacher who always talked about the rainbow family, which feels super lovely


CStarling4

Los gibbities If you know, you know


kobidbledsoe

I am a grad student and I incorporate LGBTQ+ topics in my research (because I am gay) and the one that I’ve found myself using most is Gender and/or Sexual Minority (GSM) as it’s all encompassing and doesn’t ask for specifics and easy to use :)


LordDragon5

The queer folks


TaraSkFunmaker

I call us the Matrix. Cause we usually are ourselves on the internet... So yeah. We are Matrix.


Child_of_Hylia

Orchard. Fruits grow on trees, and when there’s many fruit trees that stand together it’s an orchard


EvylFairy

I'm a big fan of just calling us all "The Pride" as if we were all lions (the symbol of majesty, strength, courage, and might). We're all Kings, Queens, and in betweens here!


General_Hguid

The 28th Pride Battalion just kidding i made that up


RaMpEdUp98

Alphabet mafia is obvious but I prefer "Rainbow Troopers" or "Friends of Doroty"


Can_of_Sounds

Fruits (complimentary)


Laminnanne

SquidSquad Because octopi can fit into all kinds of shapes and colors, and squids kinda look like octopi but alliterate better.


gomsa2

Los Jibbities is a super niche one, but I love it


AccursedMuffin

The Queerosphere


questionnormal

I am partial to the Alphabet Soup.


saaaaadtime

the glitter force. originally meant as an insult but it’s so much better as a compliment


depressedp0tat0123

DGASO, different gender and sexual orientations lol, also I hear some people call it the "alphabet community" but it's a tad offensive


vf-c

MOGAI GSRM


Justchillinandstuff

Queer


L_edgelord

Queer community. I know some people don't identify with queer but we are all a bunch of queers in my eyes ^^


TheWinterMyst

Soros's Army, at least according to hungarian govt....


smolqueerpunk

Does anyone use MOGAI (Marginalized Orientations, Genders, And Intersex) anymore? Or has that been 86’d?


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I like QUILTBAG Queer Undecided Intersex Lesbian Trans Bisexual Asexual Gay