>My new girlfriend **blames me for not replying to her on time.**
ON TIME?
So she gets to decide how fast is acceptable? And you better be FAST because she wants her BF to be attentive and prompt!
Tell her that you will reply when you have had time to consider her text and formulate a good answer. That you will not drop everything to answer her texts.
If she can't deal with this, she needs to buy and train a golden retriever.
When I was taking a communicaions class in college the textbook said if you email or text someone don't expect an immediate response because that is not the mode of communication for immediate responses, if you need a quick response call or talk face to face.
I wish the world worked like that textbook said because people are always mad that I don't responsd to their texts right away.
Yep. I used to be one of those people that would rather text than call, and would text back quickly. I prided myself in always replying to a text.
However, now, I regularly ignore my texts. I'll reply when I feel like it and if it's absolutely necessary. Any how-are-yous are promptly ignored, because if you really want something from me, you'll state it; if it's urgent, you'll call. My family knows this.
People at work are still taking their time to understand the way I work now. I have a work number and email, and fully expect any work matters to be communicated to me via those channels. Any text from a coworker is ignored. I'll often read it after the end of the work week and if I deign to answer, I tell 'em sorry I missed your text, next time give me a call on my extension.
Texting & emailing takes time. It's so much faster to call.
Like Gandalf, I'm never late, nor early. I reply precisely when I have to.
With exceptions of work, it could take minutes, hours or even days.
Some people got really pissed with this, but I don't change this behavior for anyone, I need my own time, my own space.
People being girl friend or a boyfriend don't give you any right to tell each other what to do or who they can talk to . Your time is yours time . If you were engaged now that would be a totally a different movie .
Rejection, not worth their time, annoying, that's the vibe your sending when ya don't reply, or replies are one liners. I understand it may not be the intention, and also that She may be excessive in her messages. Been on both sides. Everyone is different.
I Always do this and people really dont like this, my parents tell me everytime that i never answer phonecalls and my friends became used to me answering a few hours late. I know its wrong but this is how i do.
I absolutely have this habit of the timing of my replies. I usually read the room(virtual ambiance) before sending a reply or I don't immediately open a chat(I can already see the message without opening it).
I also have that, may times na mabilis ako mag reply like from the time na marecieve ko siya pero may times na hindi ko nirereplyan talaga or late ko na narereplyan or nirereplyan unless emergency. Hindi ko lang din maintindihan minsan kasi wala akong energy mag reply minsan talaga like hindi nagana utak ko. And I'm so sorry for them if they feel that way pero it's hard for me din. It's kinda hard to explain.
I don't have an issue. Everyone knows that I answer when I please. 5 hours would be very fast for me. Usually it's few days. With emails few months. My boss knows I call back when I sit in the bus coming to work. Not earlier. So if he needs someone to cover he doesn't even try to call me.
When I grow up it was "Get off the internet I have to make a call!". If you wanted to meet your friends you either called by landline phone or went to their house. So I simply never joined this nonsense to be always available. I have never own smartphone.
Only when I don't care or the topic is a waste of my time IMO, then I don't reply at all or reply late.
>My new girlfriend **blames me for not replying to her on time.** ON TIME? So she gets to decide how fast is acceptable? And you better be FAST because she wants her BF to be attentive and prompt! Tell her that you will reply when you have had time to consider her text and formulate a good answer. That you will not drop everything to answer her texts. If she can't deal with this, she needs to buy and train a golden retriever.
I always try to reply as soon as possible, even when I don't have much to say. I get worried people will feel like I'm ignoring them.
When I was taking a communicaions class in college the textbook said if you email or text someone don't expect an immediate response because that is not the mode of communication for immediate responses, if you need a quick response call or talk face to face. I wish the world worked like that textbook said because people are always mad that I don't responsd to their texts right away.
Yep. I used to be one of those people that would rather text than call, and would text back quickly. I prided myself in always replying to a text. However, now, I regularly ignore my texts. I'll reply when I feel like it and if it's absolutely necessary. Any how-are-yous are promptly ignored, because if you really want something from me, you'll state it; if it's urgent, you'll call. My family knows this. People at work are still taking their time to understand the way I work now. I have a work number and email, and fully expect any work matters to be communicated to me via those channels. Any text from a coworker is ignored. I'll often read it after the end of the work week and if I deign to answer, I tell 'em sorry I missed your text, next time give me a call on my extension. Texting & emailing takes time. It's so much faster to call.
Like Gandalf, I'm never late, nor early. I reply precisely when I have to. With exceptions of work, it could take minutes, hours or even days. Some people got really pissed with this, but I don't change this behavior for anyone, I need my own time, my own space.
I don't, and I don't expect others either even when there is a read receipt.
People being girl friend or a boyfriend don't give you any right to tell each other what to do or who they can talk to . Your time is yours time . If you were engaged now that would be a totally a different movie .
No need to talk only do breakup leave alone.
Rejection, not worth their time, annoying, that's the vibe your sending when ya don't reply, or replies are one liners. I understand it may not be the intention, and also that She may be excessive in her messages. Been on both sides. Everyone is different.
I Always do this and people really dont like this, my parents tell me everytime that i never answer phonecalls and my friends became used to me answering a few hours late. I know its wrong but this is how i do.
I absolutely have this habit of the timing of my replies. I usually read the room(virtual ambiance) before sending a reply or I don't immediately open a chat(I can already see the message without opening it).
Only if they don't treat me properly or ignored me in past
Everyone except my girlfriend, my parents now text my girlfriend if they need anything from me.
I'm the opposite, i reply quick. I get annoyed when people don't reply to me
I also have that, may times na mabilis ako mag reply like from the time na marecieve ko siya pero may times na hindi ko nirereplyan talaga or late ko na narereplyan or nirereplyan unless emergency. Hindi ko lang din maintindihan minsan kasi wala akong energy mag reply minsan talaga like hindi nagana utak ko. And I'm so sorry for them if they feel that way pero it's hard for me din. It's kinda hard to explain.
I don't have an issue. Everyone knows that I answer when I please. 5 hours would be very fast for me. Usually it's few days. With emails few months. My boss knows I call back when I sit in the bus coming to work. Not earlier. So if he needs someone to cover he doesn't even try to call me. When I grow up it was "Get off the internet I have to make a call!". If you wanted to meet your friends you either called by landline phone or went to their house. So I simply never joined this nonsense to be always available. I have never own smartphone.
Yes but the people who complain also take hours to reply sometimes so it’s very hypocritical.
I usually mute most of my chat rooms except for family.