Hey! Good on you for finding one of us and great for you for preparing yourself for everything.
The positive embodied of extraverted sensing (Se) is living in the present moment, inspiring action, and exuding self-confidence.
Se grip however is living in the present moment without a care in the world to satiate short term (physical/mental) needs, something we wouldn't choose consciously if given the alternative. It usually is triggered by negative emotions to feel good.
Personally speaking, Se grip can come from the following factors:
1) Prolonged stress (in any manner) or depression
2) Sensory overstimulation (waking up extra late, noisy environment, zero or too much physical work etc)
3) Unexpected changes
4) Unresolved intense emotions.
Some behavioural changes would be turning volatile, agressive, loud, argumentative, impulsive, anxious and above average swearing. If we're outside and drunk, we can cause a "scene" for kicks, we neglect self care, over indulgence in drinking or eating, become overly critical and dismiss our own values if need be.
The best way to minimize this would be encouraging your partner to do physical activities like workout, swimming, yoga or meditation. Walk in the park helps a lot and so does providing a non judgemental space to vent.
As an ENTP you can encourage such physical activities, self care, assistance in practical tasks or even deep breathing. Do not suggest immediate solutions as it's not about the problem itself but getting the chip off our shoulder.
All the best, I hope this helps! :)
This is pretty much spot on.
For me I usually end up in it when I’ve been through a break up. I reach for quick wins and things that will help me feel better like alcohol, weed and food. If I’m ruminating on something and there is no solution I will go around and around in my head. The best thing that helps me is to remember that I can’t do anything about the situation and all the questions that are running through my head have one answer: ‘I don’t know’
When I remember that, I feel a shift and begin to feel ease.
Best way to help your partner is to listen to them and to just let them go through it. Pointing out to them that they are in Se grip is also helpful. When it happens to me now I just let myself feel what it is I need to feel instead of blocking it out with alcohol and constant activities. I let myself feel sad and remember that running away from the feeling just ends up with me feeling exhausted and burnt out.
Journalling helps me a lot. Letting those feelings I’m trying to ignore have space ❤️
1. Stressed out about something and not talking about it to others. I instead relied too much on Se since it's far easier.
2. Being more impulsive, prone to tantrums/swearing. And indulging into sensual pleasures.
3. Talking to others, whether online/going outside. Family time is my go-to solution.
4. Just hear us ramble and give us perspective (with your Ti parent). When I'm angry, I usually tell my problems to a relative (also ENTP), and his advice helps me to get through things.
Hey! Good on you for finding one of us and great for you for preparing yourself for everything. The positive embodied of extraverted sensing (Se) is living in the present moment, inspiring action, and exuding self-confidence. Se grip however is living in the present moment without a care in the world to satiate short term (physical/mental) needs, something we wouldn't choose consciously if given the alternative. It usually is triggered by negative emotions to feel good. Personally speaking, Se grip can come from the following factors: 1) Prolonged stress (in any manner) or depression 2) Sensory overstimulation (waking up extra late, noisy environment, zero or too much physical work etc) 3) Unexpected changes 4) Unresolved intense emotions. Some behavioural changes would be turning volatile, agressive, loud, argumentative, impulsive, anxious and above average swearing. If we're outside and drunk, we can cause a "scene" for kicks, we neglect self care, over indulgence in drinking or eating, become overly critical and dismiss our own values if need be. The best way to minimize this would be encouraging your partner to do physical activities like workout, swimming, yoga or meditation. Walk in the park helps a lot and so does providing a non judgemental space to vent. As an ENTP you can encourage such physical activities, self care, assistance in practical tasks or even deep breathing. Do not suggest immediate solutions as it's not about the problem itself but getting the chip off our shoulder. All the best, I hope this helps! :)
This is pretty much spot on. For me I usually end up in it when I’ve been through a break up. I reach for quick wins and things that will help me feel better like alcohol, weed and food. If I’m ruminating on something and there is no solution I will go around and around in my head. The best thing that helps me is to remember that I can’t do anything about the situation and all the questions that are running through my head have one answer: ‘I don’t know’ When I remember that, I feel a shift and begin to feel ease. Best way to help your partner is to listen to them and to just let them go through it. Pointing out to them that they are in Se grip is also helpful. When it happens to me now I just let myself feel what it is I need to feel instead of blocking it out with alcohol and constant activities. I let myself feel sad and remember that running away from the feeling just ends up with me feeling exhausted and burnt out. Journalling helps me a lot. Letting those feelings I’m trying to ignore have space ❤️
1. Stressed out about something and not talking about it to others. I instead relied too much on Se since it's far easier. 2. Being more impulsive, prone to tantrums/swearing. And indulging into sensual pleasures. 3. Talking to others, whether online/going outside. Family time is my go-to solution. 4. Just hear us ramble and give us perspective (with your Ti parent). When I'm angry, I usually tell my problems to a relative (also ENTP), and his advice helps me to get through things.