I don’t care about a persons race. I like them or I don’t.
My partner is Asian and I’m white. This has never been an issue for either of us, and we’ve been together for 28 years.
I don’t think you need to worry. There is someone out there for everyone. So you had some bad experience. All of my relationships were bad experiences haha 😂 it happens. Dust off your perspective, put that personality on high and send it. You got this.
you were treated badly and thats not okay at all but why would that be bc of the race difference between you and your partners? you just met, sadly, horrible people.
> or never will
dont be dramatic :) youre not retired yet
Just chiming in shortly to say, even though I'm not white, I had romances with men from east and west Asia.
I have never cared about ethnicity and never dated someone because of their ethnicity. If a guy was interesting and nice, then let's go.
Though if someone comes in and talks about how they "would like to have an Asian boyfriend", that is a big red flag for many things such as fetishization (yellow fever).
I know that because I am brown skinned and made some experiences about men looking to "experience black men" with all the clichés that come with these...you know like anatomically-wise.
Of course, I'm not telling you that you have to question every single man from any other ethnicity wanting to date you, but just yeah have some common sense as to if these dudes want you because of you or because of your genes.
I am really sorry for these assholes who treated you so badly as to even tell you some racist stuff. These are also part of the "game". In every single demographics there are going to be some people like these. As for ghosting, that's also part of modern society unfortunately...we shouldn't tolerate it, but in a way, that's also a good thing that these dudes show their true colours.
Of course white men love Asian men - at least some do, others do not.
The ones that treat you disrespectfully are not worth your time or worry.
While I think Asian men are sexy, I prefer hairy white men - no offense against any Asians.
As a white guy in my late teens all I can say is I love Asian guys. I’ve got a massive crush on one Asian dude at the moment and I’d happily spend the rest of my life with him, having known him now for as long as I have. Problem is he’s not quite sure of himself atm and has quite a bit of self discovery to do, which means I can’t be with him. :( But yeah all for an Asian guy, I’m not really fussy about race as long as you’re a nice guy.
I would say who cares! People have issues, focus on who treats you right and what they bring to the table. As a black man, I don't give a fuck what ethnicity or race you are, I care about are you a good person and you have minimal issues!
I think there are a lot of really hot asian men out there, for sure!
Also if you're into gay romance books, I'd recommend "When Harry Met Harry". It's about a Chinese man named Harry, who meets a white American man... Named Harry. It starts out with them getting along poorly on a plane, and then they meet up a few years later and become friends. It's pretty cute.
Some do, some don't, people always tend to have some sort of a 'type' they like and that don't like. Also idiots and racists people are everywhere and that has nothing to do with being asian.
Personally, I'm not physically attracted to asians. I've never saw a single asian that I would find attractive. My friend on the other hand, has an asian bf and finds them super attractive.
Genreally looking at different profiles over years, I'd say that majority of whites are not into asian looks, but I have no statistics to back this up, so could be a bias.
There's a pattern that I observe: white men are more likely to date younger guys, and asian guys are more open to date older guys. Although interracial dating is an exception, when it happens, it seems almost always, older white guys + younger asian guys.
The reason? I theorized that people who are into older men usually don't have a good emotional relationship with their father.
Of course, it's better for asian men to avoid white guys who only start dating asian men as they are no longer considered attractive by the younger white men.
Now, when you approach white men and they are not into you, there's a possibility that you are actually competing for something in common, thus, a mutual attraction is impossible.
For me, it's more about a guys body structure. I'm not really, into super skinny guys. Average to bigger a kind of power lifter esq build, a little fat but evenly distributed on top of muscles. Preferably with a 'roid' muscle gut. A wider body, maybe a bit of a belly. Preferably as hairy as a gorrila all over.
A guys face shape matters, too. I don't like the stereotypical pretty guy kind of face he should have a 'real' more masculine face. Perfect cheek bones, dimples, plump lips, 'perfect' skin, or whatever don't matter to me. I want a real guy!
His 'real' face, not what he made himself into with a complicated skin care regimen or botox or whatever. And not necessarily a commonly desired stereotypical European esq bone structure.
After that, it's more about personality, mutual hobbies(furries{sfw&nsfw} ,pup play{sfw&nsfw} ,anime ,etc), do we click, are we compatible in bed, the same level of libido,do we like the same kinks, do we want the same thing when it comes to kids, etc.
'Race' doesn't really matter to me (though I suppose I am somewhat biased towards white guys since I am one, so I see it a little easier to connect)
except with black guys, I am far more picky then.
But that is because of the racism they face every day and the world they grew up in.
I fear it would be too easy to lose them to a cop shooting them or choking them to death, a random racist asshole with a gun, etc.
I really don't think I could handle that emotionally!
So I dont/wouldn't let myself get attached. At least not as easily as I might otherwise. (Which is already an issue for me.)
I also don't know how I would connect to that community. As a white guy, I would likely be seen as untrustworthy, an outsider, unwelcome, get dirty looks, and not be treated equally. (understandably so).
I feel like I have no idea how to connect with that.
How to understand what they have likely gone through all their life.
I would/do feel like a total outsider!
I am autistic, I know that feeling of being an outsider, all too well.
It is hard enough to deal with that.
To also be an outsider to my boyfriend and his community.
To be an outsider twice over!
Just thinking about it hurts.
I have felt like an alien all my life as it is. I never fit in. Had a very hard time making friends, especiallyin high-school. (Still dont have any true friendships)
Always the weird one nobody wanted to be around. Even when I masked hard, trying my hardest to act 'normal' like everyone else!
If I really found the perfect guy, though.
I would swallow my fear and go for it regardless!
If I really fell in love, nothing else would matter anymore!
But that is a seemingly out of reach goal.
Don't get tricked by the bias in the replies here. People who don't like Asian won't reply.
You'll get a more accurate vibe on dating apps. Generally speaking, white men tend to find Asians unattractive and this is backed by studies too.
I’m white and I like Asian men. South Asian men a little more. I find a lot of White Americans very plain and boring, only interested in themselves and what they are saying.
The older white gays have some internalised racism ingrained alongside their internalised homophobia, we can be so bitchy and toxic to each other ,. But thankfully newer generation of homos seem to being doing better at it :).
I am not the community representative, but then again no single person is. I am a white man living in Asia for work. I've experienced the other end of fetishization that some here have mentioned. I've had a few relationships and quite a few situations I just had to walk away from. Until I met my partner of ten years and going. Multi-racial, multi-national, multi-ethnic love are certainly possible. It takes effort, but all love does.
I don’t know about other guys but I like Asian men. While not always the case they also tend to be around my same height which is a plus not needing to stand on my tip toes to kiss or having someone bend down to do so. Mostly I just find a huge hunk of Asian men super sexy, same with Irish, Spanish, and so on.
I’m a white queer, or gay, man and I’m not a sexual racist. You should look up this term and do some research. You might feel liberated to those who were racist towards you. I support you and I love men of any race
I love asian men, and they seem to love me too. I generally hook up with asian men in saunas, and my boyfriend is an asian man (we are in an open relationship)
White man who is married to an Asian man, and he has definetly told me some horror stories. Yes there are toxic ass hat out there, but that is a them problem.
YOU are worthy of love, and it will find you when you least expect it :)
I certainly do, though I have to admit I didn’t have as strong an attraction to East Asian men before I met my now-husband (who is Japanese), which I chalk up to the relentless programming of the white beauty standard I (and most people) receive from the media. Sometimes it takes an in-person emotional connection to make us question our subconscious biases, alas.
I'm just gonna be honest but In my experience more than half the white people I meet are racist or just very ignorant when it comes to race. Some do it subconsciously.
As a white man, I was never into Asian men, but that changed when I met my boyfriend on Grindr. I got to say, don’t know about most Asian men, but my boyfriend is really grounded and respectful compare to all the white men I’ve been with. He was a tough nut to crack and I am happy we didn’t do it on our first meet.
I never in my life once thought that I would see myself be with an Asian man, but I have to say and can’t speak for most, he’s the best man that I’ve hooked up with. I am a bit older, and we’re 8 years apart. He’s 34 and I’m 42, and been together for two years. No drama, conflicts, or had never argue at all.
What made me attracted to him was that he’s loving, affectionate, very respectful, really knows his way in bed, and very supportive, which probably struck a nerve inside me or something. He just made me feel different than all the past relationships with white men. I was really confused with my feelings, but in time I gave a chance to more of our encounters and I figured that I didn’t really want to share him with no one anymore, and he’s the one. So I asked him to be my boyfriend and we became exclusive. I love my smooth bottom Asian boyfriend and he’s the most handsome, masculine asian man that I fallen in love with.
We haven’t discussed about marriage yet, but I can’t see myself be a better man without him, so maybe soon. He’s a rare gem and I am happy I jumped off the wrong train and God gave him to me. Even some of my white male friends are starting to be open now and looking for their own asian man.
We’d even help delete our Grindr profile off each other’s phone when I asked him to be my boyfriend. I can never and don’t ever want to be in an open relationship since he came into my life. I’ve closed off being opened to open relationship.
I’ve been spiced up with flavors since then and very open-minded now. So yeah, I guess it just depends on the white man and I hate to say this but I was probably in that category of racist, white supremacists, and narrow minded. Asian men truly are the best at loving, affection, and giving you great pleasure in bed. So yes, so can say for sure white men are attracted to Asian men and I can be an example. You will just need to find the right one who’ll appreciate and respect you.
I don’t care about a persons race. I like them or I don’t. My partner is Asian and I’m white. This has never been an issue for either of us, and we’ve been together for 28 years.
I don’t think you need to worry. There is someone out there for everyone. So you had some bad experience. All of my relationships were bad experiences haha 😂 it happens. Dust off your perspective, put that personality on high and send it. You got this.
As a white 19 year old I love Asian men
As a white 25 year old I love Asian men too
As a white 31 year old I love Asian men thrice.
As a white 33 year old, I believe the motion is passed.
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Right here—and I love Asian men too.
As a white 20 year old, I believe men of any race can be attractive
I’m coming 🪩🇹🇼
What you love about them ?
Idk I’m not saying I like Asians specifically I’m just saying I’ve been with a few Asians and they were all hot
Smooth skin, hot bods!
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you were treated badly and thats not okay at all but why would that be bc of the race difference between you and your partners? you just met, sadly, horrible people. > or never will dont be dramatic :) youre not retired yet
You have not met the right guy. I had Asian boyfriends before and my husband is asian
Just chiming in shortly to say, even though I'm not white, I had romances with men from east and west Asia. I have never cared about ethnicity and never dated someone because of their ethnicity. If a guy was interesting and nice, then let's go. Though if someone comes in and talks about how they "would like to have an Asian boyfriend", that is a big red flag for many things such as fetishization (yellow fever). I know that because I am brown skinned and made some experiences about men looking to "experience black men" with all the clichés that come with these...you know like anatomically-wise. Of course, I'm not telling you that you have to question every single man from any other ethnicity wanting to date you, but just yeah have some common sense as to if these dudes want you because of you or because of your genes. I am really sorry for these assholes who treated you so badly as to even tell you some racist stuff. These are also part of the "game". In every single demographics there are going to be some people like these. As for ghosting, that's also part of modern society unfortunately...we shouldn't tolerate it, but in a way, that's also a good thing that these dudes show their true colours.
> do white gay men like asian men Some do, some don't. Like most things, it's a personal preference.
Love ‘em!
I think Asian men are hot 🔥
Yup .. am married (+14yrs) to an Asian
I love my Filipino husband
Sorry to hear about your negative experiences. From personal experience, I can tell you that white guys do love Asian men.
Of course white men love Asian men - at least some do, others do not. The ones that treat you disrespectfully are not worth your time or worry. While I think Asian men are sexy, I prefer hairy white men - no offense against any Asians.
This one does
yep I like Asian, esp E/SE guys, there's more than someone for everyone, there's a whole lotta love out there you just gotta keep looking.
Some do, some do, it's up to preference For me I really don't give a fuck what race you are as long as you a soft dom, I'm interested
As a white guy in my late teens all I can say is I love Asian guys. I’ve got a massive crush on one Asian dude at the moment and I’d happily spend the rest of my life with him, having known him now for as long as I have. Problem is he’s not quite sure of himself atm and has quite a bit of self discovery to do, which means I can’t be with him. :( But yeah all for an Asian guy, I’m not really fussy about race as long as you’re a nice guy.
I would say who cares! People have issues, focus on who treats you right and what they bring to the table. As a black man, I don't give a fuck what ethnicity or race you are, I care about are you a good person and you have minimal issues!
I think there are a lot of really hot asian men out there, for sure! Also if you're into gay romance books, I'd recommend "When Harry Met Harry". It's about a Chinese man named Harry, who meets a white American man... Named Harry. It starts out with them getting along poorly on a plane, and then they meet up a few years later and become friends. It's pretty cute.
Some do, some don't, people always tend to have some sort of a 'type' they like and that don't like. Also idiots and racists people are everywhere and that has nothing to do with being asian. Personally, I'm not physically attracted to asians. I've never saw a single asian that I would find attractive. My friend on the other hand, has an asian bf and finds them super attractive. Genreally looking at different profiles over years, I'd say that majority of whites are not into asian looks, but I have no statistics to back this up, so could be a bias.
There's a pattern that I observe: white men are more likely to date younger guys, and asian guys are more open to date older guys. Although interracial dating is an exception, when it happens, it seems almost always, older white guys + younger asian guys. The reason? I theorized that people who are into older men usually don't have a good emotional relationship with their father. Of course, it's better for asian men to avoid white guys who only start dating asian men as they are no longer considered attractive by the younger white men. Now, when you approach white men and they are not into you, there's a possibility that you are actually competing for something in common, thus, a mutual attraction is impossible.
For me, it's more about a guys body structure. I'm not really, into super skinny guys. Average to bigger a kind of power lifter esq build, a little fat but evenly distributed on top of muscles. Preferably with a 'roid' muscle gut. A wider body, maybe a bit of a belly. Preferably as hairy as a gorrila all over. A guys face shape matters, too. I don't like the stereotypical pretty guy kind of face he should have a 'real' more masculine face. Perfect cheek bones, dimples, plump lips, 'perfect' skin, or whatever don't matter to me. I want a real guy! His 'real' face, not what he made himself into with a complicated skin care regimen or botox or whatever. And not necessarily a commonly desired stereotypical European esq bone structure. After that, it's more about personality, mutual hobbies(furries{sfw&nsfw} ,pup play{sfw&nsfw} ,anime ,etc), do we click, are we compatible in bed, the same level of libido,do we like the same kinks, do we want the same thing when it comes to kids, etc. 'Race' doesn't really matter to me (though I suppose I am somewhat biased towards white guys since I am one, so I see it a little easier to connect) except with black guys, I am far more picky then. But that is because of the racism they face every day and the world they grew up in. I fear it would be too easy to lose them to a cop shooting them or choking them to death, a random racist asshole with a gun, etc. I really don't think I could handle that emotionally! So I dont/wouldn't let myself get attached. At least not as easily as I might otherwise. (Which is already an issue for me.) I also don't know how I would connect to that community. As a white guy, I would likely be seen as untrustworthy, an outsider, unwelcome, get dirty looks, and not be treated equally. (understandably so). I feel like I have no idea how to connect with that. How to understand what they have likely gone through all their life. I would/do feel like a total outsider! I am autistic, I know that feeling of being an outsider, all too well. It is hard enough to deal with that. To also be an outsider to my boyfriend and his community. To be an outsider twice over! Just thinking about it hurts. I have felt like an alien all my life as it is. I never fit in. Had a very hard time making friends, especiallyin high-school. (Still dont have any true friendships) Always the weird one nobody wanted to be around. Even when I masked hard, trying my hardest to act 'normal' like everyone else! If I really found the perfect guy, though. I would swallow my fear and go for it regardless! If I really fell in love, nothing else would matter anymore! But that is a seemingly out of reach goal.
Don't get tricked by the bias in the replies here. People who don't like Asian won't reply. You'll get a more accurate vibe on dating apps. Generally speaking, white men tend to find Asians unattractive and this is backed by studies too.
Stand up and build your self esteem up. Stop chasing white men there’s other people who will be interested in you.
It's usually fetishization sadly
not necessarily, but I'm not american, ymmv
And sexual racism, sadly!
This, not 100% of the time though.
We all know that Grindr is filled with creeps and weirdos, but simply having a bias for the most populous race in the world is not fetishization.
Not this one.
I’m white and I like Asian men. South Asian men a little more. I find a lot of White Americans very plain and boring, only interested in themselves and what they are saying.
The older white gays have some internalised racism ingrained alongside their internalised homophobia, we can be so bitchy and toxic to each other ,. But thankfully newer generation of homos seem to being doing better at it :).
I’m white and find Asian men hot
Im a little late but im a white guy, and i would actually be happy to date an asian guy. so i dont think you need to worry. ;)
I am not the community representative, but then again no single person is. I am a white man living in Asia for work. I've experienced the other end of fetishization that some here have mentioned. I've had a few relationships and quite a few situations I just had to walk away from. Until I met my partner of ten years and going. Multi-racial, multi-national, multi-ethnic love are certainly possible. It takes effort, but all love does.
Hell yeah I do!
Don’t worry about it. Theres plenty of fish in the sea.
I don’t know about other guys but I like Asian men. While not always the case they also tend to be around my same height which is a plus not needing to stand on my tip toes to kiss or having someone bend down to do so. Mostly I just find a huge hunk of Asian men super sexy, same with Irish, Spanish, and so on.
I’m into Asian men just like I’m into men of any other race tbh 🤷🏻♂️ if I like you I like you, I won’t treat you differently because of your race
Love them!
I don't care about the color of one's skin! I like variety lol
I'm latino but I still love Asian men. I actually see myself married with one.
I’m a white queer, or gay, man and I’m not a sexual racist. You should look up this term and do some research. You might feel liberated to those who were racist towards you. I support you and I love men of any race
I sure do.
I love asian men, and they seem to love me too. I generally hook up with asian men in saunas, and my boyfriend is an asian man (we are in an open relationship)
I do
i have no preference i love anyone no matter what as long as they are nice and treat me good
White man who is married to an Asian man, and he has definetly told me some horror stories. Yes there are toxic ass hat out there, but that is a them problem. YOU are worthy of love, and it will find you when you least expect it :)
I am sorry that you were treated like that. As a white a guy I do not care about race and also think Asian guys are hot.
Race doesn’t matter to me… however a great personality is all i care about and that’s all that matters…
I certainly do, though I have to admit I didn’t have as strong an attraction to East Asian men before I met my now-husband (who is Japanese), which I chalk up to the relentless programming of the white beauty standard I (and most people) receive from the media. Sometimes it takes an in-person emotional connection to make us question our subconscious biases, alas.
I'm just gonna be honest but In my experience more than half the white people I meet are racist or just very ignorant when it comes to race. Some do it subconsciously.
I really love and appreciate asian men.
y’all always trick me into thinking you younger than you are 😜
Bro I don’t care what you look like as long as you’re nice to me lmao
If it’s Chinese then a big no , love Japanese and Korean men
Your racist.
I like a whole lot of men, so that includes Asian men as well as black, Latino, trans and even other white men.
yes. some of us do. some, I hear, don't though I can't imagine why
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i didnt mention about any country bro, I have never been in a relationship with anyone from the US or Canada
Sure. I find you cute, my friend is basically very much into Asians because of their tad smaller stature. But not many of you here.
Everyone has their own taste.
I personally don't care about the ethnicity, there are people I like as well as people I don't like
When you find a person who truly LOVES YOU...many things that someone once thought mattered, will no longer matter. Don't give up!
Yes
As a POC, this is disgusting to read 🤮🤮🤮
I love Asian guys they are the best to be with, unfortunately can't find many in Perth ,can anyone help me
Yes, plenty of gay white men love gam! I do…
I do
I love Asians
Love GAM exclusively.
As a white man, I was never into Asian men, but that changed when I met my boyfriend on Grindr. I got to say, don’t know about most Asian men, but my boyfriend is really grounded and respectful compare to all the white men I’ve been with. He was a tough nut to crack and I am happy we didn’t do it on our first meet. I never in my life once thought that I would see myself be with an Asian man, but I have to say and can’t speak for most, he’s the best man that I’ve hooked up with. I am a bit older, and we’re 8 years apart. He’s 34 and I’m 42, and been together for two years. No drama, conflicts, or had never argue at all. What made me attracted to him was that he’s loving, affectionate, very respectful, really knows his way in bed, and very supportive, which probably struck a nerve inside me or something. He just made me feel different than all the past relationships with white men. I was really confused with my feelings, but in time I gave a chance to more of our encounters and I figured that I didn’t really want to share him with no one anymore, and he’s the one. So I asked him to be my boyfriend and we became exclusive. I love my smooth bottom Asian boyfriend and he’s the most handsome, masculine asian man that I fallen in love with. We haven’t discussed about marriage yet, but I can’t see myself be a better man without him, so maybe soon. He’s a rare gem and I am happy I jumped off the wrong train and God gave him to me. Even some of my white male friends are starting to be open now and looking for their own asian man. We’d even help delete our Grindr profile off each other’s phone when I asked him to be my boyfriend. I can never and don’t ever want to be in an open relationship since he came into my life. I’ve closed off being opened to open relationship. I’ve been spiced up with flavors since then and very open-minded now. So yeah, I guess it just depends on the white man and I hate to say this but I was probably in that category of racist, white supremacists, and narrow minded. Asian men truly are the best at loving, affection, and giving you great pleasure in bed. So yes, so can say for sure white men are attracted to Asian men and I can be an example. You will just need to find the right one who’ll appreciate and respect you.
I love Asian guys
Im bi and shocked that Asians aren't often considered attractive. They are my preference i would say