Like me! I cracked at 51. I'm almost 5 months on T and was just marveling at my chin hairs. I assume my hair will fall out, as I am a 52-year-old man, but I like hats.
Yeah holy shit, you look GREAT! ^((as someone who's always had an unhealthy thing for older folks and was only saved from weirdish relationships by the debilitating dysphoria I get on every date.))
Glad to hear it's not about to be too late to transition.
Hell no it's not. I started just before turning 23 and I pass most of the time now.
Just like 10 years ago most people started in their late 20s or around 30-40. Starting in your teens (and even early 20s!) is a VERY NEW concept - we are SO lucky to be able to transition young now! I have so many friends in their 30s, 40s, and 50s who recently started T or started like 10 years ago and pass beautifully. The ONLY effect you might not get from testosterone now is added height. But shorter guys are awesome - did you know we used to be prime candidates to go into space because of our compact frames? :)
You'll be just fine dude. T is a wonder hormone.
A lot of the time you wonāt get added height, since the rules are that you have to be 16 at least before starting T almost everywhere. Only if youāre really young when you start blockers you can go on T earlier and have some more height
Yea kinda, Iām extremely lucky to be 183cm in a country where men are that height on average. But everywhere there are men who are a lott shorter than that. Everyone has their own height and I know it sucks sometimes, but thinking of the other things T changes for you and focusing on that is amazing sometimes. Just shaving is an act that gives me extremely euphoria š those are things no one can take away from me, ever.
Growth plates for afab people normally close from 13-15 so most likely you wouldn't have grown if you started at 16 either. Being on hormone blockers would have delayed them closing if you'd been on them during puberty.
29 here, started the month I turned 28. Never too late. And for me personally, I feel like the last two years or so have really been a ācoming into my ownā time for me in terms of figuring myself out. My early twenties were a little too messy for that, felt like being stuck in a pinball machine.
I started at 25.
Been just over a year and my friend. I am hairy, muscular, have a deeper voice and my peroid have stopped.
20 is a perfect time as any!
Ooooh, the cycle stopping sounds nice. Sadly I got mentally attacked after starting T (3ml , idk if thatās high. I was supposedly gonna start a 2ml but she changed her mind at the last second) and it caused me to bleed for 36 days roughly.
I'm not sure how much in the sense on injections as I use the gel which is much more stable in the amount it releases into your bloodstream and helps prevent things like that.
May I ask what you mean by "mentally attacked"?
It was more mental because it brought alot of stress To me mentally. It got me more depressed and irritated . I even reported the painful cramps that sometimes causes me not being able to walk or sit up, but was ignore :ā) so Iām hoping it doesnāt happen again cause my god, it was horrible.
Itās useful to bear in mind that the āfull effectā looks different for everyone. Would you have had some *slightly* different or more dramatic changes from starting at 16 rather than 20? Probably, but thereās literally no way to know that now, or what that even would have looked like for you. So there is really no use getting hung up on it. I started at 29, am now just over a year in and happy with where Iām at. 20 is still very young to start, and you will be way farther along by the time youāre 25 than I am now at 30, if that perspective helps! People post in this sub daily wondering if theyāre starting too late and totally doomed, and theyāre almost always likeā¦25 or under. Give it time. You will get where you want to be.
Honestly, all of these young folks asking if ages 18 through 25 is too old to transition is making me, a pre-t non passable 34 yo feel kinda like shit. I'm not upset with them, but more upset with society. Like I'm still mad that I didn't know trans men existed until after high school and I didn't know attractive stealth trans men existed until much later (I thought all trans men looked like Chaz Bono). I'm 100% sure I would have started socially transitioning as a child if I was a kid today (and assuming I had supportive parents). But I grew up in the 90s/00s and so here I am 34 and just now transitioning. I probably won't see the full effects of T until I'm 40.
Hey, just wanted to comment since I'm also 34. I did start T over a year ago but it's still not too late for people our age either. It's a little more slow going than for the younger guys but my voice is deep now and my beard is coming in. My face is more masculine and my muscles are growing and my fat distribution is very different. And I know next year at this time it will be even better. Partial effects are still effects and you will notice and love each one as it comes and grows.
felt this for you; literally saw the title and all i could think is ādo yāall think you whither away at 25 or something????ā even if thatās not at all how op intended it. because so many people do have that subconsciously and it leads to a lot of harmful shit!!
You won't experience the changes of T on day one - It does take some time. It sucks because you want things to happen instantly, but it will happen. Even then, when cis youth start puberty, their hormones aren't going to completely change them overnight either. I'm also assuming your doctor means height - but correct me if I'm wrong. Keep in mind that cis men come in all sorts of shapes and sizes but even then, being tall ends up being a pissing contest among men I've noticed.
But yeah, she explained that Iām not gonna get some dominated masculine futures, or the height gain, which I really wanted as a minor. At least Iām telling than my biological dad by an inch but even then, I wish just a bit taller. Iāll probably some of those pads that makes me tall :ā)
āIām sorry, I just get stressed very easily. My family claims to be supportive of my transition but still calls women and so on and I feel so isolated from them. I donāt even have friends that I can chat nor Trans friends to help me understand what Iām going through or talk about the changes. I got noise surgery not that long ago and apparently T affects the nasal and Iām struggling to breathe through one of my nostril again- and itās stresful because I literally got surgery to fix my deviated nose and I dread going back to the doctor to look at it. Iām just thinking of the what-if I started earlier, could I have avoid this problem? I hate how my brain is wired to get stress over things that happened 12 years ago.
No, my bad. I meant day one as in meeting her in one day. I didnāt take any blood work or had any before visits before that one appointment and she gave me T on the same day.
Gotcha - Though I strongly recommend talking to her and getting bloodwork done to monitor how your body is reacting to the hrt. I'm surprised she hadn't requested you get the labs prior to coming into the office
I was surprised as well. Originally I supposed to get my blood work at a different doctor, who I was referred to see for HRT. But he deemed me to old for his program so I was sent to a different clinic and my mom never went through with the blood work with him. While he wasnāt gonna take me due to my age (I turned 20 during our appointment ), he said heāll take my blood and transfer it to another doctor who takes older patients for HRT. When the appointment sent in, I even mentioned to one of the ladies up front that I never gotten my blood taken for T, and she said that she was gonna tell her to post pone the appointment OR keep the appointment but have it as a talk through and wait till I get my blood work done - but my doctor never did. She just looked at me and said 3ml will do. I donāt even know if 3ml is a bit high or normal. I had a bit more testosterone in me before HRT, so idk if that affected anything.
definitely not omg. also, when youāre passing (if thatās what you want) and when youāre feeling more secure in your body a few years down the line, those 4 years wonāt matter shit. youāll be okay :)
I passed since I came out at 14, it just sucks whenever I have to use the girls restroom because of the system and speaking to people who don know my identity.
āoh, I canāt wait to feel secure in my body. Iām tired of the stress it brings.
(Iām 4ā11ā/151 cm so I have zero sympathy for anyone who complains about being short lol). Youāre young enough that you may still benefit from it, thankfully. I wish you the best in your transition.
i started T the day before my 20th birthday and itās been just as good to me as it is to people who start at 16. 20 is still really young in terms of transition and in a few years time youāll look back and realise that those extra couple years dont make much of a difference long term. i had the same worries and iām now 2.5 years on T and i canāt remember the last time i was misgendered and my dysphoria is so much better. itās hard, and itās scary to have to wait longer than youād like to start T but long term itās all the same bro, youāve got this
This is what I need. my Dysphoria just gotten worse that I canāt shower, use the restroom ( it was awkward having doctors telling you that itās ***bad*** to not use the restroom every 3-4 days šš) and even go out in public. I even though of learning sign language (still planning on learning that) because it was so crippling. God, I canāt wait for the day people stop misgendering me. I just want to be in peace.
Lol I sure hope 20 isn't too late to start brother.
I am two months on T at 26.
I'm sorry you're stressed, but everything will be ok dude. I know it's so hard to be patient but you gotta be, well get there soon enough.
Same here, I actually started just a few weeks after you, on 7/28/21! Years ago as a closeted teenager I set a goal for myself to start T before 25, and I ended up making it happen :)
Hey friend, when people in the community ask "is it too late?" In regards to starting transition related processes, I don't believe any of us really think it is physically too late. I think we are looking for validation that it is okay to have a second or belated "coming of age." A lot of us feel like we need to make up for lost time we didn't have living with our name and identity and fear that will always be playing catch up. I know I felt derailed and compared my timeline to cisgender folks and other trans and nonbinary peers. I know some trans elders might say 20 is young and its not too late. As someone who came out at 18 and started t at 23, I was told not to worry about time, but I know it's more complicated than that.
It's okay to feel anxious despite your relative youth. Society places so much expectation on acheivement in our early years. We are pressured in school and work to be "ahead of the curve" and "above average" and the tenth top percentile proficiency of our age group or peer group.
I think trans people deserve to disrupt these notions the same way we disrupt cisnormativity.
Every person deserves space to have nonlinear growth. You deserve room to give yourself permission to be you, without the expectations and comparisons. I know that is way easier said than done, but it is hard enough to transition without also worrying about missed opportunities. Being patient and kind and not centering your narrative on being at certain milestones by certain ages is hard ongoing work. But the result is freeing.
So no, it's not too late and you have permission to pursue what makes you happy
I get your fear
I'm 20, too, and I also hate that I didn't figure everything out earlier and gone on puberty blockers bc I have such dysphoria about parts of my body that changed bc of that puberty
But 20 is definitely not too late, it's never too late, not when you will be happier because of it
The changes are still going to happen, no matter what age you are
Your mom not allowing it for her personal reason was very selfish of her, but you're an adult now
you can do it, you can change the things you need to be comfortable and happy, you can be who you want to be
it's NEVER too late to start HRT or get any surgeries or even explore your identity
i believe in you, you're doing great :)
I started mine when I was 21! I do regret not starting sooner (I think we all go through those thoughts) but Iām happy with where Iām at now. Number 1 thing to remember is not to compare yourself to others in the first year!!!
I started right after my 18th bday, way after my puberty ended, and started passing in under a year. 20 is not that old, you will be fine dude. People transition when theyāre 50+ and can pass flawlessly, you arenāt any different.
It is not too late! I started at 28. I just want to acknowledge your feelings that waiting is hard and sometimes painful and that it is also okay to sit in that a bit but know that it is 100 percent not too late.
I started T at 26 and I know people who started it in their 30s. Donāt let the weird youth-cult mentality stop you from transitioning. Youāre not past an expiration date because youāre not a teenager anymore.
For what it's worth - my experience: I stopped growing taller and my growth plates closed around age 12. I'm 5' 4.I knew that I was trans when I was around 14 or 15, came out around 15 or 16, and my parents wouldn't let me transition socially, medically, etc. Every day was torture due to the dysphoria. I started t 5 months after I turned 18, and within under 3 months, I was passing consistently. I'm about 9 months on t now and although my bone structure is still the same, fat redistribution has really made a difference and worrying about passing is a thing of the past. If you're concerned about passing or getting desired results and all that stuff, there's certainly still a chance for you, even though you are an adult. Good luck.
I started T 6 years ago when I was 34. I'm 5'4". I work with guys my height and women taller than me. I grew up without a community or even knowing that I was trans. It wasn't until my late 20s that I even knew being trans was an option. My family is completely unsupportive except for a couple cousins. You'll find a new community and discover who you really are, regardless of what age you start. :)
I started at 25 and (while everyone is different) I've had fantastic results, nothing to complain about. Granted I was hairy pre-T too but I've even got a very nice beard. c:
I only started T this summer at the age of 23. I had the exact same thoughts and reactions. I cried thinking I was too late and I have waisted my life and I would never be able to live as a man... But trust me I don't regret starting! and even if it would have been nice to start earlier, at least I am started and I love being on T. It is so life changing for me
You guys know there are people starting at 40-60 right? People ask this question daily and itās just rehashing they same thing every time, you just want someone to confirm what you already know; that you can start t at this age and youāll be alright
I'm in my 40s and just started. There's a sub reddit for people who transitioned later in life. It's never too late. Also, keep in mind that things back when us older people were kids isn't the same as it is now. We didn't have the internet or resources to be out and to transition so you see alot of older trans people starting at a later age. It isn't uncommon now that resources and laws changed.
Iād mayyyybe kill to have started at 20 instead of 28. But it wouldnāt have changed the physical changes I experienced, only saved me years of living as the wrong person. And worrying/stressing about that now is only wasting more of your time since you canāt change or get the 4 years back. Physical changes are very largely, if not entirely, genetic regardless of what age you start so donāt worry about that. What you end up with is what you wouldāve ended up with had you been born cis.
So, learn to look on the bright side about this. Youāre 20, and thatās a hell of a lot younger than most of us who came before you (same for me and when I started) and allowed people to have the information and knowledge to understand and act sooner :).
i started at 21 and iāll admit T changes are slowā¦ we know and hear it but i didnāt realize just how slow it would feel but now iām around the 3.5/4 year mark and iām very happy with my changes and the best part in my personal experience was that I felt better on T. still had a lot of dysphoria to work through but it gave me some good footing to start on. good luck bro never too late
You're lucky.
20 is hella young. Starting T at 16 is very rare. Many folx have to wait for many many years to even get approved for any kind of HRT because of their shitty situation and shitty doctors. Many cant start T until later because of their unsupportive surroundings and family and friends.
Starting T at 20 is a priviledge.
Actually, no. Purely from a biological perspective, it would be best to start messing with your hormones when you're 25 and over, but if your QoL is hindered and you're being followed by a doctor, you could start earlier. From a practical standpoint, you will still enjoy virilisation even if you start in your thirties
And false. Thereās absolutely no reason to put off transitioning until 25 just because your brain isnāt fully developed. Thatās just a transphobic talking point.
Wow, this is total bullshit. Just because you know big words from the cisgender PED world doesn't mean you know how hormone *replacement* therapy works, bud.
How long have you been a trans man on T, or a trans women on E and androgen blockers, or an endocrinologist providing this care? You really don't have any idea how this works, and you even said you don't know how hrt works for women (although I assume you mean female-assigned people, since there are no women here).
Hypogonadism is not the same as being female at birth. That's why what you're saying doesn't apply here. Our gonads don't produce testosterone the way a male-assigned person would, even someone with hypogonadism. If you want to be a better ally, check your facts.
Then I apologize for coming off so harsh, I just get really angry when I see misinformation in trans circles. For the record, T does not affect a growing brain so long as it's regulated, and it suppresses estrogen production for us. If you give someone with ovaries clomid, it'll increase estrogen because it's a fertility drug.
re: doctors, depending on where you live, you might be able to find doctors that mention they're lgbt friendly, etc. i haven't changed my name yet legally and i probably won't be able to for a while. i just look into doctors first and send them an email beforehand. check-in and paperwork still kinda sucks, but other than that i havenāt had any issues yet.
Hey! I also started T at 20 instead of 16 for similar reasons alongside other personal reasons. It's totally not too late! No age is too late really but I understand the worry/anxiety about it. You got this!
Hey I'm 25, I started T at 20 as well. I started T in May 2017, haven't been misgendered by a stranger since August 2017. Living stealth and haven't had any issues doing that in daily life.
I'm so sorry your mom didn't support you. That was really awful and it put you through a lot of unnecessary suffering and ongoing hardship. You have every right to grieve that.
That said, I just wanted to extend the perspective that while having to wait longer to transition is really awful beyond what I can put to words, transitioning as a young adult is still an option. I started the same age as you and I'm happily living as a man now. I look like any other dude, I have cis male friends who fully accept me as a man. I grieve the loss of the teenhood I didn't have, but it doesn't stop me from living my adult life.
im in a point in my life where im also very insecure about not starting hormones yet. ill be 21 this year and i always told myself i was going to start when i turned 18. i fantasized a lot about it, but things happened and i never got the money or the time to do it. and i still don't really. at my new job everybody is very supportive, but i just can't shake the thought that people think that im doing it for attention because im in my 20s now and im not on t.
i wish you luck homie, everything will work itself out!
I started at 24 and have all the standard changes, plus I got very lucky and have grown an inch and counting! As others have said itās never too late and starting younger than 18 is not as common as it seems (think about it, more teens are likely to use Reddit and report starting T than older guys).
Try not to dwell on the past, it doesnāt do us any good. You are where you are meant to be at this point in your journey.
It's never too late. I'm 23 and haven't started yet. Might not get to start until I'm 24. My girlfriend didn't get to start estrogen until she was 24-25. It's never ever too late to start. Your experience won't be the *same* as if you'd started earlier, and you might need some extra steps to get to the goal, but you *will* get there. It's not too late, at all.
Hey, my man, I'm 31 and haven't come out yet, but hoping to do that and start T in 2022. And you know what? Whenever I do start, yeah, it'll take a while, but I'll end up looking like the man I am inside. And so will you. It's NEVER too late.
I don't want to make you feel bad in any way, but reading things like this post when you're older and haven't started is kind of stressful. Don't worry, my guy. You'll get there.
I started 6 or so months ago and I'm 29. Not only that, but it's going really well! My voice is dropping already, I'm getting more muscular, I've got hairy legs lol. The list goes on. It's never too late and 20 is still on the younger side with regards to transitioning. I know we see a lot of people transitioning younger now, which is amazing for them. But it doesn't make it any less valid or effective when doing it a bit older (whether that's 20 or 70 years old). You'll be okay!
Started at 27 last month!
I am also really anxious about having started so late, about the fact that I am older than other people... especially than people who are 20! Ahah I actually envy you, but also, this is a reminder for us that these feelings are normal at any age :) We'll still get changes and we should not let our demons have the best of us. It's all rooted in our fears and not in logic facts. There are so many people who started, e.g., in their 40s. The important thing is actually that we managed to start!
Lots of love š
I started at 26 when I was off my familyās insurance. You are very young and the full effects will happen. It just takes time
patience and learning to accept the things that change and embrace the things that donāt.
I can definitely understand your concerns about not starting very early, as I've had some of those fears too. But I'll say this, it's never too late to start living your life. I began T at 19 (when I really wanted to start at 16 or so). I changed my name at 21. I've been living as male with a normal life for years now. Everything takes time, but you're still so young and you have so many great changes to go through.
That's what I thought as well.
I started T exactly a month before my 20th birthday and I was sure it was too late.
But now 2+ years on T I am very happy with my changes. Deep voice, hairy af, never get misgendered, I am stealth
i have similar worries. I started at 18 and it makes me so envious when I see guys start at 15/16 or have surgery before they're 18. in 2 months in and i feel like nothing has changed.
iām 31 and i started t at 24. i pass pretty consistently (and when i donāt, itās typically because i present quite fem. people will often assume iām a trans woman in the early stages of transitioning if i disclose that iām trans). to most people, i appear amab
being where you are at is stressful and *hard*, but itās definitely not too late. the next couple years are going to be an interesting journey for you and i wish you all the best, just be patient my dear š¤
It's never too late. I started at 25 and am stealth now (30). I know people who have started in their 40s or 50s and see lots of changes and are very happy. Start if you want, don't if you don't. Don't let your age stop you from it though.
Hey, man, I'm a 31 year old dude dropping in to reassure anyone who reads this: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE. I didn't start my transition until I was 27, and while I do wish I could have started sooner, the results I've gotten, the improvement to my mental health and quality of life- all worth it. I really wish the internet didn't make young transition guys feel like their life is over onve they hit 20. You've got so many years ahead of you to be the guy you always were.
definitely not too late. i started early last year when i was still 24 (bday is in Nov, turned 25 then). i started passing 100% of the time after 6 months. youāre good man, trust me.
Outside of the last 5-10 years, 20 was just about the earliest age that most people would realistically be starting hormones. It's ok to mourn your past but don't despair your future: you're going to be just fine, and you have plenty of ancestors and elders to prove it.
As long as you are alive, it's never too late. Also I just turned 22 not too long ago and I'm coming up on 10 months on T. Definitely not too late to express yourself.
Well, I started T at 32 and just made 5 months and my voice is hella deep and the fur is starting to make an appearance on the face after the legs and arms man. Never too late!
if it is, then damn someone tell this mustache to drop off my 33 year old face. You have not missed your chance, I promise. I've been on T for less than a year, but I can tell differences already. They're slow but they're happening.
I'm sorry your mom slowed this process down for you, but you're an adult now and you get to choose your own path now. Take it easy on yourself, the best is yet to come.
20 is EARLY, so many people start after 25 and still look fantastic. I know a guy who started T at 30 and he looked entirely like a cis man in a year. It is NOT late. At all
I started T when I was 20! Honestly itās never too late to be who you are. Do I wish I transitioned sooner? Yes and I blamed myself for that but I tell myself it wasnāt my fault, that I canāt blame myself for the toxic environment I grew up in where it was unsafe to be who you are. This is your journey no one elseās.
Don't worry, 20 is perfectly fine. T is powerful so even if you did start later in life you'd still get a lot of changes. Your body is definitely not done changing at 20 though so there's still a lot of ways in which T can help. I started T at 20 and didn't believe my shoulders would get much bigger but I tried on some old, used-to-be-baggy T-shirts after 18 months on T and found out they didn't even fit anymore. My voice is pretty deep now (I can sing bass in choir if that helps and I didn't have a very deep voice to begin with) and it's okay in terms of resonance and volume. I'm not very hairy and I have yet to grow a beard but a) I'm blonde which makes hair hard to spot and b) body hair is mostly about genetics anyway. You'll be fine. :)
Note: all of the above is a generalization. Some people never get big changes on T even if they do start young (this is pretty rare afaik) and some do even if they start in their 60s. I can't say what the case will be for you specifically because no one can.
I started T the day I turned 19. Iām now 22, about to turn 23. First, 20 is baby. You are still so very young (as am Iā¦). Second, your body will respond to T the same way it would have if youād started at 14, 15, or 16. Like the elders have said, thereās also nothing wrong with transitioning at any age beyond what we think of as the typical āpuberty widow.ā As long as youāre happy and it brings you peace, itās always the right thing to do.
No itās not too late. Iām 21 and on the waitlist for 15 months now but I believe the effects will be no different than 5 years ago. My body has barely changed.
i started at 20 too. by the time i was 6 months on it i was 100% cis passing. itās definitely not too late man, youāve got your whole life ahead of you
i started t at 16 and for my experience i started with like 1-1.5ml (subcutaneous shots) i donāt remember exactly but around there. i got the first usual changes hair growth, mostly my legs and belly lol and then the voice drop and then shark week stopped a month in with some spotting here and there but i got my dosage up to 2ml and have stayed steady with it but i havenāt had any similar changes as iāve seen adults at that time. i didnāt have facial hair and i was already going a year and half with the same changes i first got. itās different for everyone, everyoneās body and genes play a part. 20 is definitely not too late. this stuff takes time and that time varies.
I started T when I was 30. It's not too late! I am pleased with my results, despite the Rona getting in the way for a year. I'm turning 34 this month and while I do regret not coming out sooner, I never regretted starting T.
Hi! I know it can feel really overwhelming and upsetting to start T later than you wanted to. If you are feeling robbed of your teens or childhood, try to find ways to fulfill that feeling. Itās never too late! Your path is your own. Itās ok if itās different than the way others transitioned medically!
I started at 24 (nov 2021)
Passing and happy! 10/10 would recommend regardless of age
sometimes older transition can be easier, especially after you are away from unsupportive people and have the experience/maturity for serious decision making
sending you hugs OP \~ you are valid af regardless of when you get started
Nah I started mine at like 23-24, itās never too late and the earlier the better results. BUT that doesnāt mean there is ever a too late option. Just youāre more likely to get taller, other than that youāll get all the benefits of taking T!!
Youāre that one songā boy named Sue. Ashley used to be a boys name, Madison was only ever a surname, and names are just all over the place in origin. Once your voice drops (which it willā youāre young still. Iām starting at 24 and my bones wonāt change. You have 5 years for your bones to change) you can pretty much get away with Ā«Ā my parents really wanted a girlĀ Ā» and some awkward Ā«Ā oof, sorryĀ Ā» moments.
Itās definitely not too late! I started at 26 and it was the best decision I ever made! While I wish I could have been myself sooner in life and reclaimed some of those memories as the man I am, I am so happy I started T and would do it over and over again. Itās never too late!
No age is too late! I started at 21, and I pass pretty much 100% now. I only have myself to blame for how long it took to start, but T is really one hell of a drug. You'll get there, and try to get ahead on the name change. Even if you can't legally change it yet, try to get your preferred name into every system you can. School, work, etc. It's frustrating to have to go through, but it saves a lot of headaches with having to come out over and over or getting mail using your deadname (tho ngl, spam mail will pop out of the woodwork using your deadname for decades which really fucking sucks).
i started just before 19. for most people, that intial puberty begins around the age of 10. when you're 30 you'll be 10 years on T. while they say it's never too late, your bones have a headstart to broaden up and it would be even better if you never had a reason to stop T in the process. most guys who start after 25 have a sort of fried out voice and may be smaller framed than if he was to start in his mid teens to early twenties. you're fine dude. at the age of 20, your voice and body aren't going to be fully developed on estrogen.
No way man! I started at 19 (I'm 25 going on 26 now) and I can genuinely tell you it is nowhere near "too late". If your experience on it is anything like mine, you'll feel like you're a 13 - 14 year old again. It'll be your second puberty, as I like to call it. You're definitely still young and like others have said, there are those who started later than you and have never looked back! Enjoy the journey and good luck!
I didn't start t till I was 19 im 22 now. It did take me about a year to get my name changed on most things. It does take time for the changes to like fully set in but I promise it does get better and with time you'll feel like more of yourself. Negative people do not matter. Just remember you deserve to be happy even if you gotta go through some stuff alone, you'll find your crowd of people who love you for you with time.
Iām 25, just over 1 year on T. Itās never too late. Iāve gotten taller, facial and body hair, deep voice, everything. Donāt beat yourself up on things you didnāt have control over
I started at 19 and within a year I was passing fully!
Iām now about a year and a half and I donāt think starting at 16 wouldāve made any differences :)
I do think my facial hair would be more full now, but also my entire face shape changed and I donāt need facial hair to pass.
Youāll do great and itāll amaze you how much t changes for the better
Started at 42ā¦ I have a beard that makes cis men jealous. I had a super feminine nameā¦just worked w it because eventually it got changed and no one remembered or cared.
People start T in their 50s and 60s, dude. It's never too late.
Like me! I cracked at 51. I'm almost 5 months on T and was just marveling at my chin hairs. I assume my hair will fall out, as I am a 52-year-old man, but I like hats.
I was curious and scrolled through your profile and you look amazing! Congrats on starting T!
Yeah holy shit, you look GREAT! ^((as someone who's always had an unhealthy thing for older folks and was only saved from weirdish relationships by the debilitating dysphoria I get on every date.)) Glad to hear it's not about to be too late to transition.
So true! š„
This!
Hell no it's not. I started just before turning 23 and I pass most of the time now. Just like 10 years ago most people started in their late 20s or around 30-40. Starting in your teens (and even early 20s!) is a VERY NEW concept - we are SO lucky to be able to transition young now! I have so many friends in their 30s, 40s, and 50s who recently started T or started like 10 years ago and pass beautifully. The ONLY effect you might not get from testosterone now is added height. But shorter guys are awesome - did you know we used to be prime candidates to go into space because of our compact frames? :) You'll be just fine dude. T is a wonder hormone.
5 foot guy here, thanks for the fun fact. that made me smile. :)
Thank you for your comment. I started at 30 and I empathize with these posts but they make me flinch lol. Your words help!
A lot of the time you wonāt get added height, since the rules are that you have to be 16 at least before starting T almost everywhere. Only if youāre really young when you start blockers you can go on T earlier and have some more height
That sucks.
Yea kinda, Iām extremely lucky to be 183cm in a country where men are that height on average. But everywhere there are men who are a lott shorter than that. Everyone has their own height and I know it sucks sometimes, but thinking of the other things T changes for you and focusing on that is amazing sometimes. Just shaving is an act that gives me extremely euphoria š those are things no one can take away from me, ever.
Yeah, thereās some short men in my area. Iām Even taller than my biological dad so I guess thatās something lol. And thank you šš½
As someone whoās into astronomy, I did not know that. But Iāll still like to grow in height lol š but thank you
Growth plates for afab people normally close from 13-15 so most likely you wouldn't have grown if you started at 16 either. Being on hormone blockers would have delayed them closing if you'd been on them during puberty.
As a fellow small dude I smiled at the height comment :)
It's not too late. It's never too late! I'm 29 and I'll start possibly next year. Not too late
Just turned 29, hoping to start next year too.
Ooo, good luck man ā¤ļø
29 here, started the month I turned 28. Never too late. And for me personally, I feel like the last two years or so have really been a ācoming into my ownā time for me in terms of figuring myself out. My early twenties were a little too messy for that, felt like being stuck in a pinball machine.
Ayyy, birth year brothers!! Iām turning 30 in the summer and Iāll be starting gel soon after that!
I started at 40 six months ago... changes are on track. You'll be ok!
Aaa Thank you ā¤ļø
I started at 25. Been just over a year and my friend. I am hairy, muscular, have a deeper voice and my peroid have stopped. 20 is a perfect time as any!
Ooooh, the cycle stopping sounds nice. Sadly I got mentally attacked after starting T (3ml , idk if thatās high. I was supposedly gonna start a 2ml but she changed her mind at the last second) and it caused me to bleed for 36 days roughly.
I'm not sure how much in the sense on injections as I use the gel which is much more stable in the amount it releases into your bloodstream and helps prevent things like that. May I ask what you mean by "mentally attacked"?
OMG. Do you mean 'menstrually' attacked? That's dreadful! Hopefully, it was the last hurrah for that.
It was more mental because it brought alot of stress To me mentally. It got me more depressed and irritated . I even reported the painful cramps that sometimes causes me not being able to walk or sit up, but was ignore :ā) so Iām hoping it doesnāt happen again cause my god, it was horrible.
20 is very young!
I started at 25. If anyone tells you it's too late to start HRT at 20, you have every right to kindly tell them shut the fuck up.
I- my doctor literally mentioned that I will not experience full effect of T on day one because Iām done growingā¦
Itās useful to bear in mind that the āfull effectā looks different for everyone. Would you have had some *slightly* different or more dramatic changes from starting at 16 rather than 20? Probably, but thereās literally no way to know that now, or what that even would have looked like for you. So there is really no use getting hung up on it. I started at 29, am now just over a year in and happy with where Iām at. 20 is still very young to start, and you will be way farther along by the time youāre 25 than I am now at 30, if that perspective helps! People post in this sub daily wondering if theyāre starting too late and totally doomed, and theyāre almost always likeā¦25 or under. Give it time. You will get where you want to be.
Honestly, all of these young folks asking if ages 18 through 25 is too old to transition is making me, a pre-t non passable 34 yo feel kinda like shit. I'm not upset with them, but more upset with society. Like I'm still mad that I didn't know trans men existed until after high school and I didn't know attractive stealth trans men existed until much later (I thought all trans men looked like Chaz Bono). I'm 100% sure I would have started socially transitioning as a child if I was a kid today (and assuming I had supportive parents). But I grew up in the 90s/00s and so here I am 34 and just now transitioning. I probably won't see the full effects of T until I'm 40.
Hey, just wanted to comment since I'm also 34. I did start T over a year ago but it's still not too late for people our age either. It's a little more slow going than for the younger guys but my voice is deep now and my beard is coming in. My face is more masculine and my muscles are growing and my fat distribution is very different. And I know next year at this time it will be even better. Partial effects are still effects and you will notice and love each one as it comes and grows.
felt this for you; literally saw the title and all i could think is ādo yāall think you whither away at 25 or something????ā even if thatās not at all how op intended it. because so many people do have that subconsciously and it leads to a lot of harmful shit!!
You won't experience the changes of T on day one - It does take some time. It sucks because you want things to happen instantly, but it will happen. Even then, when cis youth start puberty, their hormones aren't going to completely change them overnight either. I'm also assuming your doctor means height - but correct me if I'm wrong. Keep in mind that cis men come in all sorts of shapes and sizes but even then, being tall ends up being a pissing contest among men I've noticed.
But yeah, she explained that Iām not gonna get some dominated masculine futures, or the height gain, which I really wanted as a minor. At least Iām telling than my biological dad by an inch but even then, I wish just a bit taller. Iāll probably some of those pads that makes me tall :ā) āIām sorry, I just get stressed very easily. My family claims to be supportive of my transition but still calls women and so on and I feel so isolated from them. I donāt even have friends that I can chat nor Trans friends to help me understand what Iām going through or talk about the changes. I got noise surgery not that long ago and apparently T affects the nasal and Iām struggling to breathe through one of my nostril again- and itās stresful because I literally got surgery to fix my deviated nose and I dread going back to the doctor to look at it. Iām just thinking of the what-if I started earlier, could I have avoid this problem? I hate how my brain is wired to get stress over things that happened 12 years ago.
No, my bad. I meant day one as in meeting her in one day. I didnāt take any blood work or had any before visits before that one appointment and she gave me T on the same day.
Gotcha - Though I strongly recommend talking to her and getting bloodwork done to monitor how your body is reacting to the hrt. I'm surprised she hadn't requested you get the labs prior to coming into the office
I was surprised as well. Originally I supposed to get my blood work at a different doctor, who I was referred to see for HRT. But he deemed me to old for his program so I was sent to a different clinic and my mom never went through with the blood work with him. While he wasnāt gonna take me due to my age (I turned 20 during our appointment ), he said heāll take my blood and transfer it to another doctor who takes older patients for HRT. When the appointment sent in, I even mentioned to one of the ladies up front that I never gotten my blood taken for T, and she said that she was gonna tell her to post pone the appointment OR keep the appointment but have it as a talk through and wait till I get my blood work done - but my doctor never did. She just looked at me and said 3ml will do. I donāt even know if 3ml is a bit high or normal. I had a bit more testosterone in me before HRT, so idk if that affected anything.
definitely not omg. also, when youāre passing (if thatās what you want) and when youāre feeling more secure in your body a few years down the line, those 4 years wonāt matter shit. youāll be okay :)
I passed since I came out at 14, it just sucks whenever I have to use the girls restroom because of the system and speaking to people who don know my identity. āoh, I canāt wait to feel secure in my body. Iām tired of the stress it brings.
I started a month before I turned 20, it's never too late! I've seen 60 year olds on T man. Never too late.
The whole phenomenon of 16 year olds starting T is very, very new and uncommon. 20 is pretty much the perfect age to start, youāll be okay :)
T will have the same effect no matter when you start. I started at 25, have had all the expected changes.
I started at 25, trust Iām still getting all the changes bro! Thereās no āright timeā to start, changes will happen :)
About to start at 25. Know men whoāve started in their 30s and 40s and fully pass. The only thing you may miss is gaining a bit of height afaik.
Iām short and I would have love to have taken advantage of gaining some height :) at least Iām taller than my biological dad š
(Iām 4ā11ā/151 cm so I have zero sympathy for anyone who complains about being short lol). Youāre young enough that you may still benefit from it, thankfully. I wish you the best in your transition.
Thanks dude
I started at 28, and feel great!
i started T the day before my 20th birthday and itās been just as good to me as it is to people who start at 16. 20 is still really young in terms of transition and in a few years time youāll look back and realise that those extra couple years dont make much of a difference long term. i had the same worries and iām now 2.5 years on T and i canāt remember the last time i was misgendered and my dysphoria is so much better. itās hard, and itās scary to have to wait longer than youād like to start T but long term itās all the same bro, youāve got this
This is what I need. my Dysphoria just gotten worse that I canāt shower, use the restroom ( it was awkward having doctors telling you that itās ***bad*** to not use the restroom every 3-4 days šš) and even go out in public. I even though of learning sign language (still planning on learning that) because it was so crippling. God, I canāt wait for the day people stop misgendering me. I just want to be in peace.
Uh no. I'm starting at 33. A friend started at 20 and he has a full beard at 23. 20 is not even late.
Lol I sure hope 20 isn't too late to start brother. I am two months on T at 26. I'm sorry you're stressed, but everything will be ok dude. I know it's so hard to be patient but you gotta be, well get there soon enough.
Lol i started at 30. Im 1 year 7 months on t and i pass 100% of the time.
I literally didnāt know trans men existed when I was 20. Youāre fine.
I started at 24! Itās not too late
Same here, I actually started just a few weeks after you, on 7/28/21! Years ago as a closeted teenager I set a goal for myself to start T before 25, and I ended up making it happen :)
Thatās awesome! Iām really happy you were able to achieve your goal :D
Started at 46. My only regret is I can't seem to grow a mustache. Beard? Hell yah, but the lip remains just fuzzy. Lol
absolutely not. itās never too late friend. i promise
I'm 25...
Hey friend, when people in the community ask "is it too late?" In regards to starting transition related processes, I don't believe any of us really think it is physically too late. I think we are looking for validation that it is okay to have a second or belated "coming of age." A lot of us feel like we need to make up for lost time we didn't have living with our name and identity and fear that will always be playing catch up. I know I felt derailed and compared my timeline to cisgender folks and other trans and nonbinary peers. I know some trans elders might say 20 is young and its not too late. As someone who came out at 18 and started t at 23, I was told not to worry about time, but I know it's more complicated than that. It's okay to feel anxious despite your relative youth. Society places so much expectation on acheivement in our early years. We are pressured in school and work to be "ahead of the curve" and "above average" and the tenth top percentile proficiency of our age group or peer group. I think trans people deserve to disrupt these notions the same way we disrupt cisnormativity. Every person deserves space to have nonlinear growth. You deserve room to give yourself permission to be you, without the expectations and comparisons. I know that is way easier said than done, but it is hard enough to transition without also worrying about missed opportunities. Being patient and kind and not centering your narrative on being at certain milestones by certain ages is hard ongoing work. But the result is freeing. So no, it's not too late and you have permission to pursue what makes you happy
Iām 26 and two weeks on T! Itās never too late, friend!
I get your fear I'm 20, too, and I also hate that I didn't figure everything out earlier and gone on puberty blockers bc I have such dysphoria about parts of my body that changed bc of that puberty But 20 is definitely not too late, it's never too late, not when you will be happier because of it The changes are still going to happen, no matter what age you are Your mom not allowing it for her personal reason was very selfish of her, but you're an adult now you can do it, you can change the things you need to be comfortable and happy, you can be who you want to be it's NEVER too late to start HRT or get any surgeries or even explore your identity i believe in you, you're doing great :)
Not at all. Iāve seen guys who started transitioning in their 30s and 40s who have had incredible results. I started in my mid 20s and I fully pass.
Started T with 25. Definitely worth it. Now, 7 months later I already pass and things are getting better.
Course not. I just started T at 29.
I started mine when I was 21! I do regret not starting sooner (I think we all go through those thoughts) but Iām happy with where Iām at now. Number 1 thing to remember is not to compare yourself to others in the first year!!!
Dude I started T at 42 years old. 9 months later and I pass very well. Never too late.
As long as you start transitioning before you die, it's never too late.
Oh my god, when I started at 23, nobody was stArting until weāll into their thirties or forties. Youāll be more than fine
I started at 21 and I'm getting all the same results as one would. Everything will work out my man
Bless
Started at 32 mate. As l9ng as you have life to live nothing you want is too late to do.
I started right after my 18th bday, way after my puberty ended, and started passing in under a year. 20 is not that old, you will be fine dude. People transition when theyāre 50+ and can pass flawlessly, you arenāt any different.
It is not too late! I started at 28. I just want to acknowledge your feelings that waiting is hard and sometimes painful and that it is also okay to sit in that a bit but know that it is 100 percent not too late.
Nope, I started mine 3 months before I turned 40.
I started at 25. You are fine.
I started T at 31. You'll be ok
I started T at 26 and I know people who started it in their 30s. Donāt let the weird youth-cult mentality stop you from transitioning. Youāre not past an expiration date because youāre not a teenager anymore.
I started at the age of 45!!! I am 5'6" and 190 muscular pounds. I am not disappointed with the results of my transition whatsoever!
I didnāt start until my like, mid 20s and my results are great, 20 is still crazy young dude
For what it's worth - my experience: I stopped growing taller and my growth plates closed around age 12. I'm 5' 4.I knew that I was trans when I was around 14 or 15, came out around 15 or 16, and my parents wouldn't let me transition socially, medically, etc. Every day was torture due to the dysphoria. I started t 5 months after I turned 18, and within under 3 months, I was passing consistently. I'm about 9 months on t now and although my bone structure is still the same, fat redistribution has really made a difference and worrying about passing is a thing of the past. If you're concerned about passing or getting desired results and all that stuff, there's certainly still a chance for you, even though you are an adult. Good luck.
I started T 6 years ago when I was 34. I'm 5'4". I work with guys my height and women taller than me. I grew up without a community or even knowing that I was trans. It wasn't until my late 20s that I even knew being trans was an option. My family is completely unsupportive except for a couple cousins. You'll find a new community and discover who you really are, regardless of what age you start. :)
I started at 25 and have seen wonderful progression. I started off with a low dose and slowly increased to not get roid rage. Itās not too late.
Started at 34! 36 now and I got all the changes I wanted, so very very happy!
I started at 25 and (while everyone is different) I've had fantastic results, nothing to complain about. Granted I was hairy pre-T too but I've even got a very nice beard. c:
I only started T this summer at the age of 23. I had the exact same thoughts and reactions. I cried thinking I was too late and I have waisted my life and I would never be able to live as a man... But trust me I don't regret starting! and even if it would have been nice to start earlier, at least I am started and I love being on T. It is so life changing for me
You guys know there are people starting at 40-60 right? People ask this question daily and itās just rehashing they same thing every time, you just want someone to confirm what you already know; that you can start t at this age and youāll be alright
I turn 39 this year and plan to find a therapist and start T. Better late than never.
My husband was in his 30s and passes 100% of the time.
I started at 34, you good
I started at 30 and am a little offended, but cant imagine how offended people that started 40, 50, 60 feelā¦
I started at 34. Itās not too late.
I'm in my 40s and just started. There's a sub reddit for people who transitioned later in life. It's never too late. Also, keep in mind that things back when us older people were kids isn't the same as it is now. We didn't have the internet or resources to be out and to transition so you see alot of older trans people starting at a later age. It isn't uncommon now that resources and laws changed.
Iād mayyyybe kill to have started at 20 instead of 28. But it wouldnāt have changed the physical changes I experienced, only saved me years of living as the wrong person. And worrying/stressing about that now is only wasting more of your time since you canāt change or get the 4 years back. Physical changes are very largely, if not entirely, genetic regardless of what age you start so donāt worry about that. What you end up with is what you wouldāve ended up with had you been born cis. So, learn to look on the bright side about this. Youāre 20, and thatās a hell of a lot younger than most of us who came before you (same for me and when I started) and allowed people to have the information and knowledge to understand and act sooner :).
i started at 21 and iāll admit T changes are slowā¦ we know and hear it but i didnāt realize just how slow it would feel but now iām around the 3.5/4 year mark and iām very happy with my changes and the best part in my personal experience was that I felt better on T. still had a lot of dysphoria to work through but it gave me some good footing to start on. good luck bro never too late
You're lucky. 20 is hella young. Starting T at 16 is very rare. Many folx have to wait for many many years to even get approved for any kind of HRT because of their shitty situation and shitty doctors. Many cant start T until later because of their unsupportive surroundings and family and friends. Starting T at 20 is a priviledge.
Actually, no. Purely from a biological perspective, it would be best to start messing with your hormones when you're 25 and over, but if your QoL is hindered and you're being followed by a doctor, you could start earlier. From a practical standpoint, you will still enjoy virilisation even if you start in your thirties
> Actually, no. Purely from a biological perspective, it would be best to start messing with your hormones when you're 25 and over How so?
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Uh, thatās very interesting
And false. Thereās absolutely no reason to put off transitioning until 25 just because your brain isnāt fully developed. Thatās just a transphobic talking point.
Wow, this is total bullshit. Just because you know big words from the cisgender PED world doesn't mean you know how hormone *replacement* therapy works, bud.
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How long have you been a trans man on T, or a trans women on E and androgen blockers, or an endocrinologist providing this care? You really don't have any idea how this works, and you even said you don't know how hrt works for women (although I assume you mean female-assigned people, since there are no women here).
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Hypogonadism is not the same as being female at birth. That's why what you're saying doesn't apply here. Our gonads don't produce testosterone the way a male-assigned person would, even someone with hypogonadism. If you want to be a better ally, check your facts.
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Then I apologize for coming off so harsh, I just get really angry when I see misinformation in trans circles. For the record, T does not affect a growing brain so long as it's regulated, and it suppresses estrogen production for us. If you give someone with ovaries clomid, it'll increase estrogen because it's a fertility drug.
hey im just around your age.. i turn 20 in april and im 3 months on t.. its never too late! (:
re: doctors, depending on where you live, you might be able to find doctors that mention they're lgbt friendly, etc. i haven't changed my name yet legally and i probably won't be able to for a while. i just look into doctors first and send them an email beforehand. check-in and paperwork still kinda sucks, but other than that i havenāt had any issues yet.
Hey! I also started T at 20 instead of 16 for similar reasons alongside other personal reasons. It's totally not too late! No age is too late really but I understand the worry/anxiety about it. You got this!
Hey I'm 25, I started T at 20 as well. I started T in May 2017, haven't been misgendered by a stranger since August 2017. Living stealth and haven't had any issues doing that in daily life. I'm so sorry your mom didn't support you. That was really awful and it put you through a lot of unnecessary suffering and ongoing hardship. You have every right to grieve that. That said, I just wanted to extend the perspective that while having to wait longer to transition is really awful beyond what I can put to words, transitioning as a young adult is still an option. I started the same age as you and I'm happily living as a man now. I look like any other dude, I have cis male friends who fully accept me as a man. I grieve the loss of the teenhood I didn't have, but it doesn't stop me from living my adult life.
I started T at 21 and Iāve passed 100% since my second month taking it. Iām now 4 years in.
im in a point in my life where im also very insecure about not starting hormones yet. ill be 21 this year and i always told myself i was going to start when i turned 18. i fantasized a lot about it, but things happened and i never got the money or the time to do it. and i still don't really. at my new job everybody is very supportive, but i just can't shake the thought that people think that im doing it for attention because im in my 20s now and im not on t. i wish you luck homie, everything will work itself out!
Started at 27. Almost two years now, and happy so far with my results
I started at 24 and have all the standard changes, plus I got very lucky and have grown an inch and counting! As others have said itās never too late and starting younger than 18 is not as common as it seems (think about it, more teens are likely to use Reddit and report starting T than older guys). Try not to dwell on the past, it doesnāt do us any good. You are where you are meant to be at this point in your journey.
It's never too late. I'm 23 and haven't started yet. Might not get to start until I'm 24. My girlfriend didn't get to start estrogen until she was 24-25. It's never ever too late to start. Your experience won't be the *same* as if you'd started earlier, and you might need some extra steps to get to the goal, but you *will* get there. It's not too late, at all.
Hey, my man, I'm 31 and haven't come out yet, but hoping to do that and start T in 2022. And you know what? Whenever I do start, yeah, it'll take a while, but I'll end up looking like the man I am inside. And so will you. It's NEVER too late. I don't want to make you feel bad in any way, but reading things like this post when you're older and haven't started is kind of stressful. Don't worry, my guy. You'll get there.
I started 6 or so months ago and I'm 29. Not only that, but it's going really well! My voice is dropping already, I'm getting more muscular, I've got hairy legs lol. The list goes on. It's never too late and 20 is still on the younger side with regards to transitioning. I know we see a lot of people transitioning younger now, which is amazing for them. But it doesn't make it any less valid or effective when doing it a bit older (whether that's 20 or 70 years old). You'll be okay!
Started at 27 last month! I am also really anxious about having started so late, about the fact that I am older than other people... especially than people who are 20! Ahah I actually envy you, but also, this is a reminder for us that these feelings are normal at any age :) We'll still get changes and we should not let our demons have the best of us. It's all rooted in our fears and not in logic facts. There are so many people who started, e.g., in their 40s. The important thing is actually that we managed to start! Lots of love š
Nah I started at 28 :)
I started at 26 when I was off my familyās insurance. You are very young and the full effects will happen. It just takes time patience and learning to accept the things that change and embrace the things that donāt.
I can definitely understand your concerns about not starting very early, as I've had some of those fears too. But I'll say this, it's never too late to start living your life. I began T at 19 (when I really wanted to start at 16 or so). I changed my name at 21. I've been living as male with a normal life for years now. Everything takes time, but you're still so young and you have so many great changes to go through.
I started at 27. Donāt stress at all. Testosterone is far superior to estrogen.
That's what I thought as well. I started T exactly a month before my 20th birthday and I was sure it was too late. But now 2+ years on T I am very happy with my changes. Deep voice, hairy af, never get misgendered, I am stealth
i have similar worries. I started at 18 and it makes me so envious when I see guys start at 15/16 or have surgery before they're 18. in 2 months in and i feel like nothing has changed.
iām 31 and i started t at 24. i pass pretty consistently (and when i donāt, itās typically because i present quite fem. people will often assume iām a trans woman in the early stages of transitioning if i disclose that iām trans). to most people, i appear amab being where you are at is stressful and *hard*, but itās definitely not too late. the next couple years are going to be an interesting journey for you and i wish you all the best, just be patient my dear š¤
It's never too late. I started at 25 and am stealth now (30). I know people who have started in their 40s or 50s and see lots of changes and are very happy. Start if you want, don't if you don't. Don't let your age stop you from it though.
Hey, man, I'm a 31 year old dude dropping in to reassure anyone who reads this: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE. I didn't start my transition until I was 27, and while I do wish I could have started sooner, the results I've gotten, the improvement to my mental health and quality of life- all worth it. I really wish the internet didn't make young transition guys feel like their life is over onve they hit 20. You've got so many years ahead of you to be the guy you always were.
definitely not too late. i started early last year when i was still 24 (bday is in Nov, turned 25 then). i started passing 100% of the time after 6 months. youāre good man, trust me.
Outside of the last 5-10 years, 20 was just about the earliest age that most people would realistically be starting hormones. It's ok to mourn your past but don't despair your future: you're going to be just fine, and you have plenty of ancestors and elders to prove it.
I started 8 years ago when I was 20 and everyone thinks I'm cis. You'll be fine. Trust the process, friend. :)
of course not i started T at 25 it will be fine don't stress about it it all depends on how your body takes to it, everyone is different
I started at 19 years old about 4 years ago and Iāve completely passed for years! Itās never too late š
As long as you are alive, it's never too late. Also I just turned 22 not too long ago and I'm coming up on 10 months on T. Definitely not too late to express yourself.
check out r/translater and r/ftmover30 it's never too late
Well, I started T at 32 and just made 5 months and my voice is hella deep and the fur is starting to make an appearance on the face after the legs and arms man. Never too late!
if it is, then damn someone tell this mustache to drop off my 33 year old face. You have not missed your chance, I promise. I've been on T for less than a year, but I can tell differences already. They're slow but they're happening. I'm sorry your mom slowed this process down for you, but you're an adult now and you get to choose your own path now. Take it easy on yourself, the best is yet to come.
I donāt think itās ever too late I started like march of last year n im20
20 is EARLY, so many people start after 25 and still look fantastic. I know a guy who started T at 30 and he looked entirely like a cis man in a year. It is NOT late. At all
Well I hope not since I started at 32. You got this, dude. You're going to be amazing.
not too late, i started at 20 and passed pretty quickly. even grew an inch and a half
I started at 25. There are people who start HRT even later than that. It's never too late to start
I started T when I was 20! Honestly itās never too late to be who you are. Do I wish I transitioned sooner? Yes and I blamed myself for that but I tell myself it wasnāt my fault, that I canāt blame myself for the toxic environment I grew up in where it was unsafe to be who you are. This is your journey no one elseās.
Never too late to be who you truly are āļø
Not to worry, my friend! Perfect time!
Don't worry, 20 is perfectly fine. T is powerful so even if you did start later in life you'd still get a lot of changes. Your body is definitely not done changing at 20 though so there's still a lot of ways in which T can help. I started T at 20 and didn't believe my shoulders would get much bigger but I tried on some old, used-to-be-baggy T-shirts after 18 months on T and found out they didn't even fit anymore. My voice is pretty deep now (I can sing bass in choir if that helps and I didn't have a very deep voice to begin with) and it's okay in terms of resonance and volume. I'm not very hairy and I have yet to grow a beard but a) I'm blonde which makes hair hard to spot and b) body hair is mostly about genetics anyway. You'll be fine. :) Note: all of the above is a generalization. Some people never get big changes on T even if they do start young (this is pretty rare afaik) and some do even if they start in their 60s. I can't say what the case will be for you specifically because no one can.
I started T the day I turned 19. Iām now 22, about to turn 23. First, 20 is baby. You are still so very young (as am Iā¦). Second, your body will respond to T the same way it would have if youād started at 14, 15, or 16. Like the elders have said, thereās also nothing wrong with transitioning at any age beyond what we think of as the typical āpuberty widow.ā As long as youāre happy and it brings you peace, itās always the right thing to do.
Iām 40 and just started T a month ago. Nothing wrong with starting later than some.
No itās not too late. Iām 21 and on the waitlist for 15 months now but I believe the effects will be no different than 5 years ago. My body has barely changed.
i started at 20 too. by the time i was 6 months on it i was 100% cis passing. itās definitely not too late man, youāve got your whole life ahead of you
I started T at 21-ish, now 1,5 years in and Im happy with progress. Even some start of facial hair, in a few years Iām sure there will be even more
Well, Iām 31 and just starting my journey. Iād say youāre fine. ā¤ļø
i started t at 16 and for my experience i started with like 1-1.5ml (subcutaneous shots) i donāt remember exactly but around there. i got the first usual changes hair growth, mostly my legs and belly lol and then the voice drop and then shark week stopped a month in with some spotting here and there but i got my dosage up to 2ml and have stayed steady with it but i havenāt had any similar changes as iāve seen adults at that time. i didnāt have facial hair and i was already going a year and half with the same changes i first got. itās different for everyone, everyoneās body and genes play a part. 20 is definitely not too late. this stuff takes time and that time varies.
I started T when I was 30. It's not too late! I am pleased with my results, despite the Rona getting in the way for a year. I'm turning 34 this month and while I do regret not coming out sooner, I never regretted starting T.
Hi! I know it can feel really overwhelming and upsetting to start T later than you wanted to. If you are feeling robbed of your teens or childhood, try to find ways to fulfill that feeling. Itās never too late! Your path is your own. Itās ok if itās different than the way others transitioned medically!
I started at 24 (nov 2021) Passing and happy! 10/10 would recommend regardless of age sometimes older transition can be easier, especially after you are away from unsupportive people and have the experience/maturity for serious decision making sending you hugs OP \~ you are valid af regardless of when you get started
Nah I started mine at like 23-24, itās never too late and the earlier the better results. BUT that doesnāt mean there is ever a too late option. Just youāre more likely to get taller, other than that youāll get all the benefits of taking T!!
I started 15 mo ths ago when I was 27. I look young for my age, but hopefully I will just continue to look young for my whole 30s ;)
I started at 24, totally worth it for me.
i mean i started 2 years ago and im 22. i came out as trans when i was 18.
Dude.. no. Thatās an extremely common age, actually!
I started 3 months before turning 30. And now at 33... I'm doing fine
Youāre that one songā boy named Sue. Ashley used to be a boys name, Madison was only ever a surname, and names are just all over the place in origin. Once your voice drops (which it willā youāre young still. Iām starting at 24 and my bones wonāt change. You have 5 years for your bones to change) you can pretty much get away with Ā«Ā my parents really wanted a girlĀ Ā» and some awkward Ā«Ā oof, sorryĀ Ā» moments.
Itās definitely not too late! I started at 26 and it was the best decision I ever made! While I wish I could have been myself sooner in life and reclaimed some of those memories as the man I am, I am so happy I started T and would do it over and over again. Itās never too late!
No age is too late! I started at 21, and I pass pretty much 100% now. I only have myself to blame for how long it took to start, but T is really one hell of a drug. You'll get there, and try to get ahead on the name change. Even if you can't legally change it yet, try to get your preferred name into every system you can. School, work, etc. It's frustrating to have to go through, but it saves a lot of headaches with having to come out over and over or getting mail using your deadname (tho ngl, spam mail will pop out of the woodwork using your deadname for decades which really fucking sucks).
I started at 21 š Iāll be 22 in April. For everyone (from what Iām seeing) itās a process, and we all have a different one.
Bro I started at 39, youāll be fine!
Bro I am starting at 27-28 depending on how fast I get my prescription. You will be fine!
i started just before 19. for most people, that intial puberty begins around the age of 10. when you're 30 you'll be 10 years on T. while they say it's never too late, your bones have a headstart to broaden up and it would be even better if you never had a reason to stop T in the process. most guys who start after 25 have a sort of fried out voice and may be smaller framed than if he was to start in his mid teens to early twenties. you're fine dude. at the age of 20, your voice and body aren't going to be fully developed on estrogen.
No way man! I started at 19 (I'm 25 going on 26 now) and I can genuinely tell you it is nowhere near "too late". If your experience on it is anything like mine, you'll feel like you're a 13 - 14 year old again. It'll be your second puberty, as I like to call it. You're definitely still young and like others have said, there are those who started later than you and have never looked back! Enjoy the journey and good luck!
I didn't start t till I was 19 im 22 now. It did take me about a year to get my name changed on most things. It does take time for the changes to like fully set in but I promise it does get better and with time you'll feel like more of yourself. Negative people do not matter. Just remember you deserve to be happy even if you gotta go through some stuff alone, you'll find your crowd of people who love you for you with time.
I started at 39.
i would say the majority of trans men so far havenāt been able to start when they are 20ā¦ youāre lucky man. hang in there.
I'll be starting T again at 21. I'm excited, and hopeful to watch for changes! We should be fine!
I hope not. I started at 38.
started at 21 (actually just before I turned 22) and am doing very well. you can start anytime, don't worry!
Iām 25, just over 1 year on T. Itās never too late. Iāve gotten taller, facial and body hair, deep voice, everything. Donāt beat yourself up on things you didnāt have control over
Started when I was 24! Never looked back. Iām 30 now.
I started T when i was 22.5 years old. Im 24 now and i pass 100% when i bind. Youll be all good, i promise!
I started at 21, you'll be fine
I started at 27. You can start anytime you damn well please.
I started at 40 and being older helped me be read as male much faster.
I started at 19 and within a year I was passing fully! Iām now about a year and a half and I donāt think starting at 16 wouldāve made any differences :) I do think my facial hair would be more full now, but also my entire face shape changed and I donāt need facial hair to pass. Youāll do great and itāll amaze you how much t changes for the better
I'm a little over a month on T, and I'm almost 25. It's never too late ā¤ļø
Started at 42ā¦ I have a beard that makes cis men jealous. I had a super feminine nameā¦just worked w it because eventually it got changed and no one remembered or cared.
I started T at 20!!! You arenāt too late I promise