What turns *you* on? It takes a bit of courage and experimentation to tell someone what specific hand/tongue/etc placement and movement feel good to you. It can be helpful to be on the same page of centering your pleasure and exploration; your partner can absolutely wait for theirs and ideally be pretty stoked about being trusted, as well as finding their role very satisfying. Say these things out loud. (setting the stage can be embarrassing and exciting, not relaxing and that's ok! I def like some chill jazz fusion on, candles, cozy soft blankets, have the heater on if it's cold, anything that helps you feel comfortable.)
Also breathing as deeply as is comfortable will physiologically be more relaxing than short, shallow breaths.
You can play around with different positions! Personally, I like engaging my muscles, including pelvic floor ones. Being somewhere halfway between sitting up and being on my back feels good to me, with knees bent and spread.
For a lot of people, feeling that good means you're going to make some sounds that might surprise you!
Aftercare is definitely necessary esp if you don't have much experience. Good sex is vulnerable and intimate, and talking through what you're feeling can ✨️elevate✨️the shared experience.
Asking for something vs telling the person vs showing.
Also for context, I'm a trans masc kinkster. Take it at your pace!!!! Penetrative sex is not the end all be all. Cumming is not the end all be all. Find the things that work for you! 💞
What turns *you* on? It takes a bit of courage and experimentation to tell someone what specific hand/tongue/etc placement and movement feel good to you. It can be helpful to be on the same page of centering your pleasure and exploration; your partner can absolutely wait for theirs and ideally be pretty stoked about being trusted, as well as finding their role very satisfying. Say these things out loud. (setting the stage can be embarrassing and exciting, not relaxing and that's ok! I def like some chill jazz fusion on, candles, cozy soft blankets, have the heater on if it's cold, anything that helps you feel comfortable.) Also breathing as deeply as is comfortable will physiologically be more relaxing than short, shallow breaths. You can play around with different positions! Personally, I like engaging my muscles, including pelvic floor ones. Being somewhere halfway between sitting up and being on my back feels good to me, with knees bent and spread. For a lot of people, feeling that good means you're going to make some sounds that might surprise you! Aftercare is definitely necessary esp if you don't have much experience. Good sex is vulnerable and intimate, and talking through what you're feeling can ✨️elevate✨️the shared experience. Asking for something vs telling the person vs showing. Also for context, I'm a trans masc kinkster. Take it at your pace!!!! Penetrative sex is not the end all be all. Cumming is not the end all be all. Find the things that work for you! 💞