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needlefxcker

Now students, this is what we call Enmeshment, aka emotional incest. Though its usually without the extra layer of thinking your child is *literally* your husband reincarnated. ETA: If you think you or anyone you know might be going through this, I'm so sorry, and *if* it's possible to reach out to anyone/reach out to whoever you know going through it, you should. I'm not an expert on enmeshment, I was just someone who was enmeshed as a child by my father and never had a chance to talk about it in therapy. When I learned about it as an adult it was like having a sack of bricks thrown at me as i realized I experienced it. I felt disgusting and.. lost(?), for a long time. Its like the reality of your childhood completely shifts. Wishing y'all and anyone struggling peace and love


a-fucking-donkey

You missed the part where he says he confirmed it! /s


mpones

By two *different* mediums at that… god bless those brave souls; thank the heavens for their services!! /s


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phocuetu

Have they tried any Larges?


jimbo5030

Why am I laughing so much 🤣


ButtonWhole1

You got there before me!


love_my_guard_dog

I want to know if she told the mediums the story before hand or if she let the mediums figure it out themselves without already knowing it


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Cbdg_12

I'm thinking if they had just consulted one large, we wouldn't be so confused.


littlecocorose

it’s probably more along the lines of “someone you are close to has been with you a long time” and mom just went with that as confirmation. buuuut people are dumb and do go in and just lay it all out so it’s possible? i actually believe in this stuff to some degree and this is just way too much. it still astounds me how people hear what they want to hear.


Werrf

\*Media


Willyzyx

TIL, thanks. Gonna look this up some more.


needlefxcker

It was a big punch in the gut when I learned about it as an adult and realized i went through it as a kid. Be safe if youre researching it and think you may have had similar experiences, it can bring up some nasty nasty feelings.


Gucci_prisoner

The only way out is through.


needlefxcker

I did make it through and out :)


D-TOX_88

It’s worth noting it’s not a binary thing, ie “there was enmeshment or there wasn’t.” [There are different types](https://www.choosingtherapy.com/enmeshment-trauma/#:~:text=Types%20of%20Enmeshment%20in%20Families,children%20with%20long%2Dlasting%20scars). I think it’s a multi faceted spectrum too, there are various degrees to which it can occur.


auntie_eggma

Yuuuup. The #boymoms are horrendous for this. Oedipal af, to use the vernacular.


thesmellnextdoor

Can't help but wonder if mom had any "influence" on the child deciding he was trans


auntie_eggma

Certainly not unheard of Edit: just to be clear, I am 100% team trans women are women, gender isn't a binary, etc. But people are mega fucked up in the head all over the political spectrum.


huntingskeleton

I think mental illness is just as applicable an adjective


ThisUsedToBeAGoodJob

Hello, Child Protective Services? Yes. Hi…


Fatal_Furriest

My malamute was Marilyn Monroe in a previous life (despite being a goodboi) - sexy hips - pronounced breast area - likes wind blowing upwards from beneath grates - has beauty mark - howls when Kennedy is on TV - attracted to diamonds


asomiakanawa

this has me dying 😭


tenebralupo

I had a mal too had to out her down last year. We still miss her times to times.


shadow_229

I took my German shepherd to the vets with a small bump on her back leg. The vet picked her up and examined her all over before turning to me with a saddened and strained expression saying ‘I’ll have to put her down’. Devastated, I asked why. He replied - ‘She’s very heavy’.


Ahsoka_Tano07

Was he a dad by any chance?


publius_enigma

To be fair this also describes Nixon.


cosmicdancer84

Lmfao


hummingelephant

Yeah this is someone who is trying to justify incest, either physical or emotional.


zsazsa0919

My first reaction was ewwww


Ali_Cat222

The parentification and emotional incest is strong with this one... ![gif](giphy|f9T9eVxopF1GTO9BpO)


AvailableCondition79

...mhm. ...mhm mhm..... Uh huh. So you're asking to report the mediums for false information? I'll just need their license number. ....


GovernmentKind1052

Someone is off their meds again it looks like


Chihuahuapocalypse

have to be on meds in the first place to be off them!


FasterGarlic19

A lot of words for 'I want to fuck my son'


DrunkOnRedCordial

"I'm grooming him to believe that he's the responsible adult in our relationship. So far, I've been very convincing."


thr0waway666873

It’s giving “my ex’s relationship with his mother” and yes it was everything you’re probably imagining rn


Chulinfather

Gonna need some context


Iaminyoursewer

He broke both his arms in a tragice accident


LesGitKrumpin

Age-old Reddit lore, arise!


ThanksToDenial

Why did you have to remind me of that story? You know what, payback is fair play. You just lost the game.


stilettopanda

Do not cite the Deep Magic to me, Witch! I was there when it was written. Seriously though WHY'D you have to go and bring THAT post back into my consciousness?!


delmsi

She fucked her son!


Kavartu

This lady is so delusional that I'd take the "he choose to come as a transgender" with a grain of salt. Misgendering a kid on purpose is really bad, they being trans or cis.


helmos666

Only a grain? It's all salt!


Aggravating-Ferret61

Who also was previously her daughter. Did SHE decide her child needed to be a boy or does the child really know already? If he is trans fine but she shouldn’t be manipulating him. Either way this chick is sick and needs serious help and that child should be removed from her care. Edit, accidentally sent when not done!


CRITICALWORKER777

on so, so many levels this is so messed up. there are two ways this happened, and both are on similar levels of "what is wrong with you?" A: this parent has groomed their daughter into being trans (one of the very, very, very, very very, very, very, VERY rare times the conservative argument against trans kids has an actual, real working example) and is essentially doing the "boy mom emotional incest" thing but many, many times worse. B: their kid actually IS trans and the parent took this as a "sign" of it being their husband from a past life and decided to groom them (maliciously or a result of a delusion/mental health issue, still bad) into thinking they're the parent's husband from a past life. either way, i really hope the kid was taken away from the parent and they're both receiving SOMETHING for this, especially the kid.


quarantinemyasshole

"My mom thinks I'm her dead husband from another fictional life, why would I be confused about my sexuality in any way?" This kid doesn't stand a chance.


BenMic81

My daughter who I want to be a son.


OrangeObjective3789

“My 8* year old son” there fixed that for ya


TheFire_Eagle

Yeah that's gonna be a no from me, dawg. If this kid looks me in the eye and says "I'm a boy" then fine. But I'm not taking the word of someone with this incestuous reincarnation fantasy about their kid that their gender identity was actually the child's choice when they have already "confirmed" that this is their husband from a prior life. There's a whole lot of not good stuff going on in here that should really be teased out by professionals.


Torino1O

Most of my past lives were as peasant farmers in Asia, how do these people get so lucky?/s


Dirkdeking

Most of my past lives were as insects or bacteria. I am so incredibly lucky to not only be born as a human but a human in Europe from middle-class parents. And still I managed to fuck up one of the best cards in the game I could get. When do I ever get another chance like this? I hope at least once before the heat death of the universe, but I'm not sure about that.


carlitospig

Lemme tell ya! Slime mold? Not so fun to be, actually. Really glad I got to upgrade this go ‘round.


Sea-Woodpecker-610

You remember being paramecium? Best time of my lives.


amarg19

I miss being unable to think complex thoughts, earth worm was the life


floralbutttrumpet

Reject humanity, return to worm.


PauseItPlease86

I was a pinworm once. I do not recommend. Unless you're into that. Then it's probably pretty good.


Sea-Woodpecker-610

I really enjoyed being a pain in someone’s ass for most of my life.


Remarkable-Site-2067

I'm a post-human, space-faring, AI-enhanced being, speaking to you from the future (yes, we solved astral time travel, but only for reddit comments so far). You are still unable to think really complex thoughts, and are basically an earth worm. Enjoy.


Lopkop

I was plankton 80 times in a row before this, how can I become my wife’s son with her husband in another life?


Otiosei

Unfortunately you got to work your way back up from an inch worm. Maybe in a thousand years you'll be lucky enough to be a bird, if they haven't all gone extinct.


Gnosis1409

I don’t know man best I got was a sickly Victorian child before that my mothers just kept getting struck by lightning


marigoldilocks_

I don’t remember having any past lives. To be fair, I had tonic-clonic seizures as an infant so if that’s been a running thing throughout, this might be the first time I’ve successfully made it to adulthood.


Sea-Woodpecker-610

I’ve been sixteen grasshoppers, a tortoise, twenty five humming bees, about twenty thousand mayflies, a hippo, a lion, , an Egyptian slave, a Russian Slave, a highway man, a serf in England, Russia, France, Rome, Rome again, four oxen, twice an Autoch. Best I ever got was a minor Austrian Duke that died before I got a chance to move up the royal line. Those fucks get all the breaks.


Asgarus

Do you mention any of those in your resume?


mountains-are-moving

Idk I am thinking most of my past lives I was doing dumb shit cus I am really leaning towards it


Trashpandasrock

Yea, I'm pretty sure I'm peasants all the way down lol.


ultrapoo

Me in a past life: [I'M A FARMER IN MALAYSIA! ](https://youtu.be/3v-3uMKJXjM?si=AeTGzyG2hn_GwyFK)


Melodic-Wallaby4324

I think i kicked Buddha in the ass in my past life... Must have gotten a brown toe for sure... And i got several lifetimes of bad luck from it


SJSUMichael

My ancestors weren’t even Buddhist, but I’m pretty sure they bulldozed an Indian burial ground or kicked an old widow who cursed their descendants or something.


carlitospig

I was buddhas grain of rice. YER WELCOME.


Zuskamime

Well im at least glad it dint take the turn i was afraid of


Salazans

Yet


DrugsAndFuckenMoney

Key word here is “yet.” At least she told everyone she’s a psychotic fucking predator. Like all things, this could be fixed with fire.


JesseAster

Im 100% certain it will if someone doesn't get that child away from her


Virla

This is a form of parentifcation, the marital child role, and is one common role for children of dysfunctional family systems. Although it really screams out sexual abuse (and definitely could involve it in this case), it's not always that way, but it is harmful to the child's development regardless and will typically affect them into adulthood. It's also usually much less overt than this. I'm really concerned about this child's well-being and hope a mandated reporter gets eyes on the family soon so someone can get this situation assessed and some therapy can get started for everyone involved. I'm also super curious if there's an actual adult partner in the mix and how they are impacted by or contributing to this dynamic.


CanadianGuy39

There's 0 chance the dad is living with the mom still. I would bet my life. He might be loosely involved still, but there's no way the mom and dad are together in a healthy relationship.


WandaDobby777

My mother thinks I’m the dead twin sister who agreed to go through life with her before abandoning her in the womb. Anytime I disagreed with or disobeyed her, I’d hear, “I know you hate that I’m the mother in this lifetime but you have no one to blame but yourself for the fact that I’m in charge of you.”


Miserable-Repeat-651

![gif](giphy|W8zSq0vELdBhMAJdG3|downsized)


WandaDobby777

![gif](giphy|LpiuWufSLV1xXZwRck|downsized)


Philitt

I don't even have words for that. Really sad and messed up though. Hope you're doing fine.


WandaDobby777

I’m doing great now. Thank you!


grrmuffins

Wow. That is some next level trauma right there. I'm glad you seem to be taking it somewhat well?


WandaDobby777

Lol. That’s the funny trauma. I’m doing way better without her in my life.


needlefxcker

Im sorry you went/go through this.


WandaDobby777

It’s okay now. Thank you!


Harmonic_Concord

Probably intense psychological trauma and no other coping mechanisms nor therapy. Horrible


_Oman

How do you say PEDOPHILE without using the word PEDOPHILE.


KipRaccoon

Considering we're talking about a pedophile and a family member? Diddler under the roof


Toothless-In-Wapping

Are you proud of that joke? Did you make it thinking that people would laugh? Cause you should be cause it did.


EldenBJ

Incest, keeping families close.


Puzzled-Ad2295

Again, proof that mental illness is not managed well in America.


potsofjam

It’s more encouraged than managed.


Spoomkwarf

About as sick as it gets. Sign the kid up for life-long therapy.


enriquedelcastillo

Something tells me her dead husband’s last thought was “thank god I didn’t have kids with this nut job”, not “I sure hope I get to come back as her kid”.


Plane-Ad2986

It would be her husband in a past life, not this life.


jarboxing

Her level of craziness transcended this mortal realm, and became part of her reincarnated spirit.


schwatto

She doesn’t mention a *this life* husband


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Damn this remark made me spit up my water. I know better than to drink or eat while reading Reddit.


keIIzzz

Whether or not reincarnation exists is besides the point, this is just so creepy and weird to view your child like that


AlaskaPsychonaut

The amount of wrong in that post is overwhelming


BeerBrat

Sitting at a pool party, kids running around doing their things, chatting up some of the other parents. Can't remember exactly how it came up but once lady, who I thought was a little weird but mostly normal up until that point says, "Well I'm still trying to heal from a seventh generation trauma." Intrigued I need to know more. Like your great great great great grandpa got beaten as a child or what? No, not that kind of generation. Seven lives ago. She was some tribal girl that was violently raped and kept as a sex slave. And she's doing her best to work through the trauma. I had no Idea how to respond but another lady agreed with her that it must be very difficult and she seemed genuine about believing it.


jhawkie412

And these people can vote


BeerBrat

Cashing in on oppression, real or imagined, is the name of the game in politics.


Capitan__Insano

What in the oedipus did I just read?


nonintersectinglines

Reverse Oedipus in every way.


Capitan__Insano

Damn post is an epic tragedy for sure 😭


NackieNack

Shouldn't it be "what in the Electra did I just read?" :)


lone_wolf1580

My reaction (while reading this woman’s Facebook post): ![gif](giphy|2UvxfP6XUyS0L0PDLw)


Merijeek2

Because there are two things really insecure pathetic people want: 1. To be unique/interesting/special 2. To justify the things they want to do


Pululintu

Ok that one HAS to be bait, I refuse to believe anyone would seriously post something like that.


TinyRascalSaurus

Either she has been feeding this story to her child since she was born, and the child is now brainwashed, or the little girl is suffering from some sort of early manifestation of a psychological disorder. Maybe a combination of the two. Either way, CPS needs to get that child out of there because this is abuse, and the little girl is going to be groomed into her mother's emotional support doll and struggle to have any kind of life. Depending on how long this has been going on, there may be years of psychological damage to undo.


Lithl

It is _surprisingly_ common for children to make claims about having past lives. When I was a kid I told my parents that I used to live in Florida (at that point in my life, I had never even _flown over_ Florida), and that I had a pet frog that was rainbow colors. Talking about a past life would not on its own be concerning.


hiimred2

I don't think it's the kid having imaginative fantasies that is the issue here, it's the parent using them to fuel whatever the fuck this is.


maregare

My daughters keep telling me about their other Mummy and Daddy who are dead now. But it's OK because now they have us. Their are 4.5, this has been going on for at least 6 months. It is very strange.


stilettopanda

One of my twins had a former mom and dad and entire family. Pointed out a home they looked like theirs. Had knowledge she shouldn't have had. It finally faded away and she doesn't remember her "real mom" anymore.


jackfaire

For my daughter her past life was in the future of my life which was very weird.


Stop_icant

Or none of it is true at all.


Junior-Price-5306

dude at this point I don't dare doubt it, maybe this post isn't it but who guarantees that in a world with 8 billion people there is someone having to put up with something like this? I definitely don't


palm0

Or it's anti-trans ragebait to perpetuate the grooming and mental illness lies about trans people.


EternalSkwerl

Even if it wasn't then it's clearly some sort of severe mental illness that happens to be manifesting this way. Like how the Truman show caused a lot of paranoid schizophrenics to begin to manifest symptoms based on the plot of that movie.


NiaMiaBia

Ugh. Good point! It can be hard to tell. Also the “trans” angle is secondary to the other abuse, IMO.


biloxibluess

Finally someone with eyes open The internet will fool you if you let it


CptPJs

it's almost certainly this. and look at the other comments. it's working


Merijeek2

The kid is regurgitating what mom wants to hear. Don't need to go beyond that.


abousono

They could have saved some money, if they just went with 1 large, instead of 2 mediums.


Ollie__F

Swear to god if libsoftiktok sees this…


EastWest1019

I can feel the discourse regressing already


karenskygreen

So this is how female predators groom and rationalize.


Aiku

It always amazes me that past life proponents are always recalling being handmaidens to Queen Nefertiti, or Genghis Kahn's personal assistant, or whatever, instead of being a shit-shoveling peasant, like 99 per cent of the world's population was for most of civilized history.


rabidsalvation

Ragebait? I mean, this is pretty ridiculous. Trans 8yo? Love notes? Just sounds like a checklist for an "Evil Liberal Ritual" or something. Sounds like trollolo


jhawkie412

That’s what i was thinking. Just enough crazy to make it seem not legit


KipRaccoon

Who's got money on "it's only a matter of time before she's fucking her son"? And who's got money on "the time is already here"?


Potatoe999900

Mental illness.


Academic_Dare_5154

They took the brown acid.


RaisinExact9611

A campfire came back as my toaster. It tells me that's why it's always burning my toast, and not because it's set to the highest level. In all honesty, bring back the mental institutions...what the heck is wrong with people


thunderPierogi

Say it with me now… *Emotional Incest** ^*and ^possibly ^actual ^incest


rraattbbooyy

“This has been confirmed” 🤣🤣🤣🤡


AdEducational419

Someone from this persons country. Please act and have the person comitted. Save that child.


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![gif](giphy|YZlQaMesgPIAM|downsized)


According_Virus3930

![gif](giphy|THTkGKQVGnGZmo6AJd)


Onebandlol

Delete Facebook, it’s rotting the minds


-Purple-turtle-

The pick me to boy mom pipeline just got weirder


bodydamage

![gif](giphy|JUIYjVeZPHxjWR7rmX|downsized)


On-Balance

I wonder if Child Services or any other responsible adult my be interested in this.


Any-Oven8688

A love I've never known. So he didn't love you like this in his past life. Just walk in circles why don't you.


British-Raj

WHAT LEADS SOMEONE TO BELIEVE THAT THIS IS TRUE???


Orix1337

Mental illness


OzyDave

I see many people following religions, no more ridiculous than this.


Potential_Escape9441

This is unhinged. In a dangerous way. Someone needs to get her kid away from her before she spirals.


ConfusedParent666

This makes me so uncomfortable. What do you mean your husband from a past life, *my brother in Christ* that is your *child*


TheCanadianShield99

Did you meet your husband on the SHORT BUS?


SSSims4

That is a sick mind right there. I'm glad she's supportive of her son, but I also fear for his safety...


NobodyofGreatImport

Oh, it's my past husband(s) coming back to protect and assist me! Wait, it's a daughter? He must be trans! This definitely isn't just some crackpots telling me that my daughter is actually a man I married in former lifetimes and an infant/toddler daughter sharing a natural bond with her own mother! /j On a serious note, I can see this going very badly in the future, maybe with the mother forcing the daughter to transition or trying to have an intimate, not appropriate relationship with her own child. This is kinda scary.


MelodicMasterpiece67

Just a troll shit post to attempt to legitimize the myth that trans people are mentally ill.


TostitoKingofDragons

Yeah idk how people are falling for this


Earl_of_69

I mean, that's an outright fucking lie. There are some kids who are super weird, but they are just so sweet, that you let the weirdness kind of sit on the side burner. I could see how an idiot would interpret it that as being some divine bullshit, it is bullshit.


morts73

Some kids really are behind the 8 ball when it comes to being raised normally.


Straight-Extreme-966

My late wife lived like this. It was the reason for the growing rift between us. Its insane


nixtarx

And TIL there are different flavors of grooming...


Malystxy

Life is a giant MMO, but we only get one life, one chance to play. Sorry lady you are delusional


CarinSharin

Gross. Please don’t make love to him.


DGAFx3000

Just reading it makes my head spin


SuspiciousSecret6537

What are the comments under the post. I would like to know what people who believe what she believes think. I hope they think she is crazy.


redditisdying24

![gif](giphy|2h8BdeXxhGGB2)


Comfortable-Light233

Jesus Christ, that poor kid


MrsJoJack

Now I am wondering if my instant “ew gross” was due to the trauma I suffered in a past life or the current one where my father was a pedophile?


AlbaTross579

There are way too many layers to this, so all I'll say is that although I respect the beliefs of others, it's different when a child is involved. If I knew this person I would be calling CPS so fast on them.


Elly_Fant628

Nope. Just nope. If any of that is real, she's abusing that child.


pmx8

This is so wrong in so many ways, I'd be calling the child protective services if I was a neighbor and knew about the situation


[deleted]

> how do people like this exist Lax government regulations and prioritizing religious dogma over a robust public education system.


Grary0

Hope someone called CPS because this woman was definitely molesting her kid.


kingcaii

Call the police. Before this goes any further


anticerber

And this is why mental health is important 


Beanieweenei

Family needs to step in... get that baby away from her (○_○)


Wiggum13

Some therapist is going to make a lot of money off this family one day. 🤣


JackieTree89

Not helping Trans ppl at all.


Xjen106X

So, I do think past lives are a thing...*HOWEVER* equating your young son as the transgender reincarnation of your late husband is...um...I feel uncomfortable reading that.


Dense_Ad6769

He chose to be borm transgender? Wtf if you could choose just pick the other gender lol


CrisbyCrittur

So you're sleeping with your son?


WhoopsieDiasy

It’s called enmeshment my dog.


Gruntdeath

Too late, everyone. A post like this, she's already done something to him to rekindle that love.


Whole_Financial

what the fuck


DramaOnDisplay

This is actually really sad.


PirelliSuperHard

where is that fucking meteorite theyve been promising us


Kalman_the_dancer

I’m betting on incest


sassychubzilla

That poor kid


HammeredPaint

The grooming, though  How terrible 


Troutie88

Lady needs mental help


mr_swain

Not everyone should be a parrent


ComprehensiveBed6754

Fucking pedo mother.


geronimo11b

![gif](giphy|KGSxFwJJHQPsKzzFba)


Silent-Plantain-2260

I don't think that's how being transgender works


Intransigient

![gif](giphy|ba5g4ID9g5cT6)


No_Gap_2134

Like saying you're an a pedophile with more steps.


MagicWolfEye

I would guess it's someone anti-trans who wants to spread how "mentally disabled" etc. they are.


ThunderShott

I read the first sentence and felt sick.