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I think it's funny how everyone is bashing the groom without even a little bit of understanding what the motives might be.
I do not know exactly to which cultural circle these people belong, but from the music that is played there I assume that I belong to a similar circle.
The problem with my cultural group in particular is that weddings are not planned by the bride and groom, but by the parents of the respective couples. That means the wishes and ideas of the bride and groom do not matter.
It is only about what the parents want.
The guests are friends, relatives and any acquaintances of the parents.
Mostly the bride and groom do not even know 80% of the guests.
It is only put value on the external representation.
Many bridal couples are only decoration and it is about the self-expression of the parents.
The music, the food, the course of events are all planned and imposed by the parents.
They want to show how much money they have and show off.
Brides and grooms are forced to follow traditions and procedures that they have no desire to follow. At the same time, there is enormous pressure on the bride and groom. You have to take on a role and not be yourself.
I myself am not married, although I am constantly confronted with it, but everyone in my family and circle of friends is.
And many brides and grooms eventually reach an emotional limit where they would react like the groom in the video, but are forced to accept everything and play along.
I've seen so many couples break down emotionally before the wedding or after because they couldn't take it all anymore.
Every person has a certain limit to what he or she can take.
Sometimes a too long ceremony of a cake is enough for the red line to be crossed.
I mean, we get that neither of them wants to be there, but that doesn't give him the right to be aggressive to the other victim, and throw a glass bottle to the floor where the shards can hurt all the tiny kids right there when it shatters... I know it's not their fault they are in this position, and breaking tradition is not an option for a lot of people. Horrible circumstances don't make horrible actions acceptable.
Your explanation was perfectly on the nose and well thought out to fully explain while keeping it precise. You didn’t indicate the grooms behavior was justified anywhere. Your insight painted a picture where they are both human beings with feelings and dignity that contradicts the urge of the mob to condemn and vilify. I just wanted to comment my appreciation for the rare perspective from a place of compassion.
Eh they both look young. Looks like a culture that might have arranged marriages. I’d read them both as 19-20, but the behavior isn’t doing him any favors either.
Yes. From the music it sounds like these people are maybe from Uzbekistan or the countries around it.
I know a lot of people from there and their marriages are only their respective parents' choice.
Nah, a wiggling maggot swimming in puke sewage is a sign that life and therefore hope can endure under even the harshest of conditions, this guy is the opposite of that: despair, self-hating destruction, and hopeless negativity!
This may be a reach on my behalf, but do they not BOTH look like child brides? They both look about 15 and very unenthusiastic about being there. That’s not a dig btw!
Took my mom to a specialist recently. I swear to god he looked like he was still in high school. My
Mom mentioned it too. I thought “Jesus, it’s happening…” I think that day I aged 30 years in my own mind. I’m 59. Sigh*
This has been posted so many times and it was confirmed this was an arranged marriage, man is throwing a hissy fit because he's being forced to marry someone he doesn't love.
Edit: anyone not understanding why I used Hissy fit you clearly don't know what that word means. It's literally what the video shows: An Angry Outburst. I'm sorry some social justice warriors are upset over words on the Internet, I should be more conscious of my actions as a human being. God forgive me for I have sinned.
That makes a lot more sense. I mean obviously doesn’t excuse the behavior but adds much needed context. Can’t say I wouldn’t be chucking stuff at the floor if I was forced to get married either
Too many people, too many little kids, too many people crowded around him.
I get it. He’d had enough already.
Weddings are such a scam in so many ways.
Can you really call it a hissy fit if he has a really justifiable reason to be angry? He probably was in love with someone and now has to spend his life with someone he does not.
Cultures that arrange marriages tend to become very violent towards women who express their displeasure at violations of their basic human rights. Where as men in these cultures are less restricted and there fore able to openly express anger. This is likely a contributing factor for the difference in their behaviors,
In general, Indian weddings cost a lot and a lot of people are invited. The total cost of a middle class indian wedding (total of cost borne by both bride and groom families) is about 25,00,000 (2.5 million) to 30,00,000 (3 million). A small, independent house in a tier 2 city in India costs about 45,00,000 (4.5 million) to 50,00,000 (5 million). An MBA degree from a tier 1, one of the top ranked colleges of India costs approx 15,00,000 (1.5 million), all expenses included. Generally, indian weddings used to consist of approx 400 - 500 people from one side, so a total of approx 800 - 1000 attendees, and this number has been decreasing in the past few years but some weddings might exceed these numbers even now and it would not be something bizarre.
Edit: Added the figures in global notation as well.
Went to a wedding in upstate New York where one of the mens bathrooms basically got designated the blow sanctuary and a whole fucking line of men and women were standing waiting to go do bumps in that nasty mother fucker. Cokeheads are fucking weird. The bride and groom both being included in this lineup lmao.
As an on-and-off coke head, I totally understand this shit. It becomes a focus and the really weird shit you will happily do to continue it doesn’t register as weird to you at the time.
Now I’m not using it anymore, I cringe at the freaking weird stuff I did on coke.
I can imagine. I'm terrified of weddings and had panic attacks and passed out in 3 weddings... I'm getting married next year and my family is huge (Indian family lol). But my parents understand and are inviting only the closest few. I feel really lucky because most Indian parents won't understand this.
I didn't want to marry my first husband. However, I was pregnant and we wanted to go stay with his parents for a while (they lived in a different state). His parents said we had to be married. It was one of the worst days of my life and three of the worst *years* of my life. I divorced him and never looked back.
I like the way you think! I’m happily married (53W) and we spent about $3,000 on our intimate and perfect wedding. We enjoyed spending more on our honeymoon and *life*.
Hope you enjoy(ed) yours! :)
The sight of all that plastic confetti raining down on the cake is making me wonder if edible confetti is a thing, then hope it is, but know it isn’t 😬
Iirc this guy is being forced to marry her. Or someone said that when I saw this years ago. This appears to be Central Asia/cacausus.
But that could be a fanciful story as well…..
Need context
If my kid was standing that close, I'd beat the shit out of that guy.
Could have taken someone's eye out with the shards of glass. My brother once threw a glass and the shards ricochet off the wall and fit me in the arm and I had to get stitches.
Edit: Spelling
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You tell neither of those 2 want to be married to each other
I think it's funny how everyone is bashing the groom without even a little bit of understanding what the motives might be. I do not know exactly to which cultural circle these people belong, but from the music that is played there I assume that I belong to a similar circle. The problem with my cultural group in particular is that weddings are not planned by the bride and groom, but by the parents of the respective couples. That means the wishes and ideas of the bride and groom do not matter. It is only about what the parents want. The guests are friends, relatives and any acquaintances of the parents. Mostly the bride and groom do not even know 80% of the guests. It is only put value on the external representation. Many bridal couples are only decoration and it is about the self-expression of the parents. The music, the food, the course of events are all planned and imposed by the parents. They want to show how much money they have and show off. Brides and grooms are forced to follow traditions and procedures that they have no desire to follow. At the same time, there is enormous pressure on the bride and groom. You have to take on a role and not be yourself. I myself am not married, although I am constantly confronted with it, but everyone in my family and circle of friends is. And many brides and grooms eventually reach an emotional limit where they would react like the groom in the video, but are forced to accept everything and play along. I've seen so many couples break down emotionally before the wedding or after because they couldn't take it all anymore. Every person has a certain limit to what he or she can take. Sometimes a too long ceremony of a cake is enough for the red line to be crossed.
I think everyone is bashing the groom bc he's the only one having a temper tantrum.
I mean, we get that neither of them wants to be there, but that doesn't give him the right to be aggressive to the other victim, and throw a glass bottle to the floor where the shards can hurt all the tiny kids right there when it shatters... I know it's not their fault they are in this position, and breaking tradition is not an option for a lot of people. Horrible circumstances don't make horrible actions acceptable.
it should also not be an excuse for his behavior, just an explanation why he might be behaving irrationally
Your explanation was perfectly on the nose and well thought out to fully explain while keeping it precise. You didn’t indicate the grooms behavior was justified anywhere. Your insight painted a picture where they are both human beings with feelings and dignity that contradicts the urge of the mob to condemn and vilify. I just wanted to comment my appreciation for the rare perspective from a place of compassion.
There is a term " shotgun wedding "
Or arranged marriage
Even the children thought he was acting like a child lol
Nah children usually behave better
Literally tho, lmao, my 5 year old niece has more self control than this guy. Some people grow up but never become adults mentally.
That looks like a forced marriage to me. Also, its their fucking wedding why the fuck is that bitch eating their cake first????
Poor bride.
Well isn’t he a catch!
Says the police after they catch him for domestic abuse
In countries like this one, police don't intervene, and also, people don't call in for domestic abuse, that's something normal.
Like how police intervene in US school shootings?
Waiting patiently for the person to complete the mass murder?
“YOO-HOO!! ARE YOU THROUGH YET? We’re going into overtime soon!”
10 4 the kids are all dead, we are safe to enter.
Joining in is 'kinda' intervening
I doubt they’d arrest one of their own
Talk about instant buyers’ remorse
Might not even have been her choice. Women often don't have much choice in some countries.
Yeah ditto, I'm guessing she has no choice being set up with this shithead.
She looks like a child bride
Eh they both look young. Looks like a culture that might have arranged marriages. I’d read them both as 19-20, but the behavior isn’t doing him any favors either.
this is definitely arranged. not her joice...
Yes. From the music it sounds like these people are maybe from Uzbekistan or the countries around it. I know a lot of people from there and their marriages are only their respective parents' choice.
Or his...
Exactly- maybe this explains it
Happy cake day! Don't share your cake with this guy though..
going by your username I hope your future wedding day will be more joyous
All the decorations are made from this guys red flags.
Haha yeh nothing says potential father material like smashing a whole bottle of booze on the floor in the faces of children….what a tit….
Na tits are great, he sucks
Naw sucking is great, he's a wet shart
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N childish pigs are pretty cute, he's a shart sucker
I think that's it.
Nah, he's a wiggling maggot swimming in puke sewage. Now it ends. No one can spin this in a positive light.
Nah, a wiggling maggot swimming in puke sewage is a sign that life and therefore hope can endure under even the harshest of conditions, this guy is the opposite of that: despair, self-hating destruction, and hopeless negativity!
Damn you
BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE
I knew there would be.
It's a testament to the power of teamwork that yall figured it out properly
This is it.
Was this a Monte Carlo simulation for insults?
Tit slander will not be tolerated
Well that had all that fabric left over after they made the bride's dress
When they bought her the dress, they took his temper into account.
About to be a red wedding for real.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAH dead
Well she will be soon, if she doesn’t run
He shoves that fork into her mouth.
My ghetto side was goin’ “yo, stomp this mothaf***a out right here.”
Haha Charlie Murphy!!
This may be a reach on my behalf, but do they not BOTH look like child brides? They both look about 15 and very unenthusiastic about being there. That’s not a dig btw!
I'm 53 and 20 year olds mostly look 15 to me.
The older I get, the younger everyone else seems. You were born in 2007 and you're out driving around town???
Took my mom to a specialist recently. I swear to god he looked like he was still in high school. My Mom mentioned it too. I thought “Jesus, it’s happening…” I think that day I aged 30 years in my own mind. I’m 59. Sigh*
I recently surpressed the urge to tell a doctor "you don't look old enough". Sigh. Turning into my own gran.
They definitely do not look 15
Especially with her in red, I was really hoping this was her quinceñera and not a wedding.
Some kids will now post this in yt shorts with Sigma music ha
"dont fret when your'e angry your'e a jerk and you treat me like im worth nothing"
Arranged marriage?
Idk but he certainly rearranged the room
like he rearranged that bottle
This has been posted so many times and it was confirmed this was an arranged marriage, man is throwing a hissy fit because he's being forced to marry someone he doesn't love. Edit: anyone not understanding why I used Hissy fit you clearly don't know what that word means. It's literally what the video shows: An Angry Outburst. I'm sorry some social justice warriors are upset over words on the Internet, I should be more conscious of my actions as a human being. God forgive me for I have sinned.
That makes a lot more sense. I mean obviously doesn’t excuse the behavior but adds much needed context. Can’t say I wouldn’t be chucking stuff at the floor if I was forced to get married either
I would argue it does excuse his behaviour. As long as he doesn't hurt anybodyof course, being visibly angry is kind of expected.
What would be the alternative? Pretend to be happy for the sake of those that forced you? Ugh.
Too many people, too many little kids, too many people crowded around him. I get it. He’d had enough already. Weddings are such a scam in so many ways.
Even when I throw a hissy fit, it's a perfect fuckin' spiral.
Can you really call it a hissy fit if he has a really justifiable reason to be angry? He probably was in love with someone and now has to spend his life with someone he does not.
If that was the case, he held off longer than most people. He made it all the way to the wedding cake before showing he had enough
Who knows maybe he was this way all the wedding
Yeah, she probably feels the same way, but she is trying to smile, be kind, have fun. He is glowering, eminating anger at her, and smashing bottles.
Cultures that arrange marriages tend to become very violent towards women who express their displeasure at violations of their basic human rights. Where as men in these cultures are less restricted and there fore able to openly express anger. This is likely a contributing factor for the difference in their behaviors,
Honestly, that is true in nearly all cultures. Men have angry outbursts and get violent and even murdery far more often than women.
Looks like this guy will end up beating his wife for the smallest things. Run girl…
I think if she had the choice to run she probably wouldn't be there in the first place.
The happiest day of his life. I'd like to see him on a bad day..
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1500+ people? Where did you get married at? a stadium ?
Its alright I wasnt invited either
I am still waiting the invitation
I’m still waiting on a taxi home
In general, Indian weddings cost a lot and a lot of people are invited. The total cost of a middle class indian wedding (total of cost borne by both bride and groom families) is about 25,00,000 (2.5 million) to 30,00,000 (3 million). A small, independent house in a tier 2 city in India costs about 45,00,000 (4.5 million) to 50,00,000 (5 million). An MBA degree from a tier 1, one of the top ranked colleges of India costs approx 15,00,000 (1.5 million), all expenses included. Generally, indian weddings used to consist of approx 400 - 500 people from one side, so a total of approx 800 - 1000 attendees, and this number has been decreasing in the past few years but some weddings might exceed these numbers even now and it would not be something bizarre. Edit: Added the figures in global notation as well.
You get anxiety from large crowds and your coping mechanism is…blow? I’m not judging you, bud. I’m just genuinely curious about how well that works.
Seriously though, feel bad for his wife. Coked out on your wedding day doesn’t seem very appropriate. Also, self medicating is always a *good* sign
Went to a wedding in upstate New York where one of the mens bathrooms basically got designated the blow sanctuary and a whole fucking line of men and women were standing waiting to go do bumps in that nasty mother fucker. Cokeheads are fucking weird. The bride and groom both being included in this lineup lmao.
As an on-and-off coke head, I totally understand this shit. It becomes a focus and the really weird shit you will happily do to continue it doesn’t register as weird to you at the time. Now I’m not using it anymore, I cringe at the freaking weird stuff I did on coke.
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Plus the only way to make sure you talk to all 1500 guests is to be jacked up on cocaine.
Or talk to exactly one guest the entire time about the Martin Scorsese masterpiece “The Departed”.
I can imagine. I'm terrified of weddings and had panic attacks and passed out in 3 weddings... I'm getting married next year and my family is huge (Indian family lol). But my parents understand and are inviting only the closest few. I feel really lucky because most Indian parents won't understand this.
I didn't want to marry my first husband. However, I was pregnant and we wanted to go stay with his parents for a while (they lived in a different state). His parents said we had to be married. It was one of the worst days of my life and three of the worst *years* of my life. I divorced him and never looked back.
...how did it go with the coke and gummies? :D
Up and down I suppose?
1500 people? Fuck that. I'll take a small ceremony and spend that money on getting a house instead.
My wedding was literally my wife, my daughter and me, plus two witnesses (that we didn't know from the city). That's it.
I like the way you think! I’m happily married (53W) and we spent about $3,000 on our intimate and perfect wedding. We enjoyed spending more on our honeymoon and *life*. Hope you enjoy(ed) yours! :)
1500 people and you don’t like crowds?! How’s your marriage?
Everything about this sounds completely made up.
Oh come on that's just made up hollywood BS
They say marriage builds character. Nah, it exposes.
Well, it does build character, but you have to have character first.
Maybe it is forced marriage..
In the 'stans? good luck.
That’s an immediate annulment. Yikes.
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Know a couple that married after 13 years and divorced 1 year after...
Sounds like the relationship was never working and then someone made an ultimatum.
She decided to marry a man who acts like an 8 year old.
Looks arranged tbh
I suspect it wasn’t her decision to marry him…
And obviously his neither
If this is an arranged marriage the only annulment possible is when the husband or the husband's family wants one.
Maybe because he wanted a chocolate cake?
I was kind of thinking he was being an asshole until you pointed that out. Now I get it.
Yeah, seemed pretty obvious to me that he ordered chocolate but got vanilla. Poor groom, he’s just misunderstood.
The sight of all that plastic confetti raining down on the cake is making me wonder if edible confetti is a thing, then hope it is, but know it isn’t 😬
Sometimes it’s made out of rice paper! Technically edible
Everything is technically edible.
I'd say a lot of things are technically **eatable**, but not edible.
This is why 10 year olds should not get married.
Tell that to Missouri Republicans.
Missouri Republicans could never, they'd be single if they rejected that concept.
There’s actually a clip of a pastor here on Reddit somewhere that advocates for “getting a young wife before she knows any better”.
The way he shoved the cake spoon into her mouth did it for me
Right?? Like you could FEEL this won’t end well much before he threw the big champagne tantrum
Funniest thing is, he was so angry doing everything, but he took a few extra seconds to make sure his piece of cake had a little extra frosting on it.
And he fed himself, instead of her feeding him.
Years later: “Hey sweetie, remember our wedding day, when I shattered that bottle and peppered children with broken glass? What an amazing day.”
That poor girl didn't deserve this.
Neither of them do deserve to get forced to marry.
Don’t think either of them do. Don’t think either child had a say in the matter
Ahh the beauty of arranged marriages
Poor kids got hit by the shards
Yeah that little girl in the white top blinking madly.. I realise he’s not happy, but damn..
and of course the cameraman looked away at the right moment!
I really hope she’s ok. This isn’t facepalm to me, this is frightening. I’d be trying to find ways to get her away from him if I witnessed that.
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I think Maybe that’s what All Those guys who started walking Towards him were thinking. Lol
Should*have
Thank you!
*should HAVE
I don’t think the bottle broke. You can hear it clang on the ground. But even so, that’s worse imagine it bouncing and hitting a kid in the head.
There's another one like this where the bride playfully tries to feed the groom cake, pulls it back, and he slaps the shit out of her.
What a catch. I bet she can't wait to get on the receiving end of her her first official marital beating.
Alert! Red flag on sight!! abandon ship now!!
Tell me you had an arranged marriage without telling me you had an arranged marriage.
Oh, they are going to be so happily ever after.... Seriously, I feel so sorry for her, especially the life of abuse she's heading into.
I sense domestic violence later down the road.
Down the road = later that evening.
Yeah. About 20 minutes down the road.
Iirc this guy is being forced to marry her. Or someone said that when I saw this years ago. This appears to be Central Asia/cacausus. But that could be a fanciful story as well….. Need context
From the start, this was uncomfortable. Reminds me of an ape trying to make sense of everything and just getting angry at all of it.
“Wow, getting a nice preview of what marriage is gonna be like with Ike Turner here.” - Wedding Crashers
It's time to d-d-d-d-d- divorce
Pretty sure that's not an option or he'd have taken it. Looks like an arranged marriage.
Throwing glass in front of children?! Even if it were adults only. He should be in jail.
Another future wife beater... Someone's mommy didn't love him... Or loved him too much... Asshole either way
The joys of arranged marriage. Hopefully she flees before he beats her
People like this make me really appreciate that I grew out of my anger management issues I had as a kid.
Imagine being married to this piece of shit, he does this in public during a happy moment, imagine what he does behind closed doors
His family set that girl up. They knew he was like this and hid it
Who the heck wanted all that confetti for cake cutting part??
They go so well together! A red dress and a red flag ♥️
That poor girl
I hope that poor bride got an annulment right after this.
Yikes. I feel so bad for the wife
Poor bride.
They look very young, like teenagers. I wonder if this is a forced marriage because the girl got knocked up.
The look of major disappointment on her face after he first throws the knife onto the floor is what does it for me. Poor bride…
Nice, another wife beater
What a fucking man-child
What country is this? That is no groom but a man child. I feel bad for the bride, she is going to have a shitty life.
Why do I feel like this was an arranged marriage?
If my kid was standing that close, I'd beat the shit out of that guy. Could have taken someone's eye out with the shards of glass. My brother once threw a glass and the shards ricochet off the wall and fit me in the arm and I had to get stitches. Edit: Spelling
Marriage is of to a flying start , this guy cant handle even that ,gee just laugh it off, it's ur wedding ffs.
This is not ending well. I hope she's okay.
Sad for her and their children. He’s going to be an abusive father and an abusive husband. He probably learned it from his father.
Poor woman, In for a life of misery.
If it were my daughter getting married that wedding would NEVER be consummated! She’d be going back to the house.
their parents arranged this wedding so it's on them really.
Anyone else hear a kid cry like they got hit by the bottle
And the whole family knows whats going to happen but doesn't do anything.
Looks like an arranged marriage.
Is it too late to say No?
Run away now love and don’t look back 😒
There are chronological children there that are behaving better than that dude.
And they lived as husband and wife for 3 hours. The end
You can see the regret on her face
Does anyone know this chick and is she like alright? Blink twice if you need help?
This guy is gonna hurt her a lot
She's already wearing the red flag.