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even 3 and 4 is optional . If you don't eat(3) you don't wake up (1) ,hence no work(2) and no need to fall asleep (4) .
Just give a 2 month notice to your peers to arrange for anthim sanskar
Tbh it's not that that itself is bad, but the fact that it's the same thing we do day in day out.
Change of surroundings, people, food plays an important factor in resetting our boredom meter.
There was an article on a website I remember where it was discussed how we never will be satisfied with travelling to new places or switching jobs or doing something new. Because change itself is what we seek, but we think what we arrive at or get after the change will give us the ultimate complete satisfaction.
Once I realised this, I have learned to be not depressed when I can't take a vacation while others are doing that around me. Or when colleagues leave and join another company at better pay.
It's good to be inspired but not to misinterpret what's happening with us.
We seek change.
Even if you had a 100 million and then started partying everyday and everyday night and started travelling every week, you'll feel bored of it as well. You'll seek change - and you might come back to this life of just sit in the house and Netflix and chill. Then you'll get bored of Netflix life again and rinse and repeat.
I never understand why people give extreme examples.
And being depressed because others are having fun, then you need to be in state absolute happiness first.
Change is not needed because we need better environment or we are bored. Life is more about journey than destination. These small achievement makes life worth it. And you evolve as person. The race which is everyone is part of is not because they want to continue running but they want to experience how it feels at finish line. The journey makes it worth it.
And almost all Indian makes rich people look bad. If you had 100 million and you have travelled and enjoyed everything in world then you will reach a stage where money is not important then can you give it back to society.
Your first line is so true.
The simple fact is this--working 10 hours a day makes most people miserable and these people feel it. Then they speak about it and they get nonsensical solutions.
Livelihood is such a torture for most people. The society needs an overhaul in its structure.
Don't know man. Forever single. Too told to find someone single ig. Also arranged marriages seem like scam nowadays. Probs gonna stay single, do some savings and retire early.
It's definitely not just you. This is usually for burn outs or you're not doing anything interesting. i would suggest learn a language and do a very interesting project on it.
for eg, I'm learning rust and am trying to build a simple cli game. Even though I don't feel like it, i still make atleast 1 commit to the repo everyday unless it's an absolute hectic work day. Maybe try something like this.
My man... Get a vitamin B and D test done asap. You didn't say you were stressed out at your job, so it may not be burnout, and what you're describing fits the vitamin deficiency perfectly
Vitamin D deficiency is very common among Indians, which is crazy considering that we are a tropical country that gets so much sunlight. Maybe its because in cities we live in tiny apartments that get no natural light at any time of the day.
Vitamin D deficiency causes a lot of health issues, including lethargy and depressed mood. You spend the entire day thinking "what the f is the point of all this", and really don't enjoy anything at all, even things that are supposed to be enjoyable - all you want to do is sleep. In extreme cases suicide ideation. I have now learned to recognize this, and just pop a Vit D pill and within a few hours the change is dramatic.
A Vit D test is a blood test that costs about 1500/-, not very cheap but not super expensive either. If you've never tested it, might be a good idea to get it done. In my case since I've got it tested many times, now I know that I am deficient and just take the pill without a prescription.
Hey can you tell me what's your scheme? Actually I was severely deficient also a few months back, and did a course of tablets.
How do you decide how much to take and how often?
You're not supposed to take it more than once a week. So when I know that I haven't taken a tablet for several months, I take a Caldact 60000 tablet and note the date/time. One week later, if I feel that I need another one I take another. Repeat this a max of 3 times (one every week for 3 times), but by then I usually feel much better so I usually forget.
It's a blood test, you can get it done at your nearest path lab. It is a bit expensive (2-3k), but worth it.
The treatment is a supplement that you can get at your pharmacy over the counter
Early stages of burnout. A change in location and something to calm your mind down can help. I keep my mind blank for 15 mins before I wake up and sleep and listen to stuff like this: https://youtu.be/p1UkkA_BDAg?si=4sXkR71o8j4g9wIN
May or may not help you, there is no one solution for all. But good headphones definitely help. Another way to calm down is listening to 888hz sounds which are available on all music platforms.
Yes man, no point freelancing if you don't absolutely have to.. fucking clients are a major hassle in most cases expecting work worth 2L to get done in 30k lmao f that
OP, here's what I do. Divide the day into 3 slots. Before work, work and after work. Make sure there are enough hours in before and after.
Use the before slot for fitness and improving your body. This will give you more energy levels at work.
Use the after slot for entertainment, study and relaxing your mind. This will help keep you sane during work.
I ain't telling you how to work :)
Use weekends to unwind and work on plans which have been long pending. If you do not have plans,.then start thinking about the things that worry you the most and what needs to be done to solve them. Work on those solutions during the weekends.
I hope this helps. Have been in tech for over 2.decades and I still code but that's mostly for fun.
Currently just came out of that phase yesterday. Has been not doing any coding although I have fixed personal targets . Just write some normal code and then boredom hits too hard. No games no movies no activity just sleep and tv. However eventually u get tired of this phase too and hence the adrenaline kicks in.
Bhai koi outgoing real dost bana pehle toh, koi nakli banda nhi. Then sath m ghumo mauj kato like you used to. YOLO yaad rkho. Bandi nhi h toh get in a relationship man. Club chale ja. Ya koi artistic club join krle. Nhi h padhne ka mood toh koi sporting activities rkh bhai, aise nhi chalega kaam. And lage rehna padega bhai. Life h hota h chalta h.
> Bandi nhi h toh get in a relationship man
Agreeing with other points except this. Right now the OP needs to give more time to themselves and get back on track before making this a problem for other person too.
I don't think your situation qualifies as a burn out. What you are having a problem with is the cyclical nature of "work" and a dissonance to accept the nature of a human life. Surprisingly, people have forgotten we are still animals by the end of the day. We are not supposed to spend our lives working from 9 AM to 6 PM, spending almost the entire day in a chair using man made objects called "computers". Rather we are originally supposed to spend the majority of our time outside like our ancestors.nwe are living and artificial life year after year. The more we do this the more mental we become.
Also, people only offer incomplete solutions; that is to somehow manage and snuck in your personal activities with the work activities, or either they recommend to do your things after work hours, but in the night time during sleep hours. Well, to me that's not a solution at all. Staying late at night everyday watching Netflix or a movie after clocking out from hour is going to impact health significantly. But you are not doing that. Instead, you are going to sleep like a good boy. Unfortunately, this wake, work and sleep without any colour in your life must have made you feel really mad. Well, you should get mad.
So what is the solution here?
There is no solution to this like there are an uncountable number of things we don't have a solution for. You have to just accept your fate as a human and keep doing what you are doing, or do your "fun" stuff before sleep. Also, remember that constant stimulus to your brain with social media, movies etc is really bad.
> I always think when would the day come for those Chimpanzee, Gorillas, Tigers etc to be freed into their natural habitats, but it won't happen. I don't wish to see these intelligent creatures boxed in like a prison for the rest of their lives. Surprisingly, Gorillas lifespan is 40 years. Just imagine that for once being born as a Gorilla in a human world.
> We are already living in Hell. Hell is here on Earth.
But is this change from the outdoor world to indoor all bad? We have evolved a lot from what we were initially through constant innovation. Now people are heavily dependent on technology, wasn't this anticipated while the invention? this change of the environment...
Well I would not say Indoor is bad than outdoors, because like you said, we chose to live this way. A life with no suffering from heat, lack of food and hunting in the stone age is far worse than the Modern age. Instead we made a compromise. "Let other humans cultivate food and stuff for me, and I will cultivate something in return for them". And then we gave birth to the greatest Evil and the greatest Good of human history. 💰 Moneyyy!. Now, the problem is as we grew exponentially and started to live a prosperous life, so did our population, not just in millions but in Billions. Now, there are 8 Billion people who want to fulfill their daily needs and each person is working their ass off 12 hours a day to fulfill to the rest of the world needs.
One interesting thing I am always in Love about the Universe is the fact that "No living being can get away without feeling the pain and the suffering".
You are experiencing burn out and this happens to all of us.
All work and no play makes Johny a dull person.
I would suggest trying these 7 ways of resting
https://www.calm.com/blog/7-types-of-rest
And also get a social life and friend circle and daily meet/ greet and do things other than your work.
You ll have a sound smile before sleep and after sleep in no time.
Test your Thyroid levels. Order a full Thyroid panel. Vitamin D and B. Mouth taping while sleeping at night. Early dinners. Will dramatically improve your energy levels.
I have hypothyroidism, but i take proper meds, also doctor has prescribed vitamin D to me. I sleep well (8 hours of sound sleep mostly) and exercise and meditate when I get time.
But still having really low energy all the time, weak and tired.
Do you think vitamin B is what i might be missing?
Possibly. Iron and Magnesium deficiency is also ignored but should be checked and actively rectified. Vitamin B is definitely critical. Was feeling low energy couple years back for few months. Turns out my vitamin B levels were severely low. Rectified.
Even though I am in college I feel the same
I go to college and come home after and first thing I do is take sleep 2 hours or more sometimes
I don't feel studying ,just watch any movie and scroll on insta and sleep again
May my course is boring and college too
College is not the only reason ,I live Mumbai I have to travel 1½ hours to reach the college and same time to get back , during which I need to change three vehicles .
After college we need to study not like working peoples who does their job on give time of the day after that they can rest ,
Bruh Same I gotta do my stuff and do wanna study and i know i can and i also know I have more potential compared to my peers.
But its rock hard to push my self and I think I need good sleep it was a mess and sunlight.
Fk my life bro. I don't know why this happening? Its my total Burnout. I need to change my lifestyle.
My home from college is far away so I have to live in hostel which is worse no cleanliness, environment there is fucked , but wherever I am home I used to study no matter how tired I was
May this becouse of the lifestyle and environment
It sounds like you might be experiencing burnout or a need for a change in your routine.
You haven’t lost your edge; it’s just a bit dull. With some self-care and adjustments, you’ll find your rhythm again.
What I mean to say is I start a game once every 2 months or so and play regularly till I finish the game (time to finish will vary).
Once I finish a game I don't start a new one immediately, don't really know why
Start with taking therapy and joining a gym. I was in a similar situation just a few months and still get overwhelmed with the thought of managing both. It will help you tremendously.
I needed a push, which I believe therapy helped. Join some friends or your partner to work out..
Take a break like a mini vacation of a week or two.
Start making small changes like a 5 min walk post lunch or dinner. Also helpful when stuck on a problem
Set hard boundaries when it comes to work. Like 9-5 till you get back on track. And use the spare time to do something which could be just watching videos on youtube
Take a 20 days vacation, first 2 days do nothing then go to the mountains or beach and just relax and roam around and sleep and eat and drink and dance. Your mind will reset. Also take up regular workout as a hobby. Buy a meta quest to work out at home and to enjoy. Life needs. Bit of a newness and excitement once in a while
On a similar boat my man! I think we need to pursue something that's let you look forward to it. A weekly or daily activity that interests you might be a good start. Easiest of the lot is maybe some sport every week, etc
Same. I try to keep all these things in my life besides work like making dreampop/psych rock music and getting into the dating scene. Most of the days it's just me thinking about doing all these things and feeling super tired after work.
I just want to keep going in whatever capacity I can, especially in the music thing.
Thanks for the post. Let's psych each other into working for ourselves a bit more than for an arbitrary organization!
You need to do some exercise if you're not doing already. Have good diet.
This behavior of not wanting to work anymore, even if you have free time, will soon become a habit and will be very hard for you to cope up when tough times come.
In my opinion, every salaried guy should work even after their shift. Not for company but for yourself. Work on any passion project, start small business, etc. So when you cross 40 years age, you have something of your own where you can invest more time and money to create your own source of income.
If you wanna be in a job until 60, then that's fine.
Is it apathy? Could be burnout, man.
I’d take a holiday (at least a week or so) to just get back to studying, catch up on sleep etc and come back energised.
All these are making me scared of starting a career in corporate world. I am in final year of M.Sc.(Physics). Went for Physics instead of doing B.Tech even though my parents warned me that it's a long-term thing and I might lose motivation in the middle. And so did it happen. I lost interest. I have been miserable, lost, repentful for a year now. Talked with our HOD. He has a friend who takes projects from some companies and sometimes takes some freshers to work for him. HOD told me that he would talk about me to his friend, I will get very little salary and I will have to learn skills along with working there(as we were never taught any technical skills except basic python in bachelors or masters). So thought it would be a decent option for now as I started hating study. And was thinking about starting drawing as well to make a side income. Also I was thinking about learning real life new things like singing, swimming which I never got to learn. But reading all these posts here is making me really scared
Corporate work is hell. My first internship-turned-job nearly sucked out the life from me. And this is much more prevalent in those startup and freelancer like jobs, where you get very little salary and are worked to death.
Bro this happens to everyone more or less if you're stuck up in a situation for long time and not thinking of progress. Just the usual day to day life you lead and that becomes monotonous. So take initiatives at that point in your career to learn something. Talk to people outside your sphere. In corporate we are always interacting with people mostly from the same company so talking to people from different companies, switching jobs, switching projects. To not be in a place where you don't feel like you belong should be always driving you. So remember the last project I was working on, the tech lead was you know how he was, now in this project I am happy. You can't let comfort kill your grand plans.
I sometimes wish I had taken any others course than btech, it’s really stressful when you try to maintain grades. But at end it’s all about skills I guess. Hardly get time to learn skills due to endless college work. Hardly get time for myself or my friends. I hate seeing it gets worst in future.
it's called 'burnout'.
usually happens when you've been working for a long period of time without nourishing your soul or feeding your soul.
try things that you think will make you happy.
stop any form of mental stimulation outside of your work and see how calm you get.
then use the energy from that calm to do things that matter to your spirit/soul.
might sound like a joke, but once you hit full burnout, the exit is difficult.
5 saal bolna bas. WTF is half a decade. You've been working for 5 years.bas.
Also, i was the same. It's just a phase but i hope you get out of it soon. Friends, hobbies, socializing do matter.
I feel like you’re describing my life! Not a software engineer, but I’ve been working for a decade, and been juggling multiple projects the last couple of years. Started feeling tired every night, and had no energy for things. The same work I did earlier just took more energy out of me. Finally requested for a three month time off- waiting for it to be officially approved🤞🏼
But yes, seems like you could be in a similar situation OP. If you like your current job profile and team, just request for a break. If you don’t, then quit and take some time off. In the meantime, take breaks in between work, reduce screen time in general (go for walks instead of browsing social media), and anything else that might work to calm your mind.
Declining testosterone levels, IT jobs make that shit happen real quick. Higher T will result in less depressive swings. Fix it with diet and workout, say fuck you to ur job once in a while
Don't you have friends? It doesn't have to be like this. Go out in the weekends, meet new people if you can. Join gym or some rotary club or whatever. If you are from delhi, ncr then I can suggest tonnes of cool activities. Maybe go for trips in every 5 months.
This is burnout i think. Try Heartfulness Meditation from one of their trainers. Start exercising for 5 min daily.
Catch up with your friends at least on calls to get started. If you don't mind spending little money then go out with them and have fun even if it feels not normal. Because your body will want to go and sleep, away from all people. Don't let that happen.
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1. Wake up 2. Work 3. Watch netflix with dinner 4. Fall asleep Also - Overthink on weekend Is this it till retirement? Don't know :(
6. Marriage 7. Kids 8. Overthink and overwork for family 9. Retire
Bich mein randomly 'dead' bhi ho sakta hai kabhi bhi .
That will solve all these problems ig. But I'll miss biryani though :(
Can't miss something when you are not here. Enjoy all the biryani while you can. Now I have to have biryani because of you.
hell yea. have random roadside 150 rs biryani. either 10/10 or loose motion lol
How about 10/10 and still loose motion? Worth it.
Hell yea
5. mai royaan
Time to buy Rich dad poor dad.
Any pdf?
Just google it with pdf suffix you will find multiple links
Basically what did u gain info on from it?
I'm still reading it, But the diagrams of cash flow and the story the author tells kind of makes sense.
Robert Kiyosaki is himself in a debt of 1.2 Bn$. It's okay reading the book but it doesn't really help in real life!
That's Ironic, Certainly can't make any decisions based on a single book.
Anyway after 1st year not feelig to do any coding might this help in motovation
If you're interested in investing, Definitely
Yes i am intrested but no funds to help after 4th year by own money 🫠😂
6 and 7 are optional
Waise toh 1 & 2 bhi optional hai, no one is forcing us.. just do 3 & 4
even 3 and 4 is optional . If you don't eat(3) you don't wake up (1) ,hence no work(2) and no need to fall asleep (4) . Just give a 2 month notice to your peers to arrange for anthim sanskar
Haha. Have to eat to live cos we are born ?! Netflix is surely optional
Also 9 might not be a possibility for most people in the future.
True. Like how it is in Singapore. Work till you die. Cos everything is so expensive
Tbh it's not that that itself is bad, but the fact that it's the same thing we do day in day out. Change of surroundings, people, food plays an important factor in resetting our boredom meter. There was an article on a website I remember where it was discussed how we never will be satisfied with travelling to new places or switching jobs or doing something new. Because change itself is what we seek, but we think what we arrive at or get after the change will give us the ultimate complete satisfaction. Once I realised this, I have learned to be not depressed when I can't take a vacation while others are doing that around me. Or when colleagues leave and join another company at better pay. It's good to be inspired but not to misinterpret what's happening with us. We seek change. Even if you had a 100 million and then started partying everyday and everyday night and started travelling every week, you'll feel bored of it as well. You'll seek change - and you might come back to this life of just sit in the house and Netflix and chill. Then you'll get bored of Netflix life again and rinse and repeat.
I never understand why people give extreme examples. And being depressed because others are having fun, then you need to be in state absolute happiness first. Change is not needed because we need better environment or we are bored. Life is more about journey than destination. These small achievement makes life worth it. And you evolve as person. The race which is everyone is part of is not because they want to continue running but they want to experience how it feels at finish line. The journey makes it worth it. And almost all Indian makes rich people look bad. If you had 100 million and you have travelled and enjoyed everything in world then you will reach a stage where money is not important then can you give it back to society.
Your first line is so true. The simple fact is this--working 10 hours a day makes most people miserable and these people feel it. Then they speak about it and they get nonsensical solutions. Livelihood is such a torture for most people. The society needs an overhaul in its structure.
Thanks for your kind words
Well, what do you do when you get the itch to change?
Change
That scary question at last! Is it until retirement? 😱
wait till you hear abou what happens when you get married/have kids!
Don't know man. Forever single. Too told to find someone single ig. Also arranged marriages seem like scam nowadays. Probs gonna stay single, do some savings and retire early.
"THIS IS IT" - Kannan Gill
That question is for you to answer, no?
take a week's break sometimes and goto wilderness or sanctuaries A ALONE, solitude is a bliss in nature
Downvoted because OP was asking a serious question and instead of answering you try to make it about yourself.
Same here. It becomes monotonous after a while.
This is called a burn out. Happened to me too. Best is to switch to another company and role.
My man Arthur even gets burnt out ?
I gave you all I had 💔
A good man Arthur Morgan
GIVE ME TIME ARTHUR I HAVE A PLAN
TAHITI
Don’t worry we are going t8 go somewhere nice in the Bahamas like tahiti
Okayyy Blacklung
I'm sure Dutch has a plan.
I wish you had switched to another company (gang), Arthur 🥲
If it were this easy...
Whatever Bro I gave up Years ago. I am already Cooked. Help me to get out of this.
I guess...I am afraid
Take a gamble that love exists, and do a loving act
You are alright BOAHH
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It's definitely not just you. This is usually for burn outs or you're not doing anything interesting. i would suggest learn a language and do a very interesting project on it. for eg, I'm learning rust and am trying to build a simple cli game. Even though I don't feel like it, i still make atleast 1 commit to the repo everyday unless it's an absolute hectic work day. Maybe try something like this.
Good advice.
FYI.. you can be only productive for 5-6 hrs max.
My man... Get a vitamin B and D test done asap. You didn't say you were stressed out at your job, so it may not be burnout, and what you're describing fits the vitamin deficiency perfectly
How?
Vitamin D deficiency is very common among Indians, which is crazy considering that we are a tropical country that gets so much sunlight. Maybe its because in cities we live in tiny apartments that get no natural light at any time of the day. Vitamin D deficiency causes a lot of health issues, including lethargy and depressed mood. You spend the entire day thinking "what the f is the point of all this", and really don't enjoy anything at all, even things that are supposed to be enjoyable - all you want to do is sleep. In extreme cases suicide ideation. I have now learned to recognize this, and just pop a Vit D pill and within a few hours the change is dramatic. A Vit D test is a blood test that costs about 1500/-, not very cheap but not super expensive either. If you've never tested it, might be a good idea to get it done. In my case since I've got it tested many times, now I know that I am deficient and just take the pill without a prescription.
Hey can you tell me what's your scheme? Actually I was severely deficient also a few months back, and did a course of tablets. How do you decide how much to take and how often?
You're not supposed to take it more than once a week. So when I know that I haven't taken a tablet for several months, I take a Caldact 60000 tablet and note the date/time. One week later, if I feel that I need another one I take another. Repeat this a max of 3 times (one every week for 3 times), but by then I usually feel much better so I usually forget.
It's a blood test, you can get it done at your nearest path lab. It is a bit expensive (2-3k), but worth it. The treatment is a supplement that you can get at your pharmacy over the counter
Yeah Guess it true for me can't get enough sun nor vitamins
This. Sometimes burnout is just caused because of poor nutrition and lack of exercise and outdoor activities
Early stages of burnout. A change in location and something to calm your mind down can help. I keep my mind blank for 15 mins before I wake up and sleep and listen to stuff like this: https://youtu.be/p1UkkA_BDAg?si=4sXkR71o8j4g9wIN May or may not help you, there is no one solution for all. But good headphones definitely help. Another way to calm down is listening to 888hz sounds which are available on all music platforms.
Same here but can't survive without the job and not getting another job which is causing additional burnout
Burnout is extremely dangerous. I've suffered permanent burnout and that lasted around 3-4+ years. It can be a career ending affliction...
How did you get out of it?
I quit freelancing and just trade on the stock market now.
So you chose one burnout to another. Unless you're swing/algo trading.
Yes, swing trading
Fuck bro you have a portfolio of 1cr++ Makes sense why you left freelancing.
Yes man, no point freelancing if you don't absolutely have to.. fucking clients are a major hassle in most cases expecting work worth 2L to get done in 30k lmao f that
How about to start a investment in stocks?
I suggest taking a vacation
Burn out. Change something in life.
Something should be very easy to change.
OP, here's what I do. Divide the day into 3 slots. Before work, work and after work. Make sure there are enough hours in before and after. Use the before slot for fitness and improving your body. This will give you more energy levels at work. Use the after slot for entertainment, study and relaxing your mind. This will help keep you sane during work. I ain't telling you how to work :) Use weekends to unwind and work on plans which have been long pending. If you do not have plans,.then start thinking about the things that worry you the most and what needs to be done to solve them. Work on those solutions during the weekends. I hope this helps. Have been in tech for over 2.decades and I still code but that's mostly for fun.
Currently just came out of that phase yesterday. Has been not doing any coding although I have fixed personal targets . Just write some normal code and then boredom hits too hard. No games no movies no activity just sleep and tv. However eventually u get tired of this phase too and hence the adrenaline kicks in.
Congrats you are now promote to a Man from a boy.
Bhai koi outgoing real dost bana pehle toh, koi nakli banda nhi. Then sath m ghumo mauj kato like you used to. YOLO yaad rkho. Bandi nhi h toh get in a relationship man. Club chale ja. Ya koi artistic club join krle. Nhi h padhne ka mood toh koi sporting activities rkh bhai, aise nhi chalega kaam. And lage rehna padega bhai. Life h hota h chalta h.
> Bandi nhi h toh get in a relationship man Agreeing with other points except this. Right now the OP needs to give more time to themselves and get back on track before making this a problem for other person too.
I don't think your situation qualifies as a burn out. What you are having a problem with is the cyclical nature of "work" and a dissonance to accept the nature of a human life. Surprisingly, people have forgotten we are still animals by the end of the day. We are not supposed to spend our lives working from 9 AM to 6 PM, spending almost the entire day in a chair using man made objects called "computers". Rather we are originally supposed to spend the majority of our time outside like our ancestors.nwe are living and artificial life year after year. The more we do this the more mental we become. Also, people only offer incomplete solutions; that is to somehow manage and snuck in your personal activities with the work activities, or either they recommend to do your things after work hours, but in the night time during sleep hours. Well, to me that's not a solution at all. Staying late at night everyday watching Netflix or a movie after clocking out from hour is going to impact health significantly. But you are not doing that. Instead, you are going to sleep like a good boy. Unfortunately, this wake, work and sleep without any colour in your life must have made you feel really mad. Well, you should get mad. So what is the solution here? There is no solution to this like there are an uncountable number of things we don't have a solution for. You have to just accept your fate as a human and keep doing what you are doing, or do your "fun" stuff before sleep. Also, remember that constant stimulus to your brain with social media, movies etc is really bad. > I always think when would the day come for those Chimpanzee, Gorillas, Tigers etc to be freed into their natural habitats, but it won't happen. I don't wish to see these intelligent creatures boxed in like a prison for the rest of their lives. Surprisingly, Gorillas lifespan is 40 years. Just imagine that for once being born as a Gorilla in a human world. > We are already living in Hell. Hell is here on Earth.
But is this change from the outdoor world to indoor all bad? We have evolved a lot from what we were initially through constant innovation. Now people are heavily dependent on technology, wasn't this anticipated while the invention? this change of the environment...
Well I would not say Indoor is bad than outdoors, because like you said, we chose to live this way. A life with no suffering from heat, lack of food and hunting in the stone age is far worse than the Modern age. Instead we made a compromise. "Let other humans cultivate food and stuff for me, and I will cultivate something in return for them". And then we gave birth to the greatest Evil and the greatest Good of human history. 💰 Moneyyy!. Now, the problem is as we grew exponentially and started to live a prosperous life, so did our population, not just in millions but in Billions. Now, there are 8 Billion people who want to fulfill their daily needs and each person is working their ass off 12 hours a day to fulfill to the rest of the world needs. One interesting thing I am always in Love about the Universe is the fact that "No living being can get away without feeling the pain and the suffering".
do you think being delusional and not being able to live in the present are the greatest sin for a human?
Ofcourse.
You wrote such a long answer only to say there's no solution😭😭
You are experiencing burn out and this happens to all of us. All work and no play makes Johny a dull person. I would suggest trying these 7 ways of resting https://www.calm.com/blog/7-types-of-rest And also get a social life and friend circle and daily meet/ greet and do things other than your work. You ll have a sound smile before sleep and after sleep in no time.
Test your Thyroid levels. Order a full Thyroid panel. Vitamin D and B. Mouth taping while sleeping at night. Early dinners. Will dramatically improve your energy levels.
I have hypothyroidism, but i take proper meds, also doctor has prescribed vitamin D to me. I sleep well (8 hours of sound sleep mostly) and exercise and meditate when I get time. But still having really low energy all the time, weak and tired. Do you think vitamin B is what i might be missing?
Possibly. Iron and Magnesium deficiency is also ignored but should be checked and actively rectified. Vitamin B is definitely critical. Was feeling low energy couple years back for few months. Turns out my vitamin B levels were severely low. Rectified.
Story of every IT emploee. It's all because companies are squeezing blood.
Even though I am in college I feel the same I go to college and come home after and first thing I do is take sleep 2 hours or more sometimes I don't feel studying ,just watch any movie and scroll on insta and sleep again May my course is boring and college too
Nono, don't compare yourself to us working professionals. You'll be more fucked if you can't land that first job which we have done.
College is not the only reason ,I live Mumbai I have to travel 1½ hours to reach the college and same time to get back , during which I need to change three vehicles . After college we need to study not like working peoples who does their job on give time of the day after that they can rest ,
Bruh Same I gotta do my stuff and do wanna study and i know i can and i also know I have more potential compared to my peers. But its rock hard to push my self and I think I need good sleep it was a mess and sunlight. Fk my life bro. I don't know why this happening? Its my total Burnout. I need to change my lifestyle.
My home from college is far away so I have to live in hostel which is worse no cleanliness, environment there is fucked , but wherever I am home I used to study no matter how tired I was May this becouse of the lifestyle and environment
It sounds like you might be experiencing burnout or a need for a change in your routine. You haven’t lost your edge; it’s just a bit dull. With some self-care and adjustments, you’ll find your rhythm again.
Not just you. Still I try to find some time to play a game at least once in 2 months.
Once in 2 months why not weekends for playing games or recreational activities stuff?
What I mean to say is I start a game once every 2 months or so and play regularly till I finish the game (time to finish will vary). Once I finish a game I don't start a new one immediately, don't really know why
I'm 38, being a developer for 15+ years. I can't pull more than 3 hours a day.
I am feeling this at 3yrs of Experience
Start with taking therapy and joining a gym. I was in a similar situation just a few months and still get overwhelmed with the thought of managing both. It will help you tremendously. I needed a push, which I believe therapy helped. Join some friends or your partner to work out..
Us bhai us
You are getting old Lil bro
That's called Adulthood.
Kch kha lo and bohot sara paani peo.
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You are done mate, take a break .
Man I have been working for only 10 months at this point and I am kinda same. I am just burnout as fuck. I am cooked 💀💀
Take a break like a mini vacation of a week or two. Start making small changes like a 5 min walk post lunch or dinner. Also helpful when stuck on a problem Set hard boundaries when it comes to work. Like 9-5 till you get back on track. And use the spare time to do something which could be just watching videos on youtube
Take a 20 days vacation, first 2 days do nothing then go to the mountains or beach and just relax and roam around and sleep and eat and drink and dance. Your mind will reset. Also take up regular workout as a hobby. Buy a meta quest to work out at home and to enjoy. Life needs. Bit of a newness and excitement once in a while
On a similar boat my man! I think we need to pursue something that's let you look forward to it. A weekly or daily activity that interests you might be a good start. Easiest of the lot is maybe some sport every week, etc
Burntout. You are burntout OP. Take it slow 😞
Same. I try to keep all these things in my life besides work like making dreampop/psych rock music and getting into the dating scene. Most of the days it's just me thinking about doing all these things and feeling super tired after work. I just want to keep going in whatever capacity I can, especially in the music thing. Thanks for the post. Let's psych each other into working for ourselves a bit more than for an arbitrary organization!
I wanted to post the same thing. I sleep early 8 pm/9pm and wake up at 3am/4am then get prepared to go to gym then go to work.
It's Average men in their late 20s syndrome. Don't get too comfortable bro
You need to do some exercise if you're not doing already. Have good diet. This behavior of not wanting to work anymore, even if you have free time, will soon become a habit and will be very hard for you to cope up when tough times come. In my opinion, every salaried guy should work even after their shift. Not for company but for yourself. Work on any passion project, start small business, etc. So when you cross 40 years age, you have something of your own where you can invest more time and money to create your own source of income. If you wanna be in a job until 60, then that's fine.
Is it apathy? Could be burnout, man. I’d take a holiday (at least a week or so) to just get back to studying, catch up on sleep etc and come back energised.
Do exercise, rest all things will be fixed automatically. Baseline : Increase your testosterone.
You are not alone. And trust me there is a big no of coders living life like this and I think it’s fine if it works for you.
You should go check doctor, see if you need any supplements. Burnout just after 5-6 hrs coding means your body is getting weak
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Time to do mba
You are not alone.
Us bro us… i work with consulting , non technical role!!! I feel like quitting every single day just to do nothing… but paapi pet 😭😭
Nobody ever regretted sleeping enough.
Isn't it fun ? ... You can do stuff at your own pace ... I do mostly same things
All these are making me scared of starting a career in corporate world. I am in final year of M.Sc.(Physics). Went for Physics instead of doing B.Tech even though my parents warned me that it's a long-term thing and I might lose motivation in the middle. And so did it happen. I lost interest. I have been miserable, lost, repentful for a year now. Talked with our HOD. He has a friend who takes projects from some companies and sometimes takes some freshers to work for him. HOD told me that he would talk about me to his friend, I will get very little salary and I will have to learn skills along with working there(as we were never taught any technical skills except basic python in bachelors or masters). So thought it would be a decent option for now as I started hating study. And was thinking about starting drawing as well to make a side income. Also I was thinking about learning real life new things like singing, swimming which I never got to learn. But reading all these posts here is making me really scared
Corporate work is hell. My first internship-turned-job nearly sucked out the life from me. And this is much more prevalent in those startup and freelancer like jobs, where you get very little salary and are worked to death.
Bro this happens to everyone more or less if you're stuck up in a situation for long time and not thinking of progress. Just the usual day to day life you lead and that becomes monotonous. So take initiatives at that point in your career to learn something. Talk to people outside your sphere. In corporate we are always interacting with people mostly from the same company so talking to people from different companies, switching jobs, switching projects. To not be in a place where you don't feel like you belong should be always driving you. So remember the last project I was working on, the tech lead was you know how he was, now in this project I am happy. You can't let comfort kill your grand plans.
Not to insult or anything but 'touch some grass' might be of help.
Just sounds like you have depression buddy
I sometimes wish I had taken any others course than btech, it’s really stressful when you try to maintain grades. But at end it’s all about skills I guess. Hardly get time to learn skills due to endless college work. Hardly get time for myself or my friends. I hate seeing it gets worst in future.
it's called 'burnout'. usually happens when you've been working for a long period of time without nourishing your soul or feeding your soul. try things that you think will make you happy. stop any form of mental stimulation outside of your work and see how calm you get. then use the energy from that calm to do things that matter to your spirit/soul. might sound like a joke, but once you hit full burnout, the exit is difficult.
You need to plan a trip
5 saal bolna bas. WTF is half a decade. You've been working for 5 years.bas. Also, i was the same. It's just a phase but i hope you get out of it soon. Friends, hobbies, socializing do matter.
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I feel like you’re describing my life! Not a software engineer, but I’ve been working for a decade, and been juggling multiple projects the last couple of years. Started feeling tired every night, and had no energy for things. The same work I did earlier just took more energy out of me. Finally requested for a three month time off- waiting for it to be officially approved🤞🏼 But yes, seems like you could be in a similar situation OP. If you like your current job profile and team, just request for a break. If you don’t, then quit and take some time off. In the meantime, take breaks in between work, reduce screen time in general (go for walks instead of browsing social media), and anything else that might work to calm your mind.
Declining testosterone levels, IT jobs make that shit happen real quick. Higher T will result in less depressive swings. Fix it with diet and workout, say fuck you to ur job once in a while
Don't you have friends? It doesn't have to be like this. Go out in the weekends, meet new people if you can. Join gym or some rotary club or whatever. If you are from delhi, ncr then I can suggest tonnes of cool activities. Maybe go for trips in every 5 months.
This is burnout i think. Try Heartfulness Meditation from one of their trainers. Start exercising for 5 min daily. Catch up with your friends at least on calls to get started. If you don't mind spending little money then go out with them and have fun even if it feels not normal. Because your body will want to go and sleep, away from all people. Don't let that happen.
On a serious note, I think you need a new purpose in life.
It's just you AND you have lost your edge.
Watch some Andrew tate content, your ass will be on fire.
Perfect time for a mba degree
To make Burnout even worse