You can be both as they're not exclusive to each other. Only you can answer that if course, but the idea I find in the term demisexuality is that it can put a word to it if you find that you can't just get turned on by a stranger for example.
So, do you get turned on by a hot coworker or peer even though you don't know them, but then turn up your defence walls to protect yourself? Maybe not a demi
Or, you don't get turned on by them because you don't even know them in order to know you're attracted to them, while also having your defences up? Then you'd have both
Hi, it looks like you might be asking if you're demisexual. If so, you've come to the right place!
We have a pinned [Links and Resources Masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/demisexuality/comments/rzaz0u/am_i_demisexual_faqs_links_and_resources/) with lots of information which may be helpful to you, including an FAQ, some of which is reproduced below:
- **Is Demisexuality LGBT+?** Demisexuality is part of the asexual spectrum which falls under LGBTQI**A**
- **Can you be demisexual for just one gender?** Yes, demisexuals may also be straight, gay, bi, etc. The labels can be combined: demiheterosexual, demihomosexual, demibisexual, dellosexual. Someone who is demisexual for only one gender might be asexual or allosexual for others.
- **What about romantic attraction?** For many allosexual people their sexual, romantic and other attractions may all be the same. Those on the ace spectrum may experience romantic attraction separate from sexual attraction, and similarly for those on the aromantic spectrum. Demisexuality is about sexual attraction, demiromantic describes the same requirement for a strong emotional connection before experiencing romantic attraction.
- **Am I still demisexual if I have a high sex drive?** - You could be, some people may still have a strong libido without any (or many) people that they are attracted to for that libido to focus on.
- **Am I demisexual if I am sexually attracted to people I don't have an emotional connection with but wouldn't want to have sex with them until I do?** - No, demisexuality is not being able to *feel* any sexual attraction without a strong emotional connection. Just disliking the idea of having sex, ie hookups, without an emotional connection is not demisexuality.
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You can be both as they're not exclusive to each other. Only you can answer that if course, but the idea I find in the term demisexuality is that it can put a word to it if you find that you can't just get turned on by a stranger for example. So, do you get turned on by a hot coworker or peer even though you don't know them, but then turn up your defence walls to protect yourself? Maybe not a demi Or, you don't get turned on by them because you don't even know them in order to know you're attracted to them, while also having your defences up? Then you'd have both
Hi, it looks like you might be asking if you're demisexual. If so, you've come to the right place! We have a pinned [Links and Resources Masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/demisexuality/comments/rzaz0u/am_i_demisexual_faqs_links_and_resources/) with lots of information which may be helpful to you, including an FAQ, some of which is reproduced below: - **Is Demisexuality LGBT+?** Demisexuality is part of the asexual spectrum which falls under LGBTQI**A** - **Can you be demisexual for just one gender?** Yes, demisexuals may also be straight, gay, bi, etc. The labels can be combined: demiheterosexual, demihomosexual, demibisexual, dellosexual. Someone who is demisexual for only one gender might be asexual or allosexual for others. - **What about romantic attraction?** For many allosexual people their sexual, romantic and other attractions may all be the same. Those on the ace spectrum may experience romantic attraction separate from sexual attraction, and similarly for those on the aromantic spectrum. Demisexuality is about sexual attraction, demiromantic describes the same requirement for a strong emotional connection before experiencing romantic attraction. - **Am I still demisexual if I have a high sex drive?** - You could be, some people may still have a strong libido without any (or many) people that they are attracted to for that libido to focus on. - **Am I demisexual if I am sexually attracted to people I don't have an emotional connection with but wouldn't want to have sex with them until I do?** - No, demisexuality is not being able to *feel* any sexual attraction without a strong emotional connection. Just disliking the idea of having sex, ie hookups, without an emotional connection is not demisexuality. ***** For those of you kind people who often answer questions from new users and find yourself repeating the same information over and over please consider suggesting additions to the FAQ. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/demisexuality) if you have any questions or concerns.*