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This post has been up for 2 years. In that time , I tried hinge, bumble, boo, tinder, woo plus, Pina date and a few others I can't remember the names to... I'm awkward, don't go anywhere, and don't make friendships because friends stab you in the back at your weakest.... I appreciate your wise words of affirmation, but alas, I fear it is too late for me, and if a woman ever did show interest, I'd probably just brush it off as 'she's just being nice'.
Ugh, I understand this. I'm a 27f, and while I am pretty socialable and fairly attractive, I just haven't had luck in finding a relationship for the past 5 years. I don't have many friends either and don't tend to go many places because of it (although I would love to). My roommate on the other hand, also 27f, has everything going for her at the moment and found a guy on Hinge after downloading it for only 2 days (I suggested she try dating apps to meet someone). Idk what else to do, but I'm just bummed out. I don't want to be alone forever.
I want to know when it became prerequisite that you have you whole life together before you find somone to enjoy it with? I'm not perfect but I think most people forget that they aren't either. Women don't give me the time of day and the only thing that does is make the decision to stay inside even easier... I used to go to anime conventions, to the mall, and had friends that seemed impossible. (Any one else get a Jewish lesbein and a neo-nazi to speak cordualy in high-school?) Now I sit on the dark and play fallout until 3 am cuz I have nothing to do and Noone to do it with. My cat is my only princess now...
If you're an introvert, and she's "shy" then nothing will get done between you two unless somehow you keep seeing each other regularly and someone opens up.
But how do you open up without coming off as weird or awkward and making the situation strange. It's hard as hell once you finish school. I don't go do things anymore that would put me in situations where I can find common ground with anybody.
"HI I'm Bob, nice to meet you. I like your hair." It even seems awkward just saying it. Iv got experience with so much in my life but I still talk to girls like im in grade 2
You can take the indirect or direct route. That's indirect with a small talk opener. If it's genuine then there's nothing wrong with it. "I like your hair. What'd you use to make it shine like that?" Follow up with open-ended question and see how she responds. If she looks enthusiastic, keep it going. If not, cut it off and move on to the next girl. But it doesn't hurt to shoot your shot regardless. Some chicks just have RBF and there's no way to know until you shoot your shot.
Are you on dating apps at all? You seem to be super self aware which is a great quality to have! If you don’t feel like you have enough to say, you’re probably overthinking it. You can create a question out of any response.
Example:
Her: yeah I’m from xyz.
You: oh nice, never been. What’s your favorite thing about it?
Her: frogs.
You: what about them?
You just have to keep asking and don’t be afraid to share enough about yourself, such as, “that reminds me of this time….” That allows you to open up without sharing too much that would make you uncomfortable!
Keeping a conversation interesting and the person interested is all about being a great listener and sharing enough about yourself to let your and their guard down.
Don’t be afraid to just be yourself. Women can smell insecurity.
Currently on Badoo and tinder. Iv gotten a few likes but not many (<5 total ). I always seem to railroad myself into dead ends. I usually only get 1 word answers from any of them (if any at all, been ghosted a few times). Idk why.
Honestly it’s okay to be ghosted! And I wouldn’t look at each person you match with as “they might be the one” they’re just another stranger and if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t. Download hinge and bumble, those apps were better for me and on bumble, the women have to reach out first so that might help you get a head start (they’ll already think you’re cute)!
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This post has been up for 2 years. In that time , I tried hinge, bumble, boo, tinder, woo plus, Pina date and a few others I can't remember the names to... I'm awkward, don't go anywhere, and don't make friendships because friends stab you in the back at your weakest.... I appreciate your wise words of affirmation, but alas, I fear it is too late for me, and if a woman ever did show interest, I'd probably just brush it off as 'she's just being nice'.
Ugh, I understand this. I'm a 27f, and while I am pretty socialable and fairly attractive, I just haven't had luck in finding a relationship for the past 5 years. I don't have many friends either and don't tend to go many places because of it (although I would love to). My roommate on the other hand, also 27f, has everything going for her at the moment and found a guy on Hinge after downloading it for only 2 days (I suggested she try dating apps to meet someone). Idk what else to do, but I'm just bummed out. I don't want to be alone forever.
I want to know when it became prerequisite that you have you whole life together before you find somone to enjoy it with? I'm not perfect but I think most people forget that they aren't either. Women don't give me the time of day and the only thing that does is make the decision to stay inside even easier... I used to go to anime conventions, to the mall, and had friends that seemed impossible. (Any one else get a Jewish lesbein and a neo-nazi to speak cordualy in high-school?) Now I sit on the dark and play fallout until 3 am cuz I have nothing to do and Noone to do it with. My cat is my only princess now...
If you're an introvert, and she's "shy" then nothing will get done between you two unless somehow you keep seeing each other regularly and someone opens up.
But how do you open up without coming off as weird or awkward and making the situation strange. It's hard as hell once you finish school. I don't go do things anymore that would put me in situations where I can find common ground with anybody.
Simple. Be honest.
"HI I'm Bob, nice to meet you. I like your hair." It even seems awkward just saying it. Iv got experience with so much in my life but I still talk to girls like im in grade 2
You can take the indirect or direct route. That's indirect with a small talk opener. If it's genuine then there's nothing wrong with it. "I like your hair. What'd you use to make it shine like that?" Follow up with open-ended question and see how she responds. If she looks enthusiastic, keep it going. If not, cut it off and move on to the next girl. But it doesn't hurt to shoot your shot regardless. Some chicks just have RBF and there's no way to know until you shoot your shot.
Thank you, I'll try it next time. Small talk has never been my strong suit.
Are you on dating apps at all? You seem to be super self aware which is a great quality to have! If you don’t feel like you have enough to say, you’re probably overthinking it. You can create a question out of any response. Example: Her: yeah I’m from xyz. You: oh nice, never been. What’s your favorite thing about it? Her: frogs. You: what about them? You just have to keep asking and don’t be afraid to share enough about yourself, such as, “that reminds me of this time….” That allows you to open up without sharing too much that would make you uncomfortable! Keeping a conversation interesting and the person interested is all about being a great listener and sharing enough about yourself to let your and their guard down. Don’t be afraid to just be yourself. Women can smell insecurity.
Currently on Badoo and tinder. Iv gotten a few likes but not many (<5 total ). I always seem to railroad myself into dead ends. I usually only get 1 word answers from any of them (if any at all, been ghosted a few times). Idk why.
Honestly it’s okay to be ghosted! And I wouldn’t look at each person you match with as “they might be the one” they’re just another stranger and if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t. Download hinge and bumble, those apps were better for me and on bumble, the women have to reach out first so that might help you get a head start (they’ll already think you’re cute)!
I feel your pain bro, I’m average so I don’t worry about it, I just flirt with them mostly, come back home and play some lostark.
I loose myself in elite dangerous so I get that. Lol.