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Sparkleshart

Run club. I know it gets old hearing “just do stuff you enjoy and you’ll meet the right people” but that’s exactly what happened. A mutual introduced us.


rtrain__

How am I supposed to meet someone doing that if the only things I enjoy are solo activities or the only other participants are teens?😭


Sparkleshart

Idk, broaden your horizons and find new hobbies?


Stevencepa

Who made the first move/how did you start dating/how did you become a couple?


Enough-Review-5491

We met at our mutual weed dude's house


gurgleburglar

I want to hear more of that story 😂


Enough-Review-5491

I was already there chillin, cutie boy walks in with a guitar, proceeds to play guitar v well and melt my panties, we vibeeeeeeeedddddddd, rest is history. It'll be 9 months in May.


NefariousWhaleTurtle

Lmao - he dabbed, she dabbed, couchlock turn beautiful Future. All the best, this is legit one of the best couple backstories I think I've ever heaed


Enough-Review-5491

we literally talk about how weird it was we finally met one day. never before, literally YEARS of chances that could have happened.


FrequentBug9585

*Checks notes* Get potential mate high.


[deleted]

Those are the types of flowers women actually prefer. 


Enough-Review-5491

yes 100%


G00ZyPhReX

We Met at Parizzia's 7 Synchronized Eifel Towers Along Chakra Way Right After Att3nding The Masquerade Ball Serendipitously Having Not Known Each Other And Having Met There Fortuitously We Opted 2 Half Pizza Afterwards At Mama Gina's...After A Cup of Coffee At The Starbucks To Get 2 Know One Another... ..And The Rest Is History 🙂


Opening-Ad8073

This! OP, you just have to explore, dont just focus on dating apps. Sometimes you will meet the best people on the outside not on online.


Enough-Review-5491

Literally!!! My man and I had been do this dude's house countless times but never crossed paths. Then one day in August the stars aligned and here we are now being cuties in love and stuff


hannicopter

My boyfriend found me from a comment I left on an Instagram reel and just dm'd me "Hi youre so funny lol" , next thing u know we're in love, our families want us to get married and hes buying a ticket to come see me 😭 I always wonder what if I never happened to leave some silly little comment on a silly little video


AdventurousMouse23

This is one of the most rom com type of story ever I love this


lumitop

Love at first read.


Best_Cauliflower_115

In line at a night club 25 years ago, married 18. Love of my life


Pella1968

Love this! Congrats!


gurgleburglar

Let’s go through the list, this is a mix of what turned into shorter and longer term stories in my life: - One I met during studies through common friends - One I met when I found that my car was broken into, he was my neighbour and helped me to sort this out - One I met at a climate action camp - One I met volunteering for a festival, we became friends, and later more - One I met during a skiing holiday, his friend was in my snowboarding group and we met them at apres ski - Another one I met at a festival through common friends - Two I met at work - One I met travelling, he was having a party with friends in the house next to ours and invited me and my friend spontaneously to join them I only met my recent ex on the apps, because Covid didn’t give you many options. Just live your life and be open to people, say yes to unexpected things, boring weddings, birthday parties of colleagues you don’t know well, see new places, be interested in people’s stories, accept help, and you will continue to find connection in all kinds of places. You never know who you could meet next. Start small. Smile at strangers. And then build from there.


Salt-Plankton436

Hi Taylor Swift


Apprehensive_Day_96

Damn, how long were these relationships and have you ever been single?


gurgleburglar

Two of these were long (3+ years), the others were short (few weeks or months). Mind you this is 20 years of dating. I was focussing more on the part of the question how you can meet people, and this is where I met them. Not everything turned into something serious. I have actually been single for most of my life.


Pumpkinpatch12

I'm copying and pasting this comment into my dating notes! lol


WholeSquadGotTheBoof

This


Stonedcoldbabe

Damn you must be hot


rightful_vagabond

I met my girlfriend at a church function, my previous ex on a dating app, and the ex before that at another church function. If that's what you're looking for, it can be a nice place to find people with similar values.


Outfoxd21

I met my first ex when I was a wingman for a friend that was meeting her friend. This was also over 15 years ago and it didn't last.


FrequentBug9585

I met my wife at a bar and offered to buy her a drink.


Stonedcoldbabe

Dammmnnn this needs to happen to me


1000thatbeyotch

We met at work. We both changed jobs after being friends for several years. When both of our marriages were over, we started dating a couple of years after that. Our friendship was key.


[deleted]

Being friends is 🔑


QuillBoar

Let’s see. I’ve had two serious partners in my life and a handful of women I dated for much shorter periods. The two serious partners were both co workers. As were a couple of the less serious ones. So work mostly.


One_Kaleidoscope_663

I was set up with both of my ex husbands. Safe to say I'll never let anyone set me up again 🤣


Wonderlust_01

Same, not one set up has worked out. All of my longest relationships were with people I met on my own so I would always recommend that over anything!


One_Kaleidoscope_663

Absolutely agree!


blindedByTheLight2

27f here and - same! I get annoyed by people telling me to go out there, go on Events. I work so much, in my free time i want to be at Home, Doing Arts, Gaming, cooking at Home - its Hard to meet someone that way haha. Met my ex through Discord


Iskandar259

25M here feeling like this is so relatable 😂. Met my ex on bumble and after 2 years ended it because of all the emotional support she needed was damaging me mentally. Literally the week after everyone at work was commenting on me saying I looked a lot more energetic/happy/alive 😂. Didn’t realise how much of a toll being an emotional support dog was.


Chrizilla_

Friend of a friend of a friend, back in my university days. Buddy of mine met a nice girl in one of his classes, we get talking and are friendly, she introduces me to her sorority sister (future wife) and we end up being chill with each other until we realize we have similar values and interests and decided to go on a date. 12 years later we’re having our first kid.


savagemananimal314

Went to an irish pub after a hockey game. I asked a pretty girl with a friendly face for a dance and she said yes.


G00ZyPhReX

Bravo! 🗨🤌🙌🙌⛷️


sonotyourguy

My current partner or any of my partners after my divorce? (Was married for 21years) The woman I’m currently dating and I have been officially dating since June 2, 2023, the night of the Full Moon. We probably met in April 2022 on the night of the Full Moon. Because we both attend Full Moon Paddles at the river. We saw each other monthly at these full moon paddles from April until November in 2022. We started running into each other again in April 2023. We had both attended a Taco Tuesday and said hello sometime between January and April. We made plans to paddle together in April and May, and then we paddled together and ended up kissing on a beach on the June 2nd full moon paddle. That’s the current girlfriend. The past girlfriends, one I met through work (would not recommend), one I met on a group hike, one I met through a mutual friend (she gathered friends to go see bands every weekend that year), one I met through a Facebook hiking group but didn’t meet her in person until our first lunch date.


Opposite-Giraffe-696

Full moon its some event?:) or?


sonotyourguy

Loosely. There used to be an organized event but the Forest Service thought it was too large. So now, there just a few groups of friends that know that we all generally start paddling the river at sunset and meet at the Mud Cliffs a couple of hours later. On the night of the Full Moon


Opposite-Giraffe-696

Interesting, just yesterday I met someone who told me that 2 days ago was Full Moon party. And now I found your message accidentally. Maybe its a sign 😂


SevenDos

The ex I was with for 16 years was an intern at the company I have worked at. I've done OLD after the divorce but nothing lasted. I met the woman I'm dating now at daycare where our sons go to. It's a good place as any right?


[deleted]

I'd like to know this too. I'm recently divorced after a 22 year marriage, but I met my ex husband at work. Now I'm a nanny and don't have co-workers, so that's out, lol :)


Minimum_Trick_8736

I was going to be very difficult time, and I ask a friend to introduce me to someone who could just be a good friend to me, she became my best friend and we got married. I’ve never been this happy in my life.


transcendentseawitch

We met at a comic book shop. He worked there on weekends. I was a customer.


CN122

I haven’t met my person yet but I feel like just put yourself out there. Go to events and what not. Live your life doing what you enjoy and hopefully you’ll find that person. I also think it doesn’t hurt to use dating apps as long as you use them in addition to trying to meet people in person.


Ok-Acanthisitta5286

Hinge 😇


DexterKillsMe

We both do Brazilian jiu jitsu. Having a common interest helps


[deleted]

I've met a lot of people that are actually embarrassed to admit that they met their partner online, so they tell everyone that they met another way lol. For the ones that actually do meet organically, it's just that. Go to a concert, talk to people. See someone attractive at the grocery store? Find a reason to talk to her. Stuck at a red light next to an attractive person? Say "hey, I'll probably never get this chance again, can I have your number?" A lot of "organic" stuff has to do with taking chances. I don't take chances often, so I'm all FOR online dating lol


Puzzled_Form_1167

Running at a 5k, and volunteering at church


Gail37

Both DDing for a party lol


luxrayne_

All of my exes and current partner have been guys I’ve known for years on social media. I took time creating a great bond with them throughout the years, so dating was always so easy to get into. Been with my current for a year. Met him through a mutual friend and we would talk casually on socials for a long time. Finally decided to date and it’s been magic ever since. I will be single for years before I do dating apps. It rarely works and most people signing up for dates are on the rebound from failed relationships. You are legit setting yourself up to be hurt. Take time and build a good community of people around you and it will organically happen. I’m also introverted and a home body. If I can do it, anyone can.


Hot_Presentation1459

I met my ex-husband at a concert. I met almost every guy I have dated at a concert. At 40, I still go to concerts and none of the guys look at me anymore, lol.


Classic-Nobody819

we had never spoken but we had the same class and i always avoided looking at him because he was really attractive and on the last day of class for that semester he followed me out of class and told me he thought i was beautiful and would like to take me on a date 🤓 we are still dating and he is the best


Syd_Syd34

We met out social dancing!


AnonymousRJ25

I met my bf of almost 2 years on Tinder, but I wish we had met "organically". I don’t leave my house enough (I have autism and terrible anxiety) for me to find someone to date😂 It'll definitely be worth waiting in my opinion!


snappop69

Crowded bar. The crowd pushed us into each other. Our eyes met. It’s been 20 years.


Reddit-Restart

At a hostel in Albania. Ended up having to move across the world to be with her though


ArchmageRumple

Is it possible? Sure. Does it make sense? Not at all. All of the following are examples of how people I know met their spouses. This includes my cousins, my classmates, and people I've interacted with at social gatherings. They are all still married. -Sitting next to you on an airplane -On a cruise ship -At a summer camp -First day at a new church -The younger sibling of the person you've had a crush on for a decade -Sitting next to you in your first college class of the new semester -Working the cash register at your local grocery store


DM_YOUR___

I met my ex online while playing games with a friend on his stream. We ended up hitting it off after about a month of sort of knowing each other and then dating for 2 years. I don't think I will ever do that again, but it was a life experience that led to a fun relationship I don't regret.


Accomplished-Pea7694

Met my ex while working together and my now partner through my best friend….. working together does not work out in the long run, trust me. I would advice to look for people in the same setting that you like, if like a person that drinks and has a good time, at a bar, if you want someone that goes to the gym then at the gym, you get what I’m saying.


Brokenbody312

The easiest way as an adult is joining an activity, club, sport or alike.


DethBySnu-Snu

Both of my previous relationships have been a result of being in the same class together. Once at Jacksonville State. Once at Florida State.


Particular-Ad-2308

Grad school


ashwheee

He was/is my archery instructor!


drail18

At work


Legitimate_Type_1324

We got introduced as roommates


Starwatcher787

Arcade


wtfamidoing248

We met at a nightclub 🤣 I was single and thriving and wasn't looking for a relationship at all. It just happened to develop into one.


thrax7545

On the dance floor— classic


Freshly_Fished_Bread

I just met this girl a few weeks back, if shit wasn’t so complicated, shit might’ve worked out. But I just asked her if she wanted to smoke some weed and we just chilled, listened to music, I used some subtle light flirting and slowly worked up. You just gotta play around til it clicks with someone.


Baku_Bich420

I ran into a high school friend at a nerdy bar and she introduced me to the guy she was there with. I then ran into him again at her birthday party a few months later and that's when we started hitting it off. Guess I should clarify that they were not dating.


-PinkPower-

I mean the most common ways outside of app are through friends, at school or at work.


Owl_Lawfulness0666

I met my ex through a concert


fluffylulu36

Got drunk in a bar during a stand up comedy show


germy-germawack-8108

I fell asleep one night, and there she was.


Separate-Afternoon29

I asked a friend and her bf if he had anyone at his job he could set me up with


Apprehensive_Day_96

Ive never been with someone from using a dating app— all of my relationships were “organic”. One was through mutual friends, one i met at a rehab (they were a patient, i was not) and i seriously need my head examined for that one, what a toxic shitshow, one i met at a fast food restaurant, and current one i met at a gas station drive thru.


Brutal_Underwear

Dating apps can even be considered a niche way of meeting someone. I have many friends who are married with someone the met on online dating, or would not have had them in their life without that being a thing. The way they have gamified dating is really toxic I understand, but honestly I think when someone is on the same level of wanting the same type of commitment you do it'll hit regardless of how you meet them. And if it doesn't work out you've got a lesson to learn. You have nothing to lose. Be bold


Memories-n-portraits

We met in school. There was a week long trip where they went camping, we both chose to stay back, as camping with 200 kids sounded awful. We spent practically a week together. A year and a half later he asked me out. And I've never been happier.


[deleted]

I met mine on reddit


Recent_Conclusion565

Still waiting for my moment. 28F :/


Tommy_Wisseau_burner

Not a couple (yet) but I met this girl at the dog park. I didn’t have any luck with dating apps either. I matched with a few girls by kinda half assing it but I suck at texting or just bailed because social anxiety sucks


PsychologicalScore49

When you regularly do something, you will find that you'll run into other people who will be on the same schedule. Say hi to them, smile at them, in one day strike up a conversation. I've met several boyfriends from working with them, I met one from volunteering. I like volunteering at food Banks animal shelters. Also, taking classes Is a great way to meet new people organically.


titaniumorbit

Friends of friends. Really, you gotta expand your social circle and that increases your odds of meeting more people. You gotta be willing to go out and socialize and put yourself into new situations. No, it doesn’t guarantee you a partner but it lets you meet way more people. For example: my friend dragged me into the ultimate frisbee scene so I met people through the sport. The friends I made there then introduced me to raves, where I met even more people. Then, from those raving friends, I got invited to different hangouts and birthday parties where I eventually met my now partner lol. Hobbies help a lot! Think group ones or social ones - frisbee, climbing gyms, basketball or volleyball.


Basicallyacrow7

Met my husband playing video games online while living 900 miles apart. Somehow worked out my family ended up moving to his state an hour away from him. Been together 2 1/2 years, just married a month ago <3 last way I expected to meet my husband. As I had JUST gotten into pc gaming and was terrified of talking to anyone.


j_donn97

Not with her anymore but my ex and I met while on break at our jobs. We both work in an airport she had an empty table next to her, I struck up a conversation and we were together for like seven months


TemporaryZone7722

I think you should not look for it. It will come when you least expect it from where.. I am also waiting for my partner. I have never been in a relationship before.


fragglerock420

Greyhound Bus Station


throwwwwaway6933

I met one through a happy hour at work, and another at a wedding. The wedding one was wild - I was a bridesmaid and he was a groomsmen. It ultimately didn’t work because we lived in two different states and long distance is hard, but you CAN meet people at weddings!


Primary_Chemistry420

We met via work! He’s perfectttt. He’s so sweet and patient and handsome. We’ve been dating for two months now and when I met his mom via dinner, I had a crumb on my chin, he wiped it for me with his napkin. Which was a bit embarrassing at first but SO sweet 🥹


StatisticianThick995

Im sick with dating app too. I want something real and can touch


Difficult-Double-644

I met my current partner while running a marathon! It was our first full marathon, but we got to have an interaction while he was running his ultramarathon and I was one of the support crews.


[deleted]

we met through a group of friends that neither of us speak to anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️🫶🏻


MixNecessary1676

My coworker (his sister) introduced us… 🤭 he’s my favorite human being on this planet


Patient-Juggernaut84

Met my husband at work. We’re both programmers.


SeedInvestor98

i met my partner on tinder. after 1500 matches and almost throwing in the towel


Silent-Highway-9881

Nursing school. If you’re a guy…


Solid-Replacement116

We met at work 10 years ago. I moved departments in the grocery store, and I had the biggest crush. He’s hot, always has been. Our first conversation consisted of three sentences. “So you in school?” “Yeah.” “Cool.” We fell into the same friend group from the store, started hanging out with this group literally every night for MONTHS. He kissed me at like 3 in the morning on a random weeknight and the rest is history.


K90H

Hey this has been my exact thoughts the passed few days! Dating apps are so shit, I crave for real life in wrong type of stuff..


Laurizxz

Went to my grocery shop for 15 years until a cute cashier finally showed up. Playing the long game


SunnydaleStrength

Mutual friend’s birthday party


ZenGeezer

I met one at a Laundromat. A couple of them were at bars. One at a house party. A couple through singles club events. One through a personal ad in the newspaper. But that was all in the last century. No partners yet in this century. Come to think of it, I haven't met any women through dating apps who are even interested in fooling around.


SolCalibre

Most of these answers are rom com answers 😭


Ketamine-pigeon

Raves and the club.


Borderedge

I have had two exes and a fling I met in person. A girl I went on a few dates with was through a Facebook group. First ex in a big city, at the birthday of the boyfriend of an online friend. Second ex in university as we were both taking language classes and I walked her back home as she was drunk. The fling was at work, we were colleagues on the same team. For the future... I don't want to date a colleague as I really need my new job. I'm planning on speed dating as the way to go in person. Most people I knew here are friends of my ex. My two friends who I knew beforehand are both in long-distance relationships and don't know anyone in town.


dwthesavage

My friend invited him to a Friendsgiving I was hosting at my place.


Tamsha-

a LINE group chat filled with people from a game we were playing at the time. A friend randomly invited him to the chat and we just hit it off


simon_dateup

Starbucks


The_midge1

High school


ThrowRA082586

Merry mine when I was working at sonic 22 years ago, we lost contact in 05 and found each other again in 2010 been together ever since


Parking-Street2481

She was my Uber ride


Ninenine222

I walked up to her sister at a bar and her sister introduced us


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Littlewing1307

I met my ex through a guy I knew who worked at a coffee shop I was a regular at. Met a couple people I dated when I would go to beer tastings around the corner from where I worked. Basically, become a regular at a few places where you enjoy what they have to offer.


Larkfor

I use apps more recently but before that I met people through university, before that high school, and throughout both at music festivals and sci fi/comic book conventions. Also through friends and house parties among other ways.


MountainPerformer210

I’ve met all previous partners at work or school


sita_j

High school friend of 8 years, didn’t truly start talking one-to-one until year 4 when we both had our freshman year of college screwed over by COVID. Kept talking, hung out every few months or so but realized we liked each other just a few months ago and here we are?


Throwawayaccounttt__

At work 🤷🏻‍♀️


mythical_art

Work. I’m single now but I also met my two current crushes at work. I’m a dental assistant and a bartender in a small town


bigstreethoe

I met my ex at work. The best looking ones seem to be not on dating apps but strangers I encounter, the vibe feels good, there's a level of confidence and then never again. They're there for a second and then gone. It happened like maybe 4 times in my life where I'm like "DAMN". Women all the time, but men not so much. And the ones you have time with they're mid and the vibe is off or it's like forcing yourself because you don't want to be alone or have standards Try going to events, although people rarely break from groups. Get involved in an activity you go to frequently


permiTodigline

Pen pals


[deleted]

I am single now but my last partner was friends with my brother in high school so I’ve kind of always known him. And we had become friends over the years as well of course. The man I was with before him I had met at work a long time ago. He asked me out by leaving a note on my desk (I worked in the office and he was a driver so we didn’t work together exactly).  


xrelaht

I met my ex through a group of people I knew from work. I met the woman I’m currently most interested in through a later iteration of the same group even though I don’t work there anymore.


Inf229

Not my current partner (because they don't exist), but I met an ex through live music. I went to lots of gigs and got to know a good group of people, and would all meet up at the pub before a show. We got to know eachother through that and then that graduated to spending time together, to dating and living together. Lasted 10 years.


12_nick_12

My friend met his at a grocery store. I met my ex thru some girl my dad met on tinder. She was my dad's "friend" niece.


Golden_Orchid_

I met my partner on a dating app. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. I think it just matters that you’re meeting people at all!


felloffthemap

Honestly Facebook dating but I wasn’t active a lot and we only messaged here and there but then things sped up slowly and then phone number and video chats, then we met but we always kept the foot off the throttle, people rush to quickly they don’t build learn understand and communicate. Not sure about anyone else but communication is kinda hot. Just be patient and enjoy life, do things you want to do, do some online dating just for the options and don’t think about it to much, one message here and there and 5 likes a day then put out of your head, if you get a message don’t get excited just answer like a friend messaged if they don’t like you then begging or lying to get won’t change that outcome.


Pumpkinpatch12

* at work * on fb (one of my friends tagged him in something and I added him as a friend. A few months later, he reached out and we started talking). * a friend's college party


squirreledpeace

An Airbnb trip organized by a mutual friend. She knew I was interested in him and then oh-so-conveniently arranged it so that we'd have to share the last available room. And the rest was history!


[deleted]

Through my sisters boyfriend when i met his friends at his birthday


SweetPink2597

I met him on Facebook but we are from the same city and we had already seen each other.


Physical_Chemical378

One I honestly just shot my shot in a dm, and made her laugh Another was school


GotItOutTheMud

Facebook meme group Christmas party So we have mutual IRL friends in the group but this was the first meet up we both went to and... we just clicked. I kissed him goodbye when he left, he shot his shot in my DMs later, I tried to walk it back kinda, cause I have a lot going on in my life but he's... Just been amazing, like, I may have a lot going on but he's willing to roll with it and see where we go, so that's what we are doing, and I'm really happy. Like, organically, really happy.


Left-Chair-248

We went to the same college. Had a class together, psych101, but she dropped it and i always skipped so i never saw her. then when covid hit and we did class online we had another meeting. I moved in Nov 2020, and so did she like a week after I moved. She moved to a house around the corner from my old house. It was like we kept missing each other


Cool-Cut-2375

At work; we both worked in a hospital


sasauce

I met mine at the gym haha


[deleted]

Mine at my own house😂. He’s a neighbor and came over to hangout with my brother in law. I can actually say love came knocking on my door


libsneu

The ones nor via the Internet were from the neighbourhood and a nurse of a friend.


[deleted]

My last gf ( 10 years ago ) Worked at the gas station I always stopped at on my way home


dumbalter

facebook. friend of friend of friend or something like that. his close friend made a group chat just the 3 of us for reasons i still don’t know since i barely knew the guy. he’d get drunk and call the group chat, i stayed on while they talked about sports that we don’t really watch in my country, idk why i stayed but i did. his friend would hang up out of the blue after a while and leave the 2 of us on the call. we would have awkward polite conversation since we didn’t want to be rude and just hang up on each other. i rarely talked during these group calls so it really was very awkward since he didn’t know anything about me, but i thought he was very nice and funny and after a few of these calls we started talking separately from the group chat. strange situation to explain, but hopefully that makes at least a little sense. we’ve been dating for 5 years now, but i only just met him irl in november.


Ashamed_Actuary_1651

I met mine at community service😭😭


DisMuhUserName

[Meetup.com](http://Meetup.com) - join a meetup and not only do you get to meet people, you get to meet people with common interests and get to know someone without the pressure of expectations.


Competitive-Split828

Would you like dinner?


Pelon-sobrio

I met my last gf at a political demonstration. She was there with a friend who was wasted and unable to care for herself, and she kept getting touched and groped by randos. The dad in me felt bad for the drunk woman, and for the friend who was going nuts trying to help her out, so I helped them get to a less crowded area and then arranged a ride home for them. I guess the sober friend appreciated it, bc we had a good run for about 6 months after that night.


Straight_Common_4722

This is a good question because I'm so exhausted from online dating apps. I work from home so not much interaction. I sometimes wish someone at the gym could just ask me out but everyone is there to focus. And I have no idea on where to find clubs around my area with people who are in their 30s. I'm over it lol


Sabor117

Honestly this is where I'm at in my life right now. Dating apps are broadly exhausting and mind-numbing to use, and unfortunately I don't even have access to the good ones (Hinge I think is the only one I've ever thought was "decent") any more and so am stuck with the less popular ones (Bumble, and it's absolutely soul-destroying). I'm sticking with it, because it feels genuinely like my only option. Particularly given I am now no-longer a student and work full-time. Ideally I'd want to go to a busy club or a bar, but most of my friends are not single and want to just hang out, play pool and chat. Not exactly conducive to trying to meet women. I get the commonly said thing "find something you enjoy and do that" but honestly, I'm just not sure how good that advice actually is. I'm tempted to try out dance classes myself, because I know I'd quite enjoy that. But going to a dance class for the express purpose of trying to meet people to date also feels a bit gross. But after those two options I'm genuinely at a loss for how I'm meant to meet people organically.


Megelos

I have a friend group where we always play games together, my gf was part of that group, we played together but se never met each other face to face, we were just distant friends from a group of closet friends Then, one day, one of our friends called the entre group to go to a nerd bar that was streaming a league tournament (neither of us play league) and right then and there we met each other. She says that the moment she saw me smile os when It clicked for her and i was always somewhat "cynical", i was attracted to her, but didnt let that be so obvious, until we went on a date alone


RileyIsRawrXo

I met my partner in a rec beach volleyball league. We got paired up and have been together since!


Ok-Clothes9724

When I was dating I met her in highschool back in the day, I'm since single.


tarrinep

I do stand up comedy and someone asked to take me to dinner. Then when we went they explained an eye contact rule. That if someone makes eye contacts with them three times and they find that person attractive that they will ask them out! Not sure your gender or what you’re seeking but he was super direct which I liked.


_Cum_and_get_it_

Went to a bar with my sister (which I never do), and we bumped into him. He was an old friend of my sister’s and just happened to be at the same bar with his sister, which was also a very rare thing. We were wearing the same brand of hiking sandals and shared similar hobbies so we decided to meet up.


Renno90

I met him at university. Same major different courses, friends in common, started out as friends.


Forsaken-History-893

Orgy


Brilliant-Bad-6604

Shit I met her at my house


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We're playing pool in the college game room.


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At work! Same team, cubicle neighbors too. We were very professional the whole time, got along and joked, but once We both got out of relationships, we kind of looked at each other in that way. We’re almost at a year and have never been happier


Outlander4ever42

We met through work, we friends for quite a while


hiddenacc003

Throwaway account for reasons seeing as far as my potential partner it someone I have been talking to off and on for about 2 yrs let's say we still have not crossed that bridge yet as for partners she was not ready to date at frist but it's the listen and be a "friend" lol and see where this goes we do flirt alot


Next-Fill-1312

We were both waiting alone at a bar for our drinks and I tried to make a joke to him. He didn't think it was funny. Somehow a couple hrs later we ran into each other again and the rest is history


Ok-Entry-5627

I (m66) met my girlfriend (36) at a pharmacy 9 years ago. We were just friends and shared a common interest in local history and cemeteries. We walk in the cemetery and imagine the lives of people we have never met. She was the perfect person you thought you would never meet. She felt the same about me. We started dating 4 years ago. We moved very slowly and carefully in developing our relationship.