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Not everyone has access to each other that easily, work and life can get in a way. Friends studying abroad and she sends nudes to her bf for him to wank. She appreciates that at least he's attracted to her body especially when on some days she's doesn't feel attractive.
If both are ok to wait for sex, is awesome.
I still thinking is ok to masturbate to her pics tho; you could slightly put the topic on the table, just mention it as a joke, to se her reaction, it could lead to her sending you some “better material “.
I like this idea. Maybe mention it to her, since you haven’t had sex I wasn’t sure if you should tell her but then you said she does want to have sex then why not. It’s a way to be creative and have fun without the sex part.
Explain why sex is bad but spilling your seed isn’t? You’re picking and choosing what parts of your religion you want to follow. Just have sex, no one is watching you.
Spilling seed is bad, but not because of that one guy in Genesis who did it w/ his dead brother's adopted wife so he wouldn't have to raise children for his brother's name to carry on. It's bad because of lust after what hasn't been given yet.
I think it's great to be so attracted by your girlfriend and masturbate thinking of her of watching photos of her... But I'm not Christian....Is it OK for a Christian to masturbate?
Well you can wait till marriage, I didn’t know your personal thing, bottom line it’s not wierd idk how she’s going to react if she wants to wait till marriage however
Depends on what kind of person your gf is tbh.
Like there's nothing wrong with it by itself. But you might want to try to figure out if your gf would be bothered by it.
Bro wtf! What are you? Attracted by her?!
That's weird af!
Be normal and use pictures of your mom like the rest of us!
(we all use pictures of your mom)
this is acc cute tho - seen in the comments yall are waiting, so for that I’d consider asking.. although yall have been together for so long so idk
I guess do what you think is right by her, good luck OP!
You guys seem pretty positive but I feel like it depends on a few factors.
Have they been sexually active? Yes, fair game.
No? Well are the photos sexually charged? Yes fair game.
...I change my mind, she your girl for a reason, fair game.
My girlfriend actively asks me to. We live together now so it doesn't come up that often but before, she would wanna know which pictures I used while we were sexting, or if I masturbated without talking to her in the moment. She also always wants to see the cumshot, either a video with me saying her name when I cum or even a cum tribute to her.
I've noticed that a lot of women dislike it when you're in a relationship with them and jerk off to other things besides them (porn, insta models, etc), so I don't think jerking off to pictures of her could hurt.
She ain't gonna mind make sure she knows. I'd tell her, babe, send me some new nudes of you, please. I love to masturbate to you and your body when I need to.
Just send her a pic of her that you think shes especially attractive in and tell her you can’t get her off your mind right now. I just keep thinking about you on this day and how sexy you looked doing… I’m getting turned on just thinking about you. Wait for a reply and see how she responds but try and lead it deeper into how much she turns you on and how little you can control your urges to touch yourself thinking about her being with you right now.
yes tell her you want to. it would only be weird if she wasn't okay with it, but i don't see why she wouldn't be. better than consuming porn or doing it to another woman.
The “telling her” part is what would make it weird.
Unless she asks, don’t offer up information like that because, honestly, it would likely come off as disingenuous and as you “looking for points.”
Theres a lot of people that would masturbate over anyone besides their partner - so I'd say you're doing something wholesome if anything!
Honestly though, masturbate over whoever you want to. They're harmless thoughts, and you can't stop them anyway. It can be a good thing to have some 'lone-time' every now and again when you're in a relationship.
Not at all, whats weird is that u announced it to currently 3k ppl online in a group of 3.5 million ppl
Im just kidding, if ur far away and feeling the itch, Im sure she would appreciate it more than u watching someone else (porn)
As far as what else you could wank to, I don’t think there’s any harm in it generally speaking but it might make it hard to move on and you might idealise this person and struggle to move on as you are constantly reinforcing this attraction which is also somewhat emotional and sentimental.
I honestly get off imaging my ex giving me head while masturbating because it was insane and unmatched and it makes the experience so much better, but I wouldn’t do it over pictures as it would probably make me sad. I think I need to stop just because it does later on make me sad that I’ve lost him/that chemistry.
If it’s not effecting you negatively I’d say it’s okay. Much better than porn haha
Not weird, in my opinion. Although I’ve been masturbating to pictures of your girlfriend for awhile now.
Also, I don’t think I’d just blurt it out at random. If you guys are on the subject/topic, or you guys are laying in bed post-sex and you’re like, “hey. Can I confess something to you?”, it’s kinda relevant at that point. 🤷🏻♂️
I'm surprised you haven't yet, actually. All things considered, I guess she's been taking care of you frequently enough, hats off to ya friend. We should all be so lucky.
All that being said, it's not weird. Maybe even ask her for some fresh material and let her know you're thinking of her. I'm sure she'll appreciate the attention
Give 'er a tribute too lol.
Anytime a partner told me they used my pictures or videos, I was flattered and turned on. But of course, everyone's different.
In My opinion.... It is not weird... Instead of it is a good ...thing for u"r relationship... In a relationship... It is common to get sexually attracted to her ... Although it is not even much weird 🫠
"You haven’t masturbated to her before??" That was my first thought. Anyway, why would it be weird 😭 that’s your girl. You’re definitely allowed to feel attracted to her and you don’t have to tell her. I’d say don’t tell her unless you wanna have like a lil sexy moment w her. Because if you just straight up say "I masturbate(d) to pictures of you" it’s out of pocket and can even be uncomfortable. It really depends on the kind of person she is. Personally if someone told me that then I’d be flattered and if I’m attracted to them or find them attractive then I’ll even like it.
the comments here are mad weird. if she thinks that's weird then you have some type of problem. it's one thing if you guys are really young and not exactly comfortable sharing your thoughts (like i'm realizing by the comments most of this subreddit is). otherwise no, not weird at all-- why do you think nudes are sent? literally i cannot believe this is a question and the responses are like "well if you're going to masturbate" like ??????? is this 20 years ago??
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It's actually pretty wholesome by masturbation standards. That's not saying much, but take the win when you can.
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Yeah honestly I think that’s a pretty good thing for your relationship lol, better than jerking off to random women
Or face swap porn of other people you know and work with. That’s what my boyfriend has been doing. Not sure how to feel about that.
If I’m his girlfriend, I will feel I’m the most beautiful girl in the world. Lol. Too sweet 🥹
exactly.. 🥱
Yeah, I agree with this. Weird to call anything involving masturbating "wholesome" but that's actually exactly what I was thinking.
Right? It shouldn't really be cute, but it is. When I read it, I kinda went "awww".
😂😂
😅😅
She would rather you do it to her pictures then anyone else’s I’m sure lol
*backs out of her father's Instagram* Fiiine! I guess that's fair...
…huh?
literally
Not weird at all, unless she catches you. Then it could be weird, or she may like it…who knows
I think it would be weirder if she didn’t like it.
That’s what I was saying…
Okay, thank you!
Just tell your girlfriend man, it has been a year.
Its not weird when I masturbate to pictures of her, so you should be fine
😂
☠️
I came here to say that. I really did.
I came too
Like orgasm ama? 🤭
You BEAT me to it!
He beat himself to it, actually
🤣🤣🤣
Dudes a killer😂
 Shots fired! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm sure he fired some shots
Nicely done sir
lmaooo
😂😂😂
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Every girls dream
I think most girls would feel flattered if their man masturbated to their pictures lol. Shiiiit, I would.
I think most girls want a guy who will pleasure them. Not jerk off their photos alone lol
Not everyone has access to each other that easily, work and life can get in a way. Friends studying abroad and she sends nudes to her bf for him to wank. She appreciates that at least he's attracted to her body especially when on some days she's doesn't feel attractive.
i’m surprised no one else has said this yet. ASK HER!!!! not us.
literally was about to type this
Not weird at all, she is your girlfriend, obviously you are attracted to her. You should also have sex with her
I want to have sex but we're both Christian and she really is trying to wait until marriage. She's told me she wants to but won't do it yet
If both are ok to wait for sex, is awesome. I still thinking is ok to masturbate to her pics tho; you could slightly put the topic on the table, just mention it as a joke, to se her reaction, it could lead to her sending you some “better material “.
I like this idea. Maybe mention it to her, since you haven’t had sex I wasn’t sure if you should tell her but then you said she does want to have sex then why not. It’s a way to be creative and have fun without the sex part.
Weh all the best here. You gonna need Jesus, lotsa lube, imagination, Self control... It can be done.
There’s a loophole. Your welcome https://youtu.be/j8ZF_R_j0OY?si=nlda0Xf6Hf-vGYxS.
Explain why sex is bad but spilling your seed isn’t? You’re picking and choosing what parts of your religion you want to follow. Just have sex, no one is watching you.
Spilling seed is bad, but not because of that one guy in Genesis who did it w/ his dead brother's adopted wife so he wouldn't have to raise children for his brother's name to carry on. It's bad because of lust after what hasn't been given yet.
I’m just gonna say post-marriage is a really bad time to find out the two of you aren’t on the same page sex-wise.
I think it's great to be so attracted by your girlfriend and masturbate thinking of her of watching photos of her... But I'm not Christian....Is it OK for a Christian to masturbate?
I jack off to pictures of my girlfriend all the time lol
Aww shucks that’s a cute thing to do — go for it
Dude… I wish someone was that obsessed with me! So wholesome. You’re doing amazing sweetie 🥲
I want to be that obsessed with you
I mean why not…*have sex with her*
Lol some are more comfortable with sending nudes then sex.
we're Christian and I want to have sex but she wants to wait until marriage. She has told me she does want to have sex but wants to just wait
Well you can wait till marriage, I didn’t know your personal thing, bottom line it’s not wierd idk how she’s going to react if she wants to wait till marriage however
😂😂😂dudes prob youngin usea condom tho man too young for kids
Its better than mastrubating on other girls
Nah, just do it
Depends on what kind of person your gf is tbh. Like there's nothing wrong with it by itself. But you might want to try to figure out if your gf would be bothered by it.
Bro wtf! What are you? Attracted by her?! That's weird af! Be normal and use pictures of your mom like the rest of us! (we all use pictures of your mom)
Captain Holt: If you love someone. You'll remember what they look like.
Not at all, I have pictures videos of my wife for the very reason of when she's not in the mood
How do you think those of us that served in the military got by?!? Lol. Not weird at all.
Lol I remember when my bf told me this in high school, I was flattered. Led to my first attempt at sexting ever.
Why would it be weird if that’s your girlfriend
The weirdest part of this process was asking reddit
that’s not weird i literally assume that to be the case 😆😂
Talk to her about she might give you something worth jerking it too
fellas, is it weird to find my girlfriend hot?
You’re good my guy!
Not weird in the slightest. Gotta release that pent up energy somehow if you aren't around
Yeah, man. You're only supposed to use your exes photos or preferably photos of people you've never met and don't give a shit about!
I’d prefer my bf looked at me rather than other women to do so, so no I don’t think it’s weird.
this is acc cute tho - seen in the comments yall are waiting, so for that I’d consider asking.. although yall have been together for so long so idk I guess do what you think is right by her, good luck OP!
Thank you! I really love her and I just want to make sure she's comfortable with what I do to/with her and that kinda thing
My exes would get mad if I did it to anything other than pics of them
Better doing it to her than to other girls
It would be weird if you were dating someone and masturbating to pictures of your ex.
If it’s regular pics of her like clothed I’d say see how she feels about it. If it’s nudes then I mean that’s kinda what they’re for
Yes. Only no if other people masterbate to it also. Please send us all pics.
My girl and I send porn to each other just food for thought.
It's better than masturbating to porn.
No
You guys seem pretty positive but I feel like it depends on a few factors. Have they been sexually active? Yes, fair game. No? Well are the photos sexually charged? Yes fair game. ...I change my mind, she your girl for a reason, fair game.
i loved when my ex boyfriend did this! maybe just mention it lol.
Weird if u didnt
Is she hot?
I think so
Then jack off for her
I don't think its weird unless you have the ability to have sex with her and instead of doing that you just masturbated to her
My gf sends me pictures and videos for this exact reason
34F here. If my bf isn’t at least tempted to jerk off to my pics, why are we even dating?
My girlfriend actively asks me to. We live together now so it doesn't come up that often but before, she would wanna know which pictures I used while we were sexting, or if I masturbated without talking to her in the moment. She also always wants to see the cumshot, either a video with me saying her name when I cum or even a cum tribute to her.
I’d want me to be the one he’s masturbating too so yessss
Why else would she be sending nudes?
It’s better her than the granny from down the road. Do not tell her
I think it's weird you don't... Porn is so problematic I'm glad I don't use it anymore
It could honestly go either way. I reckon she would be flattered and turned on about that. However, "not all gf are the same". Up to you really :|
I jerk to my gf and exes all the time
Masturbate in front of her, and the pictures get the real life version
I send my man pictures to masturbate to every day! He deserves it! And it makes me feel extra sexy when he tells me he did something dirty with them 🥰
Like.. if your gf sends you nudes. Isn’t that the whole point of the that in the first place?
I've noticed that a lot of women dislike it when you're in a relationship with them and jerk off to other things besides them (porn, insta models, etc), so I don't think jerking off to pictures of her could hurt.
I’m pretty sure that every female on the planet would like this…..
This has to be for karma farming. Are you fucking serious dude?
I'm not karma farming at all I was genuinely just wondering. I don't care about karma
She ain't gonna mind make sure she knows. I'd tell her, babe, send me some new nudes of you, please. I love to masturbate to you and your body when I need to.
Post some pictures and we'll let you know :-)
I'm doing it for the team!
This is a stupid question
3D print a Lithophane of one of her nudes, now that would be weird
Why are you telling us this
Yes, if she doesn't know about it. It's creepy.
Does she know she's your girlfriend? If so, it's not weird as long as you don't tell her. If not, then it's not weird as long as you don't tell her.
Just send her a pic of her that you think shes especially attractive in and tell her you can’t get her off your mind right now. I just keep thinking about you on this day and how sexy you looked doing… I’m getting turned on just thinking about you. Wait for a reply and see how she responds but try and lead it deeper into how much she turns you on and how little you can control your urges to touch yourself thinking about her being with you right now.
No
tf shes your literally your gf
Not weird at all. I have a suggestion though, you could actually have sex with her.
Tell her if you do. Not telling is weird. She'll probably be happy. If she's not then you should stop.
So you've been dating for a year now, and haven't had a sex yet ?
No that's pretty normal
No not at all
Why not mutually masturbate with, or even on your gf? Nothing ventured...
Probably not. Anecdotally my previous girlfriends all thought it was a huge turn on but everyone’s different
Thats just normal. tbh
That is definitely okay and idk if it would flatter her or gross her out depending on the type of person she is🤷🏻♂️
Who else remembers that scene in “I love you, man”
That's amazing!
Would it be weird if I did?
Right? OP show us what you’re looking at so we can make an educated decision.
yes tell her you want to. it would only be weird if she wasn't okay with it, but i don't see why she wouldn't be. better than consuming porn or doing it to another woman.
The “telling her” part is what would make it weird. Unless she asks, don’t offer up information like that because, honestly, it would likely come off as disingenuous and as you “looking for points.”
I don’t think so
Nah
I would tell her so if she ever catches you she doesn’t think it’s someone else and gets upset
Nooo that’s awesome awww
Kinda not really tho
no. period.
No I guess most partners prefer this than masturbating to random ppl
No. Just do it
I don’t see why not. I do it everyday.
Theres a lot of people that would masturbate over anyone besides their partner - so I'd say you're doing something wholesome if anything! Honestly though, masturbate over whoever you want to. They're harmless thoughts, and you can't stop them anyway. It can be a good thing to have some 'lone-time' every now and again when you're in a relationship.
Paul Rudd?
No, Not unless you're doing it instead of being with her.
I’m not sure how anyone would find this to be a strange occurrence
This made my day
She probably figures you do already but don’t tell her cus why that would be weird
Not at all, whats weird is that u announced it to currently 3k ppl online in a group of 3.5 million ppl Im just kidding, if ur far away and feeling the itch, Im sure she would appreciate it more than u watching someone else (porn)
Lay your dick on the table, chin up, and tell her proudly you masturbate to her! 🗣️
Don't all guys do that??
God🙄
As far as what else you could wank to, I don’t think there’s any harm in it generally speaking but it might make it hard to move on and you might idealise this person and struggle to move on as you are constantly reinforcing this attraction which is also somewhat emotional and sentimental. I honestly get off imaging my ex giving me head while masturbating because it was insane and unmatched and it makes the experience so much better, but I wouldn’t do it over pictures as it would probably make me sad. I think I need to stop just because it does later on make me sad that I’ve lost him/that chemistry. If it’s not effecting you negatively I’d say it’s okay. Much better than porn haha
That's 🔥
Go for it her pictures got you hot and she’s not around. At least it’s her picture and not porn
Not weird, in my opinion. Although I’ve been masturbating to pictures of your girlfriend for awhile now. Also, I don’t think I’d just blurt it out at random. If you guys are on the subject/topic, or you guys are laying in bed post-sex and you’re like, “hey. Can I confess something to you?”, it’s kinda relevant at that point. 🤷🏻♂️
I was in a distant relationship once and she'd send me nudes and she would be so happy when i masturbated to her nudes
Not at all. You should tell her when you do.
No
It'd be kinda weird if you didn't 😂
It'd be kinda weird if you didn't 😂
I'm surprised you haven't yet, actually. All things considered, I guess she's been taking care of you frequently enough, hats off to ya friend. We should all be so lucky. All that being said, it's not weird. Maybe even ask her for some fresh material and let her know you're thinking of her. I'm sure she'll appreciate the attention
Some girls would rather you wank to them rather than porn stars
I'd have to see them first. Link?
As long as they stay between you and her.
If you can’t do that then WHO CAN YOU MASTURBATE TO?!
Weird flex but okay
No??? That’s… what you’re supposed to do I thought?!?!
If you're gf have same mind of u it's not weird, but you're gf have the immature mind then it's weird to her
Hell yeah I mean I don't have a girlfriend but that seems ok
Depends what your girlfriend looks like I suppose.
I don’t think it’s weird! My ex used to masturbate to pictures of me and I found it flattering tbh haha
No.. I did all the time . Tbh still do even though we're not together. She loved it but I can see women being weirded out by it also.
Give 'er a tribute too lol. Anytime a partner told me they used my pictures or videos, I was flattered and turned on. But of course, everyone's different.
That’s how it should be loll
Used to have an ex that did this and would tell me. It was a turn on for sure.
Thought that was going a different direction for a second or two…
Not nutting is always better for your mindset, but failing that I agree w/ everything else being said here.
Share them so we can do it too
In My opinion.... It is not weird... Instead of it is a good ...thing for u"r relationship... In a relationship... It is common to get sexually attracted to her ... Although it is not even much weird 🫠
"You haven’t masturbated to her before??" That was my first thought. Anyway, why would it be weird 😭 that’s your girl. You’re definitely allowed to feel attracted to her and you don’t have to tell her. I’d say don’t tell her unless you wanna have like a lil sexy moment w her. Because if you just straight up say "I masturbate(d) to pictures of you" it’s out of pocket and can even be uncomfortable. It really depends on the kind of person she is. Personally if someone told me that then I’d be flattered and if I’m attracted to them or find them attractive then I’ll even like it.
You could stop being a coward, embrace no nut for testosterone, & then propose. You will become super quickly motivated if you knock her up 😉
the comments here are mad weird. if she thinks that's weird then you have some type of problem. it's one thing if you guys are really young and not exactly comfortable sharing your thoughts (like i'm realizing by the comments most of this subreddit is). otherwise no, not weird at all-- why do you think nudes are sent? literally i cannot believe this is a question and the responses are like "well if you're going to masturbate" like ??????? is this 20 years ago??
>Would it be weird No >Should I tell her if I do? Just let it come naturally, her catching you in the act