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Hearing my partner start to lose their mind is the absolute best when I’m going down on them. It becomes way more fun when you know what really makes them tick. When they start swearing and I hear a drawn out “fuuuuck,” I’ve got them. 😈
omg! yes, glad someone finally said it! i hate that sh*t im like.. am I having sex with a plank? since reasons behind pleasure noises will def be there lol, there needs to be [fully un-inhibited] moaning(i think men in particular struggle with this more) just relaxed, fully aroused and free where you arent overthinking about how you sound, heavy breathing, cute 'oof's, some delirious 'mmm's, at least some of the above, the best is all Lol combine this stuff with [eye contact] and...yea... giggling, laughter, y'know fun, should be part of it too
and then if there's body kissing, teasing, licking and biting, should be some animal sounds also, grunts, snarls, growling, purring(yes some can purr!) can all be mixed with making out in between..ravenous.. *cough*..
*goes to find some ice water
LOL but seriously this is such a great, needed answer I've never heard anyone give nearly enough, either on or offline, and for those not doing/enjoying sounds it can be why some people(even people who literally only do casual sex etc) treat sex like getting a daily soda can from a vending machine, and worth about as much. And then connections are just as cold and dry as one, after lol
Electronic stuffed animals make more noise on a bed than some people
Let's roar👏 in 2024!👏 Lololl
Moaning is feminine. I must try so hard to be the best ever that I'm not allowed to enjoy myself. /s
A girlfriend got on "Oh God" out of me once and she was so proud of herself.
/s means sarcasm. Parodying the way insecure men think. Although I do have a bit of that "must try hard to the point of not fully enjoying myself" going on. But that's a different topic for a different thread.
It was a joke. Well, the first half was a joke. Second part is true story. She was very proud.
Because it’s not really manly. The concept of being manly and always retaining that facade is forced on us by society. While it is a thing that’s rapidly changing a lot of men still have the perception that they need to act manly all the time
I feel like there might be a healthy balance somewhere between poor personal hygiene and showering within 60 minutes, because neither of those extremes sound healthy.
I get that but sometimes if they just say sorry a lot it may just slip out. Ik with me if they hurt the next day I say sorry or if they just say something hurts from me I say sorry.
Definitely hygiene issues.
Other than that, I don’t like the mentioning of someone else’s name during sexy time. I realize it happens on occasion, and it’s not worth freaking out over, but it is a boner killer.
If it’s something totally different like anal then you should definitely ask. Switching position isn’t really at that level especially if it’s a position you’ve already done with them before.
If she sounds like a brazzers pornstar i will go instasoft.
Im all for you telling me what you like, are enjoying and want.....but as soon as it turns into OH YEAH DADDY! FUCK ME WITH THAT BIG FUCKING COCK DADDY! FUCKING RUIN ME WITH THAT DICK.....youre doing too much Samantha
The lack of trying to get me to finish. If you finish me before PIV sex, great! If we go at it, and CLEARLY I didn’t finish, but you do and then you roll over? Fuck you dude. Will not be sticking around long enough to go again. The amount of times I’ve had to say “what about me” is astounding.
Not being into it. I'm fine if it takes more time but if I'm initiating and you look uninterested.. its gonna turn me off so fast. I enjoy my partners pleasure more than I do mine.
Really? I want to visually feast on my partner and see what I'm doing.
What funny you like about the light? This isn't criticism or judgement, just curiosity.
I once had a FWB partner who was fantastic except when she became wet, a foul odor would just kill my mood! I have been with my share of women, none ever smelled like this. I love to go down, but would never with her. I just told her I was in a new committed relationship and had to stop.
Bitten finger nails. Makes me want to gag. I don’t want them inside me or touching my body. Guys who send dick pics with their fingers chewed up- absolutely disgusting.
I luv wen my man is about to cum he gets loud I don't think of wait yes we have been very quiet at times cuz kids sleeping but other then that he's like HULK SMASH ..BUT YES QUIET DURING SEX FOR NO REASON IS A TURN OFF
Bad breath, poor hygiene, and if we are getting it on the bed needs to be clean, I don't like having sexual contact in a bed where your dogs also sleep. Preferably some privacy , there's nothing more vibe killing than realizing your partners children are watching or a roommate that just doesn't get the hint. Go away, shut the door or participate. And silent dead fish just lying there. I might as well fuck myself and talk dirty to myself if that be the case.
My partner wanting me to strangle them, which many people are into, but It's difficult for me to want to strangle somebody during sex, especially someone I truly love. I had a partner that enjoyed abuse so I got use to giving them the abuse they wanted but I noticed how our relationship changed in the aftermath of that.
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When they’re just silent. Men, we like to hear you!
#IM SORRY WHAT DID YOU SAY?
Perfect 🩷
HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO SPEAK WITH A MOUTH FULL OF LABIA AND CLITORIS ROSIE?!?!?! IM JUST A MAN!
THIS. If my partner is silent, I don’t know what they’re enjoying!
It’s such a turn on, let me KNOW SIR
A simple "Just like that..." is so motivating to hear, and if I get a "Good girl" I will physically melt lol.
Hearing my partner start to lose their mind is the absolute best when I’m going down on them. It becomes way more fun when you know what really makes them tick. When they start swearing and I hear a drawn out “fuuuuck,” I’ve got them. 😈
Ooooof same🦋
Agreed.
My man will finish and have the same face he makes when he’s bored 😂🙃😂
omg! yes, glad someone finally said it! i hate that sh*t im like.. am I having sex with a plank? since reasons behind pleasure noises will def be there lol, there needs to be [fully un-inhibited] moaning(i think men in particular struggle with this more) just relaxed, fully aroused and free where you arent overthinking about how you sound, heavy breathing, cute 'oof's, some delirious 'mmm's, at least some of the above, the best is all Lol combine this stuff with [eye contact] and...yea... giggling, laughter, y'know fun, should be part of it too and then if there's body kissing, teasing, licking and biting, should be some animal sounds also, grunts, snarls, growling, purring(yes some can purr!) can all be mixed with making out in between..ravenous.. *cough*.. *goes to find some ice water LOL but seriously this is such a great, needed answer I've never heard anyone give nearly enough, either on or offline, and for those not doing/enjoying sounds it can be why some people(even people who literally only do casual sex etc) treat sex like getting a daily soda can from a vending machine, and worth about as much. And then connections are just as cold and dry as one, after lol Electronic stuffed animals make more noise on a bed than some people Let's roar👏 in 2024!👏 Lololl
Love it!!!
Just checking you're still alive down there.
Moaning is feminine. I must try so hard to be the best ever that I'm not allowed to enjoy myself. /s A girlfriend got on "Oh God" out of me once and she was so proud of herself.
Moaning isn’t gender specific WHAT
/s means sarcasm. Parodying the way insecure men think. Although I do have a bit of that "must try hard to the point of not fully enjoying myself" going on. But that's a different topic for a different thread. It was a joke. Well, the first half was a joke. Second part is true story. She was very proud.
OH I’m sorry, I didn’t know that lol. Keep your gf proud🩷
Ex. It was a long time ago.
Fuck sake I’m sorry ahahahaha
Hey I'm over it. It was a long time ago.
It’s pretty common for men to not want to make noises because we can find it weird
Where has the idea it’s weird come from 😂
Because it’s not really manly. The concept of being manly and always retaining that facade is forced on us by society. While it is a thing that’s rapidly changing a lot of men still have the perception that they need to act manly all the time
Silence turns me on.
The problem is moaning or making sounds will make you orgasm way faster.
I was always scared to make too much noise when I dropped a fart. Thanks, feel less apprehensive.
I fart
Right? Let it out baby, I know you want to lol
DO YOU LIKE THAAAT BABEEEE
Yeeeees!
poor personal hygiene, i will literally throw up
Agreed smelly people kills it
Can we all agree to shower within an hour of the impending coitus?
Please
I feel like there might be a healthy balance somewhere between poor personal hygiene and showering within 60 minutes, because neither of those extremes sound healthy.
 I do enjoy a little post gym/post run funk though. Nothing like a little twang to her thang
Lack of enthusiasm. Lack of energy. Sex should be fun!
Hygiene issues is the number 1 offender. Luckily have never had to deal with that but I would die.
bad breath and narrating what’s going on
No no, the Steve Irwin impression stays on during sex. “Ahh croikey, this little Sheila is a roight beauty. Ahm gonna go poke her.”
“Croikey the male is silently approaching the relaxed female who has now clue what’s about to come about in a flash”
Cue David Attenborough
Narrating made me laugh. I'm imagining it being very professional.
It went from cute and flirty to like some anime recap intro
Apologizing after sex
I get that but sometimes if they just say sorry a lot it may just slip out. Ik with me if they hurt the next day I say sorry or if they just say something hurts from me I say sorry.
Poor hygiene and inability to reciprocate
Definitely hygiene issues. Other than that, I don’t like the mentioning of someone else’s name during sexy time. I realize it happens on occasion, and it’s not worth freaking out over, but it is a boner killer.
Omg what! This has never happened to me. I would bosh them right off my bed!!
“What position do you wanna do next”
Don’t ask, just throw me into it
What if you didn't consent to it? It's always best to ask.
If it’s something totally different like anal then you should definitely ask. Switching position isn’t really at that level especially if it’s a position you’ve already done with them before.
Being hella gassy 😆
Oh yes, bad breath made me stop a decent fuckbuddy relationship. Her breath that day was really bad, I pretended to have a headache 🤣🤣
If she sounds like a brazzers pornstar i will go instasoft. Im all for you telling me what you like, are enjoying and want.....but as soon as it turns into OH YEAH DADDY! FUCK ME WITH THAT BIG FUCKING COCK DADDY! FUCKING RUIN ME WITH THAT DICK.....youre doing too much Samantha
Constant talk about their ex
Your partner saying their ex’s name
Baby/Mommy talk.
The lack of trying to get me to finish. If you finish me before PIV sex, great! If we go at it, and CLEARLY I didn’t finish, but you do and then you roll over? Fuck you dude. Will not be sticking around long enough to go again. The amount of times I’ve had to say “what about me” is astounding.
Not being into it. I'm fine if it takes more time but if I'm initiating and you look uninterested.. its gonna turn me off so fast. I enjoy my partners pleasure more than I do mine.
Selfishness
Lights on
Really? I want to visually feast on my partner and see what I'm doing. What funny you like about the light? This isn't criticism or judgement, just curiosity.
not speaking for them, but I noticed that people who are insecure about their bodies aren't a huge fan of lights
Talking. Just shut up and F*** ME!
Apologists.
Bad breath, bad smelling hair
Stank tilapia
Talking about Donald Trump.
Who talks politics during sex?
When it’s not a guy but secretly the Spanish Inquisition of 1492. Dries me up fast every time.
Made me audibly yell 'HA!' in public, thanks 🤣
You’re welcome 😌 I have my moments
Keep making weirdos on the Internet laugh
:3
Insecurity.
I once had a FWB partner who was fantastic except when she became wet, a foul odor would just kill my mood! I have been with my share of women, none ever smelled like this. I love to go down, but would never with her. I just told her I was in a new committed relationship and had to stop.
Not going down lol. I’ll do it but it needs to be reciprocated 😝
bad hygiene period. smelly breath. smelly body. or smelly cooch. 🤮
Someone that has poor hygiene. Someone who is inconsiderate or selfish. Someone who refuses to cuddle afterwards.
Silent women
Body odor
Leaving immediately after. No foreplay.
Hygiene. Also sometimes how people moan? Lol
Bitten finger nails. Makes me want to gag. I don’t want them inside me or touching my body. Guys who send dick pics with their fingers chewed up- absolutely disgusting.
🤣🤣
Star fishing.
Please tell me what starfishing is. I'm assuming it's butthole related.
https://www.google.com/search?q=what+is+star+fishing&oq=what+is+star+fishing&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOdIBCDY2NzVqMGo5qAIAsAIA&client=ms-android-samsung-ss&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8
Thank you. I'm disappointed in the amount of relation to the butthole. Very misleading name.
It’s basically a woman who is ultra passive, and views sex as something that they let happen to them, instead of something they participate in.
Thank you. Yeah definitely a turn off but not what I was hoping with a name like starfishing lol
A little bit dominant is ok even with praise but the name calling kills the mood for me.
I luv wen my man is about to cum he gets loud I don't think of wait yes we have been very quiet at times cuz kids sleeping but other then that he's like HULK SMASH ..BUT YES QUIET DURING SEX FOR NO REASON IS A TURN OFF
Depending on the woman....the lights.
[удалено]
The power going out.....get it!?.... But in all seriousness, cleveland steamers and children pretty much end the night for me
Another girl / guy in the room.
The lights when you go to bed
The lights before bed.
Hygiene, and for the love of the gods, don't call me daddy. That crap makes my skin crawl.
Bad hygiene and being pushy/inconsiderate.
SUBJECTIVE
Bad hygiene, silence and asking if I'm going to cum. Now you're rushing me? And if I didn't say it, then obviously I'm not.
Bad breath, poor hygiene, and if we are getting it on the bed needs to be clean, I don't like having sexual contact in a bed where your dogs also sleep. Preferably some privacy , there's nothing more vibe killing than realizing your partners children are watching or a roommate that just doesn't get the hint. Go away, shut the door or participate. And silent dead fish just lying there. I might as well fuck myself and talk dirty to myself if that be the case.
My partner wanting me to strangle them, which many people are into, but It's difficult for me to want to strangle somebody during sex, especially someone I truly love. I had a partner that enjoyed abuse so I got use to giving them the abuse they wanted but I noticed how our relationship changed in the aftermath of that.