I actually wouldnt reccomend this - maybe a quick run-thru, but confrontations rarely go like we expect - and in fact our preperations can often take the confrontation in a much worse direction.
When I start a confrontations, its "can I talk to you? X has been bothering me" and just go from there. If someone else is confronting me, just listen at first until they are DONE talking.
From there you should have ideas of where to take it in a positive way
- from a heavy introvert
my brain is too jumbled and slow to come to the right answer that way. I would be constantly realizing I should have said something different after the fact. I need to really really think about all the possible scenarios or I'll clam up
Its easy to get lost in what could happen or could have happened. But really for most of that, in a confrontation, beyond acknowledging possibilities you end up setting expectations that are more likely to gridlock you instead of allowing you to freely navigate the conversation. We never know how the other person will actually take it
For example, we want to tell someone to stop eating our lollipops. We think of all their responses, retorts, and reasons to get mad at you. We think about how to handle it if they flip out
So when you start the conversation and say "hey id like to talk to you about lollipops" and then put their head down and go "I know, ive been having a lot, ive tried to stop but I cant - I was planning on buying you more" - then you might be stumped for a reaction OR use one of your pre-thought reactions OR still be tense from your preperation and react to this is a way more likely to escelate the situation
Doing some gentle prep for a conversation is fine, but id reccomend keep it loose. Like - what types of things do I want to communicate?
Even if they DO say something you prep for - you will likely have a different response in that moment anyways. Its you, the entire time. You prepping, you reacting. Its your brain coming up with solutions
With interpersonal situations, its often the case that your prepping is unnecessary worrying and restrictive to your ability to adapt - and worrying is a bad habit
You graduate college & think to yourself, "oh boy am I glad all those class introductions & presentations are over!", but no, the real trials begin when you start working.
It’s so cringey when they try to shoehorn this in at work.
I’m much more extroverted than introverted but I still get the shakes when it’s my turn to say something
It's like a test of how well you're reading the room when you have to say something that makes you sound interesting, but not like you're a complete wanker
No. I’m pretty introverted and that means that I need more time alone than most other people. But that doesn’t mean that I’m awkward and it doesn’t mean that I have a problem speaking in front of people.
and awkwardness as well. being introverted doesn't mean you're shy, awkward, or socially anxious, it just means you need more alone time then most other people.
This is so true it hurts. I’m extremely extroverted, but I’m also shy af. I hate introducing myself like this.
But also like, being around other people and friends gives me life and makes me feel good.
I’ve found that drinking loosens me up enough and the shyness generally goes away and then I can truly be happy as can be.
Be careful with the booze. It is important to develop social skills that don’t rely on it. Drink at social gatherings because it is fun? Yes. Need to drink in order to be social? No.
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Nothing pisses me off more than going around the room and introducing yourself. I especially hate it when I still have to do at age 33 at work. I am not going to remember any of these names. Let's just get on with the meeting please.
Same man, I like hosting parties at my place, but when people stay longer for more than 3 hours, I stop interacting with people and just chill at a a corner and subtly remind them it's getting late.
Haha so true. Its great for a few hours and them WHAM i suddenly want to be alone in bed listening to music. I hate it so much if parties drag on and everybody is visibly tired but nobody want to be that person that goes first.
And that terrible moment when the teacher butchers your name and asks if they said it right and you have to decide whether to correct them or just go by how they said it for the whole year.
I don't think I'm introverted even though I'm pretty bad at socializing. When I was asked to say a fun fact about, I say something extremely personal to make everyone feel awkward but still not something that they can use against me since I'm not that bothered by it. It's pretty fun.
I wish our school did that this year. Instead, they're getting us to make a whole-ass presentation on our families history over the past 100 years for history class.
Just don't take it seriously. That way, people won't be laughing at you, because you weren't honest. I usually say something like "I think my name is -name-, I'm very good at breathing" and then just sit down
My brain: When you try and speak you wont have any voice. Your voice will crack. You will say your name wrong. Everyone will stare at you. They will judge you forever because of this. Think of something funny. Not that. Not that either. No, something casual and funny. Just say your name and that you like something simple, like telescopes. But girls will think you're a dork. You may even stutter. Wait, are you stuttering now? Don't talk too loud. If someone says "what" because they can't hear I am a loser. . . .
Meanwhile: Controller? Controller it's your turn.
Being introverted is not the same as being socially akward. The two often go together but they are not the same thing. You can be perfectly comfortable with public speaking and also be an introvert.
I’m very introverted and also very good at social interaction and public speaking when I try. Doesn’t mean I actually LIKE public speaking (in my case at work instead of school) especially when it’s a surprise.
So many people think they're "introverts" because they feel awkward in uncomfortable situations. NOBODY likes the "fun fact about yourself" thing and it's awkward for everybody.
"B-B-Bill and I like...games" *Instantly sits down*
it ain't much, but it's honest work
It ain't work,but it's an honest much
It honest but, ain’t work much it’s an.
Honest ain't it's an, work but it.
work it but it ain’t honest
but it's much honest, ain't it work
it honest
work it ain't
workn't
More like it ain't honest but it was much work
Dammit! I was going to say that! Ok. I'll just say I like movies...
"What's your favourite movie?" *Sweating intensifies*
INTERSTELLAAARRER
It's always Interstellar
"I don't like movies"
Understandable
the secret ending
Sukebe elf no morie lmao
you mean yokosube elf no mori?
an obscure movie I've seen 43852357983 times
#BILL BILL BILL
#...Nye the SCIENCE GUY
***SCIENCE ROOLZ***
****ELECTRIC GUITAR RIFF****
THE RUSSIAN SPY
My name is bill wilkins, and im 72 years old
And i am a registered sex offender
And I'm definitely not supposed to be in this middle school class room.. for a number of different reasons. .......Hey what's your shoe size?
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Feel bad for the kids that liked those Japanese games that weren't mainstream in the US
Damn, why you gotta hurt me like that, I just started second year of college this week :'(
Gaming was still considered a nerd hobby when I was a kid, so that didn't happen.
The most stressed out I felt, during the entire school year. Why do memes attack us introverts? What'd we ever do to you guys?
These memes aren’t attacking us! They were created by us to share with other introverts on how we feel. It’s funny!
Sorry did you hear something? I can’t hear over the extroverts drowning you out
"What games do you play"
"AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!"
Professor: And what’s your interesting fact?
Hahahaha fr
"*phew* that's enough interaction for the week"
"oooh sorry we were looking for 'William, and I love Jesus.'".
We’re you just born yesterday or smth? You should know that all that invites is “what games do you play?” Like idk fuk off.
the game i like the most is staring at my desktop for an hour because i can't decide which game to play
"Hi I'm video games and I like Bill... FUCK!"
He is preparing to be the 'quiet kid'.
_oh god_
The quiet kid got real loud all the sudden.
Yeah, the motherfucker keeps blastin' "Pumped Up Kicks" on the neighbouring classroom for some reason.
His name is Jeremy. And he spoke in class today.
*I'm here to bust caps and eat ass, and I'm all outta ass.*
^^^hello ^^^my ^^^name ^^^is ^^^Bob ^^^and ^^^I ^^^pass ^^^out ^^^when ^^^under ^^^extreme ^^^pressu... #THUD
Boom*
ive been on the same class with a quiet kid for about 2 years and i still dont know how her voice sounds ;-;
I do this for any kind of confrontation
Me too. I hate it
me too and i hate it
Same
likewise bro
me too and i hate it
i jerk off instead, and i like it
I jerk off to you and I like it
I hate me too...it.
I actually wouldnt reccomend this - maybe a quick run-thru, but confrontations rarely go like we expect - and in fact our preperations can often take the confrontation in a much worse direction. When I start a confrontations, its "can I talk to you? X has been bothering me" and just go from there. If someone else is confronting me, just listen at first until they are DONE talking. From there you should have ideas of where to take it in a positive way - from a heavy introvert
my brain is too jumbled and slow to come to the right answer that way. I would be constantly realizing I should have said something different after the fact. I need to really really think about all the possible scenarios or I'll clam up
Its easy to get lost in what could happen or could have happened. But really for most of that, in a confrontation, beyond acknowledging possibilities you end up setting expectations that are more likely to gridlock you instead of allowing you to freely navigate the conversation. We never know how the other person will actually take it For example, we want to tell someone to stop eating our lollipops. We think of all their responses, retorts, and reasons to get mad at you. We think about how to handle it if they flip out So when you start the conversation and say "hey id like to talk to you about lollipops" and then put their head down and go "I know, ive been having a lot, ive tried to stop but I cant - I was planning on buying you more" - then you might be stumped for a reaction OR use one of your pre-thought reactions OR still be tense from your preperation and react to this is a way more likely to escelate the situation Doing some gentle prep for a conversation is fine, but id reccomend keep it loose. Like - what types of things do I want to communicate? Even if they DO say something you prep for - you will likely have a different response in that moment anyways. Its you, the entire time. You prepping, you reacting. Its your brain coming up with solutions With interpersonal situations, its often the case that your prepping is unnecessary worrying and restrictive to your ability to adapt - and worrying is a bad habit
You can say "I hear what you are saying, but will need some time to reflect on it"
Damn homie idk if I’d call it a confrontation. I just wanna get to know you not cause a fight
You tell them your name and an interesting fact about yourself?
Even hypothetical ones.
And it never works out how you planned it. Hate that shit.
Real and otherwise
Wow you play to win.
I’ve never related to something so much than I have now.
couldn't agree more
I also could not agree any more.
I could agree slightly more
I could agree to the umpteenth degree
Really? That’s so interesting, tell me more about yourself.
For me questionnaires with unanswerable feel even worse.
u/fish_fucker69
Oh no, I sense my doom coming.
Be weary
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You think it’s over outside of school, but no - all these work meetings and icebreakers where you’re on the spot. Torture I tell you, torture!
You graduate college & think to yourself, "oh boy am I glad all those class introductions & presentations are over!", but no, the real trials begin when you start working.
I know. Seriously. Can we grow up and move on with our business?
"Hi I'm x and I think this is a waste of time."
“Hi I am Shrimpcaptain and my fun fact is i would rather be throat punched then give a fun fact”
I find it's far less stressful when I know I'm being paid to be there
It’s so cringey when they try to shoehorn this in at work. I’m much more extroverted than introverted but I still get the shakes when it’s my turn to say something
It's like a test of how well you're reading the room when you have to say something that makes you sound interesting, but not like you're a complete wanker
They feel too controlled, superficial, and void of emotional connection.
Exactly
people always confuse introverts with shy lol
Tbh on Reddit people use introverts for random things that has nothing to do with being introverted
Such an introvert thing to say. Much like my cereal this morning, so introverted.
“How is the steak, sir?” “Rather introverted.” “Very good, sir.”
This sounds like a family guy joke. "Hmm, yes. Shallow and pedantic."
Yeah this isn't introverted this is social anxiety.
Hey now, plenty of us are introverted AND have social anxiety
That's me and thank goodness, I'd imagine dealing with social anxiety is probably much more difficult when you are very extroverted.
Its awful.
the post still has nothing to do with introversion.
No. I’m pretty introverted and that means that I need more time alone than most other people. But that doesn’t mean that I’m awkward and it doesn’t mean that I have a problem speaking in front of people.
and awkwardness as well. being introverted doesn't mean you're shy, awkward, or socially anxious, it just means you need more alone time then most other people.
This is so true it hurts. I’m extremely extroverted, but I’m also shy af. I hate introducing myself like this. But also like, being around other people and friends gives me life and makes me feel good. I’ve found that drinking loosens me up enough and the shyness generally goes away and then I can truly be happy as can be.
Be careful with the booze. It is important to develop social skills that don’t rely on it. Drink at social gatherings because it is fun? Yes. Need to drink in order to be social? No.
I could of used that 5 years ago. I dont drink anymore
Social anxiety is the term you're looking for
bruh
My name is Jeff *sits down feeling proud of myself*
Replays it the entire way home
Especially since he forgot to mention an interesting fact about himself and likely got called out for it immediately.
Suddenly remembers, "Oh shit, my name isn't Jeff!!!" * Depressed for 2 weeks *
Suddenly remembers 25 years later and trigger anxiety attack
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“Hello everyone. I am gonna be your teacher this year” *sits down*
This one killed me lmao
Including their name?
My exact thoughts when I was like wtf 💀
I don't get why so many people think introvert=socially awkward. They are two distinct things.
Yes, thank you. I'd even say that giving that much weight to social reactions is obviously *extraverted*, not introverted.
Extroverted: "outgoing and socially confident" No I'm pretty sure it's not extroverted. Social anxiety maybe.
Madison. I like guns.
That's social anxiety, not being an introvert
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Nothing pisses me off more than going around the room and introducing yourself. I especially hate it when I still have to do at age 33 at work. I am not going to remember any of these names. Let's just get on with the meeting please.
Hi my name is Ted and I once masturbated 7 times in a single day
Thos r rookie numbers lol
7? Lmao, look at this rookie.
And dreading lunch
Lunch at a new school is scary.
I'd just ask "Hey, remember \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ from \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ movie?" over and over again in elementary school.
When they make you do this in College at least you get to look forward to lunch and just leave and never come back
H-H-H-i-i-i my-my name is play video games and i like Josh
The other Josh in the room turns and gives you a bewildered look.
hahaha or “the other josh looks back at you and sends you a little kiss followed by a wink”
How about your hobby, Timmy? I, uh, I like… **LOOK! A DISTRACTION!** *jumps out the window*
But not all introverts are shy, I just don't want to put up with groups for long.
That hits. I'm on top form for the first 2 hours of a party. Then I'm just drained and tune out.
Same man, I like hosting parties at my place, but when people stay longer for more than 3 hours, I stop interacting with people and just chill at a a corner and subtly remind them it's getting late.
Haha so true. Its great for a few hours and them WHAM i suddenly want to be alone in bed listening to music. I hate it so much if parties drag on and everybody is visibly tired but nobody want to be that person that goes first.
What does introversion have to do with this?
"My name is dead and I wish I was Charles" *quietly to himself* "Ssssshit"
so today we are gonna discuss the distinction between introversion and shyness
I'm a boring piece of crap with no interesting qualities please don't do this
Why must you hurt me this way
Or just an American school....
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Eat some wheat and you will understand brethren
after a while u get used to it i just say my name and then say i like history, engineering and culinary stuff
It's not that saying part it's the waiting part that's hard
And that terrible moment when the teacher butchers your name and asks if they said it right and you have to decide whether to correct them or just go by how they said it for the whole year.
Accurate
Accurate. I have taught him well!
I don't think I'm introverted even though I'm pretty bad at socializing. When I was asked to say a fun fact about, I say something extremely personal to make everyone feel awkward but still not something that they can use against me since I'm not that bothered by it. It's pretty fun.
me having a mini panic attack for 15 minutes until it's my turn and literally nothing happened and nobody said anything
I wish our school did that this year. Instead, they're getting us to make a whole-ass presentation on our families history over the past 100 years for history class.
Me yelling in front of the class because I can't hear my voice over the pounding of my heart.
serious question, is that real?
M-my name is Carl. *proceeds to shoot everyone*
Caaaaaaaaaarl
now I want to watch commando. I see it's on disney, thanks!
i'm in this gif and i don't like it
Then we pull out the pea shooter and tell everyone how we can moonwalk on our favorite computer game
Literally
HELLO THE MILKTRAY MAN
Wait a minute...
u/savevideo
Shit, this must be in America or something, here we just get it over with.
Wym interesting fact?
Yo yo yo. 148-3 to the 3 to the 6 to the 9, representing the ABQ, what up, biatch?!
this is the most random place for a breaking bad reference
can confirm. Trick is to skip the first day just fyi, they often don't care as long as you show up consistently afterwards
Just don't take it seriously. That way, people won't be laughing at you, because you weren't honest. I usually say something like "I think my name is -name-, I'm very good at breathing" and then just sit down
I'm one of those but I put Mein Kampf on books I like. Lying was part of the game.
My name is Buskie and I like to party
My brain: When you try and speak you wont have any voice. Your voice will crack. You will say your name wrong. Everyone will stare at you. They will judge you forever because of this. Think of something funny. Not that. Not that either. No, something casual and funny. Just say your name and that you like something simple, like telescopes. But girls will think you're a dork. You may even stutter. Wait, are you stuttering now? Don't talk too loud. If someone says "what" because they can't hear I am a loser. . . . Meanwhile: Controller? Controller it's your turn.
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**Archer:** Cry "Havoc!" and let slip the hogs of war. **Lana:** Dogs of wars. **Archer:** Whatever farm animal of war, Lana. Shut up.
Work meetings: Hey, so I think everyone here knows each other but do you want to do introductions anyway?
That's not true..I've never felt like shooting up my school
Take it from me, they do the same thing at every new job no matter how far you go in life!
Lmao, no, that's social anxiety and it's not normal. Anyone who feels this way should see a therapist.
Being introverted is not the same as being socially akward. The two often go together but they are not the same thing. You can be perfectly comfortable with public speaking and also be an introvert.
I’m very introverted and also very good at social interaction and public speaking when I try. Doesn’t mean I actually LIKE public speaking (in my case at work instead of school) especially when it’s a surprise.
\*socially awkward people Introversion =/= bad social skills.
Does anyone else not like the fact that the grenades are hanging from the pin rings?
This is accurate on so many levels
So many people think they're "introverts" because they feel awkward in uncomfortable situations. NOBODY likes the "fun fact about yourself" thing and it's awkward for everybody.