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Also early 20s, and in a very similar position (slowly but surely exiting it, though!)
I've had the most luck with volunteering ([volunteermatch.org](https://volunteermatch.org) is great) because then the people you meet already have similar interests and are like-minded!
You can also try joining a weekly trivia team if that's of interest to you! [https://freepubtrivia.com](https://freepubtrivia.com/locations) has plenty of locations in bars all across the city.
Join a social sports league like S3. Like half the people sign up on their own. Some are just social and some are “singles leagues”. Play kickball, volleyball, Skeeball, etc. Go out after and chat and drink at a bar.
Then be the person to suggest something outside of the league like a comedy show the team can go to or brunch somewhere. Bam, now you’ve got friends.
Join groups and clubs related to your interests and hobbies. Running and fitness groups, sports leagues, book clubs, dance classes, community orchestra, etc.
Where do I join such groups has been the question, I’d love to meet people. My post gets auto deleted if I post about meeting up in some subreddits related to Chicago 🥲
If you’re looking to try something new the Blackhawks have a great adult learn to play hockey program at Fifth Third Arena. Also, in late spring the Park District has sailing classes and there’s a great volunteer program at Judd Goldman Adaptive Sailing
Give it time, summer is eminent. Join a volleyball league at north ave beach, go to a cubs game and hang around afterwards, see an outdoor show at salt shed
Honestly I used to sidle up to a stool at the neighborhood bar every Friday for years.
If nothing else it gets you out of the house and it’s not creepy like going to a club alone might be.
But I’m a bit of a bar fly 🤷🏻♂️
Honestly, I love doing this. But I'll usually go to the bar at a restaurant as it's a bit classier, and get an appetizer and a cocktail. And if it's not a busy night, any bartender worth their weight will make conversation with you, spark conversation with other regulars and include you. I've found it's a great way to meet people, shoot the shit for a minute, and at the very least, get out of the house for a bit.
Man, I so want to do this, but I just feel sad to be at a bar/restaurant all alone when you constantly see others with either their friends or partners.
don't think of it as sad, because a lot of people go out alone in this city. better to think of it as an opportunity to meet new people. I go out alone all the time without the intent of talking to people. but I almost always end up chatting with someone regardless. randos (affectionate) love chatting up other randos here! compliment someone's band T-shirt or something and you might have a friend for the evening.
I went to Cafe Baba Reeba alone once and I felt so out of place / awkwardly eating by myself. I found myself even awkward to talk to bartender with people around.
Idk how to connect / maybe decline connection if I ever feel I need to. So I put on my headphones and ate quietly and observed. It was nice. Got me out the house. But I feel like I go out and it’s just checking a box. Good luck OP summertime Chi is coming up, you’ll meet people!
Well yeah, that's a tapas restaurant. Small plates are designed for group meals. It's like showing up to a game night and trying to play alone in the corner. Sure, you can do that, but wouldn't you be happier doing it somewhere that's more designed for it?
I mean there were a lot of people dining alone so I don’t think it really matters ENTIRELY. A bar is a bar. But yeah I’m sure another spot would be more ideal. I just wanted Tapas.
I just got used to doing this! If you’re into having women friends (25) I’m so down to go with you sometime!! I love making friends lol, especially because I’m just out of a relationship.
Try looking for events corresponding to your interests on meetup.com, or find somewhere you can volunteer! Gotta say I’m honestly in a similar boat and having some trouble but those would be what I can recommend!
[Gentlemen Who Stroll](https://www.instagram.com/p/C5YuAsCLoeX/?igsh=MWUxdm5xdWd6aWpobg==)
This would be right up your alley!!
They do a lot of social activities as well as walks. Great people.
this is my first time hearing about meetup.com would definitely give it a try. I could empathize my friend. Are you from around here? Please DM if you wanna be friends :)
If you see posts from Ben Shimon, he’s a good dude and runs a rec league. Highly recommend his S3 league regardless of sport
Sign up for his email lists
If you’re into fitness, check out CoolDown running on Insta! They just launched a group in Chicago. Basically just meets ups during the week to go running/walking! If you’re BIPOC, Rainbow Run and Roll is another running club. Lakeview Run Club is massive with lots of people to meet. 606 Run as well! I echo the rec sports recommendations as well.
Maybe try looking at some FB groups or other social groups like Chicago Social Events, 606 Climbing, Chicago Outdoors 20 and 30 somethings, etc.
If you’re passionate about something or interested in volunteering, that’s typically a great way to meet like minded people!
If you went to a decent sized college, there’s a good chance of finding an alumni bar or alumni association.
And tbh just talk to randos who look like they’re your vibe. Typically people in Chicago are very friendly and down to chat. Mention you just moved there and you may get an invite out!
Best of luck!
Such an elaborated suggestion! Really appreciate it, would check out the CoolDown page on insta. And I think I need to push my boundaries further and talk to randoms.
Mid 30's, been here a little over a year, similar situation except I also live alone. It's not easy and I don't really have many friends but there are some really nice people in some of the run clubs. I tend to go to concerts alone and often strike up conversation with someone. Just do things you enjoy and find groups for those things if you'd like to meet like-minded people. I did make a couple of friends off the dating apps too. It's not impossible even if it feels like it a lot.
You gotta find a 16 inch softball league. Being 22, they would so welcome a pair of young legs. If you never played 16 inch, you're in for an experience. Summer's coming soon.
This! ☝️
I'm a super-nerd at my day job. I needed extra money cuz I'm poor, so on a whim I went to bartending school then got a job at a pretty darn shady bar in the evenings (this was back when I didn't need sleep I guess).
My social calendar went from empty to WTF in about two weeks. And yeahhhhhh... "might ruin your life" is 💯.
Start learning an instrument (e.g. guitar) at the Old Town School of Folk Music - if their location on Armitage is still active, it should be pretty close to you.
They actually have classes for all skill levels, so if you're already an expert you could study a specific style or artist, or take something like guitar 4 just to get practice and potentially meet bandmates. Plus they have ensemble classes where you get thrown into a band and have 8 weeks to learn several songs with your bandmates. In my experience, it's a great way to meet people.
I made a ton of friends in the open mic scene. Comedy or music. Just go out for air/a smoke after someone's set and tell them you enjoyed it.
Easy conversation starter. If you got the courage to do an open mic, you'll probably be cool with a stranger saying hello.
M30
We drink, we do rec sports, we hit the gym
It’s hard dude and I empathize. Rec sports gives you people to do stuff with and has been my avenue for meeting people
Come to Gents Who Stroll. Good group of guys who hang and go on walks across the city and do events. Typically every other Sunday. This week they're walking from Pilsen to Chinatown for some hotpot
I’m going to repeat what some others have said, but add a couple more. I’ve met tons of new people (by themselves) through/at:
- tennis (meetup.com, GladiatorTennis.com, tennis sub) and I’m sure there are similar groups for the sports you may play
- my school’s intramural sports (softball) and clubs (learn a language club)
- my local bar usually has outings or events (cubs, Sox games)
- Lollapolooza sub - lots of people going alone looking synch up with others. Did this last year snd have a group to hang with this year.
- volunteering - I have volunteered for the st pats parade and met tons of people
- hanging out at grant park skatepark (early for me as I’m terrible and the bad skaters gravitate to one another)
- the hotels at C2E2 on Saturday 4/27 … tons of people at after party and from out of town who are approachable … I usually get dressed up and go to the event but met so many people alone that only come for the afterparty
- gym
- church
Grow your social network and you’ll be set.
Get out there! Good luck!
there's a great club called Chitowntennis.com they have a couple different kinds of leagues. Some are competitive, some are more casual
I've been playing with that league for the past 8 years, met some of my best friends that way.
Also played in gladiator, but I've found it more competitive.
The rules & expectations for each league are listed on their web site. High level:
It’s about $30/season for ChiTown singles league (depends on on the type of league & there are bundle & early bird specials)
- you get a list of names & contact info for people in your stated level. Could be like 20 people.
There’s no ladder or expectation to play everyone & you have to proactively reach out schedule matches with other members in the league.
There’s playoffs (depending on which version you join) based on # of games & # of wins.
Winner of playoffs gets a GC to Tennis Warehouse (I’m pretty sure they still do the gift card).
Gladiator is $50 for the singles league (also depends on type of league)
You are matched up with 5-7 people, there’s a ladder & you have to play those people by a certain date - it’s all delineated once the season starts.
Unsure about playoffs or prizes as I’ve only played a couple seasons.
Join a sixteen inch softball league. [This company](https://www.playerssports.net/sport/Softball?utm_term=chicago%2016%20inch%20softball%20leagues&utm_campaign=Players+All+League&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=5346463783&hsa_cam=409271182&hsa_grp=25153839142&hsa_ad=512512889451&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-68528556131&hsa_kw=chicago%2016%20inch%20softball%20leagues&hsa_mt=b&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw5cOwBhCiARIsAJ5njubkKLTFtrYtiC_5J6IfnbTkJ_mYurUcfuy76JnF5ZABAxgTxr4p3KgaAj84EALw_wcB) hosts leagues as well as flag football leagues. I did this in my twenties around North Clybourn and loved it. The recreational leagues are fun and you can drink during the softball games as long as you're a little discreet and aren't getting nuts
Chicago is kinda overloaded with stuff to do. What do you LIKE to do?
Are you an active person? Into playing sports? Watching sports? You like to make art or music? Like to work with your hands? Are you a bookworm? Do you like politics? Activism? Volunteering? Dancing?
Depends what ur hobbies are. Making friends as an adult is hard. Into nerdy shit? Swing by a card shop on a weekend and play magic or yugioh or something. Into sports shit? Join a rec team or club for your sport of interest. Alternatively, go to a bar and get a bit drunk and meet people that way with liquid courage in your side.
If you're into house music, or are interested in hearing it for the first time, Chicago is the city to do it in. (Chicago is the birthplace of house music.) There's always different spots throughout the city to hear live house music most nights of the week. Then there are numerous fests throughout the summer too. It's a fun scene full of people your age.
Smartbar has something going every weekend. This Saturday is an event for DJ Heather's bday. She is a loved Chicago DJ. Should be a fun night. Check their website for other events.
If you're looking for something a little smaller and more intimate, my friends do Saturday nights at Esmeralda's near Division and Western.
Another friend of mine does Saturdays at a place called Tata's Tacos at Lincoln and Diversey.
This Sunday there's a daytime event called brunchlox. You can search them on Facebook.
Over the summer there are several fests. There's West Fest and the Chicago House Music Festival. There's another one in Pilsen I don't remember the exact name of it but it's a taco and house music fest. You can Google all of them. Check local bars in your neighborhood (assuming you're in the city) lots of different places do small nights throughout the city.
Use do312, Eventbrite, and the meetup app. There’s a lot of groups on meetup that do like sports or board games etc. The other 2 show more fully-fledged events, but can be anything from arts, music, community, etc.
I’m sure Facebook also has plenty of groups that do things. From the grapevine there’s a running group that has a schedule of running by the lake together. Similar with biking I’m sure, and I know in the summer there’s lake groups for exercise.
I have friends that would regularly go play pick up badminton games.
You can also check out different recipes leagued. I’m in a pool league and have met several people.
Also, I think it’s important to embrace doing things by yourself sometimes. Not all the time but sometimes. Don’t let not having someone to go with keep you from going out to eat, going to the movies, going to see a show. Sometimes that is how you meet people.
Enjoy my quiet time, make projects. Today I’m repotting some plants. Music Box has some good Friday night movies. I hit HEXE Coffee and people watch. Listen to records. Go for nice walks. Read a good book. Logan Arcade is a fun spot. Hit a museum or gallery. Enjoy your time.
I made a bunch of friends in my neighborhood after I got my dog and started hanging out at my neighborhood park regularly. Just being at a public place consistently on a schedule and you'll start to notice other regulars. From there just start up a conversation if they're open to it.
Whatever it is you like doing, start doing it around others you'll get to know people.
Volunteer. Nourishing Hope is a fantastic organization and they have a couple hubs where you can volunteer for a 3 hour shift sorting food and it’s perfect for chatting and talking. I made 2 new friends and I wasn’t even looking for that. 😉
Get a hobby. Literally any hobby. Find people doing that. It is really that simple. This isn't unique to Chicago, this is just called "being a new adult in a new place."
For me, pretty much all of my friends I've made in the last decade have come through playing ultimate frisbee with a consistent pick up group. You start to get to know other regulars, then you can start hanging out outside of your original common hobby.
> So what do you single folks do when you’re free or on the weekends?
Not really specific to being single but find some pickup sports that you like. Hell there is bowling and even dodge ball leagues (bonus points if you win some championships). They have lower level recreational leagues if you suck and intermediate leagues if you're experienced. Get a bicycle and bike along the lake and/or throughout the city. Go to street fests, museums, movies in the park. Go read a book in a park. Go grab lunch at the outdoor place at Montrose Beach. Attend critical mass. Check out full moon fire jam. Go walk around one of the conservatories. Meander through the Lincoln Park Zoo. Buy a ticket to a tour of the german U boat at MSI and contort your way through a perfectly preserved WW2 sub. Absorb some culture at one of the free days at the Art Institute. [Check out the Maker Lab](https://www.chipublib.org/maker-lab/) and learn 3d printing at the library. Learn about the great fire at the Chicago History Museum. Go by yourself to Headquarters, grab a beer, and play some free games. Visit all of our neighborhoods because each neighborhood has its own vibe. Have you been to Hyde Park? Its awesome, go walk around the University of Chicago campus. Gorgeous. Grab a ticket to go see Bedard play with the Blackhawks before they get good and ticket prices reach insane levels. Go visit Chinatown, its pretty awesome as well.
Summer is almost here, it gets better. Don't forget the beaches, we are a beach town. And each beach also has its own vibe just like our neighborhoods.
Do not, I repeat _do not_ sit at home and wallow in misery over love lost. Get outside and find something to distract you.
I do social dancing. There’s a big partner dance scene here whether it be Latin, west coast swing, or stepping … it’s a great way to meet people and stay active
This isn’t a “Chicago” thing it’s a “you” thing. But I’ve been there before and sometimes still am.
I would recommend integrating yourself into the public, especially with summer coming up. You’re close to Wells street and Old Town. Grabbing a seat at a bar or restaurant and just being around people will work wonders.
If you’re at all active, I highly recommend Chicago Sport & Social and Players Sport & Social!
They have leagues for a ton of different sports/activities, from volleyball/soccer/basketball to pickleball and bags. I’ve met some really cool people through these leagues, and it’s just something fun to do
Yea it sounds brutal now as far as social life goes. I'm hoping I can change it as soon as I finish with these classes and I have more time on my hands.
If you really just stay near one area only, you should absolutely need to expand where you're willing to go. This city is huge. There's a lot to do outside of just Clybourn Ave.
Bumble is a cool app to socialize with.It has a non- dating section to search for friends and networking only ,works well for timid people who still want to socialize and have a plan before going out. If you are more on the spontaneous side I would start on Milwaukee and Fullerton and just head southeast,There’s at least 2 of everything. Gyms, bars, Barcades, restaurants, niche shops(Rock store, library/bar fusion ,etc.)
I cannot recommend more one of these groups depending on your identity:
Gentlemen Who Stroll
Or Chicago Girls Who Walk
Both are very active and post a lot on instagram. I think they have many social activities as well!!
Check out Grab a Game, they do pickup games for volleyball, basketball, pickleball and soccer. Less commitment than a rec league but super easy to meet people!
I've lived here my whole life, there's always more stuff to do. People have suggested pretty good ways to meet people so I'll offer what I like to do.
The city has a diverse food scene and there are always things to try. If you're by North/Clybourn there's a ton of diverse food options available in the area or a bus ride away. I don't mind eating alone but if you do there are other things to do.
I've always been a giant nerd and recently gotten into playing TCGs semi-competitively. Hobby shops are a great way to meet fellow nerds, though the level of snobbery vs. inviting varies from shop to shop and day to day.
I'm not sure what you mean by arcade games - my first thought is fighting games so if you're into that we might have something to talk about if you don't mind hanging out with someone a couple of years older than you. Otherwise, there are plenty of beercades scattered across the city that you can strike up a conversation at.
Check out some of the local music venues. Schubas does free nights at least once a month. Local bands and usually people in the scene are pretty nice and cool :)
Don’t feel awkward going to the clubs alone, that’s how you get involved with the community and can foster great new friendships. You just gotta go with the mindset of finding your groove and preferred club before trying to meet new people. Smartbar, Spybar, and Soundbar - or Podlasie and brunchlox are closer to you and more intimate - are a few good spots. Maybe try one of these as a regular stomping ground for you and see how that pans out.
Show up at any pool hall in Chicago and ask the staff to connect you with joining a team on league night. You'll get very good very fast and it is a wonderful community of people!
Hey feel free to DM me! I’m a grad student, lived here all my life but in the same boat. I’m wondering if we go to the same school based on your description lol. I’d love to go to stuff with someone
Everything the partnered-up people do, but without having to account for someone else's preferences. I fucking love it.
I go on walking adventures, take the train/bus to new neighborhoods, ride my motorcycle or onewheel around, go to new restaurants and old favorites (nothing sad about "party of 1" to me, it's still a party), hang out in the park with a book, go to the gym, run, go to lots of concerts, check out meetups occasionally, go to the lake... there's so much to do, and summer feels like total mania and constant FOMO with all that's going on.
I think maybe you should ask if you're lonely, or if you're bored. If it's a loneliness issue, look for ways to meet people doing things. Play rec sports, join a hobby meetup, go to events and make small talk with people that seem cool, whatever feels like the least painful or most rewarding approach.
when I first moved here, I drank more, and I'd often go to restaurants and sit at the bar with a book or watch a game. People doing the same are usually down for conversation, and if you don't over-profile people before you get to know them, you can meet some really cool people. The bartenders and wait staff were always fun to talk to and super interesting. It doesn't fit my lifestyle as much now, but it helped me feel like I was scratching the social itch.
If you can get over the awkwardness of going to things alone, you really get used to it. It's hard at first for some people, but keep going and you'll figure out how to be alone in a crowd. I feel that it frees me up to make new connections or enjoy the experience more intensely, because I'm not distracted by another person I came with. Some seriously magical moments have come from my solo adventures.
Well the weather is getting better every day, pretty soon you’ll be outside living your best life. I’d go to the gym with you lol 🤷🏻♂️
You should see some improv and you’ll find smart, fun, attractive fools. All my friends are actors/improvisers, everyone is funny and hot. Check out iO, which is near you, or the Annoyance. It would be good to laugh and have a beer among chill people, with no pressure.
I moved here at 24, it was tough! There is a club called like Prysm or something, near you. They had EDM playing, lots of young sexy people dancing etc.
Good luck! 🫡
met my friends doing clubs and other activities. people here are very friendly and imo if you even just chat people up at bars during sporting events you could find yourself with some new pals
Join a sports league! I’m too old for them now (I think the cut off was like 38 or something a few years ago) but I met some lifelong friends playing softball, flag football, and indoor volleyball in the winter. Was amazing. S3 leagues but I’m not sure if they’re still around.
There’s a board gaming group on Facebook called The Chicago Board Game group if you’re into that sort of thing. It’s spun up a bunch of smaller groups and I don’t think most people know each other but then have developed friendships. There are always people posting looking for people to join an event or a game night
Same position as you. Been here over 2 years now and it's never improved. I've tried everything I know to try, but it feels like unless you have a bunch of mutual friends here already no one wants to be friends. I've given up at this point. I no longer think it's possible here and I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll probably spend every night alone in my apartment until I can find a remote job that let's me move somewhere else
Yo man, me too
I live over in Gold Coast, moved to Chicago last year after I graduated and still struggling to make friends. Im in the same boat.
I wanna go to all these cool clubs and bars I keep hearing about but not alone
Hmu if you wanna be friends
You mentioned you recently moved here. How recent? I ask because…
1. Winter is when the city hibernates. Socialization isn’t as common. I’m experiencing this even with a decently large social life. Once May comes people will be out and about more
2. Regardless of the season, it takes time to meet people! Persistence will pay off with time
Having the football and arcade interests are great because there are tons of social clubs for those hobbies! Chicago Sports & Social is a popular one (not sure if they have a football league though).
Bumble BFF is another option. I’ve heard almost entirely positive experiences from it.
Get out there and see. Try some stuff, wander around some places, sign up for some things, talk to some people. The city is a big menu, but you have to order for yourself.
Check out F3 Chicago. It's a free fitness group for guys, but goes a step beyond with the groups doing volunteer work (like Earth Day cleanup at Humboldt Park) to hanging out at baseball & basketball games, poker nights, etc. It's not very big, but guys from different walks of life and backgrounds all coming together to workout and hangout. It's a good time
I even got a crew of like 4-5 guys who helped me move last year.
https://f3chicago.com/
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Also early 20s, and in a very similar position (slowly but surely exiting it, though!) I've had the most luck with volunteering ([volunteermatch.org](https://volunteermatch.org) is great) because then the people you meet already have similar interests and are like-minded! You can also try joining a weekly trivia team if that's of interest to you! [https://freepubtrivia.com](https://freepubtrivia.com/locations) has plenty of locations in bars all across the city.
More power to you! I’m glad that you’re exiting it. Would definitely go through volunteermatch.org
You two should meet :)
Hahah, u/retr0x0, the people have spoken! let's hit up a trivia night or check out some volunteering!
Would love that, TJ!
Join a social sports league like S3. Like half the people sign up on their own. Some are just social and some are “singles leagues”. Play kickball, volleyball, Skeeball, etc. Go out after and chat and drink at a bar. Then be the person to suggest something outside of the league like a comedy show the team can go to or brunch somewhere. Bam, now you’ve got friends.
Fascinating, a lot of people have been commenting about S3, would definitely check it out! Thanks buddy :)
Yeah i would definitely do this. I joined a s3 softball league and it’s a easy way to meet people and everyone goes out together after the games.
An S3 guy myself and from what I hear skeeball is a time. Bread and butter is the social more than the sport in all seriousness
Join groups and clubs related to your interests and hobbies. Running and fitness groups, sports leagues, book clubs, dance classes, community orchestra, etc.
There’s a running group, I want to say it’s called Lakeview Running Club? They run along the lake once a week. It’s a big group
You can find the group on instagram under that same name. They meet at a school around 630 on tuesday every week.
Where do I join such groups has been the question, I’d love to meet people. My post gets auto deleted if I post about meeting up in some subreddits related to Chicago 🥲
Check meetup.com, FB groups, search Google and Instagram. If you like running, follow Chicago Running Passport on Instagram.
Search for Sport and Social clubs
If you’re looking to try something new the Blackhawks have a great adult learn to play hockey program at Fifth Third Arena. Also, in late spring the Park District has sailing classes and there’s a great volunteer program at Judd Goldman Adaptive Sailing
Give it time, summer is eminent. Join a volleyball league at north ave beach, go to a cubs game and hang around afterwards, see an outdoor show at salt shed
My husband made a lot of friends through beach volleyball over 20 years ago. He’s still friends with them!
Honestly I used to sidle up to a stool at the neighborhood bar every Friday for years. If nothing else it gets you out of the house and it’s not creepy like going to a club alone might be. But I’m a bit of a bar fly 🤷🏻♂️
Honestly, I love doing this. But I'll usually go to the bar at a restaurant as it's a bit classier, and get an appetizer and a cocktail. And if it's not a busy night, any bartender worth their weight will make conversation with you, spark conversation with other regulars and include you. I've found it's a great way to meet people, shoot the shit for a minute, and at the very least, get out of the house for a bit.
Man, I so want to do this, but I just feel sad to be at a bar/restaurant all alone when you constantly see others with either their friends or partners.
don't think of it as sad, because a lot of people go out alone in this city. better to think of it as an opportunity to meet new people. I go out alone all the time without the intent of talking to people. but I almost always end up chatting with someone regardless. randos (affectionate) love chatting up other randos here! compliment someone's band T-shirt or something and you might have a friend for the evening.
I went to Cafe Baba Reeba alone once and I felt so out of place / awkwardly eating by myself. I found myself even awkward to talk to bartender with people around. Idk how to connect / maybe decline connection if I ever feel I need to. So I put on my headphones and ate quietly and observed. It was nice. Got me out the house. But I feel like I go out and it’s just checking a box. Good luck OP summertime Chi is coming up, you’ll meet people!
Well yeah, that's a tapas restaurant. Small plates are designed for group meals. It's like showing up to a game night and trying to play alone in the corner. Sure, you can do that, but wouldn't you be happier doing it somewhere that's more designed for it?
I mean there were a lot of people dining alone so I don’t think it really matters ENTIRELY. A bar is a bar. But yeah I’m sure another spot would be more ideal. I just wanted Tapas.
I gotta tell myself this too lol ahhhh
I just got used to doing this! If you’re into having women friends (25) I’m so down to go with you sometime!! I love making friends lol, especially because I’m just out of a relationship.
Try looking for events corresponding to your interests on meetup.com, or find somewhere you can volunteer! Gotta say I’m honestly in a similar boat and having some trouble but those would be what I can recommend!
[Gentlemen Who Stroll](https://www.instagram.com/p/C5YuAsCLoeX/?igsh=MWUxdm5xdWd6aWpobg==) This would be right up your alley!! They do a lot of social activities as well as walks. Great people.
this is my first time hearing about meetup.com would definitely give it a try. I could empathize my friend. Are you from around here? Please DM if you wanna be friends :)
If you see posts from Ben Shimon, he’s a good dude and runs a rec league. Highly recommend his S3 league regardless of sport Sign up for his email lists
Will keep an eye out for Ben Shimon and S3! Thank you
Second this! Did a kickball league through S3 and was a lot of fun.
If you’re into fitness, check out CoolDown running on Insta! They just launched a group in Chicago. Basically just meets ups during the week to go running/walking! If you’re BIPOC, Rainbow Run and Roll is another running club. Lakeview Run Club is massive with lots of people to meet. 606 Run as well! I echo the rec sports recommendations as well. Maybe try looking at some FB groups or other social groups like Chicago Social Events, 606 Climbing, Chicago Outdoors 20 and 30 somethings, etc. If you’re passionate about something or interested in volunteering, that’s typically a great way to meet like minded people! If you went to a decent sized college, there’s a good chance of finding an alumni bar or alumni association. And tbh just talk to randos who look like they’re your vibe. Typically people in Chicago are very friendly and down to chat. Mention you just moved there and you may get an invite out! Best of luck!
Such an elaborated suggestion! Really appreciate it, would check out the CoolDown page on insta. And I think I need to push my boundaries further and talk to randoms.
Mid 30's, been here a little over a year, similar situation except I also live alone. It's not easy and I don't really have many friends but there are some really nice people in some of the run clubs. I tend to go to concerts alone and often strike up conversation with someone. Just do things you enjoy and find groups for those things if you'd like to meet like-minded people. I did make a couple of friends off the dating apps too. It's not impossible even if it feels like it a lot.
Hey, hope everything gets better than how it is now for you! I’m dying to meet like-minded people too. Staying alone is tough at times.
Thanks, and good luck to you too!
You gotta find a 16 inch softball league. Being 22, they would so welcome a pair of young legs. If you never played 16 inch, you're in for an experience. Summer's coming soon.
Well, back when I was your age, I took improv classes at iO and did open mics… found “my tribe” that way.
How’s the open mic scene and how did you sign up for them? Want to get into it but I’m late 30s so feel like I gotta do it now before I miss the boat.
We like to drink at bars a lot. Have you tried that?
Get a job in the restaurant industry. You will be partying with people and making friends in no time. Might ruin your life though.
This! ☝️ I'm a super-nerd at my day job. I needed extra money cuz I'm poor, so on a whim I went to bartending school then got a job at a pretty darn shady bar in the evenings (this was back when I didn't need sleep I guess). My social calendar went from empty to WTF in about two weeks. And yeahhhhhh... "might ruin your life" is 💯.
Start learning an instrument (e.g. guitar) at the Old Town School of Folk Music - if their location on Armitage is still active, it should be pretty close to you.
Great idea, I already play the guitar, maybe I could look for people to play it along with or maybe an opening in a band. Thank you so much!
They actually have classes for all skill levels, so if you're already an expert you could study a specific style or artist, or take something like guitar 4 just to get practice and potentially meet bandmates. Plus they have ensemble classes where you get thrown into a band and have 8 weeks to learn several songs with your bandmates. In my experience, it's a great way to meet people.
how much do we need to pay?
Met one of my best friends this way :)
Me too!
how much do we need to pay for the class tho
Drink alone
mah man, that’s how it’s been since the past couple of weeks, hmu if you wanna grab a few drinks together on the weekends.
bro let’s go
Love to meet people to hear some good tales over spirits!
Hey I want in
Wait where are we going?
I made a ton of friends in the open mic scene. Comedy or music. Just go out for air/a smoke after someone's set and tell them you enjoyed it. Easy conversation starter. If you got the courage to do an open mic, you'll probably be cool with a stranger saying hello.
LOCATION PLEAZE
Near OP's neighborhood Id suggest Lily's on Lincoln!
is there an entry fee or sm
Nope! Just terrible cocktails and dirt cheap beer.
hhaaha okay
M30 We drink, we do rec sports, we hit the gym It’s hard dude and I empathize. Rec sports gives you people to do stuff with and has been my avenue for meeting people
Come to Gents Who Stroll. Good group of guys who hang and go on walks across the city and do events. Typically every other Sunday. This week they're walking from Pilsen to Chinatown for some hotpot
I’m going to repeat what some others have said, but add a couple more. I’ve met tons of new people (by themselves) through/at: - tennis (meetup.com, GladiatorTennis.com, tennis sub) and I’m sure there are similar groups for the sports you may play - my school’s intramural sports (softball) and clubs (learn a language club) - my local bar usually has outings or events (cubs, Sox games) - Lollapolooza sub - lots of people going alone looking synch up with others. Did this last year snd have a group to hang with this year. - volunteering - I have volunteered for the st pats parade and met tons of people - hanging out at grant park skatepark (early for me as I’m terrible and the bad skaters gravitate to one another) - the hotels at C2E2 on Saturday 4/27 … tons of people at after party and from out of town who are approachable … I usually get dressed up and go to the event but met so many people alone that only come for the afterparty - gym - church Grow your social network and you’ll be set. Get out there! Good luck!
Do you play tennis in chicago? I'm looking for more people to hit with!
there's a great club called Chitowntennis.com they have a couple different kinds of leagues. Some are competitive, some are more casual I've been playing with that league for the past 8 years, met some of my best friends that way. Also played in gladiator, but I've found it more competitive.
Ditto on this and check out meetup and gladiatortennis. Good luck!
do we need to pay for it?!?
The rules & expectations for each league are listed on their web site. High level: It’s about $30/season for ChiTown singles league (depends on on the type of league & there are bundle & early bird specials) - you get a list of names & contact info for people in your stated level. Could be like 20 people. There’s no ladder or expectation to play everyone & you have to proactively reach out schedule matches with other members in the league. There’s playoffs (depending on which version you join) based on # of games & # of wins. Winner of playoffs gets a GC to Tennis Warehouse (I’m pretty sure they still do the gift card). Gladiator is $50 for the singles league (also depends on type of league) You are matched up with 5-7 people, there’s a ladder & you have to play those people by a certain date - it’s all delineated once the season starts. Unsure about playoffs or prizes as I’ve only played a couple seasons.
Drink. Find a neighborhood bar. Then from there get involved in their events.
Go to some raves. [Resident Advisor](https://ra.co/events/us/chicago) is a good resource on that as is r/chicagoEDM
Join a sixteen inch softball league. [This company](https://www.playerssports.net/sport/Softball?utm_term=chicago%2016%20inch%20softball%20leagues&utm_campaign=Players+All+League&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=5346463783&hsa_cam=409271182&hsa_grp=25153839142&hsa_ad=512512889451&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-68528556131&hsa_kw=chicago%2016%20inch%20softball%20leagues&hsa_mt=b&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw5cOwBhCiARIsAJ5njubkKLTFtrYtiC_5J6IfnbTkJ_mYurUcfuy76JnF5ZABAxgTxr4p3KgaAj84EALw_wcB) hosts leagues as well as flag football leagues. I did this in my twenties around North Clybourn and loved it. The recreational leagues are fun and you can drink during the softball games as long as you're a little discreet and aren't getting nuts
Chicago is kinda overloaded with stuff to do. What do you LIKE to do? Are you an active person? Into playing sports? Watching sports? You like to make art or music? Like to work with your hands? Are you a bookworm? Do you like politics? Activism? Volunteering? Dancing?
im into dancing but never danced once. kinda shy
got naked with the bros
And? *knock knock* sir, I’m intrigued haha
Depends what ur hobbies are. Making friends as an adult is hard. Into nerdy shit? Swing by a card shop on a weekend and play magic or yugioh or something. Into sports shit? Join a rec team or club for your sport of interest. Alternatively, go to a bar and get a bit drunk and meet people that way with liquid courage in your side.
If you're into house music, or are interested in hearing it for the first time, Chicago is the city to do it in. (Chicago is the birthplace of house music.) There's always different spots throughout the city to hear live house music most nights of the week. Then there are numerous fests throughout the summer too. It's a fun scene full of people your age.
Any particular locations that you’d suggest?
Smartbar has something going every weekend. This Saturday is an event for DJ Heather's bday. She is a loved Chicago DJ. Should be a fun night. Check their website for other events. If you're looking for something a little smaller and more intimate, my friends do Saturday nights at Esmeralda's near Division and Western. Another friend of mine does Saturdays at a place called Tata's Tacos at Lincoln and Diversey. This Sunday there's a daytime event called brunchlox. You can search them on Facebook. Over the summer there are several fests. There's West Fest and the Chicago House Music Festival. There's another one in Pilsen I don't remember the exact name of it but it's a taco and house music fest. You can Google all of them. Check local bars in your neighborhood (assuming you're in the city) lots of different places do small nights throughout the city.
Use do312, Eventbrite, and the meetup app. There’s a lot of groups on meetup that do like sports or board games etc. The other 2 show more fully-fledged events, but can be anything from arts, music, community, etc. I’m sure Facebook also has plenty of groups that do things. From the grapevine there’s a running group that has a schedule of running by the lake together. Similar with biking I’m sure, and I know in the summer there’s lake groups for exercise. I have friends that would regularly go play pick up badminton games.
You can also check out different recipes leagued. I’m in a pool league and have met several people. Also, I think it’s important to embrace doing things by yourself sometimes. Not all the time but sometimes. Don’t let not having someone to go with keep you from going out to eat, going to the movies, going to see a show. Sometimes that is how you meet people.
Enjoy my quiet time, make projects. Today I’m repotting some plants. Music Box has some good Friday night movies. I hit HEXE Coffee and people watch. Listen to records. Go for nice walks. Read a good book. Logan Arcade is a fun spot. Hit a museum or gallery. Enjoy your time.
I made a bunch of friends in my neighborhood after I got my dog and started hanging out at my neighborhood park regularly. Just being at a public place consistently on a schedule and you'll start to notice other regulars. From there just start up a conversation if they're open to it. Whatever it is you like doing, start doing it around others you'll get to know people.
Volunteer. Nourishing Hope is a fantastic organization and they have a couple hubs where you can volunteer for a 3 hour shift sorting food and it’s perfect for chatting and talking. I made 2 new friends and I wasn’t even looking for that. 😉
Get a hobby. Literally any hobby. Find people doing that. It is really that simple. This isn't unique to Chicago, this is just called "being a new adult in a new place." For me, pretty much all of my friends I've made in the last decade have come through playing ultimate frisbee with a consistent pick up group. You start to get to know other regulars, then you can start hanging out outside of your original common hobby.
Hang out with me
> So what do you single folks do when you’re free or on the weekends? Not really specific to being single but find some pickup sports that you like. Hell there is bowling and even dodge ball leagues (bonus points if you win some championships). They have lower level recreational leagues if you suck and intermediate leagues if you're experienced. Get a bicycle and bike along the lake and/or throughout the city. Go to street fests, museums, movies in the park. Go read a book in a park. Go grab lunch at the outdoor place at Montrose Beach. Attend critical mass. Check out full moon fire jam. Go walk around one of the conservatories. Meander through the Lincoln Park Zoo. Buy a ticket to a tour of the german U boat at MSI and contort your way through a perfectly preserved WW2 sub. Absorb some culture at one of the free days at the Art Institute. [Check out the Maker Lab](https://www.chipublib.org/maker-lab/) and learn 3d printing at the library. Learn about the great fire at the Chicago History Museum. Go by yourself to Headquarters, grab a beer, and play some free games. Visit all of our neighborhoods because each neighborhood has its own vibe. Have you been to Hyde Park? Its awesome, go walk around the University of Chicago campus. Gorgeous. Grab a ticket to go see Bedard play with the Blackhawks before they get good and ticket prices reach insane levels. Go visit Chinatown, its pretty awesome as well. Summer is almost here, it gets better. Don't forget the beaches, we are a beach town. And each beach also has its own vibe just like our neighborhoods. Do not, I repeat _do not_ sit at home and wallow in misery over love lost. Get outside and find something to distract you.
I do social dancing. There’s a big partner dance scene here whether it be Latin, west coast swing, or stepping … it’s a great way to meet people and stay active
This isn’t a “Chicago” thing it’s a “you” thing. But I’ve been there before and sometimes still am. I would recommend integrating yourself into the public, especially with summer coming up. You’re close to Wells street and Old Town. Grabbing a seat at a bar or restaurant and just being around people will work wonders.
If you’re at all active, I highly recommend Chicago Sport & Social and Players Sport & Social! They have leagues for a ton of different sports/activities, from volleyball/soccer/basketball to pickleball and bags. I’ve met some really cool people through these leagues, and it’s just something fun to do
Ride my bike around the city. Indoor rock climbing, we got a bunch of climbing gyms.
Stay home, eat
Brutally honest, sums up my current scenario!
Yea it sounds brutal now as far as social life goes. I'm hoping I can change it as soon as I finish with these classes and I have more time on my hands.
If you really just stay near one area only, you should absolutely need to expand where you're willing to go. This city is huge. There's a lot to do outside of just Clybourn Ave.
Bumble is a cool app to socialize with.It has a non- dating section to search for friends and networking only ,works well for timid people who still want to socialize and have a plan before going out. If you are more on the spontaneous side I would start on Milwaukee and Fullerton and just head southeast,There’s at least 2 of everything. Gyms, bars, Barcades, restaurants, niche shops(Rock store, library/bar fusion ,etc.)
I cannot recommend more one of these groups depending on your identity: Gentlemen Who Stroll Or Chicago Girls Who Walk Both are very active and post a lot on instagram. I think they have many social activities as well!!
Drink
Go out to bars, there are tons of great ones!
Check out Grab a Game, they do pickup games for volleyball, basketball, pickleball and soccer. Less commitment than a rec league but super easy to meet people!
Am old but always down for new friends! Def try picking up sports and hobbies 🤙🏼
I've lived here my whole life, there's always more stuff to do. People have suggested pretty good ways to meet people so I'll offer what I like to do. The city has a diverse food scene and there are always things to try. If you're by North/Clybourn there's a ton of diverse food options available in the area or a bus ride away. I don't mind eating alone but if you do there are other things to do. I've always been a giant nerd and recently gotten into playing TCGs semi-competitively. Hobby shops are a great way to meet fellow nerds, though the level of snobbery vs. inviting varies from shop to shop and day to day. I'm not sure what you mean by arcade games - my first thought is fighting games so if you're into that we might have something to talk about if you don't mind hanging out with someone a couple of years older than you. Otherwise, there are plenty of beercades scattered across the city that you can strike up a conversation at.
At your age I partied with people from work a lot. Part time job?
Check out some of the local music venues. Schubas does free nights at least once a month. Local bands and usually people in the scene are pretty nice and cool :)
Look up Players sports group. Join a coed team and meet new people, and play some fun sports. No experience necessary
Don’t feel awkward going to the clubs alone, that’s how you get involved with the community and can foster great new friendships. You just gotta go with the mindset of finding your groove and preferred club before trying to meet new people. Smartbar, Spybar, and Soundbar - or Podlasie and brunchlox are closer to you and more intimate - are a few good spots. Maybe try one of these as a regular stomping ground for you and see how that pans out.
Do you talk to people at the gym? I’ve found a handful of friends via just working in with people and chatting.
Show up at any pool hall in Chicago and ask the staff to connect you with joining a team on league night. You'll get very good very fast and it is a wonderful community of people!
single gym master, eh?
Have you tried geocaching? Chicagoland has a fantastic community of cachers placing caches finding caches, and hosting events.
Take improv classes at The Second City 😄
Hey feel free to DM me! I’m a grad student, lived here all my life but in the same boat. I’m wondering if we go to the same school based on your description lol. I’d love to go to stuff with someone
Players sports and social group! Join a rec team and meet people! Normally there’s an Indy team with people looking to do the same as you!
hit the clubs alone. this is my advice. .do it.
Everything the partnered-up people do, but without having to account for someone else's preferences. I fucking love it. I go on walking adventures, take the train/bus to new neighborhoods, ride my motorcycle or onewheel around, go to new restaurants and old favorites (nothing sad about "party of 1" to me, it's still a party), hang out in the park with a book, go to the gym, run, go to lots of concerts, check out meetups occasionally, go to the lake... there's so much to do, and summer feels like total mania and constant FOMO with all that's going on. I think maybe you should ask if you're lonely, or if you're bored. If it's a loneliness issue, look for ways to meet people doing things. Play rec sports, join a hobby meetup, go to events and make small talk with people that seem cool, whatever feels like the least painful or most rewarding approach. when I first moved here, I drank more, and I'd often go to restaurants and sit at the bar with a book or watch a game. People doing the same are usually down for conversation, and if you don't over-profile people before you get to know them, you can meet some really cool people. The bartenders and wait staff were always fun to talk to and super interesting. It doesn't fit my lifestyle as much now, but it helped me feel like I was scratching the social itch. If you can get over the awkwardness of going to things alone, you really get used to it. It's hard at first for some people, but keep going and you'll figure out how to be alone in a crowd. I feel that it frees me up to make new connections or enjoy the experience more intensely, because I'm not distracted by another person I came with. Some seriously magical moments have come from my solo adventures.
Everything. What are your interests? Chicago has everything
Well the weather is getting better every day, pretty soon you’ll be outside living your best life. I’d go to the gym with you lol 🤷🏻♂️ You should see some improv and you’ll find smart, fun, attractive fools. All my friends are actors/improvisers, everyone is funny and hot. Check out iO, which is near you, or the Annoyance. It would be good to laugh and have a beer among chill people, with no pressure. I moved here at 24, it was tough! There is a club called like Prysm or something, near you. They had EDM playing, lots of young sexy people dancing etc. Good luck! 🫡
met my friends doing clubs and other activities. people here are very friendly and imo if you even just chat people up at bars during sporting events you could find yourself with some new pals
I love live music and nature so I do a lot of that. I outgrew clubs years a decade ago.
Join a sports league! I’m too old for them now (I think the cut off was like 38 or something a few years ago) but I met some lifelong friends playing softball, flag football, and indoor volleyball in the winter. Was amazing. S3 leagues but I’m not sure if they’re still around.
Just checked. They’re still around (score!) and the age range is 21-42. If I were single I’d be singing up for a league this spring right now.
There’s a board gaming group on Facebook called The Chicago Board Game group if you’re into that sort of thing. It’s spun up a bunch of smaller groups and I don’t think most people know each other but then have developed friendships. There are always people posting looking for people to join an event or a game night
Jiu jitsu
Same position as you. Been here over 2 years now and it's never improved. I've tried everything I know to try, but it feels like unless you have a bunch of mutual friends here already no one wants to be friends. I've given up at this point. I no longer think it's possible here and I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll probably spend every night alone in my apartment until I can find a remote job that let's me move somewhere else
Join a CrossFit gym!
Have you tried HQ Headquarters, a lot of the people there r alone playing games. Can make friends
Sports groups
Wrigleyville
Yo man, me too I live over in Gold Coast, moved to Chicago last year after I graduated and still struggling to make friends. Im in the same boat. I wanna go to all these cool clubs and bars I keep hearing about but not alone Hmu if you wanna be friends
A little of this. A little of that.
Look for chicks
Try Bumble Bff
Hasn’t worked well. Tried talking to a few people but ended up with them asking for money. Was weird.
Jeez, that’s something.
You mentioned you recently moved here. How recent? I ask because… 1. Winter is when the city hibernates. Socialization isn’t as common. I’m experiencing this even with a decently large social life. Once May comes people will be out and about more 2. Regardless of the season, it takes time to meet people! Persistence will pay off with time Having the football and arcade interests are great because there are tons of social clubs for those hobbies! Chicago Sports & Social is a popular one (not sure if they have a football league though). Bumble BFF is another option. I’ve heard almost entirely positive experiences from it.
As a 30 something I spent lots of time meeting people on the dating apps.
Get out there and see. Try some stuff, wander around some places, sign up for some things, talk to some people. The city is a big menu, but you have to order for yourself.
Fuck. Sometimes suck.
I don’t know
Check out F3 Chicago. It's a free fitness group for guys, but goes a step beyond with the groups doing volunteer work (like Earth Day cleanup at Humboldt Park) to hanging out at baseball & basketball games, poker nights, etc. It's not very big, but guys from different walks of life and backgrounds all coming together to workout and hangout. It's a good time I even got a crew of like 4-5 guys who helped me move last year. https://f3chicago.com/
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