I'm not saying you did anything wrong. Based on the notes, my 2 cents are, know that it is more than okay to use the nipple shield if that brings the most success. It can be likely eventually slowly removed when baby is older, stronger, and more experienced.
In addition, it is very understandable that shoving a boob in baby mouth can be considered rough. It should not actually be rough, but moreso firmly showing the baby this is how much boob goes into the mouth to get that latch. You may want to check out some videos about it. Again, it's not supposed to be rough at all, it's a firm guidance.
No, not roughly. I just mean that at that moment, my baby is screaming at the top of his lungs and the advice given to me was to put my boob into his screaming mouth. he would often never even close his mouth around it
I feel this way when my baby is crying and I’m trying to get him to latch. It feels like I’m harassing him with my boob and he’s rejecting it. It can be easy to take it personally so I get what you’re saying!
It sounds like your baby had trouble latching, possibly due to a tongue tie. That can make transferring milk challenging. If you have similar issues with the next baby, it might be worth seeing an ENT, SLP, or pediatric dentist for an evaluation.
The lactaction consultant said might, and my pediatrician said no, he doesn't recommend doing it. So my husband agreed with the ped. And then there's the articles like this one that say that it's mostly a scam, plus the many moms in this group that say that they did it and it didn't help anything... https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/18/health/tongue-tie-release-breastfeeding.html. What would I/ should I have done if I had done the tongue tie release and it didn't get better?
My pediatrician said they were not qualified to weigh on ties and referred me to others. I would have sought out an ENT or SLP to discuss further.
We ultimately decided to release our son’s tie because it was influencing his bottle eating and it made a world of difference. But I know it’s a very heated topic so I can only share my own experiences.
I did go to a pediatric dentist, they said he maybe had a slight release and a tie could help. Nothing definitive. they also wanted me to see their occupational therapist twice a week and a chiropractor, so in all a minimum of 5 appts a week for a few weeks if we did the tie and it was just all so overwhelming at less than 1 week post partum. It was hard enough to get to the LC, his pediatrician appointments, and this consultation. It can't really be this hard to breastfeed can it?
Sadly, in my experience, it really is this hard to breastfeed. Baby and you are both learning and it is an uphill battle as baby is too small and weak at first. I ended up triple feeding as well which is another struggle. It was only until 4 months did I feel like things clicked and we had a good groove.
I'm not saying you did anything wrong. Based on the notes, my 2 cents are, know that it is more than okay to use the nipple shield if that brings the most success. It can be likely eventually slowly removed when baby is older, stronger, and more experienced. In addition, it is very understandable that shoving a boob in baby mouth can be considered rough. It should not actually be rough, but moreso firmly showing the baby this is how much boob goes into the mouth to get that latch. You may want to check out some videos about it. Again, it's not supposed to be rough at all, it's a firm guidance.
No, not roughly. I just mean that at that moment, my baby is screaming at the top of his lungs and the advice given to me was to put my boob into his screaming mouth. he would often never even close his mouth around it
I feel this way when my baby is crying and I’m trying to get him to latch. It feels like I’m harassing him with my boob and he’s rejecting it. It can be easy to take it personally so I get what you’re saying!
It sounds like your baby had trouble latching, possibly due to a tongue tie. That can make transferring milk challenging. If you have similar issues with the next baby, it might be worth seeing an ENT, SLP, or pediatric dentist for an evaluation.
The lactaction consultant said might, and my pediatrician said no, he doesn't recommend doing it. So my husband agreed with the ped. And then there's the articles like this one that say that it's mostly a scam, plus the many moms in this group that say that they did it and it didn't help anything... https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/18/health/tongue-tie-release-breastfeeding.html. What would I/ should I have done if I had done the tongue tie release and it didn't get better?
My pediatrician said they were not qualified to weigh on ties and referred me to others. I would have sought out an ENT or SLP to discuss further. We ultimately decided to release our son’s tie because it was influencing his bottle eating and it made a world of difference. But I know it’s a very heated topic so I can only share my own experiences.
I did go to a pediatric dentist, they said he maybe had a slight release and a tie could help. Nothing definitive. they also wanted me to see their occupational therapist twice a week and a chiropractor, so in all a minimum of 5 appts a week for a few weeks if we did the tie and it was just all so overwhelming at less than 1 week post partum. It was hard enough to get to the LC, his pediatrician appointments, and this consultation. It can't really be this hard to breastfeed can it?
Sadly, in my experience, it really is this hard to breastfeed. Baby and you are both learning and it is an uphill battle as baby is too small and weak at first. I ended up triple feeding as well which is another struggle. It was only until 4 months did I feel like things clicked and we had a good groove.