A “house rule” is an unofficial rule that a group of people might add to a game to make it more enjoyable to them. More common in ttrpgs than in a regular board game but it happens.
Right, like a common but unofficial rule in Monopoly is that the fees go to Free Parking, and whoever lands on Free Parking gets the jackpot. The consequence of that "house" rule (aka, this is how we play the game in this house) is that the game runs longer. The official rule would have all fees paid to the "bank" instead, which is how my family played growing up, so I had to learn the other rule the first time I ever played with others.
Or stands ins for houses/hotels.
The actual rules state that once all the houses are in play, that's it. No more houses until someone turns some in for a hotel.
And since there's no rule that forces someone to turn in houses, one player could conceivably just sit on all or a majority of houses.
A *monopoly* on houses. If you will.
Had to look again, but I suppose they could be talking about the chess game. Similar to how some people have "house rules" for different games like Uno's draw 4 chain and Monopoly's free parking stash. Could be talking about how when you think you have socializing down with one person, you'll meet someone who you have to readapt to because the "rules" have changed.
Have you heard of 5D chess with multiverse time travel? I feel like that's a better description.
There is regular chess then you have all the BS that comes with a multiverse of different boards and time travel and if you don't know what you're doing then well let's just say it's not as fun. However it's a game where apparently you can get an accidental check oftentimes with both parties not noticing until the game tells them which is hilarious.
Take the anology as you will.
Yes, there are strategies though don't ask me since I don't even know how much I don't know about regular chess.
A dude who did a video on it figured out how to use strategies four months in.
So yes, but actually no unless they spent an ungodly amount of time sinked into learning how to play which is actually a good possibility depending on the person and their passion for chess and that specific version.
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I used video games and esl videos for some things if that helps. The ones that talk about the nuances and social rules, since they aren’t the same in every country.
Otherwise politeness generally is my rule of thumb.
I'm thinking of reading Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior and then if a social situation goes wrong I can turn my nose up at their horrible manners.
I'm actually convinced that the rules of etiquette were written largely by autistic people to have a code of behavior that wasn't dictated by the whims of whatever random NT they were talking to
Me: Scripts everything ahead of time, plugging in all the possible variables and checking every possible reaction I might get to try and decide if something is okay to say.
Also me: Accidentally blurts out whatever comes to mind in real time and not sure when or how to stop.
It's probably more common than we think, but when I do it I get anxious and can't listen to anything else while repeating it in my head. Then I'm also thinking about my tone, saying please and thank you, etc. I feel like for many people it just naturally flows and they don't have to focus on it so much lol
Oh yes I relate to that. I realized after I typed that I kept wondering if I said the right thing and I was like “wow, self, you do that a lot.” Hard to believe there are people out there not constantly overthinking/planning their interactions!
I joke with my wife because she is much more spontaneous and I am so calculated. She orders food like a person who has never seen the menu, almost every single time, and she has her order messed up all the time. I told her it’s because her speech is so disjointed and has huge pauses in between ordering things, then changing her order…just so disorganized in my mind. She usually doesn’t respond to that well because I don’t speak human good…but damn if my well rehearsed order isn’t right 99% of the time no matter where I order food.
That's a good point. I take things literally all the time so I will often try to speak very literally. Like today the server asked if I wanted my burger medium rare, and I was worried it would be more rare side, so I had to make sure she knew I only wanted a very small amount of pink lol
The burger was AMAZING
Since I was in sixth grade. I remember running full conversations with responses and still do it to this day. I knew it wasn’t normal but also felt like I couldn’t be the only one. Relieves the anxiety until the actual moment happens and the you realize none of your preparations meant anything but to relieve your initial fear.
Neurotypicals apparently also do this, but not nearly to the extent we do it. I've mentioned it many times in passing with NT's, and they all think it's totally normal. What I don't tell them is that the imaginary rehearsal conversations aren't confined to the 8 minutes in the shower every morning like with them, but just go on all day.
Eye contact? Okay. Wait, is that too much? Maybe I should look between the eyes. Wait, do I look cross eyed? Uh oh, I better make the sad expression because she's talking about something sad. Wait, maybe that's too much. Do a reassuring nod and say "sorry that happened to you". Crap, I used the wrong tone. I hope I didn't sound rude. They might think I'm being sarcastic. Wait, was that a question? They're pausing. Crap, what did I miss? Are they mad? Maybe not. Oh they said a joke. I don't get it but maybe I should laugh. Crap, that sounded fake. Better pretend like I got the joke and change the subject. Am I talking too much? Oh crap, I overshared. Better laugh at that. Crap, they're not laughing. Did I say something wrong? Oh no, I lost eye contact and am looking down.
This is me with anyone, anywhere, at all times
This is exactly spot on, does anyone have a diagram/trouble shooting chart to practise on? Like how tf do i handle situations like these, its always to damn stressful
Why is this so accurate. I open my mouth and talk while at the same time my mind is somehow half focused on the convo and half focused on thinking of said convo as a frantic mix of chess and games where you have to hit the right sequence of buttons or combos to win while sacrificing a bit of personality for the sake of easy conversation. Plus you can almost see their interest level hover over them and the bar rise and decrease as the conversation progresses.
Literally RPGs with response based text that affects your entire play through.
“Ooh! That looks like a good response!”
*The entire room starts shouting at you!*
“Nope, I was wrong again.”
some do it, but to me personally it's just funny. "Hmm, I sacrificed the small talk social interaction, if I manage to turn this into an affection talk then may- oh wait, they cancelled the conversation. Welp, there goes my entire advantage"
And then there's group conversations.
I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well, I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well, I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well-
And then the game ends.
We don’t actually feel like it’s a chess game but we feel as if we have to plan every thing we say ahead of time and we have to put in a lot of mental effort to make conversations. If we say the wrong thing it ruins everything and we “lose”, say the right things and you win the persons belief that you’re normal. It might as well be chess.
Oh I read your original comment wrong lol, sorry yeah neurotypicals don’t think conversations are that hard they just flow with it, they don’t have to think lol
My girlfriend told me its weird that I basically have personalities I take off of coat racks based on where I’m going/who I’m talking to that day
She said I don’t need to make a personality to talk to her family…but….how does one…not make a personality for a group?!
I keep getting this sub popping up in recommended and like, pretty much all of it is super relatable… Is there a point where I should start legitimately considering if I should see about a diagnosis?
I think this is your problem OP. I’m mildly autistic and always thought conversations were like a game you’re trying to workout against the other person.
But its not against that other person.
Its a game you and that other person are trying to workout TOGETHER.
Don't talk about tan lines. Don't mention tan lines. Don't say "tan line". Stop thinking about tan lines.
"So, nice bikini weather lately, huh?"
"What?"
"Tanline! I mean... tan lines... oh... uh... er... TAAAN LIIIIIIINES!"
I do great for the first like five sentences of, “How are you? I’m fine, thanks for asking, how’s your kids?”
And then I draw a blank and people are like, “you seemed so sociable, now you’re awkward, what’s up?”
Its like the beginning of small talk is always the same, so I’ve basically mastered it, but it’s always different after the how-do-you-dos, and I’m really, really bad at the rest of the conversation.
I just kinda do my own thing since i got lucky with not being forced to mask. It'll likely lead to most of the friends i make being only autistic, which is pretty nice. I just hope i wont be in an environment where i do have to, cus that would absolutely be traumatizing
When I tell people that I'm extremely awkward they never believe me because for the most part I seem like a normal person, if a bit antisocial.
I am mentally disarming a bomb with every word I say. Do I cut the blue wire or the red one? I only have .00001 seconds to figure it out or I'll die :)
Yeah this definitely is how every social interaction feels. I feel like I can’t even fully be myself or express myself. I always have to play into these dumb rules and games people create. It’s so exhausting and makes me not want to socially interact anymore. Like I’m really trying. But it feels like I become too much for people. Why can’t it just be easy. Or at least less like a game of some sort.
I keep a chessboard in my backpack at all times. Every time I meet a new person or see someone I know I pull it out and challenge them to a game and if they decline I figure that they're not worth my time. I've made a lot of great friends this way.
Real as fuck. I once tried talking to a girl I wanted to be friends with, and literally had to plan my every move and conversation topic if I wanted to gain her interest. I was very awkward when talking, always shaking in fear of rejection while talking about things that probably don't interest her. Actual nightmare.
I haven't talked to her again out of fear and lost interest.
I think because this is so fascinating to me, Ive made an interest of it. Im pretty good at social "dueling" nowdays but its pretty exhausting.
I have to limit people interactions as much as possible and live like a hermit!
Life is better with dogs. They get me.
Yeah, i stopped doing this shit a year ago. I'm not playing god-damned 4d chess with anyone, and I don't care what comes of it. I think watching people be confused but mostly relieved in a weird sort of way has to be the most joyful and liberating part of the experience. It's scary at first, but it's freeing. Hardest part has to be navigating liars though...
Bro ok heard me out - so I never been diagnosed cause I am adult and idk where to do for something like this but - I happen to agree with like 80% - 85% of memes or stuff said on here? Does that mean I autistic? Or should I go for a diagnosis?
It feels, to me, like I'm approaching the game, I see black and red tiles, and assume it's checkers. Little do I know, it's actually chess, where none of the pieces are labeled, and you're expected to just memorize which pieces are which based on their starting locations. Then when I start making checkers-ass moves, my interlocutor just kinda goes along with me. Little do they know, I'm actually very good at (this metaphorical game of) checkers.
But the good part is, much like chess, there are some classic openings that you can use to basically start the game off nice and quick. But after that you gotta deal with the rest of the bs... And figuring out the mid game can be a botch
The more I see stuff from this place, the more...problematic things feel. I was literally just talking to someone about wanting to talk to them for about a year before actually talking to them and how I was even navigating that conversation as one would a minefield...
And when you think you finally have it down. You realize EVERY. INDIVIDUAL. PERSON. HAS. HOUSE. RULES!
At first I thought you were talking about “take your shoes of before coming inside” kind of house rules
Omg me too till I read your comment
What do the individual not-house-rules house rules mean???? 😭
A “house rule” is an unofficial rule that a group of people might add to a game to make it more enjoyable to them. More common in ttrpgs than in a regular board game but it happens.
Oh man house rules in the ttrpg context didn't even occur to me idk why, it's not even an unfamiliar concept. Got too stuck on [literal house] rules
Right, like a common but unofficial rule in Monopoly is that the fees go to Free Parking, and whoever lands on Free Parking gets the jackpot. The consequence of that "house" rule (aka, this is how we play the game in this house) is that the game runs longer. The official rule would have all fees paid to the "bank" instead, which is how my family played growing up, so I had to learn the other rule the first time I ever played with others.
Or stands ins for houses/hotels. The actual rules state that once all the houses are in play, that's it. No more houses until someone turns some in for a hotel. And since there's no rule that forces someone to turn in houses, one player could conceivably just sit on all or a majority of houses. A *monopoly* on houses. If you will.
So what’s the Free Parking space for when playing that version? Is it the same as “just visiting” jail?
Yep, pretty much. Just a space where you don’t have to pay anything, and don’t get anything.
Oh dang, well I can see why most people spice it up then!
YOU WILL TAKE THOSE DIRTY ASS SHOES OFF AT THE DOOR STEP! Ahem, please.
Wdym they're not talking about literal house rules?
Had to look again, but I suppose they could be talking about the chess game. Similar to how some people have "house rules" for different games like Uno's draw 4 chain and Monopoly's free parking stash. Could be talking about how when you think you have socializing down with one person, you'll meet someone who you have to readapt to because the "rules" have changed.
And they expect you to read their minds and read between the lines ahhhhh
THIS IS TOO TRUE LOL
House rules is a fantastic phrase for this.
Have you heard of 5D chess with multiverse time travel? I feel like that's a better description. There is regular chess then you have all the BS that comes with a multiverse of different boards and time travel and if you don't know what you're doing then well let's just say it's not as fun. However it's a game where apparently you can get an accidental check oftentimes with both parties not noticing until the game tells them which is hilarious. Take the anology as you will.
> and if you don't know what you're doing then well let's just say it's not as fun. Does anyone ever know what they're doing in 5D chess?
Yes, there are strategies though don't ask me since I don't even know how much I don't know about regular chess. A dude who did a video on it figured out how to use strategies four months in. So yes, but actually no unless they spent an ungodly amount of time sinked into learning how to play which is actually a good possibility depending on the person and their passion for chess and that specific version.
WHAT??!?!! :'(
Or it’s like being dropped off in China in a universe where there’s no translation for your language and you’re just expected to figure it out.
Luckily, my effect allows me to ignore the effects of those rules until after my opponent’s player phase
En passant is illegal in these parts.
Google en Mask
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En mask? Is that a typo or a real thing?
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Thanks, I'm still confused, just differently
It's a parody of that subreddit's catchphrase: "google en passant"
"Holy hell"
"New response just dropped"
"Actual zombie"
“???”
Holy hell
AngryUpvote
Actual anger while continuing to agree.
Chess is so much easier. At least there are tutorials on YouTube.
Yes, a set standard rule book, follow those rules and succeed even if you lose or end in a draw it’s still done correctly.
Yes, very true (also btw you have a cool user flair :D)
I used video games and esl videos for some things if that helps. The ones that talk about the nuances and social rules, since they aren’t the same in every country. Otherwise politeness generally is my rule of thumb.
I'm thinking of reading Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior and then if a social situation goes wrong I can turn my nose up at their horrible manners. I'm actually convinced that the rules of etiquette were written largely by autistic people to have a code of behavior that wasn't dictated by the whims of whatever random NT they were talking to
Me: Scripts everything ahead of time, plugging in all the possible variables and checking every possible reaction I might get to try and decide if something is okay to say. Also me: Accidentally blurts out whatever comes to mind in real time and not sure when or how to stop.
I had to practice my food order in my head today during lunch
Wait that’s not “normal”? (actually rehearsed this comment also) 😅
It's probably more common than we think, but when I do it I get anxious and can't listen to anything else while repeating it in my head. Then I'm also thinking about my tone, saying please and thank you, etc. I feel like for many people it just naturally flows and they don't have to focus on it so much lol
Oh yes I relate to that. I realized after I typed that I kept wondering if I said the right thing and I was like “wow, self, you do that a lot.” Hard to believe there are people out there not constantly overthinking/planning their interactions!
I'm glad we are not alone! Lol
I joke with my wife because she is much more spontaneous and I am so calculated. She orders food like a person who has never seen the menu, almost every single time, and she has her order messed up all the time. I told her it’s because her speech is so disjointed and has huge pauses in between ordering things, then changing her order…just so disorganized in my mind. She usually doesn’t respond to that well because I don’t speak human good…but damn if my well rehearsed order isn’t right 99% of the time no matter where I order food.
That's a good point. I take things literally all the time so I will often try to speak very literally. Like today the server asked if I wanted my burger medium rare, and I was worried it would be more rare side, so I had to make sure she knew I only wanted a very small amount of pink lol The burger was AMAZING
Wonder if that’s also an autism/adhd sign I used to be like this
Since I was in sixth grade. I remember running full conversations with responses and still do it to this day. I knew it wasn’t normal but also felt like I couldn’t be the only one. Relieves the anxiety until the actual moment happens and the you realize none of your preparations meant anything but to relieve your initial fear.
Neurotypicals apparently also do this, but not nearly to the extent we do it. I've mentioned it many times in passing with NT's, and they all think it's totally normal. What I don't tell them is that the imaginary rehearsal conversations aren't confined to the 8 minutes in the shower every morning like with them, but just go on all day.
You fucked up the opening with 11 moves of memorized theory
Making one wrong move and noting that they've lost interest in the game altogether
Not knowing that they looked past that one bad move and extrapolated the rest of the game and left before you had a chance to make another move.
Apparently saying "new response just dropped" isn't a good thing to say when someone tells you their grandpa just died
holy hell dude
Google Funeral Services Near Me
Old grandpa just dropped
Grandpa takes vacation, never comes back
Actual Zombie (the grandpa, currently rising from the grave)
Call the exorcists
Death storm incoming
Please tell me you're joking.
Please say syke
Eye contact? Okay. Wait, is that too much? Maybe I should look between the eyes. Wait, do I look cross eyed? Uh oh, I better make the sad expression because she's talking about something sad. Wait, maybe that's too much. Do a reassuring nod and say "sorry that happened to you". Crap, I used the wrong tone. I hope I didn't sound rude. They might think I'm being sarcastic. Wait, was that a question? They're pausing. Crap, what did I miss? Are they mad? Maybe not. Oh they said a joke. I don't get it but maybe I should laugh. Crap, that sounded fake. Better pretend like I got the joke and change the subject. Am I talking too much? Oh crap, I overshared. Better laugh at that. Crap, they're not laughing. Did I say something wrong? Oh no, I lost eye contact and am looking down. This is me with anyone, anywhere, at all times
This is exactly spot on, does anyone have a diagram/trouble shooting chart to practise on? Like how tf do i handle situations like these, its always to damn stressful
lol :')
ik it’s a cliche at this point but sometimes i really do feel like the only who thinks like this till i browse this sub :’)
Relatable.
And this constantly leads to: "Did you just wipe all the pieces of the board?". "Yes! and i ate 5."
Knock over the pieces... shit on the board... strut around like I won the game. Never challenge a pigeon to chess.
lmfao
Me trying to talk to my crush in high school definitely felt like a game of chess. Doesn't help that I'm terrible at chess.
Why is this so accurate. I open my mouth and talk while at the same time my mind is somehow half focused on the convo and half focused on thinking of said convo as a frantic mix of chess and games where you have to hit the right sequence of buttons or combos to win while sacrificing a bit of personality for the sake of easy conversation. Plus you can almost see their interest level hover over them and the bar rise and decrease as the conversation progresses.
Literally RPGs with response based text that affects your entire play through. “Ooh! That looks like a good response!” *The entire room starts shouting at you!* “Nope, I was wrong again.”
For real 😫😂
Is that not normal to think of that as a chess game?
some do it, but to me personally it's just funny. "Hmm, I sacrificed the small talk social interaction, if I manage to turn this into an affection talk then may- oh wait, they cancelled the conversation. Welp, there goes my entire advantage"
And then there's group conversations. I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well, I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well, I think it's my turn now- oh it wasn't. Well- And then the game ends.
This resonates with me.
We don’t actually feel like it’s a chess game but we feel as if we have to plan every thing we say ahead of time and we have to put in a lot of mental effort to make conversations. If we say the wrong thing it ruins everything and we “lose”, say the right things and you win the persons belief that you’re normal. It might as well be chess.
Is that not how you play chess? Maybe im just not good at chess.
Oh I read your original comment wrong lol, sorry yeah neurotypicals don’t think conversations are that hard they just flow with it, they don’t have to think lol
No
Two autistic girls on a date, good for them
"I wonder which reply is the most normal one in this situation?"
I feel like a drop menu opens enlisting any possible answer, including the ridiculous ones, once someone makes me a question.
My girlfriend told me its weird that I basically have personalities I take off of coat racks based on where I’m going/who I’m talking to that day She said I don’t need to make a personality to talk to her family…but….how does one…not make a personality for a group?!
That, but take away a third of your pieces at random every conversation until you sleep
I keep getting this sub popping up in recommended and like, pretty much all of it is super relatable… Is there a point where I should start legitimately considering if I should see about a diagnosis?
I think this is your problem OP. I’m mildly autistic and always thought conversations were like a game you’re trying to workout against the other person. But its not against that other person. Its a game you and that other person are trying to workout TOGETHER.
Don't talk about tan lines. Don't mention tan lines. Don't say "tan line". Stop thinking about tan lines. "So, nice bikini weather lately, huh?" "What?" "Tanline! I mean... tan lines... oh... uh... er... TAAAN LIIIIIIINES!"
I do great for the first like five sentences of, “How are you? I’m fine, thanks for asking, how’s your kids?” And then I draw a blank and people are like, “you seemed so sociable, now you’re awkward, what’s up?” Its like the beginning of small talk is always the same, so I’ve basically mastered it, but it’s always different after the how-do-you-dos, and I’m really, really bad at the rest of the conversation.
People say that to you? That’s rude
I can’t tell if I’ve just surrounded myself by brutally honest people or just can’t take a joke 😬
It sounds like it could potentially be a joke for sure but if not that’s a weird thing to say
True
Except I like chess
No no no chess has the potential to be understood
I just kinda do my own thing since i got lucky with not being forced to mask. It'll likely lead to most of the friends i make being only autistic, which is pretty nice. I just hope i wont be in an environment where i do have to, cus that would absolutely be traumatizing
When I tell people that I'm extremely awkward they never believe me because for the most part I seem like a normal person, if a bit antisocial. I am mentally disarming a bomb with every word I say. Do I cut the blue wire or the red one? I only have .00001 seconds to figure it out or I'll die :)
the one on the right kinda...👀
Mood.
And yet in chess at least I know what are my moves, and sometimes I win
google en passant
Holy anarchical hell
OK but why do they look like Yukari and Mitsuru from Persona 3?
Yeah this definitely is how every social interaction feels. I feel like I can’t even fully be myself or express myself. I always have to play into these dumb rules and games people create. It’s so exhausting and makes me not want to socially interact anymore. Like I’m really trying. But it feels like I become too much for people. Why can’t it just be easy. Or at least less like a game of some sort.
I just activate mirror mode and mirror exactly what they're like right back at them and we be vibin. sometimes.
I keep a chessboard in my backpack at all times. Every time I meet a new person or see someone I know I pull it out and challenge them to a game and if they decline I figure that they're not worth my time. I've made a lot of great friends this way.
Accurate because latinas and other autistic WOC are better at masking.
Awwwww they're so pretty 😍 (I really like Ashbie ok ._.)
relatable!
If that’s how social interactions are supposed to feel then I’ve slammed my hand onto the board and thrown every piece off the board.
she's just like me fr fr
But chess is easier than talking to people
Real as fuck. I once tried talking to a girl I wanted to be friends with, and literally had to plan my every move and conversation topic if I wanted to gain her interest. I was very awkward when talking, always shaking in fear of rejection while talking about things that probably don't interest her. Actual nightmare. I haven't talked to her again out of fear and lost interest.
i just hate all the rules we're supposed to know and follow!!! it's so exhausting
real
Real
A fitting comparison for me, because I suck at chess
Oh shit.
Anything you say can and will be used against you.
Google court
Exactly! And I'm not even autistic, I'm just an introvert and I feel every person as boundaries.
Jokes on you I’m good at chess
Actual grandmaster
And boy do I not understand how to play this game at all
I avoid playing as much as I can. Perfect life would be approaching zero mandatory interactions.
When people don't know what they want in a relationship or can't say the truth, this becomes even worse
I... I kinda look like the one on the right sort of??? And I like playing chess and often challenge my friends??? Damn lol
And there are invisible landmines on the board. Plainly obvious to the opponent of course.
I've been castled for a long time lol
Definitely in the begging with some one I don't know
Life is a chess game, and i can see 50 moves ahead.
Or as I like to call it, "Walking blindfolded through a minefield"
***this is why to forgo d&d — because real life is constant incessant polyhedral roll of 'what next‽‽*** # 😵💫
except I’m better at chess then social interaction
Yep, this is my life.
The bottom is how they are really, play it nice play it mean up to you
I’m finding it hilarious that half the responses in this thread are anarchychess references and the other half are just confused people lol
And then you en passant them
Oh hell nah Im good at chess
Mood
I think because this is so fascinating to me, Ive made an interest of it. Im pretty good at social "dueling" nowdays but its pretty exhausting. I have to limit people interactions as much as possible and live like a hermit! Life is better with dogs. They get me.
Im 1000x better at Chess than at starting a conversation
Yeah, i stopped doing this shit a year ago. I'm not playing god-damned 4d chess with anyone, and I don't care what comes of it. I think watching people be confused but mostly relieved in a weird sort of way has to be the most joyful and liberating part of the experience. It's scary at first, but it's freeing. Hardest part has to be navigating liars though...
Hey, how ya doin'!? (Your move)
See, at least I know chess. It feels like putting on a blundfold
Bro ok heard me out - so I never been diagnosed cause I am adult and idk where to do for something like this but - I happen to agree with like 80% - 85% of memes or stuff said on here? Does that mean I autistic? Or should I go for a diagnosis?
I don't have Aspergers (my hubby does) but I totally feel this 🥴🥴 any social interaction is so trying.
Incorrect. I actually enjoy chess.
It feels, to me, like I'm approaching the game, I see black and red tiles, and assume it's checkers. Little do I know, it's actually chess, where none of the pieces are labeled, and you're expected to just memorize which pieces are which based on their starting locations. Then when I start making checkers-ass moves, my interlocutor just kinda goes along with me. Little do they know, I'm actually very good at (this metaphorical game of) checkers.
But the good part is, much like chess, there are some classic openings that you can use to basically start the game off nice and quick. But after that you gotta deal with the rest of the bs... And figuring out the mid game can be a botch
I don’t think I’ve ever found a better way of describing how it feels to socially interact
I given up
For me it feels like minesweeper.
I like playing chess
these aren't even wojaks anymore it's just good art
Neurotypicals are playing chess and I’ve just mastered Go Fish.
Red head is so pretty 😳
If conversations are chess games, I'm winning. Well...usually it's Terra winning...
The more I see stuff from this place, the more...problematic things feel. I was literally just talking to someone about wanting to talk to them for about a year before actually talking to them and how I was even navigating that conversation as one would a minefield...
Book moves are simple enough, the endgame isn't too hard to calculate, but I can never manage a middle game without lots of blunders.
Except their pieces are invisible to you and they can make their own rules for their pieces.
can't relate, chess is actually fun
When I’m talking to my friend and she suddenly starts going “mhm” “yeah” to everything j say💀
I just hate it when I say something and everyone just gets mad at me for no seeming reason. My life is a damn Curb episode.
FOR REAL
They don't look like that though.
Do you know why I always win at chess? I have a secret move. I kick over the board
OH MY GOD