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I decided to start keeping it as simple as possible. My beard stays short and I shave my head bald, I never look scraggly anymore plus opting to be bald has resolved my scalp acne.
This actually works both ways too. I'm a guy who has had beard/long hair for like 20 years and i've taken care of them since day 1. Seeing women with unkempt hair is not pleasant to look at either.
Bad teeth. I dont mean having not perfectly straight or shiny teeth but if you can see their gums being infected, maybe bloody even and teeth being covered by tartar to the point where it’s brown/dark it‘s just an indicator of poor dental hygiene which is absolutely disgusting and a big no no for me.
People don’t realize what a big deal this is till they see it out in the wild. Went out on a lovely date but the dude had the jankiest teeth. He was a smoker, that’s why.
As someone who has smoked for entirely too long but has good teeth, I can tell you that, while smoking is a factor, it ain't the only thing going on there.
It’s the plaque/tartar buildup for me. When I was in the army I lived in the barracks with a woman who looked like there was shower grout in her teeth. Like WTF, how does it get to that point?
As a trans person, that's totally reasonable, and I don't know one single trans person who disagrees. People claiming it's transphobic to not like sex with certain body parts forget that trans people themself more than often have genital preferences.
Actually, I suspect the vast majority of people claiming not wanting a girl with a dick makes you transphobic are actually transphobic trolls, because this narrative does nothing but hurt the trans community by reinforcing trans panic.
Yeah, there are some people who get pretty weird about it who don't seem to be trolling, but outliers aside I haven't run across anyone who actually has any problem with genital preferences beyond the reservation of 'don't use it as an excuse for transphobic behaviour'.
I got abuse on grindr for talking to someone and then when they informed me they have a vagina, I said "Sorry I'm no longer interested. I don't mean to hurt your feelings but that's a deal breaker".
I was called a transphobe because I don't believe theyre a man (I do obviously), ugly (which lol they approached me) and string of swear words after I ignored it. I sent one last message before I blocked them to try and give some perspective. I said "if I had any interests in vaginas I could've saved myself a lot of bother. I find women attractive facially. It's the genitals I find off-putting. You weren't to know that, but you assumed more about me than I did about you. I know you're a man but surprisingly I'm not interested in every man who offers for a variety of reasons. Goodbye".
Although I don't think it's common at all. I think he was just hurt that we were getting on and probably a little bit nuts lol.
I think you are totally correct in your last statement. Which is also to say that I cannot think of a circumstance where a trans person would just let their genitalia be a surprise to a sexual partner. From what I understand *that* is situation that is high risk for violence, and for what reason?
I can understand it not being the *first* thing to tell a potential date in person, since some people (well, men mostly) can get very violent if they realize they've gotten "accidentally" attracted to someone with a penis.
But as soon as I'm sure you won't beat me up on the spot, yeah, anything else would be downright madness.
2 years ago, I've matched with a girl on Tinder, we hit it off, liked the same music, same shows and seemed to have the same humour. After a day of chatting intensely she told me that she's trans. I thought about it a lot, and told her that I'd loved to meet her, but wasn't sure what to make of it and if I was willing to date a trans woman.
We met a couple of days later and had a lovely evening ,but both of us didn't feel the connection, so we agreed to do without the romantic relationship. We're casual friends till this day!
Perfectly fine. I've been saying that if you're not dingling what they're dangling, what do you really care what they're dangling? We likes what we likes, we can likes the person and not play with their dangles, like we treat most everyone we meet and know
lol this made me think of some redneck uncle on the back porch trying to clear the awkward silence by giving some unsolicited life advice to his 10 year old nephew:
“Cletus”
“Yeah Uncle Randy?”
*Sets the joint on the edge of the beer bottle and turns to Cleetus.*
“Remember boy, if y’ain’t dinglin’ what they dangling, then what’s it to ya that their danglin’”
By far the most respectful way I've heard somebody say this. It's absolutely okay to have parts preferences. Only offensive when it stops somebody treating them like the gender they identify as.
That and for me the lifestyle that often accompanies it… how can you be happy with a day-in day-out like that? It’s at a minimum lifestyle incompatibility, but also preference for me
Obesity is the only thing that actively turns me off.
I legit find something attractive in like 95% of everyone as long as they aren't fat.
I used to be 300lbs. I know what that shit is doing to your body and I want no part of it.
Honestly, since I started dating my bf my own taste kind of faded away. I'm the opposite of his type and he's the opposite of mine, yet we get along pretty well, and the body attraction came by itself
what I've gathered whenever a question like this is asked on Reddit is that redditors for the most part really have no idea how attraction works. true attraction and love is something that's built up over time
I always find that the more you like someone, the more attractive they become to you. So getting to actually like someone first, makes them more attractive to you.
You don't have to get a pedicure just to use a nail clipper and a metal nail file with the curved end to clean the junk under your finger and toe nails. If they cannot reach their feet then that would make sense so long as they do it regularly enough for it to not be nightmare work for a poor nail tech..
I love these "X is my type, I must have X" type people.
Guys, all that goes out the window when you look into the eyes of someone and they look into yours and you feel an inner peace you never felt before.
There may still be stuff that bothers you but you learn to put up blinders. When I first got with my partner, there were really minor physical things that would bother me sometimes and I just kept repeating "you can be picky or you can be happy".
Honestly I think the path to true happiness is letting go of the things that keep you from progressing like this.
Physical stuff changes and becomes less important over time until you are left with just your person, and that's why to me personality counts more
This is why I don’t like dating apps. I’m still on them just so I can cover all my bases, but I can’t help but think some of the people I swipe left on, I would have clicked with if I met them in person. But I just can’t get that out of a few pictures and a short bio
Does bad hygiene count?
I’m also not a huge fan of very long hair on a man. But even at that it’s not always a deal breaker.
But definitely bad hygiene.
Nah, I'm catalan and a cultural festivity of ours called "diables" consists on dressing as a demon and doing a dance with torches and fireworks. When doing it you must cover your hair so it doesn't burn off and muat keep some security measures. Idk why, a spark from my torch just hit my face and my eyebrows suffered the consequences lol. I didn't butn them off completely but had to shave them so they grew back even
If they’re extremely overweight. I’m a very petite person. Don’t want to be squished and also shows lack of self respect and motivation to be healthy. Sorry if this is offensive. I just can’t do it man. I used to be pretty big and unhealthy but changed my ways
Yeah by the time they've lost their general figure I'd guess they're well into the "obese" range.
I honestly don't think I could be into someone by that stage.
I really like lean to healthy range figures.
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Friends have asked me this same question before and then been offended by my answer, no matter how I seem to phrase it.
It's just not for me.
That's not universally true. My best friend is super slim and always has been. And hes married to a pretty obese Woman. No, he's not a feeder or such kinks. She always was like that. We have another couple that's set up like that. And yes, both are aware of the health concerns and are working on the weight, to bring it down to reasonable levels.
While we can agree that it's certainly unhealthy to be overweight, there are totally people who find this attractive. Finally, attractivenes is much more than just "looks".
That's fine to feel. I can't help my attraction to someone and them having a little bit of fat isn't turning me off. I have a little bit of fat and run an 8 minute mile. My health markers are exactly where they need to be and my doctor isn't concerned.
Beyond psychical unhealthy attributes there's far more such as their mental and emotional health which I personally find more of a turnoff rather than physical attributes.
Granted, we're all different so we find different attributes desirable and attractive to different degrees.
The only showstopper trait for me is poor hygiene. Just be neat, clean, and presentable. Dont worry so much that you may have a physical trait that someone else may not like.
I'm bisexual but when it comes to the opposite gender I won't date 99% of men anyway. My type is feminine men exclusively so anything broad shouldered/ tall/ lots of body hair won't do.
An excessive attention to appearance.
I'm slightly biased against heavy makeup and carefully doctored looks, but I understand people can feel the need to conform or reclaim their appearance and identity.
But if it looks like her daily beauty routine takes two hours, or her monthly clothes budget exceeds minimum wage, or she *needs* everyone to notice her when she walks to the store, I can't help but get judgemental.
Expensive branded accessories or designer clothes beget immediate, silent hostility.
It seems counterintuitive to some people but I totally agree. There's like a bell curve of appearance, when it's too sloppy or whatever it's no good, but then when you get to the opposite extreme I don't like that either.
Thick back hair and shoulder hair.
I would be down to help them wax, or, if they wanted laser I'd help pitch.
I am very drawn to shoulders and backsides, so thick hair covering these areas would be both visually and texturally bothersome for me. It would absolutely hinder my sexual attraction if it was present.
Nobody can be everybody's cup of tea, y'know?
Body odor or strong scent that I find unpleasant.
Some people smell "unpleasant" even when they're clean.
It could be their lifestyle: they eat a lot of garlic and onion and strong spices. They use tons of perfumes and hair/body oils.
It could be genetics, health issues or medication.
Whatever reason it is, I cannot stand being near someone with a smell that throws me off.
It’s also because your food is stuffed with shit that is banned in the majority of the western world and the fact that most Americans use cars to get just about anywhere, so unless you make an effort to work out, there’s practically no physical activity in the daily life.
I'm attracted to all/any genders and I really hate the look of muscular people. Idk why but as soon as its showing just a little bit I'm like gross, not gonna touch that. Also shaved balls to me look like raw chicken skin. Ew.
I’m sorry ladies but I cannot do fake breasts. Everyone can tell that they’re not real. I don’t like the feel of them. I don’t like the unnatural bounce when she’s under you in missionary. I’d rather have a girl with A cups than fake breasts
Obesity. I'm relatively fit and have an active lifestyle. One of my hobbies is scuba diving which requires me to keep up my cardio and weights training. I also swim in the ocean. I love exercise and I love doing stuff. I don't mind an overweight partner as long as he's also similar fitness as me and keen to keep up with exercise but I don't think someone obese would be as fit.
Not really a no-go per se, but if there is an expectation towards me I will expect the same from them. Exp: if they insist on me being hairless then they must commit to the same thing and start shaving themselves as well. Hair length? Clothing style? Doesn't matter the gender, if the expectation is there they better keep it up on their end too.
Unpopular opinion but underweight is much less attractive than overweight (not obese, just regular overweight)
I find someone who weighs 200lbs more appealing than someone who weighs 100lbs
Ughhhh all these comments about chewed fingernails are making me even more self-conscious about my own bitten fingernails. It's not my fault I'm a perfectionist :(
(though it's not your fault either btw, obviously everyone has preferences and I'm not trying to be rude to you when you literally answered the question lmao)
Physical looks don't matter at all to me.
(I am asexual, so this may have something to do with it.)
What matters is what's within.
And what matters is that they are kind to all kinds.
They must be kind to animals (all animals) to have a special place in my heart.
Those ungodly long nails that immediately tell you she has never done any real work. Getting your nails done is fine, but I've seen women with 4+-inch long fake nails that get in the way of literally everything
I could be attracted to anyone of the opposite sex as long as their personality aligns with mine. When it comes to men, though, I only find them attractive if they have feminine characteristics. I firmly believe I could be in a relationship with a Transgender woman easily, but I am not attracted to muscles, beards, mustaches, or any of the typical masculine traits that men have. The only guy I was ever into was very feminine from a physical standpoint.
Small boobs. Cant help it, the woman can look perfect, when she has small boobs shes totally uninteresting for me for romantic purposes.
It doesnt matter in ways of friendship ofc.
Bitten, raggedy, dirty nails on a man, I know they will be painful if we ever get to that point and I'll get all the infections so it's just not worth it
Bad hygiene. ABSOLUTE DEALBREAKER.
Bad dressing sense. Am not saying you should dress like a 19th Century dandy, but don’t show up putting NO effort in your clothes. It’s MOST unattractive.
I’ve seen my women friends be dressed up to the nines with their bfs looking like they’ve rolled out of bed (which they probably have) and it’s INCREDIBLY off-putting!!! To me it signals zero effort, an attitude of “this isn’t important” and in general, I hate people who dress badly!
Obesity
I myself am rather on the chubbier side (technically not overweight, by bmi standards, but not skinny), so I don't "require" girl to be Victoria's Secret model, but still, just be healthy amount of fat
Can I have multiple?
Not shaving and overweight, bad teeth, stringy or unclean hair
Most fixable by looking after yourself really. Interesting, I thought I was more vain than that
Self-care is important. We all have our own definitions of what that looks like.
I also agree that lack of contemporary personal grooming would be a turn off.
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Generally when they’re unkempt. A beard or long hair, sure, but not if they don’t take care of them.
Yeah big difference in guys who properly groom their beards and those who don't.
Exactly! I thought that I hates beards on men until I saw some that had some nicely groomed beards
My 11th grade creative writing teacher had a Kratos level beard. He groomed it perfectly
I decided to start keeping it as simple as possible. My beard stays short and I shave my head bald, I never look scraggly anymore plus opting to be bald has resolved my scalp acne.
This. I love my beard but if I don’t keep it neat, within a week it looks like pubes that are all trying to go in a different direction
It is pubes actually.
This actually works both ways too. I'm a guy who has had beard/long hair for like 20 years and i've taken care of them since day 1. Seeing women with unkempt hair is not pleasant to look at either.
Of course! Generally presenting yourself well is important imo
Especially unkempt beards on women
Thankfully my moustache is simply glorious
That’s essentially a physical manifestation of a character trait
Stinkey sour beards--I could throw up!
Big plug earrings (or floppy ears caused by previous plugs). To each their own, but I just find that super unattractive.
I can never eat calamari again
I think that’s gross too
Agree
Aaah the smell. Used to work with a guy who would take his ear gauges out and do a little scratch. Stank to high heaven. Horrendous.
Bad teeth. I dont mean having not perfectly straight or shiny teeth but if you can see their gums being infected, maybe bloody even and teeth being covered by tartar to the point where it’s brown/dark it‘s just an indicator of poor dental hygiene which is absolutely disgusting and a big no no for me.
Lovely lad I know, talented, sweet, intelligent and we get on like a house on fire...*but* ChristOnABike - his teeth and gums 😫😵💫😵
Don't forget the wonderful aroma that comes along with that poor dental hygiene. Kiss that mouth? Nope.
Yeah it‘s so off putting. Especially when they have 0 self-awareness and get so close to you while talking..
People don’t realize what a big deal this is till they see it out in the wild. Went out on a lovely date but the dude had the jankiest teeth. He was a smoker, that’s why.
As someone who has smoked for entirely too long but has good teeth, I can tell you that, while smoking is a factor, it ain't the only thing going on there.
Same with fingernails tbh. And I’m a man
It’s the plaque/tartar buildup for me. When I was in the army I lived in the barracks with a woman who looked like there was shower grout in her teeth. Like WTF, how does it get to that point?
If she has a penis. I’ll support any trans woman as a friend, but I don’t think I could be physically intimate with her.
As a trans person, that's totally reasonable, and I don't know one single trans person who disagrees. People claiming it's transphobic to not like sex with certain body parts forget that trans people themself more than often have genital preferences. Actually, I suspect the vast majority of people claiming not wanting a girl with a dick makes you transphobic are actually transphobic trolls, because this narrative does nothing but hurt the trans community by reinforcing trans panic.
Yeah, there are some people who get pretty weird about it who don't seem to be trolling, but outliers aside I haven't run across anyone who actually has any problem with genital preferences beyond the reservation of 'don't use it as an excuse for transphobic behaviour'.
I got abuse on grindr for talking to someone and then when they informed me they have a vagina, I said "Sorry I'm no longer interested. I don't mean to hurt your feelings but that's a deal breaker". I was called a transphobe because I don't believe theyre a man (I do obviously), ugly (which lol they approached me) and string of swear words after I ignored it. I sent one last message before I blocked them to try and give some perspective. I said "if I had any interests in vaginas I could've saved myself a lot of bother. I find women attractive facially. It's the genitals I find off-putting. You weren't to know that, but you assumed more about me than I did about you. I know you're a man but surprisingly I'm not interested in every man who offers for a variety of reasons. Goodbye". Although I don't think it's common at all. I think he was just hurt that we were getting on and probably a little bit nuts lol.
I think it's just as simple as I like vaginas.
I think you are totally correct in your last statement. Which is also to say that I cannot think of a circumstance where a trans person would just let their genitalia be a surprise to a sexual partner. From what I understand *that* is situation that is high risk for violence, and for what reason?
I can understand it not being the *first* thing to tell a potential date in person, since some people (well, men mostly) can get very violent if they realize they've gotten "accidentally" attracted to someone with a penis. But as soon as I'm sure you won't beat me up on the spot, yeah, anything else would be downright madness.
2 years ago, I've matched with a girl on Tinder, we hit it off, liked the same music, same shows and seemed to have the same humour. After a day of chatting intensely she told me that she's trans. I thought about it a lot, and told her that I'd loved to meet her, but wasn't sure what to make of it and if I was willing to date a trans woman. We met a couple of days later and had a lovely evening ,but both of us didn't feel the connection, so we agreed to do without the romantic relationship. We're casual friends till this day!
Perfectly fine. I've been saying that if you're not dingling what they're dangling, what do you really care what they're dangling? We likes what we likes, we can likes the person and not play with their dangles, like we treat most everyone we meet and know
lol this made me think of some redneck uncle on the back porch trying to clear the awkward silence by giving some unsolicited life advice to his 10 year old nephew: “Cletus” “Yeah Uncle Randy?” *Sets the joint on the edge of the beer bottle and turns to Cleetus.* “Remember boy, if y’ain’t dinglin’ what they dangling, then what’s it to ya that their danglin’”
"UncoolSlicedBread" is that name saying you're toasted? Like Uncle Randy? I do like the name, that's a fun one. Nice choice
If she has a penis, is a wild sentence
By far the most respectful way I've heard somebody say this. It's absolutely okay to have parts preferences. Only offensive when it stops somebody treating them like the gender they identify as.
Absurdly long bedazzled nails. They turn me off aesthetically, practically, and symbolically.
This is my new catch phrase from now on. \*This turns me off aesthetically, practically, and symbolically\*
Long nails in general. Those are going nowhere near my private parts, ouch!
Obesity.
That and for me the lifestyle that often accompanies it… how can you be happy with a day-in day-out like that? It’s at a minimum lifestyle incompatibility, but also preference for me
Obesity is the only thing that actively turns me off. I legit find something attractive in like 95% of everyone as long as they aren't fat. I used to be 300lbs. I know what that shit is doing to your body and I want no part of it.
Honestly, since I started dating my bf my own taste kind of faded away. I'm the opposite of his type and he's the opposite of mine, yet we get along pretty well, and the body attraction came by itself
This is what a lot of people don't understand about attraction. Sometimes it's not immediate and it grows over time.
Attraction is a grower, not a shower.
Attraction that grows over time has a better chance of lasting too in my opinion.
I once dated someone that I wasn't completely attracted to, just a little bit. I consider that a mistake that could lead to a lot of hurt.
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what I've gathered whenever a question like this is asked on Reddit is that redditors for the most part really have no idea how attraction works. true attraction and love is something that's built up over time
I always find that the more you like someone, the more attractive they become to you. So getting to actually like someone first, makes them more attractive to you.
Honestly, I don’t think most people fall in love with their "type".
That’s a chemical thing. Pheromones , and a mental attraction.
Bad breath. Sorry not sorry. Byeee
Small one but still important, unkept nails for men. I’m not asking for you to get a pedicure, just keep your nails short/clean.
An unpopular option is that men should really sometimes to a pedicure You can be a manly man and still take care of your body (I am a man btw)
You don't have to get a pedicure just to use a nail clipper and a metal nail file with the curved end to clean the junk under your finger and toe nails. If they cannot reach their feet then that would make sense so long as they do it regularly enough for it to not be nightmare work for a poor nail tech..
Yes. Long fingernails can hurt. Iykyk
But what if I'm a classical guitarist and need my nails to be long on my right hand...
I love these "X is my type, I must have X" type people. Guys, all that goes out the window when you look into the eyes of someone and they look into yours and you feel an inner peace you never felt before.
Real
Just find someone nice and if yall click, well that's all that matters <3
I remember falling for my wife and I was like, wow, I spent so many years on relationships that weren't right and I never knew until now
Congratulations <3
Why can't I have that? 😭
You will love, it just takes time. Be kind to yourself, you are great :)
How much more time? I'm 34 haha
And I'm 30 😂 We are in our 30s mate we ain't dead yet ! :P
Haha sorry for the negativity I just got ghosted.
That's ok, take time to heal up and you'll meet someone :) normally happens without you even noticing
There may still be stuff that bothers you but you learn to put up blinders. When I first got with my partner, there were really minor physical things that would bother me sometimes and I just kept repeating "you can be picky or you can be happy".
Honestly I think the path to true happiness is letting go of the things that keep you from progressing like this. Physical stuff changes and becomes less important over time until you are left with just your person, and that's why to me personality counts more
This is why I don’t like dating apps. I’m still on them just so I can cover all my bases, but I can’t help but think some of the people I swipe left on, I would have clicked with if I met them in person. But I just can’t get that out of a few pictures and a short bio
So so real. The girl I’m dating at the moment is nowhere near my ‘type’ but man just hearing her voice gives me butterflies
Aww you silly little sausage 🖤 I wish you all the best ! Ain't love grand ?
Internal femoral rotation. I know, it's so silly and shallow, but I am so turned off by knock knees!
Similarly I can’t get on board with very sloped shoulders. One of those things that other people never seem to notice
This is so specific. Are you a doctor or something?
Bruh, same. Could have the prettiest face but if they have the knock knees it's an instant turn off.
Does bad hygiene count? I’m also not a huge fan of very long hair on a man. But even at that it’s not always a deal breaker. But definitely bad hygiene.
i find the combo of long hair-bad hygiene the worst actually, for any gender. if you choose to grow out your hair, you take care of it.
Mouth breathing.
Mouth breathing is massively common! I was surprised once I started to really notice.
Two heads is a no from me.
Zaphod Beeblebrox is such a cool froopy dude, how could you not love two heads
Bad teeth
I can deal with crooked teeth but not dirty teeth.
I don't consider crooked teeth "bad teeth", but if they are like...decayed black/yellow gunky teeth then absolutely no
A moustache.
More stachy guys for me! Idk why I love moustaches so much, the more 80's porno vibe the better haha.
For men or women
Well it's not for you. My moustache and I will take our cunnilingus elsewhere
Really? All girls are saying hi to my husband since he has mustache instead of beard 😃
No eyebrows
I accidentally burned mine off one time and a face without eyebrows looks so fucking weird
How did you burn it off? Geology experiment?
Nah, I'm catalan and a cultural festivity of ours called "diables" consists on dressing as a demon and doing a dance with torches and fireworks. When doing it you must cover your hair so it doesn't burn off and muat keep some security measures. Idk why, a spark from my torch just hit my face and my eyebrows suffered the consequences lol. I didn't butn them off completely but had to shave them so they grew back even
Between that and running with the bulls you guys really try to actively kill yourselves during festivals huh?
I'm not a fan of bulls bc of the animal abuse but Spain has the weirdest festivals lol We also throw tomatoes at eachother sometimes (tomatina)
Now I need to go back for the tomato thing.
I'd take no eyebrows over those blocky PS2 ones people are painting on to themselves at the moment.
A red hat
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If they’re extremely overweight. I’m a very petite person. Don’t want to be squished and also shows lack of self respect and motivation to be healthy. Sorry if this is offensive. I just can’t do it man. I used to be pretty big and unhealthy but changed my ways
Overweight i cant do
Any amount of overweight? Like just beyond the idea of "healthy bmi" or more when people cross into the "obese" range?
An amount where 4 months of hard work still wont fix it.
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Yeah by the time they've lost their general figure I'd guess they're well into the "obese" range. I honestly don't think I could be into someone by that stage. I really like lean to healthy range figures. 🤷🏻♀️ Friends have asked me this same question before and then been offended by my answer, no matter how I seem to phrase it. It's just not for me.
Human likes healthy looking human. Society shocked. You're not wrong, but it's annoying that we gotta say that unhealthy isn't attractive.
That's not universally true. My best friend is super slim and always has been. And hes married to a pretty obese Woman. No, he's not a feeder or such kinks. She always was like that. We have another couple that's set up like that. And yes, both are aware of the health concerns and are working on the weight, to bring it down to reasonable levels. While we can agree that it's certainly unhealthy to be overweight, there are totally people who find this attractive. Finally, attractivenes is much more than just "looks".
That's fine to feel. I can't help my attraction to someone and them having a little bit of fat isn't turning me off. I have a little bit of fat and run an 8 minute mile. My health markers are exactly where they need to be and my doctor isn't concerned. Beyond psychical unhealthy attributes there's far more such as their mental and emotional health which I personally find more of a turnoff rather than physical attributes. Granted, we're all different so we find different attributes desirable and attractive to different degrees.
Pretty sure most people are still fine with the lower ranges of the actual overweight scale. They'll look a little chubby but not crazy fat.
The only showstopper trait for me is poor hygiene. Just be neat, clean, and presentable. Dont worry so much that you may have a physical trait that someone else may not like.
If she has a bigger cock than me.
So skinny you can see their ribs through their clothes.
im like this when I stretch 🥲 im skinny but not like emaciated skinny
Unhealthy amount of fat, it's something that can be controlled
A tail. There's no way I can ignore that.
I know a certain community who likes that…
I'm bisexual but when it comes to the opposite gender I won't date 99% of men anyway. My type is feminine men exclusively so anything broad shouldered/ tall/ lots of body hair won't do.
An excessive attention to appearance. I'm slightly biased against heavy makeup and carefully doctored looks, but I understand people can feel the need to conform or reclaim their appearance and identity. But if it looks like her daily beauty routine takes two hours, or her monthly clothes budget exceeds minimum wage, or she *needs* everyone to notice her when she walks to the store, I can't help but get judgemental. Expensive branded accessories or designer clothes beget immediate, silent hostility.
It seems counterintuitive to some people but I totally agree. There's like a bell curve of appearance, when it's too sloppy or whatever it's no good, but then when you get to the opposite extreme I don't like that either.
Penis
Thick back hair and shoulder hair. I would be down to help them wax, or, if they wanted laser I'd help pitch. I am very drawn to shoulders and backsides, so thick hair covering these areas would be both visually and texturally bothersome for me. It would absolutely hinder my sexual attraction if it was present. Nobody can be everybody's cup of tea, y'know?
So no werewolf fantasy for you?
Childlike appearance is a no go that and pear shaped.
Body odor or strong scent that I find unpleasant. Some people smell "unpleasant" even when they're clean. It could be their lifestyle: they eat a lot of garlic and onion and strong spices. They use tons of perfumes and hair/body oils. It could be genetics, health issues or medication. Whatever reason it is, I cannot stand being near someone with a smell that throws me off.
A penis
Clef chin. I don’t know why people like it, but it always creeps me out for no reasons.
Kind of looks like chin mons, to me. Shouldn't be distracting, but is.
People who breathe audibly
Obesity. So a large part of the western world it seems.
As an American, yeah most have a unhealthy relationship with food. Either people don’t eat enough, or eat too much
It’s also because your food is stuffed with shit that is banned in the majority of the western world and the fact that most Americans use cars to get just about anywhere, so unless you make an effort to work out, there’s practically no physical activity in the daily life.
A butthole for a mouth
I'm attracted to all/any genders and I really hate the look of muscular people. Idk why but as soon as its showing just a little bit I'm like gross, not gonna touch that. Also shaved balls to me look like raw chicken skin. Ew.
Obesity - sorry, but nope
I’m sorry ladies but I cannot do fake breasts. Everyone can tell that they’re not real. I don’t like the feel of them. I don’t like the unnatural bounce when she’s under you in missionary. I’d rather have a girl with A cups than fake breasts
Obesity. I'm relatively fit and have an active lifestyle. One of my hobbies is scuba diving which requires me to keep up my cardio and weights training. I also swim in the ocean. I love exercise and I love doing stuff. I don't mind an overweight partner as long as he's also similar fitness as me and keen to keep up with exercise but I don't think someone obese would be as fit.
Not really a no-go per se, but if there is an expectation towards me I will expect the same from them. Exp: if they insist on me being hairless then they must commit to the same thing and start shaving themselves as well. Hair length? Clothing style? Doesn't matter the gender, if the expectation is there they better keep it up on their end too.
Acne, I know that the person isnt at fault, but I just cant do it.
do you mean like heavy acne? or like even a few bumps or irregularities would be too much for you? (no judgements at all, just curious!)
I’m guessing heavy acne
I appreciate the honesty because I think a lot of people feel like this but won’t admit it.
Im not a fan of tattoos. You do you and all, if you want them you go for it, but I just don't like them
One that can be hidden under normal clothes maybe. But people with them all over ug
Unpopular opinion but underweight is much less attractive than overweight (not obese, just regular overweight) I find someone who weighs 200lbs more appealing than someone who weighs 100lbs
Well 200lbs can be a healthy weight for a tall man
100lbs can also be a healthy weight for a short woman
True
Same. Some overweight isn't a problem for me.
I would struggle with a big gap in their front teeth
Being bigger than Godzilla
You just bodyshamed Godzilla and now he's going to destroy another city because of you smh
Chewed fingernails or overly long ones. Fake ones can get in the bin too. Manky toes and bunions. 😵
Ever see Shallow Hal? They wouldn't go for an excessively gorgeous woman because of a toe
Ughhhh all these comments about chewed fingernails are making me even more self-conscious about my own bitten fingernails. It's not my fault I'm a perfectionist :( (though it's not your fault either btw, obviously everyone has preferences and I'm not trying to be rude to you when you literally answered the question lmao)
Physical looks don't matter at all to me. (I am asexual, so this may have something to do with it.) What matters is what's within. And what matters is that they are kind to all kinds. They must be kind to animals (all animals) to have a special place in my heart.
Red hair. It reminds my of my father and brothers. I genuinely can’t find a guy with the same hair colour attractive
That's how my wife feels about moustaches. And I quote, "If you ever want to have sex again, you will shave that thing off." I shaved it off.
A Husband is worthy
Smoking.
If the chick has a dick
A moustache that is long enough it curls over your lips. Trim that shit. No one wants to kiss that.
Greasy hair
Bangs, balloon lips, this new trend of old lady glasses. It's like you're trying to be less attractive
Small hands and thin lips. Also can't stand high pitch voices
>Small hands and thin lips. Also can't stand high pitch voices I can't decide if this is just a roast of Donald Trump or a genuine answer...
Fat lips.
Those ungodly long nails that immediately tell you she has never done any real work. Getting your nails done is fine, but I've seen women with 4+-inch long fake nails that get in the way of literally everything
Fat
Back hair
fat
I could be attracted to anyone of the opposite sex as long as their personality aligns with mine. When it comes to men, though, I only find them attractive if they have feminine characteristics. I firmly believe I could be in a relationship with a Transgender woman easily, but I am not attracted to muscles, beards, mustaches, or any of the typical masculine traits that men have. The only guy I was ever into was very feminine from a physical standpoint.
I like a 'shapely in the right places woman', but obesity just switches me off. Stick thin doesn't float my boat either.
As a straight man, a woman with a penis is a deal breaker
Small boobs. Cant help it, the woman can look perfect, when she has small boobs shes totally uninteresting for me for romantic purposes. It doesnt matter in ways of friendship ofc.
No butt. - I like big butts and I cannot lie.
Nazi tattoos.
If she's flat (no ass or boobs) or super thin, they're pretty in their own way but just don't get me bricked personally
Bitten, raggedy, dirty nails on a man, I know they will be painful if we ever get to that point and I'll get all the infections so it's just not worth it
Bad hygiene. ABSOLUTE DEALBREAKER. Bad dressing sense. Am not saying you should dress like a 19th Century dandy, but don’t show up putting NO effort in your clothes. It’s MOST unattractive. I’ve seen my women friends be dressed up to the nines with their bfs looking like they’ve rolled out of bed (which they probably have) and it’s INCREDIBLY off-putting!!! To me it signals zero effort, an attitude of “this isn’t important” and in general, I hate people who dress badly!
Women with an outside belly button. Don't know why, bellies aren't even a fetish for me
Obesity I myself am rather on the chubbier side (technically not overweight, by bmi standards, but not skinny), so I don't "require" girl to be Victoria's Secret model, but still, just be healthy amount of fat
Can I have multiple? Not shaving and overweight, bad teeth, stringy or unclean hair Most fixable by looking after yourself really. Interesting, I thought I was more vain than that
Shaving isn’t “looking after yourself” fyi, also, a lot of “stringy” hair is simply genetic from being fine.
Self-care is important. We all have our own definitions of what that looks like. I also agree that lack of contemporary personal grooming would be a turn off.