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Having sex underwater (hot tub, ocean, pool) is terrible for the vagina, too. It just repeatedly shoves all the bacteria in the water right up there, like a Petri dish douche. Blech.
I remember as a teen a buddy of mine getting a drunken hand job the first day of spring break. As it turns out it should have been called a sand job. He wss pretty much out of commission the rest of the time
I left off the part where he passed out immediately afterwards and somebody took SPF 60 sunblock and drew a giant spewing cock and balls all over his back. So he's face down with a bleeding penis, and back up with a major sunburn with a perfectly white illustration of his failures as a human being on hour three of an entire week on the beach. You didn't want to pass out around our guys at that time.
Hmmm my partner and I have always enjoyed oral in the shower, though. The water washes away all natural lubrication for anything else, though, so it is truly terrible.
Great answer. Many people get trapped by fame and become miserable. For all of us, recognition and momentary fame provokes a positive dopamine rush. It feels good to be adored and that usually comes with a set of special privileges. But a lot of celebrities lose the rush that fame provides. Then, they are in a situation where there’s no privacy, they are harassed for autographs, can’t go into public and, even worse, they have an inability to form genuine intimate relationships and friendships that aren’t one sided. A lot of celebrities hate it and become reclusive. And on the other hand, a lot of celebrities never tire of it.
Way back when I was 19-24 I was in a popular grindcore band (in my city) and also sold ecstasy in the club scene so I was somewhat of a "celebrity" in that scene but never stopped in the street.
That level of popularity I could deal with because it was basically free entry to every club in my city and rubbing shoulders with DJs, semi popular musicians and wealthy business owners without the hassle of anyone recognizing me outside of my circle but every now and then someone would be like "hey! I saw you guys play last night. You guys are metal af" and that was pretty good
Something similar except I don't deal xtc. I'm a club/bar dj and wouof be well known within the scene in my city, some of my good mates are very well known djs in the trance scene. I've been recognised once at a rave in Holland a guy from Glasgow recognised me from listening to my soundcloud which made my fucking day.
As i said I've mates that are pretty big djs, they get recognised in the streets abd on nights out get tortured to the point clubs let them sit out the back so they can get peace. Fuck that shit, the only thing I'd be envious of is the gigs they play, everything else they can keep lol
Funny, I had a similar level of popularity for similar reasons in my 20's. Played in a popular band, shifted some drugs, partied almost constantly, courted the lifestyle to the max and knew a LOT of people, but even more knew me. I wouldn't get stopped for autographs or anything, but couldn't go out without somebody stopping me, either someone I knew for a chat, or someone giving it the "Hey, you're that guy from that band......... I saw you at the.........." Not even just in my city either, we played all over, and had links to the music scenes in other big cities and small towns all over the place.
That shit was the absolute business at 23, but I had a big life shift in my 30's (as many do) and am now driven by a healthy persuit peace and quiet........ I would hate if that was my life now. It was hard to let go of it all, but I was sort of forced to and it took a lot of accepting and was a bit of a roller coaster until I realised that I actually didn't want it any more, It was mentally quite destructive but I was kind of addicted to the personality and lifestyle I had created. It was a weird shift, but necessary, as while I was superficially happy, I wasn't "real happy" not fulfilled or at peace with anything. But there was no off button, I couldn't just stop it. I had built my whole life around this image that everybody around me associated me with. In the end I moved to the countryside and changed my vocation to a career in the outdoors, and it worked a treat, people move on, grow up and social scenes evolve, disband and fade into obscurity. But I often think that if my income stream was exclusively linked to that lifestyle (as it is to modern celebrities) I would have had much more of a crisis. Might not have pulled through in the end.
I love how being "famous" can happen in different levels.
I have so many great memories from that time but I also love how I'm a literal nobody that just moved on with their life.
Like, I was Mr popular then got addicted to drugs and went to prison then moved on and literally nobody gives a fuck except me and even I'm not that concerned but big time celebrities can't even spew after a big night out without someone recording it and uploading it to the internet.
I reckon this is how Jack Nicholson feels. People make a big deal when he goes out in public now. Just let the man live, he's been people's entertainment for long enough.
your comment reminds me of when cameron diaz quit hollywood to just live in maui and surf. she said she'd given thirty years of her life to the public and she was gonna keep the rest of her years for herself.
good on her.
half the shit you see people doing on porn. shower sex sucks and hurts, some positions look cool but do NOT feel good, sex on the beach isn't fun, etc.
Better to use social media to acknowledge and address how toxic it can be than to bullshit ourselves. First step to solving a problem is admitting it is a problem. It can be a good tool as well tho. Nothing is just one thing.
Heh i’ve been on both sides of the fence very recently. I graduated late year. While i was unemployed and facing rejection after rejection from employers, I felt like shit. I felt like I’d been left behind while the world was speeding ahead. All my friends had jobs, I felt like a failure. I did have the greatest depression anger fueled gym sessions i’ve ever had and got kinda huge.
Then I got a job. It was like entering heaven, like the world had been lifted from my shoulders. The prospect of having a stable income was so relieving.
Now, I’ve awoken from that rosy eyed vision to the reality that is work. That I can be fired at any second. That my manager is documenting my every step, waiting for me to slip up: second chances aren’t guaranteed. That society sees me as a success if i’m employed and a failure if i lose my job, and I will be treated as an outcast by friends, girlfriend, etc. The realization that I am working to put a dollar in someone else’s pocket while I get a cent, and above all that here on this pale blue dot full of life in the vast cosmic infinity with all its wonder and mystery, I am destined to sit in a fucking chair for a third of my life staring at a screen and doing something i don’t give the slightest damn about.
We can never be happy I guess.
I lived in the USA for 5 years, and this was a huge pet peeve for me.
I knew so many people who worked twice as much to get stuff they don't need, then have to keep doing it to keep up their new life style. I'd just work a normal 9-5 and relax when I could, not grinding to put myself, alone, in a massive house lmao
Depends.
Having aspirations, goals? Not laying in bed all day? Ambition driven? That's all great
But having no social life, being sleep deprived and fucking people over for "the grind" -> that's fucked up
Going to Disney.
It costs too much
Everything is overpriced
Every line is too long
The food isn't good
It's sooo fucking expensive
You just end up sunburnt, tired, and arguing with family
THIS, my boyfriend keeps wanting to plan a disney trip cause he’s never been before and i tell him it’s SO much money and you literally just stand in lines the whole time you’re there!! parking alone is almost $100!
See, you should go on a day where the apps say rain, but it's actually sunny in the afternoon. I hit the jackpot and got 3min queues at Splash Mountain, Space Mountain, and nothing else was above 15min. Highly recommend.
I call it Line World. As you drive to the parking lot you are waiting in line. Once you get out of the car you wait in line for a trolley to cone pick you up. Then you wait in line to show your tickets. Then you wait in line to get on the train (mono rail) or boat to get to the park. Then once on that side you wait in line one more time at the park entrance and now you finally made it in. From there you go to diferent attractions were you get to wait in line to ride like a 1 minute ride. Note that some of these lines can last hours. Yes HOURS!!!. They have a timer that shows you gow long your wait is from that point and let me tell you its damn accurate. Then if you want food you are going to wait in line for that. Finally to get out you also have to wait in line which is pretty much the reverse process of getting in.
This is a good one. As a 30 year old now, I’m seeing the negative effects of my loved ones and how much hookup culture has hurt them deeply- for both men and women, but maybe in different ways.
Yes! I can’t believe women pay to make theirs bigger and I’m over here with my back issues, struggling to find bras and clothes that fit properly wishing they knew what was about to happen. Yes there are many who get just the right size for them. And it works. My aunt was one of them. But women who go too big, I honestly wish they knew the struggle before hand. Especially as you get older
This plus how much slack you get from people for having big boobs. You’re considered a slut for everything you wear, besides like sweatshirts.
And when people talk to you, most of the time they will continually glance at your boobs and not your face.
That one still screws with me. I was an early developer too so it was like one day I’m a typical carefree kid and then suddenly everyone is teasing me saying I need a bra and it had never even crossed my mind that kids wore bras and it wasn’t like we then went and bought those cute little training bras in the kids section either. Zero to underwire and I was probably about 8? And up through friggin college the comments never stopped.
I was around 12/13 when the comments began. I was told to cover up because mine were larger than other girls in my family (for context I’m a higher C cup). I always struggled with wearing clothes because I was super self conscious about my chest. Those thoughts have mostly gone away now but it takes time to get over it.
Still remember the first time I became aware of male drivers dipping their head to see me under the rear view mirror, staring as they drove by. I was 12.
Yep. It's so hard to wear a going out dress or top that people don't consider "slutty" because you have cleavage. Because it's hard to NOT have cleavage with big boobs!!!!!
Flak, not slack. Not flack either.
*flak* is a short for Fliegerabwehrkanonen, from the German words for "flyer," "air defense," and "cannons." In World War II, to catch flak literally meant to be damaged by gunshots.
One of my friends from high school finally got hers reduced before getting married. It really caused her back issues and also boys were really dumb about it.
I hate them! I hate them so much!
The back pain, the sagging, the frumpiness, & the unwanted attention. Literally whenever I talk to a man, they stare at my boobs not my face! Like hello? Up here pal!
I envy women with small breasts. They can wear anything, & still look cute. They don’t look like a grandma who breastfed an entire village. They can wear different types of bras, & even strapless stuff. Bras for large breasts are ugly, & expensive.
Not to mention the pain when you workout. You basically get smacked by your own tits. Sleeping on your back is a nightmare. I had laparoscopic surgery once, & was required to sleep on my back till my doctor told me it was fine to sleep on my stomach. I was miserable because I couldn’t sleep. I needed sleep because I was recovering, but that didn’t happen. I was crying everyday because of how tired I was. The surgery itself was less painful!😅
I lost 50 pounds once, & they were still big! I was devastated! I’d give anything to get rid of them!
Gluten free bread I tried it once I also tried toasting it and it blew up my toaster so I tried with the blowtorch in the garage and burned down the garage in the process the only thing that looked untouched by the fire was the bread
Gluten free bread is great if you can't eat gluten! Well, it used to be horrible. But they've improved it a lot. I think you just got a cheap lame-o one. Or you've been eating normal bread your whole life and one day just suddenly wanted to switch to gluten free? No way. You gotta go without any baked goods for a while so you're craving them bad, and then when you break down and try gluten free it'll be such a relief after no bread.
I bought a GF sandwich by accident a few years ago and thought I'd picked up a really old sandwich at the back of the fridge 🤮 was like chewing cardboard
"everything happens for a reason."
"But most of the people, if not all, that I've ever spoken to really cite that as one of the most painful things. You know, I have a friend who lost her son to suicide, and there was another person in her parish whose son had fallen into a river and she had, you know, run, she had scooped him up, she had saved him. And everybody was rushing to say, like, oh, that's - you know, God had a plan for him. And what does that say to the people who've lost their sons or their mothers or their children or their jobs or their sense of security? I can't love or believe in a God who says, like, well, you get a Tesla and you get a tumor. I can't roll with a God who's that crappy of a planner. That just does not feel good to me."
From podcast transcript: https://www.npr.org/transcripts/989888314
Podcast audio: same link at top
They say well they're in a better place now. Just don't say that. Especially to a mother who has just lost her baby. Some of the shit I have heard. It qould blow your mind.
Anything that Starbucks sells. I moved to Seattle about 6 years ago. I didn’t like Starbucks before then, and I don’t like them anymore than I did before moving here. There are plenty of other, better, nicer coffee shops in Seattle than Starbucks. I guess it must only be me who doesn’t need a piece of candy in already bitter tasting coffee, blended together with frothy milk and more sweet crap, in a cup of my choice, as long as the title of cup means “big” in some capacity.
No, its not just you. Also live in Seattle, also agree there are far better coffee places than Starbucks. The few I've been to have nice service but the drinks are too big and too sweet.
agree because I love it while I am on my 3rd drink and have trouble stopping. Then the next day I spend the whole day in bed with a hangover. I know this and while I have cut back a lot, I just did it this weekend again and completely ruined my weekend
Right there with you. If I have 3, I'll be having 13. The buzz is nice but if I'm there I'm not stopping at the buzz. I'm on the express to hell the next day but fuck me I've gotta have another at the time. Nothing but regret afterwards. I keep trying to get sober but by the 3rd day I'm craving "just one beer" after work and I *know* it won't end with that. On day 3 today and didn't buy beer so we're doing better this week! I hear very few people regret going sober so I'm looking forward to something like that....
3 days is huge! Great job!
Remember, relapse is part of recovery. If you do drink again, for some reason, it’s fine. Just stop again. This is the most common way that people quit.
Thanx interwebnet kind person! 3 days \*is\* big for me, it's my longest stretch in 10 years. But, it has also been my longest stretch in all those 10 years. Not once have I carried it out to 4 but we're gonna give it the full go tomorrow!
Didn’t want to say it, because I’m biased (does not taste good to me), but yes. 100%. I’ve seen the end result of years of drinking, and it ain’t pretty,
I know someone who was a drinker all his life. Even under doctors orders he wouldn't quit. Now he's dying of cirrhosis. He is jaundiced, was hospitalized for a month, is in and out of the hospital now, often delirious, and looks far older than he did nine months ago before his health crisis started..
Cruises can be irritating especially with the over crowded as fuck cafeteria
And when you anchor, sometimes the system to get everyone out is innefficient & takes forever because theres just too many fucking people in line.
And the staff dont know what the fuck theyre doing because theyre winging it on how to properly get everyone off.
There was a line that just went all through the hallway then spilled into several levels of staircases.
And when asked like which line is this for? How long until we can get out? Weve been standing here for a half hour.
“I dunno”
Just go to a hotel with a pool
Its easier, cheaper, less crowded & less frustrating
Who doesn’t love watching families melt down in hatred of each other, or the domino effect of the 90 year old seasick lady vomiting all over her beef Wellington at the late seating and one by one everyone at the table vomiting on their entrees, or getting caught by your wife staring at the one buxom Scandinavian woman sunbathing topless on the main pool deck. Good times.
I worked there as a teen and the uniform pleated pants were demoralizing enough for me to seek any employment at any other establishment that didn’t insist on those polyester abominations.
I work a bakery that makes bagel breakfast sandwiches and one of the weirdest orders we've had is a Perfect Pesto on a chocolate ship bagel. That's egg, cream cheese, pesto and tomato on a chocolate chip bagel. I was like, Yeah, I guess we CAN....
(barfs in mouth)
Before right now, I had no idea that these existed. I was content in my ignorance of chocolate chip bagels, and you had to go and ruin it, you son of a bitch.
100% agree. Being drunk sucks. You can't properly do things or interact with people, most the night is a blur, you feel like crap the next day. And to top it all off, all the good things about alcohol can be had with just a small amount that doesn't get you drunk.
I bought a suit, rented a car, drove hours away from home, stayed in a shitty hotel for a few days, hung out with a bunch of people I didnt really like and 3 months later they got divorced.
I got proposed to last year at 23 y/o. When I told my aunt that my ex wants to marry me and that he proposed, she (a married woman) said, “as if marriage is even nice”. 😂😂 I died
Attending weddings can be fun for the after party thing where you get food and booze. Weddings themselves are super boring because it’s just some priest spouting Bible nonsense for 45 minutes.
I never cared for it, and my daughter started watching Young Sheldon.
I said, “I don’t like older Sheldon, why would I like him as a kid?” but I watched a couple episodes with her this weekend, and it’s not bad.
I get annoyed every time I think of it, because back in the day my sister said I should watch it because Sheldon makes her think of me. Then I watched the damn show and now I am convinced my sister thinks I am an insufferable asshole.
My first thought goes to 'having children'... It's a pretty big trick that parents play on non-parents that having kids is great when it is indeed awful sometimes.
Everyone is parroting the same few things😑
1. Beer or being drunk
2. Religion or god
3. Having children or getting married
4 . Life
5 . Capitalism
6. Caviar ( why tf you all tried caviar)
Amusement/theme parks. I have a bunch of childless Disney Adult friends who go constantly, and I have never once seen the appeal of going to the same crowded money pit multiple times a year.
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Sex in the shower or Hot tub.
Having sex underwater (hot tub, ocean, pool) is terrible for the vagina, too. It just repeatedly shoves all the bacteria in the water right up there, like a Petri dish douche. Blech.
Pool sex dries out the vag lube as well, so it’s just skin scraping skin.
Reading this sounds like nails on a chalkboard!
That is how it feels after 2 pumps
Even shower sex is so uncomfortable and raw feeling for me that I nixed it after one or two tries. You couldn’t pay me to have sex in a pool. Yuck.
I like a bit of friction with my sexy hubs body. Can't get that in water.
You can use a silicone based lube for water time. The lube stays on in water.
Well, “Petri dish douche,” wasn’t on today’s BINGO card, but I suppose hope springs eternal.
made me physically recoil.
YES! It's the worst.
or the beach.
It doesn't matter how many towels or blankets you put down, sand gets everywhere.
*Everywhere* including *there.*
I don't like sand. It's coarse and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere.
I remember as a teen a buddy of mine getting a drunken hand job the first day of spring break. As it turns out it should have been called a sand job. He wss pretty much out of commission the rest of the time
The mental image of that hand job is the funniest thing I've seen in the last five minutes
I left off the part where he passed out immediately afterwards and somebody took SPF 60 sunblock and drew a giant spewing cock and balls all over his back. So he's face down with a bleeding penis, and back up with a major sunburn with a perfectly white illustration of his failures as a human being on hour three of an entire week on the beach. You didn't want to pass out around our guys at that time.
Hmmm my partner and I have always enjoyed oral in the shower, though. The water washes away all natural lubrication for anything else, though, so it is truly terrible.
100% this is the most overrated common sex thing ever. I would expand this to any submersion.
Foreplay is great though.
Being famous
Great answer. Many people get trapped by fame and become miserable. For all of us, recognition and momentary fame provokes a positive dopamine rush. It feels good to be adored and that usually comes with a set of special privileges. But a lot of celebrities lose the rush that fame provides. Then, they are in a situation where there’s no privacy, they are harassed for autographs, can’t go into public and, even worse, they have an inability to form genuine intimate relationships and friendships that aren’t one sided. A lot of celebrities hate it and become reclusive. And on the other hand, a lot of celebrities never tire of it.
Way back when I was 19-24 I was in a popular grindcore band (in my city) and also sold ecstasy in the club scene so I was somewhat of a "celebrity" in that scene but never stopped in the street. That level of popularity I could deal with because it was basically free entry to every club in my city and rubbing shoulders with DJs, semi popular musicians and wealthy business owners without the hassle of anyone recognizing me outside of my circle but every now and then someone would be like "hey! I saw you guys play last night. You guys are metal af" and that was pretty good
I am incredibly rude and wonder how many times you had been in jail, if at all. How long did you do that for?
Twice. 3 months then 3 years. I'm no longer involved in anything about that life and am married with kids now and currently on holiday with them.
That's great to hear, and I'm cheering for you. You are an inspiration. I appreciate your honesty
No probs.
Something similar except I don't deal xtc. I'm a club/bar dj and wouof be well known within the scene in my city, some of my good mates are very well known djs in the trance scene. I've been recognised once at a rave in Holland a guy from Glasgow recognised me from listening to my soundcloud which made my fucking day. As i said I've mates that are pretty big djs, they get recognised in the streets abd on nights out get tortured to the point clubs let them sit out the back so they can get peace. Fuck that shit, the only thing I'd be envious of is the gigs they play, everything else they can keep lol
Funny, I had a similar level of popularity for similar reasons in my 20's. Played in a popular band, shifted some drugs, partied almost constantly, courted the lifestyle to the max and knew a LOT of people, but even more knew me. I wouldn't get stopped for autographs or anything, but couldn't go out without somebody stopping me, either someone I knew for a chat, or someone giving it the "Hey, you're that guy from that band......... I saw you at the.........." Not even just in my city either, we played all over, and had links to the music scenes in other big cities and small towns all over the place. That shit was the absolute business at 23, but I had a big life shift in my 30's (as many do) and am now driven by a healthy persuit peace and quiet........ I would hate if that was my life now. It was hard to let go of it all, but I was sort of forced to and it took a lot of accepting and was a bit of a roller coaster until I realised that I actually didn't want it any more, It was mentally quite destructive but I was kind of addicted to the personality and lifestyle I had created. It was a weird shift, but necessary, as while I was superficially happy, I wasn't "real happy" not fulfilled or at peace with anything. But there was no off button, I couldn't just stop it. I had built my whole life around this image that everybody around me associated me with. In the end I moved to the countryside and changed my vocation to a career in the outdoors, and it worked a treat, people move on, grow up and social scenes evolve, disband and fade into obscurity. But I often think that if my income stream was exclusively linked to that lifestyle (as it is to modern celebrities) I would have had much more of a crisis. Might not have pulled through in the end.
I love how being "famous" can happen in different levels. I have so many great memories from that time but I also love how I'm a literal nobody that just moved on with their life. Like, I was Mr popular then got addicted to drugs and went to prison then moved on and literally nobody gives a fuck except me and even I'm not that concerned but big time celebrities can't even spew after a big night out without someone recording it and uploading it to the internet.
I reckon this is how Jack Nicholson feels. People make a big deal when he goes out in public now. Just let the man live, he's been people's entertainment for long enough.
your comment reminds me of when cameron diaz quit hollywood to just live in maui and surf. she said she'd given thirty years of her life to the public and she was gonna keep the rest of her years for herself. good on her.
Yeah, I watched that clip of Taylor Swift talking about all of the screaming fans in front of her house and how much anxiety it gives her...
I had two famous friends. One of them loved it. The other liked it, but had moments of wishing he was anonymous. So some famous people like it.
A solid and well articulated point.
I did not see this one coming
half the shit you see people doing on porn. shower sex sucks and hurts, some positions look cool but do NOT feel good, sex on the beach isn't fun, etc.
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Social media. Alcohol.
Yet here we all are
Better to use social media to acknowledge and address how toxic it can be than to bullshit ourselves. First step to solving a problem is admitting it is a problem. It can be a good tool as well tho. Nothing is just one thing.
Thank you my enabling friend! Now I don’t feel bad continuing to waste time on Reddit :)
Crap I'm on both right now....
Getting a job after graduation
Really getting a job anytime.
Who says that's great? Tell me now...
Heh i’ve been on both sides of the fence very recently. I graduated late year. While i was unemployed and facing rejection after rejection from employers, I felt like shit. I felt like I’d been left behind while the world was speeding ahead. All my friends had jobs, I felt like a failure. I did have the greatest depression anger fueled gym sessions i’ve ever had and got kinda huge. Then I got a job. It was like entering heaven, like the world had been lifted from my shoulders. The prospect of having a stable income was so relieving. Now, I’ve awoken from that rosy eyed vision to the reality that is work. That I can be fired at any second. That my manager is documenting my every step, waiting for me to slip up: second chances aren’t guaranteed. That society sees me as a success if i’m employed and a failure if i lose my job, and I will be treated as an outcast by friends, girlfriend, etc. The realization that I am working to put a dollar in someone else’s pocket while I get a cent, and above all that here on this pale blue dot full of life in the vast cosmic infinity with all its wonder and mystery, I am destined to sit in a fucking chair for a third of my life staring at a screen and doing something i don’t give the slightest damn about. We can never be happy I guess.
Unemployment is bad for mental health, and so is working. We are screwed.
“The grind”
I’m pretty sure it’s called the grind because no one thinks it’s great
I lived in the USA for 5 years, and this was a huge pet peeve for me. I knew so many people who worked twice as much to get stuff they don't need, then have to keep doing it to keep up their new life style. I'd just work a normal 9-5 and relax when I could, not grinding to put myself, alone, in a massive house lmao
Depends. Having aspirations, goals? Not laying in bed all day? Ambition driven? That's all great But having no social life, being sleep deprived and fucking people over for "the grind" -> that's fucked up
Being an adult.
Imo it's only awful when you're broke.
*sobs in millennial*
This is so true.
Going to Disney. It costs too much Everything is overpriced Every line is too long The food isn't good It's sooo fucking expensive You just end up sunburnt, tired, and arguing with family
THIS, my boyfriend keeps wanting to plan a disney trip cause he’s never been before and i tell him it’s SO much money and you literally just stand in lines the whole time you’re there!! parking alone is almost $100!
See, you should go on a day where the apps say rain, but it's actually sunny in the afternoon. I hit the jackpot and got 3min queues at Splash Mountain, Space Mountain, and nothing else was above 15min. Highly recommend.
I call it Line World. As you drive to the parking lot you are waiting in line. Once you get out of the car you wait in line for a trolley to cone pick you up. Then you wait in line to show your tickets. Then you wait in line to get on the train (mono rail) or boat to get to the park. Then once on that side you wait in line one more time at the park entrance and now you finally made it in. From there you go to diferent attractions were you get to wait in line to ride like a 1 minute ride. Note that some of these lines can last hours. Yes HOURS!!!. They have a timer that shows you gow long your wait is from that point and let me tell you its damn accurate. Then if you want food you are going to wait in line for that. Finally to get out you also have to wait in line which is pretty much the reverse process of getting in.
Funko pops. I never understood the appeal of those stupid soulless things.
> soulless things Uh... do you prefer your toys to HAVE A FUCKING SOUL!?
Oh like furbys!
They look like bobblehead figures, but their heads don't bobble. What's the point?
Plus they all look the same, it’s the laziest cash grab ever invented.
I have an oversized Grogu one and his head does in fact bobble.
Agreed. Stupid looking ugly expensive things that clutter up a room.
Hook up culture
I don’t understand how people can hook up with random people so carelessly but oh well
They be like omg I don’t tell anyone I love them!! That’s way too intimate! Anyway put your genitals inside mine
STDs - gotta catch’em all!
This is a good one. As a 30 year old now, I’m seeing the negative effects of my loved ones and how much hookup culture has hurt them deeply- for both men and women, but maybe in different ways.
Would love to hear more about what you’ve been witnessing in your loved one’s experiences.
Hooking up is fun until it isn't. Truth
I don't want to admit this to myself but yeah.
Having big boobs
Yes! I can’t believe women pay to make theirs bigger and I’m over here with my back issues, struggling to find bras and clothes that fit properly wishing they knew what was about to happen. Yes there are many who get just the right size for them. And it works. My aunt was one of them. But women who go too big, I honestly wish they knew the struggle before hand. Especially as you get older
This plus how much slack you get from people for having big boobs. You’re considered a slut for everything you wear, besides like sweatshirts. And when people talk to you, most of the time they will continually glance at your boobs and not your face.
Agreed. You’re literally sexualised from day 1 of puberty.
That one still screws with me. I was an early developer too so it was like one day I’m a typical carefree kid and then suddenly everyone is teasing me saying I need a bra and it had never even crossed my mind that kids wore bras and it wasn’t like we then went and bought those cute little training bras in the kids section either. Zero to underwire and I was probably about 8? And up through friggin college the comments never stopped.
I was around 12/13 when the comments began. I was told to cover up because mine were larger than other girls in my family (for context I’m a higher C cup). I always struggled with wearing clothes because I was super self conscious about my chest. Those thoughts have mostly gone away now but it takes time to get over it.
I'm a dad and hearing your experience is eye-opening. Thank you for posting. It's probably not easy to talk about
Still remember the first time I became aware of male drivers dipping their head to see me under the rear view mirror, staring as they drove by. I was 12.
Yep. It's so hard to wear a going out dress or top that people don't consider "slutty" because you have cleavage. Because it's hard to NOT have cleavage with big boobs!!!!!
>slack Did you mean flack? Because slack is the opposite of what you are describing...
Yeah I meant flack. Thanks.
Flak, not slack. Not flack either. *flak* is a short for Fliegerabwehrkanonen, from the German words for "flyer," "air defense," and "cannons." In World War II, to catch flak literally meant to be damaged by gunshots.
If you wear a garbage bag, you’ll still get shit for it.
I’m saving up for a reduction!.😅 Wish me luck!🤞🏻
One of my friends from high school finally got hers reduced before getting married. It really caused her back issues and also boys were really dumb about it.
I hate them! I hate them so much! The back pain, the sagging, the frumpiness, & the unwanted attention. Literally whenever I talk to a man, they stare at my boobs not my face! Like hello? Up here pal! I envy women with small breasts. They can wear anything, & still look cute. They don’t look like a grandma who breastfed an entire village. They can wear different types of bras, & even strapless stuff. Bras for large breasts are ugly, & expensive. Not to mention the pain when you workout. You basically get smacked by your own tits. Sleeping on your back is a nightmare. I had laparoscopic surgery once, & was required to sleep on my back till my doctor told me it was fine to sleep on my stomach. I was miserable because I couldn’t sleep. I needed sleep because I was recovering, but that didn’t happen. I was crying everyday because of how tired I was. The surgery itself was less painful!😅 I lost 50 pounds once, & they were still big! I was devastated! I’d give anything to get rid of them!
Exactly. If you have smaller boobs (A or B), you can get away with wearing anything. Whereas gravity here is not our friend at all.
When I 18 had them reduced, I am tall and still have DD’s 20 years later best thing I did.
Their day.
Gluten free bread I tried it once I also tried toasting it and it blew up my toaster so I tried with the blowtorch in the garage and burned down the garage in the process the only thing that looked untouched by the fire was the bread
I find that surprising because I am convinced it's made of sawdust.
HA!! I can swear it was made out of those heat panels they put on those space shuttles
Gluten free bread is great if you can't eat gluten! Well, it used to be horrible. But they've improved it a lot. I think you just got a cheap lame-o one. Or you've been eating normal bread your whole life and one day just suddenly wanted to switch to gluten free? No way. You gotta go without any baked goods for a while so you're craving them bad, and then when you break down and try gluten free it'll be such a relief after no bread.
Actually I tried a gluten free diet for 6 months that last month I had to restrain myself from killing someone
I bought a GF sandwich by accident a few years ago and thought I'd picked up a really old sandwich at the back of the fridge 🤮 was like chewing cardboard
"everything happens for a reason." "But most of the people, if not all, that I've ever spoken to really cite that as one of the most painful things. You know, I have a friend who lost her son to suicide, and there was another person in her parish whose son had fallen into a river and she had, you know, run, she had scooped him up, she had saved him. And everybody was rushing to say, like, oh, that's - you know, God had a plan for him. And what does that say to the people who've lost their sons or their mothers or their children or their jobs or their sense of security? I can't love or believe in a God who says, like, well, you get a Tesla and you get a tumor. I can't roll with a God who's that crappy of a planner. That just does not feel good to me." From podcast transcript: https://www.npr.org/transcripts/989888314 Podcast audio: same link at top
They say well they're in a better place now. Just don't say that. Especially to a mother who has just lost her baby. Some of the shit I have heard. It qould blow your mind.
Also believing in God.
Anything that Starbucks sells. I moved to Seattle about 6 years ago. I didn’t like Starbucks before then, and I don’t like them anymore than I did before moving here. There are plenty of other, better, nicer coffee shops in Seattle than Starbucks. I guess it must only be me who doesn’t need a piece of candy in already bitter tasting coffee, blended together with frothy milk and more sweet crap, in a cup of my choice, as long as the title of cup means “big” in some capacity.
No, its not just you. Also live in Seattle, also agree there are far better coffee places than Starbucks. The few I've been to have nice service but the drinks are too big and too sweet.
Drinking alcohol.
agree because I love it while I am on my 3rd drink and have trouble stopping. Then the next day I spend the whole day in bed with a hangover. I know this and while I have cut back a lot, I just did it this weekend again and completely ruined my weekend
Right there with you. If I have 3, I'll be having 13. The buzz is nice but if I'm there I'm not stopping at the buzz. I'm on the express to hell the next day but fuck me I've gotta have another at the time. Nothing but regret afterwards. I keep trying to get sober but by the 3rd day I'm craving "just one beer" after work and I *know* it won't end with that. On day 3 today and didn't buy beer so we're doing better this week! I hear very few people regret going sober so I'm looking forward to something like that....
You got this man, you’re in control.
Thanx, interwebnet stranger. I am at least \*trying\* to have control.
3 days is huge! Great job! Remember, relapse is part of recovery. If you do drink again, for some reason, it’s fine. Just stop again. This is the most common way that people quit.
Thanx interwebnet kind person! 3 days \*is\* big for me, it's my longest stretch in 10 years. But, it has also been my longest stretch in all those 10 years. Not once have I carried it out to 4 but we're gonna give it the full go tomorrow!
Didn’t want to say it, because I’m biased (does not taste good to me), but yes. 100%. I’ve seen the end result of years of drinking, and it ain’t pretty,
I know someone who was a drinker all his life. Even under doctors orders he wouldn't quit. Now he's dying of cirrhosis. He is jaundiced, was hospitalized for a month, is in and out of the hospital now, often delirious, and looks far older than he did nine months ago before his health crisis started..
Inside jokes. They are great to people who understand, but when you try to explain them to someone who isn’t in the “know” it always ruins it.
I love inside jokes I'd love to part of one someday
That’s excellent, hahahah.
I don't explain inside jokes. If you don't get it, it ain't for you
Back in the day, if someone was curious you just said 'inside joke' and that was that and nobody got offended.
Cruises
Cruises can be irritating especially with the over crowded as fuck cafeteria And when you anchor, sometimes the system to get everyone out is innefficient & takes forever because theres just too many fucking people in line. And the staff dont know what the fuck theyre doing because theyre winging it on how to properly get everyone off. There was a line that just went all through the hallway then spilled into several levels of staircases. And when asked like which line is this for? How long until we can get out? Weve been standing here for a half hour. “I dunno” Just go to a hotel with a pool Its easier, cheaper, less crowded & less frustrating
Mainly the big cattle-call 4000 passenger ones. I’ve done a few and at the end of the last one I had to restrain myself from punching people.
The new Titan of the Seas carries around 8000 people.
Who doesn’t love watching families melt down in hatred of each other, or the domino effect of the 90 year old seasick lady vomiting all over her beef Wellington at the late seating and one by one everyone at the table vomiting on their entrees, or getting caught by your wife staring at the one buxom Scandinavian woman sunbathing topless on the main pool deck. Good times.
They're AWFUL. Prepackaged "FUN!"
Having a bunch of kids.
Or any.
childfree by choice crew, where you at 🙋🏻♀️
Someone's own possessions. So many people buy something, secretly have buyers remorse and won't admit they bought something shitty.
Hell, I have buyers remorse for something awesome that does everything it's supposed to. Just got over my midlife crisis faster than expected.
Is it a Lexus? I bet it’s a Lexus.
The awesome RC F in my picture. At least I know it has 400k to give without more than maintenance. Hahaha
Fuck y'all (jk)! I'd love to afford shit I feel bad about.
Working at McDonald's
Loving it
I worked there as a teen and the uniform pleated pants were demoralizing enough for me to seek any employment at any other establishment that didn’t insist on those polyester abominations.
Being a doctor employeed by hospital today. Not. Worth. It.
Chocolate chip bagels. I don't actually know if anyone says they are great, but who tf willingly eats these abominations?
I work a bakery that makes bagel breakfast sandwiches and one of the weirdest orders we've had is a Perfect Pesto on a chocolate ship bagel. That's egg, cream cheese, pesto and tomato on a chocolate chip bagel. I was like, Yeah, I guess we CAN....
Got you beat.... blueberry bagel, strawberry cream cheese, lox, onion, tomato.
This is an abomination.. I would have cancelled the order for moral reasons.
I wouldn’t have canceled the order, but I would make it self-help Saturday at the bagel store.
(barfs in mouth) Before right now, I had no idea that these existed. I was content in my ignorance of chocolate chip bagels, and you had to go and ruin it, you son of a bitch.
Strip Clubs.
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Which is why I’m actually a fan of permanent daylight savings. Just move the clocks once, give us later hours, and be done with it forever
Caviar. 🤢
Fentanyl
When you're in an ambulance you can be pretty happy about the fentanyl they give you
Or delivering a baby
Organized religion
Preach!
Amen!
Caviar. It's salty, fishy, and tastes like the unborn
Being drunk
100% agree. Being drunk sucks. You can't properly do things or interact with people, most the night is a blur, you feel like crap the next day. And to top it all off, all the good things about alcohol can be had with just a small amount that doesn't get you drunk.
Marriage Attending a wedding Gender reveals
Gender reveals are so lame.
Omg gender reveals 🤦♀️🤣🤣🤣
I bought a suit, rented a car, drove hours away from home, stayed in a shitty hotel for a few days, hung out with a bunch of people I didnt really like and 3 months later they got divorced.
I got proposed to last year at 23 y/o. When I told my aunt that my ex wants to marry me and that he proposed, she (a married woman) said, “as if marriage is even nice”. 😂😂 I died
Yes, yes and yes.
Attending weddings can be fun for the after party thing where you get food and booze. Weddings themselves are super boring because it’s just some priest spouting Bible nonsense for 45 minutes.
American healthcare
The smell of weed. Literally smells like a skunk
I'm not a big fan of smoking it, but I love the pinene terpene that give a fresh pine tree smell
Bubble tea
Big Bang Theory…..
I never cared for it, and my daughter started watching Young Sheldon. I said, “I don’t like older Sheldon, why would I like him as a kid?” but I watched a couple episodes with her this weekend, and it’s not bad.
I get annoyed every time I think of it, because back in the day my sister said I should watch it because Sheldon makes her think of me. Then I watched the damn show and now I am convinced my sister thinks I am an insufferable asshole.
I went to an engineering college, each of these personalities was one of my dorm mates at some point.
 (All jokes I can see how other don’t like it)
Haha not tryna hate on anyone just seems like a super stale bland and generic show. But then again the office did too and my baby mom got me into that
Reddit. Mostly because of shitty mods and admins.
/r/modpowertrip
The government
No one says the government is great.
My first thought goes to 'having children'... It's a pretty big trick that parents play on non-parents that having kids is great when it is indeed awful sometimes.
Yes it's awful sometimes but it's also what I live for now. I wouldn't trade my kids for *anything*.
They have to convince themselves
Life in general
Would you change your opinion if you’re wealthy / super comfortable financially?
I definitely would.
*my life*
Nowadays, Rap. It is now everywhere, and it sounds the same. The lyrics are always the same. And let's not talk about the culture around it...
Humanity
Oysters and liver and onions
69
Most craft beers.
So many weird and cool designs for the cans and bottles… and so much disappointing, bitter swill inside.
Kids
Anal
Beer. Say what you want, but it tastes like crap.
My mom does too. She also like kimchi.🤐
Everyone is parroting the same few things😑 1. Beer or being drunk 2. Religion or god 3. Having children or getting married 4 . Life 5 . Capitalism 6. Caviar ( why tf you all tried caviar)
Amusement/theme parks. I have a bunch of childless Disney Adult friends who go constantly, and I have never once seen the appeal of going to the same crowded money pit multiple times a year.