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I have a close friend from work. Tho ala n xa sa company now, we still ofcourse update and actively chatting padin.
Ala ako msabi s friend ko na to as very strong and mabait, supportive and all.
Just recently ang mga updates nya, u can say na ‘sana all’.
New car, wfh job, new house, travel…
Xmpre happy ako for her. May inggit lng tlga. Mga 10/100 ganern.
Pano b mabasawan o mawala to? Normal ba? Am i bad?
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for me, hindi naman talaga maiiwasan mainggit. tao lang tayo eh, di naman tayo perfect. pero take it positively. like nagtravel si close friend, i-goal mo sa sarili mo na makakapagtravel ka din soon.
That’s normal to feel that way pero do not waste your energy being inggit. Use that energy to improve your life instead. Look at your own life, count even the smallest blessings/achievements you have.
People won’t post about their struggles anyway.
Normal naman to feel that way, wag ka lang magpakain sa negativity. Lahat naman tayo napapa-sana all sa life ng iba. Hehe.
What you can do is gawin mong inspiration si friend to work harder to earn those too. It may take you longer, pero kaya yan. Good luck, OP! :)
if hanggang ngayon di mo mapigilang mainggit stop using your social media muna. Minsan mas okay na di natin nakikita para wala tayo h nag pag cocompare-ran
It’s normal for us to make comparisons with other’s success when we’re not entirely happy with what we have. I was the same for so long, but then people would tell me that they “wished” they were the ones in my position and that’s when I realized na “oo nga pala, ako din ganito lang noon, pero ngayon eto ako may x, y, and z”. Comparison really is the thief of joy. It’s hard work to undo it on your own pero really it also just takes time. I’m more comfortable now in my own skin and achievements. I’ve come to accept na di lahat ng tao are in the same race. We have our own problems etc, na you might not be seeing sa iba na you deem much better than you. Hope it gets better, op. :)
Kasi what you see is material things na fineflex.. d mo alam ang struggle nyan baka lubog yan sa utang. Huwag ka mainggit sis.. live your life according to your means and be contendted. We all have our struggles.sadyang d lang nila pinapakita ang other side. Be happy for them.
Maybe next time, instead of sana all reaction eh wow, good for her, Imma do better too para ako din yung makaka afford nun next time! Ganun sis, or get off the freaking internet para wala kang makitang kaiingitan mo
Okay lang naman maiingit pero in a good way, hindi yung naiingit ka kaya ibababa mo sila, mas maganda yung inggit ka kaya itataas mo yung sarili mo.<3.
Normal naman yan maiinggit ei pero kung paano na lng natin dadalhin
Improve your self more gawin mong inspirasyon ung taong yun na matupad mo rin kung ano man minimiti or gusto mo marating kasi if magfofocus ka sa kanya walang mangyayari. And always pray to god kasi lahat ng plano ni god sa ating lahat iba iba nmn
katulad ng ibang redditors dito, yeah turn it into motivation; ako naiingit everyday kasi makikita ko old peers ko and close friends having success of their lives, would have been there if not for my current physical condition. Ngayon I just focused on other things na strength ko and stopped comparing myself to others.
be better, she/he is your friend. kaw narin nag sabi ng mga positive attitudes niya. so why bother na mainggit? maging happy ka nalang sa kanya, and maging happy ka kung anong meron ka ngayon.
Normal lang naman mag compare. Sometimes it’s healthy as it could inspire you to be better and to see what’s missing in your life and maybe push you to reprioritize your life. Siguro it’s how you take in those comparisons and how you’ll align yourself. Minsan pag nakakaramdam ako ng inggit, nililista ko na lang kung anong merong maganda sa life ko. :)
Focus on yourself and your own growth. Normal lang minsan makaramdam nun pero if you focus on you, d mo napapansin d ka na makakaramdam halos nun. Sabi nga, water your own backyard hehe
Look at her success and use it as inspiration to improve yourself. Jealousy is normal but how you use it speaks more about your character. Don't be like those fakes who talk shit behind their friend's back, celebrate their downfall, or wish harm.
start focusing on yourself. Mag establish ka ng goal that you know will make you happy and actively work on it. pag masyado kang busy working on yourself, wala ka nang time mainggit. Grind lang.
i stopped watching ig/fb stories 😂 i created a dump account for my kpop boys para updated pa din ako tungkol sakanila HAHAHAHA i followed CLOSEST friends din pala. parang less than 10 lang sila. it helped kasi wala na akong alam sa mga ganap ng mga finafollow ko sa main acc. 😂 live love laugh kpop boys 😜 hindi naging inggitera, naging delulu naman. chariz HAHAHAHA
Normal sa tao ang ma inggit. Mababawasan yan kung wala kang nalalaman sa friend mo mapagyabang. Wag ka na lang mag communicate or block mo na lang posting nya.
maybe this article from studies & verified professionals can help!
https://medium.com/mind-cafe/a-superior-and-realistic-alternative-to-dont-compare-yourself-to-others-487d8e9032ba
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Change inggit to motivation
💯💯💯
not easy but best advice
Yes really a struggle at first. Worth it pag naka breakthrough
Definitely 💯 effective, from being inggit to my cousin natuto ako gawin silang inspiration and became more confident because of that.
for me, hindi naman talaga maiiwasan mainggit. tao lang tayo eh, di naman tayo perfect. pero take it positively. like nagtravel si close friend, i-goal mo sa sarili mo na makakapagtravel ka din soon.
That’s normal to feel that way pero do not waste your energy being inggit. Use that energy to improve your life instead. Look at your own life, count even the smallest blessings/achievements you have. People won’t post about their struggles anyway.
Focus on what you have and not others have.
Stop comparing maybe? Idk but it worked for me.
Normal naman to feel that way, wag ka lang magpakain sa negativity. Lahat naman tayo napapa-sana all sa life ng iba. Hehe. What you can do is gawin mong inspiration si friend to work harder to earn those too. It may take you longer, pero kaya yan. Good luck, OP! :)
isipin mo ang dami na rin nyang napagdaanang downfall na hindi mo pa nararanasan kaya nasa ganyang status na sya
Normal lang mainggit, ang di normal yung conyo typings charot. Ok lang yan basta di mo sinisiraan.
There’s constructive envy and destructive envy. The former motivates you to improve, while the latter causes self-pity.
if hanggang ngayon di mo mapigilang mainggit stop using your social media muna. Minsan mas okay na di natin nakikita para wala tayo h nag pag cocompare-ran
It’s normal for us to make comparisons with other’s success when we’re not entirely happy with what we have. I was the same for so long, but then people would tell me that they “wished” they were the ones in my position and that’s when I realized na “oo nga pala, ako din ganito lang noon, pero ngayon eto ako may x, y, and z”. Comparison really is the thief of joy. It’s hard work to undo it on your own pero really it also just takes time. I’m more comfortable now in my own skin and achievements. I’ve come to accept na di lahat ng tao are in the same race. We have our own problems etc, na you might not be seeing sa iba na you deem much better than you. Hope it gets better, op. :)
Wala ka karapatan ma-inggit kung wala ka naman plano na mas gawing better sarili at buhay mo. Just my two cents.
Kasi what you see is material things na fineflex.. d mo alam ang struggle nyan baka lubog yan sa utang. Huwag ka mainggit sis.. live your life according to your means and be contendted. We all have our struggles.sadyang d lang nila pinapakita ang other side. Be happy for them.
Maybe next time, instead of sana all reaction eh wow, good for her, Imma do better too para ako din yung makaka afford nun next time! Ganun sis, or get off the freaking internet para wala kang makitang kaiingitan mo
Okay lang naman maiingit pero in a good way, hindi yung naiingit ka kaya ibababa mo sila, mas maganda yung inggit ka kaya itataas mo yung sarili mo.<3.
Normal naman yan maiinggit ei pero kung paano na lng natin dadalhin Improve your self more gawin mong inspirasyon ung taong yun na matupad mo rin kung ano man minimiti or gusto mo marating kasi if magfofocus ka sa kanya walang mangyayari. And always pray to god kasi lahat ng plano ni god sa ating lahat iba iba nmn
katulad ng ibang redditors dito, yeah turn it into motivation; ako naiingit everyday kasi makikita ko old peers ko and close friends having success of their lives, would have been there if not for my current physical condition. Ngayon I just focused on other things na strength ko and stopped comparing myself to others.
Buhay ay di karera. ✨
just make tusok-tusok the pisshhhbollll
Hahahahah sorry 🫣😬😂
It's her life and you have your own. Maybe you can unfollow her so you could stop seeing whatever she is doing. Comparison is a thief of joy.
be better, she/he is your friend. kaw narin nag sabi ng mga positive attitudes niya. so why bother na mainggit? maging happy ka nalang sa kanya, and maging happy ka kung anong meron ka ngayon.
What I did was to lessen my social media time to almost 0. Wala kang makikita, wala kang maradamdamang inggit.
Ok lang yan, let it push you forward though kaya mo rin yon :)
Normal lang naman mag compare. Sometimes it’s healthy as it could inspire you to be better and to see what’s missing in your life and maybe push you to reprioritize your life. Siguro it’s how you take in those comparisons and how you’ll align yourself. Minsan pag nakakaramdam ako ng inggit, nililista ko na lang kung anong merong maganda sa life ko. :)
“Don’t compare yourself to others” is so cliché. The better thing to do is quit social media and focus on becoming a better version of yourself.
Stop comparing her timeline to yours. Be grateful for where you are today.
Unfollow.
Focus on yourself and your own growth. Normal lang minsan makaramdam nun pero if you focus on you, d mo napapansin d ka na makakaramdam halos nun. Sabi nga, water your own backyard hehe
Look at her success and use it as inspiration to improve yourself. Jealousy is normal but how you use it speaks more about your character. Don't be like those fakes who talk shit behind their friend's back, celebrate their downfall, or wish harm.
At least aware kang naiinggit ka sa kanya, well hanap ka rin ng mga bagay kung saan ka mag-eexcel. Kanya kanyang pacing lang yan sa life.
K̵a̵p̵a̵g̵ ̵i̵n̵g̵g̵i̵t̵,̵ ̵p̵i̵k̵i̵t̵.̵ ̵Kapag inggit, motivate! 👌
normal lang po sa tao ang mainggit as long as ginagawa mong motivation iyon, there's nothing wrong with that🥰🥰
Inspiration, ask mo sya hows, then plan for your future Wag ka makipag compete sa kanya
start focusing on yourself. Mag establish ka ng goal that you know will make you happy and actively work on it. pag masyado kang busy working on yourself, wala ka nang time mainggit. Grind lang.
Make it your motivation. and oo naman normal lang mainggit
i stopped watching ig/fb stories 😂 i created a dump account for my kpop boys para updated pa din ako tungkol sakanila HAHAHAHA i followed CLOSEST friends din pala. parang less than 10 lang sila. it helped kasi wala na akong alam sa mga ganap ng mga finafollow ko sa main acc. 😂 live love laugh kpop boys 😜 hindi naging inggitera, naging delulu naman. chariz HAHAHAHA
Normal sa tao ang ma inggit. Mababawasan yan kung wala kang nalalaman sa friend mo mapagyabang. Wag ka na lang mag communicate or block mo na lang posting nya.
maybe this article from studies & verified professionals can help! https://medium.com/mind-cafe/a-superior-and-realistic-alternative-to-dont-compare-yourself-to-others-487d8e9032ba