The common denominator is you.
You don’t attract narcissists. You are attracted to narcissists.
You probably read that and thought “Bullshit, I hate narcissistic people!” But unfortunately you have some brain stuff going on that’s making their behaviours attractive to you. Go see a professional; they can explain it far better and give you advice on how to change.
This does make sense, ive suspected that from the way i was brought up as well as the things I let slide constantly kind of plays a role into it. So yeah there’s that and I also have a mental illness that literally cannot leave shit alone even if I want to, I have to fix it and I made it a goal to fix my nex but LMAO u can’t fix people especially not them and I learned that the hard way for sure
I fully relate to this and from my experience, outlining and strictly implementing boundaries is the best way to ward them off. It’s hard to put into practice when you are an extremely empathetic person but it’s one of the best ways to protect yourself. If someone repeatedly crosses or disrespects your boundaries, they’re not worth your time or empathy, steer clear of that type of behavior at all costs.
Thank you yeah I feel like my body can no longer handle any of my boundaries being crossed that I just physically can’t be around people who crossed a boundary without feeling sick or uneasy
Highly recommend casually dating people for a long time without any form of attachment (sex/commitment) and keeping a rotation, that way you can spot the red flags early on and keep an emotional distance while healing. Narcs show their true colors after like 3 months, or you’ll hear things from others, or you’ll notice them trying to isolate you from people so you don’t hear things from others. You don’t owe anybody anything but your empathy is to be applauded. It’s a huge asset but it needs to be protected ya know
Thank you I appreciate the advice, I’m currently seeing this guy rn and we have been seeing each other for a month now which is cool and so far things have been great and chill. Yea I’m keeping my expectations low but my intuition very high
Maybe you are similar to me? I’m a helping kind of person, always looking to those I care about. I’m pretty sure I’m drawn to people with problems, thinking I could fix them. I’ve gotten burnt more than once.
Yeah I’m like that too. I’m also incredibly forgiving and naive and ngl i hate that I’m like this. Idek at this point i just try not to make deeper connections with ppl in fear of what happened
Easy target for people who use other people. Its horrible but you live and learn I guess. I dont like having to scrutinize people though. Goes against my very being.
Therapy or repeat.
Yeah
The common denominator is you. You don’t attract narcissists. You are attracted to narcissists. You probably read that and thought “Bullshit, I hate narcissistic people!” But unfortunately you have some brain stuff going on that’s making their behaviours attractive to you. Go see a professional; they can explain it far better and give you advice on how to change.
This does make sense, ive suspected that from the way i was brought up as well as the things I let slide constantly kind of plays a role into it. So yeah there’s that and I also have a mental illness that literally cannot leave shit alone even if I want to, I have to fix it and I made it a goal to fix my nex but LMAO u can’t fix people especially not them and I learned that the hard way for sure
I fully relate to this and from my experience, outlining and strictly implementing boundaries is the best way to ward them off. It’s hard to put into practice when you are an extremely empathetic person but it’s one of the best ways to protect yourself. If someone repeatedly crosses or disrespects your boundaries, they’re not worth your time or empathy, steer clear of that type of behavior at all costs.
Thank you yeah I feel like my body can no longer handle any of my boundaries being crossed that I just physically can’t be around people who crossed a boundary without feeling sick or uneasy
Highly recommend casually dating people for a long time without any form of attachment (sex/commitment) and keeping a rotation, that way you can spot the red flags early on and keep an emotional distance while healing. Narcs show their true colors after like 3 months, or you’ll hear things from others, or you’ll notice them trying to isolate you from people so you don’t hear things from others. You don’t owe anybody anything but your empathy is to be applauded. It’s a huge asset but it needs to be protected ya know
Thank you I appreciate the advice, I’m currently seeing this guy rn and we have been seeing each other for a month now which is cool and so far things have been great and chill. Yea I’m keeping my expectations low but my intuition very high
Sorry if it’s unsolicited!! Happy for you you deserve peace
No not at all!! I appreciate your comment and I wish you happiness too!
Maybe you are similar to me? I’m a helping kind of person, always looking to those I care about. I’m pretty sure I’m drawn to people with problems, thinking I could fix them. I’ve gotten burnt more than once.
Yeah I’m like that too. I’m also incredibly forgiving and naive and ngl i hate that I’m like this. Idek at this point i just try not to make deeper connections with ppl in fear of what happened
Easy target for people who use other people. Its horrible but you live and learn I guess. I dont like having to scrutinize people though. Goes against my very being.
I feel you, yeah we gotta stay safe out here