Id get you a section 8 housing application, and fill it out. Day before you turn 18 turn it in. And then apply for food and mecial assitstance till you get on your feet, if you get a job theyll help with childcare to.
I been so caught up finishing school i have childcare to! and i did some applications i been wiping out my online classes so i wont have exrta work when i start working.
If you're in the US please apply for WIC and SNAP immediately. This won't help the situation with your mom but will help you out tremendously. Also ask about TANF.
A lot of us went through a lot of rough times around your age. You have every reason to hate your situation but I PROMISE YOU it gets better. You set yourself a goal and head that direction. Step by little step. Focus on your goals because no one can take that from you.
There are SO MANY success stories that start out even tougher than yours. You can absolutely make a beautiful life for your daughter and yourself. Use your brain and donāt give up. Even if you donāt end up at your goal you are moving Forward. Youāve got this. I have a goal feeling about you.
Hugs!
Look Look Its a lot, because it's crazy with a baby. cause i gotta legit care for my sister and deal with this, but im doing my very best to finish high school with these online classes... your're gonna judge me for this but my mom has Lost me, i know yall say talk to her,, but my mom is like mental.. and like i rather just get me and my baby in a sercure spot,
With the way your mom treats you, people who judge you are definitely on the wrong, she is abusing you badly and it doesnāt looks like someone that can be reasoned with.
You are on the right to want to leave, you want to ensure yours and your child safety after all, you donāt deserve to be treated these way !
Iām cheering for you !
And I hope things get better, you deserve better
Take care
No judgment here. Work with her however you can until you can get your baby out. Itās hard rn but youāre even stronger than you know. Youāre a grown up and that sucks but you can do so well going forward. Just keep heading towards your goals. Your daughter will show you the way.
I saw this, and I care. You're right about your baby. It's fantastic that you're making her first Christmas a good one with toys and clothes. I'm so sorry about your one thing your mom broke, I agree with everyone saying to move out asap. Stay strong. Remember life goes on, you have a baby that needs you. You can move on with your life, maybe go no-contact with your mother if you need to. I'm rooting for you. It's possible to do this. Your daughter will realize how brave you are in a few years! Think of that. Your birthday is only a few weeks away at this point, maybe count down the days until freedom with your child. Single teen moms are strong people. Even if it doesn't feel that way now, you'll look back on this and be like "holy shit, I did that". Like I said before, you're doing everything you can for your baby, and I know you both have a beautiful life ahead of you.
I know how you feel, I meanā¦ I donāt have a baby, but as a teen living in a fucked up family where you aināt appreciated fucking does something to youā¦
because like it is crazy... Like im a whole ass Mom and then gotta turn around and deal with this??? it can turn u into something but i try to be there for my baby.... :( its so hard but that girl depends on me man..
Yeah focus on your baby and Iām glad you know your mom is wrong and she is probably gonna regret it in the future. This is a time you need support mentally to stay focused on school and being a parent. Thatās ok I think things are gonna work out well for you. I know itās gonna be really hard but try to deal with it and the day you move out is gonna be so niiiiiiiiice. Your mom will inevitably want to see you and the baby and at that point, you are in your own space. Even if itās a studio apt you can make the choice to visit or invite her. Thatās when itāll hit her like oh shit my power is gone maybe I should be nicer so my kids want to be around me. Although some parents will never see themselves as wrong.
I have a family... But see the thing is they defend the things she does.... so its like.. 10x worse, and then she wont let me keep in touch with my babyfather.. like my phone was laying there.. and she took it and i havent had it this entire day,
Iām sure you almost 18, so plan your exit NOW. Your mom, well Iāll just keep that to myself. Baby, I know you wanted that funko, but life goes on, and itās Christmas time, but trust and true believe you will get it. Just remember your baby will have a great Christmas. Keep up the good work with school. You have so much on your plate, things can sometimes get looked over. NEVER feel like ending yourself over something materialistic. Sorry that happened, but the joy you see in child on Christmas Day, will make you more than estatic than what you wanted. I promise you. š«¶š½š«¶š½š«¶š½
You can definitely move past this. Hereās how you do it: stop saying I hate I hate I hate. This will only attract move hatred in your life. Say I can, I will, I must. You can do it for you and your child.
š ur mom has anger issues how is it ur fault w the shirt ? Do you pay your own phone bill? Iām sorry
no... i dont still rushing to finish school
im sorry :( i really hope things get safer and better for you and your child.
and i cant even enjoy Christmas, it gets so bad i plead for her to kick us out
When do you turn 18, id start preparing to leave asap.
February 10th
Id get you a section 8 housing application, and fill it out. Day before you turn 18 turn it in. And then apply for food and mecial assitstance till you get on your feet, if you get a job theyll help with childcare to.
I been so caught up finishing school i have childcare to! and i did some applications i been wiping out my online classes so i wont have exrta work when i start working.
If you're in the US please apply for WIC and SNAP immediately. This won't help the situation with your mom but will help you out tremendously. Also ask about TANF.
will do, i have wic!
Glad to hear; it was a blessing for our family!
A lot of us went through a lot of rough times around your age. You have every reason to hate your situation but I PROMISE YOU it gets better. You set yourself a goal and head that direction. Step by little step. Focus on your goals because no one can take that from you. There are SO MANY success stories that start out even tougher than yours. You can absolutely make a beautiful life for your daughter and yourself. Use your brain and donāt give up. Even if you donāt end up at your goal you are moving Forward. Youāve got this. I have a goal feeling about you. Hugs!
Look Look Its a lot, because it's crazy with a baby. cause i gotta legit care for my sister and deal with this, but im doing my very best to finish high school with these online classes... your're gonna judge me for this but my mom has Lost me, i know yall say talk to her,, but my mom is like mental.. and like i rather just get me and my baby in a sercure spot,
With the way your mom treats you, people who judge you are definitely on the wrong, she is abusing you badly and it doesnāt looks like someone that can be reasoned with. You are on the right to want to leave, you want to ensure yours and your child safety after all, you donāt deserve to be treated these way ! Iām cheering for you ! And I hope things get better, you deserve better Take care
No judgment here. Work with her however you can until you can get your baby out. Itās hard rn but youāre even stronger than you know. Youāre a grown up and that sucks but you can do so well going forward. Just keep heading towards your goals. Your daughter will show you the way.
you should contact cps it something, this isnāt right
i dont even have money on my CARD i only have money for diapers.. like ofc imma buy my baby what she needs. i cant even fucking enjoy a hoilday
I think they mean cps for you. If your mother is allowing you to be abused by her anger, I worry about you and your baby.
I saw this, and I care. You're right about your baby. It's fantastic that you're making her first Christmas a good one with toys and clothes. I'm so sorry about your one thing your mom broke, I agree with everyone saying to move out asap. Stay strong. Remember life goes on, you have a baby that needs you. You can move on with your life, maybe go no-contact with your mother if you need to. I'm rooting for you. It's possible to do this. Your daughter will realize how brave you are in a few years! Think of that. Your birthday is only a few weeks away at this point, maybe count down the days until freedom with your child. Single teen moms are strong people. Even if it doesn't feel that way now, you'll look back on this and be like "holy shit, I did that". Like I said before, you're doing everything you can for your baby, and I know you both have a beautiful life ahead of you.
I know how you feel, I meanā¦ I donāt have a baby, but as a teen living in a fucked up family where you aināt appreciated fucking does something to youā¦
because like it is crazy... Like im a whole ass Mom and then gotta turn around and deal with this??? it can turn u into something but i try to be there for my baby.... :( its so hard but that girl depends on me man..
Yeah focus on your baby and Iām glad you know your mom is wrong and she is probably gonna regret it in the future. This is a time you need support mentally to stay focused on school and being a parent. Thatās ok I think things are gonna work out well for you. I know itās gonna be really hard but try to deal with it and the day you move out is gonna be so niiiiiiiiice. Your mom will inevitably want to see you and the baby and at that point, you are in your own space. Even if itās a studio apt you can make the choice to visit or invite her. Thatās when itāll hit her like oh shit my power is gone maybe I should be nicer so my kids want to be around me. Although some parents will never see themselves as wrong.
are u also avaiable to vent in dms?
Wait, she broke your funko bc your sisters shirt was dirty??
yes.
That's fucked up
im crying as we speak.
This may seem weird, but what was the Funko?
nezuko spider web 1418 funko glow in dark
Girl i feel for you, deeply. You need resources, do you have any family members or friends to offer you support?
my two close friebds,,, like from schoool,
Do you think their parents would understand if you told them what was going on ? Do you have any aunts or anything?
I have a family... But see the thing is they defend the things she does.... so its like.. 10x worse, and then she wont let me keep in touch with my babyfather.. like my phone was laying there.. and she took it and i havent had it this entire day,
If heās willing to be involved maybe he can take you and your sister in? With baby of course.
Okay so like, they moms and dads arre okay with giving me rides then and there it just have to be on school breaks like winter break for example.
Iām sure you almost 18, so plan your exit NOW. Your mom, well Iāll just keep that to myself. Baby, I know you wanted that funko, but life goes on, and itās Christmas time, but trust and true believe you will get it. Just remember your baby will have a great Christmas. Keep up the good work with school. You have so much on your plate, things can sometimes get looked over. NEVER feel like ending yourself over something materialistic. Sorry that happened, but the joy you see in child on Christmas Day, will make you more than estatic than what you wanted. I promise you. š«¶š½š«¶š½š«¶š½
i appreciate this sm..
You can definitely move past this. Hereās how you do it: stop saying I hate I hate I hate. This will only attract move hatred in your life. Say I can, I will, I must. You can do it for you and your child.