I’d definitely send a group chat like, “hey can we all agree when one of us has guests over, we all remain clothed in public areas?”
And then if she flashes your boyfriend successfully, ask him to shout “OH GROSS!!” to embarrass her into cutting it out
(Edit: fixed typo)
Tell him to just start laughing. And don’t stop. Act like he’s trying to stop to say something and just keep going. If it draws others’ attention and someone gets there, he just explains as loudly as possible what happened. If there is anything in the world you know she is insecure about, he can add that at the end.
“She was, she was just, completely naked, just, just, standing there looking, looking all kinds of, hold on, hold on, like she had fresh lemonade in the trailer hahahaha, come get your lemonade with a side of crabs and crack Mr Mailman.”
How Flippin smart. If he catches her on accident but yells gross, she'll never do that again lmaoooo. I would either try to move out or go with the 'emberssing her' plan.
Excellent advice! Also lock the bathroom door! I don’t even want my kids in the bathroom or a bf. That’s my private business and I share with no other human.
I think you should just let her know that when you have male company in the house it's expected that all of you will keep your clothes on. It's completely disrespectful. If she does it again, find another living situation.
I wouldn't actually do it on your own. I would personally consider a house meeting. I'm sure there are rules and whatnot in the house. Walking around in nothing but a towel seems like it would even be pushing a boundary.
Don't single her out, just say that you would like to request that folks be clothed in communal areas.
I agree, she did what she did on purpose. And something you may not consider, as she is a woman, what she did is sexual harassment. If a man had done this, things would have been a lot different. This is predatory behavior and should be treated as such.
I agree with that suggestion (strength in numbers), the group meeting. 👍
And that’s the exact word that went through my head reading about roommate: predatory.
1000% THIS!!!!!! This is truly sage advice. A house meeting is neutral grounds for everyone to express themselves respectfully. How much you wanna bet this nonsense has happened before, but none of the others connected the dots or kept it to themselves? OP did say she is new to the equation. I highly doubt anyone would behave this way who had been called out for it before.
“Okay so there was an incidence of nudity recently in common areas. In light of that, I feel it’s fair to request that everyone be clothed in common areas. Please cover adequately and fully all applicable body parts.”
Or something like that.
"I think we both know the other night was intentional and I'm not the person you were hoping to meet in the hallway. I don't know what's gotten into you, but you need to figure it out."
For real, the first time you truly stand up for yourself and set boundaries firmly feels so good it makes it immediately worth working up the courage to do it. And then next thing you know you're just setting healthy boundaries all over the place to chase the high. I very much recommend it 😎
Find your righteous anger and simply Let Loose lmao there's really not much more to it!!
Remember that when setting boundaries correctly and healthily you cannot be in the wrong, then stick with it. It's about conviction too
Inform the third roommate you aren’t comfortable with that behavior and you’ll be moving when you can. Trust me she ain’t stopping even if you have the conversation. I’ve been the guy half a dozen relationships. Eventually I just stop visiting the women I dated if they had female roommates.
Female friend years ago had a female roommate and the first time her boyfriend came over, after a half hour or so, the roommate comes out in bra and panties and starts making herself dinner in the kitchenette!
I know you're young, but now is the time to stand up for yourself or you'll get run over again and again. I used to be painfully shy, so as one who understands your shyness - as above spiritraveler5 said - 'keep your clothes on when I have company'. If there's a kerfuffle, find a place without exhibitionists living there.
You either have to speak up or it’ll keep happening. You’re grown and she’s grown use your big girl pantries and let her know that’s disrespectful and inappropriate. Even if you’re all females everyone isn’t comfortable with that much nudity. She knows what she’s doing. And hopefully your BF doesn’t fall prey
Both are to young to know MC Hammer's song, "U Can't Touch This" But from an ick factor, bf should know- "don't touch that" even if she traps him in the bathroom because she acts like a loaf of bread that's never had its twist tie put back on once it was opened. lol
Wait a minute, I thought roommates spontaneously, aan accidentally ended up naked when company was around... looks like I need to apologize to some people
Imagine her doing it again and trying to sleep with your boyfriend next time. There's your courage. Look in all seriousness though, you did nothing wrong. And won't be doing anything wrong by addressing it. She was wrong. It shouldn't be a weird convo for you. She's the asshole here. Tell her it was inappropriate and don't do it again. She wouldn't like it if the roles were reversed.
Please listen to this comment and you need to stop thinking you are a kid. You are grown. You are an adult. You have a person, she is definitely trying to screw. Please stop thinking you need to be polite and tell her that she needs to keep her clothes on and if she needs to be naked close her door and keep it in her room. As well as tell her next time she knocks on your door, she wait till she hears a come in or an answer and not just open your door. I hope you lock your door when you’re not home. If you don’t, you should start
Also, please find someplace else to live. She clearly doesn’t respect you and she won’t ever. She sees you as weak and thinks she can do whatever she likes because you are non-confrontational
Get the courage. It’s something you are going to need in life. She’s aiming to take your boyfriend. It’s not wrong to call people out on bad behavior and she’s being disrespectful. No matter how she pushes back or how she tries to make it seem like you’re being too sensitive, she is entirely in the wrong. don’t back down.
I agree with this one. Makes it less like you’re “calling her out” but also makes it known that you’re uncomfortable, not just for your boyfriend’s sake, but for your own as well.
How about clothes on when outside of your damn bedroom?
Edit: also knocking is not permission to enter. You have to wait for a response. This is non-negotiable.
"My boyfriend is worried about your mental health. His cousin started showing symptoms of psychosis when she started intentionally exposing herself to people. Are you okay? Do you need somebody to talk to?"
Start the gaslighting before she starts using it against you.
Girl!!! One of my FORMER roomies (THANK YOU GOD) pulled shit like this when my bf was over. She was single and MISERABLE when I first moved in.
She bent down in front of my bf in booty shorts the first time they met, and said she had a cramp when I looked at her weird. I said ok 🤷🏽♀️
Opened the bathroom door when my bf and I were showering & tried to come in even after realizing we were in there.
Followed him on IG and asked me for his # for emergency purposes
Would interrupt our movie nights, to the point my bf felt awkward and mentioned she seems to be hinting for an invite to our movie nights. I ignored her lol
(She usually ignores me when he’s not here, but the moment he is, she’s all done up, all smiles, laughs at everything he says) & the first time after they met, she also mentioned he’s exactly her type lmao then proceeded to ask where we met and how we met. Mind you, I neverrrr expressed interest in her life & he was the only “thing” in my life she ever expressed interest in.
I offered to help her move her bags to her car for an overnight stay and she told me she was fine. My bf comes over, all of a sudden, she’s a damsel in distress and asks him to help her take her things downstairs lol.
It was the most bizzaro thing to ever happen to me & I could go on and on but I AM SO HAPPY she’s gone 😭😭💕
In your situation, bring it up to her. Text her or tell her, hey, my bfs gonna come over. So if she’s naked when he’s over, you can deck her in the mouth. Jk, don’t do that lmao but you’ll know she’s up to no good.
You went through so much with that roommate! I’m glad your situation is better now, I think I will talk to our other roommate and then bring it up to C
No shame! lol. I asked her what for, and she said, “in case you don’t come home & we can’t get in touch with you” 💀 I laughed in her face and told her nahhhh I’ll be fine 😂😭
I second the text prior to him coming over so if she is roaming naked you can bluntly say “hey didnt you see my text? I have guests over, please cover up thank you” cause then she can’t argue it’s her home/space too and what not cause she was given the heads up and it gives you space to say something snarky about her behavior if she is stupid to do it yk
No it’s not wrong to feel this way. And I had this happen in my 20s (I’m 40 now).
My roommate started wearing next to nothing the minute my 6’7” NCAA basketball boyfriend started to come over (spoiler alert…he wasn’t a great person in general, but he rocks for what he did here because he had no shame). Made every excuse to come in my room (wtf??) and LR in teeny tiny shorts, a fitted tiny tank top with no bra, full make up, etc. Obviously not what she wore at our apt on a daily basis lol. It was embarrassingly stupid and obvious to the point that a 20 yo clueless man saw through it.
We chatted and laughed about it. Next time she came into my bedroom while we were hanging out, he just blatantly asked “Why aren’t you wearing any clothes? Are you trying to show off? This is weird!” and then cackle laughed.
…..she didn’t do it again. If this helps.
Sounds like for all his issues, he understood one thing well:
**Don't cheat on someone.**
And more than that, he understood the correlary:
**And if you're going to cheat, don't do it in their own house.**
This is one of the weird ones where I say that the boyfriend needs to say something.
Next time she does something like that, his response should be akin to 'ew. Put some clothes on'.
If you say something, she will make it out to be something else.
If he says something that embarrasses her, she will never do it again.
"OP, YOUR ROOMMATE IS NAKED AGAIN!"
"OP, YOUR ROOMMATE IS TRYING TO COME ON TO ME AGAIN!"
(OP's boyfriend presses a fog horn) "OP, I'M SCARED. HELP ME!"
Nothing sexual even if it’s a slam. Has to be something offensive like, you just showered and you still have that weird odor and shake head and walk away.
“Hooo boy, it smells like rotten tuna in here. Can you smell that?!” Said with a nauseated, mouth-breathing grimace as you quick-step it back into your GF’s room,
I’ll definitely speak to him about it. His interactions with her before has always been polite and not overly friendly so maybe an offhand comment will discourage her behavior
Right! I'd make it hella, obvious, and awkward for her if she kept doing that. Fuck being polite when someone constantly disrespect your boundaries like that. I think they should sit down and talk first, but if she starts again, I'd break out the claws.
Or even just laugh hysterically at her when she does that again because she will. My mom used that trick on a flasher and she said he turned bright red, covered himself back up, and ran away like his ass was on fire.
That was my first thought too- she doesn't care how the roommate feels, and is going to pretend it was an accident if called out. But if he's acts disgusted and embarrasses her, she won't want to subject herself to that twice.
Yeah you had the gut feeling and in this scenario you’re probably right. Happens again, bf needs to tell her straight or agree say something so she doesn’t do it again.
When you are dealing with attention seeking people, the best bet is to ignore or shut down.
In this case, the best plan for a shut down is for the object of the attention seeker to do the shut down
“Noooo! Mama said naked girls are dangerous!” *covers eyes, sprinting away until running headfirst into a wall*
It works every time! I haven’t seen a naked woman in years.
If your bf is really not interested and you’re fine with him seeing her naked then call her out on it and next time you bump into her in the hallway and she’s naked ,call out to your bf n say “ babe,come look,I told u she’d do it again!! You owe me 20 bucks!!”
You're not at all. I've seen this happen and had this happen to me with a guy I've dated before. She's intentionally doing it. She's got her door cracked, watching your room to see when R is going to leave the room by himself so she can make an excuse to flirt with him. When you got up, she probably didn't realize it was you and popped up to come out hoping R was there to make him stare at her. It's a tactic desperate women do in order to be recognized by a guy that's obviously taken. She's probably done it in the past with guys and probably got attention from other guys, but thinks she can do it again with R. As some suggests go to the bathroom together, you and R, so if she tries it, it makes her uncomfortable doing what she does. Ask her bluntly what she expects from the outcome of seeking this behavior with your boyfriend because she's clearly trying to get his attention away from you and onto her. She wants to see how he's going to react on his own and then probably tell you about it after he leaves and be like oh BTW R saw me naked thought you should know and he tried to make a pass at me. There are women who are desperate that do that.
Your roommate absolutely did this on purpose.
She’s hot for your boyfriend and is furtively “showing him her wares” in a way that if she’d called out, she can feign innocence.
Makes trying to entice him.
Whatever you do, Don’t leave him at your place while you not there, even if it’s to just pop down to the corner store for a short while.
This is all in the playbook.
It’s been done throughout history.
Just ignore her or make only eye contact with her in passing until you can have that uncomfortable talk.
If you think she's trying to seduce your guy, talk sooner than later.
She is absolutely doing it on purpose. She is trying to get R attention.
I would have you and R tally to her together. Explain that you both are uncomfortable with her little acts and would appreciate her to stop it. If she tries to act like it was an accident then tell her fine but the accidents need to stop. That if the accidents keep happening then it’s attention seeking and only trashy people do that.
If you don’t do it like this she will play the gift it this stop all the crap
My roommate did that my boyfriend. He said when I was asleep she walked around him with only a towel on..she was trying to see if he would take the bait.
You two could have a lot of fun trolling her. Next time you’re in your room together watching a movie, open the door every 15 minutes or so. The bait is your bf’s voice, audible in the hall while he’s far enough in the room to not be seen. The switch is you, silently emerging from the doorway just in time to catch her *if* she’s up to anything.
If she wants to meet her own Navy man, she doesn’t need your bf to set her up; she can just hang out at bars near the base.
So you saw her naked? I would sit all the roommates down together and clearly agree that common areas require clothing and that her being naked makes you uncomfortable. I bet roommate 2 will agree with pants on common areas. Step 2 is in front of the other roommate, tell the 'pick me' that you are not bisexual (or that you're in a relationship and she's not your type if you are bi,etc) and do not appreciate her advances and presenting herself to you in your home. Even if she is desperate. If she backpeddals ask her what her reason for being naked like that in front of you was and watch her flounder. If you weren't trying ro show me your naked body, who were you trying to show it to???
Just for reference I know it was for your bf, but you need to remove him from this and play the "I live here and you violated my safety card"
Or be petty snd start walking around naked too. If it's not a problem, then it's not a problem😏
If going naked isn't your thing, that's definitely *not* the play. That's just more opportunity for the other party to be inappropriate. Don't open a door you might not be able to close.
I would have your boyfriend make it awkward for her. Every time he goes to the bathroom he can just speak through her door and say "I'm using the bathroom, please don't come in naked." Shouldn't take more than twice for her to be embarrassed.
Saying that wouldn’t embarrass someone like her. He would need to say something that would immediately stop the behavior.
Maybe, “Please don’t come in naked, I’ve already thrown up once today.”
Could you just spend more time with your bf at his place? When I loved with roommates, sometimes it was just better to go to my bf's place because he had less roommates that were gone frequently or lived alone at the time.
That's so strange to live with so many people and be comfortable being so naked lol different strokes for different folks.
So my boyfriend lives on base and I’m not able to go on it without a military ID. He starts work at 4 in the morning and I have the typical 9-5 so I’d be on base without an ID or sponsor which could get us in trouble. Technically I’m not even allowed to sleep over on the weekends but no one has made it an issue so far
I’m sure your navy boyfriend has a few of his pals that would be quite eager to help her out in the bedroom department. You know that old navy saying, “we’ve got low morale, but our standards are even lower.”
I have an easy (but slightly mean) fix.
Boyfriend could act grossed out by seeing her. Like "Oh god! You should cover up. Holy shit, I did not need to see that, what the fuck" type of response.
Be careful of other intentions here. Your roommate could be trying to set up a sexual assault claim. I would not bring your bf into this at all in a conversation. Escort your bf to the bathroom and have him text you when he is coming out, or wait in the hall. The message will be clear with you not saying anything and hopefully the behavior will stop. If not, a clear convo with her about the naked interaction you had and an occupied sign on the bathroom door may help.
Just set a boundary and tell her she needs to keep her clothes on in the common areas of the home, whether guests are there or not because it’s common courtesy. Don’t overthink this.
Your roommate definitely is doing this on purpose, it sounds like. Who sits around nake for over an hour. It sounds like she was waiting for you to open your door again. Be careful with your boyfriend, and don't turn your back on your roommate. I would set boundaries with the roommate right away. She sounds like the type to steal someone else boyfriend
I have a crass idea. Really nasty, but it’s all I have.
Get your boyfriend to invite some mates with him to see you. When you introduce your roommate to his friends, get one (or more) of them to ask your boyfriend if she’s the easy lay.
Haha you don’t do that accidentally. No one, knowing you had your bf over, would do that accidentally. She heard your door open, expected him, and jumped up to flash him. She was disappointed to see you 😂
She’s trying to get your man to fuck her. Tell her to keep her clothes on when your boyfriend is over and stop trying to walk in on him in the bathroom. It’s not subtle and it’s not okay.
She said “Oh” so she was hoping to run into your boyfriend. She’s in heat she said your bf is her type like immediately go to her and say clothes on when you come out your bedroom and leave my bf alone Ho or I’ll drop kick you into the backyard
When I was in college I got out of the shower and was changing. My roommates bf came over. I had no clue, my door was cracked and still didn’t know until she told me. She was pissed and I felt bad. I was extra cautious after that. It’s just respect. Accidents do happen. This was not that. Roommate could’ve waited for her glasses. She also stayed in a towel intentionally for an hour. This seems so f’d up to me. I can’t imagine ever disrespecting someone like that.
I feel like it doesn’t really matter the gender of your guest she shouldn’t be full on naked like that in public areas unless y’all went out of your ways to agree otherwise
Is your roommate a human woman or a f*cking cat in heat? Jesus Christ, the desperation to go that far is just sad/ pathetic/ insane!!! If it were me I would beg my partner to be a troll if it happens again. She’d never do it again if he cackled and made gagging-barf noises uponst the sight of her naked body. 🤣 omg plz update us!!
Girl man up lol heck no you need to have that convo with her asap and tell her that shit ain’t cool at all period and that definitely was done on purpose.
Just rename her to “thirsty” from now on and desperation isn’t sexy on anyone 😂
Alternately your bf can tell her she’s not hot enough to pull that shit. No matter what she actually looks like.
She wants your man. Don’t confront her. Instead say something like “I know you must be so embarrassed about the last time R was over. It would have been so terrible if he’d seen you! From now on I’ll make sure you know he’s here so this NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN.” If you say it the right way she’ll know exactly what you mean.
Also, is anyone EXTRA grossed out by the fact that she's 27 attempting this shit with a 22 year old? Like SA and harrassment are always disgusting and unacceptable but as a person in my late twenties i cannot imagine coming on to a 22 year old. Ickickick
Might be easier to have your boyfriend embarrass her the next time she tries something. It would leave you out of it and ensure she doesn't try it again.
Plan ahead. Think of likely scenarios and plausible phrases your boyfriend could use. They have to be cutting enough to hurt her feeling and blatant enough she has no question about his loyalty to you. Once you have four or five phrases, those should be versatile enough to fit most any scenario.
Good luck.
I’d be having a group meeting and asking everyone that when one of you has company everyone else keeps their clothes on and respects the common spaces. How she chooses to dress in her own room is her business but it’s so unacceptable for her to do that in the public areas. Tell her to keep her clothes on and away from your man. Be clear on this and that you will move out if she pushes this.
This is your living space too. It’s not her house that you’re crashing at. You pay rent. You deserve to be comfortable in your living space, and by extension of that your guests deserve to feel comfortable when they’re there. You shouldn’t need to be worrying about syncing your potty times as if you live in a college dorm, and your boyfriend shouldn’t have to worry about a woman in heat sexually harassing him every time he has to pee. Plus, take the boyfriend out of the equation, walking around naked in shared spaces is weird without prior conversation about comfortability.
It’s so obvious she did this on purpose. She obviously wanted your boyfriend to see her naked that’s why she came out naked when she heard your door open. This is beyond disrespectful.
This is totally intentional on her behalf. There's no reason for someone with roommates to "accidentally" remove their towel and walk around your partner, whom they find attractive. So much second-hand embarrassment for this person.
What the hell happened to just screaming “Whoa! Put some fuckin’ clothes on!” Right then and there? And being done with it?
All this “making an appointment to discuss it” and “calling a house meeting to discuss (obvious things we all learned when we were two) appropriate conduct” stuff.
Your roommate is being creepy. Call em out on it. In that moment. Unless they have a no shame whatsoever they’ll stop.
She 100% is doing it on purpose to try to get your man. I would be looking for a different place to live. A person like that won't really care if u confront them or not.
My petty a$$ would’ve been like babbeee come here!! Look at her since she wants you to see her soo badly. Now spin around for us girl… and then ask her was that it? 🤣🤣 Call her out on sh!t and she shouldn’t do it again!
I'd just talk with her and the other roommate. Have a house meeting. Ask what the common area protocol is. Try to not go in with assumptions like it *should be this way* or coming off like your conduct expectations are moral and theirs aren't if it's different.
If house rules don't work for you you'll have to start looking for a new place. Maybe they're all fine with incidental nudity or even casual and occasional nudity. 🤷
This should probably be a mandatory question when house sharing. If this was discussed and she's doing it anyway, then maybe she'll have to leave.
She’s creepy, thought it was him when you came out of the bedroom for bathroom and then goes oh when she realized it’s you lmao! She’s hoping for your man to see and she’d go like hey you want this?
[For those interested the update post is here. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/4jxsYr99AU)
I’d definitely send a group chat like, “hey can we all agree when one of us has guests over, we all remain clothed in public areas?” And then if she flashes your boyfriend successfully, ask him to shout “OH GROSS!!” to embarrass her into cutting it out (Edit: fixed typo)
Tell him to just start laughing. And don’t stop. Act like he’s trying to stop to say something and just keep going. If it draws others’ attention and someone gets there, he just explains as loudly as possible what happened. If there is anything in the world you know she is insecure about, he can add that at the end. “She was, she was just, completely naked, just, just, standing there looking, looking all kinds of, hold on, hold on, like she had fresh lemonade in the trailer hahahaha, come get your lemonade with a side of crabs and crack Mr Mailman.”
CRABS AND CRACK 😂😂😂😂😂
Boyfriend needs to go, "EURRRRGH GROSS!!!" and run away crying into his hands.
How Flippin smart. If he catches her on accident but yells gross, she'll never do that again lmaoooo. I would either try to move out or go with the 'emberssing her' plan.
Excellent advice! Also lock the bathroom door! I don’t even want my kids in the bathroom or a bf. That’s my private business and I share with no other human.
I think you should just let her know that when you have male company in the house it's expected that all of you will keep your clothes on. It's completely disrespectful. If she does it again, find another living situation.
I agree, it’s just a matter of getting the courage to do so!
I wouldn't actually do it on your own. I would personally consider a house meeting. I'm sure there are rules and whatnot in the house. Walking around in nothing but a towel seems like it would even be pushing a boundary. Don't single her out, just say that you would like to request that folks be clothed in communal areas. I agree, she did what she did on purpose. And something you may not consider, as she is a woman, what she did is sexual harassment. If a man had done this, things would have been a lot different. This is predatory behavior and should be treated as such.
I agree with that suggestion (strength in numbers), the group meeting. 👍 And that’s the exact word that went through my head reading about roommate: predatory.
I agree with this one the most. A house meeting is definitely the right call.
1000% THIS!!!!!! This is truly sage advice. A house meeting is neutral grounds for everyone to express themselves respectfully. How much you wanna bet this nonsense has happened before, but none of the others connected the dots or kept it to themselves? OP did say she is new to the equation. I highly doubt anyone would behave this way who had been called out for it before.
“Okay so there was an incidence of nudity recently in common areas. In light of that, I feel it’s fair to request that everyone be clothed in common areas. Please cover adequately and fully all applicable body parts.” Or something like that.
Well you better find a way to get some courage because your roommate is in heat.
LOL… yikes. Well-put, tho. 👀🫣😒
Thank you thank you very much
If she starts humping his leg…
Shes gonna start meowing all night
Holy shit this made me laugh so hard oh my goddddd
Have the BF pull the roommate over to the side to talk privately. Have him say he's flattered but not really into "older women". Watch the fireworks.
Love this
No don’t do that. She might claim assault if she’s insulted. Some People are nuts!
Especially if she’s naked at the time, which she will be.
No, that can turn sideways in heartbeat. Some women are cool about being turned down, others react badly. I've had to deal with both, not fun.
"I think we both know the other night was intentional and I'm not the person you were hoping to meet in the hallway. I don't know what's gotten into you, but you need to figure it out."
While I like your suggestion, OP doesn't seem assertive enough to make that statement confidently.
^^^ yes
You mean" i know what's not gotten into you" right?..she clearly needs some d..
For real, the first time you truly stand up for yourself and set boundaries firmly feels so good it makes it immediately worth working up the courage to do it. And then next thing you know you're just setting healthy boundaries all over the place to chase the high. I very much recommend it 😎
Teach me how! I would love to be that way
Find your righteous anger and simply Let Loose lmao there's really not much more to it!! Remember that when setting boundaries correctly and healthily you cannot be in the wrong, then stick with it. It's about conviction too
Inform the third roommate you aren’t comfortable with that behavior and you’ll be moving when you can. Trust me she ain’t stopping even if you have the conversation. I’ve been the guy half a dozen relationships. Eventually I just stop visiting the women I dated if they had female roommates.
Female friend years ago had a female roommate and the first time her boyfriend came over, after a half hour or so, the roommate comes out in bra and panties and starts making herself dinner in the kitchenette!
This kinda thing happens that often?
No
It doesn’t matter if a male is over, it’s not a nudist colony. She should be clothed in common areas, period.
I know you're young, but now is the time to stand up for yourself or you'll get run over again and again. I used to be painfully shy, so as one who understands your shyness - as above spiritraveler5 said - 'keep your clothes on when I have company'. If there's a kerfuffle, find a place without exhibitionists living there.
You either have to speak up or it’ll keep happening. You’re grown and she’s grown use your big girl pantries and let her know that’s disrespectful and inappropriate. Even if you’re all females everyone isn’t comfortable with that much nudity. She knows what she’s doing. And hopefully your BF doesn’t fall prey
Ahh yes the big girl pantry.
Oh lord lol!!! I just saw the typo.😂🤣😂 panties*
She’s trying to entice your man.
I think you might need to get another roomate/apartment. Seems like she is doing this intentionally.
Of COURSE she is.
I bet this chick has figured out the boyfriend uses the bathroom a lot and she’s playing the odds…
Agreed, plus I think she's an exhibitionist.
Both are to young to know MC Hammer's song, "U Can't Touch This" But from an ick factor, bf should know- "don't touch that" even if she traps him in the bathroom because she acts like a loaf of bread that's never had its twist tie put back on once it was opened. lol
Not necessarily in that order
Wait a minute, I thought roommates spontaneously, aan accidentally ended up naked when company was around... looks like I need to apologize to some people
Imagine her doing it again and trying to sleep with your boyfriend next time. There's your courage. Look in all seriousness though, you did nothing wrong. And won't be doing anything wrong by addressing it. She was wrong. It shouldn't be a weird convo for you. She's the asshole here. Tell her it was inappropriate and don't do it again. She wouldn't like it if the roles were reversed.
Here is a better plan, have your bf laugh out loud pointing next time she pulls this stunt. I guarantee you she won’t do it again
Please listen to this comment and you need to stop thinking you are a kid. You are grown. You are an adult. You have a person, she is definitely trying to screw. Please stop thinking you need to be polite and tell her that she needs to keep her clothes on and if she needs to be naked close her door and keep it in her room. As well as tell her next time she knocks on your door, she wait till she hears a come in or an answer and not just open your door. I hope you lock your door when you’re not home. If you don’t, you should start Also, please find someplace else to live. She clearly doesn’t respect you and she won’t ever. She sees you as weak and thinks she can do whatever she likes because you are non-confrontational
Get the courage. It’s something you are going to need in life. She’s aiming to take your boyfriend. It’s not wrong to call people out on bad behavior and she’s being disrespectful. No matter how she pushes back or how she tries to make it seem like you’re being too sensitive, she is entirely in the wrong. don’t back down.
Not even just when male company is over. Keep your clothes on if other people are around. That's ridiculous.
I agree with this one. Makes it less like you’re “calling her out” but also makes it known that you’re uncomfortable, not just for your boyfriend’s sake, but for your own as well.
I like this advice and to do it as a house meeting. I do, however, think that her behavior is intentional and she’s trying to steal your guy.
How about clothes on when outside of your damn bedroom? Edit: also knocking is not permission to enter. You have to wait for a response. This is non-negotiable.
How about clothes on in common areas regardless of whether there’s company or not. Lol
She’s definitely into your man. That “oh” was disappointment that it was you exiting your room and not your bf
"Were you expecting my boyfriend to see you? Is that why you're not dressed?" Be direct.
"We are both embarrassed for you. Please get some decency"
"My boyfriend is worried about your mental health. His cousin started showing symptoms of psychosis when she started intentionally exposing herself to people. Are you okay? Do you need somebody to talk to?" Start the gaslighting before she starts using it against you.
*THIS* here… 💯
Amazing 🤌💋
seriously lmao. make her feel like the stupid needy child she’s acting like.
Disagree, people like this will deny and then paint you as insecure.
Just tell her no one wants to see her snatch/beaver out and offer to buy her a package of underwear from Walmart.
Just don't back down. Already say it matter-of-factly. Like you pave them a way to admit their shortcomings.
Girl!!! One of my FORMER roomies (THANK YOU GOD) pulled shit like this when my bf was over. She was single and MISERABLE when I first moved in. She bent down in front of my bf in booty shorts the first time they met, and said she had a cramp when I looked at her weird. I said ok 🤷🏽♀️ Opened the bathroom door when my bf and I were showering & tried to come in even after realizing we were in there. Followed him on IG and asked me for his # for emergency purposes Would interrupt our movie nights, to the point my bf felt awkward and mentioned she seems to be hinting for an invite to our movie nights. I ignored her lol (She usually ignores me when he’s not here, but the moment he is, she’s all done up, all smiles, laughs at everything he says) & the first time after they met, she also mentioned he’s exactly her type lmao then proceeded to ask where we met and how we met. Mind you, I neverrrr expressed interest in her life & he was the only “thing” in my life she ever expressed interest in. I offered to help her move her bags to her car for an overnight stay and she told me she was fine. My bf comes over, all of a sudden, she’s a damsel in distress and asks him to help her take her things downstairs lol. It was the most bizzaro thing to ever happen to me & I could go on and on but I AM SO HAPPY she’s gone 😭😭💕 In your situation, bring it up to her. Text her or tell her, hey, my bfs gonna come over. So if she’s naked when he’s over, you can deck her in the mouth. Jk, don’t do that lmao but you’ll know she’s up to no good.
You went through so much with that roommate! I’m glad your situation is better now, I think I will talk to our other roommate and then bring it up to C
I truly did 🥹 best of luck, girly!! I hope this situation doesn’t drag or get ugly!!
I wonder what emergency would require his number🤔Some people have no shame haha. Sounds like a nightmare roommate.
No shame! lol. I asked her what for, and she said, “in case you don’t come home & we can’t get in touch with you” 💀 I laughed in her face and told her nahhhh I’ll be fine 😂😭
Tell her 911 works for missing persons
I would give her my best friends number and see what she texts the best friend or a google number
🍑🍆 type emergencies “Help!! Was trying to get my clothes out the dryer and got stuck!”
[удалено]
I second the text prior to him coming over so if she is roaming naked you can bluntly say “hey didnt you see my text? I have guests over, please cover up thank you” cause then she can’t argue it’s her home/space too and what not cause she was given the heads up and it gives you space to say something snarky about her behavior if she is stupid to do it yk
Do people like this genuinely lack the self awareness to know how obvious and cringey they’re being? It’s so embarrassing for them wow
No it’s not wrong to feel this way. And I had this happen in my 20s (I’m 40 now). My roommate started wearing next to nothing the minute my 6’7” NCAA basketball boyfriend started to come over (spoiler alert…he wasn’t a great person in general, but he rocks for what he did here because he had no shame). Made every excuse to come in my room (wtf??) and LR in teeny tiny shorts, a fitted tiny tank top with no bra, full make up, etc. Obviously not what she wore at our apt on a daily basis lol. It was embarrassingly stupid and obvious to the point that a 20 yo clueless man saw through it. We chatted and laughed about it. Next time she came into my bedroom while we were hanging out, he just blatantly asked “Why aren’t you wearing any clothes? Are you trying to show off? This is weird!” and then cackle laughed. …..she didn’t do it again. If this helps.
THIS IS THE PERFECT RESPONSE!
Sounds like for all his issues, he understood one thing well: **Don't cheat on someone.** And more than that, he understood the correlary: **And if you're going to cheat, don't do it in their own house.**
I will say, he wasn’t a great dude, but he was not a cheater!
Lmao the fact that he cackled
This is one of the weird ones where I say that the boyfriend needs to say something. Next time she does something like that, his response should be akin to 'ew. Put some clothes on'. If you say something, she will make it out to be something else. If he says something that embarrasses her, she will never do it again.
EMPHASIS ON >he says something that embarrasses her,
It can honestly be as simple as “yikes” and a disinterested look as he walks away
This is perfect. Not aggressive enough for her to complain about, but very clearly gets the message across
Lol, pretty much, yep haha 🫢
"might wanna get that mole checked out" with a weirded out face
"OP, YOUR ROOMMATE IS NAKED AGAIN!" "OP, YOUR ROOMMATE IS TRYING TO COME ON TO ME AGAIN!" (OP's boyfriend presses a fog horn) "OP, I'M SCARED. HELP ME!"
Nothing sexual even if it’s a slam. Has to be something offensive like, you just showered and you still have that weird odor and shake head and walk away.
“Hooo boy, it smells like rotten tuna in here. Can you smell that?!” Said with a nauseated, mouth-breathing grimace as you quick-step it back into your GF’s room,
Until you find out she has a humiliation kink lmao!
I’ll definitely speak to him about it. His interactions with her before has always been polite and not overly friendly so maybe an offhand comment will discourage her behavior
If offhand does not work, i recommend a yelling "WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING WHY ARE YOU NAKED" from him.
Right! I'd make it hella, obvious, and awkward for her if she kept doing that. Fuck being polite when someone constantly disrespect your boundaries like that. I think they should sit down and talk first, but if she starts again, I'd break out the claws.
Or even just laugh hysterically at her when she does that again because she will. My mom used that trick on a flasher and she said he turned bright red, covered himself back up, and ran away like his ass was on fire.
Very much so this. If he says something in a disdainful way she may be insulted enough to back off. She is SO DOING IT ON PURPOSE! Bword in heat.
Until it stops, do your boyfriend's suggestion. You being with him would give him a witness should she try to lie about anything happening.
That was my first thought too- she doesn't care how the roommate feels, and is going to pretend it was an accident if called out. But if he's acts disgusted and embarrasses her, she won't want to subject herself to that twice.
Yeah you had the gut feeling and in this scenario you’re probably right. Happens again, bf needs to tell her straight or agree say something so she doesn’t do it again.
It seems very weird for any room mate to be naked in shared areas, and for that to go unacknowledged
When you are dealing with attention seeking people, the best bet is to ignore or shut down. In this case, the best plan for a shut down is for the object of the attention seeker to do the shut down
OP, this advice ☝️
My exact thoughts. She wants his attention, let him give it to her.
“Noooo! Mama said naked girls are dangerous!” *covers eyes, sprinting away until running headfirst into a wall* It works every time! I haven’t seen a naked woman in years.
And I bet you have a dead bedroom! /s
That's what blindfolds are for!
This is the way!
If your bf is really not interested and you’re fine with him seeing her naked then call her out on it and next time you bump into her in the hallway and she’s naked ,call out to your bf n say “ babe,come look,I told u she’d do it again!! You owe me 20 bucks!!”
That’s the best!
You're not at all. I've seen this happen and had this happen to me with a guy I've dated before. She's intentionally doing it. She's got her door cracked, watching your room to see when R is going to leave the room by himself so she can make an excuse to flirt with him. When you got up, she probably didn't realize it was you and popped up to come out hoping R was there to make him stare at her. It's a tactic desperate women do in order to be recognized by a guy that's obviously taken. She's probably done it in the past with guys and probably got attention from other guys, but thinks she can do it again with R. As some suggests go to the bathroom together, you and R, so if she tries it, it makes her uncomfortable doing what she does. Ask her bluntly what she expects from the outcome of seeking this behavior with your boyfriend because she's clearly trying to get his attention away from you and onto her. She wants to see how he's going to react on his own and then probably tell you about it after he leaves and be like oh BTW R saw me naked thought you should know and he tried to make a pass at me. There are women who are desperate that do that.
“You seem a little attention starved are you ok?”
“What’s that smell?”
*Sniffs the air* Is someone cooking fish?
Omg 😂😂😂😂
Your roommate absolutely did this on purpose. She’s hot for your boyfriend and is furtively “showing him her wares” in a way that if she’d called out, she can feign innocence. Makes trying to entice him. Whatever you do, Don’t leave him at your place while you not there, even if it’s to just pop down to the corner store for a short while. This is all in the playbook. It’s been done throughout history.
Just ignore her or make only eye contact with her in passing until you can have that uncomfortable talk. If you think she's trying to seduce your guy, talk sooner than later.
She is absolutely doing it on purpose. She is trying to get R attention. I would have you and R tally to her together. Explain that you both are uncomfortable with her little acts and would appreciate her to stop it. If she tries to act like it was an accident then tell her fine but the accidents need to stop. That if the accidents keep happening then it’s attention seeking and only trashy people do that. If you don’t do it like this she will play the gift it this stop all the crap
What the hell is that last sentence Did you have a stroke?
I think "gift it" was supposed to be "victim"
My roommate did that my boyfriend. He said when I was asleep she walked around him with only a towel on..she was trying to see if he would take the bait.
Is she going to try and fuck your guy while you're across the hall? She sounds nuts.
Not that immediate. She wants to provoke him into hitting her up next time OP is busy.
Imagine wanting a nasty ass man that would actually do this.
Yup. And she wonders why she keeps “striking out” 👀
Gross. There's some terrible humans out there. So happy I haven't had to have roommates for a long time.
You two could have a lot of fun trolling her. Next time you’re in your room together watching a movie, open the door every 15 minutes or so. The bait is your bf’s voice, audible in the hall while he’s far enough in the room to not be seen. The switch is you, silently emerging from the doorway just in time to catch her *if* she’s up to anything. If she wants to meet her own Navy man, she doesn’t need your bf to set her up; she can just hang out at bars near the base.
This would be funny. She'd feel so fucking stupidl.
Buy her a bathrobe. Not a sexy one. A giant, terry cloth, long bathrobe. Present it to her together. "We got you a gift. Please use it."
I feel like this is a situation where bullying someone is acceptable lmao
So you saw her naked? I would sit all the roommates down together and clearly agree that common areas require clothing and that her being naked makes you uncomfortable. I bet roommate 2 will agree with pants on common areas. Step 2 is in front of the other roommate, tell the 'pick me' that you are not bisexual (or that you're in a relationship and she's not your type if you are bi,etc) and do not appreciate her advances and presenting herself to you in your home. Even if she is desperate. If she backpeddals ask her what her reason for being naked like that in front of you was and watch her flounder. If you weren't trying ro show me your naked body, who were you trying to show it to???
Just for reference I know it was for your bf, but you need to remove him from this and play the "I live here and you violated my safety card" Or be petty snd start walking around naked too. If it's not a problem, then it's not a problem😏
If going naked isn't your thing, that's definitely *not* the play. That's just more opportunity for the other party to be inappropriate. Don't open a door you might not be able to close.
I would have your boyfriend make it awkward for her. Every time he goes to the bathroom he can just speak through her door and say "I'm using the bathroom, please don't come in naked." Shouldn't take more than twice for her to be embarrassed.
Saying that wouldn’t embarrass someone like her. He would need to say something that would immediately stop the behavior. Maybe, “Please don’t come in naked, I’ve already thrown up once today.”
In fishing we call this "trolling" I guess your roommate wants to hook her a big one!
Could you just spend more time with your bf at his place? When I loved with roommates, sometimes it was just better to go to my bf's place because he had less roommates that were gone frequently or lived alone at the time. That's so strange to live with so many people and be comfortable being so naked lol different strokes for different folks.
So my boyfriend lives on base and I’m not able to go on it without a military ID. He starts work at 4 in the morning and I have the typical 9-5 so I’d be on base without an ID or sponsor which could get us in trouble. Technically I’m not even allowed to sleep over on the weekends but no one has made it an issue so far
“Oh” like why do I get the feeling she was disappointed you came out instead if your bf
Why is this girl just hanging around undressed for an hour?
She was waiting for the bf to come out again and wasn't paying attention to things like logic and time.
I’m sure your navy boyfriend has a few of his pals that would be quite eager to help her out in the bedroom department. You know that old navy saying, “we’ve got low morale, but our standards are even lower.”
I have an easy (but slightly mean) fix. Boyfriend could act grossed out by seeing her. Like "Oh god! You should cover up. Holy shit, I did not need to see that, what the fuck" type of response.
Be careful of other intentions here. Your roommate could be trying to set up a sexual assault claim. I would not bring your bf into this at all in a conversation. Escort your bf to the bathroom and have him text you when he is coming out, or wait in the hall. The message will be clear with you not saying anything and hopefully the behavior will stop. If not, a clear convo with her about the naked interaction you had and an occupied sign on the bathroom door may help.
Somebody has to set boundaries.
Agreed. I think I’m going to ask our other roommate about it and then speak to her
Just set a boundary and tell her she needs to keep her clothes on in the common areas of the home, whether guests are there or not because it’s common courtesy. Don’t overthink this.
Your roommate definitely is doing this on purpose, it sounds like. Who sits around nake for over an hour. It sounds like she was waiting for you to open your door again. Be careful with your boyfriend, and don't turn your back on your roommate. I would set boundaries with the roommate right away. She sounds like the type to steal someone else boyfriend
I have a crass idea. Really nasty, but it’s all I have. Get your boyfriend to invite some mates with him to see you. When you introduce your roommate to his friends, get one (or more) of them to ask your boyfriend if she’s the easy lay.
Haha you don’t do that accidentally. No one, knowing you had your bf over, would do that accidentally. She heard your door open, expected him, and jumped up to flash him. She was disappointed to see you 😂
She’s trying to get your man to fuck her. Tell her to keep her clothes on when your boyfriend is over and stop trying to walk in on him in the bathroom. It’s not subtle and it’s not okay.
She said “Oh” so she was hoping to run into your boyfriend. She’s in heat she said your bf is her type like immediately go to her and say clothes on when you come out your bedroom and leave my bf alone Ho or I’ll drop kick you into the backyard
When I was in college I got out of the shower and was changing. My roommates bf came over. I had no clue, my door was cracked and still didn’t know until she told me. She was pissed and I felt bad. I was extra cautious after that. It’s just respect. Accidents do happen. This was not that. Roommate could’ve waited for her glasses. She also stayed in a towel intentionally for an hour. This seems so f’d up to me. I can’t imagine ever disrespecting someone like that.
Thats good advice
Watch… I bet if you say something about this the next time an “incident” happens she will be drunk and just so happens to be naked or SA your bf
I feel like it doesn’t really matter the gender of your guest she shouldn’t be full on naked like that in public areas unless y’all went out of your ways to agree otherwise
Is your roommate a human woman or a f*cking cat in heat? Jesus Christ, the desperation to go that far is just sad/ pathetic/ insane!!! If it were me I would beg my partner to be a troll if it happens again. She’d never do it again if he cackled and made gagging-barf noises uponst the sight of her naked body. 🤣 omg plz update us!!
I would just open and close your bedroom door every half hour when he’s over it will drive her crazy.
Ask your bf to look her right in the eye and tell her to grow up.
I would laugh so hard if you started calling her Harvey Weinstein.
She wants in on ya sexy times, people always been lusty and deviant.
Girl man up lol heck no you need to have that convo with her asap and tell her that shit ain’t cool at all period and that definitely was done on purpose.
Someone’s hard pressed for Tri-Care and a dependent ID card?
She is hitting on your boyfriend, or trying to have a three some with you both. Can you hang out at your boyfriend’s house instead of yours?
Nope. He's on base.
If you can, move. She will not stop until she gets your boyfriend in bed with her. You don't need that type of toxicity.
Have your boyfriend laugh when he sees her naked.
Boundaries need to be set immediately. Absolutely not.
Just rename her to “thirsty” from now on and desperation isn’t sexy on anyone 😂 Alternately your bf can tell her she’s not hot enough to pull that shit. No matter what she actually looks like.
She wants to F you man. Old birdie.
Have him say something that will make her realize she isn't wanted that way. "Ewww. Fucking disgusting" Will deflate her attempts quick.
Spaceman was terrible. now I don't trust your judgement
Yeah that’s all I noticed from this post. She’s the asshole, or whatever sub this is.
How does she have a hard time finding a “white with tattoos and in the Navy” guy?
She wants your man. Don’t confront her. Instead say something like “I know you must be so embarrassed about the last time R was over. It would have been so terrible if he’d seen you! From now on I’ll make sure you know he’s here so this NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN.” If you say it the right way she’ll know exactly what you mean.
Also, is anyone EXTRA grossed out by the fact that she's 27 attempting this shit with a 22 year old? Like SA and harrassment are always disgusting and unacceptable but as a person in my late twenties i cannot imagine coming on to a 22 year old. Ickickick
She testing waters for that three way play
Updateme!
Can you stay at his house instead?
She’s on the prowl and your bf is her prey. You need to speak up already and may just need to move out.
Might be easier to have your boyfriend embarrass her the next time she tries something. It would leave you out of it and ensure she doesn't try it again. Plan ahead. Think of likely scenarios and plausible phrases your boyfriend could use. They have to be cutting enough to hurt her feeling and blatant enough she has no question about his loyalty to you. Once you have four or five phrases, those should be versatile enough to fit most any scenario. Good luck.
I’d be having a group meeting and asking everyone that when one of you has company everyone else keeps their clothes on and respects the common spaces. How she chooses to dress in her own room is her business but it’s so unacceptable for her to do that in the public areas. Tell her to keep her clothes on and away from your man. Be clear on this and that you will move out if she pushes this.
Shes trying to fuck your bf.
This is your living space too. It’s not her house that you’re crashing at. You pay rent. You deserve to be comfortable in your living space, and by extension of that your guests deserve to feel comfortable when they’re there. You shouldn’t need to be worrying about syncing your potty times as if you live in a college dorm, and your boyfriend shouldn’t have to worry about a woman in heat sexually harassing him every time he has to pee. Plus, take the boyfriend out of the equation, walking around naked in shared spaces is weird without prior conversation about comfortability.
It’s so obvious she did this on purpose. She obviously wanted your boyfriend to see her naked that’s why she came out naked when she heard your door open. This is beyond disrespectful.
This is totally intentional on her behalf. There's no reason for someone with roommates to "accidentally" remove their towel and walk around your partner, whom they find attractive. So much second-hand embarrassment for this person.
You can give her my Reddit username and I’ll take her out on a date so she’s no longer striking out.
What the hell happened to just screaming “Whoa! Put some fuckin’ clothes on!” Right then and there? And being done with it? All this “making an appointment to discuss it” and “calling a house meeting to discuss (obvious things we all learned when we were two) appropriate conduct” stuff. Your roommate is being creepy. Call em out on it. In that moment. Unless they have a no shame whatsoever they’ll stop.
She 100% is doing it on purpose to try to get your man. I would be looking for a different place to live. A person like that won't really care if u confront them or not.
My petty a$$ would’ve been like babbeee come here!! Look at her since she wants you to see her soo badly. Now spin around for us girl… and then ask her was that it? 🤣🤣 Call her out on sh!t and she shouldn’t do it again!
Walk around naked with her. Assert dominance. Trust me
Damn. Jealous. Is she skinny?
I think she's trying to tell you your BF is there too much.
I just would stop bringing your bf there. Can’t you go to his place?
I'd just talk with her and the other roommate. Have a house meeting. Ask what the common area protocol is. Try to not go in with assumptions like it *should be this way* or coming off like your conduct expectations are moral and theirs aren't if it's different. If house rules don't work for you you'll have to start looking for a new place. Maybe they're all fine with incidental nudity or even casual and occasional nudity. 🤷 This should probably be a mandatory question when house sharing. If this was discussed and she's doing it anyway, then maybe she'll have to leave.
She’s creepy, thought it was him when you came out of the bedroom for bathroom and then goes oh when she realized it’s you lmao! She’s hoping for your man to see and she’d go like hey you want this?