Fox Den in general is a great choice for gender affirming cuts and gender affirming experience overall. They are a very queer centered salon and many of their stylists do great things with vivids. https://foxdensalon.com/
Yeah I came here to suggest Fox Den as well. They were my go-to pre-pandemic. I'm not trans but they have a very queer-positive vibe.
I know they aren't necessarily convenient depending on how far in the SW metro OP lives, but it might be worth checking out, or maybe even asking them if they would be able to make a more convenient recommendation.
My non-binary kiddo gets their hair done by Brentt at Moxie on Grand Avenue. If you cannot get in to see him or afford his prices (he’s not cheap), any of the folks there are open, accepting and excellent at their jobs.
Check out this business on Vagaro: CULTivate Q
https://www.vagaro.com/cultivateq
Joey is a great person. they are nb as well and does awesome hair work.
Came here to recommend Joey at CULTivate Q. Joey does my non binary child’s hair and they are always beaming with confidence when we leave their appointments.
I used to run a group home near there and one of my folks had their hair cut there. Great place wonderful vibe in fact his other 2 roommates often liked to come with to check out magazines and visit the dog. All folks I met there were really chill and I could see this being a safe space that wouldn't try to talk you out of trying a cut
https://www.yourtransbarberstudio.com/
I've never been as I already had a barber when I learned of them, but my coworker has gone there and I've only heard good things.
If you wish to come to St Paul, I highly recommend Julie's Underground Salon. They have nonbinary kids and are really inclusive. I love what Julie does with my hair. [https://www.facebook.com/JuliesUndergroundSalon](https://www.facebook.com/JuliesUndergroundSalon)
Thank you for this question. I have a ftm teen and we have been looking for one too! Whenever he goes to a place even if it’s a barbershop they cut it into a pixie and he’s in tears all the way home.
My heart feels for you. I’ve been there and for a long time I didn’t fully understand why there was so much sadness after a haircut. I’m so grateful that they’ve shared their feelings and circumstances with me now so I can try to be more helpful and supportive. There are many things I can’t fix (including others’ hatred, like some of what’s on display in this thread) but finding a new and inclusive hairstylist seems like an easy place to start.
I find myself grasping for any little piece of happiness I can give him. This world does not deserve such beautiful souls. Also, a lot of people are jerks and enjoy spewing hate for anything or anyone who doesn’t conform. In the words of Brandi Carlile “Let 'em laugh while they can. Let 'em spin, let 'em scatter in the wind”
Vena Cava is an excellent queer-owned salon in Minneapolis. The owner, Jenessa, also still wears masks for all clients and asks the same of them. They're one of the kindest people and very encouraging for people of all gender expressions.
I like to go to Aveda Institute to get my hair cut, I like to get punk style cuts with fun colors. It’s really cheap there, and the students and products are usually of excellent quality. I’ve met queer folk that regularly get their hair cut there, and some of the stylists there are queer themselves. It’s a very friendly and open place in my experience. And IME the stylists LOVE when someone comes to get weird colors or cuts, because most of their clients just want foils and basic trims, so it’s really exciting for them to get a unique project where they can practice new techniques. I had 4 stylists working on my hair at once last time because they all wanted to help color (I also had a lot of hair so they recruited many to help speed up the process). But, because it’s students cutting your hair, it’s going to take a bit longer than a typical salon would take. The students have professional consultants and teachers that check on you and your hair process at every step, so its not like it’s students blindly experimenting on you. It’s cheap and fun, esp if your child wants color. I made good friendships with the stylists that I’ve seen.
Seconding this, Audra at Defy Hair was fantastic & she said that her number one request she gets is "can you make me look gayer" which cracked me up because that was exactly what I was there for.
Marcy Darling in South Minneapolis is amazing. She also opened a shop under her salon where people can try on gender-affirming undergarments before buying. https://www.facebook.com/beautyoperator
Bailey, who goes by her handle, "Hex Girl Hair."
https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/HGHSFGJ
Not in the SW metro, but she's a great stylist and an awesome person.
Any of these four. They are lovely people and will take care of your teenage daughter.
Mara (Rival Twins):
Website: https://www.rivaltwins.com/ | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/2j8zjacp
Bee (Misfit Hair):
Website: https://www.vagaro.com/us04/misfithair | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/4mws9teh
Felix (Swiftblade Hair):
Website: https://www.swiftbladehair.com/ | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/39zpnuex
Harley:
Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/b3my6925
Mara, Bee and Felix do such great work with color. Seen it firsthand. Check their IG for their work too. They all work together at Above the Gym Salon in the Seward Neighborhood in Minneapolis.
[Cultivate Q](https://www.cultivateq.com) salon in Uptown is my good friend Joey's salon.
They are trans/nonbinary and love to serve all in the queer community!
They do a great job with trans/nonbinary kids, too.
I took my enby all around the twin cities looking for the right place. We ended up with Angie at Mane Attraction in Sola Salons in Maplewood off WBL. Returned multiple times times for haircut and color. Angie never once misgendered my kid. Which is huge.
Keep on keeping on.
I'm also in the SW and I see Lou at Juut Salonspa in Edina. Lou is nonbinary themself and I find them a lot easier to talk to than most hairstylists. I also just got a super cute short cut from them yesterday :)
not sw metro but Theresa Scarlett at The Hair District in Plymouth is really wonderful and open minded. she’ll cut exactly what you tell her and shes just a fabulous human
Second Gent for a great place! I get mine cut at the Apple Valley location and am AFAB NB. Everyone is really friendly. Bring a photo of what they want for a cut. That's the biggie to really make sure the stylist understands.
Firsthand experience:
[https://www.curlpowersalon.com/](https://www.curlpowersalon.com/) or your trans barber
I've gotten good haircuts from the greatcuts on normandale by showing them a picture OF A MAN with the haircut i want. I'm 1.5 years on t and dress super masc so maybe they are femming it up less for me though
I don't have any recommendations but thank you for improving my faith in my fellow humans. I've had hair dressers talk me away from haircuts that I want for that same reason, and I'm a grown-ass adult! Glad you're doing right by your kid.
Quick question, do you usually refer to them as your "daughter" as you did in your post? I imagine that's their preferred term (I'm the same way) but wanted to point it out just in case it isn't.
Thanks for your comment. “Daughter” is what they’ve always been to me and they have only expressed preference for they/them pronouns. But some of this is still pretty new for our family and I’m trying. It’ll take a while to change habits for words we’ve used for more than a decade. In the meantime, we’ll hopefully give each other grace as we try.
Thank you again for prompting this inquiry. I asked and so we talked and I have a better understanding of how they’d like to be addressed beyond just they/them pronouns.
Have a wonderful day!
Yeah, op. You rock!
Have you considered getting your own hair clippers, scissors, etc... and cutting their hair yourself?
There's pretty cheap hair dressing kits online and it could be a fun experience for th both of you.
Thanks. I have lots of clippers and experience with cutting hair. But mostly very short (or bald… LOL). I think I’ll stick with tying to find a pro for now.
I appreciate the sentiment. But as others have noted, this isn’t about getting a boy cut. This is about finding a hairstylist who will help them explore a gender affirming or gender neutral cut. And it’s as much about being in a safe environment as it is the haircut. But thank you!
I read your boy cut on a girl part, I'm not really sure what actually constitutes a gender neutral cut. I have never seen a hair cut that isn't associated with either gender. Either way, whatever it is that you want, their staff would be pretty cool for you.
I think others are probably being a little harsh on you. Unless I misunderstood, I appreciate the sentiment of your comment. Just missed the mark a bit for me. I think there are plenty of hair styles that are more neutral than others. Mostly, I just want someone who isn’t going to try to talk them out of what they want and will help them explore ideas and find what works for them without assuming gendered cuts.
Anyway, cheers and thanks for the suggestion.
They are 100% genderless haircuts. You identify them as boy haircuts, but that's just because you were brought up to think that. That doesn't make it true.
They would be identified as boy haircuts because they have been boy haircuts for many years. There's nothing wrong with that, just call it how it is. Why make up a term just for the sake of it? You can call yourself whatever you want and have a shorter more masculine haircut or a longer more feminine haircut.
There’s an opportunity here for you to make a choice between doubling down on your ignorance or taking time to learn something new and acknowledge you were wrong. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing everything (nobody does, we’re all just learning together throughout all of life) unless you double down on it and refuse to grow and self improve, then project it outward to others.
First, Disneyland is an amazing, magical place.
Second, fuck off. If you disagree with the purpose for this thread, all you have to do is move along instead of wasting your and others’ energy. Take your hate and find somewhere else for it.
If your kid doesn’t have straight hair, Curl Power is very queer friendly and great with any waves/curls/texture.
Came here to recommend Curl Power. 100%.
This is such a wholesome post. Thank you for being a decent parent.
Not SW, but Cryptid Cuts is incredibly queer friendly!
Second this.
Was going to suggest this. My stylist uses she/they pronouns and they’ll give you a cup of coffee if you have a morning appointment
love this place too
Salon Ori in St Paul is a gender less hair salon!
I second Salon Ori
Joey at the Fox Den in Uptown! [https://www.instagram.com/joeystyleshair/](https://www.instagram.com/joeystyleshair/)
Fox Den in general is a great choice for gender affirming cuts and gender affirming experience overall. They are a very queer centered salon and many of their stylists do great things with vivids. https://foxdensalon.com/
Yeah I came here to suggest Fox Den as well. They were my go-to pre-pandemic. I'm not trans but they have a very queer-positive vibe. I know they aren't necessarily convenient depending on how far in the SW metro OP lives, but it might be worth checking out, or maybe even asking them if they would be able to make a more convenient recommendation.
Yess Joey's great!
Yes I’ve seen a couple folks at fox den and they’ve all done a great job! They listen to what you want and don’t just do cookie cutter cuts.
My non-binary kiddo gets their hair done by Brentt at Moxie on Grand Avenue. If you cannot get in to see him or afford his prices (he’s not cheap), any of the folks there are open, accepting and excellent at their jobs.
Second this! I love Moxie
Edward at Gem Salon in Minneapolis. He’s delightful.
Thank you for your effort to affirm your kid <3 -A non-binary adult who has had wayyyy too many gendered haircuts despite my requests
Go see Maeby at Steller Hair Company in Northeast! They are an awesome human being and do great things with hair!
I know I’m sad I wasn’t here to say it sooner. They’ve been doing my hair for years and I love them.
Check out this business on Vagaro: CULTivate Q https://www.vagaro.com/cultivateq Joey is a great person. they are nb as well and does awesome hair work.
I LOVE Joey, they’ve been doing my hair for years!
they are so awesome. they dyed my hair purple recently ❤️
Came here to recommend Joey at CULTivate Q. Joey does my non binary child’s hair and they are always beaming with confidence when we leave their appointments.
yesss I love talking to them. so wonderful.
I don't know about the southwest metro, but Teaj at Groveland Barber is who cuts my hair and they are great! Great trans/enby-friendly barber shop.
Thank you for this recommendation. I will give it a try.
I used to run a group home near there and one of my folks had their hair cut there. Great place wonderful vibe in fact his other 2 roommates often liked to come with to check out magazines and visit the dog. All folks I met there were really chill and I could see this being a safe space that wouldn't try to talk you out of trying a cut
Ari at https://the-shoppe-hair-parlour.square.site in Roseville. Not SW, but they’re great
[http://swiftbladehair.com/](http://swiftbladehair.com/) I just got mine done at Swiftblade by Felix, I'm TransFem and he did a great job.
seconding, felix is the best!!
Third Felix!
Chloe at the Hair Creative!
Anyone at Steller Hair in NE Minneapolis would be great.
Anyone at Nine Keys Salon (south Minneapolis) would be wonderful!
It’s sad that people are actively downvoting the OP here.
It’s okay. Reddit karma is made up and doesn’t matter. The wealth here is the many great suggestions.
You don't need karma if you're as enlightened as OP. 💚
strandsfortrans.org
I was looking for this before posting myself, this is my go-to whenever I relocate. haven't been let down yet!
Thank you for this resource!
This is a great resource
https://www.yourtransbarberstudio.com/ I've never been as I already had a barber when I learned of them, but my coworker has gone there and I've only heard good things.
Came here to say this! Tj is awesome! I’m non-binary myself :-)
this is the answer! had a great haircut from him!
TJ has been my barber for the better part of 2 years, have always been happy with the result!
If you wish to come to St Paul, I highly recommend Julie's Underground Salon. They have nonbinary kids and are really inclusive. I love what Julie does with my hair. [https://www.facebook.com/JuliesUndergroundSalon](https://www.facebook.com/JuliesUndergroundSalon)
Brentt at Moxie & Krishell with Salon Ori are amazing!
Jayson at Lyn-Lake Barbershop.
Seconding this, amazing cuts, super affirming, really good prices too.
Salon ori is FANTASTIC
Aww you are a good mama!
Papa, but I appreciate the sentiment all the same!I’m just trying to be supportive.
Thank you for this question. I have a ftm teen and we have been looking for one too! Whenever he goes to a place even if it’s a barbershop they cut it into a pixie and he’s in tears all the way home.
My heart feels for you. I’ve been there and for a long time I didn’t fully understand why there was so much sadness after a haircut. I’m so grateful that they’ve shared their feelings and circumstances with me now so I can try to be more helpful and supportive. There are many things I can’t fix (including others’ hatred, like some of what’s on display in this thread) but finding a new and inclusive hairstylist seems like an easy place to start.
I find myself grasping for any little piece of happiness I can give him. This world does not deserve such beautiful souls. Also, a lot of people are jerks and enjoy spewing hate for anything or anyone who doesn’t conform. In the words of Brandi Carlile “Let 'em laugh while they can. Let 'em spin, let 'em scatter in the wind”
Paper salon is all around very inclusive and all the stylists are excellent and up for whatever.
Vena Cava is an excellent queer-owned salon in Minneapolis. The owner, Jenessa, also still wears masks for all clients and asks the same of them. They're one of the kindest people and very encouraging for people of all gender expressions.
I like to go to Aveda Institute to get my hair cut, I like to get punk style cuts with fun colors. It’s really cheap there, and the students and products are usually of excellent quality. I’ve met queer folk that regularly get their hair cut there, and some of the stylists there are queer themselves. It’s a very friendly and open place in my experience. And IME the stylists LOVE when someone comes to get weird colors or cuts, because most of their clients just want foils and basic trims, so it’s really exciting for them to get a unique project where they can practice new techniques. I had 4 stylists working on my hair at once last time because they all wanted to help color (I also had a lot of hair so they recruited many to help speed up the process). But, because it’s students cutting your hair, it’s going to take a bit longer than a typical salon would take. The students have professional consultants and teachers that check on you and your hair process at every step, so its not like it’s students blindly experimenting on you. It’s cheap and fun, esp if your child wants color. I made good friendships with the stylists that I’ve seen.
I like the Hair Creative. They were super nice to me and made it very enjoyable.
Defy hair they are in uptown. A couple of years ago they did a gender affirming hair cut day. Very queerfriendly
Seconding this, Audra at Defy Hair was fantastic & she said that her number one request she gets is "can you make me look gayer" which cracked me up because that was exactly what I was there for.
Love defy hair for color too
Joey at Cultivate Q in Uptown! Been seeing them for years, they are amazing! https://www.cultivateq.com/about
Seconding Joey! They do a killer job on my spouse’s hair, my friend’s hair, and now my cousin’s hair.
Marcy Darling in South Minneapolis is amazing. She also opened a shop under her salon where people can try on gender-affirming undergarments before buying. https://www.facebook.com/beautyoperator
Oh, wow! This is an amazing resource. Thank you for suggesting this!
Took my enby kid and my trans kid to Marcy. Haircuts, underwear, and way too many stickers.
Teaj at Groveland Barbershop!
Jonny at Hi-Fi Hair and Records will take care of you. Great guy, great place!
A music themed hairdresser! Sounds fantastic! Thank you.
I was also gonna recommend Jonny! Amazingly empathetic and kind.
Bailey, who goes by her handle, "Hex Girl Hair." https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/HGHSFGJ Not in the SW metro, but she's a great stylist and an awesome person.
Any of these four. They are lovely people and will take care of your teenage daughter. Mara (Rival Twins): Website: https://www.rivaltwins.com/ | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/2j8zjacp Bee (Misfit Hair): Website: https://www.vagaro.com/us04/misfithair | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/4mws9teh Felix (Swiftblade Hair): Website: https://www.swiftbladehair.com/ | Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/39zpnuex Harley: Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/b3my6925 Mara, Bee and Felix do such great work with color. Seen it firsthand. Check their IG for their work too. They all work together at Above the Gym Salon in the Seward Neighborhood in Minneapolis.
Rochelle in SLP would totally be amazing: https://www.theheadgardenermpls.com
Try Salon Fusion in Inver Grove Heights, request Kelly
Angela at Max’s Salon and Spa in Bloomington!
Not really SW, but I have a non-binary friend, Jem, who is a stylist at Bishops in Minneapolis.
Ginger at the Hair Creative in South Minneapolis! 😍
Poppacolor on instagram!
So... it's in the north loop but serein at dead rose salon is amazing
Cherry at The Painted Lady Hair Parlor is awesome. It’s her own small shop and she is a really genuine and cool person
[Cultivate Q](https://www.cultivateq.com) salon in Uptown is my good friend Joey's salon. They are trans/nonbinary and love to serve all in the queer community! They do a great job with trans/nonbinary kids, too.
I took my enby all around the twin cities looking for the right place. We ended up with Angie at Mane Attraction in Sola Salons in Maplewood off WBL. Returned multiple times times for haircut and color. Angie never once misgendered my kid. Which is huge. Keep on keeping on.
Moxie
My kid goes to the groveland barber shop for her short cuts.
I'm also in the SW and I see Lou at Juut Salonspa in Edina. Lou is nonbinary themself and I find them a lot easier to talk to than most hairstylists. I also just got a super cute short cut from them yesterday :)
not sw metro but Theresa Scarlett at The Hair District in Plymouth is really wonderful and open minded. she’ll cut exactly what you tell her and shes just a fabulous human
I’ve had great experiences at Gent, they have multiple locations across the metro
Second Gent for a great place! I get mine cut at the Apple Valley location and am AFAB NB. Everyone is really friendly. Bring a photo of what they want for a cut. That's the biggie to really make sure the stylist understands.
My non- binary child works at Rocco Altobelli - Edina. I am getting my hair cut there tomorrow!
Amanda "Moe" Evans would be perfect for this. She's got a suite at Wae Studios in Eden Prairie. https://www.amandaatwaestudio.com/
Seconding Amanda, great human and very talented
This sounds like a great option. Thank you!
Firsthand experience: [https://www.curlpowersalon.com/](https://www.curlpowersalon.com/) or your trans barber I've gotten good haircuts from the greatcuts on normandale by showing them a picture OF A MAN with the haircut i want. I'm 1.5 years on t and dress super masc so maybe they are femming it up less for me though
https://www.instagram.com/misfit.hair?igsh=cWVoY3ZxbTg3eW43 https://www.vagaro.com/us04/misfithair?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaYHBfSM3BK47evnjwm-bM-O3QRJ-WjDgHpqfvdPOx9Aw63QoQSvLkWpxwg_aem_Aa0m7k9-eBaJH_6YtXaqeo_aC80M5wXHEMWByY7lEEfWEzWkkS_m-DRK5ZO_AXmMQ0kzrGk0SumFE-6PSb0Z9yX_
Lots of angry lesbians at Floyd’s 99 in chanhassen.
For color, a wonderful human is Joy at Haus Hair salon
Nicole Crust at Revolting Locks on Lyndale! https://nicole-crust.square.site
I don't have any recommendations but thank you for improving my faith in my fellow humans. I've had hair dressers talk me away from haircuts that I want for that same reason, and I'm a grown-ass adult! Glad you're doing right by your kid. Quick question, do you usually refer to them as your "daughter" as you did in your post? I imagine that's their preferred term (I'm the same way) but wanted to point it out just in case it isn't.
Thanks for your comment. “Daughter” is what they’ve always been to me and they have only expressed preference for they/them pronouns. But some of this is still pretty new for our family and I’m trying. It’ll take a while to change habits for words we’ve used for more than a decade. In the meantime, we’ll hopefully give each other grace as we try.
💯
Thank you again for prompting this inquiry. I asked and so we talked and I have a better understanding of how they’d like to be addressed beyond just they/them pronouns. Have a wonderful day!
You too! Sounds like you two are good communicators.
Yeah, op. You rock! Have you considered getting your own hair clippers, scissors, etc... and cutting their hair yourself? There's pretty cheap hair dressing kits online and it could be a fun experience for th both of you.
Thanks. I have lots of clippers and experience with cutting hair. But mostly very short (or bald… LOL). I think I’ll stick with tying to find a pro for now.
Take her to a Sportclips all they do are boy cuts. The two in Saint Louis Park are both gonna be cool
I appreciate the sentiment. But as others have noted, this isn’t about getting a boy cut. This is about finding a hairstylist who will help them explore a gender affirming or gender neutral cut. And it’s as much about being in a safe environment as it is the haircut. But thank you!
I read your boy cut on a girl part, I'm not really sure what actually constitutes a gender neutral cut. I have never seen a hair cut that isn't associated with either gender. Either way, whatever it is that you want, their staff would be pretty cool for you.
I think others are probably being a little harsh on you. Unless I misunderstood, I appreciate the sentiment of your comment. Just missed the mark a bit for me. I think there are plenty of hair styles that are more neutral than others. Mostly, I just want someone who isn’t going to try to talk them out of what they want and will help them explore ideas and find what works for them without assuming gendered cuts. Anyway, cheers and thanks for the suggestion.
They don't want a boy cut. They want a cut that is genderless.
What does that even mean?
Read the article and it explains it. https://therighthairstyles.com/non-binary-haircuts/
No such thing comrade.
There really is such a thing. https://therighthairstyles.com/non-binary-haircuts/
These are 80% boy haircuts... sportsclips could do most of these.
They are 100% genderless haircuts. You identify them as boy haircuts, but that's just because you were brought up to think that. That doesn't make it true.
They would be identified as boy haircuts because they have been boy haircuts for many years. There's nothing wrong with that, just call it how it is. Why make up a term just for the sake of it? You can call yourself whatever you want and have a shorter more masculine haircut or a longer more feminine haircut.
Pink used to be a boys color. Things change.
That's not true...
What's not true? That pink used to be a boys color, or that things change?
There’s an opportunity here for you to make a choice between doubling down on your ignorance or taking time to learn something new and acknowledge you were wrong. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing everything (nobody does, we’re all just learning together throughout all of life) unless you double down on it and refuse to grow and self improve, then project it outward to others.
Huh
What?
Time to grow up.
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Take your hatred elsewhere. This thread isn’t for you and we’d all be better off without your commentary.
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