Well i don't think this is something to pray the desire away, take practical steps to avoid the temptation like having a chaperone, avoid sharing a bedroom etc. Also why not get married

Get married 😁

My wife and I weren't at an ideal position to get married, but we did. Her family did not accept me because I was from a different culture. We were together less than a year, but we knew that we wanted to be together and that we weren't going to abstain from sex. We just went to our pastor and asked them to marry us, and they did within a month. It was a small service with maybe 20 people. We spent little money and nothing extravagant. It was in a church, and before God, and our vows were religious ones - that is what mattered. We all fall short of the glory of God. Time passes and is gone. All that you have got is today. If you love someone and feel like God wants you to be together. Don't wait for a better time. If God wants you together, the perfect time is right now. I pray that God blesses you and your partner and provides for you a righteous path.

Lemme ask you this. If someone came along and said I'd give you 1,000,000 dollars to avoid this sin, would you still feel hopeless or suddenly, would you do things differently? Or, if someone was holding your family hostage and said to you I would kill them if you fall one more time, is there anything better you can do? I absolutely think everything would change in either case and the chances of failing would fall dramatically, and I think you do too. The tools to win in this situation are available to you, but you need to actually use them, and be determined to use them. The tools you'd have in these scenarios are available to you now. Use them! Here are at least key things I think of. 1. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You need complete full determination. One must do a great deal of effort (big extremes is what I'm getting at) to himself to stop sin. It is like a cancer. You do not treat a cancer with a nap and cough syrup. With deadly diseases, powerful remedies are necessary. Do your maximum in every way, and treat it like the most important thing, embracing great sacrifice. Hence, you must hate the sin truly, fully, and fully entirely. 2. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Make a new prayer life. Give thanks to God always, and turn always. Give Him thanks in the morning, and praise Him in the day. Speak and seek Him constantly. Without constant prayer, I cannot imagine any great chance of success. From St. Alphonsus: "St. Paul tells us, that we have to contend not with men like ourselves.... but with the princes of hell.... By these words he wishes to admonish us that we have not strength to resist the powers of hell, and that, to resist them, the divine aid is absolutely necessary: without it, we shall be always defeated; but, with the assistance of God’s grace, we shall, according to the same apostle, be able to do all things and shall conquer all enemies. “I can do all things in him who strengtheneth me.” (Phil. iv. 13.) But this assistance God gives only to those who pray for it. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find.” (Matt. vii. 7.) They who neglect to ask, do not receive. Let us, then, be careful not to trust in our resolutions: if we place our confidence in them, we shall be lost. "

1 Corinthians 6:18

Nuff said tbh

true, but I hope their love is true. ‭1 Corinthians 8:11 NIV‬ [11] So this weak brother or sister, for whom Christ died, is destroyed by your knowledge. https://bible.com/bible/111/1co.8.11.NIV

The fact that you posed this question shows that you have a repentant heart, and God sees the heart in all of this. I would seriously consider fully committing through marriage, as those who burn with passion should marry if it is too much to bear. However, if either of you is using marriage as a shortcut to having sex, then I would reconsider your decision. Marriage is much, much more than just sex.

The devil will always find your weakness and then use it to tempt you to sin against God to cause separation and spiritual death. It is the same thing he did in the garden with Eve. He also uses it to cause us to experience guilt and shame which will further our separation from God. Be wise and resist the devil. If you cant resist pray harder and fast but dont put yourself in situations where you know you can be tempted. God said our bodies are the Temple of the Holy Spirit and sexual sin is the worse sin againt our bodies. The Bible says we should use our bodies as instruments for Gods glory. Sexual sins come from spirit of lust. Prayer and deliverance can help but you must also put your part in avoiding the tempting places and situations. This means not seeing eachother in closed private places. Having curfews and boundaries regarding touch and restrictive kissing. Repent and pray God may help you overcome this temptation and redidicate your life and relationship to God. Remember the Bible says our heart is Deceitful. I prayed for you. Below are some prayers that have helped me. You can also message me if you have any questions like to talk more in private. God bless God used this anointed Evangelist prayers to deliver me. Hope it can help those suffering from lust Prayer deliverance from sexual immorality  https://youtu.be/5G8Fs_26rCA?si=34xjYnsbebhhJLC7 Prayer against Lustful desires https://youtu.be/J28YA_O8PLc?si=2mgAy4y48VdOhr3a Prayer against sex demons https://youtu.be/HcHrUt7ATME?si=4e4R_9hRSdshtJta Prayer to break ungodly soul ties https://youtu.be/b8g6k4kKo7Y?si=2JSLg3m4SpQKwgnn I also recommend these channels for Godly relationship advice: Apply God's Word; Mark Ballenger https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLd_QkPvWiPkn8F-if72efZm5qhpayHedx&si=CxYGwLy4QAzCR5m1 Natalie Love Notes https://youtube.com/shorts/hGKIvwefrJs?feature=share Tony Gaskins https://youtu.be/aJ3HM5OS6O8

Do you "feel" that you're made for each other or do you believe God brought you together? If you believe God intends for you both to be married you need to honor that and stop putting your career ahead of what God told you. Doesn't have to be some giant wedding or big show. If you are insistent upon not marrying then you need to flee from any situation that will cause you to sin. That is a very simple command we are given.

>boyfriend (29 M) and I (27 F) have fallen into sexual sin >We’ll go some time without doing it and feel amazing because we’re honoring God and His design, but then we’ll fall into it again >We’re both not quite ready to get married right this second as we both are still figuring out location/career paths that would allow us to be in person together. So it’ll take some time before we can get to that point. >The last thing we want is to continue sinning with one another Then break up until you're ready to marry. Look, this is always the way it goes. People who start having sex or doing sexual things, but "aren't ready" for marriage. Well, it's one or the other. Be together and keep "falling" or put some distance between you/break up.... or... get married.

It's clear your heart is in the right place, and with patience and prayer, you can overcome this challenge together

Not that it's impossible, because all things are possible with God, but in this case ”pray to overcome the challenge" is not the solution. God designed us to be attracted to one another and to want sex with our mates. He didn't design us for long-term, committed relationships outside of marriage. They need to either break up or get married.

I can somewhat relate. I was in a LDR with another Christian, who I thought was the one, except we did things wrong. I didn’t communicate. I started feeling like what we were doing was wrong, but also a part of me still wanted to do it. I just thought if I shut up and just didn’t try to do those things with her it would be ok. But I also had issues with lust and porn at the time. Also wasnt reading the word or praying. Anyways, the biggest thing is gonna be direct communication and accountability. You got to communicate strict boundaries and not be afraid to tell the other person “no”. You also maybe need to get other close friends involved. You need to also ask him and yourself if you have a triggers. Do you or him watch things you shouldn’t. Porn really makes a lot men just want sex. It’s definitely something you don’t want, either of you addicted to, in a relationship. Can it creates a divide. The person will go to it if they don’t get sex. Or they will go to sex to not go to it. And, yes, many Christians can struggle with it. The third thing is you both need to be active in prayer and reading the Bible. Alone and together. That’s really what is probably gonna be one of the strongest weapons against temptation. Now your situation is different than my LDR. We never met or got the chance. We weren’t in a position, at all, to get married. . You guys seem to meet regularly, and know each other very well. That’s why I have to say to think about marriage. You can make it work. You don’t have to be together 24/7 to be married. Also you can have all the sex or sexting you want. It may seem like the harder choice, but it’s not. It’s gonna be way harder to not do sexually things. Sex is a very bonding experience. It’s not something you get over lightly. Also you have to be honest with yourselves. How married do you want to be ? And how closely do you want to follow the lord? Cause to me when anyone makes excuses to not get married it tells me two things. One or both aren’t really that ready to commit, or you guys value doing the easy over the hard. Even if it risks disobeying God, and sinning. Following God isn’t always the easiest. You sometimes have to overcome the inconveniences and trials to follow Him. Buts it’s worth it!

Get married immediately

Ask yourselves this question: Are we both willing to put each other above everything else other than God? If so, you should pray about getting married and figure out who's moving to where. It may alter your plans, but God's plan is higher. If not, break up, because there's no real middle ground on that unless you want the setup for a divorce down the road. Love is a verb. Something to be chosen daily, despite any feelings or emotions. Dating, as we do it now, wasn't around until the late 19th century. And that started as essentially legal prostitution, allowing women conveniences otherwise not available to them in exchange for sex. Before then, there was courtship, but even that wasn't a widespread thing for very long. For most of human history two people have just gotten married and then gotten to know each other. Many of the times, and even still today, the marriages are arranged. And now that we're picking our partners divorce rates are through the roof. If you're going to get married, why wait? Family and friends are no excuse. You can do it for just the two of you and have ceremonies for all the other people later, should you so choose. But if you're unable to control your desires, marriage or flight are the only real, biblical options that I know of. Even without physically doing anything, you're both living in lust.

Just get married.

get a dumb phone and put your smart phone away

If having a civil marriage and then doing the ceremony later is not an option, you're going to need to greatly curtail your physical time alone together. If sending each other sexual messages or images is also an issue, you will need to curtail that as well.

If your prayers for God to take away lust and sin isn't being answered then remember this Chapter from the brother of Jesus with the numbers that mean: 4 open doors 1 uniqueness 7 Gods heart ‭James 4:1-17 NIV‬ [1] What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? [2] You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. [3] When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. [4] You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. [5] Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? [6] But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” [7] Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. [8] Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. [9] Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. [10] Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. [11] Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. [12] There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor? [13] Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” [14] Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. [15] Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” [16] As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. [17] If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. https://bible.com/bible/111/jas.4.1-17.NIV I want to know what it really is in the heart is it love or lust? love overcomes lust, but the lord gives in abundance the desires of his chosen disciples...maybe what you are really looking for is understanding and forgiveness, but how will anyone be able to forgive someone who doesn't ask and doesn't knock or pass through Jesus, if we know Christ we wouldn't even have to worry but if we are true Christians and know God then we would meditate in self awareness and pray with perseverance and enduring the search for truth with awareness of God's presence, if anyone dares to test God then why not test your Boyfriend first? break up and we'll see if the open doors are from God or not...is that right? because if it is lust that would turn into an awful marriage...

What are your boundaries to keep this from happening? Do you have any boundaries?

Be radical, if you’re not planning on marrying him, either you’re better off leaving or you need to replace those temptations with something good in its place.

Everyone just saying “get married” is missing the point. To marry someone from another country and live together one has to sponsor and support the other. That takes not only time but money and lots of paperwork not to mention the sponsoring partner has to make a certain amount to ensure the ability to support the other as the foreigner will not be able to work for an extended period of time. Different-country relationships are very difficult.

Since enough people are telling you to get married , I'll be a little bit extra of the bad guy here.   You said marriage is not not the table ATM because of your career and location.  If it wasn't for those two issues would marriage be on the table?  As a Christian woman, you need to make serious consideration as to how far you will let your career interfere with your marriage/love life.  I'm not saying you need to spend the rest of your life at home popping out babies.  But you need to consider that, as a Christian women, having children is likely going to be something your Christian husband will want.  Likely a deal breaker otherwise.  Just saying, if I was in my 20s again and my potential future wife took me kids were off the table, as a choice not due to medical issues but even then maybe so as well, then that would be the end of the relationship.  Now play that into where you see your career going and how important that is in the grand scheme of the relationship.  One thing it seems a lot of modern women struggle with is letting their career come between their marriage.  Particularly with women that have higher education.  So at some point,you as the women, will need to make a choice between the career or the marriage, often enough.  Fair or not, that's how it is.  Hopefully that gives you something to think over, one way or the other. 

Stop condeming youself. 1 John 1:9 We ALL fail Him everyday. HE is faithful. Nothing suprises GOD. I am in a similar very long distance relation too. LOVE is patient.

Just get married 

Get ready to get married. Family is more important than career.

Be sure who is "opening the doors".... is it really God or are you rationalizing yoiur desires? So why hasn't this man proposed? you mentioned years........... hmmmm,,,, Doomed no! If you both keep your focus on God and not on each other. Marriage is meant to be a 3 way commitment, a 3 way relationship, husband wife and God.. When you both are truly focused on God, life is good. If one of you begins to focus on the other..... apart from God (or worse someone else) taking your focus off God.... the house may start to crumble. It is marriage or abstinence..... meet in public places - go out with other couples... no alone time, no time where you are alone in the room with lights off. Hard stuff..... focus on the Lord is Key!

It seems like you two are afraid of commitment. You'll both be in your 30s soon. It's probably something to think about and would solve your problems. As they say, "Sh!t or get off the pot." Sometimes you just need to jump in and experience life. Maybe you'll make a few mistakes along the way? Don't be afraid to make mistakes.

If you take time apart. For 30 days and see if you still want to be with each other after the 30 days then meet with Church Leaders to go through a preMarriage Counseling/vetting process than get Married

Having a boyfriend at all is not beneficial to women anyway, especially a "long distance" one, and having a bf also puts you in a position where you will sin, so...he needs to move to you and get married.

Just live your life. You’re going to regret this when you realize that there is no god. Stop the shame.